Understand Your Feelings

[@jessb465]

This was wildly helpful. The most challenging part of emotional coping, I’ve experienced, is that I haven’t been able to rationalize or intellectualize them (leading to my understanding and thus, problem solving). This seems to be a sensible, sound theory that can side in simplifying complex emotions. Took notes to bring to therapy and discuss with good ol’ Dave today. 😉 Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@orangeandslinky]

I liked this. The ending seemed to tell me that I have options to work with. (I'm not powerless)

[@alexanderlyon]

Great stuff, Bruce. Also, love the setup!

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Thank you, Alex. After 18 months of focusing on TikTok, I’m returning my focus to KZbin. I spent the last month or so remodeling my office and remembering how to use my gear!! Hope all is well with you. I continue to marvel at and enjoy your success.

[@Knowledge_Nuggies]

*Summary:* How to Master Your Emotions (Richard Lazarus's cognitive theory of emotions; CBT) Emotions emerge from the relationship between me and my environment, i.e., from automated primary and secondary appraisals (in split-seconds). Label the emotion based on the patterns, e.g., at @7:28 (anger), @8:17 (guilt), @8:50 (anxiety), @10:06 (sadness) [Maybe you can share more patterns?] To align my emotional response with the objective reality I must re-appraise these questions concerning the trigger-event [-> to be pinpointed first] realistically [& afterwards re-label emotion and plan way forward]: • Primary appraisal: o Relevance: Is the event relevant for my well-being? o Goal-consistency: Is the event positive or negative (vs. my goals/interests/needs)? • Secondary appraisal: o Accountability: What caused the event (me, someone/something else, coincidence)? o Capacity for problem-based coping: How is my ability to cope with this event practically? o Capacity for emotion-based coping: How is my ability to cope with this event emotionally? o Future expectations: How will the event develop in the future?

[@alwaysyouramanda]

Pretty interesting stuff. I’m glad youtube brought this to me. It’s so hard to turn-it-off. The way I look at it is, an emotion is a conversation you have with yourself. You can’t hope to include a third while you’re preoccupied.

[@pamlemm903]

Most underrated video on all of KZbin! Thank you so much for this!

[@julievarady767]

These sessions are fantastic. I love the scholarly, yet engaging presentation. Keep ‘em coming!

[@julialednicky7542]

Love this lesson. Fascinating! So helpful!

[@Syncere20]

Awesome video. Very helpful thank you.

[@samantharodriguez1095]

Hello new viewer here I love you’re videos keep up the great work and keep changing lives !

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Thank you.

[@ribe3434]

Great way to communicate complex concepts.

[@kitkat615]

Thank you so much for your content Dr Lambert!! Love how accessible you make the information for us. Thank you x100000!!! ❤️

[@v-3555]

Superb video!

[@christopherpenny6216]

I hope you read this... You might be the first to actually give me data I didn't have regarding communication... But this one... I just learned the root of my anxiety. Ok, one of them

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Very happy you got something out of it.

[@amstergal]

I hope it’s ok to mention a book in comments but are you familiar with “The Obstacle Is The Way”? Just subbed, your channel just popped up and I’ve watched 2 vids so far, most interesting, thank you!

[@alfabasi]

This is the old question "Do we feel what we feel because of the way we think or do we think what we think because of the way we feel". It seems to be the first option in this cognitive theory for it says meaning is the main cause. I'm not so sure about that, but the video is very interesting anyway

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

I think that causality probably flows in both directions. Once we feel some intense emotion, it can distort our thinking, and then that prolongs the emotional spiral.

[@jimmy2035]

@@HowCommunicationWorks I've seen it numerous times when someone likes someone irrespective of his ill-behavior he will still be biased and favor the one he likes.

[@that_one_guy6243]

Keep growing nice content

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Thank you.

[@gandalfm.student4756]

I tried my best to be a good person but didn't work out. I'm reaching the end of the road. Take care.

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

I’m wishing you strength to persevere, Gandalf. Not all who wander are lost.

[@bebegurl4724]

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[@elsat904]

✨💕

[@toobalkain]

emotions are entirely constructed, read How Emotions Are Made.

[@speedplays6710]

Is this psychology or philosophy?

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Both psychologists and philosophers discuss emotions. But Richard Lazarus was most definitely a psychologist. He collected data and did experiments. Philosophers don’t do experiments or collect data.

[@meenarafeeque8346]

Warm regards Dr Bruce sir. Came to know about this channel only recently. Have been a fan since then. This particular video about emotions was very informative and as usual interesting. But the adaptive perspective on 'anxiety' was obviously not convincing. Human behaviours do have evolutionary advantages but I don't think that can explain everything. Human beings need to know the ultimate purpose of their lives. And get an idea of the greater good intended in God's plans. Otherwise they can never master anxiety. This is what we call the spiritual quotient.

[@geehadarillo1]

To all the trust fund babies, absolutely take this advice. But to real people. I'll tell you straight up in 1 second 💯. Man up don't let anyone walk over you and you will do just fine. Man up.

[@jojojacksonville_2903]

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[@gagadonim3354]

Explains about dangerous killing cars. Displays professional drivers driving completely safe on the tracks 😭😭😭