Unhealthy INTJS

A little bit longer of a video today to include some first hand stories as you have requested. Also a few IRL INTJ outtakes at the end which were too stereotypical to cut out completely.
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[@kaon7419]

LiJo: speaks about how easy it is to ignore sensory things Me: realising that I have no idea what the last 2 minutes of the video is because I was wondering about something she said in the beginning

[@Nothing-iz6hw]

That happened to me many times TT_TT

[@InternetLiJo]

Lmao I get that

[@adhistie1694]

Hahaha i also keep rewinding some of the parts because my NeTi just ran off wild

[@quarter-lifecrisis5127]

i wasn't focusing with the video while reading comments and you just made me realize that lol edit: i did rewind the part that i missed and i found out that it is the part where she talks about missing sensory stuff😦this is a little bit scary

[@mirabaistocker3452]

Felt that

[@DoomLegion83]

"Vision without execution is hallucination" - Thomas A. Edison

[@InternetLiJo]

Yess

[@nishtakasundass6669]

"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." Thomas A Edison 🙃✌

[@ProfessorRS]

I hallucinate a lot... (INTP)

[@count7340]

'You invented something, and you work for me = I invented something.' Also Edison.

[@shawnw.4440]

Or in the case of my former boss - vision without execution is career suicide

[@DH-ig3bo]

Maintaining relationships is so hard for me. Luckily, my closest friends understand but man I suck at it.

[@t5396]

What would you say are the greatest challenges you face when it comes to relationships?

[@ghostskel7463]

Me too and I'd rather to be alone at home.If I want to talk to someone,just start with hologram gatebox.

[@DH-ig3bo]

@@t5396 contacting them and seeing how their lives are going. I honestly feel like social media makes it worst since I would like or comment on their posts from time to time so I feel like I did my part (in a way)? They're usually the ones to call me first or text me first bc I genuinely don't do it or even think of doing it unless it was put on my heart.

[@InternetLiJo]

I feel the same. My friends are very understanding. I wouldn't have any if they weren't.

[@JocieFire]

Same, but accidentally. I teach Shakespeare & theater (it's fun I promise. Lots of theater games that are actually leadership building games in disguise) in my homeschool group. Turns out the other homeschool moms are intelligent and patient. Yay, friends!

[@davidbolls4850]

65 year-old INTJ man here. Good video; I relate to your presentation. I used to arrogantly revel in being INTJ, but now I somewhat feel sorry for “us”. My feeling function did not develop until middle age. I have high empathy for others now, but regret the decades during which I wasted that opportunity. My inability to network hurt my career. Younger INTJs now have many more sources, such as your fine videos, to learn these concepts and take these warnings seriously. Thanks for your efforts LiJo. INTJs: please reconsider being comfortable in your arrogance.

[@InternetLiJo]

I love your concluding sentence. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@N0URii]

Thanks for sharing sir!

[@HadeGVO]

Thank you for sharing this 💯

[@kh2716]

David.... man I need your help right now!!

[@heedmywarning2792]

People: you have TOO MUCH imagination. Einstein: Imagination is more important than knowledge. Me: If I combine imagination, knowledge, and effort I can achieve things that only 1% of the population has done. People: how did you do that? Me: you wouldn't understand.

[@bakamono2630]

Isn't it suppose to be Einstein saying it instead of you since Einstein have done and shown proof of the Theory of Relativity with the help of the people who helped him and if they asked Einstein that question after literally saying how he did it. Einstein would literally COLD BLOODEDLY QUOTE Clearly you're not someone who's capable of understanding it. Or maybe you're actually Einstein and then Holy shit I'm dumb af like these people who literally asked something that has already answered their question before even ASKING IT.

[@deutschlernen8697]

Egocentric intjs ..🤦🤦😪

[@Roy97h]

This is insanely accurate

[@darklydreaming2193]

IF YOU ARE AN INTJ, READ THIS! Stop procrastinating! I know you are doing it, and it's only going to effect your performance. I know it's difficult but try to start, and I promise you'll finish it!

[@justsomenobody889]

How did you know I was procrastinating

[@crust5532]

i cant relate more . i dont know why i am not starting though i have planned everything but still feels like something is missing in the plan and i need to plan more 😫😔

[@N0URii]

It still has flaws soo i need more time i guess 😪

[@natashat2930]

@@crust5532 Some thoughts here :) I tend to procrastinate until I fully see how to solve a specific problem. Here's what helps me when I get stuck: start with what you know for sure you can do now, then do what you can and you'll see how to bring that job to completion. Some things on our to do list are actually a project and they can be broken down into few. Example: Don't try to finish organizing your room in one day. Start with organizing a small area and making it functional, and with time you'll get a better idea of how you want your room to look like. Organizing your office desk might be a project rather than a quick fix.

[@HexagonSun990]

Nice name and profile pic

[@agingchill9012]

It's sometimes difficult being a biological entity with physical/emotional demands.

[@InternetLiJo]

Right?!

[@nishtakasundass6669]

Yeah so true.

[@xx-vk1df]

I am completely with you. I find it really stressful, dealing with people acting w/o enough data and taking illogical decisions. But I know my flags also and this video is so true, completely identify with all points.

[@Diaming787]

Yes, this is why I want the body and brain as a robot. GPU for Ni, CPU for Te, and electrical power, it's all I need

[@lIIl_lIl_lIIl]

@Doug Joseph _Disable_ *'feels.exe'* ? ✅ *Yes* ☐ No

[@oreograham]

Lesson Learned: I AM THE UNHEALTHY INTJ 😂

[@dacksonflux]

😄😂😭

[@nishtakasundass6669]

Same ✌✌✌🙃🙃

[@zymoffi]

Oreo Graham same 😔

[@fbksfrank4]

Yes, sorry people around me.

[@satwantkaur9057]

Same

[@stronglifebewild]

My INTJ brain for the day: work on code for job, practice piano, read 25 pages of science text, lift weights, run a mountain, cook, clean, organize, prioritize, all while simulating 50 different scenarios and how "chaos theory" influences most decisions in life..and also debating people in those simulations..and winning the debates. My body: Can I have some water and food, please? Brain: Oops 👽 Thank you for the great video! Cheers.

[@MrLanceDaily]

You should write a book

[@DoomLegion83]

+1

[@t5396]

It would take too long. LOL.

[@nora_8080]

Ikr? She's straight to the point, doesn't talk in circles and everything she says is fundamental to understand the topic she's talking about. Never get bored watching

[@DeepakYadav-jy9ji]

As intjs we struggles in the beginning, we don't know how to where to begin

[@coreyg9409]

I'd buy it.

[@sashablank252]

Wait, people put effort into their appearance?! -teenage INTP

[@InternetLiJo]

Lol mind blowing right?

[@nathanexplosion743]

Just wear milsurp pants and band tees, keep it comfy

[@sashablank252]

@@nathanexplosion743 agreed

[@davidbukhari8785]

Social camouflage has its benefits

[@ADMmachine]

I wear whatever's comfortable, but I enjoy looking somewhat decent, don't expect me to be the best dressing up though - Teenage INTJ

[@kainoarl2572]

Intjs texting crush: *most charming person* but then they meet there crush on person: *I am a loner do not talk to me I’m too nervous and I need to make it seem like I don’t care.*

[@MaerdYsatnaf]

I feel personally attacked in the best way.

[@heedmywarning2792]

show us on the doll where she touched you

[@andreagreenwood93]

I really relate to the emotional intelligence part. Empathy for me and a lot of INTJs I think is a very cognitive thing that takes development and effort. Sometimes still I know how I "ought" to respond to someone's feelings but if I'm tired or impatient it takes so much energy, especially if the feelings don't make rational sense to me. It seems more effortless for people with high Fe.

[@InternetLiJo]

Right?! It does seem so effortless for people with Fe. Thats why I love to study them. Wildly fascinating.

[@spudmckenzie4959]

I learnt to be emotionally intelligent. But its the extras pack i regret purchasing.

[@Veltior]

having fe in second when you have ni dom can be so exhausting. like reading people like they are transparent, and soaking in emotions whether you want it or not lmao

[@nedwhitney4123]

This video confirmed that the fact I spent the last 5 months 1. Not talking to anyone 2. Not exercising and 3. Having a crappy diet and sleep schedule was probably not the best idea. Ops.

[@MatzeDude1]

Happend to me last year. I was training for a Marathon early in the year. Then got sick and fall off. I couldn't pick up my training again and in december I was stuffing myself with choclate. Now I want to run that marathon again and the cycle continues.

[@cjjimenez6635]

Very well said for the "human interaction" part. INTJ here and I'm quite a good public speaker and I do interact with colleagues and random people in random places. But after each of those conversations, it ends there, I have no interest converting random strangers to friends because reconnecting with them will require Fi and Se. After those FI-Se interactions, I just felt so drained, overwhelmed, and awkward realizing how much Fi and Se I used to interact to random people that I literally don't want anything but be left alone to recharge my "INTJ battery". As with friends and family, I genuinely care for them and will take a bullet for them if needed but they do complain and misunderstand that my not-so-frequent communication with them is a sign of disinterest in my part. But for me, if there's nothing wrong happening, I just don't see the need to check with them.

[@heedmywarning2792]

I need you to do 6 hrs of math problems. INTJ: no sweat. Just give me the stuff and leave me alone to do the work. 'normal person' : this is so draining. I'm going crazy. I need you to go to this party and talk to strangers on subjects you don't care about for 6 hrs. INTJ: this is so draining. I'm going crazy. 'normal person' : wow. I'm going to meet so many interesting people and gets lots of interactions.

[@quriosadesign]

As I read that it "requires Fi-se" I was like wth that's how I feel. I do relate to everything you just said but I'm an ISFP. I was talking to my partner about my lack of interest in people, even though I can have emotional connections I basically need one or two people to rely on. My social battery is so low, I enjoy doing most things by myself and I'm not interested in keeping most of the people I talk to because investing time and effort it's so draining. Before, I'd force myself to go places and hang out, I can still make concessions because I know how important it is to be flexible but now I just want to have a good time and then please leave me alone, I really don't want to bond or even see them anytime soon. I wonder if this could be an introvert thing or maybe I'm burnt out. It got me questioning if I'm weird for being like that. I love my alone time more than anything lol

[@anajankovic2523]

I had people being confused with me because of this. I would talk to them for hours, appear very friendly, but would fail to reach out for further connection. Some were mad at me because they felt I mislead them to think we were closer than what I perceived it to be. I keep wondering why it is so difficult for me to keep relationships with friend and family who I genuinely love; but it is difficult and I feel it really drains me out trying to be more proactive when it comes to maintaining relationships.

[@TheEmber221]

In regards to Se imbalance with fashion and appearance, I have a different mindset. My Se is like, "This is a relevant trend right now", and my Fi goes, "Lol, who cares? Doesn't apply to me. That does nothing for the personal expression of my identity. This vintage 1970's boho dress on the other hand, or that corset and victorian bustle skirt combo, are fire. Hahaha! Eff trends! I'm gonna be myself." And then Ni is like, "Yeah, yeah, yeah. Wear whatever you want. Now let's watch youtube videos about psychology for six hours." Te: "Woohoo! Critically thinking about other people's brains!"

[@DoomLegion83]

"NT-Crazy-Train" - i'm ridin' it all day

[@InternetLiJo]

Lol yeah same. Have to get off occasionally though lol

[@AngelEVM]

A lot of my life people always told me I was disconnected and a cold person, or just too blunt and not considerate of other people’s emotions. I genuinely thought I had mental health problems and never felt like anyone understood me. Yesterday I took a personality test and suddenly everything made sense. As an INTJ we just work differently. Thanks for the awesome informative videos. Got a new sub!

[@InternetLiJo]

Awesome welcome! Hope they bring you continued understanding. See ya in the comments!

[@suzywilson]

This here, LiJo, is why I LOVE INTJs. That is the best explanation of INTJ functions I have ever come across. ENTJ here and whenever I find one of you guys, I jealously guard you like the best, most priceless treasure on earth. That being said, I do assess the health of any one I let in my space. Like you guys I also struggle with the Se, Fi thing. I especfind people's emotions draining. I restructured my works and started a new company to get away form that. I'm much happier designing efficient systems. It means I get to give instructions and people complete tasks. Simple. Done. I have also gone through this process of working one my Fi. I hated every second of it but it has produced massively good results in the way of balancing myself and working with people. Even the stupid ones. Thank you for your hard work.

[@InternetLiJo]

Thanks so much Suzy! I appreciate your ENTJ tribe uplifting qualities in this comment. So glad you’ve found benefit through the growth of your own Fi :)

[@suzywilson]

@@InternetLiJo It is my absolute pleasure!

[@TaylorVero]

"even the stupid ones" XD !!

[@avneet5219]

I have noticed this one thing that if INTJ and ENTJ(sister types) are in a room, few people gonna be labelled stupid and the INTJ may keep that in his head but that ENTJ may explode and say it out loud due to that low inferior Fi.

[@mkoen5775]

Another INTJ content creator said something that stuck with me. If I remember correctly he said that investing in your weaknesses is likely to result in more stability, while investing in your strengths will more likely lead to excellence. Unfortunately there seems to be a tradeoff between stability and excellence. Fortunately both goals can be persued and I believe they actually can compliment each other - achieving better outcomes than would be the case if you focused exclusively on only one side. Erm,..hope that make sense :)

[@heedmywarning2792]

This is an interesting concept. I phrase it as "well rounded people cannot achieve excellence on a particular subject". My thinking is that excellence requires intense focus, so much focus that other things are being excluded. At my old job people would say that I was a 'one trick pony' or excellent at one thing, while they were good at several things. My excellence led to promotions and bonuses, and projects being completed months ahead of schedule. Meanwhile, the people who were 'jack of all trades' were rarely recognized. They clocked in and clocked out after exactly 8 hrs while I had a habit of staying until the job was done and doing 65+ hrs a week.

[@N0URii]

well put!

[@spudmckenzie4959]

I made the mistake of investing in weaknesses

[@saloni.sharma]

you're absolutely right cz it isn't a tradeoff. that is a one dimentional way to look at it and can only be justified by unhealthy intjs to comfort themselves instead of a general logical notion. without stability, excellence can't be accomplished or won't last. the people who say this ignore that incomplete human couldn't function towards a real and concrete goal without a plan(thinking and planning) or without executing that plan(working through sensory). a theory may be brilliant, but that's all it will ever be unless executed. and a project may turn out fantastic but without a proper plan it will eventually fail. there's a reason why humans have 4 functions at once(and can develop other 4 as well)

[@avidrandomer]

The not talking for 3 months thing really hits home for me, having dated an INTJ for a while. It started out fine as when I met her because she was literally next door to me, and when we lived together for a bit. When she moved back home I'd get nothing for 3 months+ and then a grand gesture of affection. No social media, wouldn't read e-mails or pick up the phone either! I always thought if you want something badly enough you would take it, so felt almost as if I was being treated like a poodle or part of some game. I realised afterwards that it was genuinely just how she was - she'd procrastinate reasoning that I was fine. Eventually she would need something from me, or she'd start feeling so guilty she'd have to talk to me. Often she would simply not realise how much time had passed. She would then compensate with a grand gesture equivalent to 3 months of affection. I'd try and engineer smaller more regular interactions but she just couldn't stick to it. Still, I always liked that the external world never seemed to influence her all that much. She was totally uncorrupted by the thoughts and actions of others, I could get truly unique solutions to problems from her. I'm not entirely convinced it's possible for an INTJ to maintain a relationship with another person unless they're physically co-located, or if they have all of their ducks in a row and can spare the motivation. It's rare that this happens though, as a fresh interesting idea is likely to occupy this new found void instead ;). My advice for any INTJ is this. It's very easy to come up with excuses for not talking to your friends but recognise that's all they are - excuses, you're not doing it for some purpose greater than that. Whilst I'm sure they probably are fine they will still want you to speak to them. It's not an imposition, they will actually welcome it. Anyone who spends their life talking to people will realise this. - An ENTJ that got a lot right, a lot wrong and in the process learned so much more.

[@nicholecheatum3757]

Needed to hear this as I have about 5 friends rn who I haven’t talked to on the phone in months lol

[@InternetLiJo]

Wow this really hits home. You laid out our struggle on this so weep from another perspective.

[@megnemo6403]

I put in the time with everyone, but no one wants anything from me but the finished product of what I can do for them and me to make them feel good in what ever fantasy land they are caught up in their head. They don't want the real me at all. It's ok to ask me to slow down and it's ok to ask me to explain what I am saying to make more sense to you but it isn't ok for me to have to play pretend and tie myself up in knots just so you feel all warm and fuzzy instead of dealing with the issue at hand. I don't make reality and I don't make the rules of how physics works so I would really like people to stop shooting the messinger when I take the time to help them.

[@CountessLouLou]

It is really sweet how understanding you are of her!

[@heyyou1911]

Intj female here lol I do the same. I dont answer social media messages from my s/o and sometimes find it hard to even talk to them irl. Not sure if living with them has something to do with it but I'm sick of having to constantly interact idk I still love them but I love myself more

[@AndersonCo26]

This explained basically all of the weaknesses that have pestered me the most... All simulation, little action. Pushing the body to extremes to achieve specific goals. Social interaction

[@janeofthejungle4]

Hi! Mother of an INTJ here. My INTJ son has random alarms on his phone that go off all throughout the day. None of us know what they’re for but we all know he has to have some kind of good reason for it. Is this a thing that some of you INTJs do?

[@InternetLiJo]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH I do this Jane 😂!! It's our hack for sensory things. It could be anything from a completion time, to remembering to take our clothes out of the dryer. For instance, if I'm driving home from work and have to stop to get dog food, I set my alarm for the time I should be nearing the exit for the dog food store. I can't just "remember" the sensory. This is actually good inspiration for a video ...

[@TaylorVero]

@@InternetLiJo Wait... Other people don't set reminders on their phone for stuff like that?! Then how are they remembering? HOW?

[@DoomLegion83]

Jane . Intj son here. I have a Standard Plan for every day and a calender for Occasions. Everything is set up in my phone and my watch connected to it tells me what to do Instead of riding the Crazy Train as lijo Said.

[@LooneyTiksCrap]

@@TaylorVero Because most of them have higher Si, which is linked to memory.

[@TheMaxymama]

😂😂😂 I do this too. I thought everyone does 😅

[@Vegansnackies]

My boyfriend is an INTJ and I'm an INFJ. I really appreciate helping us other types understand yall!

[@Human_01]

Agreed! 😀 Also... Please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!! The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till. ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition). SUMMARY: Evil personality: ESFJ, ESTJ [Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP, ESFP. ☝️All of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ #Save_Soil

[@pratyushjha2522]

I literally wrote 80 pages on different types of emotions humans feel in order to understand them better. Did a lot of research and developed cognitive empathy. Much better off now. Just gotta work on inferior Se now.

[@lisazoria2709]

I feel like that problem of what I call "selective empathy" is a trait of unhealthy Fi in general. Since the way Fi naturally empathizes is to put ourselves in another's shoes, it's pretty easy to invalidate and dismiss the emotions of others if we can't personally see ourselves in that situation. I still occasionally struggle with this even as an INFP. Of course I always try to be supportive of people, but I might occasionally catch myself thinking things like, "well, they shouldn't have put themselves in that situation in the first place, they have no right to act surprised now", or "I don't get it what they're so upset about, I wouldn't even care if that kind of thing happened to me", but then I realize that it's not my place to judge the feelings of others. Whenever I feel my Fi getting too selfish and judgemental I think about my ISFJ mom and how she uses her Fe to just accept a person's emotional state as real and valid no matter the situation. I feel so much better about myself as a person when I can find compassion for people without trying to determine if they "deserve" it or not. As long as I think someone is being genuine, I try to remember to respect their feelings regardless if I can see myself in their shoes or not. It's a freeing experience and I feel like less of a jerk at the end of the day. Lol

[@t5396]

You're a brilliant woman.

[@InternetLiJo]

ahh thanks :)

[@billy7951]

Well she is an intj

[@wes9809]

Got a few INTJ guy friends.... but I would NEVER date an INTJ girl. They give off the vibe of 'if you disappoint me, your end will be slow, meticulous, and painful.'

[@wynstansmom829]

ouch said Fi , lol

[@InternetLiJo]

Lol! Thats interesting. I have never plotted revenge for the sake of disappointment, but I am quick to close a chapter when I need to.

[@denisselara9324]

Nah, it would be a waste of time. Most would probably just ghost you for eternity.

[@dday9433]

@@denisselara9324 Exactly. If I'm out, I'm totally out. If I'm "disappointed," it's because I've determined that you're not worth my time at all. No "revenge" necessary in that. Besides, I'm to blame in that mis-judgment of time/energy in the first place.

[@DianaWanMa]

Hmmm I have seen many self called INTJ guys but they seem more like psychopaths. If that's the case then I understand you... But I'm an INTJ girl and I can say that I would end the emotional attachment really fast.

[@evelyngreen6911]

Emotional situations are often difficult for me. I care very much and want to help but it a tangible way. I recognize that it's very uncomfortable for me and I fret that I don't appear authentic, which always bothers me.

[@JocieFire]

I think we are SO authentic that as soon as we know someone expects us to emotionally be showing up- it's almost a knee jerk reaction to show up the opposite. Almost a nervous reaction from caring too much and lacking appearance skills.

[@fbksfrank4]

Thankfully, I was able to dip into my wallet for their traveling expenses, hug and pat on the back and listen.

[@madsstavang]

"Get it together so we can move forward". This, this right there. I have been trying to be better with this, more since my son was born, but man is it hard. Luckily my ISFJ(!) wife often comes to the rescue.

[@torisolomon4455]

Always great to find new INTJ content from an INTJ. We are such wellsprings of information with so much to offer that rarely makes it outside of our heads or close circles. We should all be writing, creating content like this or hosting podcasts to get our knowledge and ideas out to the world!

[@luisafor]

The emotional intelligence thing is so true. As an INTJ who grew up surrounded by emotionally heavy enviroments in diverse contexts, I would often relate to the INFJ aspect of being emotional sponges. The thing is that I do not think this ability of mine to be able to handle with emotional related issues came naturally. My way for experiencing a healthier inner and outward dimension was to figure out the whys and connecting the dots. I learned how those around me worked. I often took the role of claryifying people's minds because it was bothering me to a almost irreversable point- like I had the power to make things better for me and those around once I stepped back and saw where everything was coming from.

[@MysticDesires]

Maintaining relationships damn near impossible when your sleep, consume and blast last. I have to rely on schedule events and responsibilities from school, work, clubs, and holidays. On top of that I have little to no patience for travel, social games, cultural trends, and societal nuances. I can't help getting catch up in personal projects and forgetting about external world. I just accept the fact that I'm going unintentionally end up a hermit; unless the person lives with me or is my next door neighbor.

[@InternetLiJo]

yikes I could only imagine!! What's your full 512 type?

[@MysticDesires]

@@InternetLiJo Feminine Masculine INTJ SCP(B) Masculine Ni, Masculine Te, Feminine Fi, Feminine Se.

[@brennanhilsher9276]

I find myself being more unhealthy when I come home from college as I seem to lose all motivation but at college I feel so much more independent. Thanks for helping me quantify it so I can improve!

[@TaylorVero]

INTJ here. I think my friends have learned that if they come to me with a problem and it is quite an emotional topic that I will be largely unmoved and instantly go into problem solving mode for them. A lot of my friends say they really value that trait in me - like if they are in crisis and they just need to find a way through but they can't see it yet because they are too caught up in their emotional world then I am often one of the first people that they will think to call. This is fine by me, as long as they actually follow the suggested routes and come back to me with their learnings. If they do nothing and then come back to give me an emotional dump of the same problem then I am just... So done. XD However, sometimes such an approach gets taken the wrong way by folk or they do not feel heard as I do not always acknowledge their emotion, jumping straight to 'let's fix'. I have started an agreement or a check in with some friends now where I clarify: "Do you need me to just listen right now or do you want advice?" - they know why I am asking such a direct question and that it is coming from a good place. If they do just want a rant then I can accommodate. They just gotta make that clear from the outset otherwise I'm going into shiney-rubix-cube-to-solve mode. *shrug* I totally relate to other comments around 'what even is the point of emotions'? I think that aaalll of the time. I've since accepted that emotion = imbalance somewhere which needs addressing. This approach means I still pay attention to my emotions but I can use my saviour function to make sense of it.

[@fcarouge]

My friends go to other people first, then to me for strategy! Works well :)

[@smoupnhoize]

I guess this means I should learn to name my emotions first, so then at least I know what I'm ignoring. Then I can work on not ignoring them. That seems like a lot of work. Why must emotions be necessary. LOL

[@InternetLiJo]

Ahhh I feel you there. lmao. So many times I'm like... why do these exist.

[@niuriojizenaida4404]

I don't have a lot of knowledge on this topic but as far as I noticed and in my opinion emotions are not only difficult but actually pretty harmful and dangerous in some cases this lead to to dream of many different scenarios of 'what if' and of course every coin has both sides but I've always looked down emotions as weakness until I learned to accept it as important part of myself and others but I'm still having a really hard time with emotions and I often would consider myself emotional but actual emotional people is something I just really can't deal with. So there's that. Got carried away a bit.

[@zuluhulu9582]

@@niuriojizenaida4404 same...I feel emotions but I dont know what to do with them, and they end up blowing up "out of the box".

[@niuriojizenaida4404]

@@zuluhulu9582 I'm sure they are ways to deal with them for each type and for each individual. If I'm not abstracting and sorting people into groups. I don't have anything that really helps me but I always tried to make a use out of them by making art or even talking, being intimate with people. It's funny sometimes it feels like I'm in the Sims game I can almost even see the -- ++ when interacting it's awkward and funny. Also I'm not an INTJ just to note that)

[@zuluhulu9582]

@@niuriojizenaida4404 I originally thought running would be the solution as an emotional escape, but it usually just gets me riled up since the amount of emotions bottled up far surpass the hour to hour and a half it is comfortable to run (by comfortable I mean not painful-with all the emotion I end up sprinting). The thing I really need is someone I can trust to tell my failures, of which I ensure that the rest of the world is ignorant. It is a common fallacy people resort to "he was wrong once, he will be wrong again" and credibility being a necessity in order to influence others to make good decisions in order to make progress. And then there is that part of me that feels that half of me is missing, whether that is just male instinct longing for a female or if it is suppressed parts of my psyche that are bawling asking that I acknowledge their existence....gosh I feel like a mess...but my brain is still (assumedly) thinking straight so, I guess that's the important thing. Now that I'm rereading this I'm shocked, am I actually discussing how I "feel"? Awkward...thank the stars for the veil of anonymity...which isn't as thick as we all think...but that is another topic. Whether or not someone will benefit from this long winded rant, I can't tell, but felt good writing, and that is an end in itself.

[@fredbowers5580]

I am so grateful for your insights and grasp of the INTJ temperament. There was much I could I relate with, because I could identify myself in your presentation. It has taken me so long to grasp where I was erring on my own. I wish I had had videos like yours when I was younger. Many thanks! 🙏 To those younger than myself, please listen to her, she is giving you gold!!

[@racheldunkelberger1618]

Loosing touch with reality is really accurate. I don’t realize things until a lot later. Like recently after my bf broke up with me I realized all of our problems after the fact, but could never see it in the moment

[@lauraalbrecht7336]

You make the best INTJ videos on KZbin. No one else is as clear, concise, as personally knowledgeable about our extremely misunderstood personality type as you are. Sending you love, gratitude, and support from a fellow female INTJ.

[@nicholecheatum3757]

I feel so seen yet so called out when I watch your videos 😂 thanks for making us INTJs feel less like aliens!

[@w0ry035]

I've submerged myself in my teenage INTJ self improvement journey and I have struggled so bad with just following through, I planed, I found the most efficient ways, I asked myself wtf is wrong but I noticed my lazinesss wasn't because of a lack of planning but because of a lack of doing, I can't let myself fall into the NI Te loop of infinite problem solving and planification, I have to find ways to force myself to follow through with external pressure because let me tell you the dopamine I get from neglecting routine is too addicting, thank you LiJo once more for being so knowledgeable and useful to the world...

[@guillonremi5668]

That's painfuly accurate 😅

[@InternetLiJo]

😬

[@wamiwami42]

I thought I did not fit into my Japanese workplace because I was educated in Australian and the UK. Then I took a US based personality test and was told that I am a difficult person to work with because I do not follow rules nor the group and am creative. Now I know its because I am an INTJ and will be told the same in any country, so I must learn to work with my INTJ ego and get along with its strength and weaknesses. Thanks.

[@ghostskel7463]

Healthy of me:Smile and balance Unhealthy of me:All the contents of the video. I don't care with my Grammar

[@kbrent6082]

Wow, you're preaching to me. I just learned I'm INTJ and was starting to doubt the MBTI assessment until this video. I'm UNHEALTHY! eek! Time to hit the gym and establish healthy routines. Organize my closets! Do something, instead of planning the perfect solution for years while doing nothing.

[@argent-kestrel90]

I'm definitely an unhealthy INTJ 8w9 sp/so LSI. I often forget to eat, drink and sleep. I have strong demon Si too. I often forget the past and only really remember trauma which makes me not trust people. The 18 month lockdown in my city really affected my mind and put me into a major Ni-Fi loop thats been hard to get out of.

[@Human_01]

So you have 'narcissitic personality disorder' or 'Cluster-B'???

[@neverbacktoreal]

Wow. I never thought someone could understand me this much. This just confirms my thoughts about beinh INTJ. I was literally just nodding the entire video.

[@InternetLiJo]

Welcome Vivian, you've found the others 👽

[@neverbacktoreal]

@@InternetLiJo feels like home 😄👽

[@JaneDentonGaming]

As uncomfortable making this comment publicly is as a female INTJ... this video helped me it was a kick in the butt I needed. I'm from a large family I don't fit in, feeling like there's something wrong with me b/c I see the world so differently than them. It's like being around the popular clique and I'm the outsider with them. It just leaves me with anxiety, self doubt, & the habit of over thinking things to the point of procrastination. After watching this I got some stuff done I should have just done instead of overthinking it. Anytime I get stuck again I'll remind myself of this... So thank you!

[@InternetLiJo]

Jane your comment is my shared reality. I know exactly what you mean. It’s some shit isn’t it? Luckily we have the ability to understand ourselves and others better. There’s hope for all of us.

[@2driverpls652]

LiJo.. there is a very famous basketball coach named John Wooden. One of his great quotes was don’t confuse activity with achievements. In the INTJ world stop the analysis (activity) and do something with the activity (achievement).

[@InternetLiJo]

Great one

[@JocieFire]

This is beautiful. I struggle with this pretty hard. Also having workaholic parents didn't help (entj dad, super duper introverted istp mom).

[@misspogani7694]

I don't understand the quote the way you do. I hear: "don't act mindlessly, doing a lot of things doesn't automatically mean doing anything of value, especially if you change goals midway through". It would be a great advice for the ENFPs I know. But english isn't my first language, so maybe it's linked to that.

[@danipereira671]

Being an INTJ, I really relate to this. It's not that I don't feel about things, I really do. I even make songs and play guitar, which I think is essencial for me to connect with my emotions. But the truth is that I often lose track of my emotions, and it is very easy for me to be large amounts of time thinking about a problem, without even making my meals. At the same time, I think it is important to accept myself as I am. It's awesome to be an excellent planner. But it is really important to work on my blind spots as well, I believe that enhances the good features of being an INTJ.

[@Coneman3]

Thinkers have different eyes to Feelers. More piercing and lucid. Feelers have softer eyes.

[@hnhmr6597]

I took a lot of tests (5 years ago, 1 month ago, 3 days ago, and an hour ago) from different sites, just to make sure if I really am an INTJ 'coz everyone kept talking about how amazing INTJ's are, which I'm not ('tho I still think I'm better than more than half of my class). All results are the same. Then I found this and realized I was doing everything in this video. Great.

[@hnhmr6597]

I literally only realized that girls actually spend time and effort to make themselves look pretty and decent when I was 18 years old, and only started being conscious of my sense of fashion when I am 20 years old, ( specifically, more than half a month ago.)

[@ssstudytime9850]

Thank you so much for your existence! Your videos are gold! As an intj, you really help me to live in this weird world :)

[@InternetLiJo]

😭this is everything 🖤

[@Alex-up9dj]

In french, we have a saying that goes like "no news, good news". It means that if I don't hear from you, then you're fine. I have to admit that I tend to take this saying a little bit too far and more often than not, people tend to take this the wrong way. But I'm lucky enough to have found VERY understanding friends that don't get offended or feel neglected if I don't reach out to them (I almost never reach out to people first). When it comes to dealing with sensitive people, my energy is drained faster than the speed of light. I suck at empathy and I tend to dismiss people's feelings a little too quickly, especially if your problem is irrelevant or easy to deal with. I'll just see it as a waste of time and energy, and unfortunately, my annoyed face is a give away; though I try to hide it better now. I also find it hard sometimes to stay in touch with the sensory world, but I try to at least do the bare minimum to stay healthy. I mean, if I have to be stuck in this prison made of flesh, I should at least take care of it. Thank you for the video.

[@alixmaurel9536]

Assuming you're speaking french ^^ Je suis pareille, les gens qui se confient en se vidant de leurs émotions me déroutent, j'essaie de m'intéresser un minimum parce qu'il faut bien vivre en société, mais au fond je ne comprends pas pourquoi ils se laissent consumer par ça et pensent qu'on a tous le temps et l'envie de se mêler à ce qu'ils ne résolvent, pour la plupart, jamais. Au lycée on m'avait même envoyée à un cours de gestion des émotions à cause de ça..

[@Alex-up9dj]

@@alixmaurel9536 Je dois dire que c'est une bonne surprise de croiser d'autres personnes parlant français ^^. J'essaie également de faire des efforts pour m'intégrer un peu mieux à la vie en société et paraitre le plus humaine possible (as weird as that sounds). Je suis la seule INTJ de mon entourage et ce n'est pas rare d'être incomprise car la plupart des gens parle la langue des émotions alors que c'est une langue dans laquelle je suis particulièrement mauvaise. Je trouve les humains à la fois fascinants et épuisants, leur comportement ne cesse de me dérouter mais il faut savoir faire avec parfois. Je partage ton point de vue, et le fait que tu aies dû assister à ce cours ne fait que montrer à quel point la société ne voit pas forcément les choses de la même manière. Les humains ont encore beaucoup de choses à découvrir et à apprendre; sur eux même y compris.

[@misspogani7694]

@@Alex-up9dj Les amies!! Le mode s'ouvre quand on comprend l'anglais mais comme tu dis Alex, bonne surprise! (et j'ai utilisé 3 points d'exclamations, c'est vaguement contre-nature et un rare signe d'enthousiasme ^^). Après on parle souvent des émotions des autres, mais des fois, on peut être surpris par les siennes. Y'a pas longtemps, j'allais mal sans vraiment le savoir jusqu'à ce qu'on me pose une question qui m'a fait avoir les larmes aux yeux et erreur 404-peux plus répondre de suite. Ca m'a permis de réaliser un problème, d'analyser pourquoi, de réfléchir à des solutions, et bim. Pas totalement résolu, mais en contrôle à nouveau. Avant ça, j'étais totalement aveugle à ce qui se passait en moi parce que c'était secondaire par rapport à ce qui retenait mon attention à cette période. Ou à la fac, ne pas se sentir stressée pour un oral, mais le fonctionnement de ta "plomberie", pour dire les choses délicatement, te fait réaliser que tu dois l'être quand-même. Ca vous fait ça? Un genre de détachement, l'information existe mais tu n'as pas encore lu le mail, pour ainsi dire.

[@catradraismykin6690]

Growing up I wasn’t very in touch with my emotions but I’ve always been aware of other people’s emotions. I knew I was aware of people’s emotions and I was accepting them as a fact but in a way of visual not in the way of empathy. Because of this I never got negativity/positivity from another’s emotions but it helped me to analyze people and to this day this quality of mine brought me several wins in social life. As an INTJ I can say this becomes very handy in need. If you’re someone who struggles to understand emotions, I wanted to point out that you don’t have to fully feel emotions. Just use them as windows.

[@Sharon-do7im]

Great description.. after listening to Heaps of tutorials on the Myers Briggs personality traits (to figure myself out!) .. was caught between TJ and FJ..At Last your description has cleared my uncertainty... INTJ I am!.. Thanks Girl👍🕉️

[@InternetLiJo]

Glad you’re here!!

[@daviddavis9835]

Your channel is gold for this INTJ.

[@ryrororororo]

i relate to some of this... definitely needs to work on maintaining relationships

[@michaelc5386]

Do you all ever have the problem when you are trying to compliment someone and they think you are insulting them?

[@InternetLiJo]

Lol yes actually, this happens often, then I have to follow up with “THATS A GOOD THING!!” Literally happened this morning.

[@michaelc5386]

@@InternetLiJo hahahah just yesterday I mentioned to someone that I couldn't believe how many followers they had on Instagram because their content was very simplistic (simplistic to me is a good thing). I was bombarded with a hailstorm of "GeEzE WHy YoU GotTa Be So HaTeFuL?!" --- I was literally dumbfounded.

[@InternetLiJo]

😂

[@wynstansmom829]

"Shrinking away from death is something unhealthy and abnormal which robs the second half of life of its purpose." Carl Jung I have never feared death and now I am in the 'second half of my life assuming the actuarial tables are correct, so I wonder what Personality Types do worry most. Or would you think this is more nurture than the nature of the Intj?

[@InternetLiJo]

I would say S dominant types. Fearing the abstract, the unknown. The way I look at it is we are energetic being and energy can’t be destroyed so the journey moves on.

[@wynstansmom829]

@@linyenchin6773 yes, she is lovely, inside and out. Merry Christmas 🖖🏻🎄🌌🎶 Giant Robot Lives Matter!

[@H0wlrunn3r]

what you are saying around 9:20 is my biggest struggle too. I am really good at attracting people to me but when the relationship starts needing maintenance in the form of "hey what's up" texts and stuff like, then I just can't. It's not like I brush them off but I feel like some people think I ghost them when in reality I am just so hyper focused on my own goals and how I want to structure my life long term that all the little niceties some people require totally fall flat with me. Maybe it's because I see relationships differently? To me it's not about your snapchat score or whether or not you liked my Instagram post. To me it's a good friendship when we can share and add things to each others lives. That leaves a wide landscape for a variety of interpretations XD

[@INTJ_5w4]

You check on your friends every 2 or 3 months? That's probably more often than me checking on them. That... that says a lot.

[@pruje]

I love INTJs. I'm a male INFJ, and you guys are REALLY similar to us in some ways, and this video highlights those ways. A lot of the stuff you talk about looks to be more Ni-dom/Se inferior than INTJ-specific. It resonates with me even though I am not an INTJ. I used to have an INTJ friend that I had awesome intellectual discussions with. The problem was he would turn intellectual debates into a personal argument...like my motivation was to one-up him intellectually. Any debate where I disagreed with him would eventually degenerate into a competition with him (and if I "won", it would make him angry). I ended up doorslamming him eventually, because this annoyed me so much. He was also colder than me. He once accused me of feeling sorry for people as if I had an STD he might catch. It's too bad though, because the discussions were legitimately stimulating. His Te was really well developed...on any given subject he was always prepared to research it or had it already researched. He read a lot. He engaged in a LOT of confirmation bias though. I don't miss him, but I do miss our discussions. I have many close friends that are wonderful people, but nobody I can engage in intellectual discussions like this with anymore.

[@InternetLiJo]

I always have great convos with INFJs!

[@HuseyinOmerErgen]

I have a good INFJ friend of almost 6 years, ni-dom/se-inf gang is cool. Also means there is someone to consult on social stuff. I don't know a lot about mbti (I have just solved the relation between 4-letters and 4 functions) and less about the cognitive functions, but I think Ni is prone to confirmation bias, which would explain why I am prone to it too.

[@karincossette]

The thing when you mentioned that INTJs are good at ignoring sensory stimuli to focus on a task was spot on. This actually contributed to my health badly. The emotional intelligence part was also right because I struggle keeping up with emotions of people around me, I don’t know how to react to people in emotional distress other than trying to solve the issue when solving the problem is sometimes not what they want.

[@Human_01]

Agreed! 😀 Also... Please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!! The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till. ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition). SUMMARY: Evil personality: ESFJ, ESTJ [Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP, ESFP. ☝️All of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ #Save_Soil

[@regomoditswesenne4743]

got chills towards the end when you spoke about using the entire brain.

[@ina7107]

crazy how this reaffirmed me that i really am an intj

[@ina7107]

literally felt attacked so many times during this video 😭

[@garrettashe8610]

Hello from your infj cousin 😊👋🏽. You have such a thorough understanding of the INTJ type- I love it! I'll be subscribing. I will be making a video on unhealthy intjs (as well as other types) soon, and I think your description will be so helpful

[@InternetLiJo]

Awesome! Great to hear from a fellow youtube content creator!! Keep in touch!

[@garrettashe8610]

@@InternetLiJo Will do! I'm all subscribed up :)

[@Aero1818]

INTJ explaining about relationships ENFP Me: Oooohh! Is that a lapislázuli necklace? Her eyes look like purple colour behind those glasses. 😂

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahaha such an ENFP!

[@xx-vk1df]

Thank you LiJo for this great video. I unfortunately identify with all points you describe. I know I am an INTJ female since last year. Was good to discover that and not feeling so alone and misunderstood. At the same time an opportunity to know my red flaws and try to improve. That's why I find your video so fantastuc, because you describe to the point unhealthy things I do. Good to keep in mind... I have a long way in front of me!

[@InternetLiJo]

Happy to be on the planet with you sister! Don’t hesitate to reach out!

[@franknelson3019]

LiJo, I’m a big fan of yours. You are young and beautiful, which can be a big liability, but you nevertheless use your considerable intelligence to pursue truth while admitting to your own failings. You’re a great inspiration to old intj’s like me who struggle on with these problems of human difference and alienation. Keep up the good work!

[@InternetLiJo]

Thanks so much Frank! I hope to be an inspiring old INTJ as well one day :) What is flesh anyway? lol

[@franknelson3019]

Flesh contains an organic life form that comes into consciousness and then loses it over a short span of time. What might come after is probably the greatest mystery of our lives. Flesh is something to enjoy and celebrate in youth and rather fretfully maintain as we age. All and all, a most amazing gift!

[@C_Rent17]

I came across your channel a couple days ago. During my first year at the Naval Academy, the entire freshman class was given the full blown Myers Briggs test and I got INTJ. I took the test randomly through simpler versions every few years over the passed decade and always tested as INT but never put enough thought into it not realizing how every aspect of my life is affected by the traits I have. In just the handful of your videos I’ve seen so far, so much of my life is finally feeling at least somewhat validated. There’s been times when I’ve felt so out of touch with the rest of the world I’ve thought there was something inherently wrong with me. I see now, especially after this video, how much I’ve actually relied so heavily on my more dominant functions and how the lack of use of the other functions that I now know I mostly ignore has probably been the reason why my ideas that I obsess over and plan so thoroughly tend to fizzle out and never come to fruition. I’m so excited to have found you and I know this will (and it already has) be a whole new obsession to delve into and learn as deeply as I can. But from what I’ve seen so far, I’m going to have to learn how to balance this process and take a different approach so that it isn’t just another pile of information I consume and never end up using in a way to really move my life in a positive direction towards my goals. I’m grateful for the work you’ve put in to this to make this info more readily available to us and I’m excited to really understand myself from a whole new perspective that may help me to finally make some changes to my processes and get me over the hump that seems to always be an obstacle I can’t overcome and reach my full potential.

[@InternetLiJo]

Awesome Colin! Welcome, you've found he others 👽

[@C_Rent17]

@@InternetLiJo Finally 👌🏼

[@megankinnaird9372]

Definitely very relatable. Especially when it comes to emotions. A coworker of mine was telling me a very emotional story. At some point she was actually crying. I looked at her and asked why she was so upset. Well as it turns out that was not the best thing to do. 🤣 I only asked to better help my understanding of emotions. But because I am not warm, sympathetic, and moderately understanding of how others process emotions, I have a tendency to rub people the wrong way. In my experience though looking within yourself and questioning things such as how you "feel" from time to time is beneficial. Not just to yourself but to those around you. Anyways great video. 👌

[@natureshorts6657]

The ENTJ-INTJ relationship really is a match made in heaven from my experience, in terms of working together anyway. I'm not sure it would be best for a romantic relationship, but ENTJs and INTJs WORK extremely well together because the INTJ functions as the mastermind behind the scenes and the ENTJ functions as the front-man/woman who takes action on all the INTJ's plans and ideas. I've been in such a situation a couple times in my life, and it felt like I could conquer the world with the ENTJ person. Good video.

[@DiLu-o3p]

Hey just discovered your channel. I love to hear about us from someone who IS one of us. When you talked about unhealthy habits this reminds me of something that I do. I used to be fat. About 9 years ago I decided that I had had enough so I was researching and tried all types of diets and exercise regimes. I placed gym (and diet) as the top most priority. It didn’t matter if I was sad cold hungry sore tired sick or dead, I was gonna hit the gym with absolutely no exceptions. Ive kept up my fitness regime just not as ruthlessly now that I have the body that I wanted. But there’s one thing that I do - I bank the “good” behaviour to save for rainy day “bad” behaviour. As an example, weekly I do minimum 5 days weight training - this is non negotiable. I’d like to go do 1 day swimming, and in theory, have 1 day rest a week, but I am ok with up to 2 days of rest a week. Except I don’t. I keep thinking “what if something comes up and I can’t do x” hence I bank up extra exercise sessions on my “free” days to plan for any future mishaps which may cause me to not be able to exercise. What ends up happening is that I go for 4-6 weeks of exercises without a rest day. And I’m ok with that 😊 My INFJ partner will be like “I did extra exercises which means I deserve extra snacks”. Where as I’ll say, I’ve made all this extra progress that was outside of my plan, I like to keep it. 😅

[@ronnie_renee]

I've always wondered how is it that my mom has such great people skills. She regularly not only thinks of people, but acts on those thoughts. I, on the other hand, just forget about people. It's excruciatingly painful having to answer messages that I don't think have to do with anything I deem important in that moment.

[@mjhill72]

Your final comments about striving to do what you aren't good at is excellant & appropriate for everyone. That's how you conquer your weaknesses, turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones, etc. (Btw, I'm a Turbulent Architect with undertones of Star Bellied Sneetch.) Oh, P.S. GET OUTTA MY HEAD!

[@Ferrachu]

As you are wearing lashes and makeup and jewelry! LMFAO😂

[@lewisfindley123]

They say you're only as strong as your weakest ladder. For me, emotional intelligence and maintaining relationships are tough. However, I see them as exciting challenges. I'm working towards improving myself in these areas because it really does help in the grand scheme of things. Especially in these times.

[@kyleblake1565]

This video resonated with me in a big way as I leave tomorrow to move across the country and plan to sleep in the car, grab food when possible, bathe- who knows, all in an effort to complete the goal of transcendence. It was a good reminder that I need to pay a little attention to my SE so I don’t wreck myself.

[@InternetLiJo]

Good luck Kyle!

[@coolbreez]

OMG, so true about the thinking that goes behind creating healthy body. I just think like that. Let me exercise and be healthy now for the time I might ignore those. All for the vision we have! I can stop going out, I can stop vacationing even if I need one mentally because my internal planner and visionary say that if i spend time on those I will miss achieving my vision in time I want. This is my current situation and I don't know how to override that.

[@ritarock5193]

You won't believe the many revelations in my ife. Thanks for explaining that

[@severussin]

"Simulation Land" is such a familiar term that I've NEVER HEARD before but its fucking true. I love simulation land.

[@heyyou1911]

Communicating is exhausting

[@InternetLiJo]

10/10

[@debadams7800]

THANK YOU!! Breakin' it down so well. I'm an old soul INTJ that still gets caught in the hamster wheel once in a while. Covid / Election stuff has caused so much of the non-productive internal dialogue to re-surface that I haven't experienced in YEARS... but it's still there apparently. It is the "unhealthy stuff" I guess that will always be the yin to the yang of the INTJ.

[@nshanelh]

I just stumbled upon your videos today. I've never felt more understood.

[@InternetLiJo]

I'm glad!

[@KenZauter]

It’s only “unhealthy” insofar as it inhibits one from doing something one wants to do. If an INTJ is (by modern, American standards anywy) unambitious and doesn’t care, it’s just what it is.

[@cameron7737]

Great advice and freakily relatable! For sure the staying in contact and maintaining relationships with close friends has been the hardest thing for me. I actually feel guilty because I don't put the effort into those relationships.

[@kevinmaguire9623]

Hi liJo.... I'm infj unhealthy cuz I never new what it was until about a year ago... FJ helped a lot.. you as well. fine as hell is a script. I don't usually talk like that INTJ and she is a good friend...

[@ytachibana9858]

I feel so validated and attacked at the same time, it's absolutely brilliant. Thank you.

[@InternetLiJo]

🖤👽

[@Philson]

This speaks out to me.

[@hannahmathilda7101]

The end is such a relatable mood 😌

[@InternetLiJo]

You're a relatable mood Hannah :)

[@MediocreDeficit]

Maths textbook: this is the formula to be applied Me, an unhealthy INTJ: I wanna arrive at the formula in my own way, thus, wasting a lot of time and exhausting myself over a stupid formula that i wanted to know how it came about.

[@growin4202]

I love it! “So, that’s what you should do.” LiJo INTJ quote of the day! Ya know, you might be on to something! I think I’m in!

[@rh5340]

you have no idea how useful this video is to me... OMG suddenly find the problem that has been making me miserable...

[@mamaotv]

I found your channel randomly and now I just realize it how much knowledgeable you are in this particular subject (about personality), I am very thankful towards you and please keep making videos on these topics because for some people it could be life lesson. Thanks alot

[@InternetLiJo]

Welcome!!

[@crimsonmania6006]

You just listed what I have been going through for the past 8 months. Thank you for letting me narrow down what is going on in this life of mine.

[@InternetLiJo]

🖤

[@kristopherryanwatson]

Hi, LiJo. I just discovered your channel and instantly subscribed. i am an INTJ myself. 1000.9%. it does not seem to matter how many times i have taken the meyer-briggs test over the years, my personality test always returns the same results (being an INTJ - not once any other personality type, including any suggestion of being an INTP). once in a while, i will research everything i can on the INTJ personality type. after a ruined and deep friendship i had with someone that ended just last month, after many months of emotionally supporting her (which in and of itself was draining for me), and her mental well being since the beginning of this year, i find myself even consuming more content in all forms about my personality type, and trying to understand myself as to why i invested so much time and effort to put towards her. i have come to the conclusion that it and of itself was ultmately very unhealthy. your content is helping me cope, i suppose. and there is a slight healing process i am going through from taking in your content. thanks so much.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hey so glad you made it here. Understanding makes all things Whole again. Welcome home 👽

[@kristopherryanwatson]

@@InternetLiJo thanks so much. I hope you're doing well. Looking forward to consuming more of your content whenever possible.... Have a great Friday ahead.

[@InternetLiJo]

@@kristopherryanwatson much appreciated :)

[@grumpyschnauzer]

Your revelation is how I felt about discovering tampons at 20 😆 My younger ESFP sister had to clue me in.

[@2014kaydee]

That cultural epiphany thing and knowing that it’s needed to make a goal happen is an event they happened to me just this morning. At 29 I finally realized that one of the reasons me just being me in a corporate environment was so off putting for my coworkers or women in particular is because most people have a need for validation or to feel valued as a person. I do not require this from other people and I don’t care what people think nor about their feelings and although I never said as much my actions or lack there of communicated this very clearly. Therefore, people knew I didn’t care nor valued their thoughts and feelings and that I didn’t need it from them either. Most people are irrational so they internalized this fact and turned it into me thinking I’m better than them or I’m a bitch. Meanwhile internally I’m like why does my opinion matter so much to you? If I don’t care what you think and I don’t care what you think of me but I’m still a team player and get my work done why can’t we just exist near each other and keep discussion strictly about work which is mutually beneficial? I knew that in order to move up in the company at some point it becomes a popularity contest and I was going to have to adjust my internal workings to appease the masses and I just couldn’t do it. I mean I could’ve but it wasn’t worth the effort for me. It came down to time and energy. I half some many things I want to do and that wasn’t one of them. I made enough money where I was happy just getting decent raises every year and the cost benefit analysis lead me to conclude that putting up with everyone’s bullshit wasn’t worth the pay off