WATCH ME, PLEASE.

[@loulou3786]

no body has ever looked at me the way my dog looks at me ! always feel totally adored !

[@mizzLopez]

Dogs are the best!

[@houaidaamy2581]

@@mizzLopez Same for me i feel appreciated loved and meaningful when my cats are there for me or when i do my best to keep them protected safe loved and happy. The fact me knowing that the love between us is immensely mutual makes me rejoice and the look on their eyes makes my life.

[@ladyyaya6782]

My fur babies look at me like that too! Until daddy comes home, then they don’t pay one bit of attention to me lol❤

[@thescarletgraywitch8052]

I am lost without a dog. A person will never look at us the way our dogs look at us... 😂

[@julsg123]

LOVE THIS! My husband and I have four dogs (had six) and they do love us so and keep us young! We fostered before moving across the country and at one point had our 6 and several foster puppies! They don't judge and just love unconditionally!

[@juanitaclark819]

You made me cry. At 75, no one looks my way. I am invisible, sometimes to my own family. I was on a cruise not too long ago. In the elevator a man who appeared intoxicated pointed to me and said to other passengers, "look at that old lady on a cruise." "What is she doing here?" Of course everyone was embarrassed, just put their heads down and said nothing. I said nothing as well. Just a sour note to a cruise I had been looking forward to. It is true. When you get old, you are no longer considered vibrant, relevant. Makes me sad.....

[@colleen6375]

I’m so sorry that happened to you. If I had been on that elevator, I would have said, “Oh, look at the drunk jackass on a cruise. What are you doing here and what gives you the right to insult someone else?” Hugs to you!

[@minion7645]

I see you!! You matter! You’ve earned the right to do whatever you want, don’t let anyone make you feel like you don’t belong somewhere xx

[@manda.watching.YouTube]

How disgusting. And someone should’ve said something. You’re 75 and taking a cruise! You sound fun and probably interesting.

[@angela_tarantulas]

@@juanitaclark819 omg, what an absolute i*iot and I‘m sorry of what he said! I would have jumped at him… 🤬 I‘m sure, you are a wonderful and beautiful woman ❤️ you matter and you are relevant ❤️

[@mariabarradas4235]

You are kind...I am almost your age but I will not go down in silence, lol...he would get a:look at him so drunk in a cruise, drunk and rude, what is he doing here?.and I would give the others a laugh...lol...don't give up...we made it...many do not get to this age.

[@jossywhite3003]

I’m 63 and last week at a rock concert a guy in mid 40 s said lady I just have to tell you , you look amazing and your outfit is completely on point. It wasn’t a pickup or creepy. It made my heart sing. I was with my bloke, who doesn’t like my choices in clothes. I was wearing a simple but cool all over patterned jumpsuit, few subtle coloured braids in long hair.No makeup. It made me feel a million sparks of loveliness.

[@argosyacres]

Who did you go see?

[@miseriacanterai]

Dress for you babe! ❤

[@mayluz444]

I always notice vibrant people with gre at sense of style. No matter the age. Not invisible!

[@jenniferweed2552]

Sounds like you rocked your style!

[@CrisOnTheInternet]

Your story remind me of a movie with Sally Field named Hello, My Name is Doris 😊.

[@arivera268]

I'm a 42 year old woman, and I went to Wal-Mart. This beautiful, gorgeous lady cashier. She seemed to be 55-60 . She had her nails, white hair and make up done beautifully. After I paid for my stuff i said "thank you, you're gorgeous " she couldn't believe i had complimented her. She looked so happy and said thank you" almost like she wanted to cry. Like it had been a long time someone noticed her and gave her a compliment. Im so happy I made her day.

[@UrsulaPowers]

I had almost the exact same experiencen at Barnes & Noble a few months back. I am so glad I passed on a compliment like that to a deserviing person!

[@eveningstar8581]

I am also 42. I make a point to tell anyone, of any age, positive things about their appearance! And I can second, that truly like 90+% of people, are absolutely blown away! Like it could move them to tears! It's so beautiful to witness ❤

[@Catz-o1z]

I'm 58, the last time I turned heads was 6 years ago but that was because I was completely bald from chemo. I take good care of myself, always put on make up, dress well and love having my hair back but I really don't mind if I go unnoticed now, I beat cancer, I'm grateful and enjoying my life, nothing else matters.

[@trish1898]

I totally agree. My mom died when I was 11, my dad died shortly after that then my 2 sisters that raised me passed in their 50’s. They just wanted to grow old.. see their kids get married, have kids. Now that I’m 59, I don’t get looked at as often but thats ok, I’m still alive. ❤ So glad you beat cancer all 4 of my family members died from this horrible disease.

[@eveningstar8581]

Oh, Trish! This absolutely ripped my heart out of my chest! I wish I could hug you! I don't even know what to say, I'm so beyond sorry. ❤

[@trish1898]

@@eveningstar8581 Thank you… it means alot. ❤️

[@eveningstar8581]

@@trish1898 you're an incredibly strong and resilient woman!

[@WillowPatty]

I am now 81 years old. As a young woman, men would turn around in the street to look at me. I was married all of my young life. Now the older I get the less attention I get. My mother was very beautiful - movie star beautiful - glamorous. Getting old was really hard for her. She was a violinist and a painter. She had many other attributes beside her beauty. But when it started to fail, she felt that she had no identity. I am now an "old lady" for sure, and my sweet neighbors give me compliments. I appreciate them, of course. Living life in old age is really an art form. I still get up and put my makeup on every morning, even if I am not going anywhere. I do because it gives me a lift. I still work on my physical strength with walking, pilates, and light weights. I do that so that I can stay strong, not for what my body looks like. I am so grateful for all the years I've been given. I try to help out wherever I can and to be kind to everyone around me. And I meditate daily. Life is still very good.

[@debrak3594]

You are really well adjusted and I wish I could accept ageing the way you have.

[@julesscarborough2619]

You sound amazing! I want to be living like you now and when I’m 80. ♥️😍

[@karinswartz3046]

What amazing words! I love this soooo much. Your mother sounded like such an interesting person. "Living life in old age is really an art form." Wow, that is so true. I'm going to use your words in my art journal- Very Inspiring!

[@carolina._.00]

​@blooma1020 you are at the peak of your life! Take it from me, I'm 49 and last year my jowls started to sag and a few weeks ago I noticed wrinkles under my eyes! It really sucks! So, enjoy and take advantage of the time you have NOW!

[@phyllisreinking4208]

You consciously chose a different mind set and aging standards than your accomplished and beautiful mother. Think how much happier she might have been with your philosophy. I’m taking your path.❤

[@Mrs.TJTaylor]

I DO accept that I’m old and no longer beautiful. No longer attractive. No more winks or gazes from across the room. No more cat calls from construction sites. But, I had my day in the sun. I had my fair share of attention. I’m happy with my memories. Now my happiness comes from a different place. I am loved. And a very lovely Mr. Goss winks at me in a regular and continuing way. Life is good!

[@EllaDonna59]

Omg you made me cry. Well, you didn’t make me cry, you hit a huge raw nerve. Last time I felt attractive was at 50, I’m now 65. The last time someone said it and I felt they were genuine. Probably the same age. I had a mastectomy and that wrecked me. I feel like the Corpse Bride. It messes up with your sense of self…no matter how many times I hear “ but you’re alive, you’re a survivor.” Yes I know that. Intellectually. But I also know it’s a matter of time and it will rear its ugly head again. With age for me, I don’t care. I had my time of literally stopping traffic as I crossed the street. I’m accepting this is life. Give me some puppies ( I recently lost both my fur babies.) Some grandchildren and I’ll be happy. For everything there is a season. 💖

[@Mrs.TJTaylor]

@ Ah EllaDonna, you’ve made me smile. Yes, some puppies! As I write this, two tiny rescue kittens are somersaulting and rampaging around my bedroom, creating havoc and tearing down the house. You had a hard road to travel with your health. Me too. Only mine wasn’t a visible wound. I had a viral brain injury. I’m better now, but it was a long, long slog back. As my beloved grandmother used to say, it isn’t what happens to us in life; it’s what we make of what happens to us. Let’s make it wonderful. Let’s have lots of puppies and kittens and grandbabies! The best to you.

[@jann3443]

So perfectly stated!! I kept nodding as I read your words. ❤

[@Mrs.TJTaylor]

@ Thank you. I believe a lot of us older women feel this way.

[@K674944]

Thank you for your comment. I felt so moved by your words. I recently turned 33. I was blessed to be born an attractive woman, but I have this irrational fear of aging. I know it sounds so silly and superficial. But I fear that because people put so much emphasis on my physical appearance, as soon as it fades - they will feel disappointed with me. What you wrote made me want to work on fighting that silly fear. I am genuinely thankful to you, Mrs.TJTaylor!

[@willowvee5844]

Wayne- you are becoming more handsome each year!😊 Truly! I truly mean it!

[@cmarks101010]

I totally agree

[@kathybrintlinger9993]

@@willowvee5844 I was going to make that exact comment! It’s so true!😊

[@estellesmoothie91560]

Oh yes 🤩🥰

[@nubbyrose87]

Yeah - classically handsome. But he also has an endearing personality as well.

[@mbs7078]

Yes, some men age well- Wayne is aging very, very well! Very handsome!!

[@joyfulmother7]

A few years ago, I was walking out of the hairdressers, two teen boys were sitting on the curb. One of them looked up at me and said, you look really pretty. I am a grandmother in my 60’s! I thought it was the sweetest thing - made my day! I think, as others have said, that attractiveness is part attitude. That doesn’t need to change as we age. Keep smiling!❤

[@flowerpower3618]

Ahhhhh. So sweet ❤️

[@michellemerced1603]

What a beautiful story! At least, something not so depressing. Thank you for that.

[@thedallydiaries]

I totally agree with you! I think attitude has a lot to do with how someone comes across and how old someone seems. I'm so happy you had such a lovely compliment and that young boy sounds like he was raised right 🙂

[@rhythmnblues9195]

I can tell you’re a very gentle and empathetic person, Wayne. We’re fortunate to have you in the beauty community.

[@juanitaclark819]

I want to thank each and everyone of you for your kind words. I truly appreciate all of you. No worries, I won't let anyone dim my light. I still cruise and try to make the most of things. I love watching Mr. Goss. He is absolutely fabulous. Even at my age, I hold out hope of hiding these damned wrinkles, lol. I appreciate that he even brought up the subject. He gets it! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

[@WayneGoss]

Enjoy your cruise lovely lady xxx

[@tracyp444]

Hi Juanita... I commented on your first comment and am soooo happy to see you see all the love and support !!!! Bless you darling !!!❤❤❤❤

[@tracyaf6084]

Yes!!!! Live your best life you gorgeous woman!

[@yessiqaekholm2237]

❤

[@cristyglagola2448]

My Lebanese mother is 88 and was beautiful as a young woman (could have been Amal Clooney’s twin). She is still beautiful and she kept up her appearance -not necessarily with makeup (although she always wore lipstick) but she always fixed her hair and dressed nicely, never frumpy. I am taking a page from her book when it comes to aging.

[@TheFranma10]

My friend, who i look after is nearly 98 and lived through ww2 watching bombs dropping on our town and killing many people she knew , then had a hard life with her beloved husband who was so badly injured in the war that he never recovered his physical strength. I go and help her wash and do her hair and she just has the most beautiful skin you could imagine, very few wrinkes and the best smile. I told her last week when she dressed in her navy and white skirt and blouse and pearls , how beautiful she looked. She smiled and said no one, in all her 98 years had ever told her that , my heart crumbled and now I tell her everytime how beautiful she is. So easy to say and it means the world to her. she has lived a hard life when there wasnt much time for " sentimentality" as she says. She is much loved, and its a privilege to be with this gorgeous warm woman, who cares so much for everyone she knows.

[@treasurechest123]

Thank you for telling her she is beautiful and for sharing that story here. What a great reminder how EASY it is to be kind. Just have to stop thinking of myself all the time and think of others!

[@TheFranma10]

@treasurechest123 I'm sure you do , you just don't realise how often !x

[@Indianaredhead]

I watch your channel because you are a gentle soul and seem to be a good person. You are also very lovely to look at but that is secondary in my opinion to your inner self which shines through in your videos.

[@jannyhansum9716]

I totally agree.

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you so much 🙂

[@Wendy-zl8kv]

Yesterday at the dentist office A lady and her husband came in. Both around their 70’s maybe ( my age) She was beautiful! She had such a presents about her!! Before I left I had to tell how beautiful she was ! I suppose I surprised her because she said excuse me? I said to her again you are so beautiful with a smile. She smiled so big and told me thank you and you too are beautiful ❤ Never miss a chance to say what you know you should say.

[@nickysullivan646]

Totally agree. Beautiful man

[@ballet07]

So true!!!!! Wayne is really drop dead gorgeous!

[@samsyaya1728]

I was sitting outside on the bench. There was a man entering the restaurant next door. I was lost in my own thoughts when I heard him say “hello beautiful “. That has stuck with me for more years than I care to count. When I come across someone my age and they look like they’ve made an effort, I always compliment them. Their hair, eyes, clothes, whatever. You can just feel their spirits lift! I’m very lucky to have been with my husband for more than 40 years and he always tells me I’m beautiful! What a lucky girl am I.❤

[@SusanParker-cx2qe]

I'm a volunteer at the local hospice house. I'm there on Sundays and mostly greet patients and their families. I always try to look my best when I'm there. I'm 71. Last week one of the nurses said to me you've really got it going on. You're such a pretty lady. I was shocked and delighted. It made my day, week, month.

[@BecauseOfHim1111]

My 91 year old aunt passed away last year. Miss her dearly. This woman never seemed to age. Never had plastic surgery. The secret to her beauty was 50% external and 50% internal. She always greeted people with a smile. I’ll never forget something she told me. Maintaining a positive mindset was key; hence why people were drawn to her. She was very smart and exuded confidence; a winning combo in my eyes.

[@WayneGoss]

I agree! How lovely! She sounded like a beautiful person! Xx

[@lovegoodmusic2477]

❤

[@M_SC]

I haven’t had a hard life at all but not a single person said I was pretty until I was 33. And not since then.

[@karencoughlin3636]

We need to promote age and wisdom.

[@traceybanting3952]

Ok, I’ll go first. Last time I felt attractive was a few years ago. I’m 61 and absolutely invisible. When I was young I was gorgeous, but didn’t know it. It’s very sad isn’t it?

[@WayneGoss]

It’s sad because we are so critical about ourselves at times. I bet you’re still as beautiful darling Xx

[@Debbiedie]

I’m 61 I sometimes feel like that too. I know that I’m still pretty, but I don’t think anyone notices anymore, but it doesn’t matter to me. I don’t need that kind of recognition anymore. I’m stronger than that now.

[@hannahriley8085]

@@Debbiedieyou look absolutely amazing

[@kathgriffin685]

Same for me!

[@maryshores42]

@@kathgriffin685 me, too!...61. What a difference a few yrs. make now. SO cherish the present.

[@user-oj5bw7sl8p]

Really beautiful people often feel hunted, when they are young. And they are indeed hunted. Especially women, but also gorgeous young men. So many weirdos try to follow them, grop them, say nasty things, disguised as "compliments". It is not pleasant, it's scary & dangerous. So, when a beautiful person gets older, and looks still good, but not attracting negative attention of predators, it is very liberating experience.

[@brendashope1558]

Yes!

[@claireconover]

no. my experience is after 35, the comments are you’re “f*ckable” but too old to be worth the emotional investment.

[@elizabethgrinningson7730]

​@@claireconoveras a 37-year-old female, I think you're on point. When I turned 35 men lost interest in me. I suppose my youth was the only thing that interested them

[@paige4559]

I am 31 and have been followed a lot since I was young, catcalled, been told absolutely vile things, been objectified to my face in stores. I frequently tell my mom that I can’t wait to be invisible because I’d rather that than the fear I get walking alone sometimes. She herself has expressed mostly positives to getting older and getting less attention. I’m sure there are things about it I’ll miss but oh my god I am anxiously counting down the days I have left until I can feel less like dangling meat on a stick in front of a pack of hungry lions.

[@denisechristiansen4633]

Don’t forget the guys who were your “friends” because they thought they might have a shot and the viciousness of other girls/women who considered you competition.

[@cherylshiflett4384]

It was yesterday. I had an appointment and some errands to do. The dental technician complimented me on my hair and it's color and cut. My make up was done, I was dressed nicely and I was happy and smiling. I am 76, pushing 77 in years but mentally/spiritually I feel much younger. I will not go quietly! I still have value!

[@meldasharif4026]

My experience has been the total opposite to most, I have never felt more attractive in my life, since I stopped dying my hair and let the greys come out fully at 48, I'm now 50, and have never had so many strangers family & friends who give me compliments, almost daily. I was invisible in my younger years it seems... However, I do look after myself, I exercise regularly, and look after my appearance. I get regular haircuts and know by now exactly what suits me, and what doesn't. Maturity does have it's advantages and I think we should all concentrate on those more, and less on the negatives. You're a good looking man Wayne, your demeanor, and the way you speak make you even more so 😊

[@jennifera5497]

I think the last time I felt really pretty was about 7 years ago, then menopause began and then COVID-19 UGH. I try to wrap my head around being 56 and that I look okay "for my age" but honestly getting older for me has been a struggle. The other day my sons' friend (trying to be kind)seeing an old pic of me, said wow is that you? You were so gorgeous! And it hit hard. And Wayne.......we're ALL looking at you! You're gorgeous my friend

[@jeansmith3367]

Menopause is the devil - hair, skin, body - everything affected - even down to nails! I also think I also got too comfy in 'house clothes ' during Covid and don't really feel very comfortable in anything else now! Yes Wayne is a good soul - and handsome!

[@thishandleisntavailablemofo]

Whatever I plan to be the hottest 56 year old in the country 🔥🔥

[@katfayegarrett3872]

My kids are great at this! Lol. They're always like..dang mom you were so skinny and hot!!

[@jenster29]

​@@katfayegarrett3872 😂 ha mine too and then they add 'what happened?' That used to feel like a kick in the gut but now I respond with 'you did' 😂 Have to keep up with these sarcastic (and often insensitive) teenage boys

[@andyjulia]

I could turn heads when I was younger and well into my 40’s. I’ve been able to maintain my slender figure but menopause hit, gravity pulled, wrinkles set in and I don’t know what the hell happened to my hair. I no longer dress to attract others. The men whose heads I could have turned years ago, dismiss me. I don’t really mind because I had my time to shine. I accept the things I can’t change and it’s nice not to pursue the male gaze anymore. I’m 58 and a little disappointed but mostly content.

[@michellemerced1603]

Good for you!

[@faithchrissybeauty]

I forgot to add Wayne that if I saw you on the street I would assume you were a model or someone in the industry. The way you take care of yourself, and let’s give up for your skin, which is flawless. You always seem to have a glow about you.

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you Faith. That’s very kind of you to say 😊xx

[@mizzLopez]

I would agree. His inner beauty shines through so much as well.

[@faithchrissybeauty]

@@mizzLopez Yes, beautiful inside and out.

[@cjtzioumis686]

64 years old, do feel attractive sometimes, have kept in good shape, have a positive attitude. I do not feel very sexy however, which is what a lot of people mean when they say atttractive. I think its natural to be less sexy as we age, nature is interested in continuing the species, something older women cannot do. There are many kinds of attractiveness of course, but if I cannot honestly say I find 70 or 80 year old men sexually attractive, why should 30 or 40 year old men find me sexually attractive?

[@FrugieBlog]

Two things- the gaze I received in my twenties actually creeped me out. Whether it was at my job or on the street, at school, etc. it just felt predatory. Now in my 50s, I find more women, especially women in my age category- offer compliments more frequently. This is what buoys me. And because of that, I offer compliments randomly as well. Wayne- you have definitely aged like a good Scotch. Your salt and pepper beard, your attitude, your candor- I've watched you since Day one and I feel like you stay true to YOU and that is truly beautiful.

[@lynnecurrie7561]

I turn 61 tomorrow and I really needed to hear this today. Thankfully, I am married to a man who tells me every day that I am beautiful and sexy. It's hard to believe that sometimes when society tells us that as we get older, we have no value. I have a fun, spunky haircut and yesterday I was starting to think that perhaps I was too old to wear my hair like this anymore. Today, I was out having lunch with some friends and another woman came over to our table and told me how much she loved my haircut. It made my day. In addition, it made me realize that whenever I see an older, mature woman, I need to pay them a compliment. We need to lift each other up.❤

[@SkyeSoleil]

Happy birthday!

[@jagibaba]

Yeah, I agree with you. Younger girls get jealous of eachother, but thankfully we grow wiser and I can't let you know just how many times a woman came to me and said something like " I wish I'd wear this" (I'm a performer and one of my personas are super "out there" in terms of courage 😂). I can FEEL how much it means to all of us and I always, always encourage them to go a little crazy. I need to do that to myself in my private life as well 😂

[@Lou16.]

I understand completely what you are saying, and there is one more question to ask - When was the last time you complimented someone and told them how good they looked? I make a point of telling people, especially other women, when they are looking great. It is lovely to see the pleasure this brings because you are right, as we get older we don’t get noticed so often. To answer your questions, I am lucky that it was only a few months ago for me. My son got married and I bought a beautiful dress and had my long grey hair put up professionally, I spent hours on KZbin practising my make up and … I felt amazing 🥳🥳🥳 Afterwards, my son told me that someone told him his parents looked like film stars!! That will keep going for a while 😊

[@sueanderson9860]

I agree 💯and try to make a point to do this every day!

[@donnahines5056]

Totally agree - the best compliments I've ever received have been from women - because you know there's no motive or reason behind it - they just want to tell you what they see. I compliment women all the time and it is so lovely to see the their genuine shock but also how much it means to them.

[@HFDZ119]

I'm 30, and at a party I saw a woman in her 50s. Wearing a long black tight gown and open back. I told her that she looked soo sexy but classy. She really was... Her face changed so much, I never expected her to be so touched by it. From that day I realized the importance of compliments to strangers even more. Or being in a mall and saw a white lady with white hair (similar to Meryl Streep) around 75 picking a long purple dress. I said it would look beautiful on her. She responded that it wouldn't match skin and hair because 'too pale'. And I said: I think that hair matching the skin color gives a very classy/monochrome look making it very easy to choose any color outfit.. She told me it was a very kind comment and a unique perspective. Honestly I thought her skin and hair looked so good together she really took care of her hair well without much fuzz.. I hope more older ladies believe what I said..

[@LindziWood]

Your very kind I’m sure the lady’s you complimented felt great afterwards ❤

[@sueanderson9860]

How lovely of you. Complimenting others always makes me feel good!

[@Magmamom333]

I am 70 years old and I’m struggling a little bit with the issues you mentioned so I try when I see an older woman who has taken pains to look her best, I will walk up to her and tell her she is so attractive. It always makes their day.

[@Kitti_B]

Nobody has ever really gazed at me or looked at me that way. I've always been invisible. Always. People usually told me when I was a teen or in my earlier 20s that was ugly. I could only find men who liked me online. So I guess I'll be fine when I get older.

[@faithchrissybeauty]

Hi Wayne. I have never felt more attractive than I do now and that’s because I have accepted my beauty for what it is, my beauty, my standard. When I was in my 20s and 30s I was gawked at because of my physical appearance and I was so consumed with body image. I now have white hair that I stopped dying about a year ago, and I get a lot of compliments about my white hair from much younger people, male and female. The compliments I receive now at my age feel so genuine and I think it’s because I have never felt more confident about who I am. Just yesterday a friend of mine paid me a compliment, she told me I was beautiful inside and out and she loves my style. She reminded me that as women, we need to pay compliments to each other and learn to accept the compliment. This is a great video Wayne.

[@WayneGoss]

This is great to hear! Makes me happy xx

[@HealthyDisrespectforAuthority]

Before the white.. were you a ginger? I am and mine is going white now.. I kind of relish my Lily Munster wings.

[@maryshores42]

@@HealthyDisrespectforAuthority I call them my money pieces !

[@faithchrissybeauty]

@@HealthyDisrespectforAuthority I had dark brown hair, almost black. I started greying in my late 20s and eventually added highlights. I stopped coloring my hair in December 2023.

[@mojo9467]

@@HealthyDisrespectforAuthorityMe too, my hair is now a mix of white and ginger so most of the time it just looks blonde, I have to say I love the no maintenance colour!

[@karenhecht2342]

What a great question! And you are so correct in saying this is especially true for women. I’m 78 & truthfully don’t turn heads anymore😂. But I do have some people in my life who still compliment me now & then. But it always seems to still be in the realm of youth…..”you don’t look your age”….you look good for your age”…”no one would guess you’re old😂” Our society seems obsessed with never growing old. Thanks!❤

[@hayleyreid7889]

Agreed. However, growing old is a privilege that many do not get to enjoy! 💙

[@Ewok91]

Thank you for talking about this. It's not talked about this enough. I can't remember the last time I felt attractive

[@WayneGoss]

I’m sorry you’ve not felt attractive for a long time. We are all attractive in our own ways. Be it, personality, looks, big heart, empathy, it’s not just the outside shell xx

[@ItsSuzanR]

I want to tell you that you ARE beautiful! Very pretty and you have great skin! I looked at your profile pic and you are lovely!

[@Tara-oy5ni]

Oh Wayne, this really touched me. I'm 54, and I take care of my skin, and am doing my best to age as well as I can. I continually try to grow and evolve as a person, and I know life is about far more than one's physical appearance. Yet, I don't want to be invisible. I don't want to be hurt by it, but I am.

[@AndreaCrisp]

Having gone through menopause early and developing MS, losing waay too much weight with all of the health issues... I'm in my 40s, but I feel and often look like I am dying. It's been a long time since I've felt attractive. Prior to this everyone always thought I was 10+ years younger than I am. I feel like I wear more makeup now just around the house so I don't feel so horrible about myself. Bobbie Brown's Jones Road Miracle Balm gives me the pickup I need. Thanks for being you Wayne. Fabulous inside and out. Much appreciated.

[@Melissa55]

I do think we’re trying to do that in the older 65 plus community. A lot of us that do videos in the older group are stressing how we still feel sexy and we still feel vibrant and we still feel attractive. And I think we really do. So I’m hopeful. What you’re saying is entirely true, but I am hopeful that the older generation of KZbinrs that we have now can show younger people that you really are the same person no matter your age. And I hope that they will realize that, because it makes people less afraid to grow older. Like you said growing older is a blessing and I just hope people can realize that and live their lives accordingly. You are a handsome man and I hope you always always know that.

[@ItsMeHello555]

I don’t look for others to make me feel any way at all. That’s a problem, people. Judge for yourself! As we age, we should become less and less dependent on another’s opinion! I take care of myself, FOR me. And partially so I can be here a long while for my son. Some people are not born with any beauty on the exterior. They learn this early on, I think. What makes me feel great these days? Connecting with anyone in conversation. Really, truly engaged in the exchange. That’s what is real.

[@michellemerced1603]

What a beautiful lesson and words.

[@ItsMeHello555]

@@michellemerced1603 , and your kind words are appreciated. Thank you. ❤

[@sherryalexander2421]

I am a 63 year old female. Honestly cannot remember the last time someone told me I was beautiful or attractive. I don't know the last time I felt attractive or good about my outward appearance. As I get older, people comment on the inner beauty, not the outer beauty. I find myself looking at older woman and men and appreciating their appearance. When I notice something special about a women's appearance, I will kindly tell them. Women do not compliment other women enough. I try not to notice the lack of glances, stares and smiles ... I used to think cosmetic surgery was the answer, but not anymore. There are more important things to spend my money on! 😊

[@Sofiav1088]

I was overweight and depressed all of my 20s. I didn’t feel attractive. In my late 30s now, I’ve become healthier than ever, and I feel attractive , and light on my feet. I feel healthy and comfortable in my skin. I almost never get cat calls, etc., but I’m okay with that. The last time I felt attractive, it’s today! You, Wayne Goss, are incredibly attractive. And so graceful. Timeless beauty you 💖

[@moonlightshadow2664]

Every day is a bonus. I feel lucky and blessed to have the privilege of getting older. I've lost so many people who've died, young, and old. People who were very close to me. As I get older I find I think about them even more, and how much they lost out on life. I'd love to see them again now. Nobody wants to look or feel old. It's not easy, but we're lucky, and it's a gift and a privilege.

[@Grannysouth]

I'm 76. I feel attractive all the time because I have confidence, smile and am happy. The last time a younger man flirted with me was last week but it happens a good bit. My husband makes me feel attractive every day though and tells me that too.

[@sueanderson9860]

I love that you feel like this!, 😊

[@nikkipayne9940]

I turned 64 last week and I haven't felt attractive or been gazed upon for a long long time. You're so right that as we age we become invisible. I hate it. I must admit I love complimenting ladies and gents. I love the smile. Xx

[@renatanolde9177]

Couldn’t agree more , I’m 43 I don’t get 1/3 of the gazes / stares people approaching me as when I was in my 20’s. It’s different , but slowly I’ve gotten used to it . I’m just happy I’m somewhat healthy , have a family , and as with many women my age , I’m just trying to age gracefully counting my blessings everyday . But I totally understand what you’re saying. Last thing , you look good Wayne . I would totally approach you if I saw you. Sorry if I’m rude but I would . You seem like a chilled guy .

[@angeliabearden6709]

I just recently lost my husband of 35 years. He made me feel so beautiful and special. I am 56 years old and am admitting , since his death, I have let myself go. Some days are harder than others

[@deniselubken7132]

I have the same situation. Hugs

[@ballet07]

I recently lost my mom and can relate fully. Time takes time. You will rise again. I felt frozen and stuck in mud. No energy. That is grief. Sit in your grief until you are ready. 💜

[@beyond50skin]

Almost 59 🙋🏼‍♀️. I felt attractive yesterday. I put a little makeup on and put a new outfit on a complete pick me up! Can’t remember when someone else made me feel attractive😊 Thanks so much for this message❤

[@rosanaromero3544]

@@beyond50skin as soon you feel attractive for yourself is more than enough!! Live your life, do whatever you want, do not wait approval from anyone,, you are so beautiful in different age..

[@jajarounette95]

You are beautifuk

[@jajarounette95]

Beautiful

[@maryweavergouwens4737]

My husband said I looked nice as we sat on the couch watching TV last week. It came out of the blue! And then he continued with you always look good! Wow! Two days ago, someone said my eyeglasses were cool and they matched my eyes. Does that count? It made me feel good. But those incidents are usually on days when I wear make up. Mom never left the house without it, and I have followed her example. Thank you for keeping me current. I am 73 years old.

[@WayneGoss]

Yes all the compliments count! Wonderful darling xx

[@mariaguzman8953]

Your husband is a keeper ❤ what a lovely man. I love to give people compliments on the little things, you never know how much they might need to hear it. Lots of love to you and your hubby xx

[@savanna.shares]

Watching this as a 26 year old first time mom. I don’t know who I am, I don’t feel like myself, I don’t look like myself. I want to feel attractive to myself again.

[@jessaceto8818]

I was here thinking the same thing. I’m a 36 year old mum of too - you won’t ever feel like yourself ever again. But there’s beauty in that, you are a whole new person, a brand new BEAUTIFUL diamond. ❤❤ you will feel it again my love. You are the most beautiful person in the world

[@yuhz1m1]

((((HUGS))))

[@mariaguzman8953]

@@jessaceto8818 Can’t echo this enough, give your body time to heal, to rest. You’ve been through a lot physically and will continue to go through a lot raising and focusing on your little ones, it’s hard to put yourself first, some days you will forget to brush your hair - but you will not only get back to being yourself but a new even more confident one. ❤

[@shaddelossantos2931]

Hugs @savanna.shares @jessaceto8818... Beauty comes in loving ourselves, being kind to our body and soul ❤️ don't let anything else or anybody else dim it otherwise

[@lollsazz]

It took me 3 years and another child to feel mostly like myself again :) Exercise, healthy food, good people around, feeling like you're accomplishing something helps :)

[@teletubbiestunetwister9570]

As a woman in her 50s, the decrease in the gaze is such a relief. Having someone find you attractive, or having people find you attractive, does not equal feeling good about yourself. Nor does it equal safety. I am way happier now that my age is my invisibility cloak. I wear what I like and feel gorgeous most days - but no one notices. It's effin brilliant!!

[@bobbiegoodman3601]

Wow! This was a good reminder to me and how I need to make my husband feel like he's the most attractive man in the world. Thank you for sharing this today.

[@caroler4297]

At 71 years old I feel I"m allowed to tell another woman if she looks good, I woman came into a restaurant, was with 3 children, she was dressed in a casual Tee dress but was so pulled together, her hair was in braids, her lip color was fantastic with her skin tone, her jewelry gave her a finished touch. I got up from my seat and walked over and whispered to her that she looked beautiful and if no one had told her, I was telling her. She almost cried. We women need to tell each other positive things because we just don't know when that last positive comment was made to someone. Telling her made her feel good, and her response made me feel wonderful.

[@TheFranma10]

Yes, This, my daughters friends always say I am like "the lovely lady in the nightclub, who tells all the girls how fabulous they are " I do tell people often they look good and recently a lady in Mark's and Spencers told me I'd made her day as this was her first day out of the house since her husband had died nearly a year ago, she sashayed out of the store smiling and I was happy I'd made her day! It's the little things .

[@jeansmith3367]

I hate myself - I look in the mirror and feel depressed. If I put make up on I look just the same but with make up on! However, I still believe ageing is a privilege denied to so many, and then I don't feel bad at all - in fact I feel embarrassed for thinking about how I look. I certainly wouldn't like to be young these days - we didn't have pressure like there is today - but whatever your age, embrace life 🥰

[@WayneGoss]

Ageing is a privilege for sure. ❤

[@M_SC]

❤

[@TwoShedsJackson]

@@WayneGossToo right! Every day we’re above ground is a blessing!

[@JacintarioTV]

Wow! Thank you for making this video. It brought tears to my eyes. Your points are just the tip of the iceberg for older people, specially for women. I am 63 and I can't remember the last time I received a compliment! Women turn invisible with age. I had a deep life crisis at 50 (many reasons, but this invisibility was one of the factors). One of the things that helped me was starting to use makeup again. I could go on and on about this subject, but you're comments are part of my inner monologue quite constantly. I think it's something that needs to be more talked about!

[@Dianne-j4l]

As a 65 year old, I do understand, I think it’s very important to feel confident and beautiful within yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror everyday and remind yourself, hey girl, you’re doing ok 😊 I also believe we need to reach out and compliment others. Sometimes that’s all people need in their day. Kindness and love awe worth so much, Wayne, you are fabulous inside and out 🥰

[@VibrantSki]

Thank you. If you feel attractive, you project that, no matter what. We create our own realities 100%.

[@annekrystowski]

It’s been awhile, can’t lie - and I’m 46. I’m trying very hard to be that voice of positivity so as not to rely on anyone but it’s tough. Thank you for your video, it always helps to know there are so many beautiful souls out there, inside and outside. Much love from a Canadian ❤️🇨🇦

[@KelBo18]

Being self assured and comfortable in your own skin, I feel makes a person attractive. I think I look my age, and there’s nothing wrong with that. I used to be more critical about my looks when I was younger. My husband starts each morning saying “good morning beautiful “, and as a 61 yo woman I love the way he looks at me after 30+ years. Love you Wayne! xx

[@MBFORTHEWIN]

I started to noticed the lack of being noticed the other day. I desperately wanted to cling onto it even though I’ve hatted the excessive unwanted attention my entire life. I don’t know who I’m gonna be going forward but being noticed is never gonna come back, the only thing that can change in my favor is how I feel about it. And I’ll not let this take me down, I will not! I have to find a way to feel worthy even if none else agrees. Depending on people to validate me feels like a sure path to self loath.

[@FairyDee123]

This is exactly the way I feel! 💝

[@berelinde]

Most people keep their youthful looks for quite a while. They look much the same at 40 as they did at 30, but at some point, they hit the middle age point and start showing their years. It's different for everyone, but it does happen, and then, as you say, they become invisible. For me, the upside has been that I've gotten warnings at traffic stops because I remind the policemen of their mothers. But last week, at a farmer's market, a man around my age tried earnestly to strike up a conversation. I'm managing an illness, so my head was covered in a scarf, no makeup, and it was a chilly day, so I was wearing conservatively fitted layers, but it was nice to know that even at my age, and sick as I am, somebody thought I was pretty.

[@DawnLenn]

Honestly, I don't remember for either of those questions. My ex cheated on me with a girl 20 years younger. It was a huge blow to the self esteem. I'm better now, but still often feel like my attractive years are behind me.

[@Eaw13]

DawnLenn, him cheating on you has no reflections on you. It’s his lack of self esteem in himself, his lack of communication skills to tell you what he wanted or needed . cheating gave him a short bullshit reward for himself. Probably hard for you to believe but you are better off not being around a disloyal shitty person. Hang in there

[@rosanilebron1566]

So sorry...it is not an easy quest to feel the best after that kind of heartbreak.

[@sw6255]

You don't need love from a perv who doesn't see the skewed morality of fucking a person 20 years younger than himself.

[@sw6255]

You don't need love from a perv who can't see the skewed morality of f*king a girl 20 years younger than himself

[@bridgetmartin1]

I get more compliments now that i ever have im 61 now and feel fabulous as an older woman , i have loads more confidence than i had when i was younger , i look after myself a lot more than i ever did 😊

[@elidao2591]

Everyday my husband tellls me how beautiful I am. Even if I look like crap or look it😂 I am in my late 60s and we still like and love each other. I became invisible in my 40s but when I get home my husband always makes me feel beautiful and loved. Because of him I have learned to love myself, my small waist and my crazy hair. I am not sure I am answering your question but there it is 🤗

[@WayneGoss]

Love that!❤

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Wayne, very interesting subject. I learned a long time ago, not to value my self worth by my physical appearance. There will always be someone more beautiful than what we think we are. As I have aged that has become more of a reality to me, and I am so grateful that I have been able to build self-worth from within. Today, when I look around me and see all of these young women getting procedures that make them all look alike and at the same time losing their uniqueness. It makes me very sad. I have always believed that what we give out we get back in return. If we radiate love, it will be returned to us two fold. Being loved is a wonderful thing beyond our physical being. I say this as an almost 86-year-old woman who is enjoying aging naturally. 💕

[@mtothethree5412]

My husband is a bit older than me and he's told me that one of the worst things about aging is becoming invisible. He's not talking about being attractive or not; just how much we're ignored. I'm 51 now and he's absolutely right. I notice it more and more. I do my best not to let it bother me. I have lots of other things that I didn't have when I was young and attractive. I have a husband who loves me, a great career, great friends, home, etc. Life has been pretty great.

[@Reneekincaid]

Yesterday for myself ...a week ago when a papa johns delivery driver texted me after he dropped the pizza off getting my number off the pizza order and saying that I was the most beautiful woman he ever seen 😅 but it was nice❤ my husband was ready to go up there and curse him out 😂 I'm 40. Whenever I see an older pretty or handsome person out I tell them ❤ you never know what someone is going through. And to be honest wayne you are an extremely handsome man! ❤

[@WayneGoss]

Fabulous! 😂xx

[@kendallstark4302]

Look at you, Renee!!!! I bet that felt good 💗

[@andyjulia]

I always give other women sincere compliments. Everyone needs that.

[@Ladidymus]

Definitely agree with this...I love giving strangers compliments (men or women). Could be about their cloths, smile, or glasses....or whatever! It's nice to put a smile on someones face.

[@thishandleisntavailablemofo]

Oh yea girl you look 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@ggsc80]

This video is so special, thank you. Regarding your questions, I am 44 years old and I can honestly say that I can’t remember the last time both things happened. :(

[@sarahogren3697]

So sorry to hear this!! I'm 47, and it's been 3 years for me. ❤❤❤

[@WayneGoss]

😢😢 makes me sad. Sending you best wishes xx

[@LipglossAndLove13]

important message!! I'm loving that we're seeing so many gorgeous older ladies and beautiful handsome gentlemen nowadays, let's celebrate it! I love HotAndFlashy and of course your channel, giving great advice and tips!

[@WayneGoss]

Well said lovely! X

[@cavlizzy]

I saw HotAndFlashy post that she was retiring from KZbin? (a recent video that she titled that way) **But I didn’t watch it… so I don’t know for sure. You might check it out!

[@dizzieblonde2010]

​@@cavlizzyshe was talking about it, but said she still loves her "YT community" and wants to continue. The algorithm is causing viewers to unsubscribe when they didn't, ect.

[@cavlizzy]

@@dizzieblonde2010 ah oh thanks! … I just haven’t made time to watch it. But I was curious. (A title can sometimes be misleading, so wasn’t sure)

[@Sonia_PT]

Right now with 45 I’m starting to feel invisible like you said. My mom is for sure invisible to 99,99999% of the world, but she is one of the most appreciated old ladys in her small community. And I want to be like her. She is just a wonderful human being. I also try to make other women my age or older than me appreciated. By just stopping and listening what they have to say.

[@seandalai3413]

What I like about aging is how the weight of social opinion gets lighter and lighter. I feel so much more FREE than when I was young. What I don’t care for is the dismissiveness of younger folks, males and females alike. I’m NOT worth less as a 65 yr old. If nothing else, I’m a whole lot more real than I was young. I’m sorry that this reality is lost on so many people, especially public figures. Sometimes, their age-ist joking can really get me down…

[@tc6664]

well said!

[@pailwanharshupatil5107]

the biggest game changer for me was reading 'The Skin Radiance Recipe' by Mrs. D

[@luciepaul1270]

Wayne, thank you for bringing up such a sensitive topic. I just read the comment from the 75 year old being spoken about rudely by a drunk in an elevator. That is just not on and I would have spoken up. I’m in my 70s and I guess I have been blessed in life, my partner tells me every day how attractive I am. I exercise regularly and look after myself and when I’m outside I try to approach people with a smile and mostly get a positive response.

[@therealaudreyparker9966]

Thank You. I'm 47 and have been toying over just letting go and being old and invisible. But I love make -up, hair, nails, and fashion! I'm going to make a point to notice and tell people how beautiful they look.

[@WayneGoss]

Do what you like and love to do! Makeup or no makeup! We’re all beautiful in many ways! Xx

[@marygoodnow9738]

Please never, ever give up. Do all of those fun, feminine things for yourself. People love sincere compliments, so it is a wonderful mission.

[@ashleypauly4551]

I’m 39, been single for 2 yrs, celibate for 20. I’ve finally reached the point thru therapy where I feel confident and beautiful, regardless of if others see it. I work in a very male dominated field as a detention officer so I have male inmates pretending to flirt to get favors and it doesn’t affect me. Of course I’m not saying my journey is the only right way to go about things, but I do feel Ike me feeling beautiful and that I deserve to even be alive an absolute milestone and I’m not ashamed of it.

[@gilliannae]

I'm 43. I have felt the most beautiful after I turned 40. But it was turning 40 that made me take pride in myself. I was always a big girl that had a pretty face I was told. I wanted to be 'hot'. I lost over 100lbs, learned how to do makeup and hair. Thanks to you I learned how to do eyeshadow lol. For the first time in my life I was getting attention for my looks and it actually makes me very uncomfortable. But I continue to take care of myself because I enjoy makeup and hair not because of the attention ❤

[@darnitthelma4247]

Wow amazing! I’m 43 and peri menopause apparently…just thought I was tired & struggling with low Mood/erratic periods. Good for you 🎉❤❤❤❤

[@gilliannae]

@@darnitthelma4247 I am also going through peri which I'm glad I'm doing it early lol my sister is completely in post and she is 47. ❣️

[@LosAngelesLaura]

Congrats on your accomplishments! I’m 44 with a very similar story… I’m the prettiest I’ve ever been and I feel so weird about it! 😂❤ I do enjoy looking in the mirror and I love looking cute! I am very uncomfortable with the attention I get but I did work hard to get this cute 😂

[@darnitthelma4247]

@ how are you prettier at 44? Surgery Botox etc? Seriously do wonder as skin hair changes naturally as we age. Texture tone everything!

[@LosAngelesLaura]

@@darnitthelma4247that’s a great question! ❤ Notice I said prettier than ever, not younger than ever 😂 … Has my hair changed? Absolutely, but that was already happening with PCOS (hormonal issues), poor eating habits and androgenic alopecia. I wear hair extensions that look very natural - easy fix! I have not had surgery yet but I will definitely get a face lift when I’m older. I don’t get Botox or fillers. My face looks much prettier now that it’s slim and not inflamed. I take good care of my skin. Genetics also play a big part in it I’m sure but I do everything I can on my end. Do I have sagging skin!? ALL OVER! But I wear clothes that are youthful and flattering. I have a 32 year old sister and we ALWAYS get mistaken for twins. This was the case since before my weight loss. I think I was very lucky to slim nicely (mostly) but I play up whatever I can. I don’t cosplay as a younger woman. I just have my personal style and go with that! However when I look in the mirror, I do feel beautiful for the first time in my life and self esteem + maturity has me feeling cute! ❤

[@FarawayPlacesTravel]

I have never felt like I received much attention in the way that it's being discussed here, even in my 20s, so now that I'm older I don't miss it at all - I don't know if I have been oblivious to it all along or was just too busy doing other things to pick up on it. In fact, I really don't like being looked at, though as an artist, I'm often looking at others. I'd just like to suggest to anyone struggling with this that there is so much beauty and power in being the one who looks, rather than the one who is looked at. I really appreciated this video but just wanted to say there a lot of ways to think of this - and I'd suggest not trying to figure out ways to ameliorate the loss but to not even think of it as a loss at all.

[@juliehanson1175]

I'm in my 60's and I still get compliments fairly regularly. Keep a "young" attitude and have fun. Be charmed by other people and they will find you charming.

I'm 55 (56 in March) and I can honestly say that I've felt more attractive the older I've gotten. Less f***s given, you know. The last time I felt *really* attractive was this last Saturday before I headed out for my local football game (I'm a photographer). And the last time someone made me *feel* attractive was on that same day when someone I know (a little) actually *told* me that they think I am attractive. She's also a woman and she's in her late 40's. However, a guy in his mid-twenties also kissed my hand as he greeted me and later on wanted my phone number, so there we have it. I have never feared getting older and, like you say in your video, it should be a privilege to get older. Not all of us make it even to *my* age. Beauty wise, I've never had anything done to my face and I am embracing my grey hair. I wear long and curly hair and refuse to cut it just because at my age, you really 'should'. I also haven't stopped wearing Doc boots and I sincerely do not care what other people think about me (in the nicest possible way). I make sure to surround myself with people I get on with and I wear things that *I* like and wear the makeup *I* want to because it's for me. I think it's important to not lose yourself and that goes for clothes, makeup, hair and opinions (opinions unless it's through growth). If you manage to stick to who you are throughout your life, I'm sure we stick out more through personal style and grace. I think feeling attractive and liking yourself is the one thing that should take preference over getting that expensive item as it'll last and serve you longer. I could seriously talk about this subject for hours but I'll finish on this: I am saddened to see so many young women (and men) using fillers and botox in their lips, cheeks and foreheads in their twenties. Always make sure to never go to bed wearing makeup, always cleanse and moisturise, don't spend too much time in the direct sun and I, for one, have never been drunk as it's damaging inside out (not preaching, just speaking my truth). Also make sure to only spend time with people that make you smile and laugh and that will tell you the truth. XXX

[@sarahk5916]

Thank you for this video. I have been thinking a lot about this lately. I feel like I didn't really age much between 30 and 45, but now I feel like I've fallen off an attraction cliff. I dress quite well so I get a lot of compliments, but I never feel they are really about me, more about my clothes. And they tend to be from women, the male gaze has definitely vanished. I can't remember the last time I felt someone thought I was attractive. (Also Wayne, you're a ridiculously attractive man with a voice that could melt ice!)

[@stevon7969]

Now at my older age I don’t care if people don’t like what I wear or look like, I express myself that makes me happy. The beauty comes from within for me and as I meet people. It’s all in the vibration we give off.

[@mizzLopez]

You know I see people that are older than me and very often think they look beautiful or admire something about the way they dress or just a specific physical characteristic. I think it but I don't say it. This video has encouraged me to tell people more often. Thank you Wayne.❤

[@PragueImport]

I am 54, and sadly, despite years of exercise and healthy living, I never felt attractive. Exactly 20 years ago, a supermarket man told me I was the most beautiful person in the world. I was in tears then, and I am still in tears.

[@mariannedanastasio3811]

i now dress for my self now and i buy things (very few though) in colorful colors and i still put makeup on every day. My mother in her 90’s still blushed when i told her how beautiful she was when i did her hair and nails and put makeup on her. you never lose that desire to be thought of as beautiful/ attractive

[@WayneGoss]

My mother in law is the same! Shes amazing, in her 90’s and not a day goes past without her putting on her make up and dressing up! Such an inspiration xxx

[@suezm5357]

You're so right. I'm 52 and look different on the outside, but still the same person on the inside.

[@dglow03]

When I was in my 20’s a guy said to me “ You have the smallest eyes I’ve ever seen” And when I went swimming without makeup I heard a girl say. “ She’s ugly”. I used to think I looked nice when I made up to go out, but one night I caught a glimpse of myself in the reflection of the car window, and I seemed ordinary. My friend who I was with had big, beautiful, brown eyes and a button nose. So no, I never even felt special when I was in my younger years. Now that I’m 67, my small eyes, have gotten even smaller, totally hooded. It’s hard not to let it get you down and be okay at what you see in the mirror 😢

[@Jackie-kf8ec]

I’d rather be told I’m kind than I’m attractive x

[@acameves]

It’s sad. I think the last time I felt attractive was in my forties. Then, towards the end of my forties, with menopause, my body became just like my mother’s, and now, at 53, I have 15 extra kilos and I can’t look at myself in the mirror. I don’t recognize myself. And I understand what you’re saying about invisibility because I used to get a lot of compliments on the street, and now I’m invisible too.

[@jannyhansum9716]

This touches an open nerve to be honest. I'm in my early 60's and all my life I only felt a bit attractive with makeup on due to skin issues. Never was a natural beauty. Aging is hard. We indeed become invisible, but now being single I no longer have to be pretty for a man. Still it's painful to become invisiblel. But my God sees me and He gives me friends that value me for who I am and not for my looks. Love your videos Wayne, you're a lovely man.

[@helikahe]

I’m 46 and been absolutely invisible for at least 5 years or so. Sad. I used to get so much attention in my 20s and 30s and it all came to an abrupt end as soon as I hit 40… I don’t even remember how it feels to be attractive to others, nowadays I blend in with the blurry background at best…

[@BugsyB1979]

I'm the same age and I have the same experience.

[@Thepw1]

Love this Wayne! I am 71 yo and I refuse to buy into being/looking older like my mother did. I feel vibrant and have received many compliments on something I’m wearing that is modern but age appropriate and on how great my makeup looks! The best compliments come from my husband. My makeup has changed (less is more) and much of that I have learned from beauty influencers like you but I have to admit, you are a fave!

[@claireunterholz]

I m 56, never turned heads. Neither in my 20 , nor in my 30. chemo made me bald in my mid 40 . When you are average your whole life , you don’t miss other people’s appreciation.

[@DandSmom]

I think it was before I went through menopause. I’m 62 now. I do feel invisible. I don’t get second looks, but hubby tells me if I look nice.

[@womanofacertainage5892]

1. Last time i felt attractive about myself: a few hours ago when I was talking to my cat, Sunshine and I was smiling at her and saw myself in the mirror. 2. Last time someone else made me feel attractive? Hmmm. Sadly, it must have been my partner of 15+ years but as often happens in long-term relationships, I haven't felt like he's really "into me" for years. Not the way it always is in the first 1-4 years or so, anyway.

[@jeniferjohnson374]

Coming from Mr Handsome, that is huge. Yesterday I caught someone gazing at me. My husband is a wonderful person who always tells me I look good, then gives me feedback on what I can improve. But he squeezes me tight almost every day and that is more uplifting than any words someone can tell me. So much love Wayne! And happy holidays as we're approaching the winter holiday season. I hope you do some awesome holiday content!! Cheers to warm firesides, hot cocoa, and snuggly snowy days❤❤❤

[@WayneGoss]

I agree, actions can speak louder than words ❤

[@lessergirl]

My husband and I went to New Orleans to celebrate our anniversary. We went to a very nice restaurant. I received compliments from the staff about my hair and dress. My husband complimented me also and remarked, She makes me look good doesn’t she. To that the floor manager replied, You are not wrong about that sir. Yes, I felt attractive. I’m 66 years old and that made the evening more special.

[@elizabethcrust1376]

I'm 53, and I get more compliments now than I did in my 20s and 30s but I never believedI I was pretty. I think it's the way we view ourselves that makes all the difference and also not caring about what others think. I was so wrapped up in thinking I was never good enough or pretty enough that it affected so many aspects of my life. Looking back I realise now that all those snide remarks and put downs came from people who just felt inferior next to me and were just jealous. So you get rid of those people, take a good look in the mirror and if you don't like something, change it. But it all starts with you and your inner self.

[@shirleydilleshaw5289]

TODAY! I live in a senior living community and do receive compliments and also give them. That makes a difference in everyone’s day. 74 yo Compliments on clothing and makeup and just general appearance. My hubby also compliments me often.

[@tonyabower5084]

It's been a very long time since I've felt attractive. I'm 59, I would have to say I became invisible at 40. It shouldn't have to be that way in society, but it is. The answer to your second question is many years. Every age has It's unique beauty. We should appreciate all ages, not just the young. Thank Wayne for wonderful person!

[@toribern816]

I totally feel this. Turning 51 next month. Going through menopause too. It’s been awful to be honest. The past decade has been awful. Thank for this ❤

[@jannyhansum9716]

I feel for you. Menopause hit me like a train. It can be very upsetting for a woman. The changes dramatic and happen fast. Feelings of loss.

[@WayneGoss]

I have friends who are going through the menopause and they say the same thing. It’s not easy, but be kind to yourself xx

[@sarahoc5952]

Regarding menopause- Did you see dramatic changes to your appearance? I’m afraid of waking up and looking and feeling like a different person. I’m almost 45. No symptoms of perimenopause yet….

[@toribern816]

@ not all at once no… it was gradual, kinda hard to say, started perimenopause at 44, and am still going through it. Had to get on prescribed medication for such bad hot flashes. I have zero appetite and lost a lot of weight too, without trying. Other than that? It’s more psychological for me. Flying into blind rage, etc. 😂 good luck to you 🍀

[@rosyloveslearning3013]

I so agree with what you’re saying. BY THE WAY YOU ARE GORGEOUS!❤

[@yasminvitale]

I've just turned 30 and I've been experimenting more with fashion than makeup. I still love makeup and it has a special place in my heart. But I love the scient behind the colour wheel AND only just found out what my seasonal colours are. I'm trying to manifest love for myself so that I can be at my best to offer it to others. I know one day I won't have as much attention as I did when I was in my 20s but I'm hoping at that point, it won't matter because as long as I truly hold and manifest the love within and look in the mirror and be happy with myself. I'll be okay ❤ I hope you're well Wayne and for the record I've always found you to be an extremely attractive human being, inside and out ❤

[@radarlover77]

My children often say "you're so pretty Momma" and they are early & mid 20s. But there is one gentleman out there that says how beautiful I am outside and in. I'm really lucky❤

[@Diane0123]

It’s a very very long time, I can’t actually remember the last time I felt attractive.