YES! Polish people are really FRIENDLY, you just DON'T GET IT!

Chapters
0:00 Intro
2:02 The Polish Smile
3:29 Town Down Your Energy
5:32 Don't Gada Gada
6:52 Break
8:04 Rude But Honest
9:28 Outro
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[@monikasanda4084]

My Polacy jesteśmy poważni i skupieni na własnych myślach. Nie idziemy ulica i nie szczerzymy się do wszystkich jak "głupi do sera". Konwencjonalne uśmiechy zostawiamy Amerykanom 😅. Jesteśmy cały czas w stanie ambiwaletnym ale to nie ma nic wspólnego z byciem friendly. Poza tym jesteśmy mili i pomocni jak jest taka potrzeba. 😁 Pozdrawiam

[@wojstube9359]

Pełna zgoda. Pozdrawiam z Pomorza.

[@piotrgrzywnowicz601]

Dokładnie! Tak też uważam 😊 Pozdrawiam serdecznie

[@annaboczynska5601]

A rak w ogóle co to znaczy byc milym.? Czy to oznacza szczerzenie zębów na zawolanie i na pokaz a w glowie zupełnie co innego? To za cos takiego dziekuje wolę nasze ponre miny a nie zachowania na pokaz

[@user-bt7my8tx4m]

You understand Poles well. Your example of Polish smile was hilarious. To me Poles do not smile to strangers because they respect their privacy and personal space more than, for example, Latinos. Eye contact and smile to a stranger mean an attempt of contact. You should not disturb other person privacy without a reason. That is traditionally considered rude in Poland. But if a contact is established for whatever reason Poles are helpful and responsive. As you point so well initial conversation should be toned down comparing with southern customs. Again, it is a sign of respect, you do not want to trouble a starnager with your intense behavior. This way of behaving is not worse or better than more simily and loud one, it is just a code of conduct that was assumed in Polish society. It is not rude if you read it in the context of Polish culture. And you are so right. If you want to communicate well with people from othter culture you have to be able to use their cultural code. You can remain yourself and behave differently but you will not be understood. The same would go for Polish people in Latino country - they need to smile more and engage in small talk with strangers, or they will be misunderstood.

[@Lola_in_the_Black]

Resting Polish Face Syndrome plus honesty, directness and fire (we get hyper passionate and invested even in discussions about irrelevant details) can lead to a lot of confusion and misunderstanding at first glance xD

[@slavomt5832]

You noticed a very important thing about communication with Poles. I also agree that Poles are friendly and very helpful. Poles build very deep friendships that last for years. 😀✅

[@wojstube9359]

U mnie w pracy sami mili ludzie. I to są prawie sami Polacy. Są jak rodzina. Z Ukraińcami też się świetnie dogadujemy. Traktujemy się podobnie.

[@pingwin4079]

We Poles are very comfortable with being quiet among strangers. There's no need to "fill the silence"; if we don't know each other then saying nothing is the default thing to do. One of worst thing Poles can label you as is "zbyt spoufalający się". If you want to start any relationship then going into it too fast, being too open and too positive will raise suspicions.

[@topalbano]

Im shocked that they don't even greet or acknowledge people that they often see, in specific areas such as work, gym, apartment block... Often they don't instinctively react to the presence of other human beings when e.g. you enter a room they are already in, or when shop assistants who block your way from shopping until you ""wake them up" with your voice to let you pass I can't explain this apathy. In my Mediterranean country, such attitudes mean that they are on strong psychotropics or just rude and arrogant.

[@pingwin4079]

@@topalbano wtf you need our acknowledgement for :D If we don't know each other, and we do not need anything from one another, then the default thing to do is nothing. Why on earth should we "react to someone's presence"? :D If you need something - say so. If you don't - then what good our acknowledgement even is?

[@Bubu00013]

It seems to me that this is not only a Polish specialty. The northern peoples are more distant.

[@elag912]

Yeah but it's the Polish people that emigrate all over the world on a crazy scale, making those stereotypes 😉

[@Immigrantwriter]

you have to deserve the precious content from a Polish person 😅 gotta work for it 😂

[@nataliamach7248]

it's not about deserving, it's about admitting the reality of human nature: not everyone has good intentions, so please present them first, after that ask for connection. It's simple, humble and effective, but apparently undervalued :)

[@kajkabea]

My experience is ( I am Polish) that when I meet a stranger and we sit a long time in a common space then after 10 minutes we know each other's life stories, problems and worries. We are not so reserved as one may think.

[@julienx1]

It’s easy, it became for our history. We had to keep reserved because we were betrayed as a nation so many time, despite we were saving the world so many times. But we are learning to be more open and positive

[@annaboczynska5601]

To be honest when somebody gada gada i just switch off😂 its true that when a stranger or somebody that i hardly know seems to he too friendly in my opinion a red light turns on and to be honest it save me some trouble staying abroad. A smile and openess does not mean that people have good intentions :)

[@AKRLUC2012]

Love watching this gentleman, he has a beautiful wife, and his son is simply adorable. He has a crazy sense of humor, and makes everything very entertaining. Dzekuje!

[@kachnab.6994]

I should play your videos at my workplace abroad…😅 I often was asked to smile more… 😅

[@malgorzatamakowska9910]

Odpowiadałam, jak jest okazja to chętnie dodam ,że uwielbiam żartować ale właśnie szczerzyc się bez powodu....

[@liszkapliszka146]

Kiedy ktoś każe mi się uśmiechnąć rzucam się z łapami. NIENAWIDZĘ tego pierdolenia :D

[@impatryk2860]

I have one pro tip for foreigners. We use a lot of sarcazm and self abrasive. This is because our history. And if you will start using it we will apriciate that. Zgodzicie się?

[@user-ve3ws3en8t]

nie, Polacy mają tak przepite łby że sarkazm załapie 15-20% reszta nie wie nawet o jego istnieniu i czemu służy

[@teresagrzesiak1195]

​@@user-ve3ws3en8tNo cóż kompleksy zabijają .Pozbac się tej żółci ,a lepiej się poczujesz 😱😂😉

[@elag912]

I think the "gada gada" problem is VERY depending on personalities. I don't talk much and I love it when someone talks to me a lot. These both kidnds of people are everywhere

[@MaraMara89]

I think that many (if not most) Polish people have "resting bi*ch face" while walking on the streets - that's why we might seem distant and not friendly. In my case: I usually just think about work/chores/what to do for dinner etc. - everyday things that not necessary make me smile ;) If you would see two polish people that know each other and meet by the chance you can see how their faces changes - instant smile :) We are nice - I swear - we just hide it pretty well :D

[@grzegorzbukowski4372]

I'm almost crying. That's so true about us.❤

[@HEN-Huzar]

0:26 I consider myself very friendly. I always try to help foreigners if they don't understand something or want to get somewhere.I give way to older people in the queue, on the bus, I let them go ahead in the door,elevator (young women too😁The wife is not angry ). I use "magic" phrases in contacts with people and I smile often. Because laughter brings happiness and health. For me this is normal. I took it from home and school.

[@lm157]

Same here hehe, keep it up👍

[@Alice.El_]

Masz wnikliwe obserwacje i celne przemyślenia. Dobry materiał, dziękuję i pozdrawiam❤🖐🏻

[@HEN-Huzar]

9:22 I am always honest, believe that lying (even in good faith) does more harm, than good.

[@kasiakasia3260]

" Poznasz głupiego po śmiechu jego" jak mawiała moja babcia.

[@AKRLUC2012]

Pan Vigo, haven't seen you folks around. Glad you got to know Polish people, and who they really are. No offense, people that come off too friendly usually scare me.

[@DS11129]

Spot on. I will say though that being in higher gear will sometimes lead to less interaction with friends you make. As a Southerner American we are blunt to the point, like to be close, body contact, and can talk. Not always good thing. ;) My wife though I have had a few times where is she as she was gone for an hour or longer. Older Neighbor was talking up a storm and had my wife in for cake and tea. She tends to just go get fresh eggs or drop something off.

[@QuiteQuiet_]

how to tame a Pole 101 😂😂

[@VigosDad]

😂😂

[@barbarabryndziak2300]

Wychodzi, że dzieje się odwrotnie. My nie widzimy żadnego problemu.😆

[@sophiaskrzypczak4265]

I love your analytical mind and astute observations. It's morning here in Canada, but this evening I will salute you with my last drops of Mamajuana ☺

[@pro100olga]

My kid went to 2 kindergartens in Poland, one public, one private, in the same area. In private one, parents smile and are friendly, in public one they don't. So I think it's also a matter of social class and do people have enough money so that not to constantly be stressed.

[@elrondzik]

Straight to the point like a "natural born Pole"! :) This is one of the main differences between Poles and e.g. Americans, Canadians: sometimes, we could perceive them as false because they are not straight and they sugarcoat everything. You have to learn when their flattery means disapproval, and learn to communicate the same way. It's a part of their social DNA.

[@Zieel]

Hey man, just wanted to say that I really like your content. I always like a foreigner's perspective on different aspects of my country and I really appreciate yours. You usually hit the nail on the head with a lot of the things we do that are obvious to us, but sometimes just plain weird to a foreigner. Thanks, keep up the good work!

[@renatamiszkieo8903]

Bardzo trafna ocena, Vigo. Naprawdę poznałeś się na nas. Bardzo dobrze słucha się Twoich relacji. Pozdrawiam serdecznie ❤

[@kasia.marcindomek2958]

You could give lectures, great understanding.

[@SayukiSuzukiMizuno]

And smiling at random people can be seen as creepy! Let me say this like: as a Polish woman, I am not approached by unknown men when I'm NOT smiling. I am approached by men when I AM smiling. So I won't smile :'D

[@user-kn1ef4ir3e]

Thanks for the great video! You nailed it🎉🎉🎉

[@michaelshannon9169]

Slavs and Germanics dont do performances in friendships like Western Europe and USA. Sincerity is paramount in Eastern Europe.

[@topalbano]

However being stiff, cold and miserable does not make someone sincere but silly and such people look funny to me. Like "hey man remove the stick from your ass, drink some vodka and relax"

[@ar2recpl710]

co lepsze, fałszywie "uśmiechnięty" czy szczerze "ponury"? nie mam z tym problemu, uśmiecham się do ludzi którym ufam i zapewne znam, wobec innych jestem co najmniej zdystansowany (co za tym idzie-nie wykrzywiam w fałszywym grymasie twarzy)

[@waldemarmachnik1545]

Yes, we, including you. We are nice❤❤

[@michalinabaros5824]

As a Pole, I would never ask someone for advice again, if all they did when i asked for the first time was telling me how i was in the right all the time. It means either they want to suck up to me or they're not interested in helping me. It's not at all rude to ask questions like "are you sure it was like that?", "maybe they were right in saying that and that?" And so on. Then I know they genuinely want to help me even if i don't agree with them. But when I lived in the western europe that kinda thing was considered rude lmao 😂

[@michadybczak4862]

There are persons who are very abrasive and unpolite from the beginning, and when you start behaving the same, you may discover, they are very friendly. It's like: - What do you want? (The face and tone says, "Why do you bother me? Go away!") - This and this. - F%$# off! - F*^%$ you! (throw a joke, suggesting, you weren't offended) - Hahaha. OK, what do you want? - This and this. - OK, no problem. Basically, being polite and gentle with such people is off-putting. You have to be abrasive yourself and then you will get accepted. This however depends on and requires some intuition, where it is proper to apply. This is also why some friends often throw invectives with smiley face, because this is like a friendly, inside greeting.

[@andrzejbanas7261]

¡Me encantan tus reportajes! Besos y abrazos.

[@milkaberry]

Thanks !!!

[@johntarnowski9086]

Hi JT its JT. I have the Polish smile

[@Dubik84]

Komentarz dla zasięgu ;)

[@ZwiekszoneRyzyko]

Chopin, Chopin, Chopin, gada, gada, gada... 🤣 Jk ofc, luv your vids 👍

[@kroll01]

Super!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Digi4DD]

Yeah, we just don't look friendly, it's a slavic thing where looking fun and happy is reserved for close friends and family.

[@adriannaozarek7174]

Wszystko swieta prawda😊 You have great observations of Poles😊😊

[@bozenawojciechowska8418]

Jezeli nie chce to sie nie usmiecham czy. to obowiazek jakis?mam powod to sie smieje to chyba normalne

[@shylockwesker5530]

If you're going to get a photo taken for an ID or passport in Poland they will tell you not to smile. Mine always tells me: no smile, please. It's in the specification for a government document: Mouth closed, no facial expressions and smiling is an expression.

[@joannaszymanowska8886]

When I ask my 21 y son - "Are you sad, angry?" He replies -"I'm a Polish, mum"

[@anonimzudny3200]

Very nicely said. Ogól się xD

[@RokitaBijaaacz]

Ewidentnie nie zna filmu "Ogól się świnio" 😂😅:p

[@Robert_z_Wwy]

Friendly? Friendship has to be earned somehow. A stranger is indifferent as long as he makes himself known. However, a stranger in need will not have to wait for help. We are unlikely to remain indifferent. Fake friendliness is the worst for us. We have many vices, but we cannot say that Poles are disloyal.

[@robmic8125]

Small talk is what we can't do.

[@katogoria]

Sure, we don't dry teeth to every Hover seller.

[@r.d.5946]

Friendly z korzyscia ale pomocni na pewno .

[@malgorzatamakowska9910]

To ciągłe usmiechanie sie to czesto hipokryzja...

[@novadino2]

I spit my coffe

[@demolek22]

So what would happen when a Latino WWWWRRRRR meet a Sweed w_r engine? They are even more reserved. The colder climate is the colder people are in the 1st meeting.

[@topalbano]

Swedes may be cold but i found them at least in Stockholm, highly skilled in public politeness. They make eye contact, smile and talk easily. They have a cosmopolitan vibe and look wealthy.....Totally different from the average Pole with very poor communication skills and the negative vibes .

[@hurykles99]

Friendly? Depends on how much we Poles trust a stranger on the street. Tbh i wouldn't really trust a person that smiles for no reason on the street and walks towards me. I basically would wait for a moment when this person asks me to sign a petition or something which would be probably a scam anyway.

[@Ajgor_Wygoda]

Comment for algoritm : )

[@kroll01]

:)

[@manfredolej004]

Pau attention and listen

[@mitrydatmarek]

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[@Tomasz-rl6yk]

Za dużo nie tłumacz ;) Nie chcemy mieć takich problemów jak inne kraje, my już dawno przeżyliśmy najazdy dziwnych niedobrych ludzi ;) Normalnych witamy ale najpierw pokaż normalność :)

[@banjromen8848]

Co to znaczy dziwnych niedobrych ludzi? Kto dla ciebie jest "normalny"?

[@hurykles99]

​@@banjromen8848przez "normalny" chyba chodzi o "o szczerych intencjch"

[@simonsan5271]

Nie słyszałem żeby ten jegomość powiedział coś złego o Polsce. Zapala mi się zolta lampka sceptyka jak ktos mi tak kładzie miód na uszy w każdym filmiku. Strzelam że ten pan albo dostaje od kogos powiązanego z rządem pieniądze za propagowanie kraju albo zorientował się jak łasi na komplementy są Polacy i pozyskuje w ten sposob subskrybentów. Nie jestem przekonany co do szczerości intencji ale po komentarzach widze ze wszyscy zachwyceni takze jakie by nie były motywacje, plan działa. Jako że cenie ludzi zaradnych to tez zasubskrybuję.

[@JK-cf4rz]

Mieszkam w Uk i uwierz mi nie lubi się tam nas. Zresztą Vigo też długo mieszkał w Uk więc pewnie porównanie ma. Ja często słyszę nie miłe komentarze w kierunku naszego kraju czy w ogóle zero zainteresowania bo to Polska przecież. Za to jakbym była Hiszpanka/wloszka/portugalka to pewnie włazili by mi dupe bo pracuje z różnymi narodowościami i wodze te “reakcje” tubylców. 🤣kiedyś mnie to bolało ale teraz już wiem,że to nie ja tylko “oni” są ograniczeni w niektórych sprawach

[@JK-cf4rz]

Więc mnie cieszy to,że Vigo przełamuje te stereotypy

[@simonsan5271]

@@JK-cf4rz za co się nie lubi? Opijstwo? Złodziejstwo? Katolicyzm?

[@JK-cf4rz]

@@simonsan5271 często za samo pochodzenie. Nie wspomniałam tu o piciu czy katolicyzmie.

[@simonsan5271]

@@JK-cf4rz Za samo pochodzenie? Jawna dyskryminacja. A przecież mamy tyle powodów żeby nas nie lubić.

[@PiotrJaser]

Ostatnio spotkałem kilku miłych Polaków, ale to był przypadek.

[@Rene_Moor3095]

Naprawdę? Współczuję. Musiałeś to tutaj napisać, czym pokazałeś złą cechę Polaków czyli sranie do wlasnego gniazda, nawet w miejscach, gdzie powinniśmy promować Polskę i pokazywać siebie z dobrej strony. Jesteś żenujący !!!!!!!!!!

[@nataliamach7248]

@@Rene_Moor3095 zrobiles dokladnie tosamo.

[@PiotrJaser]

@@Rene_Moor3095 Wyluzuj, bo postronni obserwatorzy mogą uznać, że ktoś inny niż ja jest tu najbardziej żenujący. Miłego dnia.

[@wojstube9359]

Dobre. lol

[@malgorzatamakowska9910]

A może to ty nie bardzo...

[@liszkapliszka146]

If you walk among crows, you must caw like them :P

[@dariuszkontor7748]

Jesteśmy jacy jesteśmy.......

[@banjromen8848]

Myślę że to też zależy od klimatu, w krajach śródziemnomorskich jest dużo słońca i łatwiej o dobry humor.😊

[@hurykles99]

W Ranczu chyba było mówione o tym właśnie że u włochów słońce więc mają lepszy humor a my Polacy to "od środka rozgrzani" czy coś XD. Niestety nie pamiętam dokładnego cytatu