Top Signs she's using you and what to do when that happens

[@cmkilcullen8176]

Never make anyone a priority who treats you like an option or convenience.

[@donfreeman8920]

Amen 🙏🏿

[@heatherfulmore3412]

You are omplaining about your side chick again.

[@cmkilcullen8176]

@@heatherfulmore3412 ?

[@gmf62v84]

Very true. I regret being the go to guy when I'm just an option.

[@ericpalmer8250]

Let the Church say Amen!!! 🙏🏾

[@andreasprodigyzambiaoffici9474]

"She's always available when she needs you or she wants something from you." Jessica, You just hit the nail on its head. Whenever i see her phone call no matter how long she beats behind the bushes i know she'll still ask for money all the time. Its good am no longer a victim.

[@adriennduwayo8564]

Adreas, also beware of some Covert Narcissistic women..a lot this days around!! See then 🏃‍♂️!! I was a victim once!!

[@christopherdunkley1859]

@@adriennduwayo8564 for real fam

[@solomonzack1291]

Nigeria

[@asabarobert1233]

😂

[@johnappiah4902]

This is for you men without self love and low self esteem, listen to Jessica, she's telling the truth.

[@SpencerAMills-zt1wm]

John, I would like to differ. The issue of women using men does not apply to low self-esteem men only but rather it referred to men in general. Rich, poor, average, low self-esteem, shot or fat. Any of them can fall prey to a woman.

[@patriciadavis3549]

@@SpencerAMills-zt1wm men who have good self esteem are not willing to be used. No " prize" is worth that guy's pride

[@dcruffryderz9869]

Yep exactly for Simps🤷🏾‍♂️this chit don’t happen to alpha males

[@neilledejongh1290]

😆 🤣 😂 facts bro

[@mtithewoodentank4817]

@@dcruffryderz9869 They have to learn some way it's good they want to learn so I don't see the problem.

[@thammer531]

I always say no one owes you anything. This video tells me that if someone is using you, then they’re not strong enough to take care of themselves. A strong person can do well without someone until the right person comes around with the correct game. I’ve put girls on the spot about how they felt about me and the response I received was either they look away and not tell me the answer directly, stutter in their answer, or just flat out lying. Signs like that, I chuck up the deuces. We can be blinded by beauty and other things about that person we like, but the guard has to stay up. I don’t have time to use people. It’s a waste of time. Great video. Keep making more!

[@luiscolon7195]

Love the way she explains everything and how truthfully she is

[@vipinkoul595]

Manipulative women must be hating her :-)

[@amolemotshetlho266]

I can never say no to free advice from a woman about women...thanks Jessica 💖....

[@Samuel_O.A]

The truth is that I was once a victim (I can be that caring and emotional) but the more I spend time watching quality content like this I broke free so thank you Jess for putting this out.

[@trustinux]

My nigga😂

[@MotionbyMesh]

Lol you were not alone bro, i have been there too

[@irmanewsome4551]

Very Good A

[@hudsonbartley2493]

@@trustinux Looool

[@aliabdiabdi4067]

I just notices that aweek before now am leaving in peace

[@arampanossian3423]

This lady is totally right! I am yet to find a lady who will love me instead of using me for money!

[@markcaldwell6816]

My mother may she (R.I.P...) always preached to my brother and I, " You men don't think!! You need to wake up!! Thanks for the reminder Jessica, we men need to practice more of looking beneath the surface and searching for what's happening on the inside.. putting our personal desires to the side and let our emotional nature do the sensing. Much love to you 🌹 Woman of God!!! Thanks again!!

[@michaeldickson7119]

What a beautiful ❤️ n sincere woman. This is one in a million to find a woman bringing out the truth about women in general. I think this woman is more than a counselor. God bless you.

[@Modikana]

Lots of hun are using us here in SA🇿🇦 i have learned alot since i started watching your videos,am bold and confident i don't entertain mediocre. 🇿🇦

[@shadrackkasongo3787]

South African women ain't for the faint of heart bro😹😹😹 batlao hurta

[@juniordachaser7177]

😂😂😂

[@wildafrica7323]

Stop calling skunks hun bro

[@Kingda2_]

@@wildafrica7323 😂😂😂😂

[@simantombela8686]

🤣🤣🤣🤣No lies detected our women will play you

[@kudzai6131]

Jess is the that bigger sister ever man in the dating game needs. You're awesome Jess!

[@betiles1]

Thank you very much for this piece. You have said it all. Infact i feel you. She always have mood swings when she is with you. The 4th one kill me.

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*By addressing these issues directly, not only can you protect your heart, but you also invite healthier dynamics in future relationships.*

[@donniechikson8654]

Jessica is my best therapist.. much love from Nigeria😘

[@sahrkoadiama5255]

Hi Jessica! all the points in this video are facts. I have dated a lady who pretended to love me, but little did I know she was just in for the cash. she was acted exactly like the signs you highlighted. Fear some women.

[@samuelmakumbe2702]

So true, this lady is good at analysing love situations, we love you and your videos here in Zimbabwe, just like and share guys ..... appreciated

[@ThaProtege1]

Look at me 2 years later with a huge debt I am only trying to pay back and a heart that will probably never try to love anyone ever again... wish I had seen something like this back then. I hope one day when I am settled, I get to have the opportunity to even talk to you. Thanks Jess

[@MANDINGO74]

I’m so sorry. I hope you find someone who will love you in such a way as to make you love again. You seem to be a genuine person.

[@GlobeofBeauty]

Happens brotha. Hang in there women are a dime a dozen

[@dieudonnet.n.ebacha1653]

God sent Jessi thanks for all the guid lines to us the men

[@jayMovic]

"Eat your money, blow your dough" 😂😂, it's talk like these that make me enjoy your videos so much

[@truthteller7754]

Jessica, men will love you for opening their eyes.

[@Bencarson_1]

We don’t love her…..We worship her, huni 🍫🥰

[@truthteller7754]

@@Bencarson_1 How old are you? Why do you have to write such? If you praise a human being too much, they will take advantage of you. Your comment is exactly what Jessica is telling men not to do. If a woman knows you worship 🛐 her, she will tell you to do all sorts of things for her, when you refuse she will show you the "DOOR."

[@Bencarson_1]

@@truthteller7754 ooo really ?

[@turyasinguraronald6039]

@@truthteller7754 that case is different!!! He praises her because she's a teacher to him not a girlfriend!!

[@SuperM1908]

She is our hero. We have great respect for her

[@klausmakaneta6890]

Love is just an illusion, in reality we just using each other. Hence we picky of whom we want to be with.

[@chukwudihappy6059]

Bitter truth

[@ericpalmer8250]

Did you say to her this must be the Threesome that you had promised me over the phone? 🤣🤣🤣

[@Mlee.]

I remember when my ex-fiancé asked for a break a week before my birthday. I genuinely accepted, and on my birthday I then decided to spend my birthday with my uncle at the mall. Guess what? I saw her (ex-fiancé) with another guy in a restaurant 🍴. I hate the fact that she knew my birthday was coming but she used that same day to accommodate spending time with another man.

[@irmanewsome4551]

Sign by# 1 check-out

[@BrowninArchie]

Did that so she wouldn’t have to spend money to get you anything…

[@Mlee.]

@@BrowninArchie I think you are right, but I only wanted to spend time with her not money! She was not even working at the time.

[@BrowninArchie]

@@Mlee. to a woman like that,time with you must only reap profit. Even if she wasn’t working,there are a lot of things she could’ve done that don’t require her to spend money.

[@Mlee.]

@@BrowninArchie Exactly, this only means that her heart was with someone else. Or she opted to be with someone who she can 'reap profit' from. I really don`t know

[@matusalaalemseged6671]

I really, really wish I had watched this video 4 months ago!! I would've saved myself from so much frustration. Thank you, Jessica.

[@PoppysGuitar]

I "dated" a women who seemed to like women and men. At some point I asked her what her interest was and she vehemently protested saying she was straight. Regardless whenever and whereever we went out there would suddenly appear "by chance" some of her gfs. After this happened several times I figured out that she was contacting them and inviting them to join us. I was paying of course. Well I figured it out and that ended that. So remember when you are out with someone and you keep running into her crowd and you are buying drinks and food for people it is not happening by chance.

[@Gabraelspeaks]

Your clarity and lucidity is topnotch. You're extremely clear and authentic in your messages and I love it. Thanks for your invaluable nuggets.

[@richardkoskei6808]

I am from Kenya. Having watched this vid and others from your channel, I wish I had this information decades ago. I'd have made better decisions and fewer mistakes. Many men are being used and abused in relationships; many more are subtly aware and do not know how to get out of such situations. I have recommended (and subscribed to) this channel to other men. Thank you Jessica.

[@lidrockkenyamusic254]

Amenisave na hizi vida sai niko rada vibaya😂

[@czarlifestyle5335]

Mimi nliinvite dame for lunch...I was actually willing kulipa everything...but that night, akanishow 'don't forget to send fare to & fro' (mind that she is working)....iyo text pekee ilifanya nim block...ata iyo little effort hakuna....at least I never became lambistic 🤣...trust me a genuine girl will give u easy time...

[@jerrydunn3673]

I have been going through exactly what you have been talkin about took me a time to realize but I finally realizing and I walked away I don't even accept their phone calls anymore or anyting thank you for the video

[@sundayoyanda7386]

Nothing more, this is precisely correct.

[@PhillipAsare-tz8gv]

Thank you very much my dear. This is my first time am contributing on this platform. I just break up with my girl friend just before listening to your tips about relationship this evening. All that you just shared with me is never a joke ,but it's real.

[@JessicaOS]

Sorry to hear that

[@Ravlow23]

I wish i could see someone like you who knows what to do in a true relationship.

[@vickyvictorious1198]

i am here lol

[@ayokunmiamoseniola8872]

@@vickyvictorious1198 dey play

[@tavaresmccree5005]

Rule 1 if a woman is interested in you she will invest in you.

[@letsgetitthen4507]

Explain

[@hectorpla9322]

Yep!

[@NisarAhmad-jr6ol]

True that. Been there, experienced it. Good advice to RUN.....when a woman starts to pick the most expensive item from the menu and does not care about your money, you need to dump her soon after that last meal.

[@blacksonkavinga100]

This is so correct, and it's high time as Men to build confidence to escape such relationship instead of finding ways of comforting ourselves 😂 🧤🧤

[@Samuel_O.A]

Well said Jessica, I also think it is vice-versa, if either parties are not ready to be sincere ('cause if you are honest enough you'll ask yourself the question if you can take it if the same thing were been done to you) in terms of defining the purpose of their relationship then they shouldn't be together. I personally don't have patients for these kind of attitudes the moment I noticed you are coming into my space bearing selfishness you will only be warn once, you keep at it I will bid you farewell, even when you come in again you will only be welcome at the doorstep pending the time you can be trusted. Any kind of relationship that will stand the test of time most be build by both parties

[@jefferybaxter1225]

Very good video. The two main ones would be the guy buying everything while she doesn't make any attempts to offer. The other one is when a date is set up for both of you, but yet she brings along a friend or two.

[@glenharrison2117]

I've had a friend for almost a year and I've been there for her and she just ended the friendship and rip my heart out

[@gorgeenj773]

well said..thanks. all of those i have noticed.. and when you dont give them money,,they will get mad and curse you all the way....

[@garykenneth4702]

Honestly all you just said is what she's doing to me and I really want us to go far in our relationship

[@alusineconteh7280]

I'm watching this video from Freetown Sierra Leone & I enjoyed it. Thanks Mama

[@symlexbrn5396]

Here in Britain it means a lot for someone to give you their time, pretending also wastes her time and I don't think she wants that.

[@godecappraisal2982]

Speaks good English, very easy to understand and perfect delivery of the subject matter.

[@omphemetseramatu8788]

Wow u deserve Million Likes for this, Thank you Jess

[@tossmc]

I think for the most part, some of us sit around and we (foolishly) "hope" for the best, we KNOW we're being used and allow what we think to be a little "lead-way". but soon-enough we pick-up on the obvious signs, but we might get stuck in "waiting for better days", seems we do that and once we catch-on we explode. It's the same as not nipping / resolving issues as they come, yet due to sweeping things under a rug, once we trip over that lump in the carpet, it's a really hard fall because items have piled-on over time and the snap is a build-up of brewing snaps. ... PS: I love your videos, I'd agree that you're always on point.

[@orlandocraigg2194]

What I like about you is what other people find it hard to do....TELLING THE TRUTH......BLESSINGS

[@petermauti7352]

I have been used for the past 5 years Now I know the truth Thanks a lot Jessicah

[@theafricanchild9154]

Some women can't stand this honest channel 😜. Thank you my friend Jessica ✌🇺🇸🇬🇭

[@auntynorma8303]

I've been around this girl a few months now and I can never meet her parents or relatives nor I was ever invited to pass her gate. Hence I step away, thanks for all those insightful videos Jessica.

[@xolanivanda185]

Women showing up with a gang of her friends for a date happens here in South Africa too. Lol This is usually as a form of security, mostly when she has no interest in you but wants you to provide a good time. That is the time they order platters and buckets of buzz at the club. Then again, who takes a woman to the club on the first date unless he knows he is not looking for anything real, but wants a weekend special. Thus the American slang, "game recognise game". For me, one of the signs is, if you can't hold a simple conversation with each other, one of you should walk away.

[@BK-ip7ie]

tht is so so true wwn one can't hold simple conversation wth women.. .. or she lacking on her part to communicate then u must she not interested in u.. best not to waist u time any further n end it

[@jamesbedukodjograham5508]

Super Right especially discussions that are serious.

[@chriscurtis8344]

This is a very intelligent woman.

[@donfreeman8920]

Yep 👍🏾

[@osmana.bangura4891]

One thing i like about you Jessi is that you are always there for we the guys. You are always there to give us conscious advises, Keep doing the good job and God bless you...

[@davidattaway6798]

Hi Jessica you're like a fine piece of gold. Your information regarding this particular aspect of looking at a relationship is very genuine. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@brandybennett5519]

Your advice is the best I've heard around. I guess I'm a nontraditional subscriber. I'm a lesbian and your advice still applies in my situation. I appreciate you sharing sound advice.

[@sarahboakye7691]

These are red flags....not only for the men but women too. Let's get our eyes wide opened.....good job Jessica 👍❣️

[@DaveOndiekAaron85]

🤣🤣🤣 I Know How To Deal With Women Like This Ooooh! I'm Very Good In Ignoring Women 😉 And They Really Feel Painful When I Do That 🤣🤣🤣

[@kinglordehud]

Well said

[@sarahboakye7691]

@@kinglordehud 🤩

[@sarahboakye7691]

@@DaveOndiekAaron85 🔥

[@AkinolaOGUNYEMI]

But its scare to see women that spends on man first before the man.. So ideally, this goes for men... Its obsession that could make a woman cloudly spend on a guy and be used..

[@Adesoji.F]

Great tips! Thanks. The ladies won't like you, but whatever is your motivation for putting out these videos, keep going !

[@Tuffgong313]

Even before listening/watching this video am just a true victim of this. I knew from the beginning was just making am not the one over thinking 😊😊 Thank you sister Blessings

[@keorapetsesofeleng4408]

The friend issue is so common...however the other issues are very relevant particilarly around spending, quite correct

[@coolgamer-vv9wd]

Ive been through girls like this and I've decided to change

[@ephraimpatrobas3980]

Thank you so so much for this information, you have saved a lot of men who are falling prey to vicious girls who take advantage of them, this has opened my eyes a lot.

[@JessicaOS]

Glad it was helpful!

[@koalsam1494]

Jessica thank you for putting these wonderful points out there coz it will help the younger generation most. But the older generation were brought up with the mentality of "women should secretly keep money" for security reasons and men should provide for everything as the head. Thank God I live in Western world now where most don't have such mentality. I will surely recommend your channel to my friends. Regards.

[@boldalx5351]

My woman loves to tell me not to pay too much for anything.I have to tell her get whatever you want we’re good.Also she hates restaurant food and loves to cook…I Love Her❤

[@Eddy-Man]

i like the positive energy you have today, it make you speak in Ghanaian accent

[@jamesbedukodjograham5508]

The Problem is Jessica speaks with a Foreign Accent.

[@kengilmartin2156]

Just came across you channel. I wish I had gotten 1/100 of the advice you give from my family or those so say the "care" about me in relation to relationships. Thank you for doing this 🙂

[@JessicaOS]

You're welcome

[@festusfamous]

Well said jessica, pay attention to details men its really eye opening to us, a lot of this happens to us without we understanding what it is, thanks alot jessica

[@siphiwekheswa9785]

Thank You for this.its like you just read my situation and I decided to end all of it

[@andrewthomas3680]

Discovered your channel yesterday. Great content. Well presented too. Nuff respect and Blessings from Jamaica 🇯🇲 Big ups Str8

[@JessicaOS]

Thanks and welcome

[@bradlafleur1154]

8:16 pm East coast USA. Thank you so much for the video. I truly needed to hear everything you had to say. Thanks again, you are amazing

[@marierosepascual4475]

I can relate. Men and women have used me for many years.

[@gokahernest294]

Really

[@laurentiusshipipa5004]

I have become a man of high values since day one I became a subscriber to this channel, thanks a lot Jess, you always unpack things that us man do not know about woman

[@jensvogt228]

Thank you so much Jessica, and I really enjoyed this cos I just ended an9 years supposed friendship with a girl I really like cos she was everything you explained on this video and she would still deny and sometimes she’s wants to be my girlfriend and asking of different things and asking for us to hangout in different places that are really expensive that even she wanted to pay for the outing, she couldn’t.... and watching your video just made me confirm that decision was totally right . My name is Ogaga from Nigeria and I’m a big fan ❤️❤️❤️

[@daughterofthemosthigh1539]

What a long time wasted in one woman

[@jensvogt228]

@@daughterofthemosthigh1539... Well some women still don’t know that there are men out there that only got eyes for just one woman. I always wanted her as my girlfriend but she was always playing the mind games, I would move on then she would come back blowing my phone again with apology and try to do the same thing over and over again... this time I’m done for real, still single and hoping to meet the woman of my dreams that would value my qualities and not try to use me instead

[@muslimfeed2042]

Jessie can I ask my woman if she likes me!? Or is it not just integral?

[@kevincroft9848]

Thanks Jessica . I've been used in the past. But Iam getting wiser at seeing the signs of being used by women Kevin x

[@divamisi24]

Love you Jessica!!! You’re a life & wallet saver. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[@Bio_Dex]

I... Wish I found this a few months ago. These all literally describe her and I've been so blind to see any of it from her, it just saddens me. But thank you for clearing it all for me.

[@help4haiti1]

in Haiti, women talk about their problems with you without asking you for help. She is doing that so you as a man can feel compel to help. Later on when you talk about it, she will tell you that she didn't ask you but you did it because you wanted to.

[@rashidrational7401]

Madam Jessica u are very good I appreciate the way u keep teaching us

[@deemsomi7252]

Hi Jessica i am from South Africa, everything you say is 100% true even here in our country. You're spot on. I like your channel.

[@JessicaOS]

thank you

[@ntokozohlatshwayo1836]

You 100% correct Dee, at some point in our lives we've been through this nonsense.

[@benjaminondeng3210]

Same in Kenya bro . Jessica Os I've been following your videos ever since I saw it & it keeps educating me

[@paulmumelo2884]

Jessica, it's a wide range of knowledge that has assisted to tackle our ladies professionally without causing harm.

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

Jessica, I 've been watching your videos for a while mow. You do a very good job with topics you bring to the table. And you have a killer smile while your doing them . Thanks

[@kevincroft9848]

Thankyou for this valuable video Jessica. You are just simply the best at what you do Thanks I learned alot from this video about women who just use men for what they can get out of them . Kevin from UK 🇬🇧 England Radcliffe nr Manchester xxx

[@jwithington9347]

Absolute quality content, I've experienced alot of this and grown wise to it over the years but it's good to see it being presented in such an informative way

[@othellocampbell6839]

No one knows a woman like another woman.

[@donfreeman8920]

No doubt

[@yibanathisalimani]

Thanks my sister for opening my eyes

[@gereflorvil309]

I just like your honesty as a women. God bless

[@thykingdomcome772]

God just answered my prayer with this video. God bless you ma'am. I'm watching from Nigeria.Your truthful exposition is wow as a woman. You earned my like and subscription

[@solomondodo6163]

Such ladies that deceive men don't know they are also destroying their destiny.

[@DVTOM]

It's about time someone helps guys with stuff like this! Bravo!

[@ThePsycheGym]

Your sincerity and honesty with your contents is exhilarating. I really appreciate this piece. Thank you

[@machumorig8815]

Love the way you switch your voice

[@agyeimaxwell.]

Keep up the good work, i just love ur content .Very educative .

[@debanjandutta1591]

Excellent. Thanks for the suggestion men will be cautious from the next time they date with someone new.

[@abiodun6897]

Your voice is so peaceful ❤️

[@dhanrajmohan701]

Public comment. Thank Jessica .great information which is so true. God bless you. Continue the great work.

[@richmondtakyiasare8991]

Coincidentally I needed this advice this afternoon. Thank you Jessica.

[@JessicaOS]

Glad it was helpful!

[@nwalijudechukwuemeka5865]

Thanks Jessica you really confirmed my thoughts,cuz sometimes I feel like maybe am not too romantic, but what you just said you have proven my doubts to be real

[@michaelbogdan2797]

2/06/2023 8 PM California, USA. You nailed it. It is exactly as you’ve described.

[@dextercollins9118]

Hi 👋 I had a woman that try to use me she don't work have 6 kids different baby Father's she's very beautiful but it's just not worth the headache. She never wants to get a job just beg all the time.

[@savagegardensavagegarden620]

Hey Jess ......MANY WOMEN WILL HATE YOU .....Because you are exposing their tricks !!!!! BUT HEY .....GOD BLESS YOU !!!! Very Good work .....AND PLEASE KEEP IT UP with lots of love .

[@kofiduku934]

Waba biom oOoOO❤️🔥🐐the female goatest is back..here to be educated!

[@JessicaOS]

lol!

[@fabinnocent7090]

she is 100% spot on in everything she said because i lived with one who exhibited every behaviour she described.

[@mrobservation672]

I looked at a number of videos like this, and I must say u hit it on the nail with this one. Great work👍🏽

[@samsungs-cb9cr]

Jessica you are a Diamond !!!. Guys shes dropping us pearls .

[@kevinmitchell8650]

A lot of users. Be engaging give them a chance to expose themselves.

[@mabinuorimayowa2540]

Mine just stopped coming to my apartment about 4 months ago, we've agreed to marry ourselves and I was wondering about the sudden change of attitude. I went to her house and I met her mum who I explained what really happened and her mum told me that if any lady is behaving like that, means she has been seeing another guy. I summoned courage that very day and I left her house tho I felt betrayed and tears dropped out of my eyes that night and couldn't sleep. Tho, I have moved on because I don't want to care about any lady anymore because they've always shown love but, they've always betrayed my love. I am a Tech guy in one of the top tech companies in Nigeria. As it is now, is the baby mama package I want to go into because I believed marriage is not met for me. Jessica, thanks for this video, and keep the good work going.

[@leocardoroger6270]

Heard you sometimes isbnot another guy, she just playing you when a girl start ding this because you been good to her she take advantage of that