Uncover the Signs of Toxic Relationships with Dr. Tracey Marks (Look for These Red Flags)

In this video, Dr. Tracey Marks will teach you how to identify the signs of toxic relationships. codependency is poisonous and will destroy relationships, but you can overcome this pattern!
If you're in a toxic relationship and don't know what to do, watch this video! Dr. Marks will teach you how to identify the signs of a toxic relationship and how to get out of this pattern.. By watching this video, you can save yourself from a lot of pain and suffering.
Learn more from Dr. Marks on her KZbin channel: / @drtraceymarks
Learn more about Dr. Tracey Marks emotional wellness community: mentalwellness...

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Learn more from Dr. Marks on her KZbin channel: www.youtube.com/@DrTraceyMarks

[@KeoKitti]

This is truly a dream collaboration!!! Thank you both so much for what you do 🥰

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thank you too!

[@nikopalmer6471]

@@PutTheShovelDown I agree!! Thank you for you two!!!

[@lovelydaye6640]

Dr Marks is a gem!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

For sure!

[@Asher22222]

I worry that I’m the one who is emotionally abandoning my addicted love one. I’m so hurt and angry and in going toward myself, and pulling back from the relationship a bit, I feel I almost have nothing to say. I need to find a balance between healing myself and being kind and caring towards him. Thank you for this video! Grateful to you both for sharing your time and talent! ❤

[@beverlybalfe115]

Dr Mark's is awesome. Thanks for having her on

[@PutTheShovelDown]

It was an honor to have Dr. Marks on!

[@reettaelina]

I am starting my season❤🎉

[@jennym-lsh]

Really appreciated this video, I wish I could have caught it live. I follow both of you and what you talked about made so much sense. My husband recently separated from me because I was the negative dependent person and he never felt he could talk to me to address it until it reached breaking point. I’m really trying to work on myself now, meditating, therapy and reflecting a lot. I hope we can eventually work this out but if not I hope it leads to me being in a better place to move on 💔

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm really impressed with your humility and willingness to work on things. Much respect to you, Jenny! 🤛🏻

[@jennym-lsh]

@@PutTheShovelDown 💛💛💛

[@jazminehunter7913]

I needed this video! Things are soo hard and people dont talk about this. Thank you!

[@troberson5501]

Yay! My two favorite YT mental health providers together!

[@sethtenrec]

Dr Marks is the greatest!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

She sure is!

[@Skoopyghost]

I have autism, dyslexia, dyscalculia, ADHD, and addiction. Everything that it takes to be a rock star if you look at the best musicians, and I'm a singer/songwriter.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

😃😅🤣You make a good point! I'm ADD myself.😁😎

[@noonenooneneither3838]

@@PutTheShovelDown and they can be offended so easily haha!

[@tamaraludmilasings]

Oh my god I can’t believe this video exists. When I was with my Q I had no idea what addiction implied (behavior and personality wise) and I was becoming very reactive to everything… so my Q and his therapist, "friends" and family started to say that I was needy, hypersensitive, controlling, I had anger issues (because I was starting to get mad all the time, I was exhausted), a b*tch, you name it… Because I was gaslighted, I saw Tracey’s video of toxic relationships and Immediately felt like I was being the problem, that I was the toxic one and that everyone on my Q’s side was right. Amber… your channel has given me so much peace and this video was so unexpected and I can’t believe it exists. It clears up so many things, and I feel detraumatized from watching Tracey’s list and thinking everything was my fault xD and now Im able to be more compassionate to myself and understand the whole situation as it really was. I understand now that I was just having natural reactions (poor ones) to such a chaotic situation. Thank you so much!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm so glad this video helped you. This is exacly why I wanted to make it. I also saw Dr. Marks video on toxic behaviors and I started thinking about how addiction can trigger these kind of behaviors for loved ones. (even if they never had these types of behaviors before). The families reaction is a symptom of the addiction.

[@AmyB1961]

She's listing the same traits as a high functioning Asperger's person might have. I have THREE of them in my life. All currently addicts to something or other. It's very difficult to want to stay in contact now, after so many years. Two are headed into dementia, one is living in a tent. None want assistance, though they routinely ask for it. Then get angry that they needed help. All of them treat people as objects.

[@amypeters6466]

Love this great collaboration. So much knowledge 😊

[@michelle-md8it]

I've working hard on keeping my boundaries with my addicted loved one, and one of those is if he's under the influence of drugs/alcohol I won't receive him at my house. A couple of days ago, he told me he did drink the night before but was sober at that time and wanted to see me, and since I didn't immediately reply he then told me he started drinking for that day again. Yesterday, he said I refused to see him, that I pushed him away and rejected him... I don't want to interact with him if he's been drinking or using because he gets mood swings that really hurt me.

[@candipayne2003]

Love this I needed to hear this thank you ladies for your help advice and support

[@a..r.9341]

Ooohhh great. Looking forward to see this interview/colaboration ...🥰

[@carolynwrightBTO]

What a Treat!! Feels like Christmas!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

😁😁😁🎄🎄🎄🎄

[@AllyPenguin]

Awesome collaboration!! ❤️

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thank you!! 😊

[@user-oy1nc5hj2y]

I can be toxic but usually only with some people and circumstances. How can I be more aware of what I am doing?

[@paulalane8638]

I grew up with alcoholic mother and chaos. Funny I have need to control and can be sarcastic with people in my life who are addicts. I know I had anger issues from repressed hurt. I have lived with friends and others who have no addiction and never exhibited these behaviors. So, it must be the alcohol/addiction relationships that trigger me. Thanks so.much for this! Yep, hold it in, and then it sneaks out! I do this a lot!😝

[@sr2291]

What are the behaviors?

[@paulalane8638]

@sr2291 well, they accuse you of doing the same things they do. You are never right. They deny everything you say. Gaslight you! Say YOU have them walking on eggshells??!!! Ignore you, invalidate you...its a toxic way to live! I now suffer from extreme nervous system dsyregulation because of lifetime in these relationships.

[@sr2291]

@@paulalane8638 Me too. And now my daughter is doing this to me. I feel like I am going to be abused for the rest of my life.

[@paulalane8638]

@sr2291 I'm so sorry! It's hard because it is close family or in my case spouse! Take care of yourself! ❤️🙏🤗

[@sr2291]

@@paulalane8638 Thank you. I don't know how you leave a daughter. Do you?

[@towritemichelle210]

Love Dr. Marks!!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Me too!

[@oscardaniel8087]

Thanks!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thank you so much 😀

[@brightpage1020]

Omg🎉😮😅😊😂❤🎉🎉❤🎉❤🎉 2 of my faves together!!!!!! Thank you!!!

[@Relivrn]

Excellent ♥️

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks, Shawn 😊

[@latonyagarner6060]

It's mentally draining

[@debrasmith8860]

Gosh all these things describe me! I am very cynical and depressed.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You're not alone!

[@TranscendingTrauma]

Can’t fix what we can’t see 🤗

[@latonyagarner6060]

How do a person live a normal life knowing that everyone is in their business

[@Rodney-1972]

What's interesting is hearing this counselor explaining therapeutic terms to Dr. Marks! 😆

[@latonyagarner6060]

why are so many people committed to my life?

[@michelevonherbulis6618]

20+ years in a Firehouse and you either learn to be sarcastic and have thick skin or you get eaten alive. After a long shift it is sooo difficult to not bring this home. I joke about taking off the uniform and putting it in the wash. Then showering off myself to wash away the attitude.

[@lydiajoymcdowell-davis3390]

I lost my husband to toxic firehouse culture.

[@michelevonherbulis6618]

@@lydiajoymcdowell-davis3390 - I am very sorry. I have yet to be in any firehouse that does not have a toxic culture.

[@AmyB1961]

Also, who is this "they" she refers to with her list? Is the They anyone in a codependent relationship? That doesn't make sense, if that's the case.

[@LL-ok8lz]

Amber keeps referencing “the video” Dr Marks made but no link to the video?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Here you go, LL: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bp_LgYpsp9-kiNE

[@bugajk25]

I’m a terrible person - I’m 10-10

[@PutTheShovelDown]

A terrible would never admit that!

[@latonyagarner6060]

Just send me to jail already

[@technoguyify]

❤allll❤ the l

[@latonyagarner6060]

Not trying to be sarcastic or funny

[@michelle-md8it]

I've working hard on keeping my boundaries with my addicted loved one, and one of those is if he's under the influence of drugs/alcohol I won't receive him at my house. A couple of days ago, he told me he did drink the night before but was sober at that time and wanted to see me, and since I didn't immediately reply he then told me he started drinking for that day again. Yesterday, he said I refused to see him, that I pushed him away and rejected him... I don't want to interact with him if he's been drinking or using because he gets mood swings that really hurt me.

[@michelle-md8it]

I've working hard on keeping my boundaries with my addicted loved one, and one of those is if he's under the influence of drugs/alcohol I won't receive him at my house. A couple of days ago, he told me he did drink the night before but was sober at that time and wanted to see me, and since I didn't immediately reply he then told me he started drinking for that day again. Yesterday, he said I refused to see him, that I pushed him away and rejected him... I don't want to interact with him if he's been drinking or using because he gets mood swings that really hurt me.

[@michelle-md8it]

I've working hard on keeping my boundaries with my addicted loved one, and one of those is if he's under the influence of drugs/alcohol I won't receive him at my house. A couple of days ago, he told me he did drink the night before but was sober at that time and wanted to see me, and since I didn't immediately reply he then told me he started drinking for that day again. Yesterday, he said I refused to see him, that I pushed him away and rejected him... I don't want to interact with him if he's been drinking or using because he gets mood swings that really hurt me.