You're Pretty, but You're Not "TikTok Pretty"....

[@dawnt0pia]

I will never let tiktok (or any social media app) control my appearance. I'm in charge of my own appearance!

[@Mariakadis]

LOUDER.... .SAY IT LOUDER PLEASE!!!!!!

[@kp5496]

Sure

[@Bunnymmm101]

I like the pfp

[@jams1070]

And that’s on period!

[@sarahsavu]

EXACTLYY AMEN

[@torturedpxets]

One of the stupidest ones I’ve recently seen is if you talk with your top teeth showing or bottom teeth showing 😭 like how is that supposed to affect me??

[@ChardeeMacdennis339]

Great. So we can now all scrutinize every micro movement we make all day every day? Holy lord. That sounds absolutely exhausting 😂

[@nodrvgs]

I saw people getting insecure over their back profiles

[@duckyfluff3886]

Or the negative/neutral/positive canthal tilt or the high/low cheekbones or the filter that inverts your face to see if you have a asymmetrical face or the deer/bunny/fox/cat pretty

[@torturedpxets]

@@ChardeeMacdennis339 right? It’s so annoying having people on the internet decide if we are pretty or not 😂

[@evelynnnyt]

@@duckyfluff3886 jeez all of that sounds like absolute chronically online garbage (not your comment, the people that are creating all of this)

[@indiaac1]

People are too pressed about looks. How bout just take care of yourself and mind your business

[@cj06032]

Fr😂

[@Bri_nation]

I agree with you.

[@PrincessTiona]

Agree! I deleted all social media apps so I’m never up to date with these dumb things

[@unbeknownst2mee929]

And get off social media. It's so toxic

[@starrrr922]

I wish it was that simple smh

[@kimwhatmatters4085]

Tick tok algorithm favors light clear skin, skinny ppl, homes that don’t look poor

[@TinyyTinkerbell]

Skinny people? In 2020s? Nah more like bbl builds. Definitely not skinny people.

[@corimoon3360]

@@TinyyTinkerbellYea they like bbl bodies but skinny ppl are still valued more than fat ppl… so yeah. Definitely skinny people. Charli Damelio and most Tik Tokers who blew up were/are skinny.

[@Babezilla]

And what about it?

[@truefalse934]

@@TinyyTinkerbellwhere have you been? Sadly being thin is popular these days

[@Babezilla]

And what about it?

[@kaoshi_kutie]

The pretty rating on TikTok is absolutely horrendous . SO damaging to girls self esteem and mental health . ❤ thank you Toni for such an in depth video , this needs to be discussed more often!!

[@bellesmith789]

Hey y'all ❤😊

[@Babezilla]

TikTok is not “horrendous”, y’all are just insecure.

[@bettemiddler7756]

There's always been a pretty rating though, even before social media was really going. If you are attractive you are always treated better/different.

[@mariamart_0]

TikTok had already destroyed women's self esteem and many younger girls. And those younger girls I'm talking about is Generation Alpha girls, these girls are too young to be worrying about their skin age and how to slow down the AGING PROCESS. That is just so weird and dystopian, what happened to little girls playing with cooking sets like those 8 year olds and having Monster High Dolls.. What the hell happened to childhood man...and I feel like yeah...you guys always knew that little girls in our society have always been forced to grow up faster throughout history, so this is not a new concept. But what is disturbing is how it is accelerating faster due to the Internet, World Wide Web, and 5% of the population having access to social media and it is happening from outside the West and many Western countries. It is so disturbing and sick to even be honest. They are too young to be worrying about how men are going to perceive them. 🤨😐😒

[@shyers__]

+ ‘lookmaxxing’ for men as well, it’s literally disordered behaviour

[@Lynnn-zy]

Im 16 and zero social media and am happy for not having tiktok😁

[@venusvicious4446]

Proud of you keep it up 👍🏾

[@rachaeln8047]

That’s wonderful! You will experience so much more happiness and peace without social media. I have been off of it for 8 years and am so much happier.

[@Etherealzyo]

This is social media

[@rabbit0.023]

@@Etherealzyomeh…I mean kinda.

[@lilzennywockhardt]

@Idontknowwhattoputhere-ox7coKZbin is 100% social media dumbass😭😭😭😭😭

[@alaerelifestyle]

people can literally opt out of using tik tok, I don't understand why everyone acts like the app is a necessity while simultaneously complaining about it..will def be an interesting case study one day. this is madness!

[@sasckiasflower3271]

Yep, instead of doing something productive, they worry about things like this. Victimhood all the way

[@no.6377]

I'm honestly confused by it too. I watched half this video to see if anything changed. It's still the same old, same old. Like, we already know tiktok as a company has some r*cist preferences, body shaming is rampant, and most heinously, the content is overall just mediocre😂😂. It's an app meant to show, what, 30 seconds of content? How much depth do people expect from that and why???😅

[@alaerelifestyle]

@@no.6377 THIS! I only made it through some of the video too bc this is all common knowledge! And I think it's crazy that people make it seem like kids/teens/adults NEED social media and will forever be subject to this nonsense. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. We all have agency, free choice, free will within our minds. I didn't even have social media until I was 16/17 and I'm older gen z 😂 people will be fine without it, they can read a book lolll

[@imaslave4u..]

Right? It’s an APP. You click on it for more than 5 seconds and you have the choice to delete it. Why don’t people ever think about that

[@corimoon3360]

You just want to miss the point.

[@Jayeeda_]

fox pretty and bunny pretty? wth?! i've never been on tht side of tiktok😭 my fyp is for funny videos and movies only

[@k.tempany]

I beg you add me so you can spam me with funny vids and edits because I am on the side of this stupid bunny/fox pretty, drives me up the wall 😂😂😂

[@Jayeeda_]

@@k.tempany loool wats ur @?

[@Cheshire_Cat05]

@@k.tempanyright and half of the pictures have makeup and are edited 😭 nothing wrong with makeup I love it but if you are gonna compare faces use a natural face 😭😭😭

[@ms.x1669]

I always press the "not interested" button. I feel sorry for teen girls cause 15yr old me would've so fell for that.

[@Cheshire_Cat05]

@@ms.x1669 fr the young girls growing up o feel bad for them because now the media is just influencing “beauty standards “ on them and expecting them to look a certain way

[@Smoreswithtyph]

The rapture of tiktok will reset us back to 2016. I can't wait

[@beautifulbeei]

I’m so excited

[@TOMIEUNDEAD]

Nah I'm sure a different site that's exactly like TikTok will pop up

[@Smoreswithtyph]

@@TOMIEUNDEAD please no 😭😩

[@TOMIEUNDEAD]

@Smoreswithtyph unfortunately TikTok type apps make soooo much money that app developers are going to try to be the next big thing

[@dangquesadilla1]

I’m so happy ❤

[@AdesewaMay]

comparison really is the thief of joy Edit: WOAH... 2.4K, that's MASSIVE.... If only that was my sub count 😂

[@peacegoddessirene]

THIS!

[@autumnof1992]

a HUGE thief

[@kanamexzeroxyuuki]

For real

[@myopinionnotyours.6053]

Love this

[@Young4eva121]

I wish I reminded myself of this more often. Going through quite a lot in the moment ❤

[@darriahlazard]

I think the other thing about TikTok, is it literally everyone looks the same and are doing the same sort of things. The same winking, blowing kisses, the same lip syncing, and smiling at the camera, nose scrunching, the same wiggling their fingers up under their chin as if they are little girls. At this point, I don’t even watch the videos anymore. The minute I see someone doing some copycat type ish I scroll right past it.

[@susanjeffries5108]

Right? Some people have really creative, unique content but a lot of people are just doing weird lip syncing and following other videos where people are doing the exact same thing. It feels kind of mind numbing. I don't like it at all. Definitely want to give support to the creators that are trying to be original and/or informative!

[@darriahlazard]

@@susanjeffries5108agree with everything you said! I love when people are unique. It’s more fun that way.

[@Savanah-j1z]

This a star comment right here

[@sissysovereign1294]

You hit the nail on the head on why I can't stand it. It's so dystopian how most people on there act and looks like mindless clones of eachother

[@nodrvgs]

fr 😭 it’s so tiring

[@BombshElle_7]

The filters are very effective. The fact that the red head said that she's confident about her natural look but can not bring herself to post without a TikTok filter bc it won't get views is sad. Filters/makeup are supposed to enhance already beautiful features. NOT REPLACE AN ENTIRE FACE. They were never supposed to be the beauty standard. No wonder Gen Z and Alpha are extremely self-conscious. 😢

[@thebilliexojean]

And she’s so pretty. It makes me sad too.

[@Babezilla]

What is it you?

[@9395gb]

@@thebilliexojean She's not. She's just average looking like most of the world. 90% of the world is average looking. Nothing wrong with that. Only 10% are in that top most beautiful women like Halle Berry, Naomi Campbell, Aishwarya Rai. I don't understand why everyone needs to feel beautiful or obsess over it.

[@thebilliexojean]

@@9395gb You can have your opinion, and I can have mine. I think she’s really pretty. If I saw her passing on the street, I would admire her looks for sure. That’s me tho. Beauty is subjective, and my subjectivity lends to finding beauty in many people and things. I also don’t expect anyone to have the same opinion as me all of the time.

[@maridl8807]

this whole "enhancing" is a lie we tell ourselves. it is supposed to change how we look to a degree and often mask things and "correct".

[@jswift20]

u can always delete tiktok… i never downloaded it.. never will. and im happy that i didn’t. vids get reposted all the time. u ain’t missing out on anything

[@c4tac133]

Especially with the fast pace. If you miss something that’s fine cause people on the app miss hundreds of micro trends

[@corimoon3360]

That’s not the point. 🙄

[@wayumin]

Tiktok has more info and updates than other apps though

[@savannahsmith9768]

Never download it either. Looks like a steaming heap of garbage to me.

[@rubinfeuerherz3799]

facts

[@Jack-e317]

Vanity. Social media is primarily vanity. People need to log off, delete and touch grass! Mental health might just improve.

[@j-id2zt]

I agree so much

[@antionettethegirlnextdoor]

This

[@amethystdream8251]

Agreed. Tho people also need to not be bitches in the physical world. And we need better infrastructure in the non virtual world too.

[@CatherineMcClain]

I've had to tell men about the video filters. So many think women can just work out to change their skeletal structure. They were shocked that video filters exist. We need to bring more awareness for the filters!

[@thetwelfth9987]

Aging gracefully has become a lost art.

[@julie-zmb]

Worded perfectly

[@fergieingrid2521]

When a 10yr old has beautifully manicured nails and you at 34 has uneven nails length and no polish on. At that age we looked like clowns with makeup on and now they know how to contour but not their multiplication table.

[@moejay1031]

The most disappointing thing is black women co.pare themselves to non black ones... not realizing that YOU are the standard in every category.

[@fergieingrid2521]

Yes to me the mai thing is stretch marks. I am brown and whatever I read about that it's mainly "when it's healed ut will become almost invisible because it will turn white". A lot of beauty advices are for white people

[@marvelousmia]

it’s so cringe, the fact that she made this video is also cringe

[@moejay1031]

@@marvelousmia correct!

[@TeeAnderson-xm4dy]

I agree. Like you’re talking about an app that promotes “tik tok pretty” when that doesn’t even include black women. You aren’t going to the top of the algorithm because you’re not white. It’s very simple.

[@heyleighmikaila]

Yes. I am a 42 yo black woman and while I'm not a model, white women in my town CONSTANTLY compare themselves to me when I'm literally existing and minding my own business. It gives WEIRDO. 😢 We all just need to accept ourselves and throw these "standards" in the trash 🗑!!!

[@kyrajnai4201]

This problem will never go away. People have to severely limit their social media intake and live in reality. When I was a few years younger I started to get affected by seeing all these beautiful women online and I started to think I wasn’t pretty but I’m actually gorgeous, I was just insecure and the algorithm was doing what it’s designed to do. Years later it’s the same thing on social media if not worse. I’m no longer insecure tho because I know how to navigate SM and reality is nothing like what you see online, put that phone down and don’t let yourself get sucked into that world

[@halobaby0331]

Agree. Being chronically online will kill your self esteem

[@LA-Will]

I deleted all my social media apps. Not for insecure reasons….i feel we don’t visit family as much as we should. No one calls or check in bc everything is placed on social media. 😒

[@kyrajnai4201]

@@LA-Will I feel the same way, we don’t interact with the world as much because everything is online

[@av8213]

if thats u in ur pfp then u are gorgeous!!

[@kyrajnai4201]

@@av8213 Thank you luv!! 🥰🩷 I’m sure you are gorgeous too 😚🩷

[@aissaissbby]

I don’t understand whyyyyy people keep trying to compete in a field that tells them in every single way “we don’t want you!!!! We don’t like you!”

[@corimoon3360]

They’re not trying to compete… and even if they were maybe they’re trying to change things and wake people up?

[@Babezilla]

Because they secretly wish millions of people followed them and were giving them millions of likes. They want to be the ones that people are admiring on TikTok, but they never will be, which is why they’re upset about it.

[@kphoria1009]

because they should also have a place and presence online without being censored

[@latonyanarcisse7112]

Yes, everyone should have a platform…. But we shouldn’t have to change everything about ourselves to compete! I’m proud that they are standing, but I see so much more going on.

[@chidiogoikeh4550]

@@kphoria1009then create that space. Without trying to fit into one’s where you’re clearly unwanted

[@jasmineflowerdraws]

No offense, I thought we been knowing this? I could have sworn there were tons of black creators complaining about being shadow banned on the app. I never really saw the hype with Tic Toc i will always be a Insta girlie. If TT gets banned I would bat an eyelash.

[@Etherealzyo]

Black people get censored on every app and it’s sad

[@JulianSteve]

Exactly. I still think it’s an important topic. Toni did a great job calling it out. At least for folks not familiar💯

[@marvelousmia]

lmao shadow banned for what? not being attractive? that’s insane 😂

[@c4tac133]

@@marvelousmiai know right but it’s true. When i had tiktok the black creators i followed were fighting for their LIVES to stay on the app. Even famous actors like leah jeffries. And the non black creators i followed never had to put “banned at 600k followers” in their bio or talk about their 3 backup accounts. This among other reasons is why I no longer have the app

[@notgoodatonlinenames9943]

THANK YOU! THIS IS WHAT IVE BEEN SAYING!! You'd think we would have left tik tok alone after the stuff they pulled involing banning and then shadow banning the hashtag blm but would allow white people to pit stuff like wlm or white power in their bios as well as abunch of other shady stuff they did to the black community on there. But nope I guess not 🙄

[@la6136]

I think women like Leah go viral because they are basic enough to be relatable but slightly above average enough to be aspirational to a regular person in an achievable way. That is the same effect Charlie had.

[@HosCreates]

Shes the clean girl version on Megan Fox. Just younger

[@yhulie]

The zoom in on the white pillow took me tf out 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ToniBryanneTV]

I think you caught my drift 😭

[@yesit_slove]

Same, I wondered if anyone noticed 😂😂😂😂

[@anitasweeter1378]

social media in general ruined people's view of attractiveness. I would put money down that if social media didn't exists more people would be settling down and focusing on things that matter like the person's values and personality and skills rather than trying to be the most "hot" physically.

[@cantsay2205]

It's not even that they're white, they're just close to Chinese beauty standards, and TikTok is a Chinese app. Chinese beauty standards aren't necessarily about looking white, but it's a Venn diagram.

[@madamedex5989]

As a 42 year old makeup artist, I wish people realized: 1) what looks good on social media often looks VERY strange in real life, and 2) Your face WILL change with age. Making drastic alterations with injections and implants and fat removal will likely look very odd as your face ages and "settles."

[@Lisaaaaaaq]

It's honestly all a DISTRACTION to keep you obsessed and insecure about your looks so you don't think about the more important matters that are happening to the US right now such as people not being able to afford to rent buy food etc.

[@mar1nn998]

I am personally not insecure about my looks

[@marta9854]

The more I know about TikTok the more I agree that TikTok NEEDS to be banned.

[@jules8295]

u know u can delete the app right??

[@britneyt9253]

@@jules8295it still needs to be banned. The sole existence of it is adding to the decadence of society and especially negatively affecting young girls. You know what right?

[@shelbeepollino9008]

Lolll I have red hair, paper white skin, and I wear black every day, so I’ve never been much of a conventionally “pretty” type of girl. However, on Thursday I was at my daughters elementary school and I overheard one of her fifth grade classmates tell another girl several times that I look like a witch, and she went so far as to point at me and say “That’s a witch!” 🤣🤣🤣 So my new type of pretty shall be witch chic 🔮 🕷️ 🎃 🤣🤣🤣

[@rob3rta_a]

if i were you i would come to that little girl and i would scare her that i m a witch but prob thats just me and my pettiness 😂 but either way you rock it ❤

[@sundaysundaesundaaay6424]

I would of went up to that little girl and said SHAMALAMA DING DONG🪄then walk away 😂😂😂

[@Ichxbiiiiii]

@@sundaysundaesundaaay6424LMAO

[@Lynnn-zy]

Judging by ur profile yr literakly pretty

[@TarikeMcfarren-sz4cw]

this is such a cute story i love your perspective

[@majesty9985]

Some of y’all need to put your phones down , doing videos on whether you’re an App “pretty” is crazy work. Go outside and touch grass, there’s a real life out there that matters more. All these videos talking about TIKtok pushes a certain aesthetic, if you stop using the app, you’ll realise how much they either need you or not care for you and you’ll put your effort where you’re truly wanted and needed.

[@britneyt9253]

Facts. I wish we could all just stop using them. They need us.

[@gabimckowen9104]

I had to delete tiktok a few months back after I had a mental breakdown, and my husband said I mentioned tiktok like 4 times. Thought it would be a good idea to delete it and truly it’s been super nice not having it

[@bluetinsel7099]

Social media is known to have an impact on people, I noticed it over a decade ago and started letting it go then, I hadn’t used social media in over a decade until I wanted to look at something and needed to log in and couldn’t and eventually it just came back. Back when social media was new people were not using filters and surgeries and people were more envious of lifestyles, now people have to completely change themselves physically to be looked at as beautiful. When back in the day natural beauty was praised. So if social media causes problems, it’s good to let it go as well as the people who only prop the lies up on a pedestal. Real people are better for the spirit and soul.

[@raiinyy776]

I personally think I've fallen into the trap. I'm a black African, but i always see all these pretty asian and white girls all over my youtube, or black girls that aren't as dark as me and instantly compare myself. I've grown a lot more confident in myself, but I just don't see (this is me personally) many black dark skin girls that are gawked over online. I'm sure there are a few, but some of them are probably models or maybe did cosmetic surgery. All in all, girlies, no matter what skin colour, don't compare yourself to others, they look nothing like you, and instead focus on building joy in your life and achieving fulfilling things!

[@DreMo521_]

My 17 year old cousin wants lip fillers… I told her no. She’s heavily inspired by the Kardashians I really pray she doesn’t but it’s just insane what’s going on.

[@robyn866]

I have also noticed that the filters give you a slim nose and light skin esp if you are a bit light skin black girl. These filters push more eurocentric features

[@britneyt9253]

Asian as well. Since it’s a Chinese app. And I know East Asian people like to bleach or wear very white makeup to look more pale.

[@HosCreates]

Or ideal Asian features

[@Sweetheartreasure]

I see so many black stunning girls doing the same exact videos that Leah does and they barely even get half a million views.

[@Cynical-kl3wy]

Social Media doesn’t like black women. I mean, all the “which race of girls would you rather delete forever.” And “is it okay to find black women ugly” videos pretty much tell the tale. But I deleted my TikTok account and created a new one which I barely go on, so my algorithm is different now. But I’m sure those videos still run rampant on certain parts of TikTok. It’s kind of like how black people have been rapping for years, but once a pretty white girl raps a line from a song she goes viral. It’s strange.

[@kcyraho29]

@@Cynical-kl3wyI hate those videos sm, they always kill my self esteem ngl. It was even weirder when I had someone non black tell me black women are the American beauty standard. I huffed out through my nose 💀

[@人間ハーロー]

We are the standard in a way though. People love to copy our style and intelligence while also putting us down and trying to stereotype us. I wouldnt let the opinion of your lessers make you feel bad about yourself that's their goal after all. Remember, you dint have to be a believer but even Jesus Christ was lied on, mocked and killed. Didn't make him any lesser though. ​@kcyraho29

[@ginsu_pd]

because the platform is pro white

[@miapia7229]

@@kcyraho29you need to gain more self worth and respect. That’s pathetic. Why do you care sm? 🤨

[@Renee-pv2iz]

I always find it interesting that there are higher expectations on Black Women in terms of beauty standards but other races of women can be "mediocre" or normal and be pedestalised. Also we all know if anyone else posted the exact same video it would not have as many likes and views.

[@Jojow8629]

That only applies to white women. No other race of women can be average and be Called pretty or even cute.

[@blossomsinger6543]

It’s been weirding me out more and more but IMO “TikTok pretty” looks very childish/childlike. The lip synching and mannerisms in those viral videos are also very baby like but branded as attractive. Not really a fan of pushing * that * as the beauty standard for adults…

[@barb-bi]

I agree I've noticed it

[@mariamart_0]

I know right...I've noticed it too. It looks so infantilizing and weird...it just seems like they romanticizing childhood and it looks so dystopian and awful..

[@hotskaterchic9993]

And this is why i’m not upset about this ban.

[@ifyouwantoreplyjustclickth5063]

It happens everywhere tho! Instagram, youtube, google, movies, etc. White women keep getting pushed to the front no matter what!!

[@heartz2starz]

I swear everything is about looks. Like me and my friends were talking about a murder??? (I don’t remember) and a bunch of kids died but my friends only picked and choose who to feel bad for saying “but she was so pretty” or “I feel bad she was so pretty” like omfg it’s like if they weren’t pretty their death wouldn’t be half as sad to them. Wtf

[@sagba947]

Yep I say this all the time

[@psych3verse]

this is just disturbing and dehumanising. what the hell

[@caitlingoins2103]

Also i hope tiktok gets banned not bought

[@amablogreactions]

It might be bought😂

[@Marlinbellahh]

But once its bought. I bet the algorithm will change. I think some of these people's content will no longer go viral

[@caitlingoins2103]

@Marlinbellahh maybe. Tiktok is so toxic. I think it's worse than Instagram. I've noticed if I scroll for to long I start feeling really bad about myself and start judging my looks really harshly. I try to stay off of it

[@caitlingoins2103]

You can pay to boost your video too. I think for 10 dollars it guarantees like 1400 views

[@j-id2zt]

In India, tiktok is banned but the same content can be found in insta (reels) so idk. Just stop using these stupid social media

[@P1kiepi3]

Guys the way my mouth DROPPED when i heard almost a BILLION views!! I havent been on TikTok in months and i forgot just how crazy the viral aspect can get omg

[@introvert_who1641]

been off of social media (tiktok,IG,Snapchat, all of em) for over a year now and have definitely been happier. Self esteem definitely gotten better

[@Tesla.TeaBagger]

Don't know how your video ended up in my feed but it intrigued me so I watched. I'll ignore the discussion about whether 'going viral' on TikTok is something somebody should strive for and comment directly on the video. The answer here is absolutely obvious to me because I've traveled to the country many times over the past 10 years. The TikTok algorithm was written by a Chinese company. I don't know if you knew this or not but China is THE most racist country in the entire world, by far. Does it surprise you that they created an algorithm to suppress minority content creators? As for the proliferation of filters? OF COURSE they push people who use filters. The application has been designed specifically to create a toxic and corrosive social atmosphere + and be addictive. THEY WANT TO CREATE DIVISION AND SOCIAL DISRUPTION. There is a reason why the application is being banned. It is a national security concern and it is straight-up damaging to our society. Look at the Chinese version of TikTok. THEY ONLY PUSH CREATIVE AND POSITIVE CONTENT. TikTok takes the worst aspects and ideals of our modern society, juices them up with steroids, and shoves them in front of the most impressionable demographic.

[@saturnch4n]

spot on. i don’t even have anything else to add

[@amoura]

Facebook for example tracked down Palestinian activist profiles & have their names to the is-ra-el governess who in turn im imprisoned & tortured them. What the Facebook company & Zuckerberg did is illegal but they got away with it. Just Google or youtube this info you'll find it. They're mad TikTok ain't American. Not everything has to be American or western owned. I agree with your opinion but the American owned social media apps such as insta, Facebook, insta all do the same thing as TikTok. They spy on you 2. They spread toxicity & positivity 2.

[@CrystalLovesChrist]

I’m not surprised, China and even our own U.S. government are major players in the rising division in our country 😮

[@donna-yw9ow]

Once I saw the title I knew this video was gonna be good

[@shanitamorenita]

She got that Kardashian look.. that’s what America likes idk 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@eveandaedrul]

She has the old-school Megan Fox look imo, I can't detect any Kardashian in there at all

[@Liliforever101]

She definitely doesn't

[@shanitamorenita]

@@Liliforever101 55 people agree so far 🙂‍↔️

[@corimoon3360]

@Idontknowwhattoputhere-ox7coIt’s not just America. America isn’t the only country to exist…

[@Oxymera]

@@Liliforever101if you squint she kinda looks like Kendall Jenner (who is in the Kardashian family).

[@kylieboyce827]

As an esthetician I can professionally say how dangerous children using skincare will be for their future. Think about it this way, doctors will tell you not to take certain medications everyday because your body creates resistance then eventually you’ll need higher doses. Starting a skincare regimen at 10 will permanently alter what your skin reacts too. What will happen once you’re 25+ and you start actually regressing? Your skin is going to depend on those active ingredients bc you’ve used them almost your entire life.

[@doeeyes2]

I hope theyre wearing ALOT of sunscreen... and I mean full spectrum, minimum 50+ , every single day, applied every couple of hours... because those toners they love so much, almost all of them have some type of active aha like glycolic, mandelic, lactic... and with all the exfoliating they do... yikes, that fresh baby skin is gna turn into major sun damage by the time theyre 20.

[@carlyrose3751]

Why is society so pressed about “going viral” at all? There’s way too much emphasis placed on what strangers think of you. Stop it

[@HosCreates]

Right? Does it make you money? If not, it's not anything to be impressed by.

[@rainbowcat498]

the super duper ultra subtle beauty filters on tiktok SHOCK me! like my jaw is ON THE FLOOR

[@Faith.M22]

Yup it’s insane. You can’t even recognize people irl anymore because they look so different on their socials.

[@nawal10]

Y'all we gotta read more books 😂. Social media will have u believing in delusions!

[@b75542]

I don't have social media and I'm 30. a couple things you've said I struggled to even understand. "what kind of pretty are you?" mam I find my prettiness and identity in our Lord God, I'm a daughter of the Highest. I might look ugly to some, but Jesus loves me regardless. I think it's sad just how shallow and superficial so many people are. there's not a thing I miss about social media. I am so grateful I was able to detach from it entirely. I only watch KZbin because I don't have a TV but hopefully this will go too. my heart goes out to young folks. yall never had a chance it seems....

[@jamilahzahirahhadid]

He made us in his image didn’t he?🥰🙏 Love you sister in Christ

[@keyahninaylor4974]

Amen 🙏

[@b75542]

​@jamilahzahirahhadid love you too 🤗 I was thinking about that just as I finished typing. it's so insane He created us in HIS image! how?🥲 it's so cute and precious. imagine our Father making us all individually and then people just go about judging people on their looks and what they were born with naturally. and what a shame that is. I can't be judged on my looks, my heart on the other hand, my actions, how christlike I really am.... now that is absolutely up to judge. my face and my body will fade, this soul is eternal. sometimes I look in the mirror and think hey I don't look so bad actually today I think I look cute. I admire my green eyes and my spots etc. I can't be shamed for my skin color, or anything pertaining to my looks. why can't we just admire each other beauty especially as women. we're worth more than rubies and then you see shallow stuff like that. It makes me realize I need to get even more serious with my prayers, it really hurts to see others degrade themselves and others. i understandit takes a while to unlearn these doctrines society forces on us, but we must do better

[@L2KN0it]

Amen!!!!

[@CrystalLovesChrist]

Amen and AMEN🙏🏾 the more I find my identity in Christ, the less I care about how others see me. If they’re not trying to see my heart, then who cares??

[@markusfeindt]

Thank god I deleted tiktok 1,5-2 years ago this app is for people who barely have a life and people with tiny brain cells cuz the toxicity on there is UNREAL

[@purplelove3666]

God*

[@evelynnnyt]

So true. The only people I know who are on it all the time are people who have nothing going on in their lives (25+ year olds) and kids/teens

[@kphoria1009]

@@evelynnnytwait you think people older than 25 have nothing going on in their lives?

[@myturn2runit]

@@purplelove3666girl shut up

[@JustHereForCats]

I experienced pretty low self esteem and body dysmorphia when I was a teenager. Something like this would’ve deeply harmed my self image at that age. This subject makes me so sad…. Keep yourself clean, try to be healthy, and be kind. Life can be hard, and you don’t deserve this make believe pressure to be perfect. Perfect doesn’t exist, but YOU DO! And you deserve to be happy

[@JB-bl6qo]

So don’t get mad at black women when we try to fit into the beauty standard if we’re only gonna push one standard of beauty, I just don’t understand when people get mad at black women for wearing straight wigs and stuff, but if we’re only pushing one type of standard of beauty of course we’re gonna try to adapt we’re not gonna get opportunities because we don’t fit into that look so it’s deeper than what people make it seem

[@britneyt9253]

Yeah I get what you’re saying. People like to shame and clown black women for trying to fit into the standard (I mean, what female doesn’t want to be regarded as beautiful?). But for black women’s own sake, I actually think we look more pretty when we enhance our own unique features. That’s not to say we have to be completely natural in every way all the time, but personally, I’ve always noticed that black girls tend to look naturally beautiful, when they “do less”. As in be more themselves. More free from all the add-ons. That tends to look more artificial. I think we’re prettier when we’re more us. I think black girls from the 90s look more themselves if you know what I mean. Natural and pretty. I think black girl would benefit if we aimed for this again.

[@JB-bl6qo]

@@britneyt9253 I completely agree

[@ayamastar]

it’s insane to me bc tiktok used to be the no judgement app. i feel like tiktok is now very looks focused bc everybody migrated from IG to get away from the trash algorithm and raised the standards of how you’re supposed to present yourself on tiktok.

[@emiv3237]

the only social media i have is pinterest bc i love it for art and references and decor, but today i went down a rabbit hole of cute makeup looks and started getting extremely insecure over how gorgeous everyone was. i went straight to youtube and watched this video and i feel so much better again so thank u for that ❤️❤️

[@tessmoffett5512]

I enjoy Pinterest too, but I am quickly overwhelmed by how pretty and perfect everything is and so I can only spend about 10 minutes there at a time before I’m burnt out.

[@CrystalLovesChrist]

@@tessmoffett5512 yes I still use Pinterest, KZbin and IG (very occasionally) but Pinterest can addicting very fast + you get lost in that rabbit hole of social media beauty standards all bc you just wanted inspiration for something🤦🏾‍♀️

[@j-id2zt]

I just use Pinterest for art inspo and posters lol

[@iamnottweezy]

When I was 12 I had a "beauty/lifestyle" KZbin channel since I was inspired by Mylifeaseva, Bethany Mota and Maybaby. But I was definetely a 12 year old with a makeup kit from my parents from christmas and maybe a babylips tint or two i bought myself, and still had a "childish"/young style. Now I see the same aged kids that are trying to look like the 25 year old influencers they see online and it crushes that individuality that you should explore during your preteen/teen era.

[@Rebecca-x]

TikTok pretty is basically YT girls. That’s all I see no shade just being honest. There’s no diversity whatsoever

[@doeeyes2]

The algorithm shows you what you like to look at. I never get any girls of any color because my FYP is cars and gardening because thats what im interested in...

[@Rebecca-x]

@@doeeyes2 firstly, you’re probs white yourself so I wouldn’t expect you to understand the hardships woc face on a daily basis in terms of every aspect of their lives (I’m talking from personal experience) & no the algorithm shows your what’s popular love.

[@doeeyes2]

@@Rebecca-x ive used my dads phone and he gets all mafia talk, true crime and 70's rockstars and fishing. Ive never seen a single pretty person, of any race. It shows you want you want to see. The algorithm is personalized for each individual person based on their search history, purchases, preferences etc etc. Im a tomboy... I dont ever have "pretty people" dancing, putting on makeup or wtvr on my fyp. Mine is mostly funny videos and cars and racing because thats my passion. Some dirt biking and snowboarding because I love extreme sports. Theres plenty of content out there. So no its not basically wyt girls... Maybe get better hobbies or interests.

[@nekomeow3161]

White girls with the same face

[@Babezilla]

@@doeeyes2exactly. Some people need to be honest about what content they’re watching. I see beautiful girls of all races along with different kinds of videos that don’t focus on a person’s looks. These kinds of videos always make me side eye people.

[@idkman017]

I remember when I was like 12 I remember thinking even the natural filters affected me so I took it upon myself and just took pictures with my regular phone camera instead of Snapchat and/or Instagram because it was really affecting me. And Snapchat is so fake because even if you don't have a filter it stills like "fix" your face it makes like smoother

[@shar6310]

This is true😢, I had a phone that did that😮. Im older but I never use filters. If I do it, I do it for fun, but you know it's a filter, like the one that makes you an Avatar.😊

[@nekomeow3161]

I use to use snap filter then stopped. I cringe at some of the pictures I had taken because how ridiculous I look 😅

[@jasmine.foot7]

7:36 "you don't make the cut." in conclusion, tiktok is like high school all over again.... glad i'm grown and no longer have to deal with this BS.... i posted on tiktok once and this gen z girl commented saying i was a loser and dressed like a bum or something...

[@unbeknownst2mee929]

She ain't lying. It's always the most basic *🥛* girls who end up viral over the very things most of us are criticized for (bhad bhabie, Whoa Vicky, Cardi B)

[@moejay1031]

Correct. Black women need to focus on black women ONLY

[@AhminaIsmael]

Hold up. In what world would Cardi b considered white? 😂

[@moejay1031]

@@AhminaIsmael She's not black-that's the point.

[@AhminaIsmael]

@@moejay1031 no… she is “black” . Now idk what the textbooks are teaching Americans about race… but you and a lot of the world are very misinformed. Race isn’t biological… race is strictly phenotypical… with a splash of cultural outlook/ language and religion & in a WS society / world, cardi b is definitely seen as “black” before anything else. She is played in collaboration with black artists… not W Latin. What she isn’t is “African American” or “black American” but she IS “black” We have to remember that “black” was a NEGATIVE description to describe our phenotype. “Black” was suggesting that we lacked light … it grouped our nose , lips, skin & hair into a negative association. I’m a light skinned black woman… I look very similar to cardi b, I’m in awe that people darker than me truly believe I get privilege 😂 the only privilege I’ve gotten is by black men…. & somewhat with beauty standards… but in comparison to a white / Asian/ lighter BIRACIAL or Latina woman? Idts….

[@AhminaIsmael]

@@moejay1031 & what exactly is “black” may I ask? Last time I checked black wasn’t a race. Black isn’t biological… it’s a word used to describe a phenotype. There’s a reason that cardi b gets played in collaboration with “black” artists , it’s because she represents “blackness” “Blackness” being something that WS created to keep us misinformed about ourselves. Now I can understand being frustrated about WS beauty standards… but what I can’t agree with is that she isn’t black.

[@leashines9937]

The best decision I made in 2023 was to delete all of my social media accounts ( Whatsaap) and put a timer on KZbin. It freed me from the shackles of comparison and everything else in between. Peace over everything ❤

[@jaceyemerald]

Honestly, I think that TikTok is a poison. I had it for 5 years and I don't think that it was always this bad. During 2020, it was a nice way to stay connected; it felt like a place for people to rally together. Since the end of Covid, though, I've noticed a lot more negativity being pushed and popularized on the app. I stayed for a long time for the memes and videos that my friends and I would send back and forth, but that was the only pro opposing a laundry list of cons. By the time I deleted, being on TikTok had started to feel like being locked in a room with thousands of high school and middle school bullies. It is not a positive or uplifting place to be and I hope that something changes soon.

[@starlight1818]

TikTok pretty or not, i think pretty privilege is still something that affects us in real life too. You'll be treated differently if you're not pretty at all vs someone who is, and it's not that people will be outright rude to you but they just won't think you exist.

[@winterx5959]

I see why tiktok is getting banned in USA thank God

[@purplelove3666]

God*

[@emilyclarkezaresstheprince7945]

This is not why TikTok is getting banned. Our government doesn't give a fuck about the people and their mental health. They hate that we are using it to communicate with the rest of the world and to get true unbiased information.

[@ecegg_]

It's all so shallow. I started focusing on my fitness, nutrition, and "protecting my peace" by keeping JUST the people I care about (and they reciprocate that care) close to me. It's not easy, but I'm happier than I was when I was obsessed with social media. I can promise that limiting your social media intake and/or getting rid of some platforms completely isn't the end of the fucking world lmao. Self image, health, and relationships tend to get better without that shit anyways.

[@Monti-ko]

I agree with a lot of points in this video but I have to add that I don't think this is new, unfortunately. Tiktok did not introduce this mindset. It's been around since editing depictions of women came around. Women used to have their portraits painted to be prettier, have photographs painted over to make their waists slimmer, magazines have been criticized for decades for pushing unrealistic beauty standards with heavily edited photos. 10 years ago this conversation was all about the negative effects of photoshop, now it's Tiktok filters. People just keep finding more and more drastic ways to warp perception of beauty.

[@mariamart_0]

Our perception and sense of beauty has always been distorted and warped by societal shifts and algorithms, it is even more sick and disgusting thinking about it. Our perception of beauty is distorted and permanently altered.

[@FirstnameLastname-uc7rb]

5:06 I actually appreciate you just calling out the TikTok “look” and actually can relate to what you said. I am Romani/Irish Traveler decent. That means my skin tone goes from a dark medium (maybe 2-3 shades lighter than your tone) to Snow White depending on the time of year. I can confirm that my winter content normally gets more traffic than my summer content. It can be extremely similar content too. I didn’t even think about it until you mentioned it.

[@sauceyswole]

As a creator on tiktok I really resonate with this. And it’s not just the girls either. Its for guys too. Tiktok likes to push a certain type of “guy” look and let’s just say I don’t look it. We know what I’m talking about. I put hours and days into my edits & content just for it to get little to no views compared to the “look” other guys that don’t look like me. I used to compare and let it bother me but now I just focus on my content and still try to add value through my content because one day I know consistency will get me to where I want to be. This was a great video by the way!

[@7Karis]

My simple solution was cutting out all social media like that. I don’t miss it at all, and I love that no one knows my business. YT and LinkedIn is all I have now, life is lovely 🥰.

[@Crazy4jrj]

Literally deleted tik tok off my phone today felt like it was messing with my self esteem

[@LoXena]

Same. Everybody seems to have an hourglass shape and flat stomach on this app. But it's not real.

[@msSweeTae]

I used to study korea studies and I just remembered that a lot of girls had a K-drama fantasy in their head where they'll fly to South Korea and meet their K-Idol looking future boyfriend. I was so confused about them thinking that every man in SK looks like a K-Idol. When they came back from their first trip they were very disappointed about the reality... except for one girl who found someone who fulfilled her fantasy, but it was a very toxic relationship. It's weird how much any kind of media can us separate from reality.

[@Jesswatchtheseries]

I don’t have TikTok . But damn that’s what really be going down on the TikTok platform!?!. Early 2000s high school all over again 🤣

[@sundaysundaesundaaay6424]

I feel so dumb you know how many people's content I've commented on asking what type of lashes they were wearing because I was always seeing a super bomb cat eye. They will❤ my comment but not say anything back😅now I know they are filter lashes 😂😂

[@sc6658]

I love watching videos about stuff going on with TikTok. As someone who has never used the app it’s like watching a soap opera.

[@rattttttttttttttttt]

I'm so glad you included a bible verse. It was really unexpected, but it was amazing. Its great to spread the word of God whenever you can!! Mark 16:15 "Go into all the world and preach the Gospel to all creation!!"

[@thatweirdblackgirl]

Amen🙏🏾

[@CrystalLovesChrist]

Amen!!

[@ToniBryanneTV]

Amen❤

[@HaahmayanShaalManasseh]

Preaching the gospel is telling our fellow Israelites the good news that the kingdom of heaven is for us and that we will have slaves 😂 I’m excited to be honest

[@용커들]

​@@HaahmayanShaalManassehyou lost the entire plot...

[@insomniac1437]

every time i feel insecure you always come out with another one of these vids. feeling better if youre wondering.

[@jenisemerissa5113]

One common trend I see among Gen Z is their want to correct generational trauma and current societal problems for a better life, this is truly heartwarming to see. That being said, I believe that this energy should also be channeled into correcting the vanity and superficial standards that are so prevalent in our society. Social media has played a big role in pushing these standards and it feels like nothing is being done. While Gen Z is working to correct the past mistakes of past generations, they are overlooking their own very prevalent one. The younger generations are obsessed with beauty and very superficial qualities, and they should work toward shifting this attitude toward looking inside. It sounds cliche but "beauty comes from within." This is the message that they should advocate for instead of contributing to the obsession with beauty, anti-aging, and vanity. Gen Z's obsession is leading to a plethora of problems and an unhappiness and anxiety that is hard to pinpoint and get past.

[@sequoia5934]

tiktok deserves to be banned but it should've been gone a long time ago

[@stilljocelyn_]

BW I observed continue to have the same conversation about these apps that are not “for us” or owned buy us. So what now?

[@darriahlazard]

Yet we won’t get off them because secretly they want the attention too.

[@zippy3253]

​@@darriahlazardexactly. They're seeking validation from people who will never give it to them. Sad.

[@darriahlazard]

⁠@@zippy3253 very very sad!

[@Thatcaramelchic]

@@zippy3253I don’t think that’s fair to say. Social media is how people socialize, and engage with other humans now whether we like it or not this is what humans do to socialize and connect together. Black women are apart of this society we have the right to demand things be accessible to us. People of color should be able to engage with society just like everyone else without it being seen as “attention seeking or seeking validation”. If racism is embedded in a public organization or platform black people have the right to call it out like we always have.

[@miapia7229]

@@Thatcaramelchicy’all are PATHETIC. Keep queefing out of your mouths with the excuses. What the other commenters stated was the TRUTH. 👆🏼You all need validation from groups of literal DEMONS that would not even spit on you if you were on fire. Y’all been complaining, so what’s changed? Y’all mouths aren’t DRY NOW? 😂

[@marsbar5040]

love love love your video essays. they're always a breath a fresh air!

[@NovemberRain007]

TikTok beauty is not “real” beauty… do people truly believe these TikTokers look as they do IRL as they do online, oh my goodness🤭…. I look stunningly beautiful on SM but I certainly do not look like that when I’m out and about 🤫…. And with regard to Leah’s viral video, I’m sure the app planned it, everything is planned to cause commotion 🤫

[@jennifers1040]

Thank you! Same as IG and everywhere else online. I belong to a page on fb and it's all women who complain that men report their dating profiles for being catfish because everyone is photo shopping and filtering their pictures and videos.

[@shortyridesasporty]

you’re so real for all these videos. keep it up girl.

[@Silent_Butterflies]

I love this video. This video brings so many talking points. I'm not on any type of social media but this is why I'm not on it. The fact that you have girls checking the boxes just to try to appeal to tik tok consumers and still not appealing enough ONLY due to your skin color is ridiculous but at the same time this is why people need to log off and LOVE YOURSELF!! The fact that you can have the same content and look the same(as far as looking visually appealing) and still not be deemed pretty enough when every girl in this video looked good shows the pedal stool America gives certain group of people. We as black women always felt like we weren't good enough compared to the other group of women. I was a victim to this trying to look like this, trying to act like this but as I got older I realized with all the faking i was doing it will never be enough to other people and that's cool and also that's why you have to learn to love yourself and all that other B.S. will not matter to you

[@thehoneytable6820]

When I was 19 I stopped my monthly subscription to cosmopolitan magazine and my self-esteem got so much better. I feel sad for the girls now because it’s just nonstop info on how to be prettier, sexier, more fit.

[@miruku174]

why are you guys still on tiktok

[@lheacula1376]

I have two deactivated accounts, KZbin just keeps pushing TikTok videos

[@HLEP7890]

Friends but at the start of highschool i'm deleting that app for me :), me and my friends love to send goofy videos to each other

[@tuma4341]

Cause people are...

[@hilarycraig5360]

Exactly. I deactivated mine back in 2020 because I saw the effect it had on my mental health

[@taryndancer29]

My step mom and I were talking about this the other day. We are totally blaming the Kardashians for starting all of this. Especially where I live, every other girl looks like a Kim or Kylie wannabe and it's sad.

[@feliznavidad6958]

How is it the Kardashians fault. Maybe don't put fake looks on a pedestal.

[@champagnesupernova4081]

Tik Tok pretty isn't even real beauty since those people don't even look like that in real life. It's people's faults if they're dumb enough to fall for everything that they see on social media and keep comparing themselves, therefore making their self-esteem suffer. I personally think that I'm prettier than most of those people on Tik Tok (pretty face with cheekbones, straight teeth, dimples, skinny, small straight upturned nose, doll-face, big gray/blue eyes, dark eyebrows, porcelain skin, long straight dirty blonde hair with golden highlights....you get it....check out all of the "beauty standard" boxes...) but I could never be as self-absorbed as them and make thousands of videos trying to show off my beauty....so cringy. It doesn't sit well with me to rub into other people's faces my looks...especially when I know that many of them suffer from low self-esteem. Looks mean nothing if the person is dumb or not humble. IMO personality can make the most beautiful person become 10x less attractive.

[@veggiemegroll9220]

I agree, I’ve never really been into pop culture so it doesn’t influence me to look a certain way or feel terrible for how I look, but it would feel odd bragging about your looks, like okay, what else do you have to offer?

[@Cynical-kl3wy]

@@veggiemegroll9220Yeah….. honestly, and just because someone fits the beauty standard doesn’t mean they’ll be beautiful to everyone. So, the entitlement I see is insane. Especially since there are people in other races who can be beautiful as well. These people really are warped to a TEN

[@reenabean9597]

thank you

[@doeeyes2]

Arenyou sure youre not that self involved ?.. 😂

[@corimoon3360]

You’re probably not that pretty if you have such an ugly heart to call impressionable kids dumb for falling for beauty standards on Tik Tok… have some grace. You are not perfect.?

[@brandoniswhoiam]

“TikTok Pretty” will just move over to Instagram, Twitter, etc. “Douyin Pretty” would just be the Chinese equivalent. Yes, I know that TikTok IS Chinese too. But, both platforms are different in terms of: accessibility, and a ranking system based on category. 😂

[@adalheidisofadamahcaptaino18]

East Asia has far more harsh standards. Image standard/digital standard and in person standard.

[@brandoniswhoiam]

@@adalheidisofadamahcaptaino18, that’s true.

[@mermaiiiidddd3121]

Catfish will never run out of seasons at this point 😂😂😂

[@Halfsaladzw]

This video essay could be played in schools so well done.

[@Maya-si9vx]

Oh! How great in your video to include a chapter on beauty standards then-and-now. That actually caught me off guard. You added a depth to this discussion that I will remember ❤️

[@sistertedgenesisavrs2234]

Nice to hear an intelligent and well spoken woman speaking on these topics. Loved the Bible verse in beginning as well!

[@MySkinnydip]

I will be so happy when they ban this app! It almost ruined my niece! After she got the worst sunburn on her face by using my sister’s skincare,that was it!

[@helenmary8076]

"It seems that whenever there is an argument or disagreement, people always resort to bringing up race as the main issue. It's disheartening that this is the only thing some individuals can think of, as there are many other factors that need to be taken into consideration."

[@britneyt9253]

Yeah, but race is relevant is this particular discussion.

[@salmabilly6905]

I’m 16 and got lip fillers and nose fillers and chin fillers and I’m ashamed that I got work done at this age I can say it en u get very addicted to it

[@nekomeow3161]

Who took you?? Your parent is responsible not your fault

[@karihollingsworth901]

I've definitely been noticing how fillers have been pushed through social media lately it's literally not even just tiktok..... I've seen it on Facebook too...... As a kid growing up I felt ugly to have such big lips naturally and now I see the promotion of lip injections everywhere.... It's a double edge sword because it lets me know my lips are just fine and some people wish they had big juicy lips... but why is it being promoted so much now??

[@Catsaresupreme]

TikTok is my one stop shop to see adorable cat videos with a sprinkle of funny, cooking, makeup and Keith Lee content.

[@laurendelvecchio]

I deleted Tik tok and Instagram 2 years ago and I’ve never been happier and more confident

[@nyxaeats]

it breaks my heart because such young girls/boys are starting to feel insecure because of being exposed to social media. Like they can be full on 7 yr olds worrying about makeup and their body image…it hurts my heart knowing this

[@tthewizard7667]

Also, in terms of the Bachelor, they used to mainly (only tbh) cast white women, with a token black woman here and there. Yes, these girls may at times look like the typical ig influencer, however the casting is more diverse. The standard or beauty, the way women groom and do their makeup is sooo different from the early 2000s.

[@eveandaedrul]

Tbh the first season cast looked more attractive to me, the 2000s way of hair, makeup, and outfits look so refreshing. They look human.