When people don't believe you have ADHD

[@Krapoutchniek]

When the mother said "Your brother has it", I instantly thought "Rowan" 😆

[@pkmntrainermark8881]

I feel like a lot of us thought of him because he's in the thumbnail.

[@ChaosNe0]

I can see the whole team in a meeting, one asks: "So, who shall be the rude ADHD-acknowledged brother?" And everyone looked at Rowan, who wasn't even listening, just flexing and making selfies.

[@Krapoutchniek]

​@@pkmntrainermark8881 Indeed. I rarely look at the thumbnails :p

[@radfordra]

I think we all did

[@phredshunkie3487]

I can see other people’s ADHD too.

[@DeadDancers]

The mum disbelieving she has adhd while actively demonstrating her own adhd is just perfection right there.

[@HECU.Corpsman]

What when

[@xlynx9]

​@@HECU.Corpsmanwhen her mom didn't absorb anything she was told over the phone

[@xlynx9]

Yeah. ADHD tends to present differently in females, including often not presenting the hyperactivity part. Therefore more females go undiagnosed. That's the same reason her mom says only her brother has it.

[@Juxxize]

I was thinking that, that's what my poor children have cope with. I feel like my family is 'normal' and it's every one else who ...... Well doesn't share our wonderful happiness. We are a happy family

[@isaz2425]

I have been diagnosed with autism as an adult, and that was a very accurate depiction of the reactions I've seen.

[@Unknown_Genius]

I've stopped even trying to get diagnosed for anything, simply because every doctor send me to a different doctor - psychologists saying it's autism and those that diagnose autism say it's psychosis, was a huge forth and back for years to not even get a diagnosis of what's going on.

[@wobblysauce]

Little bit of tism, never hurt no one...

[@tr1bes]

Cool. We aren't perfect. Everyone is flawed but unique in their own ways.

[@mariamartinusz9699]

Well, I don't talk to my family. That takes care of it.

[@evanflynn4680]

"We're all on the spectrum a little bit. Some of us are just on it a bit more." That wasn't as comforting and helpful as you thought, Mark. Yeah, everyone's on it because it starts with "0" no diagnosis. I had to explain to him the concept that 0 and 1 don't need much help getting by. 1 might want to get some help with self management and healthy coping mechanisms, but once they do, they can mostly get by like everyone else on 0. I'm 2. I need regular help, and before my diagnosis, I had trouble keeping a job or maintaining relationships. Get stuffed with all that "we're all on the spectrum" bullsh*t.

[@Jampolo_OG]

"My ADHD is over there" is oddly comforting to hear

[@Tyrope]

Man, I wish ADHD could just be "over there".. Usually it's "Over there, up there, down here and... well, there it goes again."

[@nardalis4832]

XD yeah its like "oh okay.. you got it too.. finally I'm not *that* crazy!"

[@mathmusicandlooks]

I would LOVE for my ADHD to be some random other (often invisible) person who just hangs around and does random dances and stuff. That sounds so entertaining.

[@XaadeTheBlade]

@@mathmusicandlooks Oddly enough, pretending I have an imaginary friend that I discuss with actually HELPS me focus.

[@nardalis4832]

@@XaadeTheBlade I can imagine so, as its like a reflection of yourself :) The same way dreams have you try to figure out your subconscious mind and deal with whatever issues you might face IRL

[@VivaLaDnDLogs]

Looks like Britt's Mum never got diagnosed either. Sad, but real.

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

The unfortunate family stigma of mental health. Same thing with my family. Their illusion of perfection couldn't be broken by someone in the family having a psychological diagnosis.

[@micholous]

Yeah. Literally like my mom 😂 turns out she did in fact have ADHD as well.

[@The86Ripper]

Dont be ridiculous. She would have known it if she had it 😉

[@Tob1Kadach1]

Same with my Dad, he's blatently Autistic but was never diagnosed. He didn't even believe ADD was real or I had it until I was diagnosed when I was about 9 or 10.

[@Magst3r1]

I don't get the point of diagnosing something when you can function completely fine anyway

[@TheAlienpope]

"your brother has it" amazing addition to the sketch right there! ADHD in men and women can look drastically different. People often think about how it appears in men not realizing that's not the full picture.

[@jackfoxx6351]

I've been diagnosed since the 90s and I'm just learning this

[@foureyedelf6151]

Yeah "Stop looking for something wrong with you. The only thing wrong with you is you're lazy and you don't pay attention and you don't try." Lady, I'm "lazy" because when I try to do something it's always wrong, so I'd rather keep to myself, and I CAN'T pay attention like everyone else can. I do try. But I can only (hyper)focus on one thing at a time. That's what I want to say. Just because my brother is hyper and I'm quiet (a trait scared tf into me by an abusive father who went after my brother for anything from looking at him funny to borrowing a coat because HE DIDN'T HAVE ONE) doesn't mean I don't have it too. I had good grades except for areas I couldn't help and stayed quiet so that's what I had going for me. *deep breath* I'm fine.

[@TheAlienpope]

@@jackfoxx6351 I also recently found this out. My wife was diagnosed with bipolar during her teens. She found out recently that she in fact, did not have bipolar this whole time. And women often get diagnosed with the wrong thing and get treatment for the wrong thing.

[@danielled8665]

Plus some men have the adhd that looks more like the "female version" usually because there's anxiety mixed in there with it. So they also go undiagnosed because they don't present the same way.

[@Paldasan]

@@danielled8665 That's what I'm dealing with right now. Male, mid 40's and just discovering I have it. Quiet, well behaved, high marks with a hyperfocus on reading. I was never going to be identified by the system.

[@Sekulture]

I'm autistic and I used to get told "you don't look autistic"

[@Tob1Kadach1]

Same here

[@gumblebrum]

@@Tob1Kadach1 i mean come on we all know you look alike lmao

[@AngryBoozer]

Funny, I’m the exact opposte.

[@Tob1Kadach1]

​@gumblebrum 😂

[@willfungusman8666]

Yeah? Maybe you don't, ever think of that?

[@FatherFigure-itout]

I'm 38 and just got diagnosed this week. Thought for a long time that I did but finally got fed up with my work suffering. Thanks for the shows guys

[@BabyMakR]

I was diagnosed at 14. My grades in school went from Ds and Cs to Bs and As. Then, when I turned 16 the government decided that I didn't have it any more, without any input from doctors, because you're supposed to grow out of it when you turn 16. My grades of course went back to where they were and continued to struggle in school and in life. Then I got re-diagnosed about 10 years ago. Now I'm top of my team at work and an SME and trainer. bureaucrats can get Fd.

[@thomaswijgerse723]

How hard is it to get diagnosed at a later age? My parents always just said I just dreamt away often and was unorganized and sloppy, but a now friend of mine has the diagnosis and basically everything he says he experiences resonates with me so I wonder if I have it too.

[@FatherFigure-itout]

@@thomaswijgerse723 for me it wasn't hard. I am a veteran so I went to Veterans Affairs and they had an interview and an actual test to check reactivity and ended up scoring in the almost 80 percent certainty range. A close friend of mine also has ADHD which is one of the main reasons I decided to get checked out is not a veteran and his process was somewhat similar. I decided to get checked out because my work was suffering horribly and a lot of stress from the past year has brought on a lot of the symptoms that I have been experiencing most my life in a more pronounced way. So to answer your question it's not hard to get diagnosed if you actually have it. They will check to see if it may be other things psychologically, but if you have it your have it. And if you want help you can get it.

[@BabyMakR]

@@thomaswijgerse723 Because I had been diagnosed when I was young and it was on my record that I had been taken off medication by the government and not at direction of the doctors, it was quite easy. I can't say that it would be that easy for someone who had not already been diagnosed.

[@SandraOnCloud9]

The two ADHDs at the end of the video!😂 And that backpack!

[@evanflynn4680]

Loved the teddy bear backpack!

[@ValosarX]

I'm interested to see if they do one where the ADHD people clash. Some of my most heated conflicts are with others like me :D

[@nicknevco215]

Like the backpack

[@larrygraham4875]

That pack was awesome. Her adhd was too😊❤

[@lacountess]

I was about to comment on how lucky these two were that their ADHDs were so far from them since mine always crowds me short of sitting on my back and yelling in my ear, then I watched that clip. 😂

[@lepruk86]

Thanks for this series. The line of "isn't everyone a little adhd" hit hard as OCD is the condition where EVERYONE claims to be 'a little OCD' and it's infuriating as sure; we might all be particular in our own way, but your particularness doesn't keep you up at night for hours on end, or trap you in a restroom for 10+ minutes washing your hands etc or makes you messy but infuriated that everything is messy and you want to tidy but can't. (Context below) I have diagnosed OCD and dyspraxia. Yes I can function mostly fine though I do get tired very easily and often need day naps to deal with it (something I've been judged on my whole life as 'lazy'). Even though I go to the gym, stay in good health and have a well paying job. Living with both a hyper focused organizational condition and a disorganized condition means I'm depressed and suicidal basically daily; I just have learnt to live in that state and survive just enough to keep going (for now).

[@Dadtheimpaler]

That sounds like it would be very challenging, for sure. Glad you're still here. :)

[@UpperDarbyDetailing]

I’m sorry to hear that. I don’t have either condition, but I have major depression/situational depression, anxiety and, social anxiety and get hit with the suicidal ideation quite frequently. So i can at least empathize on that part.

[@Zenefir]

I hope, it will all be good for you, and you will find your peace :) Few years back, I hardly understood the struggles of ppl with OCD, then I met my wife :D aside of the OCD, all was wonderful, but when it hit, it was bad. Initially we argued a lot, and I never understood why. Was close to leave her few times, but managed to communicate with her what is what. Now I learnt how to leave with a person that has OCD, and she is less depressed, we've managed to figure out, how our life can be adapted to her condition, and she became the most supportive wife I could ever wish for. After few years of hard work, now I can say, I am one of the happiest man alive ;)

[@Stephen-Fox]

"Aren't we all a little bit autistic?" is also _extremely_ common.

[@martinsmallridge4025]

Very much fits with the idea of two brains constantly fighting each other then?

[@sugoruyo]

"You're too smart and have too good of a job to have ADHD!" -- Yes and I have to put in 12h of time to get 8h worth of work done, I am constantly anxious I'll lose it, the time I put into it doesn't leave me with enough time or mental bandwidth to do basic life and home maintenance tasks so I'm constantly stuck in this work -> chores -> bad sleep loop and don't have time for hobbies, travel, relationships or anything that makes life worth living... so how about we at least acknowledge what science can already explain and move on to working with/around it? Also, is the pod Spotify-exclusive? If not, can you folks get it on other platforms?

[@MrBeetsGaming]

You just described adulthood

[@Wodfamchocsod4]

@@MrBeetsGaming ...for adults with ADHD. I absolutely do not have this problem, because I don't have ADHD.

[@FaultAndDakranon]

​@@MrBeetsGamingSooo... ADHD runs in your family?

[@CrissaKentavr]

Ahh, but no one else actually put in 8h of work x-x So of course you're so good at it when you're literally still putting in more.

[@random_dragon]

I'm so glad that I'm not the only one that takes a really long time to do things Sometimes, one task will take a whole day

[@TheDragon7557]

Britt's brother's ADHD harassing Ellie ADHD was hysterical. THEN you all topped it with the two ADHDs playing together at the end. Favorite episode so far!

[@Crusina]

The feeling of being proud that you remembered to put everything away and then being yelled at because you forgot something "obvious" and can't do the simplest thing.

[@TnDAtkinson]

I've been there so many times that just reading this gave me anxiety.

[@kitkat12326]

Oof every day when I leave for work.

[@VickiHoran-u2k]

As a parent of and ADHD sufferer, I ask your opinion. What should I do when I finally get him to do a task like washing the dishes, and he thinks he has finished but he has not. I want to give positive feedback, but the job is not done, and how do we learn if we are not aware of what we got wrong? At the moment I err on the side of positive reinforcement and quietly finishing up because I have minimum standards of cleanliness that I have to reach at least once a week for my own sanity, but I dont know if I am helping or hindering in the end

[@victork.8860]

Maybe acknowledge both things? Like Thanks for starting x y or z, can i show you a trick or show you something else I've found​. Or maybe emphasizingtheres just a little bit more to the process to incorporate into what hes already doing?@@VickiHoran-u2k

[@DeathnoteBB]

⁠@@VickiHoran-u2kWell for one “finally get him to do the task” is already hostile language. He’s not *able* to do the task. Body-doubling really helps, so maybe assisting him with the task for a bit would help? That way his body and brain can get used to the steps; that works for me anyway. Second nobody said never, ever remind them of anything. They said don’t yell at them. You can remind him gently he forgot part of the task. My mom does that all the time. Think of it this way, we have ADHD but we’re still just people. If someone without ADHD forgot to do something, you’d just gently remind them right? That said be aware some people have Pathological Demand Avoidance, which can be frustrating and tricky.

[@Veritas.0]

Living vicariously through this video and that part about meeting someone else that understands and sympathizes... I could feel the validation. Just a warm feeling coming from the video. Keep up the good work. It _IS_ touching people.

[@SweenyTodd98]

“Hi I’m Hope.” I see what you did there

[@helena2485]

My top three reactions so far: 1. When I told my doctor that I might have ADHD and wanted to get it checked out: "Aren't we all a little forgetful sometimes?" 2. When I told my friend that I painted for 5 hours last night, too focused to even eat or drink: "See, that doesn‘t sound ADHD to me :D" 3. When I told my co-worker that I had trouble planning and confessed to thinking I might have ADHD: "Nah, you just have to get better organized!"

[@JackDeWolfe]

I feel bad because this will sound minimizing - but, those all sound like normal human behaviour to me. I do all of those regularly. Creatives will often sit for many hours and work without interruption.

[@v8matey]

Them dancing on computer chairs was lit asf. 😂

[@MisterJingo93]

Same with freaking depression. Here I am, telling people I am struggling to leave the bed, and there they are... Telling me we are all a little sad sometimes. Have I tried working out? Have I changed diet? Am I getting enough sleep? No. Guess why.

[@t1sk1jukka]

A doctor said ”you smile, laugh and go to work. You don’t have depression” to my best friend. He committed suicide 5 years ago.

[@MisterJingo93]

@@t1sk1jukka I´m so sorry for your loss.

[@Ccccc5558]

Have you gotten the “have you tried thinking positively?” “Just stop being sad” “it’s all in your head” lmao

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@t1sk1jukkaI hope the Doctor lost his medical license. They talk out of their ass and think their farts are gold because they went to school for 8 years. Some forgot they have to actually learn there

[@BaronVonHardcharger]

No ADHD here, but as a chronic pain patient with internal injuries, I'm resonating pretty hard with this series. It's more important to feel seen than people realize, especially when your troubles are invisible.

[@azrani2023]

so so so so so so true

[@Isaacrl67]

I have been suffering from a back injury for 25 years (fell on icy stairs as a teenager) and often get treated like I am lazy when I try to avoid hurting my back, try to take things slow and carefully, etc. Everyone seems to think I am too young to be in real pain, so I must be exaggerating or faking it. Even other chronic pain sufferers have an air of "your pain can't possibly be as bad as mine", so I can't even find someone to commiserate with.

[@azrani2023]

@@Isaacrl67 Aw man that sounds awful. I feel you. This whole "laziness is bad" mindset in general is a bane of our productivity-centered society.

[@Northernarizonawebdesignteam]

It’s so true. Once I got on medication and understood what ADHD was responsible for in my thoughts and actions, I could spot someone with ADHD instantly.

[@huguesjosserand]

Eyuuuup

[@ravemonkey27]

It took months to even convince my husband that adhd was real when our son was first diagnosed with it. Then at least another year to accept that he has it. It has been a huge struggle for our family when someone has it and another person does not believe it. However, this past year, my son has been taking medication that works for him and there is a massive difference between him screeching like a dinosaur in the early morning and him trying to ride the dog like a horse to him sitting and learning to read. ADHD folks, its real.

[@ford_prefect1656]

Yeah, doesnt work. As one suffering from ADHD we dont want to do that stuff. We want to be normal and concentrate on our work, but without the right therapy and the right meds we just cant. Pain would only work for training behaviour that is controllable and wen dooing that to mammals as a person they should trust they will get other psychological issues.

[@Rileyy1057]

@@maciejp7829 What the fuck...

[@eliasar5051]

@@maciejp7829 I gotta ask. Are you serious?

[@Magst3r1]

But how can you diagnose kids when the symptoms of ADHD are literally just acting like a kid? "Signs of hyperactivity and impulsivity include: Fidgeting Squirming A hard time sitting still for quiet tasks Running or climbing at inappropriate times Talking too much or interrupting Trouble waiting their turn Signs of inattention include: Trouble with finishing tasks Losing things often Forgetfulness Disorganization Being easily distracted Making careless mistakes Seeming not to listen" This is just how kids act, and I did too when I was a kid, but then I grew out of it. I get diagnosing adults if it can help them, but kids seem pointless.

[@youtub415]

@@Magst3r1 My son's teacher said he might have ADHD and we sent him to a specialist and said to try on a drug to help him but he will be a bit docile. Me and my wife said no. We'd rather see him active being a kid than the drugged one. Now he does better academically and physically. It turns out he's just being a kid like me when I was his age.

[@malicstorm]

I have a strong suspicion of both adhd and autism, both from myself and a few friends that have been diagnosed. I'm finally getting tested soon after procrastinating for ages. The disbelief and denial from others when I share this is very recognisable in this. I've also literally had an ex tell me that it's just a dietary issue. So I was really surprised to see the tumeric suggestion here. good job with these videos. keep it up, because they help!

[@llareia]

As with lots of brain conditions, diet can definitely make it worse or better, but it doesn't make it appear or go away. I think that's the distinction a lot of people can't grasp.

My son have ADHD, dyslexia and dysmath(sorry, I don't know how the name in English, write numbers and math in the paper are very hard for him). I gonna show him the videos, they're amazing. He's 15 now and the school early years were very hard. Until the diagnostic people thought he's lazy or dumb somehow. Sometimes other kids bullied him. After the diagnostic everything changes, even how the teachers teaches him. He's became a amazing man who understands how smart he is! Thanks guys for talking about ADHD.

[@Tob1Kadach1]

Dyscalculia

[@Tyrope]

I know Tob1 gave you the *technically correct* answer, but I prefer Dysmath so I'mma use that from now on. Figured you'd deserve to know. Have a lovely weekend.

[@diamondly6250]

I have these also. I was diagnosed when I was 6, pepole also think I'm lazy. A teacher tried to get me kick out of school and sent to a "special school" and lied about stuff to push it, she got fired when she was found out and the school was happy my parents didn't sue. A lot of teachers also said I would not be able to finish high school growing up. jokes on them in high school something just started to click and I had nothing but A's. next week I'm graduating collage with honors. Also I use to hate reading then I tried a dyslexic font on kindle and now I love reading you should have you kid try it.

[@fireblade295]

Well, found it on google with dysmath, so it works.

[@evil-robot]

The painfully accurate thing about this is that only the minority of ADHD kids with exteme attitude problems got diagnosed. Most of us well-mannered, considerate ADHD children, who weren't actively throwing chairs at teachers, ended up slipping under the radar.

[@ScientistDog]

I identified very much with this series, so I started looking at ADHD videos and test and I definitely have it. I asked my mom and she said "yeah, you have it, your brother and uncle too, but you never had problems in school, so why bother..." Yeah, now I'm having problems in my adult life with with jobs and trying to be entrepreneurial.

[@mathmusicandlooks]

I feel you there. I learned I have ADHD a few months ago and I’m in grad school. I’ve had people tell me that if I’ve gone this far without knowing, then it obviously isn’t debilitating enough to care about and that I don’t know what “real” ADHD is like. They don’t see the hours and hours I spend trying to get a head start on homework and being physically incapable of anything other than stress myself out and summon the worst self-talk. They don’t see the frantic 12-hour hyper focus sprint I do for EVERY assignment just to get it in at the last minute and get a mediocre result. They don’t see how I can literally spend hours at a desk at work just trying to force myself to focus on what I need to, and fail. I’ve recently gotten meds, and they help a lot, but understanding and accepting the ADHD tendencies has also helped me out just as much. It’s like I’m finally learning the rules of the game of “*my* life”.

[@InvadersDie]

So, you want to do speed to be more productive or what's up?

[@v3ru586]

Sounds similar to my mom. "The school psychologist said you don't have any problems because you're so smart. So stop pretending to struggle and do your work"

[@v3ru586]

We don't *want* meds to be more productive, we *need* meds to reach the normal level of productivity

[@taurus600]

I've got ADD myself, basically take your ADHD, and take the hyperactive part out. I often zone out and everything just pauses. The trick is, figuring out how to work around it. Your mind is immensely powerful. Learn how to use your ADHD to be productive, rather than letting it beat you down. In today's society its hard NOT to have attention disorders, with everything moving so fast paced. I'm not claiming it's easy by any means, but you can train your mind to make it more bearable. Love you guys and your content ❤

[@HistoryScope]

If someone says 'Everyone has a little ADHD/Autism/OCD/etc." There is 1 really good reply that always shuts them up: "You're right, just like everyone is a little bit pregnant" I think it makes people understand how silly the idea is.

[@nexustom5823]

Adhd is very and much more relatable than any other condition so I don't think is entirely wrong

[@MinesAGuinness]

Why would you want to shut someone up, instead of informing them about our conditions? They'll go away knowing no more than before, and you'll never find out if they share those conditions, too.

[@Nabuchodonozord]

Wow, so your response to someone talking about a spectrum is a binary pregnancy. Genius. /s

[@sagarah8217]

The doctor who made up ADHD confessed it was a lie just to push medications.

[@katwitanruna]

I love this response and I plan to take a pick of your comment and throw it in the family discord. It will be most appreciated.

[@GalaxyDragonArt]

I understand this feeling of being told you don’t have it, i tried to tell me friends as a group and they all just responded with in different forms either “No no we would have noticed, you don’t have anything” or just “No there’s no way you have ADHD. It’s really sad when you try to tell the people around you and they just shoot you down.

[@anewbimproves5622]

I got a late diagnosis, and something I struggle with is explaining how the meds work miracles, but those miracles all get absorbed fixing the small things. I can wake up and get to work on time now, I'm not constantly feeling like I'm in a daze, and I can work in an office without every conversation or ringing phone drowning out my ability to think. It's awesome. But I get home at the end of the day and I'm still too mentally exhausted to cook anything for dinner or do anything at all productive. Sometimes it feels like being an adult is a full-time job all by itself, but I can barely cope with the full-time job that pays money so the whole "being an adult" job just isn't viable for me.

[@asigwalt6098]

I love how they subtly show the mom had ADHD.

[@JacobL228]

It was the opposite when my brother was diagnosed. I have it and our dad has it, and everyone around him could tell he had it too, but he was so addiment that there was nothing wrong with him. He refused to take his medication for a long time, and everyone had to just put up with him like that because it's not like we could just force it down his throat. Thank God he's finally accepted that he can't deal with it without any help.

[@JHNoble]

we knew a family where one kid refused to deal with his Type 1 diabetes as a teenager, wouldn't keep on top of his insulin, and put his life at risk a number of times. it's pretty hard to be a kid and cope with the identity "something's wrong with me".

[@asmo1313]

these videos have not been fun for me, but I want to thank you guys anyway. the last vid you made, about the imposter syndrome was very confronting as I suddenly recognized waaaay to much stuff going on in my own brain. These last days have been a wild ride. I knew for a long time that I am wired different. Lots of internet searches never made me go: yeah that is definitely me. Until you guys pointed me in the right direction. Even though I never laughed or enjoyed your videos like I normally do with the other ones, I still want to thank you so very very much. If could, you`d get a million likes from me.

[@Paladin585]

Wow do I deeply understand that bit at the end. I don't have ADHD myself, but I have a different disorder, and talking to someone who goes through the same thing is like night and day difference sometimes compared to talking to people that don't. It's frustrating because most of the people I know who know about it are compassionate, but they're trying to give advice based on their own closest equivalent experience, and then I feel frustrated trying to explain it because if you don't experience it, you really can't get a full grasp on it in just a few conversations.

[@azrani2023]

I feel you :) I have ocd and know absolutely what you're talking about. Even talking to someone that doesn't have the same ocd as I was such a relief. Even reading in a book about other people experiencing this brought me to tears. so yeah, it definitely hits different when someone understands what you're going through ..

[@mehmeteking]

As an aspie with ADHD, this happens to me a lot. People saying stupid things like "but you look ok." But of course one of my favourites is "we are all a bit ADHD, aren't we?"...

[@CrissaKentavr]

Right? I'm like, sure, but no, and the problem is that it's personally a problem! That's the definition of a mental health problem is if it's making a problem for you or those around you. Otherwise it's not a problem! Some people have so much difficulty with that tiny difference.

[@SamuelBurnett-qw6uy]

Just a really good video! I thought that "I see you" was going to go in a bad, condescending way. Thankfully, it turned out to be really nice and heartwarming (and funny, she actually COULD see her! 😂)

[@willemm9356]

Yeah, I think they timed that perfectly. "I see you" (beat) "And you too" Gives juust enough time to think "oh, one of those" and then immediately hit with the punchline, breaking that thought.

[@SamuelBurnett-qw6uy]

@@willemm9356 Yeah, the timing was PERFECT!

[@KnittedSister]

I agree.. i was already preparing my cringe-face-muscles when she turned tho the adhd under the desk and went "you too"!

[@jbcatz5]

@@willemm9356Ellie’s “finally!” really hits hard too, the cry for attention finally picked up on.

[@CortexNewsService]

It was *chef's kiss*

[@Mike-xh8fl]

I know for a fact that the "no you havent't" from her Mum will ring true with a LOT of people.

[@NightLancerX]

no you don't :]

[@Neolisk]

There are countries where ADHD is not diagnosed in adults over 18. Let that sink in.

[@JustaSimplefact]

There are also entire millennia of human existence in which it wasnt diagnosed.

[@FreedomFTW]

Crazy how like 90% of the comments are people saying they have ADHD too though.

[@homesteadgamer1257]

Ellie out dancing in the rain!! Oh, I love it! 😂🥰🥰

[@ConatusGames]

Great series. Thoroughly enjoying it, and find it extremely relatable. I was diagnosed when I was about 24, and to this day - 12 years later - I still hear all the same crap when it comes up. "No you don't," "but you're so good at...," and, my personal favorite, "don't we all have a little adhd, though?"

[@davidmiedema2950]

Friend: Dont we all have a little bit of adhd... Adhd: sure... we all pee too... but if it happens 300 times a day then it's a problem.

[@Felix-nh5pw]

I love how everybody has a diagnosis here. Feeling normal is much rare in this wold now.

[@timbot87]

I was diagnosed at 6 years old while my best friend got his diagnosis at 40, I'm sorry for the struggle of anyone who hasn't been diagnosed properly and see your struggle. You're all strong.

[@V0r4xiz]

Everyone with ADHD felt that first scene and loudly spoke along with mom's answer "No, you don't." Cause most of us (over the age of 25) have been there

[@simbiat]

One of the best quotes about ADHD I heard is "we all sometimes have symptoms of ADHD, but the main difference is how consistent they are" or something along the lines. It just gives you perspective. Yes, we all can relate to some portion of ADHD, we all had moments of lack of attention or hyperfocus or forgetfulness or whatever else, but difference between having those once per year (or even if once per month) and having it daily or even hourly or even every minute... It's huge.

[@knifeyonline]

I like the "Aren't we all a bit ADHD" like... hmmm yeah. We are all a bit unable to focus on what we want, can't hold down a job, feel useless and suicidal. I mean... I guess? Maybe it makes a huge difference if you're a little bit vs a lot though?

[@FrankFurther]

Everyone feels like that some of if not most of the time. People are just deluded into believing there are some people out there that are always happy, focused and content. It doesn't exist

[@BossBast1]

​@FrankFurther exactly, I suffer from everything mentioned in the series, but still can work and feel normally. Do I have it or am I just lazy and socially awkward? Because everyone struggle with something that is typical for ADHD...

[@ronpetersen2317]

Most of that is more about deep depression and self esteem.

[@anonymouscommenter8820]

​@ronpetersen2317 That's how some people with ADHD end up with those problems because they keep following neurotypical standards but for some reason they can't keep up with it and they don't know problem. I mean, they know the problem but they don't know why they're like that. Some keep denying they have a problem. Some address it and try to fix it and unknowingly follow a typical ADHD strategy to cope with it. Feeling different and not knowing why can impact one's self-esteem and could lead to depression if they just give up because they can't do things a normal person can do. Knowing you have ADHD can be helpful because now you identified the problem and you learn to accept it and feel like you found your community who shares your pain, and then you can finally do tasks in ADHD standards, not the neurotypical ones.

[@ronpetersen2317]

@@anonymouscommenter8820 It just sounds like more issues going on at that point.

[@TheME2Legion]

I liked the end when they depicted how the adhd people could see each other it really explains how I feel since we see things a certain way

[@henriettenohr]

This i so relatable, but with a twist 😅 I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was a kid, so no onequestioned that. However, when I was diagnosed with Asperger‘s as an adult. A lot of people I know would go, “but you can’t have autism, you are to normal.” And when I was trying to describe the reasons I had autism they would say things like “ that’s just social anxiety that’s just normal, what you can’t stand high noises? many other people can’t do that too.” I believe people have less respect for diagnosis when you get them as an adult in general.

[@ford_prefect1656]

I mean, if you were diagnoseed whith ADHD and got medical as well as psychological therapy it could also be that some of yout autism traits are masked very well, as psychological treatment of ADHD and Autism is quite similar. At least I think, that happend to me.

[@sheilamartin880]

This really resonates with me. I'm 43 and have just been diagnosed and when I told my mom she was like "I don't think you have ADHD, you're not hyperactive like your nephew". When I explained to her that females are often overlooked because they present differently than males most of the time and started explaining the symptoms that explained a lot of my behavior my entire life she said "Well I do a lot of that stuff to, it's probably just because that's the way you were raised and learned from my example". I told her no because my sister was also raised by her and doesn't do any of the things that are considered symptoms and that she's probably undiagnosed ADHD too because it is genetic but can skip family members and she said "Huh, maybe I should talk to my doctor". I'm glad she had a realization and didn't keep denying my diagnosis. It's actually helped us both a lot understanding why we do the things we do and not just wondering why we can't function like "normal people". We are normal, just different.

[@SeraphsRose]

My mum had several lightbulb moments when I discussed my diagnosis with her, she's accepted I've gotten it from her

[@lizcomery7283]

Very relateable 😂 It's a similar deal if you're a woman on the autistic spectrum - you are not believed because women are on average a lot better at masking: "No way, you're just eccentric!"

[@Lyme_lyte]

I have recently been an autism awareness course and the lad taking it said 80% of women are diagnosed as being bipolar and medicated for that condition when in fact that are actually autistic!!!

[@thedigitalautist]

Preach. Also... "But you don't look autistic!" I'm sorry, Deborah, what exactly do you think an autistic person is supposed to look like?

[@SparkyShepard]

Love it how the ADHD turned now into a Jojo stand situation where people with ADHD can see others ADHD

[@SirNomad]

Diagnosed as a kid, but parents didn't tell me...then they passed away before ever telling me. Diagnosed (again) as an adult and it explained so much. So... BTW love your channel. :-)

[@LHyoutube]

Holy shit! Do you at least in hindsight think that they acted on the childhood diagnosis in helpful ways to accommodate your condition? I guess I'm asking whether you think they withheld it from you to protect you (admittedly misguidedly) or because they did not accept the diagnosis was true?

[@BossBast1]

Do you take any medication. Does the diagnosis change anything for you?

[@JackDeWolfe]

I think there are some valid reasons why people are skeptical. For a start, you can get a diagnosis by simply asking for one. The test for ADHD in the UK is a 1-page form which basically asks "do you have ADHD?". If your regular doctor isn't convinced and won't prescribe for it, you can go private and then it's basically guaranteed. Secondly, my own doctor tells me ADHD always presents in childhood. It can cause serious problems with learning in the classroom without support. If your mom is skeptical, then you should be skeptical. Most of the time when I hear people talk about their 'ADHD brain', they are describing perfectly normal human behaviour, which they are convinced is a pathology which needs to be treated. If you know someone who truly has ADHD, I can tell you that it is apparent very quickly, and that's in no way a bad thing - one of my friends considers it a superpower.

[@MikeFinney]

“don’t we all have a little ADHD” 🤦 Sad when people say that. That’s a myth. Promising video. Will rewatch. 👍

[@soundscape26]

Used a ton for OCD as well... "we're all a bit OCD".

[@LHyoutube]

I mean yes and no. I do see your point though. It is correct that all mental disorders typically involve thoughts or behaviour that is normal (and often present in most people) in small amounts, at lower severity or without any impairment of function. In that sense, saying we all have a little ADHD could be conceivably somewhat correct, and actually helpful for minimising stigma because it helps non-sufferers understand ADHD as being an (admittedly much more extreme) example of something they can actually understand from their own lived experience. It is a bit like people understanding that depression is a much more debilitating and longer-lasting variant of the way that everyone might have an inexplicably low mood for a day for no apparent reason. But obviously ADHD as a diagnosis only exists when those symptoms reach a point of clinical significance, so in that sense saying we all have a little ADHD is factually incorrect. In that sense it could have the flipside of the helpful effect because people might incorrectly assume that full-blown ADHD is somehow no different from their own occasional lapses in concentration or focus, and can therefore be solved easily by the strategies that normal people might use to help focus themselves. Hope this makes sense 👍

[@sonictelephone1526]

Going through these comments suggests it's true.

[@beeble2003]

But if somebody said "I've broken my leg", nobody would reply "Doesn't everyone's leg hurt a bit now and then?"

[@fruitsandflowersnorway620]

You are a myth

[@Krapbijkas]

As someone with autism this is way to relatable. Great job. Really enjoy this new serie.

[@MrKrzys01]

When you mix it with the tism the problem starts for me is when I diagnose the counsellor before he can finish diagnosing me.

[@brandonwirtz2308]

Here we go, I was wondering where my fellow AuDHD'ers were.

[@SeraphsRose]

I call it the tism as well! Waiting for my autism assessment but it's a pretty sure thing at this point

[@sirpotatolord2219]

this series is really nailing it you guys, remember getting diagnosed with adhd as a kid, my sister on the other hand got little to no mental health care as she "seemed" normal. love my parents but they really didnt know what to do when it came to stuff like this.

[@rohanalmond]

Awesome series. I’m 42 and about to go for an adhd assessment and seeing this makes a lot of sense!

[@LiquidTheory]

Followed and loved VLDL since launch and this series means so much to me. Thank you! 🙏

[@mjokffsgfjs]

The last scene was so wholesome.

[@ParkityParkPark]

even as a man, the number of times I've had these responses throughout my life is ridiculous and exhausting. Can't imagine how it must be for women who don't have a specifically good home support system for mental health diagnosis.

[@ZombieBarioth]

Ok, I love that the ADHD became imaginary friends that only ADHD people can see. Reminds me of that one episode of Supernatural.

[@Soapy-chan]

love that one

[@Me-th3gj]

Never seen that one, but It had me thinking of the movie "Drop Dead Fred".

[@SeraphsRose]

I was diagnosed a couple of years ago, at 40! It's been an interesting journey

[@psykosmach6132]

The "No you don't" feels too close from home

[@TheNilesD]

Wife and I love these videos! It's actually helped my wife a lot to explain some of the difficulties she's had managing her ADHD, especially since she's gone undiagnosed for all these years. She was often misunderstood by others, sometimes even me. But these skits have provided hs both with a new perspective on how her ADHD often manifests. Thanks Ellie and Britt! Keep them coming!

[@SNiBet]

Did everyone miss Rowan's ADHD grabbing Ellie. Like What!

[@profchaos3604]

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult like a week before this series started and its so relatable lol

[@LoneWolf-dv1uy]

You'd think a professional diagnosis would help but its essentially a gateway to the most intense gaslighting you will ever experienced from people you trust.

[@rieaweer7459]

Yes

[@RavenKStudios]

Oh god, I didn't know how much a funny video could enrage me. I've heard all of these arguments. Good job!

[@TheFilmGuyOfficial]

Dont get me wrong I love ellie and brit they are great additions to the channel and I also got diagnosed with ADD as an adult. but isn't this meant to be a comedy channel? this feels like just little scenes about truma/mental health there isn't really any jokes. their have been a few of videos like this over the last year or so where there is no punch line its just feels like stress/truma dumping. I'm sure their is an audience for it just feels weird out of place on a channel mostly about video games.

[@JHNoble]

then don't watch them. this is a subject that people at VLDL think is really important, and they are strongly motivated to do this. VLDL ain't Pokemon - you don't gotta catch 'em all.

[@TheFilmGuyOfficial]

​@@JHNoble We dont know what they are / them not being comedy skits until we watch them.

[@MoxJet629]

@@TheFilmGuyOfficial They should make a third channel for unfunny self absorbed downer videos for brit to write.

[@dxanatos2]

Eh, comedy groups can do serious stuff, just look up "That Michell and Webb look" and then check out their final sketch.

[@Vivie357]

Yes! The relief when you meet someone who is dealing with the same issue, they understand you from the inside. It's so comforting in a "I'm not alone with this crap" kind of way. For me it's not ADHD, but migraines. The number of "have you tried this and that", or "it's just a headache, just push through it", or any other similar nonsense.

[@kirillpenkin1535]

The way you raise awareness about mental health is awesome!😃 Thank you, gals and guys)

[@sirlouie]

Powerful sketch. It's important that other's beliefs not affect one's reality without our permission, not just for ADHD diagnoses, but for everything. I've seen so much pain caused by that one thing. Thanks especially for showing the interaction between ADHD people.

[@BySpartan]

1:16 Are we sure thats not Ramsey in disguise ?

[@karl2405]

Isn't that joma

[@seannewell397]

Finding your people is exactly like two kids immediately playing together at wherever they are. Good vibes y'all.

[@rexman971]

"He just said you reek" 🤣

[@ShaunYoung]

Thanks for making this series, I was mid-conversation with a psychologist a few months when they asked if I'd ever been assessed for ADHD out of the blue. I hadn't, but went and did some formal tests and yup that sh*t is real. I won't even bother mentioning it to my family, I know they'll all disregard it with comments exactly like this, even though all my school reports heavily implied I had attention deficit

[@VenomousSpyro]

ADHD is very over diagnosed in the UK. Schools get more funding if they have "ADHD" pupils. So the amount of children with "ADHD" is unreal in the UK. I know of a single dad who has 3 "ADHD" children. He took all sweets and chocolate etc off the children for a week. Then an hour before taking his children to get tested they filled them with sweets. All 3 ADHD. Now he lives as a full time carer paid by the tax payer.

[@cartrips9263]

Doctors that diagnose it get a lot of money as well. So much that some even do a remote diagnosis already. This series seems to be about a misdiagnosis. Real ADHD is much more severe and not "funny".

[@JackDeWolfe]

I agree that it's over-diagnosed, especially in adults where the test is a joke, however schools don't get more funding for ADHD pupils. They get £30 per pupil per term to cover SEN support, which might not cover the full cost depending on how many students that SEN staff member is covering.

[@d.t.3958]

Man, i really appreciate you doing this show. I can relate a lot. Thank you! My favourite reactions to telling people about the diagnosis: "No, you don't. You're craving for attention". "Everyone has some ADHD, right?" "Prove it!"

[@ViewtifulVideos]

Those chair spins at the end! lmao! so good!

[@joperhop]

When my school tested me for dyslexia, and found out I had it, my adoptive parents laughed "no he is just lazy" and I never got help for it, still struggle with words. Kind of glad they never found out I was autistic back then either, no way they would have been supportive (people dealing with my kids autism said there are pretty sure I have it, to the point "you have autism, do you want to be tested for it?" was said)

[@surveywaters]

I'm Scott Malkinson, I have diabetes

[@j.a.weishaupt1748]

I’m not, and I haven’t

[@ThisHndlIsAlrdyTaken]

Yup someone once called ADHD an excuse lazy people use. Told him whatever he’s wrong but I won’t hate him for his opinion. A few months later, he said sorry I changed my mind it is real. Overall he was still a nice guy overall, so I didn’t let it bother me.

[@mjlambert210]

So this is true. I was diagnosed with ADHD just over a year ago (mid-thirties). Apparently my attention capability is measured as being in the bottom 2%. Finding out I actually have ADHD changed the way I viewed…everything. These skits are fun :), but I get it.

[@IchigoMait]

Still not ADHD, you just have imaginary friends who have ADHD.

[@Luckdragon2000]

Clinically diagnosed with A.D.D. sometime between 1987 and 1990 (no "H" apparently), with an expressive writing and language disorder. Was never diagnosed, but self-testing puts me on the spectrum. I can't begin to tell you how much these specific vids smack head-first into much of my personality quirks.

[@joea3381]

Legit got into a fight with my 8th grade best friend when i told him i had ADHD.. he said, "duh, we all have it.. my dad told me & he's a Dr." to which i responded, "dude, f*k you, your dad is a dentist.." The struggle is real. Shout out to all my ADHD peeps out there. Rock on. 🤘

[@FirebourneFred]

I have ADHD, CPTSD, and a TBI was inflicted on me at birth. I don't know a life without trauma, nor do I know what it's like to have a normal brain. ADHD isn't so much a disability, but a talent that needs a job that constantly changes. People with ADHD can be great cops for example. If the ADHD is severe enough however you can be considered disabled. My trauma mindfulness has helped a lot with my focus.

[@maniac6655]

wait i zoned out for a moment ... why were they suddenly in an office ?

[@Ochropyra]

1:53 hit me Like a Truck. Getting diagnosed at 42 made so many things clearer. And getting SEEN without a mask for the first time is extremely emotional

[@iii-cm4gr]

Greetings from Germany 🇩🇪

[@synbiosblade]

I am loving this series keep up the amazing work!

[@TrueZeldaNerd]

It's probably because getting a diagnosis for adhd is easier than finding the sun lol

[@Gr8tBlueHeron]

Thanks for this, and the shout out to the podcast - I'm going to check it out right away! I was only just diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 43. I tried medication for the first time and was so upset that I waited so long. I actually ran up to my husband and was like "it's so QUIET. Did you know you can have just ONE thought in your mind at a time??!" And, like the skit, by brother's diagnosis and difficulties trumped mine as children so I was never noticed. And yep, for sure runs in families - my sister is getting tested next, and 100% mom has always had it and was never diagnosed.

[@nevermindmeijustinjectedaw9988]

i was once diagnosed with adhd by some quack. what helped me more than any medicine they tried was getting my addictions under control. so no more sugar, caffeine and other junk food outside of big occasions so i'm not a party pooper. also no more social media, vastly reduced gaming and internet in general. turns out, doing well irl is tiring enough and you dont need to distract yourself from kinda sucking if you just dont suck at life. as dumb as it sounds, first fix all of your addications, then bother with anything else like adhd. there is no such thing as "oh everyone is addicted to at least STH", no. there are only addicts and living healthily without addiction. i get it, booze, weed and harder drugs are much more difficult habits to ditch, but unlike what you've most likely been told all your life, it's entirely possible. you need to un-screw your rewards center in your brain that addictions mess with in order to have a chance at a normal life. i'm not even claiming that adhd is the result of addiction, all i'm saying is that life gets vastly better with addictions and at the very least coping with adhd will be much easier that way. i'm way less of a jittery ocd adhd spaz than i used to be. well, maybe when i'm super excited about being around friends and had a small energy drink bc i thought i'd be tired after a long week of work, but for real, you CAN live from water, as crazy as that may sound to zoomers and us millenials out there. and you live considerably better, too.

[@luchesisuzana7643]

The fact that you've self-treated yourself with some of the things that work for people with ADHD doesn't mean you don't have it, bro. People who don't have it can have a full irl life while consuming caffeine, using social media and gaming because those things don't become addictions in the first place. It's like alcohol; everyone can live without it, but only alcoholics HAVE to.

[@nevermindmeijustinjectedaw9988]

@@luchesisuzana7643 read my comment again

[@meraxes9957]

As someone who works in Mental Health, it is really awesome to watch your skits, bringing awareness to all!

[@TheJayH]

this is problematic. Too many people abuse the term and use it as an excuse for lack of accountability. Other's struggle with the condition but without the label and acknowledgement.

[@cartrips9263]

You can generally say that people who openly spout out that they have any kind of mental problem that makes them "special" are narcissists. Especially those who remind you about it constantly. People with ADHD generally don't want the world to know, unless they also have a NPD.

[@JHNoble]

thank you for your authoritative, well-researched and super compassionate opinion. 🤨🤫🤐 you've certainly proved Britt & Ellie's point.

[@user-fx8lc7ii3v]

I got diagnosed with ADHD-PI Inattentive about 2 years ago; having meds is life-changing. I have actually have a new perspective on life and learned much more than when I was younger. Now, I care about learning, which has been a wonderful experience! Don't let your parents tell you otherwise. I wish I had been diagnosed when I was younger.

[@SamBrockmann]

Most people diagnosed with ADHD don't have it though. Misdiagnosis of ADHD is one of the most common issues.

[@mehmeteking]

This video is about what we go through with people like you around us :)

[@SamBrockmann]

@mehmeteking , no, buddy, it's not. My father is a retired psychiatrist. This isn't just me denying ADHD exists. ADHD absolutely does exist. But the reality is, there is a massive overdiagnosis of ADHD. It's a regular thing that parents with active kids will show up at psychiatrists', psychologists', therapists', and other mental health professionals' offices demanding that their child be diagnosed with ADHD. What the active child really needs is structure, organization, and discipline. In other words, they need their parents to act like parents. These bad parents will then go around to the office of every mental health professional they can find until one of them: 1) Diagnoses child - despite knowing the child doesn't have ADHD & 2) Prescribes a drug for ADHD. As a result, the child spends their days in a drug addled haze, because of their lazy parents and because of mental health professionals who caved.

[@mehmeteking]

@@SamBrockmann Don't know how it works in different countries. In Turkey where (and when) I was diagnosed it was a lengthy process which also required a commitee of doctors approving the diagnosis. But I don't know if it is different for children as I was diagnosed as an adult.

[@SamBrockmann]

@@mehmeteking , in the USA, only a single doctor has to approve the diagnosis. Although, insurance companies may require a second opinion if one is to have one's insurance company pay for a specific drug. So, at best, you need 1 to 2 doctors to approve an ADHD diagnosis. As a result, the overdiagnosis of children with ADHD - and other mental health conditions - is massively overdiagnosed. We also have a lot of folks, especially among Gen Z, who go online and decide their own diagnosis. Obviously, this should be discouraged, but some people bully their friends, coworkers, teachers, etc. into accepting their own (faulty) self-diagnosis.

[@mehmeteking]

@@SamBrockmann I see. Then it is a rather unfortunate situation as misdiagnosis either way can hurt a child in the long term.

[@andersonic]

My therapists: You have serious long term ADHD Kaiser HMO that could help me: No you don't