Vlog: Never Complain, Never Explain; Cropped Wide-Leg Pants, Oxford Shirt OOTD; Classic Style 40+

[@JLJBackToClassic]

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[@lmccauley7319]

I know what you mean...I think now that we are older we realize that life is short and we want to be the best person we can be, and also we want to be content and not anxious. I know for me it sounds corny but I just find joy in the simple things, a beautiful plant I see, etc., more than I used to. You don't want to take anything for granted any more. :)

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Yes, oh my gosh, yes, L McCauley. The simple things mean so much more to now, don't they? Because... we can feel the years whipping by so quickly. I don't think you sound corny at all. I think you sound very wise and at peace. My goal in life is the kind of contentment you speak about, so I understand what you're saying. ~ Janis

[@patriciaorozco4591]

YOU ARE NOT OLD. AGE IS IN OUR MIND LIKE A PROGRAM....

[@lmccauley7319]

:)

[@jinkygermel3744]

Why oh why im only 33 buy i am more enjoying your videos than younger bloggers. I like you sooo much. Take care always janis

[@EveningTV]

I only recently found your channel, and I wasn't thinking of it as one of the places I would go to for this kind of self improvement, but rather for ways to look good as I got older. This was a very brave video to make, and you became a more serious creator in my mind today. Thank you for that.

[@sherrym2337]

Wow! I just found your channel and looked at this particular video on the perfect day for me. Thank you for sharing your struggles, which are also many of our struggles. You have the grace, beauty, and thoughtfulness I strive for as I age. Thank you!

[@phylliscloak6082]

It’s 2023 - do you still go by “never complain, never explain” ? It was great info.

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Oh my gosh, you have ESP, Phyllis! I told my girlfriend, CSG, just last week at lunch, after complaining about my headache from allergies to something outside, "I promise, I'm not going to complain or explain anymore!" I could hear myself whining to her, and I was so aggravated with my whining, that I remembered that saying--and how much I needed to repeat it to myself. Thank you for reminding me yet again. You made me smile! 🙂

[@Looloowa74]

I loved your positive spins. Instead of whalouing in your own misery you actually surrendered to the present moment and doors opened up. God never changes you until you decide to change what’s in your heart. Bravo 👏🏻 you are an inspiration

[@soyunpark1]

I love this video! I can get into the habit of complaining but then I step back and take a couple of deep breaths. Then I realize how grateful I am for everything I have and most things aren't as bad as they seem. I love your style and grace.

[@sandrasmith5943]

Such an interesting video today. I’m a half empty person but I’m going to try to be more positive now. Thank you Janis xx

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Thank you, Sandra, fellow "half-full gal" :-) We can do it. I know we can!! ~ Janis

[@cindyj.timelesstreasures7771]

Just found your channel and so happy I did. You are a thoughtful soul and we are all trying to improve ourselves. I am a more positive person now in my 60's than I was when I was younger. We are all evolving and growing...it's beautiful that you want to be more positive. Love, love, love your classic style! It's me!

[@beachreader5212]

Great video, it was a great reminder to be grateful every day for all the things we take for granted!

[@NelCooper]

I'm so glad you shared this. I am the exact same way right down to being afraid to ask a friend for help. And at the end of your car experience you were probably more grateful for all you are blessed with. You are a lucky lady!

[@jennifermaddox4726]

I'm 42 and this video made me think about how much I complain. Thank you for discussing. I really needed this. I'm going to do these things also to change my outlook. Also, totally understood the no explain part of the quote. What you said is typical me. Thank you. You are such an inspiration.

[@bonnielemmon8493]

I love your new saying and I'm going to follow that each day of my life. Thank you. 😊

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Hi, Bonnie! Me, too. Thank you, Kate Moss, for saying it! :-) ~ Janis

[@tammy3424]

Thank you for this video...I too just turned 50 this year and I am finally learning to say NO and practice gratitude. :)

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Wow, how wonderful. I'm really, really having to work on saying No. It gives me strength knowing that others can and DO do it. Thank you for that! ~ Janis

[@sheryltisdale]

Great advice, for all of us, love your natural hair color!

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Thank you, Sheryl. Oh my, it was certainly frizzy with the hot and humid weather, but that's always how it looks in our weather this time of year :-) ~ Janis

[@Ireluinar]

You are such an inspiration. I love the style, but the thing I love the most about you is the energy you're "spreading around the world". Your face and figure and hair are beautiful, but what I am drawn to is your 'vibe', as it were, because I do believe you have a beautiful soul. Thank you.

[@marizzy63]

Hi Janis what a wonderful and truthful video I broke my ankle the end of july and currently recuperatng from surgery I have done a lot of reflection and realize so many things i complained about laundry ,grocery shopping i would love to be able to do now have a wonderful weekend 😍

[@miathompson1172]

That’s a really interesting video. A positive attitude is really important. I used to be quite negative but I changed my outlook years ago.

[@jackipauls232]

Great video. I love turning negatives into positives. I've been working on this the last 2 years. I am a work in progress. It does get easier. I recite the Serenity Prayer to myself. It's my favorite. Thnx for sharing💕💕💕

[@sallyanderson4309]

I’m a new subscriber. I enjoy your videos!!!! Your such a classy lady👍 I love listening to your voice.. it’s so soothing❣️

[@cb779]

You look so pretty as always and great advice!! I tend to be a complainer and I would like to change that!! Thank you!!

[@sandimcdougall2909]

I listened to that same interview with Kate Moss primarily because I had never seen or heard her interviewed before. And her quote stuck with me also.

[@peggyshaw7541]

I like that quote too. Its so easy to complain, I do it way too often unfortunately. I will keep that on mind, don't complain. The don't explain portion really hit home with me. I'm not sure why I feel like I need to explain myself but I definitely want to stop that. We really don't owe everyone explanations for every no that we answer. Thank you for sharing that! And thank you Kate Moss for saying it. I love your videos and I am glad you're back. I never met you but you feel like a friend. I hope you have a great weekend!

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Hi, Peggy! I'm so grateful you understand where I'm coming from. It's such a wonder as to why some of us are this way and others are the other way....? Such a mystery. You feel very much like a kind friend, too. I appreciate seeing your name pop up in comments. Thank you for being here for me...for being here for every one. I'm sure others can relate to what you shared, too. Hugs ~ Janis

[@halfamo2422]

We say that in the UK all the time. The 'explain'? It's about not justifying ourselves or excusing our actions. Own them and yes, move on... You explained beautifully! It's part of why people think we're reserved, though! 'No' needs delivering in a kind way! You are a moment of calm in the week, thank you. xx

[@jacksprat1556]

Attitude...me too! I always feel like I need to explain myself 😬 I give up way too much info. So much I need to work on.

[@lennicorser2553]

I have watched your videos for a while. I’m not sure I thought of you as a “half glass empty” kind of person. With that said, I appreciate your willingness to be real in such an area. Caring more about the journey than the perception you give. Thank you for being real. THAT is inspiring to me.

[@sarahdeason493]

I am borowing the Kate Moss quote as well. I had not officially adopted a New Years Resolution, and now I have with that quote. Thanks for sharing !

[@DeborahSutherlandDebinPei]

I adore a wide legged crop pant for 3 seasons here, and then the snow and sun zero temps arrive lol. Great chat, I turned 50 this year and rather than saying it's my year, it my decade and finally all about bettering myself 😁🇨🇦

[@darcyhopkins9055]

This was inspiring, especially since you "walked the talk". It was so nice the way everything ended.

[@Cascade5012]

"Don't complain and don't explain". I Love it! Thank you. You look beautiful and I agree about finding a good tailor for your jacket. XX

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Thank you, Yacky Cat! Good idea. I need a tailor! ~ Janis

[@lmccauley7319]

Loved your outfit. So sorry your car broke down. Glad you got it fixed and it wasn't something super seriously wrong with it. God bless you always, tfs. :)

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Thank you, L! Yes, so lucky it was just the battery and alternator. Never knew what an alternator was or did 'til now :-) God bless you, too. ~ Janis

[@cupacoffeemate]

Yes! Cropped wide leg slacks are timeless! Great outfits! Lol, yes I was thinking the same thing, how your vehicle broke down the same day you shared your positive outlook with us.

[@jodycourt]

You are blessed. What great lessons.

[@gailsmail9852]

A Great message that we can all improve on, gratitude, we are so fortunate.

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Gaily's mail, thank you for being here! ~ Janis

[@sandrareinhard7123]

Dear Janis while I was watching and listening to your statement - I thougt that you are my soul sister in many ways. I am 57 and I sometimes see the glass half empty like you do and my husband like yours sees it the other way around. Changing my attitude thats what I try almost every day.... For example I am living in the country side so I have to commute every day by train to go to work . During rushhours the trains are packed with all kind of people and not everyone is decent , neat and kind... and sometimes there are "malodor"... so I just stand still and keep my mouth shut.... and think of something positiv.... I always wanted to be a wise, friendly , kind and contened woman who ages with grace and stop complaing about things we cannot change. Instead using my energy for other things - thats one of my goals. I like your personality, your taste and style and enyoy your blog and your videos very very much! Please excuse my English ... 😊💝Best regards from 🇨🇭 Sandra

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Sandra, your English is beautiful! You're from Switzerland, yet you speak and even write in my language, and I can't speak, let alone write in yours. I am in awe of this. When I hear your description of your train ride...I truly admire your ability to switch your mind to something positive, so the odor doesn't cause you so much or as much distress. The fact that you have taken the time to be so introspective and work on yourself to be positive in such a challenging situation is very admirable and inspirational for all of us. I love your description of what you want for yourself: "I always wanted to be a wise, friendly , kind and contented woman who ages with grace." What a beautiful goal for life. What a joyful way to be. Great advice for me, too. Thank you! Best regards to you, too! ~ Janis

[@LoAn981blackhawk]

I really like this one 🌹 Regardless of the circumstances, I always tell myself “Be grateful. It can always be worse!”

[@celebratecreatingwithkathr9353]

Good for you! Gratefulness is a great way to keep the right attitude! I have had to practice this to keep my heart right during many continuous trials!

[@LifestyleInHawaii808]

Good afternoon gorgeous. This was such s very informative videos. Thank you 🙏🏼. Aloha 🌺

[@pattirose54]

I tend to be a pessimist too Janice and my husband is the eternal optimist. We have a sign that reads “This too shall pass”. He is forever quoting that to me and I tell myself that every time something is bothering me. The funny thing is that the sign is in the kitchen😊 I’m always happy to see your videos. God Bless.

[@cristinamagurean]

I can relate completely to this video! Strangely enough, I have watched the same interview with Kate Moss a few days ago and I remember vividly this quote: "never explain, never complain". It is indeed an awesome thing to do. I am 57 now and I have been raised by an emotionally unavailable, severely narcissistic mother. I was "trained" and programmed to be a people pleaser and I felt like it was my "duty" to explain every decision and every action I took over the years. When I turned 50, a big shift in my consciousness took place. I realized that I have struggled all my life to get out of the mentality that the glass is always half empty. This negative way of thinking was all I knew. It took me 7 years to change everything and thanks to the magic of reading and the internet I am now a happy, optimistic person. Congratulations on your beautiful birthday resolution and I wish you all the best and good luck! Big hug from Transilvania

[@lindakelly2691]

Thank you for this lovely video. I have recently come across your channel and love it! I am your age and also have a similar style ‘French chic’ and classic. You are so elegant and beautiful with and without makeup! Talbots looks like a great store. Talbots please come to New Zealand!

[@oliviamendoza2773]

Thank you, loved it, really helpful. Outfits outstanding. So sorry for your car problems.

[@soniafg7018]

Congratulations for that change in your attitude, that will bring more good things in to your life, for sure!! keep on being positive 👍💕

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Sonia, thank you. I've read that like attracts like, so I appreciate the reminder. Yet another very good reason to keep my attitude positive, rather than negative!! ~ Janis

[@moinature803]

Haha! I went in two days ago and did not realized they had only moved and not closed. So glad. The petite pants are a very good fit for me and I would have missed the shop otherwise.

[@MelaniaRoux-Castillo]

I love your videos I just miss not having that video every week like you used to but I completely agreed with you. As I get older not let things bother me as much. I tried to stay calm specially in this country where a lot of people are always stressing over nothing sometimes (my friend) I used to do it but not anymore life is short and my health is very important to me. By the way you always look stunning. And I do have that style pants I bought many years ago but they still in style they look good and they still fit. Hope you have a good weekend and thank you for sharing.

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Hi, Melania! Thank you so much for your sweet comment about missing my weekly videos. I hope to some day get back to doing them... eventually. I appreciate you sticking with me nevertheless! I think I'm like the people you talk about, stressing over nothing sometimes. I needed that reminder, thank you! Isn't it wonderful how classic items stay stylish through the decades. Love that about them. You have a good weekend, too, and thank you for saying hi! ~ Janis

[@pamelagoodson9034]

I too miss the videos

[@glendagai]

Great video. After many years as a trauma nurse and seeing the absolute tragedies of life I can say it is all good. My commuting reply ..plane train or automobile. If they are not asking me to go by wagon train.it is all good. When someone around me gets so anxious over small stuff I laughingly say, is everybody breathing? Is everybody’s heart beating? Then we can handle this🙂 the other thing I do is I have intentionally with planning and forethought slowed down for heavens sake. You cannot stay in the fast lane and be positive. God has given me a life after cancer and complications. I am not going to waste it complaining. By the way the glass is ALWAYS full..half oxygen and half water 🙂

[@shelleyarcher1244]

Thank you for this video. What a wonderful message. Like you, I consider myself a kind person, but a glass half empty person. But I want to live a lighter, healthier and happier life where I don't forget to take a moment to appreciate the many blessings in my life that I truly am grateful for. ❤ from Canada.

[@militregoning9767]

Oh, I loved watching this video!

[@sharonm3283]

I am hard on myself. I go over what I said or did to someone. Did it come out wrong? Did I insult them or whatever it was. I mentally beat myself up. I try to stop this.

[@tashilhamo1359]

Love that Quote . Thank you sister for sharing your thoughts. Feels good to hear. Love you. Stay Blessed.

[@TheOrganiclady]

That info on attitudes is something I am determined to hold on to. Thanks so much! I recently started dealing with my attitude, and I pretend to pick up, with my hands, what is in front of me (my bad attitude or an unpleasant situation) turn around and pretend to place it behind me. Believe it or not, it really helps me to move on with the day. Great lip and cheek color for you. The first little jacket you are trying on looks like a Chanel jacket. So glad I watched this video, especially the last 2 minutes. ; )

[@happyhomemaker3912]

Janis I always enjoy your videos...I totally understood you conversation about being positive...I have always been but I have someone very dear to me that find everything and anything to com pain or be negative about...she is really working on that...I so hate that I always feel like I owe a detailed reason to my No's...so happy your friend and her husband invited you to join them...Janis I am always the one on the other side..helping out others and it is HUgE when I do ask for help....that is one of the hardest things for me....you are truly a beautiful woman inside and out...BTW I have so admired your beautiful hair...I am getting more and more silver in my part...I am tired of the hassle of coloring and highlighting sooooo my stylist is going to see what I can do to make this change of letting my hair go gray...I turned 61 the 2nd and I am so ready to embrace what God's given me😍 thank you for yet another great video💟💄

[@GenerationCalm]

Gratitude journals are a great way of turning you from a glass half-empty person to be more positive. It's what turned my attitude around about 5 years ago and I haven't looked back! Such a simple technique and the psychology research backs it up. (Btw, complaining about traffic in our town during season is to be expected).

[@djr6876]

I agree. Its like the saying ........ you cant change what happens just how you react to it. If im feeling down about something I tell myself there are people who have to deal with worse things, so I just get on with it. Thanks ,Janis, for sharing your thoughts and , I love those pants!

[@JLJBackToClassic]

So true, DJR, we can't change it...only how we react. And I so agree, it helps when I.remind myself that things could be much worse and others do have it much worse. Thank you so much for coming by on this rainy (here) Friday evening!~ Janis

[@SusanFreeman]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I too am married to a very positive man. He has told me that I can be too negative, in fact he said so recently. I don't love this about myself either and your words are so helpful.

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Susan, you and I are very lucky ladies. Isn't it so interesting that opposites do attract when it comes to marriage? At least, it was true in the case of you and I. I definitely don't love this about myself either, but I hope you don't beat yourself up too much. The fact that you're taking responsibility and owning up to it means a lot. Acknowledging this in ourselves also means we can now do something about it. Thank you for sharing your truth about yourself. Hugs ~ Janis

[@happytrails699]

wonderful advice to live by

[@acbrush1]

Hi Janis, I’m a half full person, or so I think. 😀 I’m a retired RN, and my career has shown me far too many times how lives can change in a second, so I find myself full of gratitude for the little things. I love your videos, and so appreciate your fashion sense and philosophy. I do find I am much more anxious now ( mid-60’s) than ever before in my life, not sure why. Exercise really helps that. I love animals but we lost our beloved dog approx 2 years ago, he was 14 yrs old, and I said no more. I feel too old, plus am caregiver to my elderly par3nts and their needs take up a tremendous amount of my time.

[@juliaboryczka1956]

Love your good vibes and positivity !

[@debmelton6422]

Another wonderful video - I never miss one of yours. So glad your Jeep didn't have anything too seriously wrong with it and was a easy fix. Trying to stay positive is such a excellent attitude to have. You are lovely and always so feminine. I love that jacket could you have it altered? It is so cute on you!! I hope you enjoyed your weekend! Deb :-)

[@goodtasteandgrace5592]

Love love love this vlog!! Waterside shops 💕💕💕💕 I need a vacation to Naples.

[@dinaoreilly9483]

Amen.....I agree completely and I, too, intend to take a very serious look at my speech to others, to myself and how to take a positive attitude instead of a critical one....

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Dina...that's the word that describes me, "critical". In my mind, I'm such a critic about too, too many things. I can just see the frown that I'm sure I must get on my face when I think/talk that way. I don't want to be a critic anymore. I want to just let such things go. Thank you for bringing up that particular word. I needed to hear it. ~ Janis

[@dinaoreilly9483]

You are so welcome Janis :-) Our teachers come when we least expect it and from sources we often do not anticipate...I am honored I could be that for you even for a moment in time ...Hugs

[@easyfrenchdiet]

Thanks for this cool and sunny video. You're totally right and i agree with this resolution. Postive attitude is the key to feel better. Suggestion to go further, this wonderful book: The Four Agreements, Toltec Wisdom Book, from Don Miguel Ruiz. When i firts read this book, i realized that i wasted so energy doing and saying negative things and also trying to be someone else. All this energy that could be used to do useful and cool things. Have a nice day. Love you make up! Violaine.

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Oh, my gosh, DL....I have that book in my bookshelf and I can't even remember what was in it... Clearly, I need to read it again, because it was quite a few years ago that I last opened it. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for bringing it up! Also, thank you for the kind compliment about my makeup :-) ~ Janis

[@4eab]

Interesting! I try to implement proper etiquette!

[@nancykennedy7206]

Allergy sufferer here too. I have a poodle and a Bichon, no problems, non-shedding!

[@mariamcleod4236]

I see the positive in things that don't look that positive, in the moment, as a nurse I see so much of the human condition. I work hard with limited resources and sometimes we have to endure abuse .. So when this happens I am thankful that I am not ill, that I can go home, in working hard I may make a difference however small, and I have a wonderful family that his intact and well at home waiting. So a hard negative day works out in the end. And yes I do not owe explanations to any one. Love the video.

[@cristinamagurean]

maria mcleod Maria, I admire your courage to see positive things in life, especially since you have such a difficult job! You are what is called a "light worker" and that is so wonderful! Glad that you can find comfort and love in your home and your family!

[@justm6382]

So much truth in this video. Thank you Janis!

[@patsypryor9850]

you have many things ,it seems, to be positive about. you are lovely, you have time to shop and the means to do it , you touch many lives with your videos in positive ways. you just need to open your mind to your positivities so evident to others about you.

[@melissaealey2463]

This was just what I needed!! Thank you!! ❤️

[@CC-hj1xk]

You're 58???? WOW, your skin is gorgeous!!! You are such an inspiration to women. Thank you for making videos. You touch my life in a special way with every video you make! Sending much love to you!

[@iww6994]

Beautiful mind. Beautiful earings😉🌷

[@JanasSpace]

Dear Janis....You are wonderful...I loved the ending.....you are on the right path now...how god it must have felt for you...all these own relevations...you did it!!!yes to that quote..love it!.I so understand...my way of thinking and negativity brought me to to getting panic attacks...I drained myself in anxiety of everyday life and things around me I can not change..We need to guard our mental health....So lucky we are to get partners that see that glass full...I have one too!!!...So Janis...I am in your group of working on change of thinking perception , ditching old unhealthy for us thinking patterns that can cause only aniety and imbalance in our bodies....and living in more peace..thank you for sharing it....big hug....Jana

[@stephaniedegange2737]

you always seem calm and positive

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Oh my gosh, Stephanie, thank you, but I wish!! I appreciate you saying something so nice, though! ~ Janis

[@echris150]

Thank you for sharing your resolution to be more positive. I too need to more positive. The jeep breaking down was a test and I think you passed !!

[@jlgmoss8425]

I wish you could tell me what you put under your eyes to give it a lighter tone than your foundation. It looks nice!

[@susanboddie1120]

God thought he'd give you a quick little test and, wow, did you pass!!! You're beautiful inside and out, Janis. Don't be so hard on yourself.

[@2021-j2d]

Hi Janis, love the look. Might you consider having the very cute jacket tailored? I am so blessed to have a lovely French lady from Montreal who is a seamstress extraordinaire and she is not just talented she is a lady in all sense.

[@mbd6054]

Unfortunately, I haven't been well enough to leave my home for some time now, and it has changed my perspective on many things, for example, I regard it as a real privilege to be able to walk out my own front gate. A visit to a friend's house would be an absolute luxury. I'm hugely grateful for an hour I'm not aching. Complaining is not an option. Thereby lies the road to self-pity, and perdition. Also, no explanations. I used to feel I had to explain myself constantly. Not any more. Medical matters are private, and too boring to inflict on anyone. So, no explanations, just a pleasant yes, or no. Friends will accept your decision, and all others will just have to live with it. Great video. Thank you, and good luck with your changes.

[@shallomjessica3190]

Im at my early 40. And i like your style n i like you😊

[@judyrichardsrealtor]

Timing... sometimes all you can do is laugh and realize the blessings.

[@lisaknieriem5852]

On my goodness! I am going on 56, and I have been angry all my life and I want to be more forgiving and compassionate towards others. I have been working on that but I have had to seek the absolute expert on forgiveness and unconditional love, Jesus. The Word has brought me understanding and the ability to look at myself. Animals, I love them unable to have them now. 😟 I find your channel insirational. Thank you.

[@suesilva5252]

I think this is very common among women, Janis. I can definitely relate, lol. Do you use Retin A, if not why?

[@bumbles3304]

You always look gorgeous. Love the shirt but I have never been a fan of wide leg slacks but by saying that, they look great on you!

[@jesswnukow]

Janis, Great message. I recently saw a quote that made me think “ Complaining is not conversation”: I hope you had a wonderful birthday. I am curious if you are a Virgo.. I am... and I’m not big into astrology but it is interesting that a lot of the characteristics are true for my personality. 💕 All the best~Jess

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Hi, Jess! That's a neat quote. It is so true! I'm a Leo. All the best to you, too :-) I hope you have a great week! ~ Janis

[@KandiceElizabeth2]

Lovely vlog💕

[@JLJBackToClassic]

Thank you, Kandice. ~ Janis

[@carole0302]

I obviously don’t know you personally, but I don’t think I would have ever said you weren’t always super positive. You seem to have a very calm and gentle spirit. Great video and, of course, amazing clothes. Side note - I live in the deep south too, and the humidity has been miserable!! It’s nearing the end of September and it feels more like July!!

[@dimitrova61]

Yep, never justify why you think in a sertain way ."No" is a full sentence.Complains attract more reasons to complain about. Thanks for suggesting the book Gut and psychological syndrome.I bought it along with another book from the same author-Put your heart in your mouth.The information in them is well researched so it is reliable.Following the author's advice can be challenging but I know it is achievable-one step at a time.

[@user-dp4bu8jy4b]

Youre brave. I couldnt get in front of people on the internet and talk about fashion or makeup

[@evephillips6701]

Interestíng Sentiments!💯🙂

[@katalingerstenberger5866]

Asking for help is huge for me too! It is usually the last thing I do, but at the same time, I'm asked to help ALL THE TIME! What is wrong w us?!?🤔🤔🤔 It was my grandmother, who always said; Don't depend on others, don't ask for anything, etc.... But life sure is easier, when you dare to ask your friends to help you out! Enjoyed your video. If I could ask where to have a dead car battery, I would prefer a nice shopping center parking lot also!☺️👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@stewarttracy7377]

in the spirit of your goal you become what you focus on, make a happy journal, list all your grateful for ie husband, home, success etc review daily and you might think youve changed overnight, love your style

[@sbingham1979]

I can definitely relate to your desire to become less negative, as I have felt exactly that desire in my own life -- I think that some of us are "melancholy" types from birth, but it doesn't mean we can't be more aware of that, and try our best to combat it. I find meditation helpful, and calming self-talk, but my negative thoughts are a tendency that I must actively combat with continual awareness. It isn't easy.

[@JLJBackToClassic]

S. Bingham, thank you for your candid introspection. You offer two wonderful ways to help quiet the mind when it goes negative: meditation and calming self talk. I love the description "calming self talk". Although I didn't really think about it until now, that's probably how you would describe what I did while I sat on the steps, waiting for the tow truck. Hopefully I wasn't talking out loud? Goodness, who knows! Maybe people will think I'm crazy, but at least I'll be a calmer crazy person! ~ Janis

[@honeyb5632]

Happy Belated Birthday! My husband and I are like you and your husband, except reversed, my glass is half full. Traffic is his biggest issue (we live in the Chicago area so you can imagine!) too! What made you decide to change your outlook? Any ideas on how to "fill up his glass" would be helpful.

[@JLJBackToClassic]

That’s a great question, HoneyB563…I’m not really sure, except to say that I’m just sort of fed up with that negative nelly inside of me. I can’t stand listening to her whine and complain anymore. I want to be at peace, content, and joyful from a deep place that isn’t affected by exterior things, but I’m so far from being that person right now.. In particular, I want to be that for my husband, and especially during challenging times, because he is those things for me. He’s always been my cheerleader. My positive place to turn to, and I can feel the years going by so quickly and that is… frightening to me. I want to make the time we’ have together good and sweet. I think the best thing you can do to “fill up the glass” for your husband is to continue to be yourself and serve as an example. That’s what did it for me. Seeing how my husband and others react to challenging times in such a positive manner. I think our best teachers teach by example.! You are his teacher. When the student is ready, he will pay attention. Thank you for your birthday wishes! ~ Janis

[@gracieallen8894]

I love this vlog post! I’ve also made a resolution of no complaining and I’m adding no explaining as well. We have so much to be grateful for and so little that requires complaining about. I’d be very interested in hearing about the diet you follow. I’ve recently developed some health issues that I think are diet related...hair loss being one. I’d love a vlog post on it but no explanation necessary if you don’t want to ;)

[@p.z.5843]

Great video

[@lindaellis8763]

You are so elegant! Great store - why can we not buy flat shoes here in the UK?!! Love those loafers .....

[@mnoeliarc]

I’ve really loved this video. Thanks so much for sharing this with us. Moving forward I would like to do the same. I often find myself complaining about things which are usually insignificant and I always end up regretting it. Life’s too short to be so negative all the time. I’m also one who feels the need to give lengthy explanations as to why I can’t do something, which I also often regret doing. My husband told me that last time he saw his grandfather (in hospital, just before he died) he was told by his grandad that when you’re older you will look back to your life and think about times when everything felt too much and you’ll realise that it wasn’t that bad after all. Things, like you said, will mostly pass. My house is currently in a total state of chaos, we’re having building work done and it’s all a big mess. However, instead of moaning about it like I’ve done in the past I’m trying to enjoy every moment, including the chaos and mess. This will pass and I’m grateful to have a roof over my head and enough money to make improvements to it.

[@lumay1966]

Timber Hawkeye of Buddhist Bootcamp says of traffic: Don't complain about traffic because you are traffic. I try to think about that when I am sitting at 0 MPH on a highway. I am contributing to the traffic.

[@lorifalwell197]

In each day, try your very best to think of someone else besides your self, not saying you dont already. Your happiness is made by you, seek the positive and give God the very best you can ❤

[@MaggieLoveMTC]

I always considered myself a nice person, but realized I was saying negative things sometimes not realizing how that came off to others. I've become more self aware of my words and actions, but the thing that helps me the most is when I think of others going through things just like I do and that I should give them the benefit of doubt, that they are a nice person too and maybe going through something when they say or act in a negative way. I don't react anymore to other peoples anger the way I used to...I stay calm and keep positive and people usually apologize to me after they have overreacted or we end up in a conversation and you see the other person quickly coming down from their anger...it's amazing! Sometimes I feel like I help the other person realize you shouldn't sweat the small stuff...at least I hope so. tfs

[@blancastojs5032]

It is always a pleasure to watch your videos but today you make me feel like a was not along in the world, I have been working on the “not complain” for a long time and no, I am not a the whiny type but at this age (57) I like things the way a like them and when there not done or they don’t happened as I think the should’ve I complain but then, like you I think about what I put out there, what people see or feel about me , it is been hard to try to change my ways, however through this journal I have come to discover something interesting, I get so critical and upset some times because I demand first so much from myself, my life, my things, my work, my home have to have an orden, other ways I will go nuts, I have being like this since I can remember so what I ve being doing is to teach myself to relax a little bit with regards to my on things so this had helped me to take outside, out of control things with an ease.... still don’t make it every day but it is small steps exercise. Have no problem with the “not explain “ always be polite but firm , when people see determination on your answers the don’t go on. Kisses from Spain