You Have To Be Willing To Lose A Man To Keep Him!

[@gieonnalatise3287]

He thought it was a game. He was mad so started talking about a break. We too old for breaks...breaks equal bullcrap.. so i broke up completely and wished him well a month late met a man who did not play about me from day 1. That that man is now my husband we got married in six month's we celebrate 3 years in march. And the ex was just upset. When they play games trying to see what they can get away with leave em there. My husband never played head games with me EVER.

[@justicevibes1252]

I'm really happy for you!!! You made smart moves. 💯

[@kimberlycece1426]

I love this

[@gieonnalatise3287]

@gogetta6532 power tripping. Come up with a plan get back to work. Let someone or a few people know what the plan is so they can assist you in whatever way to help u be able to exit faster.

[@piscesgoddess4314]

Congratulations.. that’s what I’m talking bout.. I’m happy for you… I’m the same way… shiiid.. help em pack & hold open the door for em..

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

Aww you got lucky you met a matured, kind and committed person. I wasn't lucky this time, but hopefully next time.

[@melissaanthony7175]

I have lived this. At 36 years old, I've learned you also have to be willing to be single with no expiration date if you are really trying to stand on business. Majority of men aren't living right and will lead you straight to hell if you let them. It's not easy to not have companionship, but when God gives you another chance to get it right, you take it

[@ieshjust16]

They'll lead lead you to hell or jail 😂

[@melissaanthony7175]

​@@ieshjust16 listen! 😂

[@krissyhall2838]

They also want a healthy woman but don’t wanna work on themselves!

[@ieshjust16]

@@krissyhall2838 speak for yourself

[@LOLKeeeey]

Whew a word I've decided I'd be straight like Paul and I'm ok with it. I know it'll be hard some days but a risk I'm willing to take 🤌

[@Confessions089]

You can't lose something that you never had. 💯 😊

[@Addease]

Just like you can’t loose something that’s truly meant for you when it’s a good thing💜

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@@Addease both are sooo true!

[@audreycooper9739]

Is not that the truth 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@Chosen4Abundance24]

That part🫵🏽

[@londonsantana376]

That part!

[@tieonne]

If you are not being treated with dignity and respect do not be afraid to walk away! 🎯 There is power in walking away! 🙌🏾 Thank you, Tony for your life changing-content.

[@joycewatt800]

Absolutely! Walk!🚶‍♀️ 😂

[@joycewatt800]

5:10 You had better listen 👂🏽 up LADIES! Absolutely no lies being told here. I had one show up at my then apartment with my back then single self he was banging on my door 🚪 after someone let him in in a building where you had to be buzzed in. I didn’t buzz him in. I was not answering his phone calls so he took it upon himself to just SHOW 🆙 But…..he was a grown self centered narcissistic boy and not responding to him angered him. No real loss although initially I thought it would be. Now 15 years married and happy with a grown man! Moral of my story ladies is: When you get sick AND tired 😴 you KNOW it’s time to let go! Wish em all the best but you gotta bounce!

[@herleenpickrom703]

Tony is telling the truth Ladies, been there and did it. if you try everything right and after that he doesn't want to change . Then walk away the relationship is over. It hurts more to keep holding on to someone who doesn't want you, because if he did you wouldn't have to bend over backwards to protect his feelings and he doesn't respect your feelings. It's not that kind of partnership or relationship with anyone who doesn't want to respect your feelings. My grandmother told me actions speak louder than words. If you don't believe Tony and you are in a relationship like that watch the man's actions and once you walk away and give him space and see how he acts. Okay!

[@crydcllc2076]

Listening to Tony helped me go from dating, to being in a relationship, to Now we are discussing marriage. His approach works, but you gotta be willing to go through the hurt of leaving. Yes it hurts to leave, but it also hurts to stay in a relationship that is unhealthy. I'm grateful for you Tony. I learned that I don't have to lower my standards to get a man, or put up with mess to keep a man.. ❤

[@PrettyDreadie]

Amen thanks for sharing

[@elsabueno16]

Going through it now and it’s tough, but you’re right. You have to love yourself more than you love the man.

[@gigibrown_wright]

My story is very similar and it was this teaching right here that coached me.

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

I feel like this is toddler behavior not grown men (boys)😩. I checked my grown boy, and he kept doing it. Broke up with him, he came back, started doing the behavior again. I was done! I simply will not, and cannot be mistreated! Thank you Jesus, that I know my worth and whom I belong to!

[@verniciasmith6372]

Great 4 u what a blessing!

[@TallTraveler1]

I’m guilty as charged, my girl of 4 years left me back in August 2023 and I never thought she would leave. She also cut off all communication completely and it’s like we never existed together. It’s been devastating to say the least. I’ve certainly taken a hard look within and realize I have many things I need to work on and be a more accountable responsible man.

[@dw3675]

That’s the first step, work on yourself. Good for you on having the humility to do so. 👍🏽

[@vital.elements]

I'm sorry for your loss. But, it seems an even greater gift of insight and introspection awaited you on the other side. It's great that you can take responsibility and learn from this. I think all men and women can benefit from taking accountability and remedial steps to improve their own lives and the lives of others who must rely on them. I wish you great growth and progress toward healthier and more fulfilling relationships that you'll be better equipped to value and sustain. 💪💜

[@emmasadventures7081]

You men always wanna take accountability after they break up with you 🤣

[@tinawalker5335]

This made my year seeing a man admit this and accept accountability

[@zinhlekheswa5237]

What is this WORK ON YOURSELF stuff? We're you born doing wrong things, or you don't want to take accountability and responsibility for your actions? Everybody is working and finding themselves 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@rareroseglosses1554]

He cut me off this December 2023 I didn't even argue I said I wished you the best ✌🏽

[@Educatedlame]

You cant keep a man😂😂😂😂😂

[@rareroseglosses1554]

@@Educatedlame not a man that's a grown boy

[@mindingmybusiness6309]

Yep 😊

[@Educatedlame]

@@rareroseglosses1554 you cant compete for a man

[@rareroseglosses1554]

@@DaintyAbby they ALWAYS COME BACK he's coming lol

[@Lakersgirl626]

I left him and he got with someone else. One of the worst heartbreaks I’ve ever had, but it revealed his true intentions and character.

[@zilnettah7339]

I know how you feel, but this is what you have to be ok with. They will move on and so will you.

[@AB-th4xk]

He wasn’t the one sis!

[@flyflyfly2123]

This will also show if a man is genuinely interested in you at all. I was causally seeing a guy and i noticed that he was extremely arrogant and could come across as rude and careless with his mouth. One day he said something very rude to me and I called him out on it respectfully. He acted as if he didn’t understand how someone could be offended by his comments so i stopped talking to him. He ended up working his hardest to reel me back in via text and when i finally replied he “ghosted” me 😂. I let him ghost and moved on with my life. 2 months later he comes back trying to communicate with me. From there i blocked him completely. He was just trying to play games and needed something to play with. A man that is genuinely interested isn’t going to go 2 months without talking to you to punish you for something HE did. Stay strong ladies! The streets are WILD

[@aml8760]

Wow!!!

[@msmeshaambitious9249]

Going through this right now omg and I love tf outta him it's killing me he was like my best friend 😭 but I gotta stand up for me

[@EternalflameC.L.]

Truth

[@musicbrazilian7065]

​@@msmeshaambitious9249 Be careful some guys are psychopath they enjoy hurting women. There are fine men out there, dont waste your time with pathological people who may need medication not a girlfriend.

[@charlinecharlostin3188]

@@msmeshaambitious9249if you wouldn’t treat him like that or hurt him like how he’s doing you, then release him from the best friend title. The title you’re giving him is putting him on a pedestal making it hurt more because he’s filling that spot. Free yourself so God can send you a loving man and you can heal.

[@shereewhite4828]

Ladies, show a man your worth by being confident enough to walk away permanently, and he will respect you even more because he knows you're not gonna put up with his nonsense! He needs to give you the respect that he'd want a man to give his mother, grandmother, daughter, sister, etc!

[@cindysantos9300]

I told him that the next time i wont come back if he will do the same shit behaviour and he did it again. So i left him. He didnt listen to my words so now he has to feel it. It hurts yes but i will not accept his disrespect anymore.

[@shereewhite4828]

@@cindysantos9300 I'm so proud of you! God will heal your heart. You deserve better.

[@marissamonique7511]

It bothers me that some women are too desperate and undisciplined to check a man when he doesn’t behave and STAND ON IT. We have to be willing to get quiet or withdraw our presence sometimes. Most men understand ACTIONS so Tony is telling us to be clear verbally sooo….quit talking so much and MAKE A MOVE! We suffer and don’t create the type of relationships that we desire because WE DON’T have a backbone. It makes me sad and I hurt for ladies that refuse to do it. This technique even has to be used in marriage so…LADIES, you might as well adopt this mindset and approach now and START using it. Don’t be scared- speak truth to love IN YOUR POWER. Don’t ever be scared to walk away when he doesn’t get the lesson either.💜 Be Blessed💕

[@ieshjust16]

You said it they're too desperate and don't let the guy be "cute."

[@fattie__pie]

Respectfully, I totally understand your position, however some Grown Boys don’t handle Rejection that well so you have to be CAREFUL with your movements. Unfortunately, for me, my cash is not where it needs to be because I’m helping my daughter with her (third yr) college tuition @ Howard University, for nursing so it’s not that easy to change phones numbers etc. Please 🙏🏽 note, I’m Not Making excuses, I’m just trying to make smart decisions so I can remain Safe. Do I think he will hurt me, No but you Never know what a Grown boy will do when he’s hurt. I’m off to work; Happy New Year 🥳 Beloved…

[@kylasmith7907]

I find that it gets hard for me to do this, stand up for myself, because these guys will typically have treated me the best, and I’m not used to that treatment. So do I basically have to treat this dating and marriage thing as a game? I haven’t been in a healthy or any kind of relationship for that matter and I’m 29 next month but I’m desperately trying to learn for myself.😭

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

I agree with everything you said sis! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I simply WILL NOT stand to be mistreated!! NEVER EVER! You will respect me and treat me right or I will MAKE A MOVE!

[@npayne7776]

Your POV is true but there are also women who weren't informed of this. No one taught them their worth. No one explained the dynamic between men and women. They leaned what they do know by their environment or tv. I recently had a woman tell me how she was so insecure she thought something was wrong with her bc she wasn't matching her bra & panties with her nail polish as her them bf requested her to do. His friend's wives were doing it so she thought she wa falling short. Well he was a narcissistic and the wives were damaged. It is not something we are all born knowing.

[@Anon0980]

Yep! Married to the man I walked away from for 2 months and he came back crawling lol. Been married every since! Ultimately the woman is the prize, which is why you have to be able to leave if need be! When a man knows you can and will leave him if he falls out of line then he will come correct every time!

[@latonyarichardson4279]

This is true. Once you have a relationship with God and also find SELF love, your tolerance becomes extremely low. Only a man that wants you will not let you get away

[@dunsbeautifulpeople]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@Wnderfullymade]

100%

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

How come he wanted me for six months and then changed his mind?! So mean!

[@lotusgsxr750]

Yes

[@jessicajackson2438]

Speak on it YES YES once you heal you see everything crystal clear can even smell BULL ISH A MILE AWAY

[@kimbrown4772]

You telling the truth 💯 I’m married to the one I had to let go! We been married for 8 years! I loved him and wanted him,but I loved myself more! He came to his senses!

[@valentinesboy8593]

I agree! I loved myself and my son more! But he didn’t come to his senses, lol. He claimed so but his actions took me to the judge. 😊

[@kimbrown4772]

@@valentinesboy8593WOW! Like Tony said, it’s a gamble, I told the Lord if He saw my now husband was for me then he is and if not I have to keep moving. Believe I didn’t sit round waiting, I kept it moving. The Lord has that special someone for you, if he’s not already in your life.

[@EternalflameC.L.]

Yes they either do or they dont,we have to keep those standarts high!Always knew this.

[@nikkimckinney3999]

Going through this now!!❤❤

[@kaybase6967]

I think men are all about getting and giving respect. They look at love/relationships differently than women. If you don’t respect yourself as much as, or more than you respect him, he will _also_ *not* respect you either. An example, look at Marjorie and Steve Harvey (I know not such a great example…but 😂)…he was a player. He was still talking to chicks while he was already with Marjorie. Marjorie told him to call her when he was done screwing around, but that is _if_ she was still available. I don’t think he’s played her since…because he respects her. I think men really get turned on by confidence.

[@joiagenae]

Tony is telling the absolute truth. Back in 2022 I was dealing with a guy and he went ghost for a day so when he reached out I didn't respond..he sent like 10 messsges and I never replied until the next day and I said what I needed to say in that message. Lol you got to find your voice and just be okay being alone. Having a man isn't the end all be all especially if he isn't treating you right! Let's listen to Tony more and implement his strategies bc they work! I even practice my Liam Neeson voice sometimes 😂

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

💯 Sis! Being alone won’t kill you, but being with the wrong man, just might! 😬 I will not, and be mistreated! I know my worth, and whom I belong to! If you come at me, you gotta come at me right or I will walk away!

[@SimpleTruth818]

Did all of that, I broke and jumped ship after 5 years of marriage. There is NO reasoning with a Fool. The manipulation is real. Ladies, run and don’t look back. You’re unequally yoked.

[@MiMi-wp3gu]

Me too. 5 years. I was sick when I found out what he was doing.

[@shakiramcgee2023]

Whew this the comment I was looking for. Don’t be fooled bad company corrupts good character. 1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces. Matthew 7:6 As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his foolishness. Proverbs 26:11

[@vITALEmpress]

Your right!! I’ve seen this for myself

[@MrsBryant1024]

Depends on the man. Some men can & will change.

[@ogtvkc]

Good afternoon ❤ just wanted to tap in, once I started LISTENING … I lost him and I’m ok ! It’s sinking in everyday for both of us … I just got audio message this morning of him taking accountability and how he’ll always be willing to work it out with me. Mwah, no reply 💯 because I started listening to TG and putting my faith in GOD💯🙏🏽 I pray peace, consistency, and discipline for anyone struggling with denying access!!

[@gurlycash7394]

When he messes up, do I tell him that I need an hour break or a day or two. Or do we just do it with communicating our actions.

[@domeatown]

I'm willing to lose a man to lose him. If he wants to be lost, he can be lost. Byeeeeee

[@crystalmorse7412]

Facts Beautiful Period 💕

[@kittensmitten3287]

I have a husband and he knows I will walk away from his azz if he ever tries me. He literally knows this. I have no loyalty to anyone but myself. Respect me and you'll naturally get that respect back. Women are the divine feminine. Protect your nature and peace.

[@itsnunu101]

What you just said in 10 minutes could shield many women from years of wasted time, energy, emotions and resources. Thank you.

[@iamsharlalakay]

This is so true. I did this very thing with my friend/future husband about a year ago. I started off the conversation with “I’m willing to walk away from this friendship after we’re done talking if you are not willing to consider my feelings” He listened to what I had to say, he apologized and said he would do better and expressed that he wanted me in his life. It worked for us and we’re still going strong 💪🏾 I admit that I didn’t want to lose him because I had already fell in love with him, but I had to risk it just to see if I had a good thing ❤

[@daisyhenry332]

Yes..I always say...if you tell a man once that something bothers you...he should change it...if he does it again...MAYBE he forgot or slipped up...if he does it a 3rd time...he doesn't care about you or your feelings...and I myself only give 2 chances...not 3..js

[@iamsharlalakay]

@@daisyhenry332 Right!

[@UniquelyEm]

He sent a new year resolution text. I still haven’t responded but decided my time is way more valuable. I’ve decided I’m not bringing him into this new year with me. He can’t go where I’m heading he’s a distraction. I’m focus right now and our principals aren’t the same .

[@misspriss2482]

You and me both, girl. Got things to do and places to be. No time for children. 😂😂

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@emunique what a unique name! I know what you mean! I see ya! Same thing for me as well! I just wrote a letter stating that without saying it!

[@peaceful_and_blessed]

Yesssss Tony! I walked away from every man I’ve ever been with. I have zero regrets. When we don’t need a man, it’s easier to walk away! 🙌🙏🏻💪🏽

[@terrybrown7510]

No woman "needs" a man..... In my humble opinion. They might need money or help and that's when they need to look at themselves....

[@peaceful_and_blessed]

@@terrybrown7510 well said! 🙌

[@Beautiful_Divine]

@@terrybrown7510there’s actually women that are in situations that are giving the man everything and not receiving nor benefiting from him so if he isn’t giving you anything then why else would you be involved with him because some women need that validation or attention otherwise they’d leave just saying

[@cortneyeverett6927]

Order of the house for kings.🤴🏽 KJV Ecclesiastes 7:26 And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth Yahawah shall escape from her, but the sinner shall be taken by her. Ecclesiasticus 25:24 “Of the woman came the beginning of sin, and through her we all die.” Ecclesiasticus 25:13 “Give me any plague, but the plague of the heart: and any wickedness, but the wickedness of a woman:” Ecclesiasticus 26:7 “An evil wife is a yoke shaken to and fro: he that hath hold of her is as though he held a scorpion.” Ecclesiasticus 26:8 “A drunken woman and a gadder abroad causeth great anger, and she will not cover her own shame.” Ecclesiasticus 26:9 “The whoredom of a woman may be known in her haughty looks and eyelids.” Ecclesiasticus 26:10 “If thy daughter be shameless, keep her in straitly, lest she abuse herself through overmuch liberty.” Proverbs 6:26 “For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.” 2 Esdras 16:49 “Like as a whore envieth a right honest and virtuous woman:” Proverbs 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Proverbs 9:13 A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing. Ecclesiasticus 26:11 Watch over an impudent eye: and marvel not if she trespass against thee.” Ecclesiasticus 26:12 “She will open her mouth, as a thirsty traveller when he hath found a fountain, and drink of every water near her: by every hedge will she sit down, and open her quiver against every arrow.” Ecclesiasticus 26:25 “A shameless woman shall be counted as a dog; but she that is shamefaced will fear the Lord.” Ecclesiasticus 25:16 “I had rather dwell with a lion and a dragon, than to keep house with a wicked woman. Ecclesiasticus 25:19 “All wickedness is but little to the wickedness of a woman: let the portion of a sinner fall upon her. Ecclesiasticus 26:23 “A wicked woman is given as a portion to a wicked man: but a godly woman is given to him that feareth the Lord.” Proverbs 30:20 “Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness.” 1 Timothy 5:6 “But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth.” Lamentations 4:3 “Even the sea monsters draw out the breast, they give suck to their young ones: the daughter of my people is become cruel, like the ostriches in the wilderness.” Isaiah 3:24 “And it shall come to pass, that instead of sweet smell there shall be stink; and instead of a girdle a rent; and instead of we’ll set hair baldness; and instead of a stomacher a girding of sackcloth; and burning instead of beauty.” Micah 7:10 “Then she that is mine enemy shall see it, shame shall cover her which said unto me, Where is the LORD thy Yahawah? mine eyes shall behold her: now shall she be trodden down as the mire of the streets.” 1 Corinthians 11:3 “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Yahawashi; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Yahawashi is Yahawah.” 1 Corinthians 11:8 “For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man.” 1 Corinthians 11:9 “Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” 1 Timothy 2:13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.” 1 Timothy 2:14 “And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.” Genesis 3:16 “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” Ecclesiasticus 36:24 “He that getteth a wife beginneth a possession, a help like unto himself, and a pillar of rest.” Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your husbands, as unto the Lord. Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Yahawashi is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Ephesians 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Yahawashi, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 1 Timothy 2:11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 1 Timothy 2:12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. Job 39:17 “Because Yahawah hath deprived her of wisdom, neither hath he imparted to her understanding.” Isaiah 3:12 “As for my people, children are there oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths.” Proverbs 31:3 Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.” 1 Esdras 4:26 “Yea, many there be that have run out of their wits for women, and become servants for their sakes.” Isaiah 4:1 “And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name to take away our reproach.” Romans 15:4 For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope. Ecclesiastes 1:9 The thing that hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done: and there is no new thing under the sun.

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

Wow you are a STRONG woman for not letting society dictate your happiness! Or your hormones or the "need for love and validation" same thing!

[@shannonh2164]

I'm willing to let him lose me. If I have to correct the behaviour more than 3 times for a significant offence the relationship is over. Grown boys will cry, beg, plead, show up at your house, apologize, blow your phone up just to repeat the same thing in less than a year, walking away is the only way they'll learn

[@mjohnson8206]

Yep. Men only learn by consequences and rewards…After you’ve told them what you won’t tolerate and they continue to do so the only way they learn is reaping the consequences of their behavior. Ghosting has always worked for me every time. After 6 months he called me thinking everything was good and I told him I was not interested anymore. He wanted to know why I never called him back and wanted to start over. He said most women only want him because of his money. But all he did was talk about how lavish his lifestyle was and how much money he got and how his last GF was using him for his $. Yet he was going to take care of me. Right …ok… I couldn’t take him seriously. I knew he was saying it thinking I was going to be desperate to have him. I liked his personality that’s why I gave him a chance however I was turned off because he would never call me unless he wanted sex. I told him about this and said I don’t care about a man’s money as much as I wanted someone who’s loyal, loves God and has integrity and is consistent in their actions. I’m making my own money and I don’t ever depend on a man period. I don’t have it like him but I would rather get that lifestyle that I want on my own. That’s what I’m working on. If he is complaining about spending money he won’t spend it on me. Most BM that I’ve dealt with always talk about BW being gold diggers. More of us make more money. But Anyway. This is why I’ve always made it my business to get my own money and never depend on a BM. They always think like this yet they will give their incomes to other races and think it’s a flex. They don’t think BW deserve that lavish lifestyle. They have always been the ones who bring it up first with me. I get it …they know it gets our attention but it takes more than your money to get a good woman sweetheart lol….I don’t have time to entertain him because I’m assuming men like him like to use money to control women…that’s why he was talking about it all the time. For me it’s a turn off and I’m not tolerating it. If you want to support me do it because you want a stable relationship. I let him know If he was that type of man I would not deal with him. I have to see more of his behavior because I haven’t been around him long enough yet. He thought that I would stay around because of his money and he was shocked that I never called him back. I told him that I believed that he probably had other woman and when they didn’t work out he wanted to get back with me. A man will do that. They will keep you stringing along until they find the one they want to marry or sleep with. I’m not waiting around for that. If that’s what he plans to do he will be shocked again. I’m not one to play with. He denied it and said he was very busy and didn’t have time because of his real estate deals but enjoyed my company and wanted a real relationship. I told him a man will make time if he really cares for a woman. He asked me to be exclusive with him and I said I need more effort. I gave him another chance but I’m in control of the temperature of the relationship. I don’t ever call him first to show him I don’t need him like that so I purposely keep my distance. He travels all the time and I’m cool with that because I need my space. I want to show him I can do things without him because that’s what I was doing before he came along and If I see inconsistencies and lack of good character I will leave again . In the past, the reason I ghosted him was because I would text him and he wouldn’t text back unless it was about sex and It was always on his terms. He’s not a texter he likes to talk on the phone. I would FaceTime and he wouldn’t answer. When I didn’t answer he would FaceTime me to see where I’m at and I always answered. I figured he got another woman around. I’m looking like I’m too available which looks like I’m too desperate so I stopped responding because I thought that l’m getting played. When I called he would pick up on the first ring. He didn’t want me to see where he was but wanted to check where I was… ok…I thought that was weird so I stopped communicating altogether and figured he got another woman or playing games to test me. I have a lot of positive stuff going on so I don’t have time for games. I’m too busy improving myself and don’t need him for validation. To make up for his absence and to prove he is a man of his word he has agreed to renovate one of my real estate houses and we split the profits…but that’s no guarantee that I will stay with him. If his actions don’t improve and someone better comes along he will be ghosted again.

[@Fay1106]

Girl don't split no profits with that man that is his punishment and what he should be doing to make it up to you, your doing good but you need to be more harsh no more nice girl make him renovate that house and get NOTHING and make him agree I guarantee if he wants you bad enough he will do it

[@mjohnson8206]

@Fay1106 ok I will

[@mjohnson8206]

@Fay1106 thanks for the advice

[@adelante3938]

in less than a year? same DAY.

[@MisFit...ButGod]

I had a friend tell me that implementing these exact principles from Brother Tony was playing mind games, no ma'am. Teaching people how to treat you in all types of relationships, business, and personal is how to build healthy relationships.

[@Erica-cf1xb]

I like Dr. Umar style of teaching. Very repetitive to drive home the point nobody wants to get.

[@fn4412]

Dr. Umar is NOT a GODLY man of good character. He is a well known womanizer and as woman we have to stop taking advice from grow boys giving advice they DO NOT follow.

[@msbrandimsmith]

I agree. “IF” you’re solely using this tactic to “keep a man” it’s manipulation. If you walk away it has to be because of a reason outside of trying to keep a man. You leave with the notion of NEVER returning.

[@MisFit...ButGod]

@@Erica-cf1xb this not a Dr. Umar video

[@natashathomas8354]

Sooo Agree

[@alexc.8344]

I'm a living witness of this! I packed my bags, rented a U-Haul, and moved 10 hours away to take a job that I really didn't want, but I had to prove my point. I was done talking, shouting, fussing, fighting and explaining simple logic and disrespect. My move put him in the dirt! I cried the whole drive there, but I felt liberated. The space afforded me the clarity I needed to take a step back and allow my disgust for him to grow. LOL Now, I don't want him anymore.

[@mollesmart]

The Bible says a man is supposed to love, cherish, nourish, cleanse and purify his woman. If you love this man and respect him then you should not allow anything else.

[@SSSituation]

Sure❤

[@margarethailey6482]

This is speaking to Marriages...

[@DD-mg2se]

By us keeping our legs closed..it's keeping us away from the wrong ones. Easy way to chase whoever didn't come to stay. Be blessed.

[@levelupyourself-all]

Very true 👍👍

[@CupcakeChan2611]

Very true

[@sachetmankey1948]

It’s been 6 days since I spoke to him and he’s freaking out. He called me four times yesterday, texts 3x and I have not responded! I don’t feel bad because he dug this hole for himself.

[@taewill11]

Mr. Gaskins is speaking all truth. I applied this to my life in Feb 2023 and stopped all communication with a lying always mis-communicating man. It was not easy after a 3 year relationship but now that I am on the other side I realize how necessary moving on was for my own self-love. I know my value, I feel lighter, I have clarity, and I am at peace. The relationship was a distraction. I had to understand that what God has for me will ADD to my peace not take from it! Thank you TG for dropping 💎💎💎!🙏🏽

[@QuitaGee617]

Sound advice. Completely agree! You teach people how to treat you. The worse thing for a woman is when a man knows she ain’t going no where.

[@t.b.5553]

he didn’t change so i gathered my things & my 2 yr old & moved a couple states away. it’s been the greatest things I’ve ever done for myself. ppl can only take so much mental abuse before they snap & I refused to snap! I literally started from scratch & love the life I’ve created for my child & I. ☺️

[@BM-tx2ph]

I also left to a new state with my 2 year old

[@Lgarcia212]

I did the same. I almost got charged for kidnapping even though it was domestic. Good luck with everything, ladies.

[@ArabellaRenee-do2pj]

How did you manage this? You must've had a great job. I've Been trying to start over for 10 years now with no success. Please tell me your secret.

[@The_GoddessWay]

& the rules doesn’t change whether you’re single dating or married. At any point in the relationship when you start being disrespected and not valued you need to be capable of walking away. Love my husband to life but if he ever straits treating me crazy I’m GONE. that’s the energy you have to have about yourself

[@letonyastreety4143]

Listening to Tony Gaskins helped me get out of a very toxic relationship. I'm now happy and at so much peace.

[@elorahunt6076]

AMEN. You can not put a price on peace.

[@shereeceshaw3803]

I walked away from a very very very long relationship. Got tired of talking and begging for change. It will be one year. He wants to get back together and apologize every chance he can, but I’m not going the best decision I’ve ever made I’m enjoying my peace and worry-free life.

[@Annahbri]

So true. I finally started listening to you last year after man years. I’m 27 I was in an abusive relationship. Finally left. 2 weeks later bumped into my man we’ve been together almost a year and it’s amazing. I showed him I was willing to lose him during the first week when he told me he would call me and he didn’t. I canceled the date and everything. He called me immediately and apologized and said he was taken back because he’s never had anyone check him like that before. I told him it was a respect thing, and to never tell me he’s going to do something and not do it.

[@raedyyy]

So he basically saw you as one of a kind/high value woman for checking him like that? Was he turned off by it at all?

[@birgitasilberg]

Yep! It works! 🎉 They are totally flabbergasted sb checking on them right away 💖

[@marissamonique7511]

@@raedyyy Try it dear! Yes he is turned off that you checked him! Let him be upset and see if he steps up to meet your standard. And then…if he wants you enough, he will come back and apologize and do the right thing. If a man finds out that you’re soft, that he can get away with a lot and that he can disrespect you, your entire relationship will be full of disrespect and you will loose your self esteem/worth and your voice/opinions in the relationship. Work on your confidence and THEN try this.

[@123gollc9]

What did you say when you cancelled the date ?

[@tarahbruno3793]

You met your husband. Congratulations!

[@flawcoaching]

Tony, I’ve applied this in the beginning part of my relationship and I have not had to apply this since. I’ve been with my now finance going on 3 years. We got engaged in year 2, this year we are getting married!🎉 I don’t know my father, and I don’t talk to my brothers about dating, relationships or relationship tips. Therefore, your videos and principals that are rooted in Christ help me ALOT! Thanks Tony ❤

[@carlyc9891]

Congratulations🎉 Tony’s like brother/father we never had 😊

[@flawcoaching]

@@carlyc9891 absolutely! Thank you ♥️

[@nathifablanchfield8925]

Amen. Congratulations 🎉 and God Bless you both 🙏🏾

[@flawcoaching]

@@nathifablanchfield8925 thank you 🙏🏼 ♥️

[@brittanyb1955]

You ain’t lied! After 2 years of doing this is ain’t worth it. It’s been almost 1 month no contact and like he said it’s over by then. It hurts but once you find out you’ve been dealing with a grown boy faking as a grown man it’s better to find out sooner than having a baby or waste 5-10 years of your life chile 😮‍💨

[@ieshjust16]

Heavy on having a baby because once you do that, you're tied to the person for life.

[@HereToLearn-l5h]

I been w mine 11 years and have 5 children. He convinced me to be a stay at home mom and home school so now I have no money to get up and leave. I was young and dumb back then. But I'm tired of the mental and emotional abuse. Time to get to the drawing board on this one SMH 😮‍💨😐

[@iamme7664]

@@HereToLearn-l5hso sorry… find a job or a way to support yourself and your kids and leave. I know it’s easier said than done..

[@Littlemissjayjay7]

All respect to Tony, cos he repeats himself so many times and never gets tired it! 🙌🏽

[@MiraclesandMessages333]

Like all great fathers ❤

[@carlawillingham9034]

Yep. He's touched on this before.

[@nzingahoney]

Oh he gets tired. 😂 he just grown grown. Do what he gotta do.

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

He has said this so many times I know he’s gotta be tired of saying it, but he’s doing God‘s work, so he keeps pressing on! I left my grown boy even before I heard about Tony so when I found out about Tony a few months after I ended it; it was just confirmation! I don’t have time to deal with toddlers! I’m too old to deal with toddlers!

[@MiMi-wp3gu]

Well, this is his job lol

[@Dr.Elaine1]

“Her presence is reinforcing the behavior.” TG

[@shaylanewlife]

If a Man choose to leave me I'll be ok never tripping.

[@Noble-light01]

Tony God told me the same thing - God said to me in a dream that if you message him and chase him, you will get a boy not a man-wait for him to message you. No sex before marriage either because that gives the devil license to get into your relationship to cause problems.

[@originalmix2546]

💛💯💯💯

[@CarletteBlasingame]

I had to emotionally detach myself from him and he knew it and he didn’t like it at all 😂but he’s back and we’re good

[@llydiyah13]

This is so true... Sadly I had to go to my daughter's for a week to get my husband to understand I wasn't just talking. We been Beautiful since.

[@juliethlazo5207]

Kept going backing several times after weeks of not talking, my hope kept me in the loop for far too long. I’m not wasting another year on a promiscuous man. I’m done.

[@mommom3172]

It's called not being desperate & having standards. Very simple.

[@MariaCM2024]

Amen❤! Yes, I did this to my ex. 6 months, and he is back. Time has shown me that he will try this again. Thru coaching he is not my husband. NEXT....

[@ivyofori1548]

😂😂😂

[@ladybrown03]

Ladies Tony’s advice on this works! I had to use this with my new boyfriend over the Christmas holiday (verbal warning) and New Years ( he tested me one more time and i made it clear that I was absolutely willing to walks away and also physically demonstrated). There were a few tough days for me when I asked if I was being too rough but I’m glad i didn’t cave. He has taken the correction and has now committed to being the man I’ve fallen in love with. We are better now and have a deeper understanding of each other than before the conflict. When I started to see some problematic behaviors that needed to be checked I was so glad I had this advice in my arsenal. Never be afraid to reinforce healthy boundaries, kindness and genuine respect. You are worth it!

[@kris7592]

❤️

[@123gollc9]

How long did you distance yourself from him

[@TRMason2322]

Yes, I did that with my husband, he came playing games. I left and he changed overnight. I didn’t argue I said what I meant and meant what I said. He respected me not letting him do whatever he wanted to do.

[@martinamccline1314]

Yes! Fell for silent treatment as punishment time after time….instead of walking away and acting unbothered I kept pursuing/reacting 🤬

[@123gollc9]

This tactic as punishment is a sing of narcissism! Block white being “punished” he gon be shocked to see he’s blocked when he finally call lmao

[@mariono244]

I’m going through this right now, what should I do,

[@gracie2367]

@@mariono244 it’s called stonewalling and it’s a form of manipulation and abuse! I don’t want to tell you what to do but you can’t have a healthy relationship without communication. I broke up with my ex because of this plus he also had other narcissistic traits.

[@mariono244]

thank you for your feedback, i want to break it off as it's affecting my mental health and he won't pick up my calls...it's a complete transformation from his behaviour 3 weeks ago, learning alot@@gracie2367

[@mariono244]

@@gracie2367 thank you so much. I blocked him today and have walked away

[@breannn]

Thank you tony! I’m 25 years old and just started dating. I want to make sure that I’m becoming the best woman with morals and standards!

[@Denise_Cocoa]

I remember you taught this lesson yearssss ago and let me tell you! The ones I USED to do the most to keep (🤮) took full advantage of that desperation. The ones I set boundaries with and was willing to walk away from were astonished lol and usually had a hard time letting me go, even if they didn’t want to live up to my standards. That’s how Sabrina snagged Idris. She was willing to leave him.

[@nzingahoney]

Hmmmmm

[@flofearless9173]

TG know the game! Man I was like he literally is saying exactly what us men do. I give Christ glory daily that I can improve and grow with one woman that I married 3 years ago. Keep dropping them 💎 TG👊🏾

[@JoannA-sweetly]

EXACTLY!! And mean it! He is blessed to get me! 😃💯

[@vannisworld]

This is so true. Im dating someone that wanted to act casual when we first met, but yet have a "serious" relationship. No, he just didn't want me to Date others and keep me on the hook. I spoke to him once, and he tried to do it again. I never said anything and left him alone. The effort he now puts in to show me that im a priority is far above what he tried to do. Keep your standards. I am not scared or worried of being single. So, anything that doesn't make me happy in a relationship needs to go.

[@111064036]

I did it the right way , this is what I said. I really enjoyed the time we spent together. I don't see a future with us as a couple. Our values don't align. I'm just not ready for this level of intimacy. I respect you enough to be honest with you. I wish you the best.

[@Helenodraculus]

Get told I’m mean all of the time by men b/c I’m not afraid to detach or express my disdain (calmly with facts and not from emotions). Some I never hear from again, most do come back but now there is respect, which I value more than love and they are much more emotionally vulnerable.

[@katricewalker6991]

I will not be giving any man a half dozen times to correct his behavior, I'm sorry. My guy cheated one, I asked him about it, he lied and thought he could play in my face. I left and gave not returned, that's been 6 months ago. My cut off game so strong, I act like you never existed.

[@MsRN2B2011]

Yeah I had to cut off communication December 1st 2023 because things have been to out of control for ...2 years! I cut it of suddenly with no convo because ive already said the same stuff for too long and it was just time for some real action and just leave . I'm hurting yes 6 weeks later because i want him to fight for me, and he hasn't but I'm staying committed to whats right

[@MadeN85]

Thank you, Tony you helped me get married. Our anniversary is next month.

[@jessicascreenwritingservices]

If he walks away because I stood my ground then he wasn’t it to begin with. Excellent message Tony 💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@feliciadance1715]

You know what you talking about Tony😂 Point blank periiiioood‼️😆 Women PLUUUHHEEZ do not cry, scream, kick, write a long text to try to keep a man! If that man TRULY wants YOU🫵🏼…He will do what it takes to keep you! Trust God and not your emotions💝 See ya! Sir please slide to left, you’re blocking the view for my husband ✌️

[@HEOL1777]

First, this relates to me and secondly I just experienced this and it's draining! I have no desire for him to return and I have no animosity towards him but one thing I've learned, I have one life and I will not give it up to anyone who's willing to take it from me through verbal abuse, hostile anger or anything else. I know this video is five months old but Mr. Gaskin is telling the truth.

[@eringay8965]

Definitely true! I was in a long distance relationship for 9 years. I would break up with him often and leave and eventually try again. We got married and I filed for divorce less than 2 years. It got worse in marriage and I realized he ain’t for me.

[@goddesst5405]

Facts! 💖 He gambled with the wrong one. He’s been trying to come back for over a year. No thank you. I’m good.

[@jcymngo]

I have followed all your advice and it works 100%. However, when a man is deeply insecure with weak character and mental health issues as well, it isn’t a good idea to continue.

[@mlml8820]

I have lived this! You must teach people how to treat you! And if he really wants you the behavior will change, I have boundaries and I keep them and teach them…and his behavior did change!!!❤🎉

[@kwbaby4297]

Lucky you. Hopefully it stays that way

[@angelam9495]

Tony, these grown boys are going to be mad with you. You're speaking facts 💯 🙏🏽

[@lilliannabaasa9239]

God is healing me and letting me be complete without a man. Oh God thank you. Women you need to be happy even when you are single.

[@hibaaqahmed9099]

I’m just seeing this now, but I did this last month when my partner wasn’t understanding what it was that i was asking of him. We talked a few times about the things that was bothering me but he continued to keep doing them and so I decided to call it quits. Now, for me, it wasn’t with the idea of seeing if he’ll come back. I was just making sure I put myself first. As much I love that man, I’ve been learning how to love myself first. Then yesterday he called and asked if he could see me and we talked and he’s basically very apologetic and asked if we can get back together. I said in order for that to happen I need to see the changes first, actions speaks louder. So now, I’m just gonna watch. I’m done speaking and telling a man how to love me when no one tells me how to love him.

[@SagRising19]

Correct & Redirect absolutely. Thanks Tony!

[@Theerealhannahrae]

When I finally left, years later my guy now is going to all the lengths to fight for me and I’m still holding my ground …the ball is in my court and I’m not sure he deserves me now 💁🏽‍♀️ so it’s very real…I was a do girl for all my early 20s but now that I’m 29 I’m not having any of it…my dating life is working out fine for me now 🎉

[@Wewereneveryoung]

Oh wow years? How many years later until he contacted you?

[@pileshongwe7827]

Yes sis how long did it take for him to come back?

[@Theerealhannahrae]

@@Wewereneveryoung a year or so but it wasn’t until I was completely happy with myself and it showed…I was moving on in my career ect

[@esther4844]

Yep, I don't get why so many people play games! Life is real out here!

[@BrendaBaBoom]

They never stop …. it never ends. Know thyself.

[@TBeenhavinir990]

Omg Tony you are so right. You are a 1000% right Tony. I kept quite for 16yrs out of fear of losing him. Then one day I woke up and put his ass out. It's been 9months and I've never been at peace. I denied all access to me and he is maddddddd😂

[@queenkeesh8660]

You have to realize u don’t need a man only desired one as I did inner work watch these coaches online I didn’t need no therapy this is it and from experience I know what I won’t tolerate

[@Monique_20_88]

Left January 1st! He’s wasn’t giving me what needed to be given!!! He knew what he had and my intuition is so strong I know he will be back because he loves me. But what past trauma will do to a man is crazy. I love him but I love me more. If he’s willing to move past that trauma we will work beautifully but if not he will have no access to me in anyway!!!!! Im just done with the waiting game. I feel he needs to experience my absence so he can really feel the lost.

[@beegenuine]

I wanted to comment on this because I have the exact same dynamic with my man. Trauma caused him to leave and come back MULTIPLE times. Each time I just let go and allowed him to return to build trust. HOWEVER, he's reached the point where he knows he needs help, so full accountability kicked in. He recently disrespected me and our relationship (out of trauma) and this time I completely cut him off. First time doing that. He got the message and is making all kinds of changes now. All of that to say, Tony's advice is sound regardless of the issues involved. You got this! 😊

[@amoywaid8907]

Yea my current situation. I believe part of our difficulty is his son’s mother messed him up but I totally opposite of her and would never do half the things she’s done to him. I’ve proved myself enough so I’ve got to leave him since he won’t make me a priority.

[@ashleyhawkes7862]

@amoywaid8907 With all due respect, RUN! He'll only drain your energy.

[@IamJazzmilaya]

I just walked away from a relationship. After giving him so many chances, I saw no change. One day, I finally said, ‘I’m done.’ Three years went by with no growth, no compromise-it was always on his terms. I ignored the red flags far too many times. When I finally told him how I felt, he flipped it back on me, saying I was just making excuses to leave and to move on. That confirmed I had made the right decision. I told him, ‘I love you, but I love me more.’ It hurt, but it had to be done.

[@lyfesaquarium]

I love when Tony says I'm not here to argue with you. Because the stuff he is spitting is true.

[@tonyasherrod9042]

Omg!! Tony, I swear God is speaking through you. I'm going through this situation. He actually texted me while I was listening to you. Thank you for the encouraging message, as always. Stay blessed

[@queenkeesh8660]

Worse part is knowing they won’t like it if you treat them the same way 😮

[@herleenpickrom703]

I Thank God for opening my eyes and letting me know I don't have to settle for a toxic relationship with a man. Also, 😮 I let Go and let God handle it. Also, I am happier than I ever have been without allowing myself to no longer compromise with toxic men to make me happy. I am stronger and wiser. I wait until God sends me a real man and not a boy. So, I walked away. I learned it's better to put my trust in God and not be relied on by a toxic man. I know what I need and not what I want. God bless me to set boundaries and standards and I do now. Thank God for blessing me.

[@quietstorm1111]

🌻

[@nkwagohmyrambah3254]

Tony is very right. Being with a toxic man is such a prison. Letting him know you aren't scared of loosing him and walking away is something we should do in case of narcists and manipulative men.

[@tarao4382]

I just got a little upset all over again. Men can be very petty, no matter the age. I'm getting too old for nonsense, pushing 40. Nope! I refuse to deal with any child like behaviors. Pick up your toys and hush all 2024 & beyond. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

Value your peace and self-wroth over a relationship or the prospect of having a family. I that's when you know that things will be okay no matter what. At least that's the big lesson I learned going into 2024..

[@tarao4382]

@@Goodwillwinoverevil1984 Yes🙌🏾

[@RITTAAREE]

Tony is saying the same thing as he's been saying for years I have applied this to my relationships and The man do straighten up if you stick to your guns. Or they move on saying you tripping

[@victoriouslee]

I had to walk away and stand on business and integrity. Best decision ever! I'm listening 🎧 to these messages which is helpful. Plenty of tool on the front end when I do date again 🙏🏾

[@0Enidan0]

Yes, his videos on walking away are so encouraging!

[@user-yk9sk7pg6v]

You broke this down real well.

[@FG-lq3ut]

Thank you so much Tony!!!This should be high school, college and youth ministry curriculum no joke. Imagine how many lives and heartache would be saved. If all Fathers were brutally honest, honorable and teach these lessons to their children, where would we be??

[@lilliannabaasa9239]

Letting go.especially from.a person is one of my hardest areas but am.improving everyday

[@atstar8136]

Distance can be 1 day, 1 week, 1 year or forever.

[@francesbutler280]

I am in the process of breaking up with a man I really love with my heart. It is necessary because he is not listening and I have to leave for myself. If it does not come back, I will understand.

[@queenartly3323]

Good luck and you deserve better. I am currently thinking about leaving the relationship i am in for the same reason. He won't listen and won't see he has someone who loves and cares about him. He comes from a toxic and abusive family. I am not like that. And i am not a free therapist.

[@francesbutler280]

@queenartly3323 hello queen I am overseas and dating, but I see this person only wants money and a ticket to the USA. I was gullible once, not again.

[@francesbutler280]

Also, you deserve better as well

[@amoywaid8907]

I’m right there with you Sis! Im so in love with this man but he’s not contacted me for 3 days or me saying he doesn’t love me. He’s just not making me feel secure at all. I love him from a place I thought never existed but now I must let him go. We went out two Saturdays ago dancing with his friends he drank I didn’t but he commenced to telling me in my ear he’s so in love with me but I don’t feel as a priority in his life which I’ve discussed that with him so now I have to put action of me leaving our realationship to his lack of attention.

[@aml8760]

Ive listening to your videos daily. I am grateful for the brotherly guidance. It has impacted me and the spirit knows what is appropriate and what isn't. Be blessed 🙌

[@jeaneengant6771]

We were together 4 yrs and he cheated.. I stayed away then started seeing him on and off.. i decided not to see him anymore in Dec. I deserve so much better then he was offering.. i went from being his woman for 4 yrs to FWB.. naw I’m good.. haven’t seen nor talked to him since December.. I miss him a lot.. But I Miss ME more..

[@smileyglitter852]

I broke up with mine last Friday and made a new FB, blocked his phone. I can't stand liars....

[@lnugent7692]

Tony, what you are saying, is the Absolutely the truth. I have experienced it.

[@cytinachavis9157]

Tony, you would be so proud of how I'm handling my situation. I was ghosted but now he's trying to come back. I was going to hear him out because you did have a video where you said a man could come back for heart. He tried to play dumb like he didn't ghost me. I told him to "come correct" or he might as well not see me ever again.

[@ebonynerd]

A man ghosted you, and you know he ghosted you, and you are still dealing with him? 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@tessy28]

He should be blocked. Why are you still talking to him?

[@helgapataki4156]

Tony isn't lying. After being constantly abused & stalked I had to switch jobs twice, change my #, call the cops & get a restraining order. Ladies leave the FIRST time he tries you DON'T go back.

[@ieshjust16]

Wow

[@nla02]

Packing on my stuff as we speak! Headed to the airport. ✈️

[@Rica28]

I just left my relationship and I was gonna message him apologizing for putting pressure... but I said no you know what let me go find some videos to work on myself and I was scrolling down KZbin. And I found this video thank you so much ❤

[@Natural_Beauty86]

No lies told I never been a woman to stand for disrespect of any kind I speak up and give you a warning the first time you do something disrespectful after that I won’t address it anymore I’ll just start keeping score 3 strikes YOU’RE OUT! I will not beg anyone to respect me & my feelings Ill just leave and every single time I leave no matter how long the relationship was they start losing it may not happen immediately but it happens…most men are used to women doing any and everything to appease them receive their validation and lack respect and love for theirselves…they meet a woman opposite from all that it’s a shot to their ego

[@mmartin3682]

This works! Did it in that order worked like a charm.

[@joanwilliams4778]

Tony What you’re saying is so true!! I never want to find myself in a disrespectful relationship hard to walk away from, especially when I don’t deserve it!! I not only will I walk I would Run!! Thank you Tony for this inspirational message 😊!!