The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs: Attention

[@kimiakalhor1776]

Wow, what an explanation 🎉Thank you. ❤

[@ashirwadjoshi9667]

You are too good when it comes to making someone understand about all the concepts to minute level. Keep up the great work Mark. Cheers!

[@aquariusstar7248]

This is exactly what I need3d and wanted to hear today. The part you said about putting all of your attention eggs in one basket. I got to thinking "that sounds kind but can be dangerous to my emotional well-being!" when someone encouraged me to email him as much as I need to (but understand he might not be available to reply if he's busy) 🤯😝 Been there , done that! No...Thanks! I know a hook when I see one.

[@stardavies6202]

Thank You Mark I Totally agree with you sadly it is all true due to all the programming & conditioning & traumas we have have been through I do not think many people are them "real" selves and most of us are "acting" many roles, including me, but am working on it!!! You are a Great teacher Bless you for sharing your info with everyone Stay Blessed

[@jamesathens]

This video makes me wish even more that psychotherapists turned to Human Givens Psychology. Such a great presenter, an example of a scientist, and a great motivator for all therapists to get past psychobabble and reach the real root of human suffering. Excellent presentation and truly informative content as always. Thank you so much.

[@etrebelle9812]

Therapy would be of actual use, if all therapists were at this level and not unfunny clowns. Thank you for such quality; it is such a pleasure to see. p.s. I know that you are right because I went through these ''cult people'' experiences myself, and they are dangerous. If I didn't have my aunt to support me through the aftermath with kind encouraging words and knowing she is a genuine person, I could have made terrible decisions out of sharp pain.

[@gekiryudojo]

Very thought provoking and fascinating video.

[@sarahgilani2201]

Just 1:39 minutes into the video and it is already starting to make so much sense!!!!

[@КальсоныШарикова]

this is pure gold. i have begun to differentiate people into two kinds. but i could never name the difference. now i can. those who do not need attention and those who do. you can see which is which pretty quickly. thank you very much for the comprehensive and well articulate vlog.

[@boglarkatekenos4827]

I needed to hear this today! Thank you for placing me back to a state of humility by reminding me why I am on the journey of a healer!

[@cheche9528]

Vulnerable people vulnerable to their own emotional drive ! Focus on meet emotional needs, depending on the Single source, single person, eggs 🥚 in one basket 🧺! Open for easily been manipulated! Fear of abandonment,… “ knowledge is real power “ , shelf knowledge isn’t easy! true… video like this , helped me to leave lot of toxic ex behind who only interested manipulation and controlling me!

[@cherylm5002]

Great video, as a survivor of childhood abuse, I ended up drinking gasoline, skill recovering from the trauma over trauma over trauma, thanks for your insights

[@derickdowney6992]

Absolutely amazing and eye-opening. Thank you for all you do Mark!!!

[@DoctorFatman]

10:48 So that's why everyone was looking at me weird… Jokes aside, as a person with health issues, I love your channel!

[@halah.2073]

Wow, this was so insightful. Thank you. I can't wait to listen to the one about safety and security.

[@curtismurray9793]

Great info once again Mark I like your comment that a good Psychologist is one who sees underneath the attention seeking behaviour

[@thecraftywitch510]

Fantastic analogy. Great subject matter. Thanks Mark.

[@jennifercarleton7550]

This series is genius! thank you so much :)

[@Tripl3333]

Damn....I mean I've watched quite a lot of your videos and they are like spot on..! for me. I really hope this helps the people in need out there. really thank you for your devotion and seriousness.

[@beeyourselfcounselling6748]

Great oil/water story - I'll be using it in sessions!! Thanks :)

[@lucjamaria]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge. Fantastic!

[@shirleykaye4344]

This video explains a lot about how I have been trapped by certain men. As an only child, I received a great deal of attention from my parents as there was no competition for their focus. I'm curious to find out if being an only child predisposes a person to fall victim to others because they are trying to obtain the amount of attention that they received from their parents.

[@Benjafish2008]

Rephrase: "I have ALLOWED myself to be trapped by certain men."

[@jonathonray6198]

One possibility is that the only child absorbs the negative processes coming from the parents attention as well. So in one sense that kind of attention while they feel it’s helping them, it’s not. It’s like drinking coke, or coffee to satisfy thirst. You can be hooked on attention but not the right kind. It’s a negative seduction. Attachment with parents ideally leaves to trust and joy in other relationships too. So it’s like being trapped in loyalty to the mafia.

[@jett888]

Thsnk you! I'm sharing this on my community page.❤

[@Micky2009-s4s]

This is mind opening!

[@ABB14-11]

VERY, VERY, VERY useful.

[@rahulshastri9278]

Extreamly valuable content

[@emotionalwisdomtools2617]

Great information! Thanks!

[@meenakshisinghal5399]

Dr your cross sectional view was amazing and enlightening. Thanks

[@daisybee2138]

Thank you for the knowledge xx.

[@aura7153]

Please more episodes in this series !

[@PhysioFlagship]

Eye Opener ! Thank You for doing this !

[@freefall1536]

Thank you this was truly helpful

[@indoororchidsandtropicals358]

Is the need to be needed what drives, for example, women who think they can "fix" a "damaged" man?

[@ernestberry-songsrestored5637]

Excellent.

[@normanspurgeon5324]

Thank you - very helpful-

[@temsaida]

Thank you.

[@xeropunt5749]

I find alcohol increases my craving for attention exchange & frustrates me when others aren't so willing to "play". Sober, I can better put immediate satisfactions on the back burner, in favor of discipline & my challenging goals. Great vid, Mark! I was wondering if you used the human-givens approach...

[@indoororchidsandtropicals358]

Naltrexone or naloxone will give you the power back if you feel like you need a drink. Endorphin deficiency syndrome hasn't been proven but it makes perfect sense to me. These drugs which are usually used for opiate overdose, can help the brains of any type of addict feel more normal according to what I've read. Its oversimplified, but the just is that people who are addicts but don't yet know it or addicts who know they are, have lower levels of feel good chemicals and so when they find something that increases these..well its like the motor oil analogy, and the person soon learns they have no control over the substance. So essentially what these drugs do is make your brain sensitive enough for the natural feel good chemicals to actually satisfy the need to feel good that "natural rewards" would give a normal person.

[@xeropunt5749]

@@indoororchidsandtropicals358 Thank you, good to know. This was new for me. I'm not addicted to drinking, though. I feel too good sober, lol. Since this vid was about "attention", I was just pointing out that nothing increase my craving for attention like having a few drinks. I want to talk with my neighbors, find old friends, talk out any old grievances, to make everything pristine. Hard work has the opposite effect. The busy-ness fulfills me, the achievement satisfies me & I have no appetite/cravings for the previously much needed attention.

[@pppp67567]

Excellent, thabk you.

[@manidas4789]

Very well explained. Can you please elaborate on those people who practice stone walling? What sort of need do they have?

[@powerliftingpremedcrafter473]

Control and avoidance

[@elizabethli6758]

really love this small series, but where are the other episodes besides 1), 2) and 5) on the other channel???

[@muskduh]

thanks for the video

[@jacquelinepuga8315]

Thank you!

[@dv123abc]

Brilliant!

[@marcinekpomaranski]

Amazing. Best regards from Poland :))))

[@Mrblahx]

Thankyou so much

[@Micky2009-s4s]

You have an Outstanding voice one of the best I have ever heard And I don't go along with the non state theory because Trance feels good So why not induce Trance as its more absorbing both physically and Pyschcology

[@antoinettemurphy6568]

Very good video excellent

[@amc7568]

I find it interesting how you use two people as being their own personal cult, with the Whole love bombing affair and I have many family members who are involved in cult like religion. Maybe it's for the attention they receive, because it's not for the biblical knowledge they receive. It's a high control group. Thank God I got out when I saw the Whole child abuse, suicides after their back room meetings. No thank you. Great video. Wonderful job and delivery.

[@aquamarine2416]

so true! & scary

[@meditationvibration4259]

been a victim of this.

[@robinrevell5873]

The love bombing in 1987 was lathered on liberally at age 19 and we were married in 9 months. Now 33 years later, 2020, the "love bombing" as I'm walking out the front door shows up as, "You'll be alone the rest of your life. No one will want you".

[@RoseRed733]

Seeing this 1 yr later. How are you doing?

[@MarchGoldCoast]

This is gaslighting.. "you are nothing without me".. At least love bombing would be "fake nice" for all the 5 minutes.. Hope awareness blesses your life that you can also pass on.. Peace 🙏✨

[@Coffeeismylifeblood]

What’s a list of emotional needs?

[@Sarahizahhsum]

What is the best treatment for CPTSD? Please, I need an answer. I'm desperate, my life is on the line.

[@cathyhsu8840]

@Sarah Gardner Search for Rewind Technique from David Muss. it helped me and hopefully you can benefit too.

[@elizabethprocter9698]

At 18.40 you reference Jones Town ... sadly this has been proven to be mass murder, not suicide.

[@kayligo]

Do you offer online therapy sessions?

[@mirjamw6665]

Engine metaphor thirst

[@delangelservices2283]

Sounds like the next US President!

[@cherylm5002]

Great video, as a survivor of childhood abuse, I ended up drinking gasoline, skill recovering from the trauma over trauma over trauma, thanks for your insights