Vendetta Song: Truth About My Aunt's Murder (Family Secrets Documentary)

Filmmaker Eylem Kaftan returns to her roots in Turkey to uncover the truth about her aunt's murder and the tradition of `honor-killing.'
This documentary follows Montreal filmmaker Eylem Kaftan as she travels to Turkey in an attempt to unravel the 30-year-old mystery of her aunt Guzide's murder. As she searches for clues and closure, she encounters antiquated customs in a Kurdish culture she's never known. She knows that her aunt was the victim of a senseless vendetta killing and as she ventures from village to village she pieces together the woman’s final days and closes in on the identity of her killer.
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[@MasTArrrRR]

"Where is your honor in taking a life your own flesh and blood". What a powerful statement / question

[@Tis_I_SirJames]

What an incredible story. Eylem should become a private investigator for missing people. Such a lovely woman, I hope this gave her some closure.

[@ktrainbow9765]

"she was as strong as a man and walked like a jet plane!" She sounds kickA$$!!! Everyone remembers her as a strong woman that looked like her niece! How awesome! And it looks like the younger generation is more interested in mending the bridge and meeting lost family members. Cool story! Although the Canadian seems kinda depressed about the whole visit. Her half aunt's husband's brother was her murderer, but she lived a few short months with the man she loved. And to her it was worth it. Love the songs about her too.

[@dunique26]

My heart broke for the man she loved, when he said "he thought guzide had returned when he seen her". I see that sadness he's speaking of.

[@peggystoutemorin4529]

That man is still hurting and grieving over the loss. What a very sad story!

[@heather4189]

That is so touching. It seems that man truly loved her.

[@smurfiennes]

A girl had got raped and fallen pregnant, so the family told a boy to kill his sister for honor? Something’s wrong with their common sense.

[@devynglass3781]

That’s just it, they have absolutely no common sense.

[@cynthiatolman326]

Twisted way of thinking. You thought catholicism hated women.

[@julien.4617]

These people wouldn't know honor if it hit them in the face. These people are not following religion, just the whims of their ancestors because it suits them. Real men protect and help their families.

[@kpzcbttp]

@@julien.4617 I totally agree!

[@JJNoire]

@@MorganLeFae1 kind of like what we can expect from the Kyle Rittenhouse trial. Hypocrisy is a horrid aspect of human history and patriarchy, hierarchy.

[@audreymuzingo933]

She is such a good interviewer. She asks a question, lets the person give the easy and expected answer first, then stays silent and patient while they decide to say the truth. That's very hard to do, very intense, but she makes it look easy.

[@juanitarichards1074]

Barbaric, to punish an innocent baby because her father abandoned her and her mother. HE should be severely punished, not his innocent wife and baby.

[@honeybunch5765]

It just doesn't make sense. How simple minded can they be to be worried about what others are going to think of their grandchild being abandoned by her father. How can you punish a child for the father's so called sins. What's the big deal about the father not wanting to be married to his wife any longer. Relationships don't always work out, yes he was pathetic not to keep his daughter safe but this culture just don't care about women.😢

[@TempermentalTart]

Oh c'mon, Western culture does (or not so long ago) did as well. It was always the illegitimate child that was outcast and black balled. The mother would carry the shame. Like it was her fault a man left. Why couldn't she "keep a man"? What did she do "wrong"? We "let" it happen. How many children in the West were (are) still aborted or given up for adoption for this very reason? Women are ALWAYS blamed.

[@TempermentalTart]

@@honeybunch5765 why is that concept so foreign to you? Ever heard of Diana Ross's song "Love child". This is an old story. Men are never to blame.

[@juanitarichards1074]

@@TempermentalTart Yes I know. My teenage parents split up before I was born, despite being married, my mother was treated as an outcast because she had no husband in the picture. My grandmother brought me up from birth while my mother went out to work to support us. I had no contact with my father until I was 15.

[@catherinegearhart2102]

Nail on head! Why is anyone being punished at all? The family should be able to work things out without violence to anyone, least of all the innocent party (the baby). And if anyone should be punished at all, it should the runaway groom. Of course, this would be a very Western approach … and we’re talking about a society almost as opposite from Western, as one can get! The thinking is based on a social ranking system they invented then claimed that God told them to do things this way.

[@waimbuthia820]

Wow. It took me awhile to finish watching this film because I found it too emotional. But what a great documentary! You've done a wonderful job, Eylem, & honored the life of your aunt & all the female victims who've suffered & continue to suffer under merciless men. Congratulations! May the soul of your courageous aunt live in eternal peace. Also, my heart aches for Leila & all the little girls in the world who may never realize her dream of attending school. Life's cruel sometimes. :(

[@Mr.Caring]

Your kind

[@ContrarianExpatriate]

I almost get the sense that the narrator is Guzide reincarnated to comes to terms with what occurred.

[@minoozolala]

I think so. Especially since she looks like her too.

[@XpurlX]

Only brave woman getting their own songs, your aunt was a brave and loved woman and sadly it takes only one weak man to kill her in a cowardly way. You have the same brave gen 🧬 as your auntie be proud of her and yourself! Be blessed and stay safe 🕊🙌🏻sweet regards from the Netherlands 🇳🇱 🌷🧡

[@hex2123]

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[@NegativeMass85]

Cried all the way through this. What a tragic but amazing story, so beautifully told. I'm so glad that Eylem found the answers she was looking for and hope Leila was able to continue her studies.

[@sonadiallo777]

It’s been 16 years since this documentary came out, I hope Leila was able to to go school and accomplish her dreams.

[@robyndaniels1381]

I didn't realise this happened all that time ago - I still think she should have done more to save Leila.

[@alissahhodges5854]

I sobbed over her....her and all those beautiful big eyed girls! 🙏❤😭 so many of their faces look like mine as a child.

[@unmellowyellow]

I seriously doubt it, unfortunately. 😢

[@namratamakaju3666]

Nope she was married at young age and she was unable to go to school

[@Marisol7773]

@@namratamakaju3666 how do you know? 😢

[@AnnabelleJARankin]

A fifteen year old girl is raped and killed by two different family members.... the barbarity and cruelty is breath-taking, yet it is called 'honour'. Repulsive.

[@Dhruv_Dogra]

This barbarity cannot stop in Islam because it is in Islam's biggest book Koran to blame a woman for 'attracting' a man. Honor killings in other religions have stopped or are super rare.

[@Dhruv_Dogra]

Don't believe in Muslim Takiyya lies spoken to hide this fact

[@Frogmommyiester]

I cant ever understand how its the woman's fault for being attacked and becoming pregnant. We can't control that.

[@peggystoutemorin4529]

This wasn't a woman. This was a child that was raped and impregnated, and what happened to the criminal who did it? It appears nothing. Those folks only thought about their so-called "honor". This left me angry and sad.

[@zact4289]

“I felt degraded & strangely flattered...” this resonated with me in more ways than one. I also felt for the young girl, Layla. May God protect her. I am glad Kadri got to tell his story and let the burden off his chest. Who looked genuinely sad and curious and open with the young lady who looks like his love...

[@blazefairchild465]

A place where the men are unemployed , but the children have to leave school to support the family? Get the kids in school , send those lazy dads back to work they can take the kids leave. If you don’t support your family , you get a free pass to debters prison where you can learn how to make bricks with dirt water. After your debts are paid , you can go home & make bricks to sell .

[@christinerobinson890]

I couldn’t agree more. I can’t figure out why these poor countries have so much unemployment. Humans are consumers and someone has to produce goods. It should equal out if the government would get out of the way.

[@julien.4617]

Why can't the fathers do the kid's work if he can't get any better? It would be less shameful than to let your kids support you. In my religion, it is as bad for a man to not support his family as it is to be a heathen.

[@hakanminbay8878]

Kadri is still in love with Güzide and still in mourning. REAL LOVE. A well-done documentary.

[@garrettmeadows2273]

What am incredibly admirable endeavour. I only wish I had a fraction of that young lady’s courage and tenacity. She is truly heroic.

[@annescholl420]

There was somewhat of a closure for Guzede! I pray for Leila to be able to go to school! 🙏🙏🙏

[@AnnabelleJARankin]

Poor Leila. The men do not really care about the women if they can treat them the ways they do - like property, to be killed if necessary. It is so terrible that this is the reality for girls in that society.

[@ThatMontanaMom]

Thank you for sharing this story. We women in the US need to learn the appreciation of the choices and freedoms we have here and it is good to see these stories.

[@TheKnitch]

Pretty sure I do appreciate those things. You can't speak for all women in the US, just yourself.

[@girumzemichael704]

@@TheKnitch A very 21st century response to a benign comment :)

[@kaleahcollins4567]

We didn't always have them even here girls was forced into mother and baby homes and forced to give up their babies in adoption or even be forcibly put into psychiatric homes for life by family just to save face. When my mom became pregnant at 17 with a boy my grandfather didn't want her to marry She was almost sent away and my sister almost taken and given to a great Aunt many states away. My grandmother was a true hero and fought this tooth and nail even deciding to leave my grandfather taking her four kids my mom included and her new Grandchild buying her own home in the 60's and 70's it was hard for women to get a loan from the bank without male consent even of she actually worked at a bank herself as manager 🤬🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️ She never divorced my grandfather so she was able to use his name 😉👍 and get the loan she needed but he had nothing to do with the house it was all paid for by her 46 years later she still lives comfortably in her house my sister is a married mother of two daughters herself Two years later after my sister was born she met and married my dad he had my brother at the time as well so he raised my sister as his own and my mom took on my brother then they had me and my other two sisters and yes they are still married 😉😀👍. Thanks Grandma for not giving up on my mom nor my sister.

[@gnostic268]

@@TheKnitch Your comment is redundant. You also can only speak for yourself. Duh

[@yukiefromoz2573]

Very courageous of her to go where she did to find answers. And how awesome of her to help a village connect to the internet. And to bring enemies together. She made a big difference for those ppl along the way. Great doco. 👍

[@maryherbst3693]

Wow, such a breathtaking story and a magnificent journey you traveled. Thank you for sharing this, I commend you on your bravery to follow your passion without letting anything stand in your way. May your future journeys be as successful!

[@Fitheach81]

this came out over 15yrs ago

[@honeybunch5765]

Family: do not go there, they are your enemy, they will kill you! Eylem : show me the way.

[@juanitarichards1074]

I feel for all those people, trapped in traditions that hold them back from any kind of progress. It is well known that when you educate a girl you educate a whole community. I feel for the young men who cannot afford to marry and are expected to pay outrageous bride prices - I have friends in Muslim countries who are in this position who are desperate to marry and have children before they get too old, but they can't.......I feel for those who can't marry the person they love and see their love given away to someone else who won't appreciate that person, the beloved of somebody else........I feel for the innocent girls who are punished for no real reason.......there is no honour in such things, only shame and punishment in the afterlife.

[@kaleahcollins4567]

Her aunt is so happy in heaven and is so proud of Eylem for walking her path in life and finally clearing her beloved name 💖

[@KNellyy]

I'm glad she found out some things and were able to go to places and speak to the people who knew Guzide

[@mariapereira5500]

This document made me cry, my heart aches for the woman. Your aunt and you are a great inspiration. Thank you for the awesome video.

[@giovanninadinca488]

You made me cry young woman, thank you for telling us this sad but beautiful story...❤️❤️❤️

[@soulie1971]

I’m deeply touched by your aunts story and your determination to find out what happened to her. And Leila ist the next generation, her humbleness and determination, but no opportunities…. Is there anyway to help her or find out how her life is evolving?

[@juanitarichards1074]

We could send her and the other children educational materials to help them if they cannot go to school.

[@debbielarsen4831]

@@juanitarichards1074 except that her own mother doesn't care if she's educated or not. Just that she cleans her house for her and takes care of her brothers and sisters. What does the mom do that she can't do this on her own? I truly hope Leila can find freedom to live a life of happiness.

[@A.Girl.Has.No.Name.]

I wish there was a way to sponsor her, or help the family out with money so they can afford to let Leila go to school, or the brother to marry so they don't "exchange" (neé, sell) Leila to all0w him to do so.

[@soulie1971]

@@A.Girl.Has.No.Name. ecactly my toughts 💕🌺

[@Helen-sound]

In the comments, a lady called Sonia Diallo says this video was originally made 16 years ago so Leila will now probably be married if her brother has found a wife .

[@heathergustafson4237]

Well if the men are unemployed why are the children working? The unemployed men can get up and work for their families, talk about turned around thinking

[@diane9247]

This film should have many more views. It is a complex family saga, a medieval tale of revenge. Poor Gudize had such a tragic life, I'm so glad her niece completed her story with love and a sense of peace.

[@eugeniawhite1309]

Such a sad story..Wishing Leyla the best of luck.

[@BombayBlonde]

For anyone curious to know what year this documentry was made it says 2005 at the end

[@nafisamohammed9064]

So we should have an update especially on Leila.

[@carolinedeed3774]

I thought it was not recent when I saw the PC monitor - that seemed the only give away

[@kayquiroga300]

Beautiful and sad story. Those women are so amazingly tender and strong, I feel heartbroken for their lot in life. So sad to see that even young men believe in honour killing, still. The son of Khadri appears more emotionally intelligent.

[@void1718]

Amazing documentary, moved me to tears .

[@magdalenamezydlo6150]

Me too!

[@gurultulumagazin1941]

"Half of the men in Diyarbakir are unemployed." Next sentence: "Children cannot go to school, because they have to work." A few sentence before "Kurdish are proud people...".🤪😂😁 Do I really have to explain, what kind of people they are? And I can tell a lot, as a German living between them.

[@MartaPartel]

In an interview she gave last year, Eylem Kaftan said Leila was unable to go to school but did a little bit of homeschooling. She also said Leila was happily married. Eylem is currently making a feature film based on this documentary so hopefully we will see more of this story.

[@peninnahmwalili8518]

Hope they can feature Leila. And learn what has become of her.

[@namratamakaju3666]

God..

[@Marisol7773]

What’s the name of the documentary?

[@leaburns9599]

*** 💘 * This is wonderful 👏 ❤ 💖!

[@leaburns9599]

*** 💘 * Beautiful 😍 😁😊😇🥰😍🤩😀🙂 🎥 cinematography!

[@nadinecrow]

Excellent! Deserves an award ...can we help Leila? What lovely people the Kurdish are.

[@bbjjbb61]

She is 16 years older now and unless a miracle happened, she is probably married with her own children now.

[@kimberini6465]

She needs internet connection to make and sell those scarves. How beautiful was that?!?! She could make a lot!

[@vickiosullivan584]

What a beautiful and inspirational story. The world is full of reasons to dwell on the horrors we can do to each other. This story gives me hope that love can find a path to making the world a better place for everyone. I loved the personal connection of the story teller and the way her determination, amazing ability to connect with people and perhaps a guiding force gave her answers and helped so many others. Amazing. Really amazing.

[@carmencantwell1249]

What a lovely story. Thank you for sharing this!

[@leahholzer4767]

You are very brave as well as your aunt. Wow. I am so humbled by this.

[@InnerAlchemy55]

Great documentary, it gives a deep insight about other cultures customs, traditions unknown for most of us, it most have been a painful experience for the niece to go through this research.

[@s.v.2796]

What a wonderful story and how brave you are. They are so correct, you are like your aunt in many ways, not simply favoring her looks but in strength of mind, spiritual awareness and love of others. Thank you for sharing!

[@ayyb6789]

I'm not Muslim, Christian, or Judaism, this is good content, but it makes me angry. If it weren't for women giving birth, a man wouldn't be here on Earth. The woman and female child should be protected and respected. Not punished, cause she was raped and doesn't want to marry yet. Men like that don't even have control over their own lives. So they put their misery on women and children. All religion is from the oppressor force on people. Thru torture and murder.

[@AnnabelleJARankin]

No, not all religions are the same. There is a difference between 'Thou shalt not kill' and 'honour killing', for starters...

[@zombiechicken7114]

Bless the charity working to help these women and to educate that this idea of honour killing is not really part of their faith and can be stopped without a loss of their cultural and religious history. I hope they are successful.

[@fatehkhan7511]

Honour killing , why kill girl because she bring shame to the family,,what about boy , he is free enjoy life

[@emmaevans5502]

I haven’t visited Dyerbakir for a long time but it hasn’t changed. The women I met there were so lovely and welcome you into their homes some parts are very poor and I have heard some of the historic parts of the city were destroyed 😢

[@clskngoksu7817]

Hello everyone, I'm a woman living in Istanbul. My father is Kurdish, my mother is Turkish. Now 8 years of education is mandatory in Turkey. If you don't send your kid to school, you'll be punished. This documentary was made 20 or 25 years ago.Right now, the difference between the west and east of our country is less. But women have different problems.Freedom of expression, equal working conditions, traditional cultural rules continue. For example, I can't go out in the middle of the night, I can't live apart from my family. Middle-east women are strong, but men are sometimes stronger. I'm an engineer, I'll help you if you come to Istanbul. The good thing

[@robyndaniels1381]

I lived in Turkey for 4 years and saw highly educated women like yourself expected (and complied with expectations) to give up their careers and look after their man and children instead once married. The laws may have changed but women are still regarded as the property of men .

[@clskngoksu7817]

@@robyndaniels1381 Motherhood is very important in the Turkish family structure and is the cornerstone of society. Yes, men are a choice for highly educated women. Working conditions offer conveniences for mothers in other countries, but they do not prefer to work because of the short working hours or maternity leave in Turkey. It's like you said in general. In the meantime, I wish I could have children by marrying the person I love, but we're 6,000 miles apart. Maybe I won't see him forever, There's love in this country, but we're going to keep fighting for her to live. Some people in this country are in a silent war, like me.

[@Sacheen81]

It was a relief to know that, in the end, Guzide was loved.

[@brooklynsmomma88]

How do that not understand a 15 year old was raped and they kill her not the man not saying he should be killed I am saying where is the justice for her she was raped its not her fault . Then the men go killing woman that's not very honorable!

[@kaleahcollins4567]

Awww I feel so bad for khadri you can see the hurt in his eyes why his family did this to him

[@cynthiastanley35]

What a sorrowful story. It truly saddens me. I feel certain that your auntie is very proud of you. Thank you for sharing.

[@kimberley6158]

Wow this is soooooo interesting im glued x

[@imadhobeika5994]

Eylem, I thank you for bringing those ancestral stupid traditions to the light, especially for western countries who have very different cultures. As a man, I strongly support women’s empowerment and education in our region. I salute your courage, your determination and your quest for the Truth. I also love your accent, your story telling and I think you worth a lot more than a 1000 sheep, 500 Kalashnikovs, 50 camels, 10 horses and whatever 😊😊

[@ECapitalE]

Her mom is young enough to do her own housework. Selfish.

[@yvonnesmit2173]

i was mesmerized by the story the way it was told and filmed , thanks

[@dinadanielsen3118]

i feel so sad for Leyla she has to be traded off ... wtf she should go to school get educated, marry a man she wants to marry! not be exchanged like a sheep :( ,Guzedes story was touching and Kadri seems so sweet and he really loved her

[@rebeccamiller1741]

What a powerful story... I so admire this young woman , what a journey .... a beautiful tribute to her Aunt Guizida ....

[@barrett5540]

What a beautiful & heroic story of your auntie. What a brave young woman you are in finding the truth of your family lineage. How lovely you are in your ability to connect the.past, present & future of the women that live in your family’s homeland. I admire your courage. You, like your auntie, will influence the minds, hearts, & dreams of young girls who are to follow. You have given a gift to untold girls by your presence of mind & ability to connect people with compassion. God bless You.

[@laquicha8159]

I’m so glad I watched this moving and inspiring story!!

[@dr.barrycohn5461]

Do women chase after men who have violated some perceived slight to to a family's honor? This kind of practice is most stranger than strange to me. In my culture, if you behaved in a terrible way, you were put out of the community. Shaming for sure. Your father saved you by moving to Istanbul as your life would have been so different. Thank you for doing this presentation and sheding some light on this practice that honors death.

[@aubreyjames8795]

What are you talking about? Two people who wanted to be together got married, and some deranged brother murdered his own brothers wife.

[@dr.barrycohn5461]

@@aubreyjames8795 OK, I'll call it the most strange form of brotherly love then.

[@earthlovinggal3372]

Thank you for sharing this story !

[@theresarasche3173]

Leila's scarf is gorgeous!❤️

[@Bughugger]

This is so tragic and depressing... What's wrong with these people? How can an entire culture, sometimes an entire generation or more, be so complacent to the darkness that resides in their own community...?

[@jtavares9929]

This was so humbling to watch I pray for Layla god bless her and god bless you .. from the stories it is easy to see she lives in you with all of your strength ...

[@Emy53]

So sad to see children taking care of children. I appreciate my freedoms more. What beautiful children...

[@user-bbwisdom]

A truly extraordinary,soft, real beautifully told story!!!🌺🌺🌺

[@zombiechicken7114]

Where is the honour in allowing a cousin to go unpunished for rape but to kill the victim. How is that honourable. I will never understand this.

[@giovanninadinca488]

....she does all the housework, I can’t do without her...🤔🤔what about you do some housework😡😡 and let your daughter have a future?!?! I wonder who is worse here.,This mother and many others like her or men with their way of thinking?

[@MoJo-can-Do]

POWERFUL, Thanks for sharing this to the world.

[@charliebarrow7086]

This story is heartbreaking. To all the oppressed women, men and children out there: You deserve freedom, love, happiness and the right to decide whom to love and and marry. I hope that one day my dream of you having the choice will come true.

[@minnoshbusra]

Hello everyone. This is Büsra from Mardin, currently living in Istanbul. I am glad to share that in Diyarbakır a lot has changed. There is still a lot to do of course, but women have way more freedom to speech and to live. Turkey has thankfully changed a lot, so did the Kurds in the East.

[@Marisol7773]

Thank you for this update. I wonder about Layla a lot. 😢

[@Fitheach81]

Honour killings aren't the result of "bad individuals" but a degenerate streak that runs through their culture, this is on display 11-12 minutes in. At one point the man states that in the old days they'd kill you if you kissed a girl/boy on the cheek and no one seems shocked by that remark, in fact they're laughing about it. And I highly doubt there's fully or partially nude women walking around Diyarbakir or anywhere else in Turkey. Oh, but it's wrong to criticize these aspects of their culture. Lets see how long this comment will last

[@margerymanukau3821]

Such beautiful and handsome people,so unfortunate death killings take place amongst such a loving community and culture 😔💙

[@dollybelfiore7628]

Luv4all & Peace thru Out. Than'x for this endearing glimpse into the world surrounding Guzida's life. It's such a complex & compelling story that rings true for many others, I'm sure.

[@HOTTATATTAT]

Honestly, this is fuxking heartbreaking. 😔

[@honeybunch5765]

Yeah a life and especially that of a woman has very little value in some cultures.

[@HOTTATATTAT]

@Ian Sacks 😔

[@parisp6629]

Thanks so much for this great documentary. You truly took us with you all the way💕. Please 🙏 keep us up to date about Leila. You should have convinced her mom to stop being so selfish and allow Leila to attend school. Perhaps in different culture, this mom is just considered ignorant, but in western society and even in most Middle Eastern countries this is a crime & a child abuse. Or am I missing something here ? It’s so immoral to see a mother can’t manage raising her own children & housework & for that use & abuse her daughter by denying her access to education.

[@kaleahcollins4567]

Not true many women in western countries live like this actually the Romani gypsies the Amish and many others

[@abihebb6720]

While you didn't find a photo, you found something much more important. The people who's heart they touched. Even though you didn't find her murderer, you brought families together. What's more, you inspired other girls like Leila to chase their dreams as far as they can go. That is more important than any one photo can ever convey. Well done.

[@spiderblackwidow8747]

Your Aunt was strong and truthful... The killer is weak and A monster

[@deniseoates7147]

My heart aches for women where a culture does not respect, cherish, or see their importance to their communities. The saddest part is that I am viewing this documentary 2 years later and realizing Leilla is probably experiencing what that bride at her wedding was caught on video was going thru, those was not tears of joy but helplessness and how do these women around her be so joyous, have they forgotten. They barter with women like they are some prize cow (but they value the life of a cow more) just for the value others would give them. During your visit that poor baby just had a moment of hope (she probably hoping that she would be wisked away with you) for better opportunities (freedom). The tale of your Aunt is so much like all the other women there that were killed under the stupid Honor killing and what being told is just say so because of the lies people might be willing to tell just for the attention they got (entertaining for them I am sure). You ventured a long way with dangerous situations and it a shame that there was nothing left of her (no surviving kids you were told). This totally modern-day slavery by gender. Thanks for sharing and blessing to you and all in the days to come.

[@Sunflower-nx5en]

You looked so beautiful after the young girl put the scarf on you .🦋...great documentary ✌

[@zukofire6424]

Kadri's recollection was very moving. They loved each other, were happy for that brief period of time...

[@raya9283]

Kurdish culture can be messed up, the Kurdish are different from the Turkish. Even in Europe there have been often "honor" murders, usually committed among the Kurdish community. I heard that my previous neighbor got stabbed by her husband in broad daylight on the street in an attempt to kill her after she separated from him. Please don't confuse this with Islam, this is some cultural madness. I wish this occurs less with time.

[@ASTPlumbing9090]

This was a dark subject but it was also equally beautifully done.

[@jejewa2763]

What a sad but Beautiful story!!!

[@balathiyaga5724]

This story touched my heart. I was very happy when you helped the village school and Leila.

[@EllaBella-76]

She is amazing as a woman and daughter I hope I can be half her power ..I am a Mother I just hope I show my son this much guidance as parents even single parent we have a duty of care to protect to find out and to learn this is basically what she is doing Education..❤️❤️❤️Her Dad clearly adores her ..We have Kurdish Barber for my son and my Dad went to him all of them are Kurdish they work really hard are really brilliant at the job and really lovely his Family moved to Turkey but they are still Kurdish..😭😭😭Still crying at this crazy world

[@kaarlimakela3413]

💗 amazing informative I am out of words but this is a keeper. Glad she found resolution, and had a good influence there. Satisfying and frustrating.

[@mollyduhon7575]

Thank you for sharing such an important life story 💜 ❤️

[@ridasmith3732]

Gzude ....... Well i realized something , the story about here heights and how she looked like is real because her murder took a fire weapon to kill her ,hand to hand nobody can defeat her so she was powerful woman capable to beat the men of her generation.......... rest in peace

[@shawnaellcey6970]

She loved the man with the crooked hand. I am crying, this is very sweet and sad. 😢😢😢😢😢

[@saniayalon7151]

Such a touching story, thank you 🙏 ❤️

[@myhouseimports]

Great story, beautifully told. Thank-you!

[@nchaprudence4767]

My God...that aunt really suffered in this world...5 kids and none alive...including herself ...

[@murdermysterywithme6225]

This is so heartbreaking, man!😭😭

[@joanodom2104]

This horrific tragedy, the result of a tradition I cannot relate to, is somewhat tempered by the knowledge that Guzide knew REAL love, if only for a brief time. Kadri had a kind face, as did his son. It's comforting to imagine them younger, a couple so in love that they risked everything...although, according to misogynistic societal customs, Guzide was the only one expected to pay the price. Kadri was more "manly," in my estimation, for being unashamed to show Guzide tenderness and gentleness. The brother, on the other hand, exists within the world of utter insecurity that all ego-driven men of "machismo" feel they must cling to. How many women are sacrificed as collateral damage of some male's fragility? Domination is clearly only a desire of the weak. So many warped views on morality and acceptability spawn out of extreme and narrow religious customs, the ultimate master of control is the church/mosque/temple, etc. and as one who avidly researches anthropology and sociology, I am well aware of the very troubling generational repercussions caused by it. In these extremely patriarchal societies, the vicious cycles eat their own tails. The men, SOLELY by virtue of penis possession, laze about, gabbing drunkenly to like-minded louses, while females young and old literally do EVERY BIT OF WORK, including giving birth. Men are allowed to rape, beat and oppress with absolutely no repercussions. The rampant toxic masculinity is on STEROIDS because it's truly ALL they have. They do nothing to earn respect, for themselves or each other. Bullying is a direct result of nonexistent self-esteem. They swagger about and wage half-assed pissing contests amongst themselves because, in actuality, they are useless wastrels and THEY ALL KNOW IT. Nothing represents the dangerous effects of MAN MADE religion quite like this menacing, threatening illusion referred to as"honor." How can something be considered "honorable" when it totally eliminates and denigrates HALF of the population? This horrific, archaic "family honor" code they cling to is a disgrace. It absolutely is NOT being "culturally insensitive" to be critical of this patriarchal tradition. Via the internet and media, the practitioners have seen and heard how repulsed the rest of the universe is by the heinous and barbaric act known as "honor killings," and THEY DO IT ANYWAY! Generally I am very sensitive and respectful of the rites and traditional observances of all cultures, but Ido draw the line at something that involves violence and targets a human for death! Sometimes you just have to let certain things become obsolete. I mean, slavery existed in America for a very long time but society evolved a conscience and we absolutely had to learn from a horrific and shameful history and enact and enforce legislation that stopped such a degrading practice. Female genital mutilation and "honor" killings must cease because human beings know better at this stage in world history and it's unacceptable!

[@warriorway2570]

Sad to die after a lifetime of pain losing 5 kids,husband etc

[@CTID]

Go back and get Leyla!!! Start a crowd fund or something!!!!

[@juanitarichards1074]

She wouldn't want to leave her family but we could send her and the other children educational materials and Leyla could help educate them too, those who also cannot go to school.

[@CTID]

@@juanitarichards1074 I think she would leave her family in a heartbeat. She is treated as an unpaid skivvy and she will soon be married of to some ugly old man to do the same for his family. I saw a glint in her eye..she wants more..

[@pointerlover3492]

@@juanitarichards1074 , this was made in 2005.

[@robyndaniels1381]

@@juanitarichards1074 How do you know? She may not want to leave her family on the one hand but would have to one day anyway when she married - so why not have tried to persuade her mother to let her go with the filmmaker to Canada, get and education and a better life. What mother wouldn't want that for her child?

[@juanitarichards1074]

@@robyndaniels1381 When she married it will be to a surrounding village mot to a foreign country. And having lived among Muslim and Hindu communities I know how much these girls don't want to leave their families no matter what their circumstances. Their traditions are thousands of years old and only those born into rich educated families expect anything different. Their parents see it as a sacred duty to see them married off to a man who can support them financially so they won't be alone when their parents die. Being an unmarried old maid is also a source of shame to them and unmarried women have no status whatsoever and are not only pitied and made fun of, but are made to feel like a burden on the parents or brothers who must support them. And these people don't have money for overseas travel and would be terrified of sending their daughters to a strange land, away from their kith and kin.

[@laynedoon7437]

such a sad story,beautifully told,

[@gingersnaptrack9337]

This is just one reason assimilation is so important with immigration. You cannot allow unfettered immigration for people that bring old tribal ways with them into the west.