Understanding Gender & The Gender Spectrum

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[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

A SOLID SIDE NOTE! Gender can be discovered later in life, you don't have to know your gender when you are very little to be trans. You can discover yourself at anytime.

[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

@@zantasyy agreed, that's why I mentioned it here in the comments

[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

@Jack Not quite, for some people they know young, but for others it takes a lot longer to figure out and that can be caused by external pressures that give people the idea that they can only behave a certain way, or the way that a large chunk of society deems "acceptable" and therefore pushing them into a box that they don't feel fits them but because they were forced to act that way their whole life they didn't really know any different until they may have started doing some self exploration away from said external pressures.

[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

@Jack also i forgot to mention, gender identity, who you see yourself as, can change over time and develope into something different, this is why it can take people years of questioning to figure out what suites them best

[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

@Jack From what I understood of your paragraph that seems correct, and I personally dont see why we should impose old-fashioned gender roles to our modern society, in all honesty it just holds back progression and feeds into toxic gendered standards that are completly unnecessary. And the work of the past LGBTQ+ members was certainly not for nothing, they started paving the way for a newer better place and we as a community have made strides of improvement thus far, even though of course we've still got a long way to go as a whole.

[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

@Jack whoa ok that went off the rails quick. Are you referring to my original comment?

[@TurtleProphet73]

“And honestly because I’m gay and I like rainbows and colors” (4:32) I love this. I don’t know what I identify as yet, and I’m still trying to figure myself out myself, and this video is really helpful

[@Noct343]

If you're a biological male, or a biological female, that's what you identify as. Just like if you're a human, obviously you're going to identify as a human not as a parrot. You're deluded.

[@lemon8283]

Gender expression and gender identity are different things, remember that!

[@randommeowthekitty6482]

Thank you, I was waiting for him to bring this up and he never did

[@neezv9224]

PERIOD !!🌈

[@yordle_chan2519]

I'm still trying to learn about everything. What do you mean by that? I don't really understand, aren't gender expression and gender identity the same thing?

[@riverbed590]

@@yordle_chan2519 No ,gender identity is who u are inside and your gender expression is what others percieve you as. Eg. Gender identity will be non binary ,boy ,girl,agender ect. Gender expresion will be masculine ,femnine, androginouse.

[@lemon8283]

@@yordle_chan2519 I'm no where near an expert on this, so I suggest you do more research beyond this comment, but I think gender expression is how you express yourself physically, through makeup, clothes, etc. Gender identity is more complicated, kinda just what gender you feel you are. I myself am still struggling with that definition, but it is something more mental than gender expression. Anyways, have a good day!

[@sirdavidoftor3413]

This week is Trans awareness week in Canada. Kraft Canada has a limited edition book for sale for kids, and parents. It is called His, Hers, Them and Theirs: Learning Pronouns with the Bears. It features the two Kraft Bears, Smoothy and Crunchy learning about pronouns. It is written by a Canadian Trans male, Nick North, who lives with 5 kids and a partner in Vancouver. I put this out for information, I don’t receive anything from it, only to hope to inform of its availability and existence. I have not read it, though. I am a boomer gay, who is learning about pronouns, so I can offer the same respect that I get from my family to others. Your channel and this video is part of my education. Thank you for doing what you do. We are all different is so many ways, but we all deserve the same dignity and respect just for being human, no matter those differences. ( if you want me to delete the part half, let me know) Stay safe, stay sane, be well

[@SourSalty]

Don't call ppl male, it's cringe, a trans man, is a men.

[@Kai_The_Kai]

I’m genderfluid :) I go by any pronouns but dyshphoria is *BIG*

[@Freaklex737]

@@SourSalty let people call themselves what they want, if theyre comfortable with calling themselves a trans male, so be it, and if someone want yo he called a man, so be it. and no. no label is ‘cringe’. man, women, trans male, trans women, let people be called what they want, alright?

[@kite_was_here9351]

Man is relating to one men is relating to many so if he is referring to himself as a trans male he is talking about himself if he is relating multiple he would say trans men

[@parkerburr9556]

i'm a fluxuating enby and wearing my first super masc outfit from stuff i found in my dads closet, the gender euphoria is high :D

[@travisyelland42]

I really enjoyed this and i hope it helps some people understand more sadly too many people seem incapable of learning new for them information. 🇨🇦🌈🇨🇦🌈

[@gloriatg100]

Bigotry is a terrible thing. Ignorance only breeds more ignorance. 🇺🇸🏳️‍🌈💄💋💅😁

[@theevilbean]

@Jack they're not saying that it's new they're saying it's not a good thing.

[@theevilbean]

@Jack bigotry?

[@aquavertihama7367]

@@theevilbean thats completely false either way and kinda dumb in my opinion, yes, let’s just not respect people because we don’t understand them.

[@thespookyghost5723]

Travis Yelland, why did you use the Canadian flag? That's not a pride flag, that's a flag of a country. I wasn't sure if you did that in purpose or not. But, I wanted to inform you just in case.

[@tsumugishirogane2300]

For everyone, an agender can indentify non-binary, it depends on the individual, I am agender and identify as non-binary too, but some individual who identify agender do not identify as non-binary too because they perceive non-binary as another gender, and since agender do not identify in any gender they do not see themselves as non-binary, however it all depends on the person

[@elishaheetebrij3681]

So do you use they/them pronous for them or does it depend on the person?

[@tsumugishirogane2300]

@@elishaheetebrij3681 it depends on the person

[@tsumugishirogane2300]

@@elishaheetebrij3681 however most people do include they/them in their pronouns, it isn’t always like that, for an example I got by he/them (+ my neo pronouns)

[@StarField369]

i’m agender and don’t identify as non-binary, because i don’t really have a gender at all, so i don’t feel i’m inside or outside of the gender binary. it’s different for everyone, this is just how i feel about it. edit: i accept any pronouns. i don’t use pronouns myself, people use pronouns for me, and i’m fine with any of them. i’ve told people to just use whatever they’re comfortable using (so they don’t feel like they’re misgendering, since i’m afab a lot of people feel weird about using she/her for me in case it makes me uncomfortable. it doesn’t, but it’s a kind thought.), and some people try out using pronouns they’re not used to on me, such as neopronouns or it/its. most commonly people just use they/them for me anyway, since i present as trans-neutral and it’s easier to see me and neutral than masculine or feminine, that’s apparently just how i look.

[@meandmeyt4503]

I identify myself as agender, but i dont see myself as non-binary. For some reason i just dont feel comfortable being male, female, non-binary or any other gender other than agender. Ive recently discovered agender, and ive found that it fits me so much better. I dont just use they/them pronouns, i also use he/him, it/its and any neopronouns. Ive never felt comfortable with she/her pronouns, mostly she more than her for some reason.

[@diamondblade3490]

One thing I want to point out: from what I understand, agender and pangender would be placed on the same spot on the spectrum. Bigender and Demigender would also likely have this problem. Could someone clarify this?

[@rivn1855]

pangender from what i assume, would have points in all corners, because they experience multiple genders simultaneously, and bigender would two points i assume? and demi gender i would assume would be half way been two points🤔

[@rivn1855]

i dunno if that helps :)

[@rivn1855]

(or for pangender, maybe just multiple points 🤔im not sure)

[@Soph_252]

Pangender would have a pin on every single point in the spectrum, because they feel every gender. Bigender (if someone felt like a man and a woman) would have 2 points, one on male and one on female. hope this helps :)

[@Soph_252]

@@rivn1855 pangender means feeling like you are every gender at the same time, so it would technically have millions of points all across the gender spectrum circle

[@michellestrange3188]

I really enjoyed this video. Especially being a teen questioning my gender. I think I may be agender but I never can find a video talking about it to much so it was very great finding a video talking about different genders on the gender spectrum. And also talking about different ways to transition like wearing a binder or at appropriate age getting a surgery. Thank you!

[@mylorph]

Okay I'm tempted to send this to my family... I'm out but they never take me being non binary seriously, it wasn't until I asked if I could change some stuff in my school that my mum actually took a little notice...

[@mylife-23]

I feel that....

[@Kichimeza空虚]

Same, my parents perceive LGBT+ as both a waste of time and a trend, and a way to "get attention". So, just _thinking_ about telling them to stop calling me a goddamn girl and see me as non-binary is basically a daydream. Luckily, I have my wonderful friends that do see me the right way, as non-binary, kudos to them they're amazing :)

[@Liliana_the_ghost_cat]

As an trans person who is just starting to be trans i feel like this might be usefull. I don't know if it will tough. Edit:it is usefull

[@Liliana_the_ghost_cat]

@bill stanley okay. Thanks for the correction :3

[@Liliana_the_ghost_cat]

@bill stanley were is that emoji from?

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[@Liliana_the_ghost_cat]

@bill stanley oh... okay

[@Liliana_the_ghost_cat]

@@PoweredByRainbows understandable. Hava great day and thank you for making this wonderfull content

[@ratmanbruno5916]

I read this as 'speedrun' instead of 'spectrum' and was really confused for a couple seconds

[@cassidy1768]

Gender Any% WR (15:42)

[@scootermcpeanuts6699]

The concept of gender has always bothered me. I just flatout don’t understand why we as humans even bother keeping the concept of gender around instead of just ditching it. When I talked to people about my perspective on gender, I was told I was “gender apathetic”. My main question, I guess, is “why is gender apathy so uncommon? Why do people even care about pronouns?” I come to videos like this hoping I’ll finally be able to find a solid answer for this question, but most either don’t give me an actual answer, or just reaffirm the idea that gender as a concept just shouldn’t even exist. If it IS a social construct, why should anyone even care, if it’s essentially just made up labels? I genuinely think the world would be a better place if everybody just used the same pronouns and the concept of gender was simply non existent. If anyone has an argument against this, by all means, please share it! I really want to finally get a decent answer to make me question my perspective, but I’ve never been able to find an argument that could actually do that.

[@WolfSyndrome]

Basically no one can argue because you are 100% correct.

[@holyheckinheckohheck]

To answer your question, one kind of has to work backwards. "If it IS a social construct, why should anyone even care, if it’s essentially just made up labels?" I think the term "social construct" gets thrown around so much that it's lost some of it's weight. By definition, "A social construct is something that exists not in objective reality, but as a result of human interaction. It exists because humans agree that it exists." [1] In order for a social construct to exist, people have to believe that it exists. People care about it because it exists in their minds and it exists because people care about it. Dismantling a social construct requires the full cooperation of a societal majority to not only stop believing in it, but to remove its influence from the basic functions of society. With that understanding, it's important to understand why that occurs in the first place. A social construct as a concept is just the observable effects of humans attempting to categorize and distinguish between differences in the natural world in order to make sense of our surroundings. "why is gender apathy so uncommon? Why do people even care about pronouns?" The difference between gender and sex comes down to sex being an objective reality, while gender is the belief that physical sex holds more weight and deeper meaning than reproductive function. Gender apathy is so uncommon because it requires the human brain to halt processing the world in terms of masculine and feminine. The biggest challenge there is that gender exists in our languages, an extreme example being Romance languages where even inanimate objects are ascribed gender. It's difficult to change the way you think when the language your thoughts are in is gendered. That's the reason people care about pronouns. The language exists as it is, and the most you can do is use in in the way it's most comfortable for you. I agree, it would be easier if everyone used the same pronouns, but I wish you luck in challenging an entire language! tl;dr: Your question is a paradox and so is the answer. It exists because people care and people care because it exists. In order for it to stop existing, the entirety of society has to believe in an alternative way of thinking and processing the world. [1] Why Social Constructs Are Created, Carol Bainbridge

[@scootermcpeanuts6699]

@@holyheckinheckohheck Oh my god, thank you so much! And, yeah. That actually makes a lot of sense. It was just a question that always bothered me, because all I could think was ¨I never see anyone with this mindset, it must be wrong, I just need to figure out what I´m wrong about.¨ The answer, obviously is not that simple. I see it now. It´s moreso a matter of different perspectives than correct opinions. Thank you for opening my eyes to this!

[@holyheckinheckohheck]

@@scootermcpeanuts6699 Of course! Sorry if I came off super academic, I've taken a lot of high level English classes lol. This subject is really interesting to me and I love getting to share my own perspective on it, so thank you for giving me the opportunity to talk about it!

[@scootermcpeanuts6699]

@@holyheckinheckohheck I find it very interesting too! The topic of social constructs in general is quite a beast of a topic, but I´m slowly trying to get at least a half decent understanding of it.

[@spongeimebob]

In so glad that you made this. I'm soon planning to show this to my Father so he can actually understand my feelings for being trans. Instead of him thinking gender and sex are the same.

[@izthistle6196]

Identifying as non-binary is the most liberating thing I could’ve done. It’s like I’ve been pushed down under the water for all my life and finally getting a breath of air. People kept telling me that I’m confused and I need to “get over” it but I know I can’t because I will never go back to drowning again

[@paprikaghoul]

I think this is because now you don’t feel society’s pressure anymore to be a girl/boy.

[@happytortoisee]

That's such a perfect way to describe it. I'm genderfluid and have always felt pressure to change pronouns and presentation when my gender changes like everyone else that's genderfluid (that I saw, it's mostly just bad representation online) and to know exactly what gender I was every day, but when I let go of that and when I allowed myself to dress how I wanted, use the pronouns I want to, and remember that I don't have to always know my gender. (I mostly dress masculine/androgynous and I use all pronouns but prefer he/him and it/its) but I've also had the sane experience when I identify as non-binary, agender, or cassgender it's so nice not having that itching feeling that you shouldn't be dressing that way because you're (insert other gender here). There. My genderfluid rant is over lol. Definitions: Genderfluid: a gender that shifts and changes Non-binary: someone that has a gender that is not male of female Agender: someone without a gender Cassgender: for people who think their gender identity is of no importance and thus don't identify with one

[@vNill]

​@@paprikaghoul can you please explain this pressure to me?

[@YourfavLynnieWinnie]

This is one of the best descriptions of transgender people I've ever heard! It explains both transitions from mtf ftm and transitioning to non-binary!

[@firevoid7211]

the biggest trouble is that you can be one gender but dress or preform opposite gender roles. for example, masculine afabs (a female at birth). their gender is cis, but they are manly. I feel like a lot of people struggle with telling the difference between being masculine/feminine and their gender. cuz you can be enby and femme, enby and masc, male and femme, female and masc, ect. my cis mother says that she is masculine and has more masculine gender roles because she has always supported the family and done all the "male" jobs but she is still female. it is very important that we teach that. just because you are masculine doesn't make you a boy or vice versa. just because a little boy plays with pink dolls doesn't make him trans, maybe he is just gay and feminine.

[@beewillow6089]

every day im so thankful my mom has always been an ally since before i was born. i never felt unsafe to come out as a nonbinary lesbian and its helped me realize this so early in life. im only 15 and ive been out for a few years thanks to my mom. shes super supportive and calls herself a mama bear lol. i just wish everyone could have a mom like her. i have now decided to become the parent of all gay children...well as soon as im 18 lol >:)

[@toyloliSpare]

I feel like the two circles is a really messy and not helpful graph. I would instinctively prefer a cross-graph with the X axis being perceived -(m) to +(f), and the Y being identifying -(f) to +(m), you would then mark your gender as a shape (a line, triangle or square) of your birth gender, perceived gender and how you personally identifi giving you a rough blob of your overall gender identity. Maybe even put a clear marker specifically where you want to be in that blob as well.

[@rayhatter8315]

A hundred years ago or so the colours were the opposite. Blue for girls because it was soft and delicate. Pink for boys because it was a lighter shade of red and red is masculine. In addition to that the binary of just boy/girl is actually raciest. Many cultures have more then just two and dismissing all the others is dismissing part of the cultures, thus raciest.

[@nomen_est_pluto]

it's not racist. it's just our culture. we are not dismissing other cultures, this is just how we were raised. same as other cultures.

[@twylenb]

@@nomen_est_pluto I think what they meant is that it's racist and diminishing other cultures and ethnicities to deny the existence of other genders. Why would European view of gender be more correct than Indian or Polynesian view of gender?

[@phunkyphreshphrog3528]

By your logic, the entire spanish language would be racist because most words are gendered such as “la” “el” two forms of the english word “the” that are tailored to 2 genders. Nothing about the binary of a boy or girl is racist. 4000 languages or 99 percent of languages are gendered. So if I go by the hoops you jumped, 99 percent of cultures are racist.

[@twylenb]

@@phunkyphreshphrog3528 What's racist is to assume that the binary is the only and most authentic way, as stated in my comment above. Just because Europe assumed a binary, doesn't mean everywhere else did. There are plenty of examples of cultures where there are more than 2 genders. People who say 'there are only 2 genders' are ignorant or purposefully bigots. It's not wrong that Spanish, German, French, etc are highly gendered. It's just different. As long as people recognize other options and don't claim supremacy, that's fine.

[@DannTheMann0912]

Everyone needs to see this video!!! I’m tired of the people who are hateful and who refuse to learn! If you won’t treat your child with love and respect, then you shouldn’t have children!!

[@SourSalty]

3:57 their is an infinity of gender identities. But I'll explain the basic ones. In the binary you got the well known male and female. I personally am female. But outside of this spectrum you got agender and genderfluid. Agender is when you litterally do not identify to any gender what so ever. And genderfluid is when you identify to multiple gender based on time or events, your gender with be constantly changing. Since genderfluid is multiple at once, it would be too complicated to place it precisely in a spectrum like the conventional spectrums you know. Than in between male and female you got the non binary spectrum. With demi boy and demi girl being two of the multiple identities present in it. If you are curious about this, you can alwase ask the non binary community questions about the spectrum. Just make sure that your questions are not invasive and that they are respectful, as some subjects like physical appearance are a bit to touchy to touch upon.

[@orion3threat]

Nonbinary can be between make and female but in other cases it can just be doing it's own thing giving a couple miles away.

[@FieldOfHats3]

Don't forget deminonbinary lol

[@APitchOfSalt]

some basic definitions for you guys! :D (Correct me on any if im wrong ^^ Masc: Masculine presenting. Fem: Feminine presenting Pronouns: What is used to refer to a person when not talking directly to that person (I.e: He/She/They/It/Ze/Ve etc) a person can use multiple! (I.e: He/they, They/it, She/He) Neo's/Neo pronouns: Using an object, or item as a pronoun (I.e: Teddy/Teddyself, It/its, Ghost/Ghostself) (Example: Teddy went to the store to get us grapes, isn't Teddy just so nice? Gosh I love Teddyself.) Cisgender: Identifies and is comfortable with this birth sex Transgender: Gender is the opposite of their birth sex/ does not identify with birth sex(Spectrum) Non-Binary: Not male or female, but not outside of the gender circle(Transgender spectrum) Agender: No gender at all, but can choose to present masc or fem or use masc or fem pronouns. Bigender: Two or more genders at one time. Pangender: All genders(Except for agender) at once. Demi-girl: Half female, half Male/NB/Agender/Etc Demi-boy: Half male, half female/NB/Agender/Etc Tri-gender: Three or more genders at one time. Side note: Gender can be discovered at any time in your life! I didn't(And still dont) Fully have a label that fits (Going back and forth between NB and Agender) And you dont need to have dysphoria to be Transgender, you can be completely comfortable with your body and be trans! (This also means on/off dysphoria or dysphoria to certain bits only!) :D

[@gnomeperson3149]

adding on to this (yes the comments old but whatever) you described pronouns in a sense, but pronouns are a lot more complicated then just he, she, it, they, etc. i’m not english teacher so take this with a grain of salt, but there’s many different types of pronouns the ones you described are only one type (i believe). pronouns are also things like: my, we, us, you, mine, this, that, nobody, and more. in this i didn’t separate the different types of pronouns nor explain them so if you want more information you can research it yourself.

[@APitchOfSalt]

@@gnomeperson3149 I only explained it that way since i was doing definitions of sigular pronouns, so i didnt bother to include those that you listed ^^ /nm

[@gnomeperson3149]

@@APitchOfSalt i assumed so but thought it might teach someone something (not specificity you just anyone who could have read it i suppose)

[@Hoeausderlobby]

I wouldnt describe demigenders as "half that gender" but more "part that gender/not fully that gender" since not all demigender people feel like they are 50% of whatever gender (if that made any sense)

[@KMILLER1181]

I'm so glad u did this. Nina/mamabear here and I'm so glad you keep me educated so I can help and learn to be a better ally, friend mother, etc. You are doing amazing things and am so glad I can be apart of it.

[@aristocat3012]

Oh hi Nina!! Happy Thanksgiving! Love your work! -!frog lord! (from the Discord server)

[@KMILLER1181]

@@aristocat3012 happy Thanksgiving

[@_i489]

Hey. I am also transgender and this helped a lot but is it ok or possible for some trans people to discover, question, and explore their gender a little late?

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Of course that’s okay. Lots of great people I know explore their gender in their 80s because those around them didn’t accept them until they got educated recently. So you can explore your gender at any age.

[@zhangwei5176]

Ofcourse, people even find out their gender at 70 or older!

[@phantomhowlett9355]

Hey, fellow trans here. I didn't discover that I was trans until around 17 (almost 22 now). Though I guess there were signs (didn't realize because I was raised by people who didn't push the gender "norms" all that much), I never really went "I feel like a boy instead of a girl" until I became a teen. When I eventually brought up the feelings I had to a friend, they ended up telling me about the possibility of me being transgender and experiencing dysphoria. So it is possible to discover or question if you're trans later on, rather straight into childhood, but a lot do discover themselves as trans pretty young, even if they don't know the word itself.

[@monicakislo7845]

I didn't realize I was trans until my 30's I only knew I was different from my male friends

[@eethvamp]

@@phantomhowlett9355 I realized when I was nonbinary when I was 18, almost 19. Then, a few months ago, I realized tht I'm trans. And just recently, I changed my name to a masc one; Eithan. I'll be 19.5 in 1 day.

[@shewolfblacklink1062]

I like being a girl but sometimes I want to have a masculine voice and wear a suit... But I'm still a girl... So this makes me feel happy.

[@shawn-oldaccountl6748]

Lmao, I’m a man but sometimes I just want breasts and a period, but I am still a man

[@alextheconfuddled8983]

@@shawn-oldaccountl6748 ayo you want periods 🤨 dafuq

[@shawn-oldaccountl6748]

@@alextheconfuddled8983 yup

[@squidge4728]

Gender expression and gender identity can definitely be linked but are ultimately different things. I feel the same way often.

[@hybridized-skycotl1672]

when you used the name Andy my mind immidietly went to one of my trans male friends

[@Chancelot]

A fellow sky kid 👉😎👉

[@amundaahh9473]

I don't understand why people are so obsessed with putting people into boxes, personally I think the whole gender system should be eradicated. The best way to identify people is simply by not putting any labels on them and instead just look at that person as someone completely new. If someone with a penis wants to wear "girl clothes" sure let them why not, but that's just their style, why classify that style as a "girlish style". Anyways this video helped clarify a lot thank you!

[@ambie7437]

While I do agree, I think labels should stick around. Some people feel more.comfortable with them. However back to what I agree with, I feel like no one should be conformed to a box and I feel like everyone needs to have an open mind. However, that being said, people shouldn't get offended by a preference (Like a preference towards male identifying people, or nb people)

[@amundaahh9473]

@@ambie7437 I fully agree sexuality is not something anyone can control and should be respected no matter what they're into, I just don't agree that we should have genders at all. I think it'd be better if we have just sex and then people can evolve from there. Also I see what you mean by some people being more comfortable with a label, but stepping out of your comfort zone is a big part of growing as a person, I don't think being uncomfortable is always necessarily a bad thing.

[@SourSalty]

9:20 gender therapists have been renowned as being an unhealthy method to transition as the single instance of including someone else in the discussion makes it gate keeping and hard for someone to transition. This is why we tend to go towards informed consent clinics to get our hormones, as it's way faster and easier to do so, and it's more respectful, minus the misgendering in front of other ppl.

[@harasen_haras5]

Sometimes I wonder to myself how someone feels like they fit a certain gender. I don't know if that says something about me, or if I'm missing something.

[@barrylangille3523]

What it says about you is that you're probably cisgender. That feels totally natural and so there's no confusion. I'm cis myself but maybe I can tell you a little story. When I was young and reaching puberty I started feeling attraction for men. I grew up in a family that never talked about homosexuality (it wasn't gay yet!) except that those people Aren't Normal, so it was confusing and upsetting. But here's the thing. I remember that I took comfort in realizing that in spite of not being attracted to girls, I was still male. Being cisgender and gay can have it's own kind of disphoria when you know your sexuality won't be accepted. But at least my basic identity was in line with my biology. If someone felt attracted to men, but didn't feel attracted as a man, but that they should be a woman, it would be a transgender trait, although that's only one aspect. Imagine seeing yourself in a mirror and it's not you. That's partly how people know the gender they are. I don't know if that helps, but my own realization that my gender was okay but I was gay helps me see how transgender works.

[@harasen_haras5]

@@barrylangille3523 Thanks for taking your time to tell me your story. It was interesting to read. I'm still not certain about it, but I appreciate you taking your time to try and help. My view on it is that since I've only been inside my own head and haven't experienced being other genders, I can't compare and figure out what thoughts and feelings may be determining one's gender. Fortunately it isn't a big issue for me not to know but more a matter of curiosity and interest in figuring out more about myself.

[@ambie7437]

I'm gender apathetic, but alot of gender non conforming people are Non binary or don't go by a label, don't stress to find a label if you don't want one!

[@regularly_priced]

Hey! Hopefully this helps: Imagine yourself in the body of the opposite sex. (If you’re male, imagine yourself in a female body. If you’re female, imagine yourself in a male body.) Or maybe imagine people referring to you with different pronouns. You’ll probably feel a sense of wrongness or even feel nauseated. It’s a horrible feeling, right? Imagine if that was a reality. Imagine feeling that way all the time. This is exactly how transgender people feel(the condition is called gender dysphoria-you might know that already) and it can lead to depression and even suicide. Now on to how people can “fit” a certain gender: Whatever label relieves the person of this dysphoria or makes them feel the most comfortable is the label for them. There are many genders on the spectrum, but I will show you the most basic ones so you can understand this. Usually people feel like they are male or female, which are the first two basic genders here. But sometimes someone can feel uncomfortable with both these labels and may feel like they are in between male and female-let’s say this person we’re talking about is neutrois, or gender-neutral. Both the labels “male” and “female” makes this person uncomfortable, so they decide to go with another label in the middle of the two. Someone may feel like they don’t have a gender at all, which means they have no sense of their gender identity. This means they are agender; they don’t have a gender. Then the last basic gender identity I’d like to explain is aporagender. This one is rare. It means you have a gender identity that’s neither male nor female, but it’s not anywhere in between either. Basically, when someone is aporagender, it means they do have a gender identity, but they don’t feel comfortable being labeled as male, female, or anything in between. These are the five most basic gender identities, and everything else is somewhere between these five points. I used to be transphobic and it was mostly because I didn’t understand the discomfort with one’s body. (At the time I was bigender and didn’t know it.) I didn’t understand how other people could be uncomfortable, because I would have been fine being a boy, and I would have been fine being a girl. I didn’t realize that most people don’t feel this way. I was bigender; I was both a boy and a girl. Later when I became less transphobic and I understood the community more, I realized this label described me the best and it made me the most comfortable. Now I’m not bigender anymore and I understand the discomfort that some people feel, because I(someone who was born biologically female) feel uncomfortable imagining myself in a male body-this is because I know that I’m not male. My point is, even if you put my mind in a male body, I still know what I am-I still know I’m not a boy. So trans people know who they are even if their body doesn’t correspond with who they feel they are. Sorry this was so long. Tell me if you need any clarification.

[@barrylangille3523]

@Jack I just mean I'm cis. My attraction for men made me question that for a while, since I grew up when things like that weren't talked about. But I realized that in spite of that I was male gender in a male body, even if that concept was unknown at the time

[@meepthescorpio6367]

I AM LEARNING MORE EVERY DAY, AAAAA-!

[@tmaxim2651]

I think it would be nice if children were raised without a specific gender, until they decide.

[@lokal_agenda]

ive thought about doing this when i have/get kids.. good to know someone else thinks its a good idea, too!

[@shawn-oldaccountl6748]

If I ever adopt kids this is how I am going to raise them

[@wesleasmith1491]

i love the idea of that. i'm never going to have children of my own and will never be in the position to adopt, but if i was, i would raise the child as gender neutral as possible until they are able to decide what makes them the most comfortable

[@FieldOfHats3]

Yes please!!! Please I just want to be an uncloseted enby Please

[@Player-p4k]

Child abuse

[@moonbowcraze1632]

Gender is a tricky thing, I tell ya.

[@omnisystem6030]

@Jack Gender is real

[@claudioelgueta5722]

I am an adult male and so is my cousin, who's gay. When it comes to love and sex, I like women and he likes men. Nothing wrong with that. He's happy with being a man and so am I. I believe the overwhelming majority of those who feel they don't fit in either category has been influenced by a misguided level of tolerance and acceptance that will only make them into people that migrate from self-doubt to conflict when facing the world outside their bubble. Most people who seek help need more than sexual orientation. They need wise advice and affection. Your children, if you manage to have any, will laugh at your lack of common sense. Tolerance is one thing. Child abuse is another.

[@starchildvampz]

SIDE NOTE: during the Ash (formally known as andy) discussion he mentions that ash is in no harm doing these things. While this would be true, binder is on there and if a child or anyone is using a binder they need to be educated on how to use it to not be harmed

[@no0dle_child558]

I wish my parents could understand this video, but sadly they are too stubborn in their ways.

[@corpsestars]

same, when i told my dad about my transgender friend sky he started laughing and saying your either a girl or a boy

[@corpsestars]

@⸙ ¦ Moth ❞ sure, i’d gladly do it

[@MsTeapot11]

I wish I could get some people to listen to and believe the part of this where you explain, legally, what has to happen in order for a person to even have soft medical transition. I have attempted to explain it before, and am convinced some people just don't want to listen.

[@resijade4342]

first comes the sexuality crisis then the gender crisis then the second sexuality crisis *then the second gender crisis*

[@happytortoisee]

This. Is. MEEEEEEEEEEEE

[@SqueamishNerd]

It's good to know that puberty blockers should only be taken for a couple of years, not as long as 5-6 years (as in the example with Larry), such a long treatment with puberty blockers can lead to osteoporosis, this is because both oestrogen and testosterone protect against osteoporosis.

[@Alcor-wf8gc]

For some reason I get the feeling my brain is just like: I PAID FOR THE WHOLE GENDER SPECTRUM, *I'M GONNA USE THE WHOLE GENDER SPECTRUM*

[@foxstorm2920]

Pangneder?

[@wadd8813]

When Andy changed their name to ash (the same nb name I chose) my brain filled wish endorphins

[@zagyex]

There is a big problem with your explanation. Why do I have to define myself as some kind of minority if I like to behave as I wish? Liking pink, dolls and tea parties make me female? Why can't boys like tea parties or pink? I like both, I'm skinny and have long blond curvy hair. But this doesn't mean I'm a different "gender". This only means social norms are just large averages and you can behave differently if you like. I identify as me and really dislike the idea that social norms prescribe my gender.

[@DAZanimations]

i want to break these circles, I hate the idea of societal norms for female/ male, I think gender should be fluid and anyone should be free to like, wear, or act however is most comfortable to themselves without putting a label to it

[@subtality9616]

what if gender identity is a biproduct of social labels? I've lost count of how many times I've heard "He/she/they look weird when you do (insert body language)" or "-when you say (insert phrase usually unsaid by gender)". It really wouldn't surprise me if this were the case, given how we visually treat each others bodies sometimes

[@Veltorb]

Where I'm from the hard medical transitioning is completely free

[@knospace4744]

the trans community would like to know your location

[@CosmicRetriever]

In regards to toys, when I was a kid, I played with dolls, and I also played with toy cars and trains. I am cisgender but just wanted to share. Also, you can be a gnc trans person or nonbinary person. If cis people can be gender nonconforming, then so can trans/nonbinary people.

[@problemchild8531]

This is so helpful!!! I learned some new stuff here today thanks for that :D Personally I feel like I am gender fluid or gender queer. Bc some days I feel feminine, and some I feel masculine, and some I feel like I’m in between. But sometimes it’s hard for me bc I’ve never felt the sort of depression over my body that I hear so much about. For me it’s more like I wake up one morning and want to express myself in a more masculine way and I go “you know what, I feel masculine, let’s put on the one outfit I have that I like on my masculine days” And honestly sometimes I feel like I’m a liar or something bc of this. Which can really be hurtful for me. Then I have that one memory from my childhood when I thought “there’s no way there can only be man and woman, there must be people who are in between or none at all” I was like five years old and had never heard of lgbtq+ Then I get back some of my confidence bc I have a lot of those sort of memories. Also once I dressed up as a fairy warrior princess, and there’s a picture of that and it’s very much giving of gender neutral energy. And I haven’t really come out to my parents yet, and I don’t have a binder (although I really want one) and I haven’t thought of any names for myself yet. Edit: might be non-binary, and I’m currently looking around for a new name. I’m gonna ask my god father to help me :) Anyone whit any suggestions?

[@foxstorm2920]

You don't need gender disforia to be trans, euforai should be the identifer of the gender spectrum

[@fantasii2802]

Once my friend called me she in front of the whole class at school even though he knows I go by he

[@dumbkid4ever224]

My mom said I'm too young to think about my gender yet she still referrs to me as cis, this video proves everything she said wrong, what a *****

[@slepylynx]

i have a question, i dont label myself but i like to say that im all genders. what would that label be?

[@riverbed590]

gender fluid probably if u fluctuate between them

[@mjnhrndz]

gender ultimate

[@slepylynx]

@@riverbed590 ah i see

[@slepylynx]

@@mjnhrndz YESSS sounds about right i am the ultimate person >:)

[@SilentAsriel]

Pangender can also be a label that can fit, I guess

[@AVIANAESMERALDASZISTENNO]

As someone who is visibly androgynous and I identify as Androgyne, a nonbinary identity, it’s important more people ALLOW US TO EXPLAIN WHO WE ARE AND LET OTHER QUEER PEOPLE STEP IN TO HELP EXPLAIN IF PEOPLE DON’T UNDERSTAND. I’m glad to see other queer people not put up with abuse and bullying for gender identity, sex, & expression

[@AviKats66]

Quick correction on intersex: intersex people don’t have two complete separate sets of genitalia and/or reproductive tract, one male and one female. Instead they have one set of genitals and reproductive tract (just like non-intersex people) which has developed to have both male and female parts and/or ambiguous/in between parts. Very vague sum up there but check out places like Wikipedia and InterACT for a better understanding.

[@gretelspitzer9565]

A clear and well put together presentation. More straightforward than most presentations on this topic. However, I don’t agree with some of the base definitions and that makes the entire argument flimsy to me. The way I understand it, these are my general definitions Sex is biological. Sex (male vs female) is determined by genes and named or ‘assigned’ at birth based on the presence of secondary sex characteristics (ie penis, vagina,etc). For the sake of this argument, we are going to ignore any intersex persons. Doctors do not assign gender at birth, they identify the sex of an individual. Gender ( man…woman…boy…girl…non-binary…etc) is entirely socially constructed. It is determined by the roles you fill in your environment and the way your society sees you. Sex is not gender, but the two are linked. Society will tend to place a person in a specific gender category and try to allocate them to certain gender roles based on the person’s sex. However, we are not obligated to stay in these roles or limit ourselves to these categories. Because gender is based on how society views a person, how we are viewed ultimately identifies what gender we are. The gender we feel ourselves to be is irrelevant. There is no ‘true’ gender. From this viewpoint, gender is a category placed on us by society. It is not an identity. It’s clear to me that many people feel strongly about what gender they should belong to and how they would like others to view them. It can certainly cause anxiety, frustration and dysphoria when the people around us do not see us in the same way we see ourselves. However, I don’t fundamentally understand why the gender labels matter so much.

[@ash_afk1270]

"And Andy decides to change their name to Ash," Welcome, new Ash, there's many of us, so brace yourself. 7:20

[@YAWTon]

At around 2:30 "often they realize that their gender is the sane as their sex assigned at birth". On the otherhand: sex is completely different from sex (one is based on biology, the other is a social construct). Am i confused, or is the confusion in the definition of the terms that are used by the person presenting this clip?

[@hunty12we12]

My gender is like randomly throwing darts at the wall

[@bats1312]

no same

[@hi-mh5iu]

as a trans/Demiboy this is really helpful for me Thank you

[@LifeGetsMossySomethymes]

I do believe that the ‘perceived’ and ‘actual’ titles on this chart need to be swapped. -In other words, the perceived is what an individual ‘perceives’ or imagines, after the actual is declared by what is presented at birth. (We are all born something specific that should not be denied) Why is it that one‘s preferences or interests require changing gender, or require any sort of labelled ‘transition’? Why not love and accept oneself as is, and pursue whatever tickles your fancy regardless?! Doing so would create far less confusion. No outward appearances need change, but we each present day to day as wished! This would be loving oneself as is!

[@pepper1739]

No you don't for example they are plenty of Trans women who still act like tomboys because when you transition you still keep the same interests it's not as interest its a biological thing that makes them i guess a way to put it is they pefer a gender label long story short gender identity and gender expression are different(I know that might be a bit of a confusing way to explain sorry lol)

[@LifeGetsMossySomethymes]

Absolutely no offence intended but: There is information available online that proves that puberty blockers can cause long term health problems for humans. So describing parents who don’t want this for their kids as horribly as he does in this “lesson” is really not okay. You can love someone more than your own life and not want that for them. In fact there is also much warranted speculation on this topic that indicates mental and emotional health deficits in individuals who are seeking full physical transition. Seeking mental health assistance is highly advised, and to prescribe puberty blockers before an age that one’s brain is even fully developed is extremely irresponsible of the medical community.

[@luni_yk]

I’m going to send this to my parents 🤪✋

[@chrissyweikoop7931]

Professor, one question. If gender is a spectrum, shouldn't we consider gay people also to be on that spectrum? I feel like, we should as a community distance ourselfs from being about "sexualities", and i feel like, being gay is like being on a different point on that gender spectrum. What do you think?

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Well gender is it’s own spectrum. Gay is a sexuality not a gender. But for sexualities, we have 7 spectrums to describe our sexuality which we cover in other episodes. So really who we are is defined in 9 spectrums…perceived and actual gender, then 7 sexual orientation spectrums to define who we love.

[@chrissyweikoop7931]

@@PoweredByRainbows Oh i see, thank you. I was just thinking about how being gay, at least to me, isn't only restricted to the sexuality, but also the behaviour and how one likes to express themselfes. Guess there is so much more to learn, so thanks for your answer! :)

[@barrylangille3523]

@@PoweredByRainbows 9 specrums? Wow. I don't know if I'll ever get this right, as someone who came out at 60 it's all still new. Not to mention that society still avoids the subject. Do you have a video that gives an overview of how those all work?

[@moonbowcraze1632]

@@PoweredByRainbows Dang, 7?

[@PoweredByRainbows]

@@barrylangille3523 Sure thing we have videos on that here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hnbalHZolqyZea8

[@Metruzanca]

So whats the science behind non-binary? In an earlier video & in the sources you show that brains are associated with gender identity and not sex. However I'm struggling to find any source that talks about how non-binary brains are different from male/female brains or mentions any scientific backing to the existence of non-binary. Got any good scientific sources?

[@tr3nch_712]

Hello! I'd like to show this to my parents so they can understand better what im going through but they don't speak english, could you add the option of submitting subtitle please?

[@complicatrix7602]

Gender expression and identity are two different things! Someone who likes pink and dolls would not by default have a female gender identity just because their expression is feminine. Gender identity isn't a social construct, gender expression is. Gender identity is a part of someone's brain, they're born that way - similar to sexuality.

[@DatHombre]

So there is something observable in the brain that would show when someone is nonbinary? Or any of the 3572932 genders? Can we observe brains in caskets and see what their gender identity was? Source?

[@mayathebee3324]

I really enjoyed it, thank you! But please, next time don’t confuse sex and gender (male and female is sex, boy and girl is gender) just noticed that you wrote on the circles male and female. Thank you!

[@MintSoda_Soul]

I still don't really know about my gender. I was born a guy but sometimes I feel like a girl, sometimes I feel like a guy, and sometimes I feel like neither. Does that make Gender Fluid or does that make me something else?

[@Sillyfangs]

Genderfluid means that ur gender variates over time. So, yea. You could be genderfluid. Eventually, its up to you if you'd like to call urself that. It's okay to question these things :)

[@Sillyfangs]

@@Woldmord yes.

[@kanutaro3426]

Feelings are fleeting. You're still a guy regardless of how you feel

[@Cahrssomething]

@@kanutaro3426 typo

[@bats1312]

@@kanutaro3426 lmao did you even watch the video?

[@moxieguerrero9494]

Kinda sad because the background is so colorful but his tie is gray

[@flazlame3562]

“And honestly because I’m gay and I like rainbows and colors” me too bro me too

[@danwylie-sears1134]

Toddlers have personalities of their own, well before they turn three. Acknowledging gender-fluid people only as an afterthought, having said definitively near the start of the video that people's actual gender stays constant, probably isn't the best option.

[@booksaltmightturnintoanima610]

as soon as i come out i'm sending this to my parents, thank you for helping btw i currently have no idea what i am

[@Noonoo10]

a tip to help with that is try out a few diffrent things and see what your most comftorble with

[@saharawilcock1463]

I think the cap fell of the inkwell and spilled on my actual gender circle covering the whole thing

[@happytortoisee]

Yup lol

[@indigo9329]

Is it ok to start having dysphoria later in life? My journey to discovery of my gender didn't start till last year. You say in alot of your videos it starts in childhood but that isn't that case for me. Help?

[@PoweredByRainbows]

I meant for most people it begins while younger but it can certainly begin when you’re older too.

[@indigo9329]

@@PoweredByRainbows that make sense to thx for clarifying. Have a good day😊

[@AIenSmithee]

Why is gender theory so backward. I played with dolls as a child and wore dresses. I’m not a woman, I was not a girl. I thought we were supposed to breaking down gender stereotypes? Why does this sounds like they are being reinforced to support the idea that gender is separate to sex.

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Gender identity is a scientific law, not a theory.

[@AIenSmithee]

@@PoweredByRainbows Here is the definition of Scientific Law: Scientific laws or laws of science are statements, based on repeated experiments or observations, that describe or predict a range of natural phenomena. Considering gender identity can only be identified by the individual, what experiment or test could you run to determine someone's gender without them telling you?

[@cherkovision]

@@AIenSmithee This isn't science at all. It's sociology at best and pseudo-science at worst.

[@WhiteCloudProductions]

​@@cherkovision ​sociology is a field of study in science. The literal definition of science is the systematic study of the structure and behavior of the physical and natural world through observation, experimentation, and the testing of theories against the evidence obtained. This includes the study of the mind a.k.a psychology and study of human society a.k.a sociology. Just because certain fields of study is difficult for you to grasp doesn’t make that field unscientific.

[@koi9723]

Having my bf watch this. He still thinks there are two genders and I'm tired of him disrespecting my friends genders, even if he thinks he's not. I love him and I tried to explain to him (I use any pronouns) that its not a choice and its who we are.

[@koi9723]

he got mad and said i was drilling it into his head like a religion when i was trying to make him understand how i felt.

[@abunchofrandomnumbers]

Girl throw the whole boyfriend away

[@Darkmatter2721]

@@NationalismDjazair it’s not a different mindset it’s bigotry and transphobia.

[@abunchofrandomnumbers]

@@NationalismDjazair It isn’t a different mindset it’s being a transphobic piece of shit 😭

[@abunchofrandomnumbers]

@@NationalismDjazair Luckily my boyfriend is actually a functioning human being and doesn’t throw temper tantrums over pronouns like this persons boyfriend does

[@partypoison8476]

This video is so well done! I didnt even knew about gender therapy!

[@songsofsusannah]

I currently identify as a demigirl, though this is incomplete, it was just the closest existing gender term I could find (after reading through over 500 non-binary genders, microgenders, xenogenders, etc.) for my actual gender. I was AFAB and I've always had feminine presentation, I use she/her pronouns, and I think most people have assumed that I'm cis. However, I've never felt comfortable being referred to, or perceived as, a woman, and I've always been extremely uncomfortable with all of the things associated with women, but not with girls. I've also always had masculine-shifted interested, abilities, and aptitudes. If they'd had puberty blockers when I was 10 in 1990, I would've been beginning for them. I absolutely dreaded developing secondary sex characteristics. I liked my agender body. I accept the body that I have now, as a vehicle that I inhabit. I don't want surgery to change it, because I'll never get back the body I used to have, but I do want to find the right gender identity term for me. I think that it's not possible that I'm the only person who feels this way. I have sometimes felt like Pippi Longstocking would be a fairly decent gender term for me, considering she did all of her 'adulting' while living in a child's body. I read the original in translation when I was 10 and I had never enjoyed reading a book so much in my life. I related to Pippi at a time when my body was only thinking about starting to change, and I could not hold onto that body no matter how much I expressed that I wanted to not develop, even carrying around a brick with me and putting it on my head in reference to, "You're growing like a weed, we better put a brick on your head!" All the adults just laughed. They didn't see it as the cry for help that it was. I'm OK with my body, I've accepted it as it is, but I am not OK with not having the right gender identity term. I hope perhaps you might steer me towards others who have had the same experience of gender. (This is especially difficult because of the predators who try to occupy spaces for children and claim it has to do with their identifying as little girls, etc. That's not me at all.) I wonder if I should call myself a demi-neuro-girl or something like that, because I'm Autistic and maybe my gender identity has something to do with that, but I really don't feel like that's the case, and even if it is, it's still incomplete, just as it was incomplete when I identified as demiromantic when that's not the complete picture (I'm demiromantic and recipromantic). I want to complete the picture with my gender identity terms the same way that I managed to complete the picture of my gender identity, by finding the missing piece that completes the description of how I identify.

[@AyeNash727]

Me looking for the homophobic comments 👀

[@harasen_haras5]

You probably won't find a lot. The people in charge do a lot to keep the channel and comment section LGBTQ+ friendly.

[@alizacelemcentauri986]

@@harasen_haras5 bless their souls

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Yes, we have a staff of 27 people now to moderate comments on all videos and keep our channel LGBTQ friendly. This way you or some child out there won’t find homophobic or transphobic comments here. We have enough hate in the world that we feel our channel should be a safe space for our community to find love and acceptance. So if you ever find a homophobic comment, report it to us and we’ll get right on it.

[@mylife-23]

Sameeee

[@regularly_priced]

@@PoweredByRainbows that’s AMAZING! Thank you so much, I’m glad your channel does this

[@LifeGetsMossySomethymes]

If the entire concept of perceived gender revolves around how one appears, is that not already flawed? So why give it time of day? One‘s sex is what it is. One‘s interests and preferences are individually unique beyond that. What is inside one‘s mind is ever-changing with the weather.

[@that_forest_fae]

I always just felt like I'm human, I just existed

[@pixeldino-kun6408]

This is an amazing video! But I’m confused about something, if someone was genderflux, girlflux, boyflux, what would we do? I’m a girlflux myself. Am I’m still a minor myself. Any tips?

[@deccypoo]

This video is so informative and easy to understand. Thank you honestly for this video and the whole channel in general! I really hope to discover more about my identity and my comfort levels with these

[@lashawnwhite7702]

Now I understand a lot more. Thank you.

[@thisisanaltchannelp7594]

When your actual gender is non-binary but most people still perceive you as female even after telling them many times your non-binary :,D

[@clizbot]

Because you ARE female. You’ve just convinced yourself you aren’t. I can promise the reasons are insignificant… Take some time to watch videos that debunk videos like this one. This man, like most other “queer people” are taking gender norms too seriously. And are the ones who are ACTUALLY reinforcing these norms they’re supposedly against. He literally thinks all girls should wear dresses all the time. He’s just a special kind of stupid.. Free yourself from this garbage. I promise you can be yourself at 1000% without it.

[@Kai_The_Kai]

My nursery was ladybugs. Still love them. Well they are everywhere in my house

[@rainbow_angel8225]

Should I tell my therapist about what I feel my gender is Im terrified that she will tell my mom I know my mom probably accept me but I don’t quite like knowing she might not accept me

[@happytortoisee]

A therapist should never tell anyone else about what you discuss with them unless you tell them too. I've been in that situation before when I was little where my therapist pretty much forced me to tell my parents something I didn't want to. That's not ok. As long as you trust your therapist and they haven't told anyone before, I'd give it a try.

[@rainbow_angel8225]

I told her she was ok with it she also said that she won’t say anything to my parents unless it involves safety which makes sense

[@laughlinmacdonald652]

Thank you for this video. I’m a agender and have been looking for a way to fully grasp the gender spectrum and to be able to explain it. Thank you so much

[@Selrahc123]

I need your guys help. What is more important, gender or sex? Sex is easier to identify, and gender is more subject to change. What I am saying is that one is more rooted in reality and the other is rooted in feelings. Why do human emotions have so much bearing? Please respond to this I must know!!!

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Both are only important if you want them to be. Some people choose to focus on one or the other. Others choose to forget gender and sex exist and just be themselves no matter what clothes, hair, or expression it projects.

[@lemonari8811]

i sent this to my transphobic mom. wish me luck

[@bats1312]

how did it go?

[@almostTOTALLYvix]

you good mate

[@coffe_and_tv]

my gender is *no*

[@j4jsk902]

Thank you! Okay so that means, if gender wouldnt exist and we all would be equal without any stereotypes between the (fe)male sex, a such thing as non binary, agender or genderfluid wouldnt exist, right? But due to the existence of stereotypes, people who dont fall into the stereotypes are automatically part of the non binary umbrella term, right?

[@nunyadambidniss]

ROFLLMAO !!! WHY are you even attempting to engage with this inanity ???

[@zaheeralikhan542]

Excellent narration research and elucidation are of high class....kudos sir...

[@edspace.]

Really good video, hope you don't mind if I share it elsewhere. There is one thing I've always wondered though, why do they assign genders at birth? It was something that never really made sense to me, after all we don't put race on a birth certificate (I knew one person who did but they were born in South Africa prior to the end of Apartheid). While it isn't true everywhere it seems odd that it's just normalized that a gender is assigned to someone as soon as they are born.

[@shawn-oldaccountl6748]

I agree, the real reason why they do it is because of this stupid idea that gender and sex are the same thing

[@edspace.]

@@shawn-oldaccountl6748 Which is kind of sad, being trapped in a confined mindset that reduces gender down to sex, and people ask why there's a mental health crisis (NB there are plenty of other reasons as well).

[@necromanzer52]

It feels like the way you use the word, 'gender', is synonymous with how I would use the word, 'personality'. What would you say is the difference? and if there are millions of different gender identities, then is it even a useful concept anymore?

[@theviewer6889]

So what if there are a million genders? There are a million colours but we still have names for them. Colours are still a useful concept despite the fact there are a ridiculous amount of them.

[@necromanzer52]

@@theviewer6889 But there's no equivalent to sex when it comes to colours. Which is a much more useful concept than what specific label someone feels truly expresses their exact relationship towards masculinity and femininity.

[@miloplayz2012]

POV me being pangender: I AM the spectrum!

[@Robloxian_ChannelReal]

Not real lil bro

[@mythornshaveroses6472]

This is a wonderful explanation of identity and our need to embrace its beauty in any expression. There is enough room for everyone to be happy in the life they are living and living a life they are happy with.

[@JanvanOordt]

An excellent video! Thank you!

[@azrael9011]

I currently identify as genderfluid but I’m not sure if I’ll keep the label forever or not. Most of my family has told me in some form or another, not maliciously mind you, that they do not think that I am genderfluid because “you have always been very girly”. I recognise this as though out my child I always just felt like me, if that makes any sense, I have always presented as female my favourite colour is pink and never wanted to pretending to be a boy in game. I think this was more me doing what I thought was expected of me because I didn’t want to be perceived as the weird kid due to my autism and terrible social skills that accompany it. Now as I am older I know that I am weird to other people but I feel that it makes me more interesting. Now when I see people who thinking I’m weird I know that it is not worth my time to try and convince them that I am not. (It probably helps that I have friends that like me the way I am and don’t expect me to change.) I understand that people who call me ‘special’ or the R slur feel threatened when they find someone who is not concerned normal by there definition of the word or they have been trained to Believe they are superior to me in someway, perhaps both, because I’m not good at social interaction or reading capital letter sentences (it’s confusing okay🥲😂). So I feel like taking this approach towards people who don’t understand my autism, pansexuality or genderfluidy is easier and less damaging to my mental health than trying to be ‘normal’ for them.

[@gachamovies2963]

My nephew started wearing dresses at two and was accepted !🌈

[@balls1401]

wat

[@freeformlolol1202]

There may be 64 genders (pertaining to how we reference complex personal classifications). The confusion of gender with frameworks of sexual preference is not an appropriate social model. There is no argument on the matter.

[@eyks1]

Bro you explained this so well. It helped my parents understand alot aswell

[@jasonm2245]

Spectrum is not inclusive enough, it says you can only draw a line between male and female. why not a plane? Or an n dimension tetrahedron? Much more inclusive you know.