They denied me time off when my father died. I took it anyway. Told 'em fire me if they wanted but I'd sue because it's federal law.
@TheQuietStorm6307 ай бұрын
Good For You and I'm sorry for your loss. How did your employers take it?
@alibabapirce97827 ай бұрын
i egt you. i would hate it too if my father died and i would miss a chance to dance over his dead body
@goodtoGoNow19567 ай бұрын
It is not a federal law.
@osco43117 ай бұрын
No, federal FMLA doesn't include bereavement, however, some states like Oregon have additional protections under state law.
@sandra-jones7 ай бұрын
Bereavement leave is not federal law. There are some states that have it but I think it's only 4 or 5. So it's mostly on an employer basis. This is unfortunate and should be looked at.
@vmd07346 ай бұрын
Whenever I hear “you need to be a team player” or “our workplace is like a family”, INSTANT red flag.
@Jennabear826 ай бұрын
My family is toxic, so... Yeah...
@ttvmikrowave6 ай бұрын
Recently learned the last "family" reference last year followed by being let go in the tech (i.e., cyber) industry.
@Sammythatjewishnerd6 ай бұрын
Or “give 120%”. For a cashier job at Dairy Queen🤦🏻♀️
@squishymellowowo6 ай бұрын
Especially if it's only convenient for the management. But they weren't acting like a family when you needed time to be there for your family to leave work in and you were willing to work extra hours or work from home to make app for that time. But they're trying to make it difficult because. They want everything to be convenient on their end
@judybrennan79306 ай бұрын
Right !!!
@christinakeegan51496 ай бұрын
When my brother-in-law died and my sister needed me and my Mom, my work not only gave me as much time off as I needed - they footed the ENTIRE BILL for our travel because we didn't have the money. I cried when I had to leave that job. Good companies are far and few, but they do exist.
@garlicgirl31496 ай бұрын
Rare gems.
@forastero543216 ай бұрын
What was that job?
@christinakeegan51496 ай бұрын
@@forastero54321 I was a homeschool curriculum counselor.
@charmcharm23526 ай бұрын
Why did you have to leave?
@PrimordialChaos076 ай бұрын
You must be white 😏 this happens all the time.
@TwistedJedi22887 ай бұрын
The longer you work the more you realize that the company doesn't care about you, so why should you care about the company.
@1thatgotaway9746 ай бұрын
😢😂🎉😅😢😮❤😂😢😮
@1thatgotaway9746 ай бұрын
Its called ..PAYCHECK
@Gaytwinbros6 ай бұрын
@@1thatgotaway974 You can get those anywhere.
@SonyEdge56 ай бұрын
@@1thatgotaway974Which is why it makes no sense to do them any favors or buy into the family bs
@sharlenemullins10306 ай бұрын
Amen
@FUB6547 ай бұрын
Where do companies get this whole "family" shit from? I don't know you and... I don't even like my own family, let alone you!🤣
@xannxouxi78997 ай бұрын
I love your comment.....I love my blood family tho😂😂😂
@StopBeingRacist7 ай бұрын
That part
@lukas87086 ай бұрын
I have a ready answer for that family bs - "I need 100$, don't be a scrooge, we are a family"
@sharonwhiteman63456 ай бұрын
@@FUB654 While I love my family we need to keep in their proper place. Some family members will take advantage of u
@williamgilmore42876 ай бұрын
"Family" shit comes from managers who try to guilt employees into doing things that they very well know is illegal or against company policy!
@LAMAxFACE7 ай бұрын
I worked for my local POLICE. My dad passed "unexpectedly" at the age of 59. I was given 3 days "compassionate leave". Because it was an unexpected death it had to go to the coroner. It was Saturday so the coroner didn't get to it until Monday. My dad passed on 22 November and we buried him on the 2nd Dec. All time beyond the 3 days "compassionate leave" was taken from my annual leave. To bury my dad. Then I was told I would not receive my PERFORMANCE related pay rise due to my "Attendance". I resigned shortly after.
@gsmith51406 ай бұрын
Unconscionable!
@solosynapse6 ай бұрын
Should have made that precinct's sick behaviour public.
@poppy59866 ай бұрын
My employer did something similar after my mum died. I took 2 weeks annual leave as I was not coping very well. She died during the COVID lockdowns and I was dealing with it by myself. When I got back to work I was called into my supervisor’s office and written up for a mistake I had made, told to box my belongings immediately and moved to another department. I was then marked down on my annual appraisal, with the following statement: Needs to learn to deal with her personal life better, and not allow it to affect her work.
@Megan-10146 ай бұрын
@@poppy5986Oh wow! That’s awful! I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope your days are bringing you more happiness lately ❤
@blessedsinner86866 ай бұрын
As you should. Sorry for your loss.
@ApocryphalDude7 ай бұрын
It's always about power and control by management and executives.
@Ares999997 ай бұрын
How do you know?
@musiclifegage73707 ай бұрын
Psychopathy/Sociopathy is real.
@WhoAuthorizedThis7 ай бұрын
Managers acting like this are ridiculous because they forget they’re cogs as well. 😂
@24goodbuddy5 ай бұрын
Exactly 💯
@videofan10105 ай бұрын
Not everyone keeps that energy. Seriously.
@BROUBoomer6 ай бұрын
I had one job where the manager said I couldn't get the time off to go see my dying grandmother. I immediately called HR in front of him and asked for an emergency leave of absence, for the 3 weeks I asked for, they said granted. They emailed my manager within minutes that the time off was approved. *When it comes to family, never accept NO as an answer. Go over their heads until you get the answer you want. And be willing to quit to get what you need.* *Family is forever, jobs come and go.*
@whatsamatteryou7916 ай бұрын
Not at my job. HR is in on it.
@BROUBoomer5 ай бұрын
@@whatsamatteryou791 Hi, Deepest sympathies. Not every HR is a good one. Sometimes it's in the words, and phrasing that you use. Sound plain and simple, get treated that way. Use big fancy legal sounding words to say the same thing, and they grow a little bit afraid of what you're capable of. Works for me usually. I just say a quick prayer first, and ask God to send me the right words to say. Worked so good one time, I had to go home and look in the dictionary to find out what those words meant...and I used the right words correctly. I just don't ever remember learning those words until that day. Maybe I heard them on TV, IDK.
@sihledunamiz4205 ай бұрын
@@BROUBoomerperhaps God did put the Words in your mouth as you prayed and asked Him to😊
@massynicole68435 ай бұрын
@@BROUBoomerI did the same exact thing and it worked! Prayer for the right words.❤
@melvinaJenkinsDavis5 ай бұрын
"The disappointment is mutual" 😂
@ericanadine18547 ай бұрын
I once had a job that denied my leave to take off for my sons kindergarten graduation, I put the request in two weeks ahead, that was denied, then offered to come in late after the graduation, denied…I went back to my desk and started packing my personal things, one of my co-workers asked me what was going on, I explained…my son was not going to lookout into that audience at 5yrs old and not see anyone there for him, the sacrifices of a single parent…the next day I started job hunting…
@relaunchinglife7 ай бұрын
When people (or a company) show you who they are, you need to believe them. Good for you - jobs are plentiful, but graduating kindergarten only happens once. A 5 yr old brain is still developing, and deciding how secure to feel in the world based on how important we show them they are. Well played Mama..
@ericanadine18547 ай бұрын
@@relaunchinglife…💪🏻, and my son is now 30yrs old, has a great career and soon to step into Fatherhood for the first time…
@xletragedyx7 ай бұрын
@ericanadine1854 congratulations! And he knows his mom is behind him 100%. Always has been, always will be ❤
@davidgilbert78537 ай бұрын
Isn't that sad that corporations don't care about that? But I bet you one thing that the executives of that company probably go to their children's events without questioning. So why do they have the right to tell their employees not to go?
@Morpheus-pt3wq6 ай бұрын
@@davidgilbert7853 even when the execs do that, the reasoning for it might be different. For example, narcissists only do this for the sake of being seen as "good" parents - however not by their children, but others around them. Bosses and managers (also politicians) often ARE narcissists. They crave for jobs, that bring them attention and power over others.
@maryrudelich90007 ай бұрын
Your boss and coworkers are not your family. In fact, they’re not even second cousins twice removed! That’s crazy conversation.
@danielle24517 ай бұрын
Might not even be your friend even after you've been through thick and thin
@WhoThisMonkey7 ай бұрын
@@danielle2451 Oh boy, tell me about it.
@watetumuchemi17137 ай бұрын
Work is NOT family 😂😂😂😂
@watetumuchemi17137 ай бұрын
The dissapointment is mutual! Lol
@bobcat86547 ай бұрын
No one likes her that is why
@StephenDeCesare7 ай бұрын
There's Spider-man, Wonder Woman and now Veronica. Three powerful superheroes.
@TheQuietStorm6307 ай бұрын
Absolutely 💯💯🤣🤣🤣
@419sweets7 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@MrARhodes6 ай бұрын
Yeah. Eff a Wanda, or Captain Marvel. 🫡
@Shuffle-Major-Arcana6 ай бұрын
@@MrARhodes Wanda's a villain.
@SUGAs_Shadow856 ай бұрын
I think it's more like Batman, Patrick Bateman, and Veronica. The difference? No actual superpowers, but damn, that brain that the power behind the words 😂
@ldkea056 ай бұрын
"The disappointment is mutual" lol
@HalifaxOMG7 ай бұрын
The toxicity is REAL. The gaslighting is real too. When did companies stop caring about their employees? This is a common occurrence... Very sad.
@neah90607 ай бұрын
I think it started with the creation of stock market, when even your boss start having to report to someone above them, and money became more important than humans
@bettym.39967 ай бұрын
Replaceable. That's how some companies treat employees. Veronica must be very talented at her job.
@amyhamaker78037 ай бұрын
When dividends to shareholders became the be-all-end-all of business.
@debbiejennings90406 ай бұрын
Personally, when you’re in a company that has over 50 employees, they don’t care for you at all bottom and top line! They just want to use employees like toilet paper.😊😊😊😊
@chizukanelson79476 ай бұрын
Lol! The correct question is when did they START caring? Back in the day if you got injured and couldn't work, too bad, so sad. There was another guy right behind you waiting for that job. Companies do what they do for employees because it's better to retain people than to have to constantly train new hires because everyone is leaving. Some companies are better than others but they all still slaves to the bottom line. It is what it us.
@S0l1dZ3r06 ай бұрын
And they wonder why the great resignation happened the way it did. When a toxic company like this one files for Chapter 7 an angel gets its wings.
@Kevlin00696 ай бұрын
An angel gets its' wings? I thought a CEO got a golden parachute...
@S0l1dZ3r06 ай бұрын
@@Kevlin0069 You’re not wrong.
@latonjabell38375 ай бұрын
❤YESSSSSS
@garlicgirl31496 ай бұрын
My job years ago only gave the funeral day for a parent. That's it. Not even 3 days. That is how much America values family and mental health.
@luvyatubers2 ай бұрын
That must be where the 'We are family here at 'Name your company' comes in. Your true family does not matter
@iamz_mbie2 ай бұрын
while at the same time the government is demonizing people for not having families. adds up.
@MsCynthia12035 ай бұрын
I had started a new job and was t-boned. I asked my supervisor if I could work through my lunches so that when I went to physical therapy I wouldn't have to lose any time. She told me no; that I had to just miss the time, but she was letting another employee do it. When it came time for the deposition, I fixed my schedule so that I wouldn't miss any appointments. ( I worked two hours from home). She called a supervisor higher than she, the program manager, and then told me that he said that if I left I could consider myself terminated. I emptied my desk of my property, completed my class, and gave her my ID and keys. 40 days later, I was working my current job. Here I am 15 years later and still there. She meant it for my bad, but God meant it for my good. 😊
@MrR4M1T72 ай бұрын
Glory be to God for he is always good! What was meant to tear you down God turned into your launch pad! Hallelujah!!!
@trenae777 ай бұрын
Didn’t have a funeral, but my father just took a bad fall and my boss’s response was ‘let me know what I can do to help’. I’ve had to take off two days to take my mom to the hospital to be with him as surgery got pushed back. ‘Your mom needs you right now - keep me posted and I’ll bepraying for your dad.’
@ryanellis25026 ай бұрын
Shockingly this is the normal boss' response but the internet glorifies and exemplifies bad cases
@bonniehalf-elven6 ай бұрын
@@ryanellis2502 I've been in toxic environments and good ones. I'm beginning to think companies like @trenae77's are more common. I am very lucky in my current situation, but that is not the case for some of my friends.
@Xiallaci6 ай бұрын
@@ryanellis2502in my experience this is normal for big corporations and has been getting worse. At least in my company all decent managers were specifically targeted and removed
@trenae776 ай бұрын
@@ryanellis2502 even an earlier supervisor with whom I had a rough relationship proved supportive when issues arose. I remember her telling me when I was taking Sick Leave to cover for my mom (she had a day care and was dealing with a uterine cancer diagnosis) ‘it’s called Family Emergency Leave - your mother is family and this is an emergency for her’
@hellybelle56 ай бұрын
A good boss is such a blessing, especially when you're having such a rough time ❤ I hope all is well with your family ❤
@lydiadillard44177 ай бұрын
There is no 'family' in the work place.
@dragerdet3 ай бұрын
Family owned business?
@Berniej.JaninskyАй бұрын
And there is no 'U' in 'Team Player'!!
@Scapegoat326 ай бұрын
This is EXACTLY how the company I work for right now is! The double standards are outrageous and I'm quitting without notice in two weeks!
@14393156 ай бұрын
(do not remember the name of the online commenter) Stated that he gave company 6 weeks notice in writing that he is quitting. Called in sick next day; never went back.
@tinkeramma5 ай бұрын
How'd it go?
@eldaroses.g.r.79455 ай бұрын
Good for you! I hope your next job is more how people should be! I mean, honestly, why can’t people just treat their employees with respect? Being nice is just a better way to live!
@user-tz5uq2bt1s7 ай бұрын
When my little brother died my boss just said "Take as long as you need."
@xletragedyx7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry for your loss
@recyclingrevolution49056 ай бұрын
That’s the right answer. Different people process loss differently . Someone needs more time.
@leatherDarkhorse6 ай бұрын
When they need you = family, When they dont need you = i paid you.
@BigTimeShowdown3 ай бұрын
Exactly
@nuggett227 ай бұрын
My uncle died and i found out while i was on my way into work. When i did get there to let them know i would not be there, i was a crying mess, and my manager looked me in the eyes and said "you dont get any bereavement days. Since an uncle is not considered immediate family". I said i would be taking the day and i left. Freakin heartless.
@nicolenunya9847 ай бұрын
I’m sorry for your loss. Yes, my job doesn’t count aunts or uncles as immediate family. They do count in laws (including SIL and BIL). That was weird to me because you know your aunt and uncle as a young child.
@GamegirlGamegirl7 ай бұрын
Happened to me as well at the previous company I worked for, also my uncle. Unfortunately as I had no transportation at the time I couldn't go and still had to work even though he was blood relative, sad till this day. No matter what they threaten you with, companies are just people in buildings doing everyday business that can go on for a very long time. Family memories and time with loved ones can never be replaced, don't live with regrets like me, it will crush you 😢
@Autumn_Forest_6 ай бұрын
@@GamegirlGamegirlGood advice!! I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m even more sorry that you were forced out of going to be with your family. It wasn’t your fault. ❤
@claireconolly83556 ай бұрын
😡heartless never the less
@garlicgirl31496 ай бұрын
America does not value family.
@amydecker62076 ай бұрын
I'm so glad i have the management i have in my current role. When my dad died, i called my supervisor and said, See you in a week. She had no problem with that, and the team took turns covering for me. THAT is what a workplace should be.
@barbaraselletti65206 ай бұрын
This was my experience with my former, micromanaging director. The pandemic was actually a God-send, since it allowed me to work from home and away from the toxic environment of the office. When we were finally allowed to return to work, that's when I decided to retire. It was a really hard decision because I loved my job and it had been a source of joy for a quarter of a century. I just couldn't take working with the director and her small circle of sycophants.
@sharoni36016 ай бұрын
When my dad died, I had already worked my shift and call my boss and told her I needed to go. She said she could not allow me to go. I told her that I was not asking I was telling. And that when I get back, we would have a discussion on the way she was treating me. Her reply was that she would need a copy of the obit published in the local paper as proof Dad actually died. (What?) When I returned to work, I went to her office and made the paint peel off the walls. I did not use foul language but absolutely stood my ground. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. I did not usually take the power lead but when I do it's satisfying. I always had outstanding job performance awards every year, so I felt I was a very good employee. Always accommodated when they needed extra things done. Always did my job100% every day. She was crying as I walked out.
@sharoni36015 ай бұрын
@@carlyofearth I assume you mean when I got back. I put the newspaper with the obit in her inbox, I was always at work a couple hours before she started and neither I nor she ever said anything, she avoided me for a really long time. I think she thought she was punishing me by not speaking to me. I think maybe she thought I would go away. But I did not. And a year or so later I got a nice gold ring with a small diamond and company name on it for years of service and usually they were given out at a company function, she put it in my inbox and never mentioned it.
@MonicaEavey5 ай бұрын
That is really low. It's your Dad for the love of God
@samridhithapliyal90145 ай бұрын
Wondering what you told the manager, that made her cry. I'll be taking notes.
@sharoni36014 ай бұрын
@@samridhithapliyal9014 Actually I really don't remember but there was a lot of how dare you's and what were you thinking when talking to me like that. And I will not allow you or anybody to treat or speak to me like that. But know, I always worked hard (I got outstanding job performance awards every year with bonus) and gave it my all and I was very good at what I did, and I acted like I did not need the job. I always treated those around me with loyalty, kindness and respect and I demand the same. Another trick I used, when someone says something that was what I considered wrong, just stand in a straight stance, look them in the eye and say nothing and just wait. They get uncomfortable and start stammering. Works every time just as long as you don't use it too often. I did notice towards the time I decided to call it quits that the new hires of the younger generation were different in attitude and work ethic, old tricks were not quite as effective.
@hurricane_laura3 ай бұрын
Good, I hope she had to swim in her guilt.
@sandrapontius35006 ай бұрын
Veronica says all the things I would like to have said to all the toxic people I worked for. Corporations are a bunch of a-holes.
@zombieravioli5 ай бұрын
I agree. I wish I could have had her lines. And courage. And confidence.
@Lulusvideos16 ай бұрын
Companies have really turned on their employees in the last decade. I’ve been told, after expressing interest in another department that I’m easily replaceable. Well good because they’ll be replacing me when I resign.
@e-moshe5 ай бұрын
The harsh reality is that we’re all seen as replaceable as far as managers are concerned. There are reasons why employees are often called resources and just referred to as capacity in planning.
@luvyatubers2 ай бұрын
@@e-moshe True and the customer is not always right or cared for anymore because replacing an employee means MISTAKES! It takes time for new employees to learn equal to the one replaced. It can take a year or more. Customers notice. Customers get irritated. First thing customers say is WHERE IS EVERYONE? WHO ARE YOU PEOPLE! You can see the disgust and worry about mistakes. It hurts the company to have unhappy customers, but they'd rather stomp that boot on the employee especially if due for a pay raise
@DancingLobster17 ай бұрын
I remember when my grandmother died and the woman I worked for at the time told me.I know your Grandma just died, but it's not fair to the company that you're going to be gone for 4 days.Can you not go to your grandma's funeral....best believe I went
@WildBikerBill7 ай бұрын
"Can you not go to your grandma's funeral." - absolutely insane request.
@stephanoc98147 ай бұрын
And can bet if that happens in the person life abd they advise the office and you say same time what she said to you ot would be considered as inconsiderate and insubordination.
@Username-ze1ux7 ай бұрын
Man…who raised these sort of immoral people/bosses
@DancingLobster17 ай бұрын
@stephanoc9814 yuuuuuuup. She tried withholding my paycheck. I'm not from New york, but my grandmother is. We needed one day to drive to New york, one day for the wake, one day for the burial ceremony and one day to drive back
@freedomdive1237 ай бұрын
@DancingLobster1 that's truly sad. I'm sorry for your loss
@georgettewilliams1157 ай бұрын
My lead asked me the other day what was I doing, I told her working on my resume
@hydrangeas_lover7 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@gsmith51406 ай бұрын
😂
@ClarityDetermination6 ай бұрын
Cheers!
@T.I.N.246 ай бұрын
This is so sad. They wonder why people don't want to work. Reiterate. Work for them!
@14393156 ай бұрын
When a company is always hiring most likely you do NOT want to work . . .for them.
@katiefrolichman7 ай бұрын
When my brother passed, I told work I’m taking 3 days bereavement. They didn’t have that policy and I was out of PTO days. They REWROTE the policy to include 3 days bereavement. My brother always made my life better. Still does 💕
@TheRealdal7 ай бұрын
Now that’s a company that cares about their employees 😊
@katiefrolichman7 ай бұрын
@@TheRealdal I think it was more they had never had anyone like me 🤣
@bunniewood6 ай бұрын
A family member dies and you only get 3 days off?!! What world is this?
@bonniehalf-elven6 ай бұрын
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm close with two of my brothers, and they make my life better, too.
@androkguz6 ай бұрын
@@bunniewood how many do you get and how big are families where you live? Where I come from, if it was standard to take 3 days per family member, we would never work
@christinehoolihan74337 ай бұрын
I love Veronicas perspective. Would love to hear if she has ever actually said these things in the work place, because when I have I was fired later or management made my job so toxic I had to leave. Veronica has my complete respect.
@sarahkelly40267 ай бұрын
It helps that she’s a Spanish speaker in Florida. So many job listings there require it.
@anonymoose1167 ай бұрын
The trick is to document it.
@runningfromabear83547 ай бұрын
Exactly! I've never been fired. As long as you're good at your job, they're stuck up shit's creek. I stuck around until something better came up and they scrambled for years to replace me. 😂
@musiclifegage73707 ай бұрын
@@runningfromabear8354gross
@shaneekathomas93957 ай бұрын
1., 2., 3., document, document, document 4. Be amazing at your job 5. Don’t check your personal email, Facebook, Instagram, make copies or anything else that is against company policy on company equipment. 6. Be a team player 7., 8., 9. Read the company handbook/policies and procedures thoroughly, be familiar with your local, state, federal laws as they apply to you., Don’t let them play you. 10. Be professional & learn skills to be better and more efficient. 11. Save $ and have a side hustle. It’s always good to have more than one source of income. Even if it’s a little. 12. Be Veronica
@rebecca553717 ай бұрын
Why is it they can do whatever they want but as soon as you do whatever you want or just stand up for yourself then you’re not being a “team player“?
@embrown14420006 ай бұрын
Their management philosophy is 'Do as I say, not as I do".
@taylorjade69186 ай бұрын
You're not the team, you're just a player. Something like that
@Lord_Deimos5 ай бұрын
You're not supposed to fight back and they hate it when you do
@rosesmith62084 ай бұрын
they are dishonest they know they are screwing with you and know they are lying but they are gaslighting you since they need you more than you need them, especially when no wants to work anymore or you have special skill set that they cannot hire cheap workers off the street. so basically in their hearts they are dishonest the bible calls that want of heart, lacking good motive.
@Jane-o8f3 ай бұрын
Remember this country, United States, had slavery for many years as well as indentured servitude. Perhaps, that has something to do with being treated like crap in the USA workplace.
@leachristianwoman5 ай бұрын
“The disappointment is mutual.” Love 🤣🤣🤣
@nrusso9676 ай бұрын
I had this almost exact same conversations with my micromanager boss in Northvale, NJ. Only I said, "Test my patience, if you like. My lawyer loves people like you in court." It was way before coronavirus! She was questioning why I needed 2 days off for surgery. Asking me, "What kind of surgery? Why would I need 2 days? Who is your doctor? Why can you not come back to work the same day?" My response to each of these questions was, "Apologies, but I do not feel comfortable discussing my medical needs with anyone except my doctors. Please respect that." Micromanager then dragged me into HR. Where I told HR representative the same thing and had my attorney on my cell phone speaker. Oh, the micromanager was "reprimanded". But I left a year & 7 months later when I was only given an $.08 an hour raise because, "You disrespected our work family protocols. I expect answers to my questions whether, or not, I am your doctor." Micromanager still works there with a really crappy staff which she wholeheartedly deserves!!!
@rogerthemanful4 ай бұрын
Wouldn’t proof needed to be presented?
@TheMissouriSpartan4 ай бұрын
@@rogerthemanfulno. Other than a doctor’s note, the company is not in any legal way entitled to proof or private medical information of an employee.
@rogerthemanful4 ай бұрын
@@TheMissouriSpartan a doctors note would be enough. Anything else is needless prying and intrusiveness at that point
@TheMissouriSpartan4 ай бұрын
@@rogerthemanful exactly
@Linward6 ай бұрын
Having been in call centers and customer service way too long...Veronica knows exactly how we're treated. She's my hero helping me get through a few more years of abuse before I finally retire.
@deerhaven33504 ай бұрын
I lasted five years in a toxic call-center. At one point 1/3 of my department was out on "stress leaves"; true story. I can remember bursting out in tears on many drives home from work after being belittled, brow-beaten and just treated so horribly by a narcissistic manager. I made very good money there, and pinched my pennies so I could get out of there. I finally did and am now retired. These days I still cry once in awhile, but they're tears of joy because I feel so blessed to be where I am.
@Linward4 ай бұрын
@@deerhaven3350 I think if everyone was required to work for a period of time as a restaurant server and in a call center...there would be much more empathy. I went into one of the largest banks in the world being a complete loving people person and left there nearly hating the human race. It paid more than I had ever made up to that point, but I felt like I sold my sold to the devel. It was one of the last few jobs to offer a pension, so I was determined to vest in the 5 years required. I quit the very day I qualified. It won't be much of course, about a hundred twenty dollars a month for as long as I live. I'm now 4 years away from locking into a state pension, hopefully my last job forever. Like you, I have saved nearly every penny I could and lived below my means to be free of this enslavement. Congratulations on your retirement. It's a dream, hard earned, well deserved come true.
@Pepper527 ай бұрын
My department was put under a different VP and she tried that family bullshit with me while also gaslighting me. I quit asap and I had been working there for 22 years.
@ClarityDetermination6 ай бұрын
You should not have had to quit. I wish she had had to quit. These videos are helpful for building skills. They assist in helping people have better and more effective responses.
@tessahall7977 ай бұрын
Veronica is my hero
@wendyapfeldorf21205 ай бұрын
The best thing about retirement is the toxic work environment goes out the window!
@brooklynrocks23963 ай бұрын
AMEN to that. Don't miss that part of my life at all.
@stevep80626 ай бұрын
i have done about 70 k unpaid overtime over the last 10+ yrs for my current employer as a construction supervisor , not being paid extra for that role , training & running crews of 3 - 10 people daily , i always accepted it because i had the experience & skills to pick up the slack for my employer & wanted the company to be succeed . speaking to my employer recently i realised they have no appreciation & don't even want to acknowledge what i have done for them .These short stories are quite relevant in regards to the workplace .
@Iwillspeakup6 ай бұрын
I'm the supervisor who has a toxic director and she wants me to treat my team of 12 like they are children who can't be trusted. I refuse to do that, which leads to my continually being in trouble. I will bend over backwards for my team because they are hard-working, productive, and intelligent adults who work as a team. I got into management to become a better boss than I'd ever had and my newish boss hates that I am liked and respected by my team, so she's doing whatever she can to destroy that.
@AbraCazimi5 ай бұрын
Sounds about right... But big kudos to you!
@eldaroses.g.r.79455 ай бұрын
We need more people like you! You keep standing your ground!
@grytlappar7 ай бұрын
Absolute sociopaths.
@xletragedyx7 ай бұрын
They don't want you to take time off, but also won't let you work from home instead. Make it make sense
@rosesmith62084 ай бұрын
power play had nothing to do with the company but you will do as I say or else. she was punishing her by refusing to let her earn her pay at home. humans sometimes handle power very badly, maybe that is why they get hired as managers?
@SoCalRegisteredNurse7 ай бұрын
This happened to me. They fired me and I threatened to sue. They paid me out a lump sum.
@alvindimes6495 ай бұрын
This is spot on, I learned many years ago that being a "Team Player" actually means inconvenience yourself when we, the company, demand it 😂😂😂
@JacobGeiger-v4sАй бұрын
Exactly 😂❤
@nattdx8466 ай бұрын
When a company brings up being a work family they usually arent. If they always tell you they are team they usually arent. If you ever hear these things in an interview run. A work family/team never has to say they are those things. They also wont brag about it or say it at all. They will show you, and not talk about being one.
@calisongbird6 ай бұрын
Exactly. In fact, most things ANYONE brags about are either exaggerations or bald-faced lies - otherwise they wouldn’t be bragging.
@embrown14420006 ай бұрын
Those red flag phrases just mean that the company expects you to dedicate your life to the job, even if you have a family. I agree - run.
@CSILopez4 ай бұрын
The Level of Hypocrisy is astounding!
@gracenurse33656 ай бұрын
03:20 “I don’t understand why this is becoming such a big deal right now because I’m not going to do it. Like, no matter what you say. You can ask me to leave but I’m not going to do this, no matter what. You could pay me a million dollars an hour and I would not do this for you. And you can test me to see if I’m kidding.”
@babyboyronnie6 ай бұрын
Red flag words: Team player 🚩 Family 🚩 Keep going
@mollysreadings48455 ай бұрын
When the people around you say, "I'll do what's best for the company" as a response to decisions they have free will on- that's a sign of the "family" cult brainwash.
@dhanushikadharmarathna21644 ай бұрын
Exactly !
@AKOuterheaven4 ай бұрын
"Self-starter" They want you think it means you are proactive. What it really means is you'll get no support or guidance from management and you'll only hear from them when there's a problem you need to fix that they caused.
@HISprincessV6 ай бұрын
It's AMAZING how just listening to this #toxicworkenvironment brings up sooooo much job related ABUSE from the past!!!
@testedTransgressor6 ай бұрын
Easiest way I shut down that "we're a family" thing at one workplace "If I died tomorrow y'all might be sad, but you can replace me. But if I died tomorrow, my parents could never replace me. So, they come first."
@eldaroses.g.r.79455 ай бұрын
Oooh… Now that’s some genius right there! We need this on tshirts!
@carolynnilsen92702 ай бұрын
Love this statement!
@ice3195 ай бұрын
PERFECT response. "You can pay me a million dollars an hour and I still won't do it. And you can test me to see if I'm kidding". Exactly. They couldn't care less about your tragedy in the family but they expect you to hop to it when they have some BS emergency. These employers are something else.
@iamz_mbie2 ай бұрын
sounds to me like that don’t know what an emergency is!
@ChanelNo55686 ай бұрын
“And you can test me to see if I am kidding”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@wpistol4 ай бұрын
Dad got cancer in 97. Was terminal and had months to live. In august i took leave , fmla. I was a medic so i kept him home till last 3 days. He passed in December. I returned to work right after the funeral. Boss (local government) said i left them once, why should he take me back? After a very short legal battle, he was fired, i accepted a settlement, a raise with a promotion. His job. F you buddy. LoL
@fdm21557 ай бұрын
Sadly, this scenario is realistic for SO many workplaces.
@Sonnabend006 ай бұрын
Im curious...why IS IT that the US is literally 50 years behind everyone else? I mean this is basic stuff, it is. Bereavement leave is a fact for the rest of the world. I dont get it, why is it the "greatest nation in the world" is so backwards? Im serious. Why?
@noneyabidness96446 ай бұрын
I have NEVER requested time off. I've TOLD them WHEN I was taking time off, purely as a favor to the other employees, so management can staff appropriately.
@geejay22785 ай бұрын
👏👏👏👏👏 me 2!
@chrisbarbz92386 ай бұрын
"Be a team player and bend over" is what employers really like to say. People are waking up in this broken system.
@acecala35767 ай бұрын
I have had similar incident happen. My boss and colleagues take 5-6 weeks vacation in entire year in separate slots of 1-2 weeks at one time, but I asked for 4 weeks in entire year to visit my sick mom and I don't even take a day off otherwise in entire year, but was denied that due to too much workload, they won't approve it. Then I told my boss that I am taking vacation just like he and others on the team are, he said he will think about it, I still submitted 4 weeks request and it was approved eventually. I am yet to make the trip, but I hope they don't create last minute drama because of my vacation.
@notimportant38207 ай бұрын
Let them do what they want, go anyhow. They will survive without you, and if they can't- ask for a pay increase. Besides, you need to spend some time with your mom. You take care of you and those you love, there are plenty of companies looking for good employees who actually show up. ❤❤
@rayzerot6 ай бұрын
Hey hey hey. If your with gives you trouble about visiting your mom, take the days off as FMLA. Your job can't say no and there is legal recourse if they act out
@janicefisk90523 ай бұрын
@@acecala3576 Go, do not allow any drama to stop it. I think the point is this, if you ask for earned time off and it's within the time period they require, why should you have to say what it's for?? That just allows everyone to be judgemental and decide if it's really necessary to their standards. We all put value on different things. If you asked off, you want off. Period. Now funerals are an exception. You don't have the notice to give and it should never be a problem. If it is take it up with HR and get everything in writing.
@farkinarkin50996 ай бұрын
Toxicity comes from the top and downward. It's a people problem.
@olikah46677 ай бұрын
The disappointment is mutual.
@scardini676117 ай бұрын
My employer once told me that my grandmother who raised me wasn't my immediate family and that they were docking my pay for the time off, several months after the fact. I had to make the arrangements and clean out her home and deal with all of the legal stuff, plus my devastating grief. Their reaction caused me to have panic attacks, which they used as an excuse to fire me because they feared it may become an issue for them.
@xalaxie7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry they treated you that way. no one should have to endure that. they be acting like sociopathic assholes
@xletragedyx7 ай бұрын
A grandmother is immediate family, whether they raised you or not. What they did was so illegal. I'm sorry
@SIPEROTH7 ай бұрын
I was with you until the panic attack stuff. I mean you can go find another job or not be corteus to them like Veronica here but start acting without control of yourself is something that can't exactly be tolerated. Is not kindergarten.
@xletragedyx7 ай бұрын
@@SIPEROTH panic attacks are involuntary
@Done25.6 ай бұрын
Eat shit. It's exactly this type of anti-empathy that allows, and encourages, employers to take advantage of, and abuse, their workers.
@lyraserpentine8945 ай бұрын
Worked in an office of 50 people. Every single person but me worked from home (but could come to the office if they wanted; most didn't). Some days, I was the only person in the office. Every time I asked to WFH, I was told my role wasn't a remote one and someone had to be there to answer the phones and grab packages (99% of my role was computer based). I eventually quit without notice because this wasn't the only issue. IYKYK.
@prestonhurst7 ай бұрын
That "manager" is what being brainwashed looks like. I wish I was more like Veronica.
@TheAyurvedic6 ай бұрын
And those BS corporate responses. Puke 🤮 worthy.
@jcdreyer5426 ай бұрын
“And you can test me to see if I’m kidding.” Love it!
@AdoseofAlana_6 ай бұрын
Love how she dodged answering the question 3:00 lmaooo. man these supervisors are such booty
@Esmeraldaqueenoftomatoes5 ай бұрын
A manager told me a week after when I had a death in my family, "So why are you bringing your home problems to work? Yes I remember about your family member dying but you shouldn't have brought that to work." I didn’t, he was threatening to fire me because i refused to do a task because they wanted to put me back in my station which would get me behind if i had to do both. So he told me that I had a choice to do what he asked or to go home and not ever come back. He was the very first person I told of the death and he gave me this annoyed or disgusted look. Some people just have no empathy.
@jonmv4 ай бұрын
In cases like that, you should not ask, you should just INFORM! And if the company does not agree, F them! Get fired from a company like that could be a blessing in disguise!
@maryrudelich90007 ай бұрын
Screw the boss, and take real time off to mourn your loss. Personally, when my Dad who was the survivor spouse, took ill I took three weeks off of unpaid Family Medical Leave before his passing, (it’s your right and human dignity to observe these rights. The law allows up to three months off work for this purpose). Thereafter was the funeral and staging his home for sale. I know it’s difficult to exercise what seems right to you. Do it anyhow. It’s good for the mind and the souls. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
@EmnM20106 ай бұрын
If the phrases "team player" and "family" come up, just get up and walk out. You already have a family that expects you to do stuff for free. You don't need another one.
@1stJohn3.9-104 ай бұрын
After working 12 years at a company, I was let go with 100 other people because we made too much and we were qyickly replaced for 1/2 the $. Ever since then, I've quit every job I've ever had and after 1-2-3 months off, then I start looking for another job, and it's always been much better 🎉 It's so important to save up as much as possible, so that we are not forced to do something that compromises our own work ethic for a company that is extremely selfish.
@kierstenmorris21394 ай бұрын
I absolutely love these!!! So ACCURATE! BUT they also trigger the hell outta me because I’ve experienced ALL this BS in the workplace.😢😂😮
@lumiere72164 ай бұрын
Same
@freedomdive1237 ай бұрын
TRANSLATION:Don't call me when you need me when you can't be there for me in my time of need.
@jesuschristlives27246 ай бұрын
If I hear work family, I'm quitting on the spot.
@753studios63 ай бұрын
This
@kaylaaustin99302 ай бұрын
When my aunt was laying on her death bed & I told my manager I couldn’t come in because I was going to be at the hospital with her. My manager said, “well that’s too bad & I totally understand. What days do you pick to make up your days that you have to be in the office?” I will never work there again for nothing. Most of these jobs don’t give a damn about you
@jbtpa8956 ай бұрын
My Dad was out of town for work when my Grandma died. They sent the company plane to bring him home. Can't find those companies anymore.
@alexismena68123 ай бұрын
“You can test me to see if I’m kidding.” 🤣
@mxolisitrevor36995 ай бұрын
"You can test me to see if im kidding"😂
@hachi666roku7 ай бұрын
“You’re definitely not Family, mine is way way way more dysfunctional. Telling you no is cake” ~ Veronica
@DraconicFeathers6 ай бұрын
Wow. After all the toxic work experiences I’ve endured, your videos feel extremely cathartic. That makes me realize how many of these scenarios I’ve been through. I was punished for taking off on a Sunday at work, after my Dad had a stroke and was bleeding all over the place. My Mom couldn’t handle that and needed my help. The punishment was that everyone had to do these stupid tasks, and it was openly stated that it was because I took off, even though someone else had just taken off on a Sunday for family purposes, with 0 retaliation. I ended up quitting like a week later, on the spot, after being yelled at in front of everyone for something insignificant, and then given a second talking to in a meeting. Damn. That was years ago and it still burns. Thanks for your videos 🙏🏽
@ravennon6 ай бұрын
I felt so sorry for Veronica. My heart broke when she was simply asking for help. Company profits should never take precedence over human compassion.
@timalice-28336 ай бұрын
I had numerous doctors say I needed work from home as a reasonable accommodation but my job said no. One year later the pandemic hit and suddenly work from home was ok. I asked if it could continue like my doctors suggested when we return to the office and was told no. I quit before I had to return and intentionally left a mountain of work for them to cover once I was gone.
@lisabrightly6 ай бұрын
Not cool about the mountain of work because another employee will have to take care of that. Your boss won't do anything except delegate.
@lisabrightly6 ай бұрын
Not cool about the mountain of work because another employee will have to take care of that. Your boss won't do anything except delegate.
@timalice-28336 ай бұрын
@@lisabrightly that was the idea. The staff were far from innocent on things that went down at that place.
@josephjoestar43186 ай бұрын
Management and HR try to 'manage expectations' by purposely ignoring emails, calls and requests. They need an ego check
@obibear1236 ай бұрын
Some companies are just pure evil!!!
@manojsuri0072 ай бұрын
Once we have the money to take care of our family for the rest of our life then that person is the real king.
@claraestrada50803 ай бұрын
thanks for being the only animation channel who tags the audio's original creator. to the viewers, if you see other channels using veronika's audio, per her request, please block them. dont comment as it boosts their engagement.
@amyeastman87643 ай бұрын
My BFF was working night shift at a veterinary hospital. Her grandfather passed away and she was told she could get the night off after the funeral but not the day of. So she had to work all night, go home, get ready and go to the funeral and family events all on no sleep. I should add all her family is in the area and they are very close and she was raised just a few houses down from her grandparents so this was a huge loss for her. Just a toxic culture all around. Now this was many years ago and I still work there and am seeing the younger, newer staff just not tolerating this kind of thing and when faced with similar just walking away. I applaud them for that. They used to tell us we were replaceable but now there are so few replacements so staffing is a constant issue. Wonder why?.
@nilegoddess39556 ай бұрын
I had a death in the family and for the entire bereavement my boss was calling and texting me about work I had pre-submitted in anticipation of the time I would need off. He was calling me while I was AT THE FUNERAL and I literally told him that I didn't have access to my laptop because I was at the church and the casket was being brought out. When I came back to work I was told that I was overreacting.
@nrusso9676 ай бұрын
You worked in the Northvale, NJ office? Or the Texas office? I seem to remember this exact situation. SMH, I wish I was kidding here!
@1mrsmjjj6506 ай бұрын
I wouldn't have answered the damn phone!!!!
@FoxyfloofJumps6 ай бұрын
That's when you file a lawsuit for harrassment, bullying, and a hostile work environment. Also emotional and mental harm.
@whatsamatteryou7916 ай бұрын
I was interrupted at my father‘s funeral and his wake by work I will never forgive them for that looking for another job
@TheGreatDudist3 ай бұрын
Companies are only toxic so long as employees are spineless enough to LET them be toxic. More people need this sort of attitude. 1) Informing your employer of time off (ESPECIALLY when it comes to family) is in no form a "request", it's a courtesy) 2) Don't ever do extra work for the "we're family" workplace unless you're being compensated in an amount/way that YOU find suitable. 3) Never fall into the "two week notice" trap. Companies don't give a two week notice when they fire employees, so don't give them a two week courtesy when you quit. So long as companies are only giving you money (something you can make as much of as you desire) in return for your TIME (your most precious resource that you will NEVER get more of), the power is in the hands of the employee, and it's about time that companies be MADE to realize this.
@mariabowen7267 ай бұрын
I hate the term. Team Player
@loisrodenromans10972 ай бұрын
She said GO kick rocks! I'm eatting cake and it almost came out So funny!! 🤣🤣🤣
@matshadi19995 ай бұрын
Why are they like this?? Over money?? Money they can't take with them when they die. When we all die! Employers suck!
@melissareid6407 ай бұрын
That boss is crap.
@KW-hd6yk6 ай бұрын
The "....test me to see if I'm kidding", was 🔥 🔥 🔥!!!
@tamars_hope4 ай бұрын
I had this happen to me returning to work Covid. 60% or more work was still being done at home by other employees . When I asked if I could work from home one day a week on Friday’s because I was commuting over an hour to work there and back and still coming in on Saturday for advanced training classes I was taking that would make me better suited for my role in the company they denied me even though other employees were allowed to do it and I was part of the “Team”.
@bluebeastsrt4 ай бұрын
As soon as people figure out the company couldn’t care less about you. The better off you are!
@trashtaggirl4 ай бұрын
So glad she’s standing up for herself! I struggled for years like this with a toxic work environment.
@jessiematthews63396 ай бұрын
Sounds like Walmart. My grandmother passed away while I was a cashier and they gave me one day - ONE DAY - of bereavement without being penalized.
@WolfyGreen5 ай бұрын
A woman taught me a very salient fact about toxic organisations at the beginning of my old career nearly fifty years ago. “Just remember, “ she said, “Sh*t rolls downhill.” Bad management creates a bad atmosphere everywhere in the chain.
@thelivinlegend16 ай бұрын
I love it! Only thing I would have done differently is give them my two week notice on the spot when my bereavement time was denied.
@Thomastorr5 ай бұрын
This is MY workplace now. They asked us to drive in to work when we didn't have ANY electricity after Hurricane Beryl to contact our clients when WE ALL WORK REMOTELY! We had our families and pets at home in 100 degree weather.