Toxic Femininity vs True Femininity | The Lila Rose Podcast E50

[@Mrs.Escobedo]

My mother-in-law embodies all the virtues of true feminine beauty. She is the wife of a retired police officer, and her faith covers so many. She is such a kind soul that pours her generosity into everyone around her. She has the personality that can talk to anyone like a friend. She is tough as nails, but always presents with dignity and class. I was so incredibly fortunate to marry into her family and have the opportunity to learn from her. She and her husband (my husband's parents) are such a perfect example for everything my husband and I strive to become.

[@Carlie_flower]

So nice to hear about women who admire their MIL instead of having a strained relationship.

[@vd1657]

Awe you gave me so much hope. Praying my future in-laws are like this 🥰

[@solagratialife]

@@vd1657 In-laws like that are out there. My in-laws are just as she described as well. Seek the kingdom and Christ's righteousness first and foremost and all will be added to you for your good and His glory.

[@vd1657]

@@solagratialife I am seeking the kingdom & Christ’s righteousness. My statement still stands though, as I know so many amazing people who love & are committed to the lord but still don’t have the best relationship with their in-laws, hints my previous comment 😅.

[@reesereyes6986]

I know a couple whose marriage was so beautiful. Having observed their interactions put me in awe, like I'm watching a dream. They showed me what being filled with love and virtue can do to a man and a woman, not to mention having a strong faith in Jesus. The husband is so considerate and attentive to his wife's needs, while the wife loves to serve him all the more. They kind of made me desire marriage too, even though I thought I would never.

[@megalopolis2015]

What a treasure they gave you and the world by their example. ❤

[@badgerden7080]

Those are the good things that happen when you put Jesus at the center of your marriage. They put their marriage in God's perfect and holy hands. God doesn't make mistakes.

[@dian277]

great example set by great people with loving hearts. unfortunately, many people out there, men and women, are all full of themselves, conspiracy theories, paranoia and blaming others for their own problems

[@mariahminton854]

That is absolutely a blessing to be party to, more than you'll ever know. Having been on the other side of the spectrum being raised in an environment and family that really bought into this whole "I'm a strong, independent woman and I don't need a man" mentality, and a result, the first 3 years of marriage, I had NO clue I was doing it ALL wrong. Since coming across the right way, the more natural way to love, the difference was stark. I'm going to be honest, our marriage was bound to split. Buying into this culture of feminism almost cost us our marriage. Both of us had been brought up in similar environments, seeing as there's only 5years between us age wise, he wasnt raised to be a masculine man, and I wasn't raised to be a feminine woman, as that's the culture we live in. I think birth control had alot to do with that also. My interests and mindset changed entirely, what I wanted out of my husband, life, and what I expected from myself. There's almost no call to accountability for women, but all accountability out of men. The roles have been completely reversed and the stats on our culture shows it.

[@solagratialife]

That is a lovely gift you got to behold :)

[@edukaeshn]

This is the conversation so few are willing to have. Thank you, Lila!

[@Irislaurel]

Unfortunately, I have a lot of toxic femininity traits in my family. I'm breaking that cycle by embracing my femininity. I engage in acts of service and thinking beyond my selfish needs by giving my time to helping others. Also, kindness with my words and actions. It starts with me. ❤

[@AndrewTheVikings]

that took you alot of guts for you to embrace your feminine. Its going to make you feel alot more better.

[@Irislaurel]

@@AndrewTheVikings I believe it will

[@Marcus_MG42]

If you have children, I believe you'd the cycle of masculine-feminine vurtues with them.

[@kant.68]

There’s nothing more feminine and unique to womanhood than maternity. You should keep that in mind

[@racheljames7]

Well-done you! Good girl. ❤ ✝️

[@SAG1028]

Chastity is so underrated, our culture hates and ridicules it. It prefers hedonism, licentiousness and debauchery.

[@Jerome616]

We uplift the strength of men and women who overcome the odds by their will power and strength… and yet the moment you apply that to sex they suddenly think you are crazy for being disciplined and strong. It’s because they would have to apologize and repent for all that they have done. so instead they keep gaslighting young people and insist that it’s weird to be chaste.

[@SAG1028]

@@Jerome616 i personally don’t get it it is honorable to want to preserve what is precious for someone who deserves and is worthy of it. To give ourselves to any and everyone to me is inconceivable and demeaning. However, this frame of thinking is called bigotry, old fashioned, unrealistic and delusional. We become one during intimacy and just to give that to anyone especially when they have not earned it is flabbergasting.

[@TracyTodd2199]

​@brycegladwin8087 The pendulum has swung the other way from my grandmother's and mother's generation. The 60s and 70s brought on the celebration of free love lifestyle (for lack of better words). Both need balanced.

[@TracyTodd2199]

@SAG1028 We've gone from one extreme to the other.

[@kinndah2519]

No it doesn't. It actually glamorizes it too much to the point they objectify women for it, and even make her feel that's her only value. If ppl have multiple partners bc they attempted multiple serious relationships and/or marriages...that doesn't make you an unchaste person or immodest. It's just the trial and errors of life, sometimes strokes of luck, or lessons that were learned. In fact, it can even make you a better partner for your true spouse.

[@sarahking87]

My mom passed away 6 months ago. I look up to her in so many ways... She was gentle, generous, soft-spoken, selfless, respectful, classy, the list could go on and on. She always put everyone else before herself. She served her family and community daily. She showed us the love of God every day. I'm so grateful for her and all the women like her, who give us an example to look up to. ❤️

[@thuyhuongpham5240]

I tear up as I read what you wrote about your mom. It's so rare to hear such a role model like your mom these days. May your beloved mother rest in eternal peace ❤

[@russellheyns1846]

I am sure your mom was a great woman, but please don’t idealize putting others before yourself. The human mind/soul needs to be allowed to have a bit of selfishness or otherwise there is a blowback

[@JasmineVanessa3]

My grandmother was and will always be remembered for her kindness, thoughtfulness, beauty, and matriarchal energy that brought the family together. She kept a book of everyone’s birthdays along with their clothing sizes, like and dislikes, etc., and never missed a chance to send a card and thoughtful message to any friend or family member for any reason. She always wore her red hair in beautiful curls with red lipstick. She told me once when I was very young that she hoped I would let Jesus into my heart one day. I still think about that to this day and have been exploring my relationship with God recently. I also just recently started listening to and following you Lila and I find myself having a hard time grasping onto ideas that once very much made sense to me, such as abortion. I love what you have to say and have so much respect and admiration for you. Thank you for doing what you do and God Bless.

[@RambleChristianPodcast]

My Nanna is the most classy lady I know! My grandfather was the Mayor of our town and she used to orchestrate these amazing parties for him. She is like the proverbs 31 woman to a tee! This one is kind of weird but, my nanna kept such a beautiful and clean house, if she gifted you some article of clothing, like, it had that Nanna smell. I know that sounds weird, but its this super clean, fresh floral scent. and through the years its always been the same. its something the whole family has commented on. not just me lols. She also would make jam, from her blackberry bush and send it as a gift to like the 100s of people she knew, every year for Christmas. She always took me to plays and musicals. She is also tough as nails, My Pappaw can be a little rough, and her reaction is to giggle at him, when he losses his temper. She was always very beautiful and svelte, though she always wore lose fitting clothes, and when men hit on her (and they did, even when she was older) she would glare at them. She took no joy in their imagination! One time, she took us kids up hiking to collect a specific type of plant, so we could grind it up and make cookies, they were bitter, but it was still pretty cool. No one in the family has been able to reach her level, but we all look at her as the gold standard. Her mother, my great Granma, was also a gold standard, but she was less concerned about social structure and more concerned you were fed good lol, she was always in the kitchen, cooking and baking, she was always at church (Baptist) on Sundays, and she made quilts for everyone. She was SUPER nurturing and wanted everyone to know how much God loved them. but she also has a cantankerous side, and I dare say, I have taken more after her, then anyone lols

[@brittybee6615]

Aww! I remember this one sweater I got from my Nana (great grandmother) and everyone mentioned it smelled like her house so I ended up never wearing or washing it 😂 Honestly, I think it might have something to do with keeping fragrance satchels in dresser drawers, though.

[@alqoshgirl]

You’re such a great role model Lila! I find it very disturbing how much on the left and right are putting too much emphasis on the differences between men and women. To the point either demonizing one or the other gender. I have always rejected these narratives. We are actually not that different. We don’t have different moral standards in the eyes of God. We were both made in the image of God, put on this earth to glorify God. One isn’t better than the other. Our differences lies in our physical strength. Being able to carry a child and the difference of nurturing roles. But we are both called to be moral, logical, faithful, strong, wise and virtuous!

[@LilaRosePodcast]

This is a great point. So many extremes everywhere - erasing OR over emphasizing the differences between men and women.

[@privacyhelp]

then why in islam you can have 4 wives but cant 4 husbands?

[@alqoshgirl]

@@privacyhelp because Islam is a false religion

[@bigfatdogby]

@@privacyhelpmaybe Islam is wrong? 😮

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

​@@bigfatdogby Maybe? Definitely

[@maxterlisner9362]

I know a woman who recognized my grief, pain and darkness; instead of turning on me or seeing me as evil for my pain she helped my to recognize my own need for intimacy and even is paying for my therapy.

[@chaymaedaoudi5330]

Just thank her for me!! She is making me remember my first therapist who took me for free. She will always be an angel!

[@vd1657]

I’ve always looked up to Audrey Hepburn, Selena Quintanilla and Catroina Gray. They’re all beautiful but what I love about all three is how kind they were to everyone & how humble they were! The love they have for others (especially kids) is very radiant. They were all very elegant, selfless & great role models.🌹 & of course I also look up to Lila Rose ❤

[@melissapatino4218]

My mom's feminine genius is her strength and courage. She came to this country with nothing to her name, facing many unknowns and dangers to get here, but she persevered raising 4 daughters with my dad, while working 2 jobs, and achieving the American dream. I marvel at all that my mom has been able to accomplish in her lifetime and she is by far the best example of feminine genius in my life.

[@Nikki-ks6wi]

I notice that women are allowed to be mean more than ever. I run into more possessive female friendships than male. This entitlement of feminist is very disturbing. .

[@axeniadianagheorghe5103]

True..women and mean to each other, is more than disturbing..it s sad

[@skeelatheskink8724]

Women are acting like the delinquent men they wouldn’t date.

[@edukaeshn]

Thanks for being willing to see it.

[@Neoteny374]

Thank you, Ma'am. For seeing and saying the thing we can't say.

[@AndrewTheVikings]

This is why I am not into feminist movement at all. All they do is brainwashed ladies that they can do anything, but in reality they cannot. Our clock is ticking.

[@RealOverReligion]

Salute to every woman that embraces her femininity. You are loved and appreciated.

[@milo_thatch_incarnate]

I’m 23, I was blessed to be raised Christian, but for a lot of my childhood, my mother subscribe to very fundamentalist Christianity, in which wearing pants was immodest and evil, having short hair was immodest and unwomanly, and femininity in general was extremely rule-based and strict. That caused me to run away from everything feminine between the ages of 18 and 22. I shifted very masculine - almost butch - during that time, because all I had seen growing up was that femininity was an outward performance that you had to do to be considered “good”. I slowly came back to discovering what true femininity is on my own, and now, I’m happily married to wonderful masculine man, and looking forward to starting a family in the next year or two! I have made such an about face from how hard I pushed away femininity… And I’m so grateful. And now, thanks to sources like your podcast, I have a good idea of how to teach my daughters about beautiful, diverse femininity, not strict “this is the only way“ femininity like what I grew up with.

[@OneCatholicSpeaks]

One woman who jumped in my mind was my mom. She was the voice of reason She had a knack of helping me to understand any situation and help me arrive to a decision.

[@yasminl2923]

Thank you for consistently tackling such important subjects, Lila! This really resonated with me. You are a true role model!

[@alphacause]

Thank you, Lila, for giving this topic the consideration it deserves, with an emphasis on traditional values. Far too often, when discussing the repellent aspects of modern feminism, it is discussed from the red pill community, which is often so filled with seething malice towards women, where many double standards regarding promiscuity are espoused. Its nice to get a sensible, logically consistent and morally sound opinion on femininity, especially from a woman that embodies those virtues.

[@HeyLady08]

This is honestly the best podcast around. I'm hoping Lila gets a million followers by the end of the year.

[@agape13]

Dear Lila, blessed are the one, who can call you a friend. Great to see your channel growing. Hearing woman like you, it gives hope in humanity.

[@kaylalaland]

Trying to find my femininity. After being hurt by an ex husband and women who pretended to be friends it’s extremely hard. I have so much love to give but no trust in people. It really sucks :/

[@beeinthebodytorahclass2002]

God can heal you

[@eileen8787]

One of my female role models is St. Monica. When I was 6 or 7, we had a project where we had to pick a saint to do some research on, and then dress up as them and talk about them to our audience of our parents (I went to Catholic school). I picked her because she had the name of my dear friend who I looked up to like a sister, as a child would. Then when my confirmation rolled around, I picked her as my confirmation saint because I just already knew about her and I was a lazy teenager. But as I’ve gotten older, I feel like it was the right choice because she is such a role model for me now as a woman of faith and a soon to be mother. It also turns out, and I only learned this this year, that St. Monica was also my mother’s confirmation saint. What a wonderful woman. Her loyalty and unwavering faith, her love for her son and the Lord is all to be admired! On a side note, this morning I woke up and needed something to listen to for my run, and I recalled one of St. Augustine’s works being recommended to me a few weeks ago, so I found an audiobook of this Treatises and listened to that. On the run I came to the conclusion that out of the several names I had in mind if my baby was a boy, I was going to name him after St. Augustine. I admire him and since St. Monica is my confirmation saint, what could fit more perfectly for us, if he is a boy? Then I got home from my run and opened up my phone to see that it is St. Augustine’s feast day today. It is also my father’s 60th birthday today so I immediately called him and said “Happy birthday! Did you know that today is also the feast day of St. Augustine?” And he said “Yes, that’s actually why I picked him as my confirmation saint,” which I didn’t know, or at least,didn’t remember, until now. I feel like the Lord works in mysterious ways!

[@kaymekla5]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m inspired to look up these saints now!

[@isabellataliamicallef]

Thank you Lila for always being a model of true femininity in the modern world for me!!!

[@dianeyun-vac1385]

Lila, you have beautifully portrayed toxic femininity as well as true and the genius of femininity with great examples of people to illustrate these terms in this culture. Thank you 🙏

[@Kaitlynb259]

Loved this one! It’s so true that when I think about an admirable woman in my life, most of the time it’s her strength and wisdom. Not her looks!

[@audrey4321]

I'm a full grown woman and still this was so eye opening. Beautifully said. Thank you for speaking about this and explaining.

[@MommaRolls]

And she (Taylor Swift) appears to be masking her sadness with “girl power.” This is a terrible existence and not taking responsibility for any of her own actions why her relationships don’t work out. She is surrounded by yes people saying “you go girl” and “you don’t need a man” mentality. She’s Britany Spears 20 years ago.

[@berfin5267]

What? Do you actually liten to her and follow her?

[@andi.h.michelle]

Totally agree

[@kailaleebabineau3962]

She's really not anywhere close to Brittany spears. She has a stable family that supports her career rather than leeches off of her. She has more musical talent and writes her own music. She didn't become famous from her sexuality. She's not an empty shill for girl power, she's an actual powerful woman. I'm not a huge fan but I don't understand the hate she gets

[@berfin5267]

@@kailaleebabineau3962 thank you

[@rcsavedbygrace]

​​@@kailaleebabineau3962Examining her lyrics, observing her behavior, looking at her track record tells you everything you need to know. She wants to be worshiped and people do. It is sad when grown men act like teenage girls in awe of her. She is put on a pedestal. Sure she may be generous but everyone is going to know and hear about it. Self...self....self....self. There could not be anyone more toxic right now.

[@Hellonerds09]

I’m so glad that people understand the term toxic now. I remember when people said “ no such thing as toxic masculinity” well ofc there is.. just like there’s toxic femininity.Anyway! Like your content Lila. Don’t agree with every single video, but I love how genuine you are & stand up for biblical morals! Which is important overall!

[@joegilmartin4187]

Lila, you are a blessing. I have three grown daughters and am so blessed to recommend you to them (all fans as well). Thank you, God bless 🙏

[@edgreen8140]

Toxic masculinity was a study on antisocial personalities while in jails. But people misusei it just as they misususe other terms.

[@hb9018]

Love this episode Lila, I've been at war with my body and with my femininity for so long. And also dealing with wounds from hurtful male figures but God is gradually healing me and I love hearing your take.

[@InternetMouse]

Im a new time viewer and i must say, your viewpoints and research on the topics is so top notch. I love it lila rose. You earned yourself a new subscriber. Thank you lila rose. So keen to watching your future projects ❤🐀

[@grantcarro8721]

Lila reminds me of Our Lady very much. Every time I see her, I think of Our Blessed Lady, her gentleness and beauty, while also expressing the strength of the feminine to nurture and protect the vulnerable, and to love those who are hurt, forgotten, and that no heart has the capacity to love. The greatness of the feminine is her capacity to love even those that no one can find a reason to love, like Jesus on the cross. The feminine heart is the refuge for any soul when all else seems to fail. I wish more women in the modern age would be like Lila and Our Lady.

[@austintransplant4460]

Miss Lila, I know from your videos that you are Catholic. This year I am following Father Mike Schmitz’ podcast of the “Catechism in a year”. Your comments on emotions just being feelings humans experience, comes right out of the Catechism (1763 - 1770). As you state feeling themselves are not right or wrong, they just are. Free Will” as you said motivates us to actions that can be either good or evil. Great video.

[@FranzT]

Lila thank you so much for speaking on this. As a man if I speak about this even with the best intentions I am instantly accused of misogyny.

[@SabrinaCarpenterFanAcc]

I think it's because people confuse a man saying this with what those tacky manosphere influencers will say. A lot of men who say this just want the best for women, but all of these red-pill dudes popping up want women to be submissive so that they can use them. For example, they'll say a woman should be submissive and not sleep around, but also, if she turns them down then she "belongs to the streets"

[@marrenja8773]

Dear Lila, you are a great role model for us young women today. Keep up the good work and God bless you❤🙏

[@InJeffable]

I can give you one example of true femininity. I went to middle and high school with a girl named Grace Ellis. Fast-forward 20 years and her name was Grace Mitchell. She was happily married with four children. On top of that, she had turned a home renovation business into a television show on HGTV called One of a Kind. On this show, she empathized and connected with families to renovate their homes in a way that represented who they were. You could see her femininity shining through in every episode, and I can tell you that it wasn't an act. That was the same girl I knew in high school. Her show unfortunately lasted only two seasons due to the pandemic getting in the way, but she now has a home decor product line in At Home stores. I guess the point is that Grace loves being a wife and mother, and those things absolutely did not stop her from pursuing her dreams. And she hasn't had it easy -- far from it. She's had to endure horrific hardships. But none of what she has endured has caused her to reject her God-given true femininity.

[@j.chisholm3391]

My mother was a vice president of the nursing union in Nova Scotia, Canada. She was short, five foot high woman, who was always working towards the common good. She would always work from what was best for the community. She was always a calm voice, always seeking the what was best for her family, which consisted of pretty rambuctious sons and a dad. She was a quiet person, and just aimed her life helping others. She died several years ago, and I miss her greatly as a son.

[@elisabeth4342]

The first powerful female role model that came to mind is my former private coach from my competitive gymnastics team (I was a child). She encouraged me to be tougher, resilient, more perfectionistic, etc. I'll ALWAYS be grateful for how TOUGH she was on me!! She had to fight my stubbornness tooth and nail so many times, but she knew my innate strengths and she never gave up on me! The only thing I didn't like about her: I was never able to work on my best event, which was vaulting. I loved the feeling of soaring and floating through the air, but I wasn't allowed to practice my best event. That sucked. I didn't know my grandmothers, unfortunately. I just knew one was a talented classical vocalist and a wish I had inherited her voice/tone. At least I inherited the instrumental music genes. I'm grateful for that, being that I have such a deep love for music.

[@mollietenpenny4093]

I'd say one of my favorite female role models outside of my family would be Audrey Hepburn. Audrey Hepburn was not only a style icon but also a humanitarian. People who have worked with her talk about her beauty and genuine kindness. I remember listening to a podcast by Moe Rocca a few years ago about Audrey Hepburn. He told how he used to work for Macy's during college. One day Audrey came through the perfume section of the store. Moe said that she wasn't the kind of celebrity that you wouldn't just pull aside for a quick selfie.

[@truegirl2anna]

The book “The Anti-Mary Exposed” by Carrie agrees is probably one of the best books written about the modern woman and how TOXIC feminism is destroying the friggin world!

[@bernadettem750]

“The Anti Mary Exposed” is eye opening…definitely one everyone needs to read.

[@Nareezy]

I’ve totally been thinking this about Taylor Swift for years! Although she is beautiful and talented… I always sense her to be toxic. She plays the victim as if everyone is out to get her and virtue signals towards everyone, but if you listen to the lyrics to her songs… she’s the bully who is seeking drama and revenge. Her die hard fans seem so aggressive and comes off as toxic as well with the online presence.

[@annedavies2885]

Also possibly not a biological female, this is something new to consider in our times.

[@soulfireonfire6423]

@@annedavies2885 Really? Based on what , should one consider that Swift may not be a biological female? Because of the times we are in? That’s what you said ? Correct? ? Ya know what I say! If you are going to repeat, not only unsubstantiated rumors , but very unintelligent rumors , that you saw in a comment section. at least be honest about why your leaving such a harmful comment! It’s not because of the times we are in that you made that comment or think that! And your reply in regards to the original commenter, has absolutely nothing to do with her comment! No where in her comment does she suggest anything that even slightly hints, she thinks Swift may not be a biological woman! Your repeating a horrific rumor is what you are doing ! It’s really quite embarrassing to all who have repeated this rumor! 1) Anyone with a minuscule if common sense can look at her and clearly see she’s a biological woman! But taking into consideration that one may not have a minuscule of common sense, there’s always google isn’t there! 2) There are pictures of Taylor Swift from birth , throughout her entire childhood clearly showing she was born and always has been, a biological female! And a video of her at 2-3 years old , thanking her mother her mother for a compliment. Ribbons in her hair and a sweet little girl voice! Do better!

[@Mel-jl8dt]

You've definitely not listen to all of her songs... There are plenty of songs where she takes accountability for her actions, puts the blame on herself and apologies. For the things she did talk about she was treated badly but she does not always play the victim

[@talithakoum3922]

​@@Mel-jl8dtIf you think her "introspective" songs like Antihero are her sincerely taking responsibility, I have oceanfront property in Kansas to sell you. That's not a sincerely sorry person, that's a self-obsessed person mocking her family/therapist/person who tried to hold her accountable by sarcastically saying what she thinks they want to hear.

[@kavyanjalijain]

@@talithakoum3922 have you heard the song back to december??

[@ORF5519]

The correct, and dare I use the phrase, inclusive term for both sexes is, Toxic Behavior. Had that been the framing from the beginning, a lot fewer issues and arguments would've occurred. The termToxic Masculinity was wrong-headed and specifically chosen as a way to denigrate and demean ALL men. Similarly, Toxic Femininity is not really a thing. It is Toxic Behavior, irrespective of the sex of the person that is the issue.

[@roxanahernandez5157]

"To compare yourself to another woman...there is only one of you. Celebrate the unique woman that you are & that nobody else is" Thank you Lila ❤ You are my female role model:)

[@normafarrar]

Amen! Thank you Lila. May God guide us to teach and live our true felinity in our journey to eternal glory. Hugs

[@retrorenegade1967]

To respond to your question about a truly feminine family member - my great-grandmother. Her name was Jane but everyone called her by the nickname "Pesh." A wholesome, sweet, intelligent, and beautiful all-American southern woman. A member of the "greatest generation" that came of age during the Second World War and started a postwar family with my great-grandfather, who served in the Navy in the Pacific theatre. They met because she wrote him letters during the war. She didn't let the war stop her from finding a great husband. She became a kindergarten English teacher and she drove a school bus when she got a little older, but The Lord and her family always came first. She loved to decorate her home with antiques, and she would drive around the country as an elderly woman, buying and selling antiques. Everyone she met was always very charmed and captivated by her calm, gracious demeanor and her loving personality. She had extremely good manners and she never cursed or raised her voice. Her voice was very beautiful sounding because she went to a 'finishing school' and learned elocution. She had a remarkable physical beauty but she dressed modestly. In my memories, she was always sporting a long skirt, a blouse, and a bunch of chunky jewelry with very teased-up white hair. She made so many wonderful memories for our family, she loved holidays and made them very special and festive. She liked to cook, and she loved desserts, especially homemade pies. She used to eat dessert before dinner! She always stayed slim though and didn't overeat. She died unexpectedly in 2005, but in her small community she is remembered very fondly, everyone loved her so much, and seems to have a good memory attached to her. I was very young when she died, but I love it when people compare us and tell me I am similar to her. I feel so blessed to be related to her. I aspire to continue her legacy of being a fit, feminine, friendly and inspirational woman!

[@LilaRosePodcast]

Wow, your great grandmother sounds like such a beautiful and remarkable woman. Thank you for sharing so many sweet details, they are inspiring. May we live up to these models ❤

[@retrorenegade1967]

Awe thank you for the reply Lila! There is a lot more I could say about her character and virtue but the comment is so long already haha. Thank you for reading it. There are so many great, faithful people in the world and we need to amplify their stories so we can all be inspired! Better than glorifying celebrities. Thank you so much for the work you do you're inspiring me a lot! @@LilaRosePodcast

[@bijoumarjoyeria7901]

Such a beautiful story! Thanks for sharing! As a single 28 years old man from Mexico, you are a woman that is striving for something big! My sister, please keep fighting the good fight. Never settle for less and may the Good Lord Bless you!

[@RammingSpeed-lk8kk]

​@@LilaRosePodcastall feminine nature is inherently toxic, its just how well whamen can HIDE it and resist their true nature

[@Honeysuckle33]

My mother. She kind, outward focused, trust worthy and honest. I have never heard her talk badly about anyone. ever! She has good Morals and values And has never just followed the crowd just because it's the in thing to do. Holds her ground and stands firm on her beliefs.

[@josephpage4303]

I'm glad she mentioned toxic femininity regarding men. Women can be abusive and controlling and that should be called out as well.

[@Nyumc99]

There is a common denominator that seems to be often overlooked, when using the phrases, “toxic masculinity “, and “ toxic femininity”. The previous post eluded to this. Male or female has nothing to do with the phrase toxic , as that is separate from the genders. “Human toxicity “ may be of better use to describe toxicity. Human toxicity generally manifests as a response to trauma. Narcissists are toxic regardless of their gender. It really should not be looked upon as a gender difference but more of a toxic individual difference . Narcissism is on the rise in society however. Take care out there good people 🖖

[@youtubeKathy]

I was raised at a time where many kids had stay at home moms. if you had a working mom, you were sort of a rarity. But my generation was always geared toward the idea that we would eventually go to college and get a job. I think from the time I was a kid, I didn't know why I couldn't just stay home, like my mom and I have thought about this periodically through my adult life. Now in my late 40's, sure, my career was fun, luckily I enjoyed most of the jobs I had. but, I think I would have been much happier as a mom and a housewife. I've often felt this was stolen from me.

[@gabyflores5631]

As a mother with 2 children under 10 am heart broken that my husband expects me to work. He won’t even consider the possibility of allowing me to be a stay at home mom. I feel like my children are being taken away from me.

[@youtubeKathy]

@@gabyflores5631 lol. yes. well. my ex husband wanted me to do all the cooking and the cleaning and work full time. meanwhile he would come home from work and sit in front of the TV. He said men work harder than woman.

[@retrorenegade1967]

I also grew up with a stay-at-home mother, and I felt anxious when I got into high school because it was constantly pushed for girls to pursue careers. I never had any desire or thought to have a career. I wasn't aware yet that my vocation was to be a stay-at-home mom, so I thought something was wrong with me because I had no desire to compete in the workforce. I am 24 years old and doing something taboo in America by being a married homemaker at my age. Thankfully my husband is extremely hardworking and great with money so we are able to do this. I love my life and I want other young women to know it's a very honorable thing to be a hardworking, disciplined homemaker and mother. It's so sad how it's looked down upon nowadays by a lot of women. It's really not men that are disapproving of it, it's working women. I have had older women try to use SIGN language on me, (shame, insults, guilt, and the need to be right)

[@retrorenegade1967]

@@youtubeKathy It's true. Especially if the women in their family are career women. If they didn't grow up seeing women that weren't career women then it's very foreign to them and they don't understand it

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

I was a working mom and never regretted it. I'm 60 now, with a great work pension.

[@Peakock-0]

You’re a role model Lila! 👍🏻

[@Peakock-0]

@@youronlinebuddy fixed it. But it’s a KZbin comment section. Not a book report

[@tracytilford6735]

My mom is the most beautiful person I know. She is absolutely kindness itself. She will go out of her way to help others and give to others even though she doesn't have much herself.

[@SharpusAurelius]

Lila is truly one in a million and I don’t mean that as a compliment but a grim reality of our fallen world.

[@MijoShrek]

Agreed. I was scrolling in shorts And started feeling a sense of dread when I can't go anywhere in spaces from posts on the feeds. Posts after post of women's neverending berating men and demands for compliance of behaviors from men. I realized it was getting tiring and glad I'm here. Gueez.

[@HPTFan]

Good episode, Lila. I had seen toxic femininity growing up, and I'm glad it has been brought into the light. God wants to live in harmony with one another, and us humans, we have a long way to go. I hope you are staying safe, and thank you for the podcast. Goodnight.

[@zlata9720]

My favourite feminine role models have always been traditional christian mothers. So loving, so happy, so supportive, so beautiful inside and out. They adore their kids, their husbands, always willing to help others. Only now I realise how hard it is, but definitely trying to be similar to those

[@technical_bet_144]

God bless you Lila and thank you for sharing truth. I hope to find a woman who isn’t tied up in this sick world and who would love to be a Mother one day because I would love to be a Dad

[@desireegreen653]

I love the discussion of virtues, and how both men and women, when focused on goodness, become the best of themselves. I grew up with alot of toxic people, and all of us can have moments or seasons of toxicity. Then there's just straight narcissists, and one quality in them is an ability the lie and manipulate that normal people do not possess. I love the discussion, and you've invited me into contemplation of virtuous people I've know. Sadly, not many come to mind. So I will work on it, thank you

[@danielaparra6829]

The woman I admire the most is my cousin, doesn’t have children, decided it. Is career oriented, a biotech scientist, has traveled around the world and the thing I admire the most is that she didn’t cared about the pressure our family put her through to be in certain ways. I think your view about what makes a woman a woman is narrowed, not everybody fits in the mold of family oriented, not everyone wants to be a mother, or a wife The person you have to be loyal first is to yourself ( in your values ) and then you can give it to other people Of all you said in what you consider a “true femininity” the only thing I agree is that we shouldn’t compete against women but to support each other

[@Erika-kw9xc]

I loved so many aspects of this podcast. It really made me rethink so many things and put a new perspective on things. You just brought a lot of clarity into my life. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@rejectwokeness1314]

Lila is smart, super classy and beautiful and basically perfect in every regard! Lila is the representation of peak feminity 😊

[@eternaltajali]

So heartened for your work. beloved. The reason I wrote beloved is because I primarily respect women through love and certainly you've earned it

[@brittany7623]

Growing up, I HATED my body as I was growing through puberty because of the way older, adult men would stare at inappropriate places. It was so uncomfortable and if i could have removed those parts at that time i would have

[@templekanu6740]

It is an instinctive part of Men to look, that is how nature wired Men. You look, you pursue and you mate . This is how babies are made. If Men do not ever feel attracted to a Woman, there would be no reproduction. This cannot change and should not change. I hope tou are confident enough now to see staring as admiration and attraction. There are Women who might not be looked at twice. If you get regular stares, you are beautiful, charming and attractive. Wear it with grace. It is all about the mind

[@brittany7623]

@templekanu6740 it's disgusting when directed at underage teenagers, though. Particularly when directed 13 and 14 year old children by 30 and 40+ men. Which is what I was talking about.

[@sergiotasconmorales7021]

I would add fear of God to the list of positive signs of femininity

[@PoliticalWonderland]

You are such a beautiful representation of femininity Lila. In all you do and how you conduct yourself, u just shine. I’m happy to have you as a role model for me & my daughter

[@Sara-jd4gi]

I agree with the majority of your points, but for one. It is reductive to write off every career focused woman as toxic and selfish. Id say alot of career focused women like myself, work hard to be able to be the change that we want to see in the world - we strive to serve humanity at large. So it is really reductive to say that we are not properly feminine because we do not want relationships, nor kids. By that same token you exclude people like Mother Teresa (who you later laud for her kindness).

[@violette4841]

God may have a particular ministry for you and some of the early apostles and followers of Christ were not married like John and Andrew as well as Mary, Martha, Mary Magdalen, Paul and Jesus. I also had a school of single female teachers at my girls' school. I avoid extremists who point to one path for all.

[@jenniferpoyner8814]

I am so excited about this podcast episode thank you Jesus ❤

[@destineeneville]

thank you for this... I've felt at a loss with politics. Everything felt so angry and awful- I've been craving something like this that is so elegantly firm, understanding, supportive, and encouraging.

[@christotaku]

thank you, you are such a light in this world!

[@megzipperer7645]

I love these points. Very concise and empathic. What frustrates me is that most people here watching ALREADY agree on these. I'd love to see some curious people from other perspectives, coming here and understanding where these opinions come from...

[@mariasilviacirelli7799]

It's one of the best podcast I've heard recently ❤️ I love how much you are compassionate to people who are far away from Christianity, always recognizing their worth and giving a chance to their heart and intensions, giving more value to good things they do. What I often see in my experience is that many women, even the most feminist of them, when they finally meet a good man, who embraces true and healthy masculinity, generally embrace much more their femininity, motherhood and marriage

[@ZinaO.]

Johnny wanted the trial publicized so he could finally tell his story. Amber had already publicly ruined his character and his career. So he wanted the chance to speak his side, and not behind closed doors. People in a relationship can make choices about that relationship.

[@mariejramoth.prolife]

There's a married couple in my life. They complement each other. It's beautiful to watch.

[@kingdomofgodisathand]

I could listen to you talk about this all day. I am saved as of last year, I used to advocate for sexual freedom and was ALLLL of the toxic traits you listed. I am renewed in Christ and am finally finding my true femininity! By the way.. you are a huge help and inspiration to me ❤

[@staceyoleary6005]

Thank you for your beautiful explanation of what is feminine. We need education and examples of what a true woman is and to celebrate it❤️

[@haydongonzalez-dyer2727]

a much needed discussion

[@tinalettieri]

That is the actual definition of narcissism.

[@juliabidell8968]

I wonder how much of this would be solved if we knew God and our identity in Him?

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

What an incredible commentary. Thank you, Lila.🌸🫶🏻

[@monicamartin8278]

Love that every life is sponsoring you! They’re a great company and we love their diapers and wipes!!

[@biancaaustin5859]

I ❤ YOU LILA ROSE!!! Thank you for all you do! X

[@orangepeaches8238]

Hi Lila please do an interview with Rachel Wilson, the author of Occult Feminism: The Secret History of Women’s Liberation. Absolutely love your content, thanks!!!🌼

[@bcafoe]

O, this topic is my jam! I love to inspire feminine women by telling them they're becoming 'grand dames' meaning they're becoming women of sublime stature and personality. There are of course also men that are 'grand messieurs' but we're focusing on women. Great femininity can be recognized by a feminine maturity: accountability, physical poise, modesty, command of the different subtleties of communication, genuine interest in other people, virtue, strength in personal convictions that serve the greater good, having mastered organization and care of family and social events, emotional discipline, a refined knowledge of worldly things and most of all gentleness. To name the most important. Not only can she emanate love and bring it to practice. She is also receptive, emotionally free flowing but still able to contain herself. Lastly, she chooses a good partner and fearlessly proclaims her pride, doting and love for him. She's the ever inward directed half of a tightly knit team with her man.

[@EvieRombal74]

Thank you for making this video, Lila! I wonder if it would be possible or you would be up for editing/making a caveat about motherhood for those who are not able to be mothers. It would be amazing if you could talk about how those with infertility or who I haven’t found their spouse (yet?) are called to be spiritual mother’s to those in our care (like being a loving aunt, mom friend, babysitter, mentor,etc.) with the time we do have. Biological Motherhood is an amazing gift we all have a philosophical capacity for but is not a guarantee.

[@PricelessBinkey1337]

17:02 I'm convinced that's why a lot of women think that they are autistic on some scale because they are being told to stand for what it means to be a woman and when they don't measure up, they think something is wrong with them and so they compensate in other ways to mask that insecurity, such as dominating men, chasing glamorous careers, or being generally aggressive/antisocial

[@missy1843]

And i think there is no toxic masculinity and toxic femininity, there are just toxic people that decided to be led by ego

[@thuyhuongpham5240]

I love your sharing about true femininity. My daughter introduced your podcast to me..and i love it. Thanks Lila .❤

[@pinkroses135]

I don't much care for the terms toxic masculinity/femininity but when I think of bad qualities that are growing it would be stuff like angrily taking over in personal situations/need for control, condescension towards men, hyper materialism, hyper competitiveness, promiscuity, tearing down another woman, being anti family, anti home, anti teamwork or community, anti tact, anti gentleness. Really its about the same as the negative qualities on the male side but there's more of a domination quality here because of the cultural shift in "masculine and feminine energies".

[@lisacup6876]

True Feminism is being accountable. You are responsible for all of your actions. Also, you don't move in with a man, having him pay half the rent, and tell your friends how " independent " you are when a man is paying half of your rent. Next, you do not "need" a man to " complete " you or define you. A real woman embraces her identity in Christ. They do not allow their lust or flesh to drive their decisions. Also, " me" time is selfishness, which creates vanity and narcissistic behavior. It creates a soul full of sin.

[@Ooooopppsss]

26:10 -26:40 a profound statement that was well articulated!

[@MarkieTay-j6k]

Thank you for making this Video!! Amazing.

[@RealSamHailu]

This podcast is awesome!

[@Redpillcouple]

I’ve never considered that women consider fertility as a disease. This was eye opening.

[@samanthadeelovejoy5]

At my church we have a woman named Lilo she was in Germany her and I grew quite close. Choosing the German resistance during WWII they're focused and begin tough old bird. When she died the thing I remember most about her ability to love people even if they made mistakes. She was very sick at the end but she still went to church for two times a week and tutored the little kids for free. All while being graceful and classy.

[@cabbytabby]

6:18 skip the intro

[@adriennedyke]

I looove the colors of this podcast video!!!! and the pod is just sooo good

[@WilliamSheehan-xg8hm]

As a man I appreciate your content

[@ke753reej]

You are a blessing Lila 🙏🏽

[@bellonasky2502]

I apparently noticed different things when watching Barbie. I loved that movie and thought it was so great how it ended with Ken becoming an equal and it was a hilarious journey.

[@lucianabohnert8777]

A fictional character that became my role model is Claudia Joy Holden, from Army Wives. She is a loving mother, loyal wife, good friend and very involved in helping the community.

[@stephanielegarda5443]

What a positive representation of feminity and good explanation of the toxic - this was well done!