My way of dealing with others energies is by not being around people LOL I am not terribly social and prefer to be in the company of my garden, the wild birds and my two little dogs. At 60 yrs old, I honestly do not know if I will ever leave the comfort of the space I created for myself over the last 20 years, so for now, being a hermit keeps me in a more balanced energetic state, allowing me to 'hold space". It is not the way for many, but for now, it works for me. Peace Love and Blessings
@rturney63763 күн бұрын
Me too!!! 🙏🙏🙏🌻🌻🌻❤️❤️❤️🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹
@sagebay28033 күн бұрын
Same!! Txs for sharing. I am 62. Nice to know I am not alone here.
@alotutusa34013 күн бұрын
I am very much like you😊 I enjoy alone time, a hermit and in my 40s. I have found I enjoy the company of animals, plants and more mature people vs those who are closer to my age. I keep my friend circle very small and like it that way☺️
@angelcastro31293 күн бұрын
@@alotutusa3401 We all have to make safe spaces for ourselves as empaths, but I know there will be a time when I will be called to step out of my comfort zone and be in the company of others to help them hold space in calm. So till then I hone my intuitive skills, feeling the subtle energies of nature that surround me and at least once a month spend time in a big box store with my daughter and grandson, to sense all those energies and pin point who is feeling what, it does help to do that every so often though it can be tiring at times, we will need to be able to walk through these times with inner strength and calm. Peace Love and Blessings Sister
@angelcastro31293 күн бұрын
@@sagebay2803 We are Never Alone... Unless we are going potty 😂 They don't watch us do that 😂
@pippamellon86782 күн бұрын
I’m 60 +.. and have had to learn that people are not broken..I’m not broken..there not broken..we all chose our paths before we came here..I listen to people now but I put limitations in.. also recognising the victim players that don’t really want an answer or a solution to there predicament ..the ones that don’t want to help themselves..🌟
@mtdebemigrant14353 күн бұрын
This was very helpful. I have often wondered why I don't attract friends. Now I understand that my energy is too strong. I have just started to pull in from trying to connect too deeply with others. My meditations and grounding in my creative hobbies has helped. Plus, my 86 yo mother who lived with me recently passed. I am now rediscovering my own energy boundaries. Thank you.
@rturney63763 күн бұрын
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@Kaybee2653 күн бұрын
Gosh, it seems we are very similar. I attract and connect deeply with animals, not humans. I'm very lucky to have a wonderful husband and beautiful animals who are my family, but that's it. I know my energy is very powerful, but it is also pure, sweet and kind. I guess it just brings up other's 'stuff'. Now you know that you're not alone in this. Blessings 🙏❤✨🕊️
@rturney63763 күн бұрын
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@Morale_Booster2 күн бұрын
Yep I had to learn this one too. You're looking for people who feel as deeply as you. But that takes time to develop mutual trust, before a connection should be created. I had to learn to value patience and discernment with others, because not everyone deserves your quality of connection
@Dragon-e8s3 күн бұрын
55 in chat You are the most generous content creator of youtube You never hold back or stop in mid video of guiding us ALL THE WAY THROUGH TO OTHERSIDE Other hint as they will share nuggets or halfway share but you Nancy give it all and serve it sweet and straight no holds barred I ABSOLUTELY 💯 LOVE ❤YOU
@Griffinssendingyoulove2 күн бұрын
As someone who helps people heal everyday I have used this technique for about 10 years. I close my circle (I always make a circle of light to do work) and I imagine my hands are machetes and I bring them down almost in prayer position from above my head down to my feet and I say “I cut this cord (to my patient) and I release anything I may have Picked up that isn’t mine and I send it into Gaia (Mother Earth) to be transmuted into light. I had to write this on a sticky note for a good year and place at my door to remember. Now it’s ingrained. As a body worker for 30 years in this life, I’ve picked up and shared way too much lol😂 but live and learn. Thanks so much for all of your shared wisdom.
@jacquiebrassington48352 күн бұрын
I have been a healer for 20 years. At first i realised that i was a "rescuer" who had a wide open solar plexus chakra, hoovering up all lower energies of others. I also experienced feeling really ill if i gave healing to another person who had the same issues as me. In fact i would have to pull away from the healing and sit down! As i worked on my own self worth, i realised that I wasnt here to rescue everyone. I rarely get drained now... and yes ...regular cord cutting is a must xx
@CoralBalmoral53 минут бұрын
@Jaqui are you still a healer?
@purelightlove88883 күн бұрын
Nancy, this is an awesome topic, as a child, I did this a lot merging with other peoples aura, there was no one to explain this to me as a child, if I picked up on anger from my parents, I thought they were angry at me every single time. And then working in the salon industry for most of my life… I had to just try to figure it out on my own. I’m retired now, but I’ve learned a lot, the hard way… Gosh! 🌜🥰🌛 I really appreciate you and your channel you’ve created here, bless you my dear! ❣️
@tinawebb65443 күн бұрын
Oh my goodness, I do the same and I’m 57 years old and just realizing I’m not always responsible and to let it go. So many years of owning other people’s problems and emotions 😢
@bonintheboonies45483 күн бұрын
Hi Nancy, this was a good reminder. In my Shamanic training, we referred to this as cord cutting and have a prescribed way of doing it. Sometimes I forget to cut cords with clients after working with them. I will begin to think about them...too much. Then I remember to cut cords. Many words of wisdom today. Thank you.
@rturney63763 күн бұрын
Wow 😮 thanks!!
@mandy77373 күн бұрын
I've had a lifetime of merging & 'fixing' others. Only in the last 2-3 years (I'm 60) have i discovered boundaries & how I've carried others in my energies. My parents were always shouting, fighting. I'd be soothing mother when she cried, yet i was closer to dad who was the angry loud one. Neither knew emotional maturity or boundaries. I was literally the go between. My 2 older brothers & i were left to ourselves emotionally. In adulthood i see how easily i can 'connect' to others; I've learnt to recognise what I'm doing & set boundaries that help me stay in my own power. My new (6 mths) partner & i are both spiritual healers. From the beginning we agreed it felt like our energies merged massively, gladly we get on well in all ways. 🎉
@eileenpollock9223 күн бұрын
Thank you. This topic is so important now. So many of us empaths are suffering terribly and unnecessarily under the pain of a world falling apart. Please share more tools for strengthening and maintaining energetic sovereignty.
@larisal15003 күн бұрын
I learned a lot about other empaths from this video Nancy that I wasn't aware of. I am an empathetic but not a merger or fixer. Interesting about families having the merging energy. Now I understand more about some who have tried to merge with my aura & it feels annoying & uncomfortable.
@SelmaThornton-k4dКүн бұрын
As a massage therapist I feel drained all the time because of early childhood traumas.
@wolfieofwildmoon3 күн бұрын
Thank you for helping all of us out here in the wild 😂❤
@robinroberts21523 күн бұрын
Nancy, You helped me see a part of myself and my family that I did not understand. I think this will heal a lot for me. Thank you!!!
@sunnysmilessunshine40602 күн бұрын
When I clicked on this, I had NO Idea it would resonate so much w/me. Thanks for the tips; I'll be more mindful & aware. Thanks for making this video, I imagine many are benefiting from this information.
@StephMadsen113 күн бұрын
I am a nurse, was sick as a child for about 18 years and family issues so no wonder I do this! Definitely going to be self aware and work to remedy this.
@rturney63763 күн бұрын
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@Sunflour1172 күн бұрын
You can do it ❤ once you are aware of it it’s a big ahaa moment!
@ayz5903 күн бұрын
I have done all 10 signs before. Over time I have learned to tell myself to "take your energy back". I reckon it originates from a childhood of absent parents, trying to always seek parental guidance from others and always being disappointed. Only recently I have recovered and recognised my internal strength.
@Kaybee2653 күн бұрын
Hi Nancy. I am not a merger but as you were talking some things came to mind. I studied Classical Homeopathy and the 'merging' personality fits the picture of the remedy "Carcinosin", which is made from breast cancer nosode (breast - "merging"). These people are described as "very sensitive, sentimental, very sympathetic, have anxiety about others, fastidious, perfectionist..". "You will usually find a history of severe education, domination, demanding parents/partners, or too much responsibility at a young age".. These people, because they don't have the 'boundaries' of a properly formed 'self' often will develop cancer from the lack of a strong coherent personal energy field and not knowing 'who' THEY are. Years ago I knew a lovely lady at the gym, she said she would feel everyone's feelings etc. A little later on after I had left the area I heard that she was "riddled with cancer". She was only in her 30's. Thank you Nancy for your channel, your are very interesting and on point. Love to all ❤✨
@susanne41063 күн бұрын
I'm glad your theory is absolutely unscientific 😂 Good grief. You're telling sensitive people there's a good chance they will get gravely ill.
@Kaybee2653 күн бұрын
@susanne4106 No I'm not. I'm saying that each person HAS to develop their own sense of SELF and not to merge with the energy of others. I recently watched a video of a Chinese healing practitioner who ate incredibly healthily himself, did all the right things etc & then was riddled with dis-eases because he took on the energy of his patients. Let it be a warning and a springboard to change what 'could' be an undesired outcome of merging behavior 🕊️
@marysreenan64453 күн бұрын
@@Kaybee265i can see this, people who work on healing others especially massage therapists and reiki healers really need to be grounded and shielded to protect their own selves. I like to think that would protect them?
@lindabuchanan44163 күн бұрын
That's me Nancy..always trying to fix the 'broken' Ty 💎
@lindahamilton323421 сағат бұрын
Lee Harris teaches the Mantra " I release all energies that are not mine." After being with a group of people Or someone who has been pretty emotional with me, I try to remember to say this with a few repetitions. If I do that so usually feels helpful.
@kimtaylor90963 күн бұрын
Goodness. You nailed it.
@Tinyteacher11113 күн бұрын
Thank you, Nancy! What a great analogy about the tsunami!! I realize I had high school students trying to merge with my energy, mostly because they had problems at home, and I was safe. I never thought about that before. 💕
@TheresaDeVost3 күн бұрын
Wow, everything you are talking about lately is so spot on for me! Thank you!❤
@LisaHart172 күн бұрын
'We are stronger together...but that doesn't mean we need to be one big blob..."😂😂😂 Love your humor and gentleness. I've come along way and really appreciate the support to go further. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
@teyronnewreality3 күн бұрын
I can relate to no.3 .I worked for the Prison Service and reading challenging men and environments kept me safe but as an empath always trying to keep the peace and being of assistance often left me feeling drained. This video has actually reached me on a level that other teachers have not in the past. I understand more fully now. Thank you ❤
@kelleyalmanza33003 күн бұрын
Thx Nancy. One of my favorite.❤
@fotinotita70223 күн бұрын
Thank you Nancy! Great insights 🎉❤
@vireviri2 күн бұрын
Thank you so much, Nancy. This video is so helpful ❤
@rturney63763 күн бұрын
Growing up (I was quite young) I could tell my parents were fighting because 😢my mom’s nose would turn red and I could pick up on her sadness. I was told I was her mom in a past life. Sadly, she never had the same loyalty and empathy to me.
@sandywright75542 күн бұрын
Wonderful Video Nancy, thank you! Much Love 🙏❤️
@ginaiosef9 сағат бұрын
Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences, very helpful information, simply and very clear explanation. I was born and grew feeling others' feelings and to the point of feeling physical pains even, not knowing what to do or what's wrong with me that I can not manage this "issue." "You are too sensitive was a reproach. I developed an anger towards myself for not knowing what to do and staying inside my house, with my cats and dogs, gardening and enjoying life with little interaction became joy. I would like to keep some people far far away but I believe they appear on my path for my learning. I will deepen further your video, thank you again for sharing! ❤
@rosariamcneil50413 күн бұрын
HI Nancy! Thank you for today message I really enjoyed it and it brought me great balance, and a reminder for more self compassion.
@lyndapilkingtonКүн бұрын
As a Human Design projector this resonates with me. Ughhh. So helpful!! Thank you Nancy!
@Henri3772 күн бұрын
Thank you for this! First time viewer . I feel that to "remedy " this merging a prerequisite is to become aware first, which you have done beautifully. To me the other is to be in touch with one's Self and to be present (this has taken me many years). Your video is very interesting, beautifully set and has a good and genuine energy. I thank you again ⚘️ Liked and subscribed 💚 I
@pippamellon86782 күн бұрын
Nancy this is amazing..my father was a very angry man and shouted all the time..was us kids or my mother..his loud bellowing voice used to scare me ..I was the oldest child and often used to want to protect my family..I knew always like you say when he would kick off..
@mariaornelas4939Күн бұрын
Thank you so much, For this knowledge. ,,love & light ❤❤❤
@IanHoltby3 күн бұрын
Some golden advice here Nancy,super useful,thank you so much. I work in my community,and have found I can be a people pleaser,so feel the effects of it. Happier to pour from a full cup. Much love from the South West of England. X
@ladonnacarter35793 күн бұрын
Nancy, thank you much! This episode has been so helpful and explains SO much! I didn't realize I'm a merger.
@chriswinter18743 күн бұрын
Even as a child I intensely disliked Pepe Le Pu. It made me very uncomfortable.
@marysreenan64453 күн бұрын
Yeah he was a lil stinky intense perverted creep!
@StephMadsen113 күн бұрын
Wow this makes so much sense! Thanks Nancy! ❤
@susanrennison72112 күн бұрын
A fabulous topic, thank you, and it has explained many aspects of my behaviours while growing up, and as I have progressed through life. I understand myself so much more now. So thank you again. I agree that deep grounding is spectacularly important in addressing this merging activity. I feel I have always 'merged' and did not learn to develop my own aura while growing up. The session is profound for me & I will re-listen several more times.
@hiccupjoy923Күн бұрын
I so remember Pepe Le Pue lol…..such useful information thankyou
@alotutusa34013 күн бұрын
Thank you so much Nancy❤️🌸 this video popped up for me at the right time 🥰
@lindabuchanan44163 күн бұрын
Ty Ty Nancy 💎 Very enlightening,💎
@amanitamuscaria75003 күн бұрын
very interesting. I learnt a lot. Thank you Nancy.
@Dragon-e8s3 күн бұрын
Wow amazing ❤info thank you Realizing lots lots and lots .
@enoch44993 күн бұрын
I am that empath that tucks under the grounded person's field. I follow my husband around like a chick 🐥😂 otherwise I feel like a loose balloon in the wind
@sagebay28033 күн бұрын
omg, me too!!
@clairepuckey72992 күн бұрын
This is the most helpful information and so well explained for different situations which can occur energetically. I’ve done lots of reading on this and heard different thoughts . Presently working on my own boundaries and I am an empath. Brilliant information to work with. Thank you 🙏💚💡
@Kunanate3 күн бұрын
Thank you Nancy I'm loving this today I am a facilitator and leader of community healing events that is are for women. I would love to learn how to close them in a way that clears us all before we separate.
@CoralBalmoral4 сағат бұрын
Wow. I get the feeling I just can't leave the house - until maybe it's dark, if at all - and don't know why. I thought it was audhd paralysis, which it may well be.... Maybe it's also this, the exhaustion and avoidance of others' energy.
@catherinedun34293 күн бұрын
Brilliant Nancy, thank you. Learnt alot! Your talk brought back to me practices that were good and not so good in my past but best of all, how to bring your aura back close. With so many insights from various podcasters and CME's etc which are very exciting I find myself ungrounded, floating out there in the ether lol. So, you've reminded me/us to bring back my own energy closer to myself. I wonder if sometimes that's when our fear sets in/locks in if we spend too much time 'out there'? Thank you Nancy. ❤️from New Zealand.
@kerryburnette56923 күн бұрын
Do animals merge? I love animals, but I don't like the clingy cuddling. Some are and some aren't. My cats are great, they cuddle for a little while and then they're done. My ex husband did this too. Thank you Nancy. I've certainly been clingy or needy in my life. ❤❤❤
@nancyrebecca2 күн бұрын
Yes they can. For sure
@freetobe83452 күн бұрын
This was incredibly helpful Nancy - life changing in fact! I've never heard of managing my auric field before and this was so lovely to learn about. I get absolutely and totally exhausted when I go to crowded areas, especially large shopping areas. I can't even move the next day and it's a huge effort to get up even to go to the loo. I thought, up until now that is, that it was other people's energies that I was picking up, and of course it is, but I didn't know I could do anything about it so yaaay I loved this. I didn't know that my auric field was open or anything like that...I just let it do it's own thing lol. I've been utterly lazy about grounding, not realising it was so damn important. Wowsies. This is really a game changer for me and I'm going to put it into practice right away. I'll keep you posted somewhere along the line haha. I send a lot of Love out to the world on a regular basis and my aura goes out a long way. I also send healing under the law of Grace to family, friends and those in the world who are suffering badly right now. And I wonder why I'm feeling so exhausted after it?? Really??🤣. I've learned so much from this Nancy and I'm so grateful for this teaching. I must learn ground and pull myself together so to speak. Much Love to you Nancy and everybody here. Thank you again - I'm off to do some serious grounding 💙🤗☮️💯🙏
@nancyrebecca2 күн бұрын
Definitely keep me posted. Remember I have a free guided grounded tree meditation on my website ❤
@freetobe8345Күн бұрын
Thanks Nancy. I will keep you posted and I'll go and check out your grounded tree meditation now as I love sending roots down. It feels so natural and I love guided meditations rather that just doing it myself. It takes me deeper 💙🤗🙏
@lindabuchanan44163 күн бұрын
Nancy? What if your meeting up in the dream time? I AM a merger...
@Aussiedreamer-pz5uw3 күн бұрын
A few years ago I felt sad, yet I wasn’t sad! It was coming outside of me, I began thinking of my father who left us when I was 12, yet this sad feeling was occurring in my forties, my mother later told me it was my father’s birthday. ( we don’t know if he is alive or dead, however my feeling was that it was his spirit reaching out to me ) Maybe this kind of thing will happen more and more as we begin to connect with everything, yet we apparently want to maintain the individuality illusion . 🤪
@mannie20752 күн бұрын
Great lessons 🥰💪🏼👌🎂💃🏻🇸🇪🥂🙏✨♥️🎁♊️☀️ I recognize 😂👌😜 Much love from Sweden 🇸🇪and we are all doing this beautiful work togheter ☀️🌟🙏♥️🌏☀️🌟✨👌💃🏻 Thank you so very very much for this wonderful gift dear Nancy ✨👌♥️🌟☀️🙏☀️♥️✨🙏♥️✨♥️🙏
@rturney63763 күн бұрын
The “we are one” ☝️ 😮concept messes with my aura.
@Krempie-v2g3 күн бұрын
How do we distinguish the differences between an empathic trait or Borderline Personality disorder? I've been seeing alot of therapists telling empaths they just have BPD or HSP and I'm personally trying to figure this out.
@nancyrebecca3 күн бұрын
Hmmmm I’ll have to think on that one.
@LisaHart172 күн бұрын
Wow. That's scary. How could they confuse the two? So strange and damaging.
@Krempie-v2g2 күн бұрын
@@LisaHart17 I think it's people trying to debunk empaths tbh.
@anncrystal27853 күн бұрын
Amen I agree. ❤😊
@GalacticWoman3 күн бұрын
When i was in hospital post emetgrncy total colectomy and with epidural needle fallen out so no pain relief I was repeating I am in the heart of God over and over. I didn't want to be in my body
@emmamckenzie673022 сағат бұрын
Question for mergers… If someone needs space, how would you want them to communicate that?
@nancyrebecca9 сағат бұрын
Personally, I have grown to start saying… my nervous system is feeling a little overstimulated right now with everything that’s going on and I just need space to reconnect with my inner calm. Then that way I have found I am taking personal responsibility for taking care of myself and I’m not putting it on the other person. What I have found is, I am modeling, healthy, energetic behavior for others around me. This gives them more room to let me know when they’re feeling overstimulated and need space too. ❤
@lisahanna63283 күн бұрын
I have heard the term “energy vampire”. Is that what you were talking about in a way? Only you’re being nicer about it?😅
@nancyrebecca2 күн бұрын
In a way yes but not exactly. There is more to a vampire. A vampire tends to do it on purpose.
@SharonG-y6q11 сағат бұрын
How do you deal with the issue that I have about having a very large extending energy ( aura) what does that even mean? Also I have been told that my energy’ buzzes’ and is quite strong if they sit really close to me 🤔
@rturney63763 күн бұрын
I just spend time with my 94 year old mom who refuses to validate my reality/experience - a different kind of energy merging 😅😅😅😅
@marysreenan64453 күн бұрын
**I am an identical twin and have often felt my twins energy and physical issues (although not as intensely as she did). I could feel her labor pains when she had her babies, and i could feel her chemo port when she had breast cancer. It was always most intense the closer i was physically to her, and faded with distance. I was also very overwhelmed while she battled cancer with my own fears as well as her anxieties, it was definitely overwhelming and unpleasant! I never believed that stuff happened with twins until i experienced it. She is not connected to me in the Same way. After listening to this video, I am trying to figure out if I am the one extending my aura toward her? ( i have worried about her often and care very much about her). Or if she is the one that has attached to me? ( she has been known to be possessive of the twin relationship with me). So how do you know whose aura/ energy is attached to whom? And how do you disconnect if it’s the other twin? Because I don’t exactly enjoy the connection. I always just thought it was a twin thing! Now i think it may be an intentional or unintentional merging?
@nancyrebecca2 күн бұрын
You should both try it and sense the difference.
@smistry793 күн бұрын
Is that the reason i end up thinking of clients when i wake up in middle of night and first thing on waking in morning? I do grounding and set a protective bubble around me before seeing each client and also send energies picked up from them into earth after. Im an energy healer & somatic therapist. Would i need to do level 1 or can i jump into level 2 of your course when it’s reopened?
@dianadee233 күн бұрын
I hsve had that too.
@rturney63763 күн бұрын
If this was a course, I would take it. 😅😅😅😅😅
@tinawebb65443 күн бұрын
I have to constantly pull my aura in but at night it’s a hot mess with my rowdy cats. How do I keep it pulled in during sleep but still astral travel and do the work I’m doing there ☺️
@hwilder1118 сағат бұрын
This is everything I do wrong...
@lindabuchanan44163 күн бұрын
Hola Nancy 💎
@rturney63763 күн бұрын
Was pig pen on the Peanuts about auras? 😅
@nancyrebecca3 күн бұрын
Omg 😳 😂. Good one
@lindabuchanan44163 күн бұрын
A'ho 💎
@unadavies3723 күн бұрын
🤍🕊️🤍
@judemcdougall95043 күн бұрын
I merged with a friend who has lost her son recently on two different occasions. Both times whilst driving home I almost fell asleep. I Realise before arriving the importance of grounding & placing protection around me before arriving. Clearing the energy when I leave her home before driving🩷🩵💎being completely responsible for myself
@nancyrebecca2 күн бұрын
You’ve got it!!!
@judemcdougall95042 күн бұрын
@ thank you Nancy for all that you share So grateful to have your natural words of wisdom