Unspoken Rules of a Narcissistic Family

[@Jlmmmk-cw6bk]

My immediate family. Narcissistic abuse destroyed it. I left 20 yrs ago as the empath/scapegoat. I’ve been healing layers for so long-in isolation. Finally feeling better. My programming said I was not wanted/enough etc. I will never get near anything like this again. It destroyed my sense of self. Thank you Jill for stating this so truthfully 💚

[@firstsurname2478]

It takes a lot to speak up about your own narcissistic family - my respect to the lady!

[@jessmason2112]

💯🎯

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Spot on. Everything you said is so painfully true. I have experienced it. Narcisists are child abusers.

[@tazzygeoff621]

Jill. You are 100% correct. I survived it, not unskathed but I'm free.

[@zorand67]

You really "nailed it down". Very concise, clear, accurate, "straight to the point". Wow. Bravo. Thank you.

[@cindyriikola7760]

Happy New Year Jill! Unfortunately, I married into a creepy, narcissistic family. I had no idea how dysfunctional they were and since my husband died a few months ago, I no longer have any contact with them and I am happy and free. Woo-hoo!

[@DC71235]

This is my family! Thank you for this video!

[@moniqueboatfield]

You are coming up my street with this one. The family a whole Netflix documentary, lol. Hopefully my divorce will be final this year!

[@silkandsandhealingandlove]

One of the best explanations I’ve ever heard.❤️😢🙏

[@EsteticaEncantada]

I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. I can relate with some facts with me and my “mother”.

[@patb2425]

This describes my immediate and extended family members to a tee.

[@FergusGrant]

This video and the one about the smear campaign are so pin-point accurate to my family experiences, I have to take my imaginary hat off to you. Thank you.👏

[@triedproven9908]

Well said and all facts. Thank you for sharing all of your knowledge.

[@AlphaDeltaBravo-t8j]

It’s so damn sad. It’s all true.

[@GeriRogers]

Oh my gosh!! I can't believe what I am hearing! I was married into a family exactly like this! Years of misery All this is 💯 true. Just can't win. Have to please the whole family of them or they all punish you and treat you like crap. Horrible marriage in that family for too many years. So glad to hear this video. So much validation !😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@gdm1979]

Happy 2025 Jill!! (Btw you look FANTASTIC!!)

[@theenlightenedtarget]

Happy new year!!

[@csh43166]

Happy New Year to you and yours, Jill! 🎊🥂❤️ These couldn't be more accurate. My father's manifesto...

[@MsJilChrissie]

Hi fellow Jill…this is MY family. I’m so glad I saw this today.

[@ferngoodman9163]

Wow what a great video. Thank u!

[@FraterPerpetuusCoegi]

Very true

[@maryrichardson6029]

Know this behavior very well. Today i alive and doing very ❤

[@jennifermontgomery4521]

This is my reality, kind of hurts when it's talked about openly, thanks 🎉

[@meabeck]

Precisly as I recall.🧡Thank you, Jill Wise.🙏Blessed healing to all.🎶

[@MeataVore]

My god everything you have outlined I remember from my childhood. Then low and behold I went and married one. She is gone but has turned our two sons against me. Why was I not warned at school that this condition and people really do exist and not only that they are relentless.

[@jessmason2112]

They are all over my devices. I end up dead you know exactly who to look at.

[@Hannah-eq5ff]

Hope you are doing well Jill happy new year

[@theenlightenedtarget]

Thank you! Happy New Year to you too! 🙏❤️🙏

[@lisaatkinson6276]

In my case, parents weren’t narcissists, but one sibling became a narcissistic as an adult causing more trouble than you can imagine to the family of origin, triangulating, dominating and controlling. I think it’s because she married a narc and then became one herself. She’s in her 60’s now and about as malignant and sociopathic as a narc can be. She’s even violent and dangerous. The top of the spectrum

[@michaelgarrow3239]

If you don’t figure this out as an adult. You will wind up with life partners that are just the same, and live on repeat. 🤕

[@sueolson234]

You're so right, Michael! This happened to me.

[@jimbol6847]

So spot on! My dad's mom was one of those people. She was born in 1912. She had 4 sons and 1 daughter, my dad was her firstborn. What a mess! I think she was one of 12 siblings. She was definitely full of piss and vinegar 😢. Ruined my family tree somewhat, but my dad emerged as totally uninfected by her "ailment". Both are dead now, but I think I know who I want to be like 😊

[@DHW256]

You nailed it, once again, as if you were there with us. The family head narcissist was our mother, from whom I finally walked away and christened, "Miss Information, the Queen of Envy". She was the amalgam of Jezebel and Athaliah, and she made her children's lives a living hell. Our father was the paternal and maternal leader in our family, providing the only love and acceptance we kids ever got, and he was a mustang Marine recon officer! Our mother managed to train at least one of her children to be just like her, constantly competing and making blanket (and often false) comparisons to diminish his siblings like, "I'm better looking than you" or "I'm more athletic than you" or "I'm smarter than you." One day, the dolt walked up to me and, out of blue, said, ""My penis is bigger than yours"! LOL! He's grown into a horrible, middle-aged monster, despised and mocked by everyone.

[@melaniekellner6056]

Pure evil. They present themselves as something special. But behind the scenes they are rotten to their core. Family, Ex’s, Bosses, Users if you have money!

[@andrestipanovic7407]

Spot on

[@amandaball353]

Happy New Year Jill🎊👏🏻🥂🥳

[@theenlightenedtarget]

Happy New Year to you too! 🙏❤️🙏

[@Jebolton]

This sounds exactly like my ex and his entire family.

[@MindBodyStorm]

💢Nothing more toxic than coming to grips with the reality that the people who were supposed to be "parents" were really in competition with them the whole time❗🤔💭 It's like well damn, I just got ripped off....

[@VoxJoxx]

My rotten narcissistc father blamed me for my mother being ill, what was I supposed to do with the weight of this hideous responsibility, blaming and toxic gameplay? I knew then something was really mentally wrong with my family and it permeated it to its core. I had to leave them like a very bad relationship, I ended all contact, I never went to my mother's funeral because there was too much game play and toxicity, I was happy I was strong enough not to go. In the end I owed them nothing.

[@Happydays14385]

Truth telling scapegoat here

[@lisaatkinson6276]

In my case, parents weren’t narcissists, but one sibling became a narcissistic as an adult causing more trouble than you can imagine to the family of origin dominating and controlling. I think it’s because she married a narc and then became one herself. She’s in her 60’s now and about as malignant and sociopathic as a narc can be. She’s even violent and dangerous. The top of the spectrum

[@elijahmountainfire888]

Competition is the number one reason the world is in this state right now. Competition. Is NEVER healthy. NEVER. EVER.

[@casillasangel]

Jill looking lovely 🌹

[@theenlightenedtarget]

Thank you!

[@kevinlentz7604]

I agree she’s beautiful

[@gregoryritchie7852]

Jill: yes, even ONE deviation from the narcissist's script can result in you being kicked out of the group. You have "disrespected" him. I know.

[@peacefulamerican4994]

I almost proposed to a member of a narc-fam.

[@meabeck]

Congratulations. 🙏💛💚

[@peacefulamerican4994]

@meabeck Thanks 😊.

[@alema309]

Thank goodness you didn't go through with it. My bf(scapegoat) says he's dating to marry, it's always been his intention. But it's not happening his family is very narcissistic.

[@fallon7616]

Thanks for the video. I'm not a part of my husband's family. His Mother hates me. Little digs from the Mother and Sister. I am very sensitive

[@marysweeney486]

So dead on, now add a patriarchal church to it

[@debbievoss3496]

😂

[@meabeck]

😥🧡🎶

[@Faeriethorn]

A born-again, Conservative Texas, church brought out every narcissistic trait my parents have. The love in my family was practically non-existent. They tried hard to make we children compete for any affection. Thank goodness my grandparents and family on my father’s side were absolutely opposite. My mother was/is in absolute control of my father and he literally worships her. And ohhhh, the rage.

[@marysweeney486]

@Faeriethorn when you're a child you think your parents are good, that's another layer to get past, thank you for understanding

[@meabeck]

@@Faeriethorn Spot on. I am sorry. I relate.🕯 Be kind to you.🧡

[@GeorgeYoung-j2d]

Ignore me Ignore me Ignore me I'm out of the family lmao😂

[@alema309]

Good for you I hope you stay out it's not worth the price of staying.

[@marysweeney486]

Your so dead on