WARNING To Childless Women - Are You Happier or Miserable With That Decision?

[@victoriagore470]

The problem is, everyone wants to tell others what will make them happy.

[@evanatbri-s13]

Not exactly. Misery loves company, you know.

[@violetrocks2934]

So true!

[@Jooseppee]

It’s beyond that.. civic duty, legacy, etc. higher values than individualistic goals/drives.

[@lilyseestheworld7865]

True joy is something only Jesus Christ can give a person. As He said: "Come to me all you heavy laden and I will give you rest". Everything else is an illusion. Everything passes, God's love remains no matter what. Writing this at 3 o'clock after my toddler woke me up at 1 am 😀 Still thankful that she is in our lives. All glory to Jesus!

[@victoriagore470]

@Jooseppee once again pushing your beliefs onto others smh

[@Gatasma]

The problem with this pro-family, pro-kids arguments are that they ignore the fact that there are people who should absolutely not be parents.

[@missdtattoodesigns3597]

And many other facts, but those do not support the argument so they won’t be brought up. There’s a lot of parental regret (and health issues post birth) that almost never get mentioned - which may be the strongest dealbreaker for reproducing. The pro argument always seems very self serving (no wonder it’s not always fulfilling. You’re not giving back to the world, you want to take from it to sustain your offspring).

[@johndrumpf9888]

"the fact that there are people who should absolutely not be parents.", yeah like most Republicans LOL.

[@pamelaabner413]

So true! Just because you can have children doesn’t mean you should……

[@bkwcanton5615]

Thanks for saying this!! Not everyone should have children!! It's true!!

[@vrcatlady7227]

But having children is good for the economic growth and for rich people’s investment portfolio. The more future young working class people, the more consumers, the higher our stock portfolio. Stock value goes up when population goes up. 😏So really, everyone should have kids, even poor people. Because it's good for rich people.

[@minnowisfrommarspodcast4593]

I’ve seen married people miserable. I’ve seen people with perfect families miserable. What these stats show is that there is no 1 road to happiness. Married, single, kids or no kids.

[@JLu20]

Yup, also, poorer families might have more unhappiness due to overwork and childcare costs. Regretting their poor kid's poverty future if it resembles the parent's own poverty lifestyle. Might be better happiness with "children-responsability" for more financial stable or prosperous households.

[@iamkesha.]

The portrayal of the ‘perfect family’ are more likely a facade. Most people thought my family (adulthood not childhood) was like the Cosby’s. Those people were shocked when we got a divorced. It is easy to smile through pain.

[@HkLY45]

It really shows that happiness has nothing to do with any of these things. People are happy because they DECIDE to be happy. That's it. Life is hard all around if we don't decide to be happy no matter what. Someone choosing children or not are obviously already in a position where they could decide to be happy no matter what life brings.

[@rojo1124]

There are no "perfect families". Married people who marry for the right reasons are usually happy because they choose to be. The stats showed people are happier when they are not alone and feel they serve a purpose. That's understandable.

[@annasimons389]

how would oyu know if someone is "miserable". people have highs and lows throughout life? We can't just stamp the description"miserable" on them in stone. Happiness is a ridiculous standard to strive for. Sacrifice is what it's all about. It's built into the system. When you sacrifice for your children, for your family... you get a sense of fulfillment that is beyond "happiness". It's much more solid and grounded than the fleeting feeling of happiness.

[@user-ws2fj6ie9u]

Happiness doesn't come from having kids. If you're empty on the inside, that's not going to change becaue you bring another human being into the world. Considering how many parents resent their kids, I'd like to think if she says she's happy, then she is.

[@mariag2916]

I'm not sold on society. I'm most at peace when I'm on my own, as are a lot of others. What I find disgusting is the level of judgement for that.

[@rosemarybanner]

If having kids makes you happy and that is what you want then have kids. Don’t expect your kids to make your life to be a picture of the perfect family life and happy. Have kids because that is what you want and because you are ready to be a good parent, Don’t have kids because everyone else is doing that!

[@captainvanisher988]

people don't know what they want to eat tomorrow and you think they'd know what decisions to make that will last for the rest of their lives? Your advice of "do what you want" is void because most people will be scared to do something like having children or marrying without guidance or advice to do it. And that's why we are seeing a societal collapse. You don't need to want to have kids in order to have them. People did it because they were prone to by their own instincts and in the end it proved one of the most fulfilling things they could do in life. Why is it that I've never seen parents say "if I could I wouldn't have my children". Never once have I seen any parents utter these words. Yet I've met countless of old people (mainly women) that heavily regret not having children. So yes have kids because everyone else is doing that. Have kids because that's what God wants you to do. Have kids to propagate our society. Have kids because your biology is pushing you to do it. But finding the meaning in having kids will definitely vary and will not be the same as most people.

[@queeniequeen949]

Yess!! Well said!! 🥰👏🏾💯

[@Cyndogg085]

Everyone else is not doing that. Less than ever is what he's saying.

[@charlesdara]

Thank You, I don't why this is hard to get. Wondering why people jump on a video just to make a non-existent argument.

[@damienr3086]

Facts! Some people especially some parents shoul never ever have children. Some parents are in jail for hurting and even killing their own kids. Expecting Children To Make You Happy is Evil. Having to Have Children is selfish. Especially on todays world. Have children because you feel a calling and your ready.

[@YRajkoomar80]

The hardest thing, when you tried to have kids and you can't. it hurts every time. But we are happily married for 14 years, still going strong.

[@annamineer2521]

There are beautiful children out there that need parents. I have two young friends who have each adopted sets of siblings and the kids are beautiful, amazing and the families are wonderful.

[@starksenterprises]

Big up, bro! We must all carry our cross, and make the most of our portion. 🤲🏾

[@marlo2853]

Go to my country and adopt 4

[@jenjen208]

As nice as yall think these comments are they are super insensitive. Adopting and seeing a doctor for fertility issues is ridiculously expensive. In addition it's a very personal decision for where couple to make.

[@truthseeker1532]

My wife is giving birth to our 6th kid in a few weeks. I was lost before we had kids. I finally realized why I was put here on earth, and it was to be a father. You can’t understand it u til you are there. We were commanded to “be fruitful and multiply”. True happiness doesn’t come from within, it comes from acknowledgment of our Creator, whom were were created in His image

[@julialostetter8855]

Women are not a monolith. What makes one woman happy will not do the same for another. Some women want to be mothers, and they will be happier if they have children. Others, like myself, do not, and will be happier without children. Women are individual people with different wants and desires.

[@reborka]

Nuance is so important in the conversation. I’m 23 and didn’t want kids when I was younger bc 1. I was myself a child and 2. I was struggling with mental health issues from my own childhood. Now that I am where I am, my biggest dream in life is to have children, a family. I’ve always been a nurturing person and I would gladly take the responsibility of raising good humans to do good things. That’s to say not everyone is cut out for that. But lord the shaming from other women regardless of what you want is pretty gross. Leave childless women alone and leave mothers/mothers-to-be alone. Let people have their peace.

[@leluseven]

​@@reborkaI celebrate any human making healthy, rational, and empathetic decisions for themselves. What's for me isn't necessarily for thee, but as long as we aren't imposing on someone's free will and autonomy, than what's the problem?

[@leluseven]

@@reborka Tha's a strange response to someone agreeing with you...🤔

[@reborka]

@@leluseven I apologize, I misread read your comment! My bad 🙏🏻

[@dulcilass]

@@reborka Well put argument for everyone to just shut up and do their own thing. Do what makes you happy and let other people do what makes them happy.

[@luisriba8082]

Not everyone is prepared to be parents.

[@PersianDollTarot]

I have never met a person who was a happy & good parent in real life 😂… maybe a stranger who has the patience to speak to their child who is throwing a tantrum instead of ignoring them

[@ricardogarciarevilla6922]

​@@PersianDollTarotimagine how vapid your close ones must be.

[@sunnymeee]

You ain't prepared for this world but here you are.

[@peanutboxes4076]

freedom isn't for everyone too, a lot of people are scared of it.

[@ricardogarciarevilla6922]

@@peanutboxes4076 oof, that's a really bold claim. It's true though, when people are captive by a relationship, they suffer a lot. And when they are alone by being single, they suffer just as much. It's a complex phenomenon.

[@alisaa3999]

Once a person chooses to not care what society thinks, lives life the way they want and accepts their decisions, they will then allow themselves to be happy.

[@babitamundra]

Truth ❤

[@Beyond_Right]

Or become victims to their own desires

[@vitorecaps5469]

These kinds of ideas demonise societal expectations, either good or bad. But it is a fact that society is all humanity have. Imagine being in a world all alone, with nobody caring, seeing, recognising you. Just think about it, then you will know the importance of society and its expectations p

[@hummingbirdofgumption3263]

@@vitorecaps5469 - Would you say that about strict Saudi Muslim society?

[@vitorecaps5469]

@@hummingbirdofgumption3263 why not? Do Muslims not have SOCIETY?

[@Dawnie347]

Just to add having children does not mean you won’t “ die alone” thousands of people with 5 and 6 kids are sitting in nursing homes lonely 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@drkimap5784]

That is such a great point, I’ve seen this happen multiple times throughout my life including my own amazing grandmother whom my father abandoned.

[@faithbasedliving9391]

I’ve worked in different convalescent homes and senior living facilities. Believe me, there’s a difference between those who were good parents, those who’s didn’t have children, and those who were awful parents. Sometimes their child had to put them in a home because they just couldn’t take care of them. They didn’t have the strength to lift them up when they would fall because they themselves were getting older. They couldn’t keep up with their appointments and medications. But they show up, take care of them as much as possible and visit them. Then you have the childish people who haven’t had anyone visit in years. Lastly, you have those who were awful and abusive. Everyone has disowned them.

[@Nichole-x5q]

Dying alone literally means alone, no kids, your siblings and friends been dead, just the patient care tech and nurses in and out the room until you pass. A LONE.

[@lupinlongwayy5831]

​@@Nichole-x5qwhy u gotta depress me like that 😂

[@MissPrissy6688]

I know people that talk about having to either go to the retirement home or nursing home or their parents house, they let out a big sigh and roll their eyes like it’s a big chore. “ Thanks mom and dad for all the sacrifices you made bringing me into the world….”

[@hedge931]

You know what would make a childless woman more depressed? Constant being guilt tripped and being told or even convinced they failed as a woman, or that they are worth less, bc they don't have kids.

[@jessebarnes1963]

Yes, this is the argument that is applied to everything by the left. It’s always assumed to be a lack of social acceptance that is the cause of the unhappiness of people who make “non-traditional” choices; it’s never that there’s anything actually wrong with the choices themselves. For instance, it’s all lack of acceptance that makes trans people unhappy; there’s nothing inherently dysfunctional about transgenderism or the psychology of the person who is drawn to it. I’m certainly not saying that everyone needs to have kids, but is it not possible that women who remain childless and experience emotional turmoil do so because they find that they’ve chosen to avoid the thing that most people actually find to be the most meaningful thing about their entire lives? Being childless by choice has been normalized to a ridiculous degree in our society. If people are still feeling bad about it, what makes you think that it’s social pressure or judgement that is the cause and not the decision itself?

[@loosilu]

I"m a childFREE woman. Thank God.

[@BridgetWalker-xu8sw]

Childfree women are more involved in their communities than childfree men are.

[@janewhitely964]

💯💯💯

[@baldwinangel1218]

And gaslit " what's the point of you if you don't birth people?"

[@redleo380]

A kid is a soul, and that is the biggest responsibility I could ever think of taking on. I chose not to have that responsibility. I am happy and unhappy with life because I am a human being, and the challenge is to find balance.

[@cantstopsinging]

I am a senior, never married, childless. I decided when I was very young that I didn't want children. I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it. I have never regretted it. I have far less depression now than when I was younger. We're all different. Never had an abortion.

[@bogdankovalenko5096]

very nice empty, egoistic and pointless life 👍

[@snazzyquetzal]

​@@bogdankovalenko5096do feel like a better human being having left such a pointless response? Lol

[@bogdankovalenko5096]

@@snazzyquetzal well pointless for not so bright and immoral people ;)

[@tinmaddog7]

Ignore bitter freak... if it worked for you...great

[@bogdankovalenko5096]

@@tinmaddog7 so i should ignore you. ok, as you say 🤣

[@png2004]

Marriage ain’t for everyone. Kids ain’t for everyone. No matter what situation you in, just make the best of it and be happy. Because we only have one go around. That’s it. Just one. Live it to the fullest.

[@jessicalacasse6205]

why then she need the liter of vodka ...alcool real sign of happiness lmfao

[@png2004]

@@jessicalacasse6205 everyone is different.

[@jessicalacasse6205]

@@png2004 before it was a form of punishment now a source of happiness ?

[@sirazazeloflowkey6424]

​@@jessicalacasse6205alcohol was a form of punishment?

[@purrrrrl]

@@jessicalacasse6205God forbid someone has a cocktail. What is your problem? Seriously?

[@leanneelliott6818]

59, no kids, hence no grand kids, one great life life partner, living my best life, very satisfied.

[@ankurimaborah4119]

Can you tell more? I'm 33 nd want to remain childfree

[@etaylor8028]

A lot of men want women to want kids, because then it makes men needed. Men are losing their power in the relationship dynamic. Women don't really need men financially anymore, so the only card left is the baby card. I can count on one hand the number of men I know that genuinely enjoy parenting. They like the idea of fathering a child and passing on their genes, but the actual parenting stuff nah they would rather be at work. Most men take up more hours at work after having a baby specifically to spend less time with the baby (but will tell the wife it's to "provide" more financially, even if the wife is begging the husband to be home more). I know this because my husband tells me what his male coworkers with kids tell him. They all become workaholics when their kid is very young, because even working in the coal mine is a walk in the park compared to parenting a child. The man in the video has never made one video about his kids, or about how much he loves them. It's all just about politics. The only time they are mentioned is now when he is trying to convince women to have kids, which is very disingenuous. His daughter is his "favorite person in the world", and yet no mention of her ever, except now when it suits his argument. Very sneaky. I'm not sure this is the type of unbiased news-reporting that should be given a large platform. The studies show that childless unmarried women live longer, so that settles the argument. Things like "asking people if they're happy" is full of errors. Trying to scare women into having kids because otherwise they will grow to be a lonely old spinster is disgusting. He's a man. Not a woman. Whether childless women are happy or unhappy shouldn't concern him. He should instead make a video about how men should want to have kids - not women. But he won't, because he's talking out of his ass.

[@A54729]

@@ankurimaborah4119 don't do it. Its a big mistake

[@ankurimaborah4119]

@@A54729 what mistake?

[@shonuffizhere5670]

Adopt please. You have a duty to share your full life of experiences and resources with the future generations. Make America great again. Adopt please to contribute a well Rounded American to the eco system.

[@Rachidasister]

My mother had 6 kids who did not make her happy. She loved us in her way, maybe, but she focused so much on little things not showing love. I never had a good image of motherhood, and I am sick of people telling me I need children. I think too many people make children just to show they have everything and are not missing anything.

[@Rachidasister]

Marriage is better than non marriage.

[@srmotivationalsr]

Exactly...same story of mine ..

[@timus4993]

same it really messed up her mental health she gave birth at just 22(me) and she had to fight depression all the way, all her pregnancy were very complex and eventually she had to remove her uterus because of health complications, she suffered a lot for us, she was not at all prepared for all this...

[@tinmaddog7]

It's also to continue the species....kinda obligatory. Some gotta be into it or we're done.

[@treetop711]

Such a good point how people have kids just to show they have everything’ are not missing out on anything.

[@leleprou320]

Single, child free woman. Not having children was not a conscience decision. I literally never thought about it. The thought of motherhood never crossed my mind throughout my entire life. I'm not maternal or nurturing. It did not become anything I was fully aware of until my 20s (I'm 40 now) & I made a commitment to myself that I would never have kids & so I didn't. No miscarriages. No abortions. Just very fortunate.

[@barryallen8887]

I’ve noticed that people who comment the most are the ones who are childless. I think having a family is so beautiful I’m 24 and want a big family.

[@leleprou320]

@@barryallen8887 Congratulations. I want none of that. It doesn't sound appealing to me in the slightest. But, if that life is for you & that's what gives you purpose, I wish you & your family all the best.

[@preciousangel9848]

​@@barryallen8887I do but not with the men today, my father is violent. Has left bruises on my face and blood clots in my eye. Not because I did something wrong, but because I didn't say what he wanted me to, so I learned to keep my mouth shut. All the boys around listen to red pill men and not to the bible. They belittle women's suffering.

[@Emptytopfloor]

You know……I have come across quite a few women like you and let me tell you, they are very cheerful people with great personalities and look very content with their lives.

[@Emptytopfloor]

@@barryallen8887 huh?

[@fairedepeche]

The difference I noticed between men and women is that men talk about marriage as a way of getting more things, help, kids, etc, for himself by having this relationship. Women talk about marriage as losing things like their health, beauty, time, dreams, and the overall feeling of being used when in a relationship. I once had a divorced male landlord who was looking for a new wife. The primary reason was that she could "help" take care of his aged mom.

[@phorn100]

What projection much? So your experience is applicable to everyone!

[@fairedepeche]

@@phorn100 Childish comment. Experience occurs among adults through a lifetime of thousands of conversations and observations, especially among women because we talk to each other. There is 31 "likes" which should you tell other people agree and no, I never said my experience is applicable to everyone.

[@phorn100]

@@fairedepeche Well I've spoken to thousands of people such as yourself and have never heard a man talk about marriage as a means of 'getting more things'. Generally men lose far more assets in a marriage than a woman as they often have more assets to begin with. I lost my house, half my super and the divorce process just about destroyed my business. I owed tens of thousands of dollars was skint and struggling to keep the doors open. Thankfully we settled in time moved on and I was able to rebuild. It may be changing now but I know many men in the same predicament.

[@chuachua-hj9zd]

I would divorced him too

[@divine_godis]

Children do NOT determine a person’s happiness! Neither does being single. It’s an INSIDE job. So people with kids and single people both can be happy. So do whats best for you!

[@adventskalender04]

But one certain thing is, the circumstances will not bget easier with kids. If you have already no money and are miserable with kids, chances are high you will be overwhelmed with the situation and kids will suffer. Also chances are high, the relationship to your partner will suffer because of financtial problems. You can say you are happy but it doesn't solve your problems make your kids feel safe.

[@lifestylelines]

Word! 😊

[@gregdenys7162]

You didn't watch to the video. Single and childless people feel more miserable, except in their youth. We are designed by nature to breed, to live alone and childless during 70 decades. Your brain chemistry is not the same with or without children. Children make you happier.

[@adventskalender04]

@@gregdenys7162 To say that in generall is stupid. It depends clearly on your life circumstances. If you have no money before children, chances are high you will less money with children. So it is important to provide a solide foundation before you have kids. If you have a foundation in life, chances are high you can be happy also with children.

[@gregdenys7162]

@@adventskalender04 A woman who believes she has to become a millionnaire before having children will waste her best years in her career and won't find a suitable partner. You don't need to be rich to have kids. Many children who grew up in poor families became rich and famous. The best option for a woman is to chose wisely a nice guy who can provide when she is still young. Feminism taught you that you didn't need a man to provide, and many of those who believed this bullshit were punished by mother nature. It's much harder to find a good man once you reach 32 or 33, and it's even harder if you are a boss lady. My best advice is to have a family before 30, and make sure that you don't waste your time with chads, players and bad boys, which is a receipe for disaster.

[@v13w5]

No one talked about the risk of losing a child. Having kids opens our lives up to immense joy, but also possible immense pain.

[@Mimi-girl]

True

[@faithbasedliving9391]

Good point, but I’m not sure if anyone would say they regretted having them even if they lost them. Either way extreme pain comes growth. I won’t say I know the loss of a child, but I do have severely autistic daughter. But I’m grateful every day she’s here. She is truely a gift. I know, not the same, but it was a painful process that made me a better person.

[@quark6847]

​@@faithbasedliving9391Respect! God bless you

[@elennyfication]

you cannot have one without the other, you need to take risk and be prepared to loose before you receive...

[@beaulieuc8910]

yes having kids can bring trauma, maybe some end up being criminals, have cancer. parents will take a gamble

[@VonSolo5]

I love kids but I never wanted kids just to have them. I would have had children if I’d met a man that I was madly in love with, enough to marry, if he wanted children and if he was good father material and was wealthy enough to allow me to stay home to raise our children full time. I like my life as it is and am glad I didn’t have kids, just to have them, I would not have been a good single mother, at all.

[@broeklien3817]

Very well said

[@shaynalee]

Amen to that! My exact sentiments. It’s easy for men but takes a toll on our bodies mind and spirit and even more so without a supportive financially stable partner

[@daisyfaye3630]

Same - people are always so busy, shoving their opinions in everybody else’s face without realizing humans are not a 1 size fits all moldable product.

[@VonSolo5]

@@broeklien3817 Thank you.

[@VonSolo5]

@@shaynalee Thank you and yes I agree with you too. The act of becoming a mother is a tremendous physical and emotional responsibility. It’s not a hobby or something that should be taken lightly or even attempted with a man who is not deeply serious about being a good and fully committed father AND a good and fully committed partner to the mother raising his children. Children in single parent homes are in much more danger in this world. Every predator they come across will try to exploit the vulnerability of the mother and children, and they will always disguise themselves as the help the single mother and children desperately needs.

[@Mamapelha]

After having kids, I cannot imagine my life without them. I am happier now.

[@RickN7788]

Same here. They drive us crazy some times but when you see them having fun, being kids, smiling, all the joy they are getting because of you, makes you feel even better. I donno how to explain it. It just makes us happy.

[@KD400_]

Exactly I just don't understand how women have been brainwashed by feminism to not get married and have kids

[@Boomercon3000]

Agreed.

[@Ruth-os4mi]

Poor African mother's are the happiest people on earth. Tra la, la, la!

[@TheLivirus]

Hmm. If you can't imagine your life without kids, how do you know you are happier with them?

[@CIF369]

Just turned 50, never married or had children. It was the best choice I could have made, I would have been miserable & likely not understand why. It is definitely 💯for others & I am happy for them. I have a life full of adventures traveling & working in new cultures. I am surrounded by the love & support of beautiful communities. My life is more amazing than I could have ever imagined. I live in peace & joy.

[@scifluxaurora1806]

If you’re so happy, then why are you looking up videos like this?

[@CIF369]

​@@scifluxaurora1806 I look at all sides of everything. I like to educate myself & try to understand where everyone is coming form. This is another reason for traveling & meeting so many different cultures. I find the human brain & how people think fascinating.

[@CIF369]

@@Mukanimou I was doing some workshops & am now going to do some extra training to enhance my knowledge. Most of my friends who also are solo travelers either have online jobs, teach yoga or both🌝

[@Taylor-f5s]

@@CIF369definitely I’m interested in other feelings but I’m not willing to be unhappy just to be a mother

[@hanalala3164]

​@@scifluxaurora1806if ur happy why are u salty😂?

[@seipatipharoe5918]

The male obsession with tendency to obsess over women's decisions and lives as a collective is baffling and scary the lengths this men go just to make women doubt their reality and live in fear.

[@apaddy5390]

It’s sinister.

[@barryallen8887]

Blame men for women decisions, classic women moment

[@Emptytopfloor]

Has worked before. Let’s see if it continues to in the future.

[@videnlu966]

I totally agree with you !! like why are we not discussing all the men that also want to be childless? Its always on the woman yuck !!!

[@amukbir8777]

​@@videnlu966 They are. Shockingly a majority of men DO NOT want marriage. A majority of men seem to be doing well without marriage. But the other half is also true. A majority of women are doing well aswell. Altough there are a lot of women and men regreting it aswell. Looking at studies to feed everybody's ego is a dumb thing. Do what makes you happy,whether it's being single or marrying. I do not think there is a right answer. Im a young guy (19) and I do not feel any need to get married. Sex is easier to get than ever and I am pretty self-sufficient so I do not see the point of being with a woman anymore. I would understand it aswell if a woman feels like she does not need a man or anyone.

[@MMMM-ui3ct]

Childfree and happy. Everyone needs to assess their personal life and purpose in life to really decide what’s the best for them. For me it happens to be childfree and I have never regretted it

[@ananasvostel]

I got married late.. at 39 and had first child at 40. I spent a lot of years single and childless - I did well in my career, traveled all over, lots of freedom. 9 months ago, I had my first and maybe my only child. And, for me, there is no comparison. I am much happier now that I am married and have a child. My little daughter is the best thing to ever happen to me. I hope to be the very best mother I can be to her. She is so worth it.

[@skipg73]

Serious question, if you had to do it all over again what age would you want to have started your family?

[@ananasvostel]

@skipg73 Ideally earlier. My hubby and I are both older parents, and the sleepless nights really took a toll on us...lol. However, we are both pretty further along in our careers so that from a financial perspective, now is a great time. We can provide pretty comfortably for her, hire help to assist with her care and also do our best to make sure she is set up financially. I had hoped to have all my children by 30 (and I wanted 3 children when I was younger). But I did not find a suitable partner until later on in life and, honestly, I can't complain. I am just grateful to have my baby girl!

[@thewaterycrab5216]

You had the best of both worlds. Being an older parent is awesome. The wisdom and the fact that you've already had your "me time."

[@startupsstartups5564]

​ Why you did not find a suitable partner? Is it hard?

[@ananasvostel]

@@thewaterycrab5216 Thank you. It's been awesome so far...although our parenthood journey is only just beginning. I definitely feel wiser, able to put life in the right perspective and focus on what matters. But I am also grateful for the experiences I had as a single woman - I look forward to doing a lot of the travels I did as a single woman again but this time with my kid.

[@Mimi-girl]

Children are not for everybody, period.

[@Dejavu_77341]

Just because there not for everyone doenst mean there’s nothing wrong with having them

[@patrickcolantuoni1724]

And children are the most rewarding, inspiring, meaningful things in a persons life.

[@thesweethuski]

@@patrickcolantuoni1724 Not for everyone!

[@godmode3611]

Nice pathetic excuse for Peter Pan Syndrome.

[@JJ-ls8ep]

The children loved and wanted are taken out with bullies and school shooters. Internet competition . Epstein for the elites . To abuse them. Not cool.

[@pamelaabner413]

Late life miracle to finally get pregnant on my 42nd birthday! Absolutely the BEST thing I’ve ever done! He’s 16 now and everything I never knew I needed! I thought I knew what love was until I became a mom…..

[@AndreComtois]

Your parents understand how much you love them but you'll never understand how much your parents love you until you become a parent.

[@KD400_]

Great. Did u get married aswell I ask because getting married is the most important first

[@pamelaabner413]

@@KD400_ of course we got married

[@sharlaevans7339]

@@KD400_ Don't rain on her parade. Don't be a dick. You should NEVER get married "for the kids" that is a huge mistake. The other party may not be ready for kids and that will seriously wreck the child. Marry if you love someone, do not get married b/c you got pregnant. Find the one. Sure, two parent HAPPY households are best, I agree there.

[@sharlaevans7339]

I say this as a married person with two boys. We are still married, but I've seen many get married just b/c they got pregnant and those people are not still married. Divorced most of them.

[@jennyperpa5302]

Tons of parents regret having children. There's multiple online forums of regretful parents seeking support from other regretful parents. I'd rather regret not having kids than having kids and regretting having them.

[@jimmyjay689]

Spoken like a true cat lady

[@jennyperpa5302]

@@jimmyjay689 You ain't wrong. I have two adorable cats. A tabby boy and tortoiseshell girl. The girl is slowly warming up to the idea of living indoors.

[@hanalala3164]

​@@jimmyjay689😂 go to any mom forums and see how much they hate their husbands and how much they complain about their kids. Stay in denial

[@izealliaeldridge1441]

@@jimmyjay689 *I can’t wait to buy a kitten.* So much easier than changing sh!tty diapers, cooking, and cleaning…sending me to an early death due to stress related illness.

[@Ndasuunye]

and many more are happy with children. dude is just giving you statisics that have been compiled by experct data analyst. he's not picking a side. don't get hot under the collar just because you don't like the statistics that you heard. just take the data and apply it best to our life.

[@lisaeakright4386]

I never had kids and I'm happy about it. Never wanted to bring a child into this crazy world

[@snehachoudhary9463]

It takes a lot of strength to be vocal about your choice when people judge and troll badly on social media despite on not knowing them . More courage to you

[@thispersonrighthere9024]

male, childlfree, happily married. "no kids" is one of the decisions i definitely don't regret.

[@Laura-Yu]

Being male and child free gets very little Croatian compared to being a woman and child free

[@thispersonrighthere9024]

@@Laura-Yu what does "gets very little Croation" mean?

[@condorsalesman]

@@Laura-Yunot true. I get shit all the time from both men and alone when I say I don’t want kids. Also that’s an inappropriate thing to say to someone who’s just talking about their life decisions.

[@phorn100]

@@Laura-Yu No men just get crapped on if they don't wish to work hard, live in their bedrooms and play video games. If you think in your feminit insanity that wahmen have it harder then I suggest you get up off your butt and offer your services to the Ukranian front line. Seeing Ukranian men trying to escape that hell hole then getting captured and beaten is heartbreaking!!!

[@jellyo6605]

I got married at 20 and had our first child at 21. The first 5 years were really, really tough. We're on year 13 now, expecting our 4th. Life is still hard. But we're happier than ever

[@botanicalbecca8443]

Similar here. My husband and I still struggle financially, but our four children are the best and most rewarding part of our lives. Seeing them earn accolades and awards in school and the community because of their hard work and kindness is very healing and the ultimate reward in this life. ❤

[@mjohnson1741]

@@botanicalbecca8443 That's really truly beautiful! But there's an infinite amount of ways to achieve happiness, joy and purpose.

[@botanicalbecca8443]

@@mjohnson1741 Oh, absolutely! I was just stating my personal experience. Some of my favorite people are childless and living their best life! I just know I wouldn't have come this far in my healing journey had it not been for motherhood.

[@sbtompkins]

The simpleminded won’t relate.

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

​@@sbtompkinsThat's me

[@zorkwork3841]

My husband and I decided not to have kids .We're both artists and finance fluctuate. I did lot's of babysitting ..but the need to have children was never that strong..Maternal instincts don't go away.Because we haven't had children, we have been great aunts and uncles(having them live with us during college years) and be able to care for our parents easily when both inlaws had dementia. You do what is right for you and your personal situation.

[@broeklien3817]

So true We can all be valuable players in the lives of kids, regardless who's kids they are. And if you take on the load you can carry, you can be a stable factor for those who's lives get shaken up. We need all kinds of people👍

[@shonuffizhere5670]

Po fella. You wasted his time and left him with no legacy.

[@nauxsi]

That's my view. Parents need a break as well. Kids who grow up knowing their aunts and uncles... is pretty special.

[@jideca]

Pretty sure she said they both decided

[@zorkwork3841]

@@shonuffizhere5670 Not really-he has amazing paintings all over the world..

[@carolinegranados5682]

Childless woman here 🙋‍♀️ loving it.. children are a blessing but it has to come naturally.. if it doesn’t don’t force it

[@EV-EV-EV]

Congratulations on your spectacular biological failure

[@colombiawithanita]

If you don’t mind May I know your age? I feel curious, I have a lot of friends that at their 33 cut their phalopian tubes and would like to know what’s the perspective depending on the age.

[@OceanLife772]

@@colombiawithanita I knew by age 20 that didn’t want motherhood! I wanted a career & Travel! I am 52 now & NO Regrets! My friends have so much drama with their Grown axx kids & grandkids. NO thank you! And many have told me how much they envy my stress-worry free lifestyle! I can pack my bag & go somewhere without hesitation. My friends with kids? Oh, I can’t go bc…….

[@nobodyandeverybody979]

♥️♥️

[@snehachoudhary9463]

@@OceanLife772 wow I’m 29 years old software engineer who hails from India. May be the families of western countries don’t bother about their women of not getting married but in entire Asia & Africa this is abnormal and around you everyone will try to fix you as they think that you’ve western influence. You’ve forgotten your culture to get married and have kids and then you’ll be considered as HAPPY.

[@Svetlana_Zakirova]

Childless woman here. I personally know miserable married women with children. It’s stu*id to think that a husband or children can make you happy. If you aren’t happy alone, you won’t be happy having a family. And it isn’t too hard to understand.

[@baassiia]

Data are clear. Report doesn't say that all women with kids and husband are happy, it just show statistics.

[@ab_z87]

I wish you the best of luck growing old and alone vs mothers who have kids bringing them joy and taking care of them. The feminist propaganda made you believe you're better off alone rather than having loving kids.

[@kele5036]

@@ab_z87simply take a walk to assisted living and nursing homes. Its filled with mothers and fathers who have kids. Save your hypocrisy for someone who cares.

[@jaimelannister141]

Svetlana, if you're younger than 40-45, there's a high chance that you'd change your mind in future.

[@vadeepest07]

@@ab_z87 I have a sibling and I haven't been to the family home in 6 years, and them having me, I have been faced with enough adversity in my life and I don't enjoy it, its not propaganda and I am a male, life it pretty miserable and then you die.

[@myyt3824]

People who don’t want kids and don’t have them deserve praise. There’s few things more unfair and cruel to a child than to have parents who basically didn’t want you. I never wanted kids until I met my husband. Our daughter will be 3 soon and she is my whole heart outside my body. Words cannot express how much I love her or the lengths I will go to provide and protect her. We’ve started discussing having a second child since we’re both turning 30 and should decide relatively soon. I am so glad my mind changed and I had my daughter when I was married, stable, and as ready as I could be. She’s my world ❤

[@trishawalsh7832]

Yes. The only excuse is if the woman was of the generations where contraceptives were not available and they had to please their husband. That's a sad situation.

[@AleshaRead-hb5gf]

As long as you did not join Satan as your red heart indicates - hell is forever by the way

[@SS-iu1zb]

Same here. Definitely hurry up and have one more. Grew up as an only child, I saw so many benefits and joys from the interaction of my two kids. They have been each others’ playmate, now that they are late teens, they still talk and text each other. They talked to each other about their love interest or love bothers. Stuff they don’t want to share with us. Being different gender, they actually have good advice for each other.

[@darthvader5300]

TELL THEM THIS MESSAGE. If you do not want kids then don't have them BUT DO NOT EXPECT OTHER PEOPLE'S CHILDREN TO TAKE CARE OF YOU IN YOUR OLD AGE! Russia's President Putin REJECTED THE U.N's Global Retirement System because the U.N knew it made a mistake of promoting population control and now there are less young people to support more old people. Russia's pro-natalistic policies has made Russia's population YOUNGER AND LARGER and Putin said our young people's priority is Russia and not the whole world. Putin said, the world made a mistake so it should solve it's own mistake.

[@morganwilson8717]

Amen! I experienced it first hand with my mom

[@jamenne]

I never wanted kids, but I married men who did, so I have 2 kids, and I have to say I am a much better person because of them. But when the grandchildren came along, that's when I really started to like kids.🥰🥰

[@thesolvent]

Is it a poly marriage?

[@killahertz]

so you didnt like your own kids then? 😂

[@Nathantooit]

@@killahertzyes but grandkids are kids you don't raise 😂

[@yozzcta]

@@Nathantooit She dosent like her kids because she had to raise them She had to let the feminist out of the box

[@unitybravocharlie8209]

Women who are single can't make that comment when they haven't experienced child birth, PERIOD!

[@mookey2353]

My only regret as a married woman is that I didn’t have more children, we have three adult children but looking back I wish we would have had at least two more!

[@annamineer2521]

As a WOMAN who had 3 children but 2 died in a car wreck and the other is estranged, I wish I'd had one with my second husband. 😢

[@imout671]

Me too. So wish we'd had more kids. Mine are grown and such a blessing and I enjoy my niece's young children now. Taking those kids fishing and tractor rides and camping trips. So much fun.

[@akonitony2]

@@annamineer2521 My condolences. You've experienced the most emotional trauma a person can experience far as I am concerned.

[@mookey2353]

@@annamineer2521 I am sooo terribly sorry for your loss, I can not even imagine what you have gone through! I lost one baby and I have carried the loss of my baby throughout my adult years. I find myself wondering what my baby would have grown up to become.. I agonize often.

[@mookey2353]

@@imout671 Gods greatest gift to humanity are children I just can’t even imagine life without them. We are now empty nesters and have found Christmas morning so very difficult, not having the early wake up calls to the shrills of “Santa came, Santa came” are long gone but the memories are forever! Ohhh I miss those macaroni pictures!

[@sharkbite8947]

This is a very personal decision. A one-size fits all solutions will not work in this case. “Live and let live.”

[@MichelleLyn84]

Honestly, I’m nearing 40 and didn’t have children but it’s never been something I’ve been mad about or want to shout from the roof tops about either. I’m just indifferent to it. I like animals. And I have a lot of work to do on myself so I don’t think it would be fair to a child. I hate how people point fingers at eachother for having kids or not having kids.

[@idakristinedemesa5234]

I’m also an animal lover. I believe those with kids and those that are child-free can be equally happy regardless of age. They should’ve included in the studies those child-free with pets as I think they/we could be the happiest. Lolz 😂

[@Curiositycat1900]

Thank you. Why can't people just accept that having kids make some happy, not having kids make others happy and rescuing cats make people like me happy. And just move on with their life.

[@bishopakpan2284]

​@@Curiositycat1900because it isn't all about happiness. Happiness isn't a goal in itself. Making "my happiness" the determinant factor of what choices to make will justify any reason to make those choices. You are here because there are several people in your bloodline who reproduce and raised children even in the most horrible of times in history.

[@cantstopsinging]

Agreed.. :)

[@georgeinjapan6583]

@@bishopakpan2284 Perhaps, but you do what you can.

[@gmwilliamsful]

I was born in 1954. Became a feminist in high school. Read Ellen Peck's childfree book in 1970. Decided NOT TO HAVE children as a teenager. Solidified that position in college. Vowed never to marry. Concentrated on career. I am 70-STILL HAPPY BEING CHILDFREE- have hobbies, read, disposable income, enjoying life.

[@LucareonVee]

Great to hear. I’m a childfree man (now in my 40s) and I have definitely noticed the bias against women used by pronatalists. I don’t envy the position it puts women in, but I greatly admire the women who tell those voices to stuff it. 😎

[@bosslevelcarter]

For several years I was so sure I didn't want to be a mother but you're right, as you get older your feelings change and now I look forward to having a family of my own and helping my kids become successful, happy adults

[@GinaBlythe]

51 (nearing 52), unmarried and childless. I am, despite bad days that everyone has, very happy. Happiness does NOT come from OTHERS but from one's self. Others can add to or subtract from your happiness, but should NEVER create it. That includes children.

[@johnwhitney1620]

its the rampid narcissism they are happy loving themselves pretty sad if you ask me

[@GinaBlythe]

@@johnwhitney1620 No, it's sad that men can't comprehend that our happiness isn't dependent on them. It's sad when people base their happiness on other people instead of themselves. Other people will let you down and make you unhappy. Once you realise that only YOU can make yoursekf happy, you will be genuinely happy and not allow toxic unhappy people in your life. Stop depending on others. It's not narcissism. It's understanding your happiness is yours alone. And to use narcissism in this narrative takes away from what it really is. Are there narcissistic childfree women? Yes, but there are also narcissistic childfree men. Not everyone who chooses to be childfree is narcissistic. There are many reasons. But, you don't care. You just want everyone to have kids, no matter what.

[@johnwhitney1620]

@@GinaBlythe oh ok

[@lmcneillify]

Girl speak for yourself. People told me not to get married...but I am happily married. If I listened to you I'd be miserable

[@GinaBlythe]

@@lmcneillify That's because YOU allowed yourself to be happy. Even happily married people should create their own happiness, even when finding happiness with someone. If you allow the other persin to CREATE your happiness, rather than add to it, you will eventually wind up sad. I NEVER said you CAN'T be happy WITH someone. I said your happiness doesn't COME FROM someone else. MFJFC...

[@kimsunny4778]

At 27 I have my daughter and she is the meaning of my life. I was lost without her. Now she’s in her 20s. I just wish my daughter to live happy and healthy.

[@rojo1124]

I was good with being single, career focused in my 20's. Noticed in my 30's being single with things was not the move. God saved me, I got married, had children and am very happy and A LOT less stressed. Since I have an outgoing personality, my husband and I still travel and have fun WITH our children and they love it too. Wouldnt want it any other way. God is good and children are a blessing! I wish I was married and had children younger. Marriage and children are making me a better person

[@coolkiddwightps3-hoopsetc561]

What state or city?

[@Lietotajvards9]

Ok but millions of women are not fertile

[@jhica5718]

Bro, God saved you during your younger years by not having children while u r career focused! If u was good being single in your 20s...y would u wish u were married and had children younger?

[@rojo1124]

@@jhica5718 no, while I was career focused were my most fertile years. Being career focused didnt help me with what I am doing now. It was wasted time. I was good because I didnt know what I was missing until time was starting to hit me in the face. What I said still stands. I want more children now and I'm getting older and this might not be possible.

[@tjc4085]

@@Lietotajvards9 what on earth? How would you know that. Plenty women having kids in their 30s. Yes, it’s generally easier when you’re younger but it’s not impossible nor uncommon.

[@christinekinzel7850]

50, no kids, no regrets. Especially how much harder it is for young people to make enough money to survive, and the complete insanity that is the world today. I knew too many kids who lived in miserable families with shitty parents to believe that family is universally a blessing. Many people opting not to have kids are products of such families.

[@boardmeetingsofficial]

It’s hard for people to make as much money bc the work market place is flooded with unmarried women who have to work to support themselves and that causes lower wages for everyone. Congratulations you all played yourselves.

[@justaride1366]

57, child free, and LOVING it! I dodged a torpedo...

[@michaeldallas-yf4gj]

Keep smoking pot. No wonder

[@anjieobasa1871]

@@michaeldallas-yf4gjlooks like someone’s triggered at another person’s happiness 🌚

[@snehachoudhary9463]

It takes a lot of strength to be vocal about your choice when people judge and troll badly on social media despite on not knowing them . More courage to you😍

[@loosilu]

@@michaeldallas-yf4gj 56 and happily childfree here. I would have been MISERABLE as an unpaid servant. Thank God we have the choice now.

[@TaureanDreams]

Why can’t everyone just do what is best for them? Newsflash, life does not always go to plan

[@broeklien3817]

Agree Though I got two thirds of my bucket list done at 44 and kids were never on it😊👍

[@KD400_]

And look at how this mentality has worked out. Women by nature want kids and to be with a man. Theres always free choice but we know biology rules over everything

[@rosemarybanner]

Exactly!!

[@keeppushing_]

Exactly! It is called having a choice.

[@manifest2203]

@@broeklien3817 can you tell me about your bucket list? Sounds interesting.

[@RosanaDavies]

I am 64 and childless for my own option. I don’t think it makes my life happier at all. There are occasions, when I see a loving couple with their lovely children, that I regret it a bit. However, what led me to choose to be childless is due to the horrible example of families I had as growing up. This left deep scars in my psych, which lead me to believe that not having children would be the easiest way to put an end to these cycles of pain and unhappiness.

[@agreatmannamedlieu]

Why do women bond with their trauma?

[@UltraMella]

@@agreatmannamedlieuwhy do men unalive themselves so much?

[@UltraMella]

@bagpussisevil2877 everything except being alive lol

[@queenchiomaofficial]

Sorry to hear your experience. I hope you have some little kids to be around sometime like nieces or nephews or little cousins as that’s a blessing too. 🌸

[@b-41subject57]

​@@jonsmith8746im gay and my boyfriend and i are happy. The s3x is amazing because he can't get pregnant (hes always bottom). Its your life and you shouldn't care what society thinks!

[@lignumvitae627]

Be careful- lots of parents have kids with autism, behavioral and medical issues and that comes with a lot of stress, but most won’t say they regret having kids. But I can see the frustration all over their faces.

[@Captain__cooked]

Because the cruelest force on earth isnt humans but god himself who makes such things a possibility to begin with

[@georgevadakkel9363]

​@markstein2845 Perfectly explained.

[@sarcodonblue2876]

I have autism and other disabilities and I am deemed "high functioning" and it is a constant battle just to survive and there is no way I could have children. It isn't a fun life having disability in fact it is hell. Parents that have kids with disabilities worry about what will happen to their kids when they are gone.

[@religion-free]

yahp

[@Meandyouisnus]

I say it. I regret it

[@LadyJane222]

I have two teenage boys and I love them to bits. I couldn’t imagine a life without kids. However, there are people (women & men) who don’t want any and that’s fine too. You do you.

[@gileskisife6966]

But the childless crowd should stop glamourizing it! Society needs children!

[@hanalala3164]

​@@gileskisife6966you should stop watching cf content 😂😂

[@JasmineWhylly]

@@gileskisife6966 Bro what

[@StephDavis77]

Childless woman here and I’m very happy. I think the misconception about childless women is we choose not to have kids when a lot of times it’s the exact opposite. I chose not to have kids until I met and married the right man, instead of trying to get married just to have kids or just simply finding someone to get me pregnant out of fear of missing my window of opportunity. I have an amazing husband now and if God chooses to bless me with a child, great! If not, great as well. I live a very blessed and joy-filled life and I pray everyone can, regardless of their parental or marital status.

[@munchingpickle623]

Fair enough but what happens when your friends have people who love them unconditionally and you have none. What happens when you retire and have nobody to take care of you sure you can pay for that but I bet life gets real sad when people have family visiting and your waiting to die

[@timus4993]

same goes for me i am not going to have children just bcoz this society pressure me, it will totally be me and my partners decision, i am ok to have one if god blesses us , just bcoz these children obsessed people are having children they also want others to follow that path, like omg mind you own business 😂 why are they so obsessed with the people who choose a different path, it's not like they are going to raise and provide for that child lol

[@joesmith3590]

Literally no one on earth is less happy then black woman. So destructive so evil thier own kids won’t date black woman lol.

[@kellyshaw2884]

@@munchingpickle623 we shouldn't just have kids for they can take care of us and visit us in nursing homes. You know, I have spend a great deal of time in nursing homes and rehab facilities this year as my mom recently passed away as well as my stepmother. Most of all the people in these places didn't have anyone there to visit them. They sat in a room all day moaning and screaming for help and no family came to see them.

[@world-markets.]

Wait until you have a third foot

[@LisaMurphy]

Not having kids is the best thing I ever did in my life. I could go on and on as to why but mainly because it allowed me to devote myself to perfecting my skills as an artist and that has been incredibly fullfilling. My mother was not happy that she had kids and she was open about that. I'm glad she was because it made me look at the issue realistically. Very very happy I didn't have kids. I'm 69 now and very healthy and still full of energy as a result.

[@YummyFoodOnlyPlz]

So very very happy that you need to advertise it to nobody on the internet. So so happy.

[@shonuffizhere5670]

How many pets?

[@nemoxx96xx58]

​@@shonuffizhere5670 Why can't you comprehend that some people don't want to have kids and value their freedom. I have a friend divorced with 3 kids and she regrets having them. Some people are better off not having children!

[@shonuffizhere5670]

@nemoxx96 xx why not? Do they love themselves? Do they love their parents n family? I love myself and family so I'm leaving a legacy. Big one. 6 kids n looking to have more. The answer to my questions above is no for some people. Yall gotta realize you're demons living unnaturally.kzbin.info/www/bejne/i3fbf52EnaqWZ7M

[@shonuffizhere5670]

@Jackie Chan correct!!! That's exactly why that agenda is being pushed in full force. Elitist Demonrats think us po' folks shouldn't be breeding. Population control thu trickery😉

[@drkimap5784]

Man if I hadn’t witnessed rampant misogyny in my family, my culture, my church, my country I may be have been comfortable enough around men to even begin to think about having kids. Please stop putting the burden on women to procreate and make healthy families, it takes two.

[@chezzarai]

What’s the big deal? Why are people upset over this? I honestly find this obsession with women becoming pregnant and getting married to be a little weird and also degrading. Everyone has a different purpose, and some are truly not meant to live a life married with children. I have seen that for both men and women.

[@KayciazWorld]

It's BEYOND weird. I don't understand why it's even a thing. I've noticed that due to social media, things that aren't actual issues have become issues. People, since the dawn of time, have ALWAYS had kids or didn't have kids. It's nothing new. Everyone just needs to mind their own business

[@loosilu]

Because conservative men are profoundly threatened at the idea that they cannot control all women. So they insist that we will be miserable if we aren't lifelong house servants.

[@phorn100]

I find the even greater obsession of feminits telling men they have to do more housework and become more like wahmen even more angering. I mean what cursed right do they have to constantly pillory men in married relationships to do more housework when they have no stinking idea of how other people arrange their marital lives. I mean there's no counter push demanding that wahmen pay 50% of the mortgage, council rates, insurances, electricity bill etc etc etc. Not only that what right do cursed feminit's have to force their hateful philosophy down other people's throats?

[@GothicGali]

People are suddenly talking about these issues because birth rates are dropping below replacement in all developed nations. Yes, we still have tons of people. But after a long period of continued, unprecedented growth in human population, the trend of it shrinking is economically and militarily not a good thing. I’m sure the population will readjust in time, and not be an inverted pyramid like we see today, but getting to that point is going to be very painful. It may even lead to such a low population in some countries (like South Korea) that they get taken over by another country. Why focus on women? Because women can give birth to humans, and men cannot. Our biology is, in our perception, unfair. This is not to say that we all need to pump out a ton of kids. Really, in the US, we should be focusing on keeping the birth rate stable. I believe it’s about 1.6 kids per woman currently. If replacement is 2.1 kids per woman, we could have a fairly steady descent into a new, stabilized general population number.

[@loosilu]

@@GothicGali The most sensible solution would be to allow more legal immigration, rather than making more babies. The problem we have right now is that some Americans are against LEGAL immigration.

[@finalthoughts2762]

Happiness and life satisfaction is a MULTIFACTORIAL construct. It cannot be reduced just to one aspect of "children - no children". With age it's also health, it's also spouse's health, job, ageing parents that need looking after or loss of parents etc etc. But you sound like a kickass father :)

[@nicolinogiancola9644]

Your a genuine masterpiece my good man. I'm ,63 and i learnt more about love and becoming then I could ever teach anyone, this is what the kids taught me. And I've been through divorce, betrayal , Slandered you know all the good stuff. My reward are the 5 children and 5 grandchildren.

[@beaulieuc8910]

So many kids who will experience the pain of death, that is cruel for them

[@JordanVillanueva]

This was one of the most wholesome endings I've seen. People try and understand each other rather than attack one another. More content like this, Valuetainment 🙏

[@KD400_]

So what do u think u want kids

[@JordanVillanueva]

@@KD400_ I want to be a good person and make peoples live better because I was in it. Whether that involves biological children, I don't have an answer for you

[@KD400_]

@@JordanVillanueva well let's just say u will probably want kids sooner or later women always do

[@JordanVillanueva]

@@KD400_ cheers, God Bless 🙏

[@Caroline_]

💯

[@Dai9754]

Heres something to think about: how about focus on your life instead of others, how about stop trying to force people men or women into having kids if they don't want to, just a thought

[@phorn100]

Who is forcing you??? The poster was critiquing the general toxic feminit narrative that single child free wahmen are the happiest. This is also quoted by the cursed liberal media that follow the feminit lies.

[@yagami87]

As a father myself, I tear up every time someone asks me what about my youngest makes me happy knowing she’s the funny bone that God helped bring into my life. All children are beautiful and they are the window to every parents soul.

[@hotchowder]

Having children makes me realize how much the other side of the political spectrum is evil. There is no reconciliation, they are a party of murderers and children sniffers.

[@jeffkeenan5059]

The best thing you can do for your family is to get them to Heaven 🙏🏻

[@almas3427]

Parents think they created their children. A chicken also lays egg. It’s doesn’t mean the chicken created the egg. If it did, it would win the Nobel Prize.

[@triphophoney2981]

It really depends. With my first, I was single and ill-prepared. With my second, I was partnered, but things fell apart when our child was a toddler. There's a lot more to my story, but ultimately, I think I would have been better off childless. I had no business having kids that I wasn't emotionally and mentally prepared to handle. One is grown and our relationship is ok. The other is a teenager and wants nothing to do with me. I wish I could have been a better mother, but we learn by watching our own parents, and in my case, they were a dumpster fire. The best thing I can hope for is forgiveness and another chance to be a mother to them, because we're never too old to need our parents. I'm taking steps to increase my happiness, but it's never easy. Shout out to all the good moms and dads out there who knew early on how to take on the daunting challenge of parenthood and navigated it successfully.

[@kutie216]

I am sorry to hear about your struggles. I hope your child comes around eventually. There are so many negative messages being pushed in society and it’s easy to lose sight of the important things. I was never close to my parents as a teen but now I am 25 and I am so grateful to have the amazing parents I did, even if we didn’t have the perfect childhood or life (and who does?!).

[@Calamity_Leo]

Don't marry chad

[@ivanr4300]

Me parents weren’t the best, however, that made me a better parent. I learned what not to do with my kids

[@HJJTsai]

Just be honest with them, apologize even. Your kids love you, just tell them you love them and you are striving to be better mother. 🤗

[@emg.9246]

I’m 28. And thank God I waited and I’m still waiting before I have kids. And if I pass the window to birth my own kids, I can ALWAYS adopt a beautiful little girl. There are sooo many kids in the foster care system that who needs a loving home

[@Wonderwoman79G]

I wish more people like you plan to adopt. There is a high percentage of children in the foster care system.

[@nikemaraje5]

Why a girl ?

[@dashabaranova681]

Most of the conversations about adoption I heard from people who don't have kids and don't plan to. And they don't plan to adopt. Couple of phrases about adoption usually comes after a whole long explanation why giving a birth to a child is not for them and the world is so overpopulated and oh.. and there is also a possibility of adoption somewhere there. So I really hope this is a plan for you and not just a general phrase that people are used to say in a statements about "not having kids right now".

[@Star-vg7ix]

Stop waiting. There is NOT going to be another baby Jesus here.

[@joannamonique707]

​@@nikemaraje5why doesn't anyone ask men why they want boys?

[@rationalthinker2724]

Not having kids

[@aisharicci6400]

My auntie is 55, never married and was child free until two years ago when she adopted a little girl. I understand there are people who just know they are not built to have children however being a parent is something that honestly changes someone. I would never regret being a mother!

[@Aniexo_]

Yeah, I’m definitely open to adopting. Later later later in life.

[@kimik01889]

That's awesome for your aunt. I would never regret be CHILD FREE❤

[@kwekstar44]

Best comment. Once you have a child, you can't imagine a life without a child.

[@A_Muzik]

Hopefully parenthood changed you for the better.

[@martingregory6993]

@@Aniexo_ you shouldn’t adopt later in life having an old parent sucks so hard, just be alone it would be for the best

[@hothotheat3000]

It’s not for everyone. Make the best decision for your individual circumstances, and don’t pass harsh judgment on people who choose differently. We all have our own journeys to go on. Don’t make the road harder for someone else.

[@nocturnaljoe9543]

What if my decision includes making it harder for somebody and I want it that way? If just one single person in the chain of millions of people in your bloodline did not have kids, then you would not exist. But still here you are, pretending that your life was not worth being born and trying to shame people, who point it out. You cannot know about what your decendents will experience, but you can at least give them the same chance, that you got.

[@Deroliebe]

@@nocturnaljoe9543 I'm sorry, but that's a stupid selfish reason to have kids. I didn't ask to be born nor do I want to be here. That wasn't a choice I made. I'm not forcing that on a kid just because I MuSt cOntINuE tHe BlOodLiNe.

[@bogdankovalenko5096]

well it has to be some kind if mental disease because it is naturally to human beings to continue their bloodline

[@Kingofthenet2]

Your comment is the best I have seen so far

[@sirazazeloflowkey6424]

@@nocturnaljoe9543 You speak as if there is some moral obligation for people to have kids. Do you subscribe to a religion that preaches this per-chance? Or is there another reason you ascribe moral value to it?

[@MelBlossom]

Im in my late 40s. No kids. No partner. Happy and feilding phone calls from my peers going through divorce and kid drama from my expat home in Mexico. They are devastated and in debt and I feel guilty telling them about my life because I am happy and my problems are definitely less devastating. I still have problems of course just not so many people involved. Im happy but I still wouldn't deter someone from having a family if they want it. My friends made bad partner choices if I had to point to the main problem. They didn't know themselves and they got in the situations turning blind eyes to the issues...theirs and the person they got involved with. I'll never regret my decision but healthy families are great and I respect people who want that too. Don't get sucked into others definition of happiness. Know yourself. Choose wisely. Understand what you're getting into. Kids need all of you. It's a noble sacrifice but a tough one and I have mad respect for the people who do it and take that seriously. Just for sure don't let society/others dictate your choice.

[@KD400_]

It's too late for u unfortunately. But I hope u get a husband

[@rozuerd2614]

It has been proven that those who live alone are psychologically more balanced than the rest. There is so much more to life then having a husband.

[@shonuffizhere5670]

Shame you have no legacy. You have great wisdom and money to pass down.. Too bad your work n knowledge ends with you.

[@Cub__]

​@@rozuerd2614 So your saying those who're married & live together aren't as happy as someone who lives alone? I would have to say it's a case by case basis and circumstance.

[@YummyFoodOnlyPlz]

It's true, things that matter a great deal can also hurt the most when things go sour. If you don't have anything significant, then the pain is much less intense. But a life with shallow depths and zero pain, is that a meaningful life? Let's say you think deeply about life, you have accumulated wisdom because you have time on your hand, then what? You leave no legacy with whatever you cherish and earn over your entire lifespan.

[@jamesspence1630]

I can honestly tell you vlad, happiness does depend on the person and the lifestyle. I'm 34 years old, single man, no kids to take care of, and in the world we live in, I can honestly say it was worth it to stay single. It would have been nice to have that Hollywood movie family that we see in the movies. The dreamy Christmas, the happy thanksgivings, the royal Easter egg hunt. Doesn't always happen that way.

[@emmyandboo]

Thank you, your comment just made my day. I don't have kids, I'm 34, I'm not ugly or dumb or anything, people are usually shocked when I tell them I don't have kids. It used to make me sad, especially around the holidays when you see happy families and the cute little kids all excited to get a Christmas tree or write a letter to Santa. I know I'd be a good and happy mom. And I love my little dog and treat him so well as if he were my biological human child. I unfortunately, have never been financially stable enough to support a family. I thought I was being smart. People tend to assume I am a liberal or a feminist because I don't have kids, but I'm not. I'm just very logical and I work in retail and see parents get so stressed and angry at their kids, it's really sad... everyone deserves a happy, warm, and welcoming childhood.

[@UltraMella]

I’m a woman and I agree with you. It is very seldom that you see the Hollywood family. In most cases it’s an unhappy couple, the wife is miserable or the husband is miserable. The wife is useless, the husband is a deadbeat and just disappears. Women are tricking men into having kids for a paycheck, men who thought they want kids change their minds when the kids are alive and run from their responsibilities. It’s a shit show.

[@christine-my3gd]

​@@emmyandboo you sound like a caring person. It was nice to read

[@emmyandboo]

@@christine-my3gd thank you ❤️

[@gileskisife6966]

Thank God for those of us who choose to have children, children that will sustain society and take care of people like you, especially when you become a total burden to society!

[@andrewmontgomery8428]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with NOT having kids. If you are not motherly or nurturing you are doing everybody a huge huge favor.

[@Largo1845]

Women are individuals. Some women want children, some don't. The women who voluntarily opted out of children seem to be satisfied with their choice and do not regret it.

[@guillermamoreno]

I think the key to happiness is a full spiritual life. Nothing external, and that includes children, can make one happy. May everyone be happy exactly where they are❤

[@tlhogid663]

This is a great answer !

[@corainight5378]

Happy af. I don't want that responsibility. I learned from helping raise my sister's kids. I am better off not having any.

[@missflovia]

I'm 40 years old, no kids and people can't stop trying to convince me how unhappy I should be or how I'm going to regret it later in life.....They swear I can never be happy. Yes, it's people with kids telling me that I don't know what I'm missing and I can't say no I won't be ready before I try it and I say, that's why we have kids in abusive households and neglected....**Yawns**

[@jonathanaldecoa1099]

Hang in there. I’m almost 10 years older than you. Never married, no kids. When your nearing 50, people finally stop asking.😎

[@thesweetlife6344]

I also never wanted kids, but I have to admit having my son and daughter have changed me for the better! I can’t imagine life without them and I never thought I could love and be loved this much. It is scary sometimes to be responsible for two little lives, you worry about them always, but you are right, the best things in life are worth the risk. Love my babies! ❤

[@teddyboef2821]

❤❤❤

[@Curiositycat1900]

Legit glad for you.❤

[@smoraes6073]

I am unmarried with no children. I have never wanted to bring children into this sick, depraved world run by psychopaths. I have never regretted my decision and cannot imagine how I would feel if I had children and seeing what kind of a future lies ahead of them. The world was bad when I was a child and has gotten extremely worse. I could'nt have imagined the state we are in right now. So my reasons have nothing to do with my happiness, the lack of joy or fulfillment or dying alone. My considerations were the future of my unborn children and the fact I could never give them a good qualtiy of life in the world we live in. And for those reasons I am very happy I didn't have children. I am spared the constant worry.

[@teddyboef2821]

You can look at it differently. You could raise the childeren this world so desperately needs. I think people who dare to raise childeren in this world and raise them with a good set of morals and an open heart are brave. I commend them and thank them for doing so. I myself have never felt it was my destiny to be a mother although I love children and their innocence and zest for life. I will help protect them from the evil in this world.

[@szobione]

I understand your sentiment, but.... This sounds very selfish. Firstly, we need the next generation to continue this civilization so we can grow old and pass the torch and we need to teach them well (especially about the psychpathy issue) and secondly, you perosnally need children who will take care of you when you are 75+, otherwise you become a burden on the society.

[@eyeinsee]

Its actually people like you that should have kids. We need good parents to raise good humans. It’s terrifying but worth it.

[@szobione]

@@eyeinsee I concur.

[@gazagxrlx2974]

Same! I was never concerned with legacy.

[@fabioalvesshow]

There's no way to know, every person thinks different

[@dalepetersen1166]

It sounds like you have a 75% chance of being surrounded by unhappy people if you get into a relationship

[@YummyFoodOnlyPlz]

Or stay single and be unhappy 90% of the time yourself.

[@gazagxrlx2974]

​@@YummyFoodOnlyPlzHuh? My happiest moments are when I'm by myself 😅

[@YummyFoodOnlyPlz]

@@gazagxrlx2974 okay? So you as a single datapoint outweighs statistics to other people because you said so? Who the hell are you?

[@captainvanisher988]

@@gazagxrlx2974 then why do you have a picture of you in a party for your pfp?

[@janetholmes]

@@captainvanisher988 party on the inside :P

[@selenasimmons6653]

This is 100% honesty...the greatest things in life involve a lot of risk...and you don't know the roads folks have traveled...much love for Chelsea...to anyone who has lost a child...there is so much truth in this video

[@chadcadsonvii5258]

The risk is no longer worth the reward. The ROI of marriage for men is in the basement, unless they go abroad. Western women will continue to destroy the family unit until the west collapses. Because the majority of men are weak and spineless.

[@fulanichild3138]

People often say that those who choose not to have children are selfish. But it seems to me that those who have children _always_ talk in terms of their own selfish gains. Having kids makes _me_ a better person. Makes _me_ feel fulfilled. Keeps _me_ from being lonely in my old age. Gives _me_ empathy. Makes _me_ a better leader. I think those who choose _not_ to have children are the least selfish people on the planet. Their reasons are often, I don't think I'd be a good parent. I don't think I have the patience that kids need. I don't think I could give kids what they need financially or time wise. I don't want to bring children into this chaotic world. Always considering the welfare of the child. How ironic.

[@msdavisnight9773]

I see your point but I would counter with this: all those parents that say they feel fulfilled, like they are a better person, not lonely in old age, more empathetic and a better leader also struggled with the ideas you describe as those choosing not to have children are saying. As a soon to be first time mom, I am regularly working through my worries about not being the best parent, having enough patience, not being able to provide everything they need and the dangers of the world. However, I don't let that stop me because I have decided I will do my best to make it work, no matter what the world or my own emotions throw at me. There is always a reason not to do something. How can any of us attempt to make the world a better place for future generations if we're too afraid to take risks. Many people who don't have children for the reasons you describe are letting the fact that they and the world will never be perfect stop them from even trying to do something good. The parents that always talk about what they got out of the experience of parenthood are focusing on the good parts not the bad parts because they recognize that the bad parts don't even compare to how wonderful the good parts are. It doesn't mean they don't have insecurites or worries, they have just decided not to let them rule their outlook.

[@violetrocks2934]

@@msdavisnight9773 Congratulations! Based on what you wrote, it's obvious that you are a lovely person who will make a great mom and will raise wonderful human beings. As someone whose profession is working with people, I generally think that most do a decent job of raising children. But I sincerely believe that becoming a parent should be a conscious decision with acceptance of all things good and bad. I think too many people have children thinking they will gain what @Fulani Child said but when reality hits them, they are unprepared and create dysfunctions. People on this board who are making hard judgments on those without children need to acknowledge that foster children came from somewhere, and. unhappy adults had parents.

[@luckydevil1601]

@@msdavisnight9773 all these assumptions about parenting are true.. until your kid is involved in school sh**ting or something like that.

[@lolacookie453]

Yup, couldn't have said it better myself!

[@_sunnysideup_]

#FACTS.

[@katerinaf4903]

You can be happy or unhappy with or without children. It really is a choice at the end of the day.

[@stacey5440]

I’m 54, no kids, and am so happy I can barely stand it. 😁

[@islandsnowgirl]

Hi, are u in a relationship? I asked cause I’m thinking it’s the high quality relationships that keeps people happy

[@stacey5440]

@@islandsnowgirl I'm in hundreds of relationships. My friends and siblings are my life.

[@islandsnowgirl]

Don’t you feel lonely when /IF you sleep alone at night?

[@islandsnowgirl]

@FedericoCastro-wm8cl where did u read it was a problem? I’m a human being having a human experience, asking someone who’s doing it better than me about how they do it… smh

[@islandsnowgirl]

@FedericoCastro-wm8cl okay, so what if I am? Would I get any better speaking to people with your attitude? May I remind you the conversation didn’t include you. She’s grown, I’m very sure she can more than handle a basic conversation

[@KFrost-fx7dt]

I'm happy without kids. I can't really stand them. My cousin is happy with kids, in fact she loves kids so much that she and her husband adopted a child. To each their own.

[@teoleno4019]

Childfree woman here, happier than all the people with kids that I know. Society and men would like to think that childfree woman have bad lifes, but it's the opposite. I live a very secure and stress free life, would not trade it in for anything.

[@igors1234]

Imagine that people survived and passed their genes through pandemics, wars, genocides and starvation, but will die out because of simple excess of goods and freedoms.

[@gailainsley6939]

Men need women to want kids and husband. This is something they won’t tell you. When a woman no longer prioritise those things, it threatens them. That’s why they work overtime in trying to tell women what they should want. It’s quite comical how hard they are fighting to keep women in their place 😂😴

[@igors1234]

@@gailainsley6939 How would society look like after 100 years if all people became child free now? Child-free doesn't threaten men or women, it threatens mankind.

[@homeremedysanctuary]

@@igors1234 there will NEVER and I mean NEVER be a world where EVERYBODY decides not to have kids. The majority of people will ALWAYS be the ones HAVING kids. So stop with your melodramatic, worst-case-scenario nonsense. As long as there are religions that prioritize having kids mankind will be fine. Even if a billion people decide NOT to have kids, humanity and mankind will continue.

[@igors1234]

@@homeremedysanctuary In Europe birthrates are below replacement level for 50 years already, and there are no signs of improving. European population doesn't drop by a lot only because it takes millions of migrants every year from Africa and Middle East, but it's called replacement anyway. Europeans themselves are dying out. It's not just my opinion or feeling, it's statistics that you can find yourself. "As long as there are religions that prioritize having kids mankind will be fine." So you admit that in order to keep mankind people need to reproduce. And that religion actually helps with that, so even if there is no god, religion is still a beneficial social institution. Because many child free and leftists fail to acknowledge that.

[@ccurrie9672]

Some want and cannot have, some have and do not want. All children should be wanted, loved and protected. If you cannot do that then DO NOT become a parent. Children will teach you about yourself but parenthood is not easy.

[@timffoster]

Our 3rd child is about to leave the home, and we're about to become empty-nesters. Every now and then, I'll look at photos I took of them when they were toddlers, and a part of me crumbles just a little bit. Ways that I've let them down; ways that I didn't protect them; ways that I've been blessed by them. When I talk about it with them, they just laugh - they've had an awesome life and have no idea what I'm talking about. I'll take that as a special blessing from God. Being a dad isn't easy. But I wouldn't trade it for the world.

[@sereenahenderson1739]

I have to say, I went the career way of life for too many years. Got married, lost a baby and went through many years of sorrow. Then, in my later years, I was blessed with twins. They are so amazing, the best people I know and I just can't describe how much joy, love and laughter we share together. My only regret is that I didn't have them earlier.

[@donnatate6327]

I can't image being a wife, mother and grandmother during this time in history when the lines are blurred.

[@xdiaz755]

Me & Hubby had our baby mid-30’s (due to infertility challenges) But our baby is the biggest JOY in our life! The highlight of our day! Motivates me to be a better more compassionate person. Very good video👍

[@gileskisife6966]

Congratulations and please enjoy every day with your child. The childless crowd will NEVER know or experience it!

[@etaylor8028]

The women without kids, on both sides of my family, outlived the women with kids 😬 the "who will take care of you when you're older?" seems to be a moot point.

[@20maxilo]

My grandma told me at 15 having kids was the best thing she did. She has 6 kids and now she is 80 and has all her kids calling her all the time.. she does not suffer from depression and loved her life. I think having kids can make a person so much happier because you have purpose.. I chose the career path and I am 50% happy with this desicion.i kind wish I started young at 25 to start planning that.. but I was so worried about career and money.. so idk what will happen . I'm still open to that idea of having kids but if it doesn't happen than I won't get mad...

[@MichelMawon4982]

The person you partner with is the most important decision you'll make and there's an element of luck to finding the person you can trust raising children with. This world is hard place to exist and there's so much harm parents unknowingly do to their kids because they havent healed their traumas. I always hear about what children do for the adult's life, but never the opposite. More people should take on this role soberly first asking what makes them qualified to raise a human being who will add value to the world.

[@Obake4777]

Every person I've met that has a happy marriage had a sweet, accidental, or unintentional meeting. Right place, right time, right person. But the relationships I don't see work out; met in a bar or club, Became f buddies first, still had selfish desires, and weren't ready to grow up and look at it as us but instead me me me and what do I get out of it. And that's BOTH SIDES.

[@Aimetv]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@CharlotteFerrariBreton]

Parenthood doesn't come with a manual and neither does life. You also have to deal the hand you are dealt. Having said that, healthy partnerships are important. Approximately 60 percent of people in partnerships are paired with the wrong person for all the wrong reasons. The younger you marry and start a family the more likely you are to be divorced with a broken home by the time you are in your thirties. When you marry older, you have had a chance to make the mistakes that you learned from and are able (or should be able) not to repeat them. This is because most of us are engraved with a recording in our brains of "how we should live life" complete with a timeline of milestones for marriage and family. However, we do not all mature or even know who we are as individuals so we make poor choices and pair up with the with the wrong people for the wrong reasons. Hence the high divorce and breakup rate.

[@tiffanygrever8092]

You should tell that to the men in the guy blogs there trying to get other men to go for the girls between 18 and 22 saying thats the best time for wemon having babys .@@CharlotteFerrariBreton

[@CharlotteFerrariBreton]

@@StoicCaringbutColdandFierceIfN HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA. NEWSFLASH!!!! Unfortunately for you, Marriage has EVERYTHING to do with feelings doesn't it? People couple up based on "FEELINGS" NOT INTELLIGENCE.

[@gmwilliamsful]

I DON'T regret not having children. I DO regret not being a millionaire while in my 30s. NEVER WANTED KIDS BUT WANT TO BE RICH.

[@Puddycat00]

I’m 56 and never had kids. I had dogs . I’m happy

[@betzaidaruiz2375]

I'm 42 and have no kids due health issues. Firstly, I felt sad with all the bullying I got by my coworkers and some other people in the hispanic community because I can't have kids but then I start realizing that doing the right thing is more important than evil people's opinion and risking my life just to have kids to make other peoples happy and that there are so many other ways that we as women can contribute to the society in Community Programs teaching children and youth good things that can improve their lives and help them become tomorrow's good citizens. We need good people again that get involved in protecting our children and youth. This is not only the parents work but the responsable of good citizens in general.

[@michaeldallas-yf4gj]

Sure. Whatever

[@agreatmannamedlieu]

​@@michaeldallas-yf4gjRight. If she really were being genuine, she'd have adopted.

[@Zovella]

not everyone wants to adopt others leftovers.@@agreatmannamedlieu

[@bernpri7580]

​@agreatmannamedlieu yeah if you were actually genuine you would have adopted

[@stevenwilliams3015]

Your own case is different which is not your fault. But people that can have kids and say they don't want to have are just being selfish

[@mjfraser04]

Most of these comments are all about the individual's own happiness: "My kids make me happy", "Loving my kids makes me happy", "My kids bring me purpose", "My....me..." yada yada yada. It seems they never stop to think about the life of the human that they chose to bring into this world.

[@txlyons2937]

You're absolutely right. All children are borne from the short-sighted selfishness of their parents.

[@mizhomesiq]

Do you have kids?

[@txlyons2937]

@@mizhomesiq Of course not. I could never justify it. My children don't deserve a life sentence in this world, and neither do yours.

[@antonattachihombori9561]

I am 33 childless and unmarried. Am very happy with my life choices.

[@coppersulphate002]

Im 35 without kids and Im very happy and that's because I was heavily involved in the raising of my little sisters. Now they are 23 and 25 and for me to have gone through seeing them grow up from newborn to adult is very fulfilling On top of that I was a Montessori kindergarten teacher and nanny and that in itself is very fulfilling So yes you can be childless and still be happy. I know some women who have children and are as miserable as they come

[@wheatstonebridge]

Exactly! Also 35 and childfree.

[@VeryBadReputation]

At 37yr old I regret not meeting my wife earlier in life. We have a baby daughter. She regrets not having her earlier. Life is sort. She's 33yr old, I'm not rushing her but if she ever says something about a second child... I'm not wasting time. Did I say, life is short?

[@therealtijuanaman]

I hope you feel that way when you're old and completely alone

[@wandat46]

​@@therealtijuanamanI'm 62, never had kids and I thank gf every day. And no, I'm not lonely. I have many people around me that love me. Having children doesn't guarantee they will be there when you get older.

[@sirij8784]

I think women can be happy and childless but generally speaking I think women are generally happier when they have kids. I'm at the age where most women my age can't have any children anymore. Seeing both the women that have kids and women with no kids there is a significantly difference in apparent happiness levels.

[@broeklien3817]

I understand that kids, ones they are born, are the best thing in your life. If I had kids I would stay at home for them and homeschool them and all that good stuff and be proud of them. But I saw my friends and family have kids and I saw a different side too. I saw being backed against the wall. I saw the structure and daily drum of life. I saw the leverage of their parents and school and government and later the leverage that their kids had on them. All of that should be balanced out by the joy and love and the hormones you should have to drive you to persue this. My high school love who I am common law married with 20 years now always saw the same things. Its a leverage trap. We are happy, we don't have to bother or push each other as much from day to day. We don't have to agree and negotiate as much as our sibling's and friends with kids. I see how proud and happy they are when their kids graduate and have successful jobs and partners and then have kids of their own. Im happy for them. And I am happy for us. I don't see what the reason is that I should compare my life to those with kids. To me its just another way to lay the puzzle pieces. Im dealing with other peoples kids and become a better person for it. I see some parents mess their kids up beyond repair. Life is what it is Lets just play the game together as best we can. Raise each other up, the way we know best

[@jc5113]

I am an almost 25 year old female in college and living with my parents, did not start dating until I was 23 😂 and I realized last year that I probably will never be finically stable or find a partner. I’m 50/50 on having a family if it happens or it does not I’ll be happy either way.

[@abigailmendoza2502]

I didnt have my first boyfriend till I was 21 :( I also did not choose wisely :(

[@b-41subject57]

​@@abigailmendoza2502do you have a child by him?

[@inexpertxennial6067]

Stay with your parents for life and safe up your money. Don't become a wage slave because of student loans

[@hm7563]

Childless and happy!!!