As an introvert, spending too much time with a group causes me stress. I must have my alone time.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
💯
@SomethingNewAMBW4 ай бұрын
and ppl need to Google anti social vs. introvert. they aren't EVEN REMOTELY the same and we're owed an apology.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
THAT PART
@blackhannahofficial4 ай бұрын
I KNEW, it was something about you I connected with- we're Introverts. Yes. I've been this way my whole life. Your channel truly comforts me, while I'm on this journey to freedom 🙏🏾
@AdaliaAborisade3 ай бұрын
Yes! Thank you!
@rose4u1114 ай бұрын
Excellent content, Adalia! This informative conversation provided me with nuggets of wisdom which will help me navigate the third chapter of my life. Lately, as I inform people that I am an introvert, they are amazed that I made it through several extroverted-type careers…education and the military. Now at age 62, retired, and mentally exhausted, I refuse to participate in anything, anymore, that takes me out of my comfort zone!😅💃🏾
@mjaye17124 ай бұрын
I am an ambivert and my introversion is strong. I am unapologetic about my choice to do what works for me. I went on a group trip. I had my own room and had lots of open time. My least enjoyable time was an organized touristy activity at a bustling hotel an hour away from where we were staying. Between the noise, selfie photo shoots, and the long drive, I was exhausted when we got back. I had to lie down in a darkened room to rebalance my energy. It was a great learning lesson. I will pass on those types of activities next time.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
It is really about understanding what it is you need
@stacy-annwilliams34404 ай бұрын
I am an introvert and yes I enjoy being by myself. I don't like being around a bunch of people. I am ok with not being seen. Introverts are very different.
@Hello_Pri4 ай бұрын
Also a fellow introvert. I don’t mind socializing and I enjoy speaking with people in smaller groups, but I’m most comfortable in quiet spaces, and I am very comfortable being alone. I prefer a smaller group of friends. Going to a loud and crowded place sounds awful and very draining. I definitely get recharged being by myself.
@tessjones59874 ай бұрын
72 introvert here. I just lost my partner. He would have been 80. One person is like a GPS to your life. So I am letting others introverts know if you scale back too much when you are older it can be hard.
@sheeba416527 күн бұрын
I hear you Tess! Sincere condolences on the loss of your partner. I'm a 69 years old introvert and scaled a lot since my retirement. I'm rethinking a bit this strategy by keeping only people who do not drain me and share the same interests as me. Take care.
@SomethingNewAMBW4 ай бұрын
52:59 it's not that we don't like ppl, personally i just don't want ppl in my face unnecessarily. don't insert yourself into my peace and stillness
@theresas19474 ай бұрын
This video served a need I didn't know I had.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
So glad it resonated with you
@UniquePathWellness4 ай бұрын
This truly resonated with me as well. I’m an introvert and for a long time, I kept trying to fit in and would force myself in extrovert spaces trying to please everyone. I made excuses to myself and told myself I needed to be with the extroverts. I would feel so “out of my comfort level”. I’m now in the awareness stage of my life since I turned 50 and when I’m around extroverts I boldly implement my boundaries, and make no excuses about it.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
This!
@Refreshing_Words4 ай бұрын
I enjoyed cruising as an introvert because it gave the extroverted travel companion things to do while o recharged alone. I found that the ship was large enough to provide me with the nooks and quiet spaces I needed.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
That's an excellent way to keep an extraverted travel buddy busy 🤣
@R1M1r1m14 ай бұрын
Finally someone who understands me. I don't mind cruises though. I don't find myself engaging with people on cruises if I don't want to so it's all good for me. The only part I don't like are those dinners where you have to sit with people you don't know.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
This is definitely an introvert-friendly space
@anquinitaedness26954 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I appreciate you and all the wonderful tips too.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@fostermom15464 ай бұрын
I really appreciated this video as a fellow introvert! I feel validated by this video/comments. I am not weird, standoffish, or mean. Unfortunately, many are bothered (especially in the workplace) that we value who takes up our time and/or energy. I speak when I have something to say. I'm sorry that you (extroverts) have to have people around you 24/7 - no ma'am not me 😊So as you would say, I am going to continue to be "Selectively Social".🙂
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
Well said!
@magda39994 ай бұрын
I really really appreciate you doing this video, there is so much that I took away from it. It helped me to understand my sister more who is very much an introvert in a family of extroverts. And I love what you said about speaking up when it comes to setting your boundaries cause at the end of the day none of us are mind readers and explaining your boundaries really helps bridge the gap. Great work as always Adalia! 💛
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
So glad this was helpful ❤️
@felabarclift21864 ай бұрын
I like being a fellow introvert
@shemari01294 ай бұрын
This was a great video with some very useful tips. Communicating your boundaries is key while solo traveling. It works most of the time. I went to Jamaica in January and one of the rent-a-dreds thought he'd make me his sugar momma and wouldn't leave me alone. This happened on my first day and it took a while to get rid of him. The rest of my trip was amazing though. I'm an introvert that likes cruises. You don't have to participate in any of the million activities that they offer. I loved going to enjoy the shows/bands on the ship, people watching during the activities and sitting on the beaches by myself when we docked. I'm going cruising again this fall.
@katrinagarrett96124 ай бұрын
"Rent-a-dreds" I never heard that before. 😆 🤣
@TravelNearorFar4 ай бұрын
Cruising for introverts works when there is a balcony room involved and an understanding from day 1 that we ARE NOT going to be rolling together all the time.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
💯
@katrinamichelle83734 ай бұрын
I wish I had caught this live😩 I’m having all kinds of thoughts right now. And I did not know you have a solo travel group on FB.
@SUH734 ай бұрын
I’m an introvert, also.. It’s true that we are misunderstood by some and called snobbish or antisocial.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
Which is totally unfair
@TeresaWilliamsCoach4 ай бұрын
REPLAY✨ Introverts unite!🙋🏽♀️ Loved this convo. So that’s why I strongly and greatly dislike cruises!! I have considered a hostel but I will most definitely need my own room & bathroom!🤣
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!!
@antisocial_socialite4 ай бұрын
I'm an introvert, hence my handle anti social socialite. Like you since people wanted to label me as anti social, fine I'll be that. I hate when I'm trying to separate myself from people for some "me" time and they act like something is wrong with ME for wanting some peace and quiet. I also hate when people label me as depressed because I dont want to engage in small talk or dont want to engage in certain activities when they want to. 🙄
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
All of this!
@Ms.Robinson__2 ай бұрын
I love the idea of traveling solo, within a group. I think safety is of a greater concern to me as I mature. The freedom of not being locked into a group agenda is still appealing but as a single senior, sometimes you are seen as a target by the wrong people. You need for people to know that you are supported and someone has your back.
@livinglargecoachingcounseling2 ай бұрын
Cannot do room mates. Love your honesty. I could sit with my Grandmother together and not talk and be comfortable. I refuse to be taken verbal hostage by anyone who talks endlessly. I loved traveling solo and talking to whoever I wanted to talk to, not because I had to.
@fdoctor794 ай бұрын
The best travel experience I tend to have is when I travel solo. I like to adhere to my own schedule and agenda. However, I am open to a group trip depending on who's in the group. 😅 Chile, when asked to go on a group trip, my first question is who's going? Because it can determine whether that trip is going to be a delight or a horror.😂 Tfs
@BPe-ie9je4 ай бұрын
I bought beautiful cotton fabric at fabric store in Johannasburg. 🙂my friend bought quilt material. GO! 🙂
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
That is awesome!
@FreeSpiritMom4 ай бұрын
As an introvert, traveling is easier for me than the traditional way of Western life
@stacy-annwilliams34404 ай бұрын
I cruise with my twin sister and it works for both of us. She is more of an extrovert and I usually just walk away when it starts to get too social.
@zipporah50603 ай бұрын
Thank you, Adalia. As a fellow introvert, I’m so glad that you brought this topic to the forefront of traveling as an introvert. It’s also interesting to hear the list of introvert-friendly countries.
@AdaliaAborisade3 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
@geraldinethedreamer4 ай бұрын
😁 This was great! So nice to know there are more introverts owning their character.
@AdaliaAborisade3 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@denicagilmer79514 ай бұрын
This was great! Introverts unite!🎉
@sweetandsimple.4 ай бұрын
Thank you for making me feel normal. I'm not alone 🥲. The worst for me is when people expect me to be this storyteller. As a person of few words, you'll get the cliffnotes version everytime 🤷🏾♀️
@yamatiba4 ай бұрын
Great video ! I am an introvert too...
@Marlania14 ай бұрын
Thank you for another thought provoking video!😊 How as an extrovert how do I support my introvert friends? All so I have to disagree about extroverts aren’t told to tone down, be quiet, I’m doing “to much”. How I as told that as an extrovert the only way I recharge is in crowds or large groups and that is not true. I need quiet time to recharge too just not as much as my introvert friends. Also the idea that extroverts don’t understand how people need quiet time? No, that’s someone that doesn’t know how to read the room, take social ques nor respect others needs and boundaries, that can be an introvert or an extrovert. Just as introverts have needs so do extroverts and we all should respect the boundaries and needs of others.
@AdaliaAborisade4 ай бұрын
I think the best way to support them is just to not take offense or make them feel bad when their introversion peeks out.
@MisssVeronicaDior693 ай бұрын
I seen your video on CNBC Make It & I must say you give me hope on moving abroad someday 😊
@AdaliaAborisade3 ай бұрын
If you want it, it's possible. Check out some of the other videos here.
@MaxandLiz-274 ай бұрын
❤ thank you. This video resonates with me.
@AdaliaAborisade3 ай бұрын
You are so welcome
@kimberlygila4 ай бұрын
Hello fellow introvert and l can relate to wanting if l have to pay alittle extra for a single rrom,because l like my space, l socialize with people but at end of day, time to go home or to my hotel room alone. 😊 happy travels in south africa.
@PebblesPages4 ай бұрын
A whole 1.5 hour LIVE on social media with a few hundred strangers about how you are an introvert and don't like to talk to strangers..... I guess. This redefines introvert.
@chondasaine43314 ай бұрын
Don't let India intimidate you. I had a great time in India. You just have to mind your belongings and bring meds for sickness.