TURNING LOSS INTO A NEW LIFE | ALONE AGAIN NATURALLY | SANDRA HART

How am I turning loss into a new life? Welcome back to my channel as I talk about my loss and now solo life. Today, we're diving into a topic that many of us find ourselves facing at some point in our lives - being single and living a solo life in our 60s. Whether you're navigating life after the loss of a spouse, a divorce, or embracing newfound freedom in retirement, this video is for you.
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[@user-iu8cp6ku8s]

I too am alone at 85...it's hard but my faith and trust in God carries me thru and I have found there is joy in life

[@DeanH75]

❤ Hope your Sunday afternoon is nice 🙂

[@linak7155]

Betty, that's my mom's name, too, and she is 83. May the good memories of your life with ur beloved and the surety of our future with the Messiah encourage you. He is our portion and our inheritance.❤

[@catherineclinton911]

🙏✝️❤

[@debraturner1146]

Where are you from? If we live near each other I could visit you and make dinner. I am 60 and we all could use more friends.

[@stacieboucher1570]

I love you Sandra! Thanks for sharing your heart. So helpful. Sorry about your dog too! I hope the Lord brings you many blessings ❤ Aloha 😊

[@judithwallace2091]

Thank you for posting. Living without the person you can't live without takes courage, faith and love. My beloved husband died nearly three years ago and not a day goes by that I don't miss him. The love and strength of a community like this one sustains and nourishes me. Life is better because of your videos. Bless you dear woman.

[@BarbraLapointe]

Courage it takes God and courage and strength knowing that you will be together again 💝

[@dale9724]

Well said judith wallace.

[@datinilamwong8822]

😢​@@dale9724😊

[@janetphillips5321]

Yes I agree with you.

[@MinkaSchlossberger4ever]

❤

[@rhondafellows9419]

Sandra, Your story reminds me of mine. I’m 67. My husband was 66. My husband passed last month. I still can’t believe he is gone. The finality you talked about will take time. He did pass unexpectedly, which has made it difficult to accept. The past 4 years I focused on taking care of him as we were on the cancer journey. Everything I did was for him. He worked, but was better at times then really bad. I focused on him getting better so we could get back to our adventures. It appeared he beat the cancer, but there were other health issues not so serious. I neglected myself during those years which I know wasn’t good. I’m not ready yet to take care of myself, but will soon. I miss knowing we can’t make any more memories. Thank you for your thoughtful video and suggestions. ❤️ I don’t know yet what my purpose is going forward. Praying that God will guide me to that.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Rhonda, thank you so very much for sharing your story of hope. You are a survivor and you will find your way.

[@MrsHMB410]

❤my husband left this place of existence in okt 2022. We were married here for 43 years. THANK YOU dear ONES here who are sharing this time in our lives. I am THANKFUL for ALL of YOU here. I am going to be 67 tomorrow :) ❤❤❤

[@pamelarosenbaum7136]

It has to be much easier on several levels if a widow is financially secure

[@jmc8076]

It definitely helps yes but not in all countries. Some respect and take care of their older citizens. Maybe sometime in future will go back to how our orig citizens of most lands - indigenous and some ancient civilizations - took care of and honored theirs. Xx

[@coppertone711]

@@jmc8076 there certainly is a lot of senior disrespect at this time. I am grateful for my son and he family. Not really alone, but I try to not impose

[@user-rx4gi2mh7h]

I can only agree, with a financial stability the whole world opens up. Unfortunately, not too many seniors can enjoy this privilege, and sitting alone home is not solving the problem, especially if there is no more family of your own left. Every life is different, and everyone has to make the best out of their situation. This is the reality, sometimes hard to digest ❤.

[@Jean-ni6of]

@@user-rx4gi2mh7h Yes, especially if there is no more family of your own left. Every life is different, and everyone has to make the best out of their situation

[@n3r0n3]

it helps with dealing with the problems while our loved ones are still here.. it helps a lot. But it does not help with the loss on an emotional level as that is a type of void money cannot fill.

[@barbaradieckmann9020]

So well said as I lost my husband three years ago and I’m alone but not lonely. I’ll be 80 years young in November.

[@susanmason3432]

That’s a good place to be! It took me several years to achieve that. 😊😊

[@coppertone711]

Well dear, 90 is after 80. 😶

[@roxy4158]

"The Golden Years" indeed! I wish you the very best! As they say, "the best is yet to come" i can't give any advise because we are all different. You will find joy ❤️ we are programmed to survive.

[@dreamgaits]

So many people go from parents/family, to college, to marriage and kids. They never live alone until they are old and vulnerable. I spent two years as a young woman living alone on top of a mountain east of San Diego in a town of less than 200 people. I mean alone. I did work down in the big city but came home to my little cabin and my Australian Shepherd and my horse. Alone. So very glad for that, and I think everyone should learn how to live alone. Learn it young so you are ready for it when you are not so young. You really only have one person in your life, for life, and that is you. The earlier you learn this the better. Having a hard time getting this video to play but will keep trying.

[@patsy6589]

Sounds wonderful, your youth with your little cabin, Shepherd and even a horse.

[@suzanne296]

Good read. I'm depressed cause I've got no friends. Ok

[@kingplays5369]

@@suzanne296Don‘t give up, I am sure that you will find some friends in the future! 🤍

[@lizafield9002]

Agree deeply. I loved solitude as a child, then many opportunities in my 20s, grad school & work in a state far from home. In college I'd get up at 3:00 to have some solitude & talk to God & write him thank you poems. I got married, but was more suited to life alone (& connected). Now as decades have gone, it is my parents i miss. Yet I'm grateful to have my own time connecting with all the beings of earth.

[@pjmurphy920]

@@suzanne296 I don't have a good friend who is free to walk, hike, go to a play or occasionally out to eat. We need friends! I hope you--and I--find a good friend or two to connect with, if that's what you want. Blessings to you!

[@carolynhamilton3316]

Ive been alone since my youngest daughter moved out. I was in my 50s.but was single at 30. Im 79 and so have had alot of years alone. I dont mind, but do wish my life was a little more exciting. Connecting with my friends would mean freeway for an hour. I try to stay off of it, so i dont socialize much anymore. If i had friends closer, that would be different. My two sisters do not live near and i miss the fact that we are seniors now, and dont see one another very much. Having said all that, i still enjoy my life. My children see me at times and grandchildren, so that gives me joy. Im closer to God as i get older, and that makes me happy. I keep up on beauty products, different exercise, healthy food, makeup, etc. You just have to keep going no matter what. ....love these videos, and my children and i watched Romper room years ago❤ bless you Sandra. You are inspiring

[@susanmason3432]

I will pray that the Lord will bring you friends who live close by. Even acquaintances are nice interactions. I share flowers with my neighbors. 😊 🌷

[@lw5592]

This was a lovely video. I turned 70 this year and have been alone a long time....and sometimes the loneliness is crushing. But I have very recently made a decision to move back to a major city near my family, and where there are many places and events that can be enjoyed solo. Living in a small city or town where there isn't much culture or diversity breeds loneliness and being sedentary, especially if you don't drive. Being in a larger city gives me much more opportunity to not only get out more but possibly meet more people when I'm out and about.

[@pjmurphy920]

@@lw5592 Best wishes on your move and on Life getting more interesting! I can relate, being alone, also, with no really close friends, or, none that I can see very often.

[@lindaatkins385]

Thanks for sharing!! I feel you Sandra!! the best is yet to come❤

[@lw5592]

@@pjmurphy920 Thanks so much!

[@theunspeakable24]

I am newly alone at 69. This is an important video.

[@cynthiawilliams737]

I feel that if you are alone you must get out of the house once a day if it is just to a local coffee shop taking in the views & seeing people mingle mainly because staying home alone can bring on depression!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Great advice, Cynthia

[@DeborahRose2885]

This is very true, I tell myself this everyday

[@Rosalie-ct8mi]

Yess I do that as well, have acup of coffee on a terrace and watch people walk by etc. I definitely feel less alone or just a walk in nature helps me as well.

[@kelliemyers4878]

Im 62 and I got married for the first time at age 60. Ive spent most of my life on my own.I raised a daughter by myself. I never thought I would ever be married because I am fiercely independent ...but I also know myself at this age and know exactly what I want from life.

[@janieb6236]

2023 was a year of loss. A brother, dear friend of 40 years, a cousin and unexpected loss of my husband of almost 44 year's. Was😢 awful. The. Lord is my strength...miss each one. Actually there are no words.

[@veronicamarco9111]

God love you?..I've beenalon3 decades, but it's harder as you age...I've turned again to Old friends and cousins,

[@barbiec4312]

Oh dear. Sending a hug. What a year. Hang in there. ❤

[@sunshine-bs2jx]

Sooo sorry xx❤

[@Rosalie-ct8mi]

My condolences to you 🌹That is not easy to lose so many dear poeple in 1 year

[@user-rx4gi2mh7h]

There is just one problem: People losing their loved ones and besides all their greaves and feel of loneliness, they have not the financial stability to travel and enjoy beautiful things. This is always the hard part, being by yourself, thinking about better times and finally realize, that this is the final part of life. Nothing will be like it was before, and strangers really don't understand, how it feels to be lonely and heartbroken. 😢

[@Lisimachos]

So truth ❤

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Unless they have walked in your shoes, you are right.

[@diannevoss7822]

You are right. I just turned 62..my husband passed in December. I spent almost every dime we had caring for him. I have to keep working and I’m truly scared how I will take care of myself as I age. Nothing prepares you for this.

[@fleurdelis7914]

I’m 73 and I’ve lost my husband 8months ago after caring for him through a long and debilitating illness for 9 years. Like you, I became isolated and wasn’t able to take care of myself properly. I have since started counseling, joined a temple and am making new friends. It’s been a painful and bumpy road but I’m re-learning how to be alone and enjoy it. For me, the hardest part is believing that there is still a lot of life left for me to enjoy at my age but your positive attitude at your age is very inspiring. Good luck to you and all of your followers who are experiencing something similar.

[@trudypope2113]

I am now 2 years past the loss of my husband of 44 years. The first year was the hardest. In those 2 years I have grown so much, having to take on responsibilities and learning what I could handle myself and what I needed help with. I did go to GriefShare a program that I highly recommend. I am doing good now. I go out with friends, garden, go to bible studies. I am happy. I decided early on that I had no choice but to move forward and I was determined that I would have joy. I am very happy now but I still miss him but I can think of him without "losing it".

[@kathrynmangascle4471]

My husband passed away suddenly in mid November. I still cannot believe he is gone. I am going to Griefshare now - it is such a wonderful support! 🙏

[@pattyallen5313]

So SORRY for your loss. I lost my wonderful husband 8 years ago. We were married for 41 years.i wept & wept for the first 2 years feeling so devastated. Every year since then I have grown and been amazed in realizing that I can survive without him. Miss him every day but know we will be together one day. May God Bless you with strength & courage as you face each new day. Seek God in your local church and cultivate good friends through a Sinday School class which will richly Bless your life.

[@doveandolive1153]

Fostering healthy and supportive relationships through out our lives at each chapter of our lives is also important. I've lived alone most of my life yet blessed that I never felt alone. No matter what your circumstances are, single - couple, kids no kids, slow pace - fast pace career no career, in your 20's, 30's, 40's 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's or 90+ - it's never too late at each stage to find your tribe through neighbors, work, schools, sports, hobbies, clubs (dance class, book club, bowling clubs, bridge clubs, movie buffs) it doesn't matter what it is you can find people that are relatable if you find some common ground. When we are younger we don't always foster those relationships for a multitude of reasons and life goes on, then wake up and say "hey where did everybody go?" it's ok, gratitude to those around you so long as they are healthy & supportive and seek out what you need.

[@BeFree-BeFrugal]

On a walk recently I talked to a lady who was widowed last year , she was 77 and was trying to navigate her new life alone…we talked for a long time

[@analogkid28]

Thank you so much for the advice and the insight. I’m 57 years old and I’ve been divorced for seven years. I never thought in 1 million years I would be divorced. I’m learning to navigate this chapter of my life. And have made some wonderful friends.

[@sassysandie2865]

I just took a walk and was thinking about those who have died that I loved. It’s just so weird because one day they are here and the next they are not. Just like that! I don’t look forward to the day when my husband passes. I pray I go first. He’s a few years younger but statistically he will still go first. I do look forward to being with the Lord for eternity. You are amazing and can’t believe you are 85. You are a good role model. I will pray for your remaining years to be healthy, happy, filled with peace and joy. Would love to have someone like you in my life. Blessings and love to you!😘

[@mammamia200]

Hi Sandra I did the same thing when I cared for my mother. I let myself go as my only concern in life at the time was my mother. During that time we lost my sister suddenly and my care for my mother became even more so. Took a couple years after mourning and my mothers/sisters passing for me to get back with old friends and start living again. Yesterday I lost my oldest brother to horrible cancer. Another big loss that has brought me down terribly but I have to keep strong and realize that our life keeps going and to take good care of myself. You are an inspiration to us all and I am grateful to be subscribed to your channel. Hope you have a blessed Sunday!

[@angelitepriestess1562]

So sorry for your losses 💜🪷💜 please take good care 💜

[@bluemoon472]

“…I have to realize that life keeps going and take good care of myself.” Very, very true. ♥️🙏🍀

[@KatjaLS]

Hello dear Sandra, thank you so much for your true and helpful words which warmed my heart. I too am a widow since 1 year and 4 month, after a wonderful marriage of 36 years to my beloved husband Conrad. Now I am very alone, even more so I lost already my only child, my son, 18 years ago. I no longer have a family. But I try to live my new life as a single person as best I can, and I really appreciate your good and loving advices very much. Take care ❤ Much love and warm greetings from Switzerland. 🇨🇭 Katja ❤

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you for sharing about both of your losses. Your story is one that shows us we can still survive

[@fathi9609]

Hello Dear Sandra, your resilience and positive attitude to life is impeccable.❤

[@alizvondioszeghy7929]

Dear Sandra, thank you so much for sharing this today. I just got back from a walk, where I was so sad and just missing my husband, who passed away four years ago. I was deeply touched by your words and they were just what I needed to hear today. Thank you.

[@WillowNook]

I just lost my mom. I feel same. I am 50 with no family but her and my grown child. She was who I called for all. Lived up my street. After her I lost my grandmother who also lived up street. I am not from where I live so my lifelong friends are spread out in all different states. Life is very different for me

[@pattyallen5313]

So SORRY for your losses. Please make an effort to join a local Christian church where you can make new friends in a Sunday School class. My friends, new & old, have been a great BLESSING to me since losing my dear husband 8 years ago.

[@allisonspeer649]

Great advice. I'm 63 and my husband is 74 and health issues are coming faster and faster for him and I'm finding my role is changed into more of a caretaker. Its so important to take care of yourself. I'm making an effort to stay connected to friends, and to take care of my physical health. Exercise/walking is such a good physical and mental way to keep our bodies and minds healthy. Social isolation is the worst thing to do, whether as a single person or a couple with caretaking issues but you have to actually work at it. I'm trying to stay on tract and love watching your videos.

[@C.Hawkshaw]

Thanks Sandra! l just lost the little dog that my husband gave me nine years ago, just before he passed. Some websites will tell a widow to get rid of all his stuff, but I find a lot of it very comforting, so I have kept it and put it everywhere 😁 in my apartment. Everyone grieves in their own way so… You’re the best Sandra, thank you for being so honest and open. It really is a comfort!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

We all have to do what makes us happy. There is no right or wrong in anything in life that deals with loss. Thank you so much for sharing. I still have Arthur’s little dog and he is great comfort to me. Especially after losing my Sophie in November.

[@maryblumreich9738]

Little Sophie. I didn't know, am so sorry. ❤. I have been caught up with my only son's cancer battle for the past year. He was 61 but seemed like my baby boy to me. My husband died a few years after our divorce. It was sad but I had been on my own for a while so I didn't feel the way a widow does. My son though has set me down hard. I have three daughters, so am blessed. I just wanted to say I am so sorry about Sophie, I know that pain Sandra.

[@Rosalie-ct8mi]

@@lifewithsandrahart I am so sorry about the loss of your dog Sandra. I did not know this and dogs are such a vital part in our lives especially if you are grieving the loss of your husband. Dogs keep us more grounded and are a source of unconditional love! I hope you can stll enjoy the presence and comfort of Arthur's dog for a long long time Sandra 💞

[@suszc]

Thank you Sandra for sharing your experience with grief and beyond. I am 62 and my husband passed away a year and a half ago. I appreciated that you explained about the feelings around losing a loved one at this stage of life, when you have been doing everything together and 'joined at the hip'.I can very. much relate to this. I still miss him terribly and feel lost, but I am beginning to understand that I can move forward by integrating the experience of loss rather than by 'getting past it'. Your resiliency and honesty have inspired me in so many ways, but have most importantly reminded me time and time again that as long as we are alive, we have a reason for being here ,should be grateful for the time we have and make the most of it. Love and Light to you. Be well.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with all of us today. I knew that so many in our community are in the same situation that I am. So I thought it would be nice to talk about the reality of loss in our lives.

[@deborahcaldwell9775]

Integrating rather than getting past - I will remember such a good statement.

[@GG-ik6ln]

I'm 38 and starting my life over moving to a new place and starting fresh. I've been so stressed and watching this video is so helpful for me right now. Thank you so much ❤.

[@funshinebear4822]

Also 38 and just moved to a new place a couple years ago for a restart. I am still in close enough proximity to visit family and meet with my few friends occasionally. I've also become friends with a neighbor. You'll be alright! Take care of yourself ❤

[@GG-ik6ln]

@@funshinebear4822 Thank you for saying that. That's lovely of you. It helps a lot right now hearing and reading things like your comment. So glad you are doing well 😊

[@7777ddddssss]

Sandra, Thank you,. You just told my story...my husband passed away two months ago. Everything you described happened to me. Such an important message today. Diane

[@cynthiaperdue1543]

Madame, thank you so much for your honest and emotional conversation today. I was reminded of someone who told me that "you do not go through grief, you learn to grow around it". I hope and pray you feel your husband's light and love in your spirit and that the best memories of your life together bring you peace and comfort. You are a treasure and we in your community are better individuals because of your sharing, generosity and words of hope. 💗🕊🌷

[@patriciabuuck5277]

Sandra this is a God send to me. Its just a year since my husband passed, 50 years married. I'm 70 and he was only 72. We raised 6 children of our own so our years were hopping. Now I am all alone. My kids are near by but they are grieving too and living their busy lives. I feel lost and still feel vulnerable when I go places. Without my faith I would really be a mess. This is what I need to hear now. To take care of myself, and lean forward into life maybe just a little at a time for me . Thinking and praying for you on your journey thank you for encouraging mine.

[@greatwhitenorthtreasures3606]

Sandra, wishing you health and happiness in 2024. You look amazing. I can't even believe you are 85. I literally come here at 49 to get inspired by you and how you are living your life!! And your messages in your videos... the wisdom! I'm soaking it in!!! Thank you so much. Blessings, goodness and light to you, Heidi in Vancouver BC Canada

[@cherlgolja5402]

I’m 72 widow love my freedom 😊miss my husband though , however that life ! Be where your feet are!

[@hopegrace7699]

I am a senior and I became solo in 2018, this video is very helpful. Thank you for the encouragement.

[@lab4389]

Caregiving definitely takes your energy away. I spent most of last year taking care of my mom who died of bone cancer. Also, I’m a caregiver of my 28 year old son who has bipolar. I am exhausted and my health has suffered. I’m 66, and I’m not sure if my son will make it after I die. He won’t have anyone. It’s very sad to think about it. Neglecting one’s self care is not healthy, and I’m trying to do better. Thank you Sandra- you’re a jewel.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So sorry. Prayers for strength your way.

[@martieholmes2424]

It is very hard to be a double caregiver, and isolating. I take care of my stroke afflicted husband and my son is also bipolar. He lives with us and is 30. It is very exhausting.

[@sherryhicks4156]

Exactly... I lost my love at age 70. My partner, my love, my life was over. But I decided to live! I am 77 and I live now. My health is so much better. I stay busy!

[@barbarella1235]

You are never alone! Thanks for sharing! Have a great Sunday 🌞❤️😍👌

[@thinkb4uspeak276]

Miss Sandra - a caring girlfriend sent me your video - and I’m grateful she did! I lost my husband to ALS just 5 months ago (and both our dogs in 2023). I felt blessed to be his caregiver and now I feel somewhat lost without him and “our girls”. I took a product demo job in our Sarasota Costco in the New Year to get out of the house and fill in financial holes as well. Sometimes I wonder if working masks my grief. Your mention of “Finality” hit a huge chord for me. I have deep Faith and trust that we will be reunited in Heaven - and I pray he’ll wait for me… He was very handsome and always a gentleman - and if Angels make casseroles - he’s had a PLENTY!! God’s Grace and Peace on you, Sandra!❤

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I know what you are going through. Taking that job was the right thing to do. Being productive and out meeting people will help your healing and grieving process. Thanks for watching and being here.

[@sandrahintz2617]

Yes I was widowed after 37 years and my husband was a widow the same. We have overcome now married for 7 years ❤️

[@barbaramclean7108]

Dearest Sandra, going through loss is never easy because when you care for someone and they depart this life it leaves a void,when I went through my loss it was devastating I even started cutting off some people from my life but I kept a few the ones who were by my side through it all,as time goes by it will be more easy to deal with, self care is very important, eat nutritious diet,keep hydrated,keep your body moving, exercise and one thing that help me is music and prayer,my faith kept me going. You are in my prayers, grief is not easy but it will get less.❤❤

[@sandraharris8251]

This was probably one of the best lessons that you have taught in all of our lives. I’ve lost two husbands to Alzheimer’s and now I am the caregiver for my 87-year-old husband, who has so many things going on in his body that would require almost a full-time nurse. I am the full-time nurse and I listen to you and realize that I still have to take time for myself. So this particular episode was just the right medicine for me and I do appreciate it and I will try now to do the things that reconnect me to myself. Sandra Hart, you are a joy thank you so much.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Stay strong and best of luck to you!

[@ablake2581]

You are such a lovely and insightful woman, I am 81 and lost my significant other this past October. Yes it is difficult and I too am not only in mourning but miss him so very much he was I believe my soul mate. Just today I realized how much gratitude I have for our ten years together we both were very much aware of how fortunate we were to have shared those wonderful and special days together. Thank God we lived in the moment daily , I need to remember gratitude for all things and continue to live in the moment going forward. Thank you for all you do here on your special channel.

[@Rosalie-ct8mi]

My condolences to you! So do I understand that you have found eachother at 71? As you say at 81 you have spent 10 years togehter. Living in the moment is so important and you are very lucky to have found your soulmate at a later age in life! But that does not mean you still miss your partner 🙏

[@05blackponi]

Oh Sandra...I wish you all the best! You have a great attitude . I lost my hubby 4 years ago after 40 years of marriage. As you know...life goes on. So I am happy to say, at the end of March I'm getting married to a wonderful man.

[@diannevoss7822]

My husband passed away in December at the age of 63 after a long illness. We were high school sweethearts and married 43 years. I cared for him and also let myself go so I can really relate to this. Thank you for inspiring me to get back in the game of life. ❤

[@phyalfano953]

hi Sandra, thank you for being so transparent, appreciate that you always speak this way. we just celebrated our 60th anniversary, know each other 64 years, so grateful! really can't relate w/your particular grief but wonder sometimes who will go first and what it would be like. dont want to now dwell on that but your tho'ts and experiences are helpful. prayers for you to have strength and creative ideas to go on. thank you

[@colga100]

You amaze me Sandra. I love how you live life fully in the midst of grief and aging. I am 70 this year which I’m finding difficult coming to terms with. You are always an inspiration to me thank you❤

[@FriendofDorothy]

When one is living alone it is good to make a daily schedule for yourself as to what you want to accomplish that day. This counter-acts feelings of stagnation, sadness, and depression that can be the result of too much time alone.. I'm also a big believer in volunteering if one is physically up to it. . I have snapped myself out of occasional feelings of sadness or self-pity by the simple act of taking soup over to an elderly female neighbor, taking a walk, or getting practical chores done. It was not until I extricated myself from a truly toxic relationship that I began to grow, learn, and work on my own self-healing (from childhood abuse). I started my journey by educating myself about classical music and classic literature, and that has been a WONDROUS experience. Sometimes it barely matters what you do, but MOVE when you feel that gnawing sense of being blue. Your life is not over!

[@juliannehealy3139]

Thank you for this video I lost my husband 5 years ago at age 56 Beautiful and heartfelt message and a reminder we need to look forward God has more in store for us

[@laurabartoletti6412]

Thank you Sandra ! Loss of loved ones , even when decades have passed , is still a part of my journey . I miss my mom , dad , siblings & other family and friends . ( sadness , grief comes & goes throughout life) I'm grateful for my children , longtime friends , family & my loved ones . Sandra , your inspiration is a part of my journey - I appreciate you , thank you for your videos !! 🌸 🍀 🌺

[@lauraomelanczuk5708]

You inspire me. After 10 years of being divorced and trying to move forward… I still find it hard to move forward. One day at a time.

[@artistcarolyngrace1711]

So well said Sandra my feelings and thoughts exactly - don’t want to burden my children they have their own lives and miss their Dad- as well- lost my husband after 51 years- it’s very hard I cry a lot- (I even cry when I go out to the garage and see a box of keepsake items that were his- 😪) but I try to focus on Gods’ direction for me - not one day goes by that I don’t miss him so dearly - your videos are a blessing and an inspiration in my life! Seeing that there are so many others going through what we are going through helps tremendously with the loneliness and is an encouragement to go on. Please never stop doing what you’re doing - Beautuful lady- You’re so gifted and help so many. 80 years young and widowed - Carolyn Bless you Sandra! ❤️

[@naomiferreira8255]

I can relate to everything you said. It took me two years to get to the acceptance stage. Grief never goes away but it changes. Turn the page and begin your new adventure 💐❤️

[@caroledrury1411]

Thank you for your commentary and I love the music at the end it feels good to hear such joyous music. I lost my husband 10 years ago and I live every day in spirit with him. My attempt to re-couple with someone failed so I am quite happy now back in the spiriting of my late husband. It’s always a comfort to hear you Sandra and your survival skills.

[@amandasymon4363]

You have voiced my world and feelings exactly. Thank you for putting it so well into words. I am 67 years old and recently lost my husband to stage four cancer - I met David when I was 15 years old! I do not know who I am - I still cannot really believe he has gone forever. I am slowly discovering who I am with your help. 🙏❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So sorry.

[@EllieM_Travels]

My close friend just went through this, taking care of her husband who had cancer, neglecting her own needs. She just lost him two days ago, and she’s not coping well. Thank you for sharing your story and your experience! I’m sharing your channel with her.

[@PeachesSkinCare]

You are so beautiful and such a blessing to so many that are alone now. I cannot even imagine what it would be like to be without my best friend and husband for almost 40 years. I am giving you a big hug Sandra. Also anyone here feeling alone 🙌🏻🧡🍑❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much Lisa. This last year has been a challenge for sure, but I still have work to do. 💕💕

[@PeachesSkinCare]

@@lifewithsandrahart Please remember you are such an inspiration. We all love you ❤️🙌🏻🧡🍑

[@gailtester8749]

I am very inspired by this! My dear husband is in hospice and we are in final days. I also have not been taking as good of care of myself WRT food, exercise and reaching out to friends. I loved your B roll! And I love thinking of this not as an ending, but as the beginning of my next chapter. Thank you Sandra.

[@user-im3tk9ri7e]

Sandra, hopefully having your KZbin channel has helped you. I'm also self employed and I've found that having the connections that come from my career added a positive aspect to my life during the care-giving time and has also made my transition to widowhood easier. My sisters and I text each other every morning, This is a quote I just received from one of them and I thnk it fits perfectly with today's conversation. "Live each day as if your life has just begun." Happy Week, Sandra!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you for that quote. It’s so appropriate. Yes, my channel has helped so much. I love my community here.

[@jeanettesmith765]

I'm 70 and have been divorced for 33 years. I have learned to love my singleness. The finances have been a challenge, but I have survived.

[@mssdn8976]

I am anticipating what it will be like to be single, my husband has a lot of health issues, so I do think I’ll be alone before too long. I’m so lucky to have good family nearby. I have grandchildren who need help, which I’m happy to provide, babysitting mostly. It sounds harsh, but I’m de cluttering our house and getting rid of things that have been in cupboards for years, in the hope that we can downsize our home sometime soon.

[@cocogomez2278]

Wishing you the best in discovering the new Sandra. At 50 I've gone through losses and on a journey myself to find my worth and value where I belong.

[@m.harris2429]

Our dearest Sandra: Please know that you are not alone. So many seniors in this dear world are lonely. So grateful for your channel. We all love you. 🥰

[@rosamartin-correa4741]

Helllo Sandra What a beautiful message you created. Im 66 years old and Ive gone through a divorce 2vyears ago, it has been real.hard since we were together for 30 years but in the last 2 he became abusive and so😮 needless to say I can relate to the pain of detachment but thhank God Ive had a support system that has helped me with this tremendous loss. I pray you continue on your journey and better days will come.❤

[@yoga-nidra-ademenmeditatie]

Lovely Sandra ❤ you are not all by yourself, with this dear community you created, but of course I understand where you are coming from. 💞Thank you for your honesty; it’s not so easy, to start all over again with your Self as main company; to digest your grieve and reinvent yourself at the same time. It takes time, patience, courage, selfcare, creativity, wisdom and last but not least reliable friends. I know, after several divorces and other losses and I know I can , at 70 years young and strong. Please do feel how loved and appreciated you are ❤

[@linp1268]

You have such a beautiful soul and by what you said today, I am sure it has helped so many to find the courage and strength to move forward one day at time finding their place if they have lost a loved one. Thank you always for showing your vulnerability and sharing what is so precious and close to your heart. You are a ray of light in this world when it can be dark for so many. ❤

[@Rosalie-ct8mi]

Very well said! 🌷

[@arifakhalid326]

Some how it was blessing to hear this "TODAY"

[@livingoncoffee]

God will make all things new and there will be so much to look forward to including seeing our loved ones. God will bless his people forever......

[@enough1494]

I am 66. For my entire education I was intern and alone. Went to the USA for. College education alone. Married a man whose work took him well over 50% of the time. He died when I was 39, raised four alone. Never remarried. I don’t think I really like people…and God knows it! Hugs….alone again naturally…yes! 🙌💕🙏

[@bekayezme]

Yes that’s true. I went from my dads house, got married and lived with my husband. If he goes before me I will living on my own for the first time near age seventy and it’s scary.

[@susanmason3432]

Beautiful videography, editing job, & music. To all the caregivers out there … please take to heart Sandra’s advice today. I pray for you caregivers to get any help you may need to be able to get out to walk, have lunch with friends, or even a leisurely bubble bath or shower. Thank you Sandra for the reminders. ❤❤❤

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much! Susan, I really appreciate your being here.

[@concettaalcorn686]

I know and understand what you’re talking about the same thing when my husband was sick and then grandchildren and life happens and putting myself back on the shelf but now, as I am a lot older, not too many directions to go in you just plug away Sandra you’re an inspiration to all of us. God bless you.❤

[@Ruth72166]

I've been alone now for 4 years ( I'm 58). At first I viewed it as a punishment, as there have been additional estrangements with other loved ones . .... Lately I've been looking at this time alone differently. I'm able for the first time to focus on me, to hear myself and to have a relationship w me. I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry for the pain that comes from the finality of death. It's a crazy place to be when ones world has seem to have stopped and yet the world continues to go on. Blessings to you ❤.

[@Laurie_Tinsley]

I just found your videos Sandra and I wish I had found them sooner. I am a 56 year old woman that lost her husband to cancer a year ago. I was his caregiver for the last 3 years of his life and those 3 years were extremely exhausting. The only thing that saved me was being able to work from home, which I still do today and being home to care for him instead of leaving home everyday to go to work. I am lucky that I can take my job with me wherever I go. Lately I have been thinking about selling our home and moving. I currently live out in the country, basically in the middle of no where. It was fine living in the country when my husband was here with me. Now that he is gone, I feel so much more alone with no one to see or talk to. His family no longer call or stop by, they have all moved on with their lives while I sit here feeling stuck in a place I no longer enjoy. Your video gives me the motivation to do something about it and find the peace and happiness I long for. I need to start focusing on my own self care first. I have let myself go due to the grief and sorrow that has overwhelmed my life. I see the beach and palm trees in your videos and I miss living in Florida so much. I grew up in Florida and it feels like home to me. Maybe that is where my fresh new life will start.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Welcome. I am so happy you joined us in this community. Please subscribe so that you will be notified when my conversations go up every week. I am happy that this may have helped you a bit.

[@cynthiahurlburt2819]

Dear Sandra, Our arms are around you. The anniversary death of one's love is always a solemn time. Some find it more difficult than others to accept and start taking baby steps to the new chapter in their life being single. Your message is a great stepping stone to turning the page and love one self for health reasons. Thank you.❤

[@sharonammirati2042]

The impulse to not burden our children can be very stong but it's important not to shut them out completely as often and hopefully they will want to help ease our burden in small generous ways. They deserve the honesty without whining or demands. But yeah impossible to truly understand until one arrives at this undesired but hard to avoid destination in life. Books, music (lots of videos available) and movement, nature, and acceptance are crucial. But sometimes, just starting or ending the day can be so difficult. Thanks for sharing your videos. They are helpful too.

[@judydodds3837]

It's so nice to see you, I lost my husband almost four month. I never realized how much I loved him and miss him terribly. I'm 75 now and he was 86. I took him so much for granted and it's very hard to live without him. I don't want anyone else in my life and I'm trying hard to be independent. I will keep watching and listening to you and hopefully get some ideas that can help me. Thank you and God bless you.

[@marilynb8136]

Thak you for this wisdom. I needed to hear it. Both my daughter and myself are recent widows. My husband passed six months ago, my daughter's husband passed eight months ago. So we're both learning to navigate this road together. It is hard but we have to keep going. It's a new life for us both!!!

[@Kiki-wi7px]

Bless You Both. I Suggest you Read "FOOTPRINT'S IN THE SAND." 👣 🤎 👣

[@danaadamski3400]

I am an avid follower and get some nugget of wisdom from each segment. However, today you really spoke to my heart. I have no children or siblings. With my husband's passing I saw so many doors close that would have still be opened had I been younger. I miss him terribly as he was my world, especially in these later years, but an interesting thing happened. His door closed but old friends came back into my life, new relationships have been formed and I am so lucky to be surrounded by other women who show such love and support and through our widow's group have been able to give back. I can only hope that I continue to age as gracefully as you.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Great news. Thanks so much for sharing!!

[@justinamusyoka4986]

There's a time for everything under the sun,a time to be happy and a time to cry etc. Our creator isolates people to use them.I am a widow for 13 years now and antagonised from people because many wanted to use me for self gain while others appeared wolves in sheeps clothing. Solitude became the best part in my entire life to reflect and learn many things.I feel better in my own company.

[@peggyduncanbaggenstoss5380]

My heart aches for you and your family’s loss. In June 2023 my 48 year old daughter lost her husband suddenly. He fell dead while standing beside her. Her new journey has been opening doors for her with opportunities to learn tools at Widow seminars and retreats to help her on her new chapter. She’s meeting widows in all age categories. Widows seminars and retreats are her friends right now. She’s lost over 30 pounds. May you find a seminar or retreat that will help you on your new journey. Thanks for sharing your story in this video. Hugs from Arkansas.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank YOU for sharing your daughter’s story. It will help others for sure.

[@MeeMee-qt7ww]

I am 78 years old and totally alone with no safety net or backup as my adult children live in another Country from myself. So no family in my own Country. I have learnt to focus on taking good care of myself. Eating nutritionally, swimming, Zumba, walking, beach strolling, reading, Gardening and so on. I own my own home and choose not to pay out to go into a Retirement Village, hopefully wanting to stay in my own home and never have to go into care, but none of us know whats ahead if we can no longer look after ourselves.

[@irenetovar7756]

Hi Sandra, it is 342 a.m. and I can't sleep. I heard 6 gun shots fairly close by, so I got on KZbin and started watching you. I am 71 and luve alone. I have a son, but I don't see him that often, and my granddaughters and great-granddaughter live in AZ. I have a best friend since we were 11 years old and talk daily on the phone, but she lives about 800 miles from me. My other bestie lives near me, and we talk, and she depends on me to take her to her doctors appointments. She was diagnosed with Parkinsons last week, and she has a lot of other health issues. I feel like she may not be around much longer. Sometimes, I feel alone because I need help with my home, and I have no one to help me. I'm not a hoarder, but my house needs repairs. I never married, and I feel so bad for you ladies who lost your husbands. God bless you all, and Sandra, you are a blessing to us all. Im glad I found your channel.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Loneliness is not usual at our age. I’m so sorry about your friend. My brother has Parkinson’s and I know you will be a support to her. Keep speaking on the phone to your other friend. Would you ever consider moving close to your grandchildren?

[@patriciaredick9849]

Thank you beautiful Sandra. I am a fairly recent widow too. Your encouragement and kindness is very much appreciated. Greetings from Babcock Ranch, I am your neighbor and friend across the state! ❤

[@user-qg7kb9qn3t]

You are an inspiration to me and many others, I am recently widowed 10 Mths ago and I'm trying to start my life over it's hard ,but with people like you it helps so much. I do not live here n my own country, so things are very different but aloneness is aloneness where ever you are .thank you ❤

[@MM-wi5dn]

Very many of us will be alone in our 80’s. The assisted living places can help with the aloneness as they offer myriad activities and social opportunities. Grand Windsor in Jacksonville is fabulous. Filled with 80 somethings who hang out together.

[@judithgrantham9039]

Thank you Sandra. I am alone as well & after 5 years I finally feel stable & happy. My faith in God has gotten me through so many heartaches, trials & loneliness. It is so good to talk about it. Thank you & God Bless you. ❤

[@lpgirl]

Thank you, Sandra, for being there.

[@jacquelineglitter4328]

I like being single and I realized that 20 years ago. Except one day I meant Rocky and he's moody, bossy and get angry easy. He also keeps the house clean and is affectionate. He's the perfect cat. I don't have time to be lonely. If I was I would join a group, go to church or volunteer somewhere.

[@leighwiseman8389]

Thank you so much Sandra, I so enjoy your videos. Hope you have a good week ahead xxx

[@katejackson649]

Thank you. Just what I needed today. ❤

[@Danuta628]

What a comforting message video Sandra - thank you so much! ❤

[@cindyhalpern3187]

Thank you for this sincere posting about being on your own!

[@brendayeary3653]

My husband has not been feeling very well, so for the last month or so I have just not exercised either, and I’ve always been the type to exercise and take care of myself. I have put on weight, and I don’t like feeling like I do. I’m sorry about your loss. I just can’t imagine going through all that. I saw your interviews with him, and they were such good interviews.

[@Dreamer7au]

Thank you so much Sandra, you are such a strength to me, through all of your videos, and none more so than this video, as I cravel this world solo. I am so grateful you are still sharing your wisdom. God Bless xx

[@lanashewmaker3114]

Thank you, Sandra. I so needed this inspiration this morning!

[@nan----]

Thank you for this lovely video!! 💖

[@lilylammond8093]

Sending so much love to you Sandra and all you inspirational lovely people in the comments. It’s brought a tear to my eye all these stories, vulnerabilities and positive outlooks💕

[@ClosetLady]

Sandra, I truly admire you! I think you are so inspiring! I at 59 almost 60 now have been trying to for the last few years cope with loss, and huge challenges and changes I need to make but, am so fearful of. But, you inspire me! I hope to be like you more and reach your age wise and still reinventing myself too. I keep thinking I am too old and life has passed me by and opportunity as well at 60 almost. But, you are proof that isn’t true. I wonder if you would share how you learned to edit videos? You do such a beautiful job job. And I have had a youtube channel and have struggled to figure out how to use the editing programs available because i don’t know which one is the most user friendly for my age and skill set, which is minimal at best! But, I truly want to improve and I think gosh, you have done it and so well! Certainly I can figure this out and get out of this frustration spot with it for a year plus now just stuck doing the videos with no editing because I feel so inept. You look so vibrant and healthy always. 💕thank you for making aging vibrant, relevant and empowering!

[@annmarie3520]

So sorry for your loss but you truly are an inspiration to many others.😘❤🙏🏻✨

[@leanneb9111]

As always dear Sandra you are an inspiration. Thank you for your channel.❤

[@rowdyraven2009]

Thank you Sandra needed this today. Your sharing your videos helps so many and makes the day start off on a positive note, I manifest for you much happiness, joy, and love on this part of life's journey that your now on. Much appreciation and blessings to you beautiful lady!...♥