They denied me time off when my father died. I took it anyway. Told 'em fire me if they wanted but I'd sue because it's federal law.
@TheQuietStorm6302 ай бұрын
Good For You and I'm sorry for your loss. How did your employers take it?
@alibabapirce97822 ай бұрын
i egt you. i would hate it too if my father died and i would miss a chance to dance over his dead body
@goodtoGoNow19562 ай бұрын
It is not a federal law.
@osco43112 ай бұрын
No, federal FMLA doesn't include bereavement, however, some states like Oregon have additional protections under state law.
@sandra-jones2 ай бұрын
Bereavement leave is not federal law. There are some states that have it but I think it's only 4 or 5. So it's mostly on an employer basis. This is unfortunate and should be looked at.
@vmd0734Ай бұрын
Whenever I hear “you need to be a team player” or “our workplace is like a family”, INSTANT red flag.
@Jennabear82Ай бұрын
My family is toxic, so... Yeah...
@ttvmikrowaveАй бұрын
Recently learned the last "family" reference last year followed by being let go in the tech (i.e., cyber) industry.
@SammythatjewishnerdАй бұрын
Or “give 120%”. For a cashier job at Dairy Queen🤦🏻♀️
@squishymellowowoАй бұрын
Especially if it's only convenient for the management. But they weren't acting like a family when you needed time to be there for your family to leave work in and you were willing to work extra hours or work from home to make app for that time. But they're trying to make it difficult because. They want everything to be convenient on their end
@judybrennan7930Ай бұрын
Right !!!
@ericanadine18542 ай бұрын
I once had a job that denied my leave to take off for my sons kindergarten graduation, I put the request in two weeks ahead, that was denied, then offered to come in late after the graduation, denied…I went back to my desk and started packing my personal things, one of my co-workers asked me what was going on, I explained…my son was not going to lookout into that audience at 5yrs old and not see anyone there for him, the sacrifices of a single parent…the next day I started job hunting…
@relaunchinglife2 ай бұрын
When people (or a company) show you who they are, you need to believe them. Good for you - jobs are plentiful, but graduating kindergarten only happens once. A 5 yr old brain is still developing, and deciding how secure to feel in the world based on how important we show them they are. Well played Mama..
@ericanadine18542 ай бұрын
@@relaunchinglife…💪🏻, and my son is now 30yrs old, has a great career and soon to step into Fatherhood for the first time…
@xletragedyx2 ай бұрын
@ericanadine1854 congratulations! And he knows his mom is behind him 100%. Always has been, always will be ❤
@davidgilbert78532 ай бұрын
Isn't that sad that corporations don't care about that? But I bet you one thing that the executives of that company probably go to their children's events without questioning. So why do they have the right to tell their employees not to go?
@Morpheus-pt3wq2 ай бұрын
@@davidgilbert7853 even when the execs do that, the reasoning for it might be different. For example, narcissists only do this for the sake of being seen as "good" parents - however not by their children, but others around them. Bosses and managers (also politicians) often ARE narcissists. They crave for jobs, that bring them attention and power over others.
@christinakeegan5149Ай бұрын
When my brother-in-law died and my sister needed me and my Mom, my work not only gave me as much time off as I needed - they footed the ENTIRE BILL for our travel because we didn't have the money. I cried when I had to leave that job. Good companies are far and few, but they do exist.
@garlicgirl3149Ай бұрын
Rare gems.
@forastero54321Ай бұрын
What was that job?
@christinakeegan5149Ай бұрын
@@forastero54321 I was a homeschool curriculum counselor.
@charmcharm2352Ай бұрын
Why did you have to leave?
@PrimordialChaos07Ай бұрын
You must be white 😏 this happens all the time.
@korvonfrancis65522 ай бұрын
The longer you work the more you realize that the company doesn't care about you, so why should you care about the company.
@1thatgotaway974Ай бұрын
😢😂🎉😅😢😮❤😂😢😮
@1thatgotaway974Ай бұрын
Its called ..PAYCHECK
@GaytwinbrosАй бұрын
@@1thatgotaway974 You can get those anywhere.
@SonyEdge5Ай бұрын
@@1thatgotaway974Which is why it makes no sense to do them any favors or buy into the family bs
@sharlenemullins1030Ай бұрын
Amen
@FUB6542 ай бұрын
Where do companies get this whole "family" shit from? I don't know you and... I don't even like my own family, let alone you!🤣
@xannxouxi78992 ай бұрын
I love your comment.....I love my blood family tho😂😂😂
@StopBeingRacist2 ай бұрын
That part
@lukas8708Ай бұрын
I have a ready answer for that family bs - "I need 100$, don't be a scrooge, we are a family"
@sharonwhiteman6345Ай бұрын
@@FUB654 While I love my family we need to keep in their proper place. Some family members will take advantage of u
@williamgilmore4287Ай бұрын
"Family" shit comes from managers who try to guilt employees into doing things that they very well know is illegal or against company policy!
@maryrudelich90002 ай бұрын
Your boss and coworkers are not your family. In fact, they’re not even second cousins twice removed! That’s crazy conversation.
@danielle24512 ай бұрын
Might not even be your friend even after you've been through thick and thin
@WhoThisMonkey2 ай бұрын
@@danielle2451 Oh boy, tell me about it.
@watetumuchemi17132 ай бұрын
Work is NOT family 😂😂😂😂
@watetumuchemi17132 ай бұрын
The dissapointment is mutual! Lol
@bobcat86542 ай бұрын
No one likes her that is why
@BROUBoomerАй бұрын
I had one job where the manager said I couldn't get the time off to go see my dying grandmother. I immediately called HR in front of him and asked for an emergency leave of absence, for the 3 weeks I asked for, they said granted. They emailed my manager within minutes that the time off was approved. *When it comes to family, never accept NO as an answer. Go over their heads until you get the answer you want. And be willing to quit to get what you need.* *Family is forever, jobs come and go.*
@whatsamatteryou791Ай бұрын
Not at my job. HR is in on it.
@BROUBoomerАй бұрын
@@whatsamatteryou791 Hi, Deepest sympathies. Not every HR is a good one. Sometimes it's in the words, and phrasing that you use. Sound plain and simple, get treated that way. Use big fancy legal sounding words to say the same thing, and they grow a little bit afraid of what you're capable of. Works for me usually. I just say a quick prayer first, and ask God to send me the right words to say. Worked so good one time, I had to go home and look in the dictionary to find out what those words meant...and I used the right words correctly. I just don't ever remember learning those words until that day. Maybe I heard them on TV, IDK.
@sihledunamiz420Ай бұрын
@@BROUBoomerperhaps God did put the Words in your mouth as you prayed and asked Him to😊
@massynicole6843Ай бұрын
@@BROUBoomerI did the same exact thing and it worked! Prayer for the right words.❤
@user-ie6pj7fr4pАй бұрын
"The disappointment is mutual" 😂
@LAMAxFACE2 ай бұрын
I worked for my local POLICE. My dad passed "unexpectedly" at the age of 59. I was given 3 days "compassionate leave". Because it was an unexpected death it had to go to the coroner. It was Saturday so the coroner didn't get to it until Monday. My dad passed on 22 November and we buried him on the 2nd Dec. All time beyond the 3 days "compassionate leave" was taken from my annual leave. To bury my dad. Then I was told I would not receive my PERFORMANCE related pay rise due to my "Attendance". I resigned shortly after.
@gsmith5140Ай бұрын
Unconscionable!
@solosynapseАй бұрын
Should have made that precinct's sick behaviour public.
@poppy5986Ай бұрын
My employer did something similar after my mum died. I took 2 weeks annual leave as I was not coping very well. She died during the COVID lockdowns and I was dealing with it by myself. When I got back to work I was called into my supervisor’s office and written up for a mistake I had made, told to box my belongings immediately and moved to another department. I was then marked down on my annual appraisal, with the following statement: Needs to learn to deal with her personal life better, and not allow it to affect her work.
@Megan-1014Ай бұрын
@@poppy5986Oh wow! That’s awful! I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope your days are bringing you more happiness lately ❤
@blessedsinner8686Ай бұрын
As you should. Sorry for your loss.
@StephenDeCesare2 ай бұрын
There's Spider-man, Wonder Woman and now Veronica. Three powerful superheroes.
@TheQuietStorm6302 ай бұрын
Absolutely 💯💯🤣🤣🤣
@419sweets2 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@MrARhodesАй бұрын
Yeah. Eff a Wanda, or Captain Marvel. 🫡
@Shuffle-Major-ArcanaАй бұрын
@@MrARhodes Wanda's a villain.
@SUGAs_Shadow85Ай бұрын
I think it's more like Batman, Patrick Bateman, and Veronica. The difference? No actual superpowers, but damn, that brain that the power behind the words 😂
@HalifaxOMG2 ай бұрын
The toxicity is REAL. The gaslighting is real too. When did companies stop caring about their employees? This is a common occurrence... Very sad.
@neah90602 ай бұрын
I think it started with the creation of stock market, when even your boss start having to report to someone above them, and money became more important than humans
@bettym.39962 ай бұрын
Replaceable. That's how some companies treat employees. Veronica must be very talented at her job.
@amyhamaker78032 ай бұрын
When dividends to shareholders became the be-all-end-all of business.
@debbiejennings90402 ай бұрын
Personally, when you’re in a company that has over 50 employees, they don’t care for you at all bottom and top line! They just want to use employees like toilet paper.😊😊😊😊
@chizukanelson7947Ай бұрын
Lol! The correct question is when did they START caring? Back in the day if you got injured and couldn't work, too bad, so sad. There was another guy right behind you waiting for that job. Companies do what they do for employees because it's better to retain people than to have to constantly train new hires because everyone is leaving. Some companies are better than others but they all still slaves to the bottom line. It is what it us.
@ApocryphalDude2 ай бұрын
It's always about power and control by management and executives.
@Ares999992 ай бұрын
How do you know?
@musiclifegage73702 ай бұрын
Psychopathy/Sociopathy is real.
@WhoAuthorizedThis2 ай бұрын
Managers acting like this are ridiculous because they forget they’re cogs as well. 😂
@roubad9034Ай бұрын
Yeah, they have no compassion. It's all a power play.
@24goodbuddyАй бұрын
Exactly 💯
@katiefrolichman2 ай бұрын
When my brother passed, I told work I’m taking 3 days bereavement. They didn’t have that policy and I was out of PTO days. They REWROTE the policy to include 3 days bereavement. My brother always made my life better. Still does 💕
@TheRealdal2 ай бұрын
Now that’s a company that cares about their employees 😊
@katiefrolichman2 ай бұрын
@@TheRealdal I think it was more they had never had anyone like me 🤣
@bunniewoodАй бұрын
A family member dies and you only get 3 days off?!! What world is this?
@bonniehalf-elvenАй бұрын
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm close with two of my brothers, and they make my life better, too.
@androkguzАй бұрын
@@bunniewood how many do you get and how big are families where you live? Where I come from, if it was standard to take 3 days per family member, we would never work
@trenae772 ай бұрын
Didn’t have a funeral, but my father just took a bad fall and my boss’s response was ‘let me know what I can do to help’. I’ve had to take off two days to take my mom to the hospital to be with him as surgery got pushed back. ‘Your mom needs you right now - keep me posted and I’ll bepraying for your dad.’
@ryanellis2502Ай бұрын
Shockingly this is the normal boss' response but the internet glorifies and exemplifies bad cases
@bonniehalf-elvenАй бұрын
@@ryanellis2502 I've been in toxic environments and good ones. I'm beginning to think companies like @trenae77's are more common. I am very lucky in my current situation, but that is not the case for some of my friends.
@XiallaciАй бұрын
@@ryanellis2502in my experience this is normal for big corporations and has been getting worse. At least in my company all decent managers were specifically targeted and removed
@trenae77Ай бұрын
@@ryanellis2502 even an earlier supervisor with whom I had a rough relationship proved supportive when issues arose. I remember her telling me when I was taking Sick Leave to cover for my mom (she had a day care and was dealing with a uterine cancer diagnosis) ‘it’s called Family Emergency Leave - your mother is family and this is an emergency for her’
@hellybelle5Ай бұрын
A good boss is such a blessing, especially when you're having such a rough time ❤ I hope all is well with your family ❤
@S0l1dZ3r0Ай бұрын
And they wonder why the great resignation happened the way it did. When a toxic company like this one files for Chapter 7 an angel gets its wings.
@Kevlin0069Ай бұрын
An angel gets its' wings? I thought a CEO got a golden parachute...
@S0l1dZ3r0Ай бұрын
@@Kevlin0069 You’re not wrong.
@latonjabell3837Ай бұрын
❤YESSSSSS
@nuggett222 ай бұрын
My uncle died and i found out while i was on my way into work. When i did get there to let them know i would not be there, i was a crying mess, and my manager looked me in the eyes and said "you dont get any bereavement days. Since an uncle is not considered immediate family". I said i would be taking the day and i left. Freakin heartless.
@nicolenunya9842 ай бұрын
I’m sorry for your loss. Yes, my job doesn’t count aunts or uncles as immediate family. They do count in laws (including SIL and BIL). That was weird to me because you know your aunt and uncle as a young child.
@GamegirlGamegirl2 ай бұрын
Happened to me as well at the previous company I worked for, also my uncle. Unfortunately as I had no transportation at the time I couldn't go and still had to work even though he was blood relative, sad till this day. No matter what they threaten you with, companies are just people in buildings doing everyday business that can go on for a very long time. Family memories and time with loved ones can never be replaced, don't live with regrets like me, it will crush you 😢
@Autumn_Forest_Ай бұрын
@@GamegirlGamegirlGood advice!! I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m even more sorry that you were forced out of going to be with your family. It wasn’t your fault. ❤
@claireconolly8355Ай бұрын
😡heartless never the less
@garlicgirl3149Ай бұрын
America does not value family.
@lydiadillard44172 ай бұрын
There is no 'family' in the work place.
@ldkea052 ай бұрын
"The disappointment is mutual" lol
@christinehoolihan74332 ай бұрын
I love Veronicas perspective. Would love to hear if she has ever actually said these things in the work place, because when I have I was fired later or management made my job so toxic I had to leave. Veronica has my complete respect.
@sarahkelly40262 ай бұрын
It helps that she’s a Spanish speaker in Florida. So many job listings there require it.
@anonymoose1162 ай бұрын
The trick is to document it.
@runningfromabear83542 ай бұрын
Exactly! I've never been fired. As long as you're good at your job, they're stuck up shit's creek. I stuck around until something better came up and they scrambled for years to replace me. 😂
@musiclifegage73702 ай бұрын
@@runningfromabear8354gross
@shaneekathomas93952 ай бұрын
1., 2., 3., document, document, document 4. Be amazing at your job 5. Don’t check your personal email, Facebook, Instagram, make copies or anything else that is against company policy on company equipment. 6. Be a team player 7., 8., 9. Read the company handbook/policies and procedures thoroughly, be familiar with your local, state, federal laws as they apply to you., Don’t let them play you. 10. Be professional & learn skills to be better and more efficient. 11. Save $ and have a side hustle. It’s always good to have more than one source of income. Even if it’s a little. 12. Be Veronica
@rebecca553712 ай бұрын
Why is it they can do whatever they want but as soon as you do whatever you want or just stand up for yourself then you’re not being a “team player“?
@embrown1442000Ай бұрын
Their management philosophy is 'Do as I say, not as I do".
@taylorjade6918Ай бұрын
You're not the team, you're just a player. Something like that
@Lord_Deimos18 күн бұрын
You're not supposed to fight back and they hate it when you do
@garlicgirl3149Ай бұрын
My job years ago only gave the funeral day for a parent. That's it. Not even 3 days. That is how much America values family and mental health.
@leatherDarkhorseАй бұрын
When they need you = family, When they dont need you = i paid you.
@Scapegoat32Ай бұрын
This is EXACTLY how the company I work for right now is! The double standards are outrageous and I'm quitting without notice in two weeks!
@1439315Ай бұрын
(do not remember the name of the online commenter) Stated that he gave company 6 weeks notice in writing that he is quitting. Called in sick next day; never went back.
@tinkerammaАй бұрын
How'd it go?
@eldaroses.g.r.794516 күн бұрын
Good for you! I hope your next job is more how people should be! I mean, honestly, why can’t people just treat their employees with respect? Being nice is just a better way to live!
@sandrapontius3500Ай бұрын
Veronica says all the things I would like to have said to all the toxic people I worked for. Corporations are a bunch of a-holes.
@zombieravioliАй бұрын
I agree. I wish I could have had her lines. And courage. And confidence.
@user-tz5uq2bt1s2 ай бұрын
When my little brother died my boss just said "Take as long as you need."
@xletragedyx2 ай бұрын
I'm sorry for your loss
@recyclingrevolution4905Ай бұрын
That’s the right answer. Different people process loss differently . Someone needs more time.
@georgettewilliams1152 ай бұрын
My lead asked me the other day what was I doing, I told her working on my resume
@hydrangeas_lover2 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@gsmith5140Ай бұрын
😂
@ClarityDeterminationАй бұрын
Cheers!
@DancingLobster12 ай бұрын
I remember when my grandmother died and the woman I worked for at the time told me.I know your Grandma just died, but it's not fair to the company that you're going to be gone for 4 days.Can you not go to your grandma's funeral....best believe I went
@WildBikerBill2 ай бұрын
"Can you not go to your grandma's funeral." - absolutely insane request.
@stephanoc98142 ай бұрын
And can bet if that happens in the person life abd they advise the office and you say same time what she said to you ot would be considered as inconsiderate and insubordination.
@Username-ze1ux2 ай бұрын
Man…who raised these sort of immoral people/bosses
@DancingLobster12 ай бұрын
@stephanoc9814 yuuuuuuup. She tried withholding my paycheck. I'm not from New york, but my grandmother is. We needed one day to drive to New york, one day for the wake, one day for the burial ceremony and one day to drive back
@freedomdive1232 ай бұрын
@DancingLobster1 that's truly sad. I'm sorry for your loss
@xletragedyx2 ай бұрын
They don't want you to take time off, but also won't let you work from home instead. Make it make sense
@Lulusvideos1Ай бұрын
Companies have really turned on their employees in the last decade. I’ve been told, after expressing interest in another department that I’m easily replaceable. Well good because they’ll be replacing me when I resign.
@e-mosheАй бұрын
The harsh reality is that we’re all seen as replaceable as far as managers are concerned. There are reasons why employees are often called resources and just referred to as capacity in planning.
@fdm21552 ай бұрын
Sadly, this scenario is realistic for SO many workplaces.
@Sonnabend002 ай бұрын
Im curious...why IS IT that the US is literally 50 years behind everyone else? I mean this is basic stuff, it is. Bereavement leave is a fact for the rest of the world. I dont get it, why is it the "greatest nation in the world" is so backwards? Im serious. Why?
@sharoni3601Ай бұрын
When my dad died, I had already worked my shift and call my boss and told her I needed to go. She said she could not allow me to go. I told her that I was not asking I was telling. And that when I get back, we would have a discussion on the way she was treating me. Her reply was that she would need a copy of the obit published in the local paper as proof Dad actually died. (What?) When I returned to work, I went to her office and made the paint peel off the walls. I did not use foul language but absolutely stood my ground. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. I did not usually take the power lead but when I do it's satisfying. I always had outstanding job performance awards every year, so I felt I was a very good employee. Always accommodated when they needed extra things done. Always did my job100% every day. She was crying as I walked out.
@sharoni3601Ай бұрын
@@carlyofearth I assume you mean when I got back. I put the newspaper with the obit in her inbox, I was always at work a couple hours before she started and neither I nor she ever said anything, she avoided me for a really long time. I think she thought she was punishing me by not speaking to me. I think maybe she thought I would go away. But I did not. And a year or so later I got a nice gold ring with a small diamond and company name on it for years of service and usually they were given out at a company function, she put it in my inbox and never mentioned it.
@user-jx6hr9wu6b23 күн бұрын
That is really low. It's your Dad for the love of God
@samridhithapliyal901412 күн бұрын
Wondering what you told the manager, that made her cry. I'll be taking notes.
@sharoni360112 күн бұрын
@@samridhithapliyal9014 Actually I really don't remember but there was a lot of how dare you's and what were you thinking when talking to me like that. And I will not allow you or anybody to treat or speak to me like that. But know, I always worked hard (I got outstanding job performance awards every year with bonus) and gave it my all and I was very good at what I did, and I acted like I did not need the job. I always treated those around me with loyalty, kindness and respect and I demand the same. Another trick I used, when someone says something that was what I considered wrong, just stand in a straight stance, look them in the eye and say nothing and just wait. They get uncomfortable and start stammering. Works every time just as long as you don't use it too often. I did notice towards the time I decided to call it quits that the new hires of the younger generation were different in attitude and work ethic, old tricks were not quite as effective.
@T.I.N.24Ай бұрын
This is so sad. They wonder why people don't want to work. Reiterate. Work for them!
@1439315Ай бұрын
When a company is always hiring most likely you do NOT want to work . . .for them.
@barbaraselletti6520Ай бұрын
This was my experience with my former, micromanaging director. The pandemic was actually a God-send, since it allowed me to work from home and away from the toxic environment of the office. When we were finally allowed to return to work, that's when I decided to retire. It was a really hard decision because I loved my job and it had been a source of joy for a quarter of a century. I just couldn't take working with the director and her small circle of sycophants.
@scardini676112 ай бұрын
My employer once told me that my grandmother who raised me wasn't my immediate family and that they were docking my pay for the time off, several months after the fact. I had to make the arrangements and clean out her home and deal with all of the legal stuff, plus my devastating grief. Their reaction caused me to have panic attacks, which they used as an excuse to fire me because they feared it may become an issue for them.
@xalaxie2 ай бұрын
I'm sorry they treated you that way. no one should have to endure that. they be acting like sociopathic assholes
@xletragedyx2 ай бұрын
A grandmother is immediate family, whether they raised you or not. What they did was so illegal. I'm sorry
@SIPEROTH2 ай бұрын
I was with you until the panic attack stuff. I mean you can go find another job or not be corteus to them like Veronica here but start acting without control of yourself is something that can't exactly be tolerated. Is not kindergarten.
@xletragedyx2 ай бұрын
@@SIPEROTH panic attacks are involuntary
@Done25.2 ай бұрын
Eat shit. It's exactly this type of anti-empathy that allows, and encourages, employers to take advantage of, and abuse, their workers.
@grytlappar2 ай бұрын
Absolute sociopaths.
@Pepper522 ай бұрын
My department was put under a different VP and she tried that family bullshit with me while also gaslighting me. I quit asap and I had been working there for 22 years.
@ClarityDeterminationАй бұрын
You should not have had to quit. I wish she had had to quit. These videos are helpful for building skills. They assist in helping people have better and more effective responses.
@tessahall7972 ай бұрын
Veronica is my hero
@R.N.LosAngeles2 ай бұрын
This happened to me. They fired me and I threatened to sue. They paid me out a lump sum.
@ChanelNo5568Ай бұрын
“And you can test me to see if I am kidding”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@noneyabidness96442 ай бұрын
I have NEVER requested time off. I've TOLD them WHEN I was taking time off, purely as a favor to the other employees, so management can staff appropriately.
@geejay227821 күн бұрын
👏👏👏👏👏 me 2!
@mxolisitrevor3699Ай бұрын
"You can test me to see if im kidding"😂
@amydecker6207Ай бұрын
I'm so glad i have the management i have in my current role. When my dad died, i called my supervisor and said, See you in a week. She had no problem with that, and the team took turns covering for me. THAT is what a workplace should be.
@olikah46672 ай бұрын
The disappointment is mutual.
@chrisbarbz9238Ай бұрын
"Be a team player and bend over" is what employers really like to say. People are waking up in this broken system.
@Linward2 ай бұрын
Having been in call centers and customer service way too long...Veronica knows exactly how we're treated. She's my hero helping me get through a few more years of abuse before I finally retire.
@prestonhurst2 ай бұрын
That "manager" is what being brainwashed looks like. I wish I was more like Veronica.
@TheAyurvedicАй бұрын
And those BS corporate responses. Puke 🤮 worthy.
@josephjoestar4318Ай бұрын
Management and HR try to 'manage expectations' by purposely ignoring emails, calls and requests. They need an ego check
@testedTransgressorАй бұрын
Easiest way I shut down that "we're a family" thing at one workplace "If I died tomorrow y'all might be sad, but you can replace me. But if I died tomorrow, my parents could never replace me. So, they come first."
@eldaroses.g.r.794516 күн бұрын
Oooh… Now that’s some genius right there! We need this on tshirts!
@myconavasmomАй бұрын
I'm the supervisor who has a toxic director and she wants me to treat my team of 12 like they are children who can't be trusted. I refuse to do that, which leads to my continually being in trouble. I will bend over backwards for my team because they are hard-working, productive, and intelligent adults who work as a team. I got into management to become a better boss than I'd ever had and my newish boss hates that I am liked and respected by my team, so she's doing whatever she can to destroy that.
@AbraCazimiАй бұрын
Sounds about right... But big kudos to you!
@eldaroses.g.r.794516 күн бұрын
We need more people like you! You keep standing your ground!
@nrusso967Ай бұрын
I had this almost exact same conversations with my micromanager boss in Northvale, NJ. Only I said, "Test my patience, if you like. My lawyer loves people like you in court." It was way before coronavirus! She was questioning why I needed 2 days off for surgery. Asking me, "What kind of surgery? Why would I need 2 days? Who is your doctor? Why can you not come back to work the same day?" My response to each of these questions was, "Apologies, but I do not feel comfortable discussing my medical needs with anyone except my doctors. Please respect that." Micromanager then dragged me into HR. Where I told HR representative the same thing and had my attorney on my cell phone speaker. Oh, the micromanager was "reprimanded". But I left a year & 7 months later when I was only given an $.08 an hour raise because, "You disrespected our work family protocols. I expect answers to my questions whether, or not, I am your doctor." Micromanager still works there with a really crappy staff which she wholeheartedly deserves!!!
@rogerthemanful4 күн бұрын
Wouldn’t proof needed to be presented?
@TheMissouriSpartan2 күн бұрын
@@rogerthemanfulno. Other than a doctor’s note, the company is not in any legal way entitled to proof or private medical information of an employee.
@rogerthemanfulКүн бұрын
@@TheMissouriSpartan a doctors note would be enough. Anything else is needless prying and intrusiveness at that point
@TheMissouriSpartanКүн бұрын
@@rogerthemanful exactly
@acecala35762 ай бұрын
I have had similar incident happen. My boss and colleagues take 5-6 weeks vacation in entire year in separate slots of 1-2 weeks at one time, but I asked for 4 weeks in entire year to visit my sick mom and I don't even take a day off otherwise in entire year, but was denied that due to too much workload, they won't approve it. Then I told my boss that I am taking vacation just like he and others on the team are, he said he will think about it, I still submitted 4 weeks request and it was approved eventually. I am yet to make the trip, but I hope they don't create last minute drama because of my vacation.
@notimportant38202 ай бұрын
Let them do what they want, go anyhow. They will survive without you, and if they can't- ask for a pay increase. Besides, you need to spend some time with your mom. You take care of you and those you love, there are plenty of companies looking for good employees who actually show up. ❤❤
@rayzerotАй бұрын
Hey hey hey. If your with gives you trouble about visiting your mom, take the days off as FMLA. Your job can't say no and there is legal recourse if they act out
@nattdx8462 ай бұрын
When a company brings up being a work family they usually arent. If they always tell you they are team they usually arent. If you ever hear these things in an interview run. A work family/team never has to say they are those things. They also wont brag about it or say it at all. They will show you, and not talk about being one.
@calisongbirdАй бұрын
Exactly. In fact, most things ANYONE brags about are either exaggerations or bald-faced lies - otherwise they wouldn’t be bragging.
@embrown1442000Ай бұрын
Those red flag phrases just mean that the company expects you to dedicate your life to the job, even if you have a family. I agree - run.
@ice31929 күн бұрын
PERFECT response. "You can pay me a million dollars an hour and I still won't do it. And you can test me to see if I'm kidding". Exactly. They couldn't care less about your tragedy in the family but they expect you to hop to it when they have some BS emergency. These employers are something else.
@maryrudelich90002 ай бұрын
Screw the boss, and take real time off to mourn your loss. Personally, when my Dad who was the survivor spouse, took ill I took three weeks off of unpaid Family Medical Leave before his passing, (it’s your right and human dignity to observe these rights. The law allows up to three months off work for this purpose). Thereafter was the funeral and staging his home for sale. I know it’s difficult to exercise what seems right to you. Do it anyhow. It’s good for the mind and the souls. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
@farkinarkin5099Ай бұрын
Toxicity comes from the top and downward. It's a people problem.
@jesuschristlives2724Ай бұрын
If I hear work family, I'm quitting on the spot.
@freedomdive1232 ай бұрын
TRANSLATION:Don't call me when you need me when you can't be there for me in my time of need.
@babyboyronnie2 ай бұрын
Red flag words: Team player 🚩 Family 🚩 Keep going
@mollysreadings484525 күн бұрын
When the people around you say, "I'll do what's best for the company" as a response to decisions they have free will on- that's a sign of the "family" cult brainwash.
@dhanushikadharmarathna21644 күн бұрын
Exactly !
@wendyapfeldorf212027 күн бұрын
The best thing about retirement is the toxic work environment goes out the window!
@HISprincessVАй бұрын
It's AMAZING how just listening to this #toxicworkenvironment brings up sooooo much job related ABUSE from the past!!!
@Nonsequitoria2010Ай бұрын
If the phrases "team player" and "family" come up, just get up and walk out. You already have a family that expects you to do stuff for free. You don't need another one.
@normajeanvas9532Ай бұрын
I was asked to do this under Obama’s admin by Eric Holder. Wanted me to translate and interpret when I was the only Spanish speaking staff at the facility. After having my leave denied, I stopped translating for them. I was given a direct order and I refused. “Can she do that???” Yes. I didnt learn to speak Spanish while being paid by the govt. They disciplined me and I was sent home unpaid leave. I filed a lawsuit against the Obama administration and they settled out of court. Hehehehe.
@nilegoddess3955Ай бұрын
I had a death in the family and for the entire bereavement my boss was calling and texting me about work I had pre-submitted in anticipation of the time I would need off. He was calling me while I was AT THE FUNERAL and I literally told him that I didn't have access to my laptop because I was at the church and the casket was being brought out. When I came back to work I was told that I was overreacting.
@nrusso967Ай бұрын
You worked in the Northvale, NJ office? Or the Texas office? I seem to remember this exact situation. SMH, I wish I was kidding here!
@1mrsmjjj650Ай бұрын
I wouldn't have answered the damn phone!!!!
@FoxyfloofJumpsАй бұрын
That's when you file a lawsuit for harrassment, bullying, and a hostile work environment. Also emotional and mental harm.
@whatsamatteryou791Ай бұрын
I was interrupted at my father‘s funeral and his wake by work I will never forgive them for that looking for another job
@mariabowen7262 ай бұрын
I hate the term. Team Player
@johnrussell18812 ай бұрын
When will they realize that Veronica is not the one to be tried?
@stevep8062Ай бұрын
i have done about 70 k unpaid overtime over the last 10+ yrs for my current employer as a construction supervisor , not being paid extra for that role , training & running crews of 3 - 10 people daily , i always accepted it because i had the experience & skills to pick up the slack for my employer & wanted the company to be succeed . speaking to my employer recently i realised they have no appreciation & don't even want to acknowledge what i have done for them .These short stories are quite relevant in regards to the workplace .
@melissareid6402 ай бұрын
That boss is crap.
@jcdreyer542Ай бұрын
“And you can test me to see if I’m kidding.” Love it!
@obibear123Ай бұрын
Some companies are just pure evil!!!
@andreachilton6037Ай бұрын
I had a manager that always sounded sugary sweet... And she gaslit me every single day
@jessiematthews6339Ай бұрын
Sounds like Walmart. My grandmother passed away while I was a cashier and they gave me one day - ONE DAY - of bereavement without being penalized.
@mrgallbladderАй бұрын
Not even for a million dollars? Dang, Veronica is too principled.
@civerone21 күн бұрын
I love me a good firm principle!
@JulindaLeDee2 ай бұрын
My organization is against working remotely, though allowed. They are not concerned about morale. I can so relate to this amazing video.
@realtoontribeanimation2 ай бұрын
Wonderful!
@lyraserpentine894Ай бұрын
Worked in an office of 50 people. Every single person but me worked from home (but could come to the office if they wanted; most didn't). Some days, I was the only person in the office. Every time I asked to WFH, I was told my role wasn't a remote one and someone had to be there to answer the phones and grab packages (99% of my role was computer based). I eventually quit without notice because this wasn't the only issue. IYKYK.
@leachristianwoman13 күн бұрын
“The disappointment is mutual.” Love 🤣🤣🤣
@hachi666roku2 ай бұрын
“You’re definitely not Family, mine is way way way more dysfunctional. Telling you no is cake” ~ Veronica
@kduncan8811Ай бұрын
I work in a very toxic environment. This is exactly what they do!!!
@CSILopez11 күн бұрын
The Level of Hypocrisy is astounding!
@gardenmind4515Ай бұрын
My mom had sudden onset terminal lieukemia and put in a hospice to die. I still had to work and commute 240 miles to be with her. The day of her funeral my boss messaged me to find out when I was back as there were rota’s to completed. When I returned to work they had removed two of my managers to recoup the costs of me being missing. Also, had a performance review to say that I’d not been on top of things for the last three months!
@thelivinlegend1Ай бұрын
I love it! Only thing I would have done differently is give them my two week notice on the spot when my bereavement time was denied.
@dagmar21062 ай бұрын
This is why I send everything via email. I don't play document everything
@cindycain33012 ай бұрын
What a horrible employer!
@MsCynthia1203Ай бұрын
I had started a new job and was t-boned. I asked my supervisor if I could work through my lunches so that when I went to physical therapy I wouldn't have to lose any time. She told me no; that I had to just miss the time, but she was letting another employee do it. When it came time for the deposition, I fixed my schedule so that I wouldn't miss any appointments. ( I worked two hours from home). She called a supervisor higher than she, the program manager, and then told me that he said that if I left I could consider myself terminated. I emptied my desk of my property, completed my class, and gave her my ID and keys. 40 days later, I was working my current job. Here I am 15 years later and still there. She meant it for my bad, but God meant it for my good. 😊
@embrown1442000Ай бұрын
You tell her, Veronica! Wow. I wish I had guts like that.
@KW-hd6ykАй бұрын
The "....test me to see if I'm kidding", was 🔥 🔥 🔥!!!
@DraconicFeathersАй бұрын
Wow. After all the toxic work experiences I’ve endured, your videos feel extremely cathartic. That makes me realize how many of these scenarios I’ve been through. I was punished for taking off on a Sunday at work, after my Dad had a stroke and was bleeding all over the place. My Mom couldn’t handle that and needed my help. The punishment was that everyone had to do these stupid tasks, and it was openly stated that it was because I took off, even though someone else had just taken off on a Sunday for family purposes, with 0 retaliation. I ended up quitting like a week later, on the spot, after being yelled at in front of everyone for something insignificant, and then given a second talking to in a meeting. Damn. That was years ago and it still burns. Thanks for your videos 🙏🏽
@briceh1001Ай бұрын
“The disappointment is mutual.” 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 I will have to use that one. 😂
@alissonvonderlane862Ай бұрын
Yep, employees need to be team players but it doesn't work the other way around...🙄 I feel privileged to work in a healthy environment now! 😇
@timalice-2833Ай бұрын
I had numerous doctors say I needed work from home as a reasonable accommodation but my job said no. One year later the pandemic hit and suddenly work from home was ok. I asked if it could continue like my doctors suggested when we return to the office and was told no. I quit before I had to return and intentionally left a mountain of work for them to cover once I was gone.
@lisabrightlyАй бұрын
Not cool about the mountain of work because another employee will have to take care of that. Your boss won't do anything except delegate.
@lisabrightlyАй бұрын
Not cool about the mountain of work because another employee will have to take care of that. Your boss won't do anything except delegate.
@timalice-2833Ай бұрын
@@lisabrightly that was the idea. The staff were far from innocent on things that went down at that place.
@petebrown63562 ай бұрын
Never pay attention to 'loyalty' or 'family' when used by companies. It's only ever a one-way street. That said, as a manager, I try very hard to make our work environment a place that people recognize is a good place to work. Holding on to good employees is vital.
@kittywhiskers9967 күн бұрын
I LOVE VERONIKA. I FEEL HEALED THRU THE LAFFS. BLESS YOU 🙏🏼💖
@MamaC98Ай бұрын
Why was 1:44 so relatable? The quickness to answer, “How are you?”
@jbtpa895Ай бұрын
My Dad was out of town for work when my Grandma died. They sent the company plane to bring him home. Can't find those companies anymore.
@jonmv3 күн бұрын
In cases like that, you should not ask, you should just INFORM! And if the company does not agree, F them! Get fired from a company like that could be a blessing in disguise!
@WolfyGreenАй бұрын
A woman taught me a very salient fact about toxic organisations at the beginning of my old career nearly fifty years ago. “Just remember, “ she said, “Sh*t rolls downhill.” Bad management creates a bad atmosphere everywhere in the chain.
@JamesSchmitz-fj4kmАй бұрын
Use this time to find another job and get the living hell out of there.
@precognationАй бұрын
They put us through so much.
@MeowMeow_95_Ай бұрын
I am so thankful that it work for a manager that will literally bend over backwards to make sure that our personal lives are good! I had a similar situation and she was just so lovely about and even emailed corporate letting them know that I will not be at work because of personal reasons!
@marcelastacey890Ай бұрын
Oh my goodness - That was so toxic that I couldn’t even finish watching it because it made me sick to my stomach. That is just so toxic! Thank you for making these movies to illustrate to many of us that some things that we have been putting up with are totally inappropriate and one-sided . Thank you!
@buttarain27Ай бұрын
I absolutely loathe call centers and sales rep jobs, did it twice, 20 years ago and I said "never again". Stayed true to my word so far! Same goes for fast food.