Tools Men Need to STOP Their Wives' Gaslighting (Full Video Link Below)

[@Redrum_Samm]

Been with my wife for 25 years Found out a week and a half ago she’s leaving me on my birthday next week. So she can be closer to the bars to pick up guys like all if divorced friends. Went thru the roller coaster of emotions for about week. But now I can’t wait for her to go. It’s like the 20 tonne boat anchor I’ve been dragging for 25 years has just broke its chain around neck. And I feel lighter and younger already. 45 yrs old next week and haven’t looked forward to birthday this much since I was kid. Freedom and self determination awaits

[@CushRayman]

Right on brother. One final action if you want to remove your bitterness and be free, say to her face, 'sorry for hating you' and mean it (for she knows no better), then say nothing else about it and don't look back, she has nothing left to give. p.s. the reason she is choosing your birthday is to hijack your future ones with pain, as Karyn says, women can leave emotional hooks. Go away for a few days with your friends over your birthday climbing a mountain and golf or something while she leaves and if she's still there when you get back, help her follow through with her choice as she may try to turn it around but it's all meaningless games.

[@John_Wood_]

The best birthday present she could provide. She thinks she's missing out as she hears all the stories from her 304 "friends". She will learn the hard way. Use the time you have to make wise financial decisions, stash money, transfer deeds, whatever it takes.

[@Redrum_Samm]

@@CushRayman I don’t hate her. I feel nothing really at all for her. I’ll make sure she goes. In fact her demeanour is becoming more negative the more indifferent I become towards her

[@Redrum_Samm]

@@Josh-do8pg Ain’t no way I’m dragging another boat anchor

[@racebannon96]

I feel for you. Take care of yourself. You are to be going through a lot of different emotions. I went through this too after a 10 year marriage came to an end. Divorce is a business transaction. The end of a marriage and splitting up assets. Do not give away prized assets just to get the divorce done. Be smart. Be careful who you share your info and feelings to.

[@maxcactus7]

Why do I need to have a PhD in psychology, 4D chess and mental manipulation techniques and tactics just to have a successful, happy relationship with a woman? Why can't modern women just conduct themselves like civilzed adults and according to the Golden Rule? I don't want to have to spend mental energy worrying about modifying my behavior and language in HOPES a woman will treat me with respect and civility!! God give me strength!!

[@AlexRubio]

Good luck it's always been this way, we have just had it on display for everyone to see.

[@emilwilczewski]

You don't have to do any of that. Just be the man you are, and a nice lady will eventually turn up. If not, then perhaps God has another plan for you than to be in a relationship. Don't chase women.

[@dont6441]

ALL women operate on a totally different set of relationship rules than men do. Women that say they don't are gaslighting you. Once you understand that ALL women are looking for the bigger better deal ALL the time and that ALL relationship end (or should), you may have a chance of success with women. Just remember, she's not yours, it's just your turn. LIke my second ex-wife told me, familiarity breeds contempt. Game over.

[@poopingwhilestanding5801]

@@emilwilczewski Bollocks. That's just simply shifting the responsibility onto men instead of challenging women.

[@godleveleldritchblast5257]

​​@@emilwilczewski You are right don't chase women

[@Wet_Willys_Wetter_Water]

Guys, we are all taught to deny our gut instincts and instead to defer to social norms. If you want to live a happy peaceful life, you have to embrace it when you feel something in your gut. No more editing out your true feelings. If something seems wrong, ITS WRONG

[@smokingcrab2290]

This is the best comment I've read in a long time.

[@PJHEATERMAN]

Apparently when my wife cheated it was all my fault. Apparently, I was such a bad husband she even left our daughters and our home. Apparently, her married narcissist coworker love bombing her and professing his love for her wasn't a factor in her decision to abandon her family. Apparently despite him dumping her 1 month later, it was all my fault. She might be right. I was working so much overtime to keep her and our daughters comfortable i must have neglected her. Yep, totally my fault.

[@Hairyderriere]

@@PJHEATERMAN Brother. It's time to leave.

[@PJHEATERMAN]

@@Hairyderriere Having 4 and 1 year old daughters Made it a difficult decision. Co parenting with her and exposing my daughters to whatever new man she chose was not appealing. Cement shoes crossed my mind.

[@HelloMyNameIsAdam]

Sorry to read this story. But... reality check, it seems you did neglect her by working overtime. I know as men we want/need to contribute and provide a home and security for our family, but in that was there time for you and her? Getaways? Vacations? I hear plenty of married people, on both sides, who kind of give up after they're married because they think the "job" is done. The job of courting them that leads to marriage and family, but the reality is the job is not done. If anything, more is needed to keep that fire going. And I know she has mentioned plenty of times in previous videos. We all play a part whether we like it or not. Whether we accept it or not.

[@PJHEATERMAN]

@@HelloMyNameIsAdam She got love bombed by a pro. She has issues from her past causing low self esteem and hyper sexual behavior and zero boundaries from her childhood trauma. It all came out in therapy. I was a good and loving husband as well as a good father. My problem is i didn't know what i was marring.

[@MidlandTexan]

An emotional affair, IS AN AFFAIR! She is BONDING with someone in an INTIMATE manner who is NOT her husband.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

if the one you love neglects your emotional needs, she leaves open the possibility that you will seek it elsewhere. now who’s to blame??

[@DeepInsideZettaiRyouiki]

@@DanHoller-eb6xt It's like saying, "if the one you love neglects your SEXUAL needs, the partner leaves open the possibility that you will seek it elsewhere. now who’s to blame??" Think before you share...we have enough idiots and people supporting those around... you lead this world to clown'show state it's currently in.

[@HelloMyNameIsAdam]

Funny how quick people are to judge for emotional cheating. If the partner is not meeting that need and it has been communicated but not received or if they are not comprehending the communication, then it seems that person did not care about their partner in the first place it seems. They are just looking to fill a void, are co-dependent, are following a social script.

[@jasonhenage4944]

So a man having a physical affair would be ok if wife isn’t fulfilling his neglected needs ?

[@HelloMyNameIsAdam]

Ignoring your partner's needs and still expecting a happy relationship is like ignoring your plants that need to be watered and still expecting a beautiful garden. Did not say that at all or making excuses. But it goes both ways regardless. But as men we need to stop pretending things don't affect us and speak up in a calm and respectful manner and communicate to our partner about our feelings. We're not robots. It's not fair if we or they overwork and neglect some needs and still expect a happy relationship. We need to do our part as well. Just because we're married, doesn't mean the effort or work stops.

[@08Cruiser]

My ex-wife used to say to me “It must have been the way you were raised!” Not sexual-but definitely gaslighting!!!

[@jamesshumate782]

Mine says that 😆😆😆

[@DeepInsideZettaiRyouiki]

I would counter with, "I was raised by my mom...and she is a woman older than you and know better". I wonder what mental gymnastic she would use. P.S. Actually, I was raised by my grandparents, and my grandmothers very vocally told me to stay away from modern women.

[@nolan9221]

Elderly woman told me - "Son women will do wtf it takes to fool a man to marry her so she can relax having the safety of security. But ounce they get it their quickly bored and want side flirtatious situations to fulfill their drama/emotional needs....they believe 100% that they deserve both lifestyles filled just because."

[@08Cruiser]

Amen!!!

[@OneWingedShark]

The absolutely retarded thing is that they could *absolutely* get that fulfilled with their husband, *_especially_* if he's the introverted kind! The introverted husband has the advantage in that he can (a) "make a world" just for her to play in [eg role-play/foreplay], and (b) he has many depths that she, by the nature of his introversion, _doesn't_ know… but I guess that never even occurs to women.

[@Ekam-Sat]

The first sentence I can definitely relate with. That's the primary objective.

[@WeebRemover4500]

that aint women, thats GIRLS just like most men are simply BOYS or "males"

[@smokingcrab2290]

And that's an OLD lady saying that. So that means even in her generation, women's nature was the same. Nowadays, women say the world is dominated by men and we just do whatever we want, and we treat women like garbage. They got it backwards. Men have always been the ones oppressed by vvomen. We've been gaslit since birth to be their slaves.

[@RohrerBulldogs]

In most cases the only standards women have are double standards.

[@davidpaul5580]

Was married 29 years, now divorced 16 years. 2 years before we divorced I was diagnosed with sleep apnea. I woke up and saw the double standards and gaslighting. She didn't like the changes in me. There was no going back for me.

[@gregnagy7569]

Unless divorce is your goal holding your wife accountable is pointless.

[@josephpellegrino2441]

Here here!

[@genelewis2481]

If you hold her accountable from day one, it doesn’t have to mean divorce.

[@s1n4m1n]

Hold her accountable in what way?

[@genelewis2481]

@@s1n4m1n by establishing boundaries and if they’re crossed, she’s out.

[@ElFantasma13]

​@@s1n4m1nby not being a beta male and not being afraid to leave.

[@jaywagner2321]

The logic is very telling. Actual conversations and sharing pictures with a real life person that is accessible is considered innocent fulfilling of neglected needs when a wife does it. Whereas porn involving a stranger inaccessible to a husband is adultery as if he actually had sex. To be sure, both are wrong. But I will tell you… I’d much rather find out my wife watched porn than find out she exchanged photos and fantasies with a real life acquaintance.

[@smokingcrab2290]

If i found out my wife watched porn, id be like "what's ur favorite genre?"

[@TheLayinLo]

What if your wife forbid masturbating, noticing an attractive quality, giving a friend a compliment….but you found out she had been doing it for years…thank you for this video and all the others.

[@Zobovor]

An emotional affair is just a physical affair that hasn't happened yet.

[@keywestfan2503]

Rules for thee. Not for me.

[@bss3869]

Women that push mens buttons to get them angry and use that anger against the man as a way to avoid accountability are full on gaslighting when they do that.

[@Mattheus217]

That’s also called emotional baiting, and reactive abuse. You are trained and conditioned to defend yourself, get emotional or angry, and in time it happens quicker and easier. Then the toxic person steps back, acts calm, and says, “see, you are the problem, you are unstable, you are abusing me….” Sick manipulation.

[@f7ckwit869]

this is what I'm going through

[@Cougs2894]

@@Mattheus217my soon to be ex to a t

[@Mattheus217]

@@Cougs2894 it was mine too, God bless you as you heal and grow

[@Thunderroad8517]

Emotional affair is emotional infidelity. Minimized by the one who got caught. Precursor for physically cheating.

[@legislatedanarchy1380]

An emotional affair is far more meaningful to a woman. She values her body and therefore sex not at all. The sex is only a tool for the emotions.

[@chualarbill]

Good video. It’s important to stand back and engage our logical mind. Disappointed the longer video was not available on KZbin.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you for your comment. I am posting my new show, Talking Points, on X and Rumble, so that I can speak freely and not need to measure my words. Some of the content for these episodes may not meet KZbin's Guidelines.

[@ElFantasma13]

Never let a woman think she has you. Keep reminding them they are replaceable.

[@j.m.f.g.450]

If you noticed that the scale tilts by her favor, level it inmediatelly. You'll regret it less if you need to withdraw what she couldn't reciprocate.

[@purpledrank221]

Accountability is poisonous to women. We went to counseling and the therapist said that we BOTH need to work towards treating each other better and we BOTH need to consider what would make the other person happy. ..... When the therapist hung up the zoom.... The wife said..... I Want a Divorce

[@lindaabuado3213]

An emotional affair is worst then physical affair

[@PJHEATERMAN]

One always leads to the other. The emotional affair is preparation for the physical.

[@zcreation9243]

You are definitely a woman to say that xD

[@WeebRemover4500]

not to men, but smart men know that a woman will first microcheat, then emotional cheating, and then physical cheating it is worse to women, and weirdly enough its worse for women if its with a relative

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

an emotional affair doesn’t just happen. the one being neglected has the right to seek support elsewhere without being guilt tripped by the one neglecting.

[@Dominic1962]

@@DanHoller-eb6xt If you made a vow there is absolutely *no* justification for any sort of affair. Absolutely none.

[@EDP1]

men need to stop simping .

[@smokingcrab2290]

And marrying

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

With social media, this has got to be more common than ever

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

if you had to rely on an outside source for emotional support, your spouse IS to blame. she doesn’t give a damn about you but will then become the “victim”. this is want sandbagging is all about. you’re now branded as a cheater, all because they shutdown on you. insidious!

[@smokingcrab2290]

A married chick at my church texted me outta the blue wanting an emotional connection with me. I told my wife about it immediately and I even told the other woman's brother about it. My wife wasn't mad or anything and told me she trusts me more than anyone in this way. But the sad part is that I actually wanted that connection. Not with the other woman, but with my wife. I sat there thinking to myself "the thing that I want is coming to me from other married women, but not my wife and it probably never will". And even after I told her about this, it's like she didn't really care much. I cared more than she did. I was actually angry and concerned, but she wasn't. And she didn't understand what she had to lose.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

like many of us, you’re a good man that is emotionally neglected and struggle with the deprivation. i went through the same thing and now heading for divorce. not my choice but it’s becoming clear that this is what’s right for me. all the best, crab

[@georgborgschulte9696]

You're so right!!!

[@stevegaines-vq3bd]

back in the day, she'd get a black eye & a fat lip, now you just have to divorce her, & lose your house...& money....

[@robertluna5737]

Does being upfront from the beginning help? I would just tell my girlfriend that if she decides to have either an emotional or physical affair of any kind to make sure you pack your things before, because there won't be a discussion.

[@troydunn8463]

Nope. A womans words are engraved in water. --Socrates

[@Ekam-Sat]

Yes. You have to set the ground rules and make sure she understands you are not joking.

[@nonyabusiness1939]

Best thing i ever did was tell my woman at the beginning of our relationship that if you go sour, doesn't matter if we have been together for a year, 10 years or 100, I'm gone the instant you go sour.

[@Ekam-Sat]

@@nonyabusiness1939 That's my experience as well. Live and learn. You need to state the ground rules. And occasionally remind them.

[@Bibleinformationandhelp]

If you are being gaslighted, don't pay attention. Just go do what you have to do. You don't have to argue or fight with anyone. Carry out what you have to do. In many cases, if someone wants to manipulate you, I believe you will need to care. I'm not telling you to automatically break up with your wife but stop caring so much about her bad ways. Why? With some narcissistic women, the more you care, the more bad they behave. This is why I am saying, behave as though you don't care. Don't show emotion when they behave badly. I don't exactly know how the law works in this instance, but if you know you will be ruined in a divorce, you might want to start selling things now. It may not be too wise for you to wait until things get worse

[@Ymirson999]

Still yet another video in which I find myself glad I never got married.

[@stefanjohann1810]

Well to get the language straight: "it appears to me", that "in my mind" , according to the data i collected, the impressions and observations i made, that my wife 'appears to' have an affair with my sisters husband since now over 10 years. Thats the model i created, based on the data i collected.

[@keywestfan2503]

Emotional affairs are inherently worse. Because that would mean one FELT. That’s powerful in terms of betrayal.

[@Ekam-Sat]

I think we should also look at the bigger picture. The significant increase in divorce rates and falling marriages can be attributed to the secular progressive movement, which began in the 1960s and persists today. This movement, characterized by those seeking to profit from spreading divisive messages, openly opposes traditional values, particularly those expressed by Christianity. The extent of this is truly shocking. Entertainment and media play a pivotal role in their tactics. They use it to undermine family values and traditions while promoting non-conforming lifestyles and divisiveness. The shocking part is that they themselves do NOT agree with what they preach. The only reason is that they don’t see money in the teachings of Jesus which are all about unity and love. So basically we have been played. And most people don’t even realize it. Every woman and every man should understand the above. Jesus and his teachings should be the one and only foundation to rely upon these days. All the rest is propaganda and not for our own good.

[@TheThetruthmaster1]

There are days you literally have kept me from killing myself.

[@mensaswede4028]

Double standards (in both directions) are okay once you accept that man and women are different.

[@Brody.W]

Thanks!

[@motorcycleguy73]

Sing after me, but she says he's just a friend

[@fightingfortruth9806]

I have done these things and tried to hold my wife accountable. Her response is to simply threaten to divorce and take everything from me. My kids, my house, everything. So my only course of action is let her gaslight me in order to not lose everything.

[@Dominic1962]

If she did that, divorce is coming

[@fightingfortruth9806]

When I told my wife to stop hanging out with another man she told me, "we're not living in the 50s anymore, grow up.".

[@fightingfortruth9806]

If it is enough to cause friction in your marriage, it has gone too far. Married couples should never have other friends of the opposite sex other than their brother, father, and son.

[@therant3837]

"Emotional affair?" I've never even heard of that before. Must be a new Woke phrase.... unbelievable. No scratch that. When it comes to the Woke community nothing is unbelievable. They can justify anything they do to themselves and other people. Eeech....

[@corporaterobotslave400]

What you often describe in your videos are women with narcissism. Unfortunately a rampant emotional disease these days.

[@Kristy_not_Kristine]

I've been considering having an emotional affair because I found that my husband has been looking at provocative videos on KZbin and I feel betrayed... but that's just my human nature wanting to hurt him back... tough spot to be in. And he's the one that gaslights me... I don't with hold sex, and I've tried to be a good wife, so finding those videos has been damaging to my sense of worth and esteem...

[@christys.3912]

But that's okay to most men because they are visual creatures. And it's just looking at women online it doesn't hurt anyone they say. It's their private life they say... I feel the same as you do... but that doesn't matter cause it's just tips they say.. it's no big deal, it shouldn't effect you, it has nothing to do with you they say... I get it. You are not alone.

[@insiderinside1905]

this is useful, especially coming from a non-bro. but i akso wonder about the female side. is it that wives have all the drama? or that the feminist advice is already so oversaturated as to be redundant.

[@creedhayman5953]

I truly believe that me showing these videos to my wife saved my marriage.

[@oraclefrederickkunakey1245]

We need Facebook page to reach out to everyone please.👍

[@xyzct]

DTB

[@starguy2718]

Leykis 101

[@xyzct]

@@starguy2718, bingo.

[@josephgallagher945]

See: cognitive dissonance

[@Brody.W]

Thanks! Jesus Christ of Nazareth

[@dewholdingsllc1050]

😂I would never ever thought of trying to look at my wife’s phone or tablet or computer. Anyone who does this is extremely insecure and probably the reason that wife is looking elsewhere. My 2 cents.

[@starguy2718]

We found the simp.

[@damianwright3690]

dewholding: So if, after years of an active and secure relationship your gut starts waving red flags about changed behaviour and you start worrying and second guessing, you're insecure? Damn right you are, you can feel the ground, the foundation you built your current life on, getting shaky beneath your feet. After that, it is information hunting to support a decision that is about ready to drop and be put into action.

[@drumsnbass]

Foolish attitude.

[@WitheringZealot]

You don't have a wife.

[@Brody.W]

Thanks!