watching tiktoks until I find the worlds worst bridezilla - REACTION

[@rhonda8231]

With that bride who stole the other girls dress. I would have went to the wedding, did everything. Then the end of the night, I would have said, "You know, you are right about the dress. It is ugly, so glad that I didn't get it". And walked away!

[@wickiwo1098]

😅

[@EllukaKurokuwoka]

Same with the date, like “it’s doing a horrible weather, good thing we didn’t choose this date”

[@mila6589]

Great response, if I knew I had a friend like that I would show her the ugliest dress in history and say "that's my dress", just for her to buy one and be a clown at her own wedding.

[@Gladys10298]

ONG THE WAY I WOULD’VE GIVEN A TOAST!!!! It would’ve gone like, “I felt so valued when so/so asked for my opinions because she is wearing the exact dress I told her I was gonna wear to my own wedding & she asked me the date I would do for my future wedding & she made that her date too! I’m so glad I saw how horrible the weather would’ve been & she was right when he first commented on my dress. It’s just not it.”🤣

[@ShrodingersHat]

​@@mila6589 Yes yes yes, I plan to do exactly this LOL 😂😂😂😂

[@malstria]

Nothing screams "I'm so jealous of you!" than a 'friend' who goes out and buys the exact same wedding dress you showed her you want to wear to your wedding. Honestly, just drop-kick those people from your life, you don't need that toxicity.

[@theswederawks]

I had a "friend" in high school who would go after any male in my life.. anyone i went on a date with, if i had a crush, even male friends. It was like this weird goal for her to sleep with any male i was attached to. Well after the final straw incident, i had enough.. someone from a different circle of friends told me that their brother had caught Clap. So naturally, i told her that i had a crush on him. Clap on, clap off

[@SweetDayzBakery]

Yesss!! I had two people in my life like this and I was naive enough to just see and say nothing.

[@NurseKayP]

My mother has a “friend” like this. I’ve been telling her for years and years that this woman is NOT her friend. For some reason she does things that make it appear that she is jealous of my mother. My mother recently told her that she had a crush on a guy. My mother has been with my stepdad forever so it’s not anything she would act on, but after she told her within a couple days she was talking to this guy and is now dating him. My mother didn’t really care for obvious reasons, but her behavior is still weird as hell. And this kind of stuff has been going on for years and not just with my mom but with her other friends. The other day an ex friend that she had swooped in on the guy she liked posted into a high school reunion group they were all in “ladies, watch out for your boyfriends and husbands because she will try to get with them”.😂😂

[@KathleenPatterson-d7s]

​@@theswederawksI can relate!

[@ramachandra776]

"When you recover from your people pleasing disease you will lose friends" - Happy to say that after watching hundreds of Charlotte's videos I have lost the ability to please people . her videos are the perfect antidote to all delusions you may harbour . 😊

[@LoomofDreams]

I had a very close friend (who's a major people pleaser) tell me once how she admired me because I'm not afraid to set boundaries. I never really thought about it, but she was right. I've never had this problem. As I've gotten older I've found it easier to be honest about why I'm saying no to something (in the past, I always felt like I had to make an excuse, so not sure that's effective "boundary setting"). Setting boundaries is SO IMPORTANT for your mental health!

[@OhSkyeLanta]

I’m listening to The Disease to Please because of Charlotte!! ❤❤❤

[@demondogmom7221]

I decided at age 40 that I was done with trying to make other people happy. I figured I'd spent half of my life trying to please everyone. So I quit... no one noticed. Well, except for the toxic users...I quit hearing from them after the 2nd or 3rd "no".

[@jengsci8268]

While I tend to be a people pleaser and usually quite generous and like to help folks, when I'm done, I'm done. The boundary is there, it's just further in than most people. But it is definitely firm and no is the final answer. Anyone that knows me knows that - and it is never questioned. Also, helping others is not a sign of weakness. It's easy to be hard, it's harder to be easy. They can put that in their pipe and smoke it!

[@bcgrote]

Well really, the people you lose weren't really your friends...

[@Dee23995]

As a recovering people pleaser, I have lost people when I started saying no, including family. Just remember: if someone gets mad at you for setting boundaries then they’re the reason you need them.

[@izzyt1626]

Oh yeah.

[@lottomillionaire5772]

I used to tread on eggshells around my 'best friend' of 11yrs. She was so highly strung that I’d constantly be overthinking what I’d say and do around her so that she wouldn’t get upset. When I moved in with my bf at age 21, she lost her temper with me one night when I wouldn’t get a cab in the middle of the night to her as she’d had an argument with her bf (they were always arguing, so nothing new). It was 2am and I had to be up for work at 6.30am! She didn’t work and said I was a crap friend for not jumping to her aid. THAT was when I’d had enough and just started ghosting her, as I hate confrontation. That was about 15yrs ago and now, looking back, I can see she was jealous of me and didn’t like when something good happened for me, like getting a new job or moving out of my parents house. I’m still a little bit of a people pleaser, but I’m no longer a pushover.

[@laughingcorrpseholly4136]

Yup. I use to be a people pleaser too and when I started setting boundaries I would hear “you know you use to be really nice but now you’re just a bitch.” 🤷‍♀️ you know what if me looking out for my own mental health and setting boundaries against people who treat me horribly makes me a bitch then so be it!!!

[@laughingcorrpseholly4136]

@@lottomillionaire5772 big yikes I had a “bestfriend” like this too. She had moved away to Pennsylvania for bout 7 years and last year she came back to Florida and into my life and at first it was like she never left I was so happy to have her around again. I’ve been married for 13 years now and she is even the reason my husband and I met… but things started getting weird when she would constantly try talking bad about him and then she started wanting me to “choose her” because she was having a hard time instead of being with my husband at night…. I would still text her and call her and try and help her but I like I can’t just leave it’s 2 in the morning and I got work at 6? And she got to the point where she even outright said “I can’t believe you chose him over me!!!” Uhm 🤔🧐 I wound up cutting her out of my life and realized how toxic of a friend she was all along.

[@h.a3567]

People who complain about you setting a boundary for yourself are people who have control issues. They dont like it when they try to do whatever they want to people & people then tell them no.

[@jo-annbastings]

My daughter married an Italian and they organized an Italian wedding. The whole shebang! It was AMAZING! The French Québecois (my side of the family) were astounded! The floor entertainment, the music, the open bar and the food! THE FOOD!! The midnight table! On a scale that wedding was a solid 12 out of 10. But special thanks to the video and photographer and his helper! They were amazing! All in all, everything included, for 120 people it didn’t cost $20,000. It was in 2015.

[@cherylcampbell8149]

Before I married my husband, his cousin was getting married around the same time. She had asked me what the colours of the bridesmaids dresses were, what month we had chosen and I told her that I always wanted to have a horse and carriage… this was the eighties and that was a trend. She turned around and took every freaking idea I had and used it for herself. From the colours I had chosen, the date, and my freaking horse and carriage!!! That was 1986…my husband and I are still married and she divorced 6 months after her wedding. To all the future brides: keep quiet about any plans you have because some people can’t stand when you have great ideas!

[@diamondcascadeblackspring7260]

I was going to say this...girls who are like this will have marital issues. I feel sorry for the spouses. Wished they had picked up the red flags...

[@NurseKayP]

It just screams I have no identity of my own. The type of women who absorb the personality traits of their partners because they have none of their own.

[@LauraSchendel-ko1qk]

She didn’t know what she wanted, as evidenced in her inability to have her own preferences. I’m not surprised that the marriage didn’t last.

[@nolanme]

Better yet… feed them ideas you have no intention of using.

[@topherv4229]

I was hoping you'd say the horse kicked the bride!

[@AnnieAnnieBuckwheatCakes]

Rule #1: if you can't afford the wedding you want, plan the wedding you can afford. Edit: thanks for the likes & comments ❤️

[@susanfanning9480]

It's hard to imagine that this has to be rule at all .

[@moniqueengleman873]

I got married on in Big Sur on the beach with twelve people there. It was exactly what I wanted. I think we got married on a Thursday also.

[@CieraMychele]

​@moniqueengleman873 same but in Santa Barbara! Beautiful courthouse ceremony, BBQ on the beach afterwards. 12 guests for us as well!

[@lisasteel6817]

My wedding cost $4,000 in total 19 years ago because that was all we could afford. We saved for a year and went on a $10,000 honeymoon, best decision we ever made. We were able to secure lots of discounts because we were married in a Wednesday.

[@robinhoward4204]

Yes - it's okay if people contribute to a simple wedding in lieu of gifts. Example is picking a venue where the guests pay for a portion of the meal costs. My husband's sister had a lovely wedding in a beautiful venue - we paid a set amount for our meals (a very reasonable amount) but had beer and wine provided.

[@guineawuv]

Imagine having enough friends and family to be a bride's maid in 11 weddings. 😢

[@Ash-tree420]

As someone who was a bridesmaid once, I'm glad it was just the one time 😂

[@EdibleGiraffe59]

Could never be me 😢

[@grammasscotsgirl]

14. FOURTEEN. FOUR-F-ING-TEEN times, my husband was best man between 79-99. He said "If I would have just bought a damn tuxedo in the beginning if I knew it was going to happen!" He is now in his 60s and we thought "GOOD! This whole best man thing is over!" Then last summer, he got a call from his nephew, 10 years younger than him. "Hey, Uncle. I'm getting remarried. Will you be my best man?" So yeah. He hit 15 and said "NO MORE!" I laughed and said "Between divorces and widowers, you could end up being best man for the SECOND TIME for the people you already stood up for!" He wasn't amused. (He is an introvert - big time introvert - but if he sees you as a friend, he is there for you 100% so everyone sees him as "their best friend".)

[@HELLINA-HANDBASKET]

I even don't have 11 friends 🤣

[@bonnkaner]

Don’t feel bad please, people are different, be kind to yourself.

[@Themestizadiwata]

Ok but can we talk about the fact that the bridezilla-sorry the title is warranted- actually STOLE FROM HER BRIDAL PARTY???? Like what the actual hell? She said is was for wedding activities and the took herself shopping! I would be livid 🤬 Hope the groom wised up and left her.

[@RunningGirl0205]

Why would u tell someone ur desire wedding date when they already stole ur dress? Seriously, kinda dont feel badly. U know what she's all about at this point.

[@justwonder1404]

​@@RunningGirl0205I understand it's basically victim blaming, but I started getting frustrated with the second girl. She was probably just being kind, but that enables toxic people.

[@dynogamergurl]

i wonder if small claims court would come through? i beleive that would be an implicit contract? i may have the term used wrong.

[@elimartel9080]

@@dynogamergurl I think the biggest issue would be proving that she did it. If there's no paper trail, it's just he said, she said. I was thinking the same thing tho! If you already have your whole wedding and bach paid for, it's some special kind of nasty to take money from people giving in kindness just to splurge. I'd sue.

[@kerrysater157]

​@lovemykids3116 because a lot of people are raised in homes where they are forced to please their parents constantly, so they continue that into adulthood. There's also anxiety and other mental illnesses that can make confrontation hard. Someone doesn't deserve to be taken advantage of simply because they were nice

[@angelacox8322]

Many, many years ago, a "friend" (at the time) bought the EXACT SAME wedding dress as me, and funny story, she also talked badly of it when I FINALLY, excitedly found the "ONE" -- I bought it any ways (despite her opinion) because it was absolutely PERFECT for me -- she went back the next wk and bought herself the same one (thousands of dresses I tell you!). She also booked the exact same venue 4 hrs out of town and moved her date up so it was 2 wks prior to my wedding date because she HAD to get married before me (her words) -- I suppose so she cld wear my same dress and then I would be copying her?! 😂😂😂 I tell you that absolutely NONE of the weird things this girl did stopped any of the things I went on to do, I only stopped once in a while to think "wow, what an inspiration I must be"! *She was divorced within a few yrs and we celebrate 20 yrs married this coming Spring. I haven't really spoken to her in a decade, only see random updates on social media when I actually log on to it. We didn't have a "falling out", I just slowly quit giving my time to people who are complete weirdos over the years. It really is peaceful once you make the decision to stop giving your time or attn to people who don't deserve it! ❤

[@leslieortenzi8875]

Good for you! I would have done the same thing! To me, it's not as much about the dress, but about how you wear it and the joy you radiate in it! 🎉

[@angelacox8322]

@@leslieortenzi8875 YES!! This dress was actually a semi-simple prom dress (floor length, fitted up top and sort of flowy from the waste down, with a sweetheart neckline that tied around the neck) -- the one in store was navy blue, but it was exactly what I wanted so I asked the shop if they could order it in white (thankfully they could!) -- it was somehow simple, yet perfect! TBH I wasn't even upset about her going back and buying the same dress, it really was flattering (and a steal at only $99 dollars, compared to $600+ for every other wedding dress at that time!) -- but all of this stuff became a theme with her. She even purchased the same bed I bought, would make the same dinners, take the same vacations, watch the same movies etc. -- basically every thing you cld think of!! I am pretty easy going and honestly find it flattering when friendsl take inspiration or try things like I like, but the weird part was doing those things and then acting as if I was copying HER (I started to realize she was doing this when her husband wld make comments like I was doing the things she did, in reverse!)! I was early 20s and didn't even know what gaslighting was (LOL), but this girl truly made me question my sanity many days. I believe a genuine friend will compliment your ideas (or even thank you for the inspiration!) -- those things she was doing was very different and some how always made me feel just a bit "weird"!

[@CreamIceMs]

​​@@angelacox8322oh my, that is so weird and even straight up CREEPY. Copying your bed, meals and vacations? And then claiming you were copying her??? I feel physically icky... Glad you took some distance from her.

[@angelacox8322]

@@CreamIceMs "Glad you took some distance from you" made me LOL 😂😂😂🙃😬 It was extemely icky and stopped being flattering very quickly! I've had other friends take inspiration from things I say or so, but in a completely genuine and normal way....this stuff she did was more like "Single White Female" level scary. I was very young, a huge people pleaser (still healing, but getting there lol) and it was hard to cut off when we were all mutual friends (her husband was a very close friend to my husband and I). At the end of the day, I'm glad I kept that perfect dress and mostly ignored her comments and behavior!

[@CreamIceMs]

@@angelacox8322 hahaha sorry it was a bit late and I was sleepy, have corrected it hahahaha You go girl 💪🏻

[@eggnogalcoholic]

Shoutout to Charlotte’s editor. The table banging bit never stopped being funny 🤣🤣🤣

[@shosho089]

Also the Darth Vader screaming “Noooooo” with the “Some people at weddings apparently” made me snort 😂

[@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607]

The Sopranos edit made me cackle 😂

[@dabonthatnae]

yesss. I was ugly laughing lmao

[@imjayhime]

That got me 😂 “ow ow ow ow”

[@ediliennehenriquez5326]

And the trump makeup reference 😂😂

[@Alexandra-vu9is]

For all people pleasers, not only is accommodating to other people hurting yourself, but by letting that happen you would also hurt the other person. They won't learn how to be a decent human being with someone who always lets things slide. You need to love and respect yourself and others enough to hold your ground. If they stay stubborn and don't see a problem with their behavior or actions after you express it hurts you, you MUST leave them. If they truly love you (romantic, friendship, family) and respect you as a person, they wouldn't continue to do so. You are worth more than that.

[@GenXfrom75]

8:05 after the dress situation, WHY trust her with your date?! I'd have lied my ass off and claimed we were looking at September or some time hot 😂

[@argrette]

Same here, maybe say a date that I knew would be horrible. I’ve seen so many tv shows and heard these types of stories now, that I would have lied about the dress saying I wasn’t sure yet. It reminds of the episode of Friends when Monica was dress shopping and the other bride that she met tried to steal their band so she could get the dress Monica wanted. Don’t share the information to anyone 😅

[@GenXfrom75]

@@argrette yes! 🤣

[@Just-Nikki]

Right! I’m telling her that we’re getting married Jan 15th in the arctic tundra. It’s now an 80’s themed wedding with shoulder pads and a helluva lot of neon and aqua net 😂

[@RyomouShimei]

I was wondering the same. Since the 'friend' literally stole the dress on the same day, so it's not like OP was in the dark. The person was a massive binch but OP was super naive in trusting this person and even giving more emotional context and the like

[@ShrodingersHat]

I'd have lied and said "Oh I forgot to tell you, we changed our mind. Now we're having a destination wedding" and then I'll proceed to tell her somewhere stupidly expensive 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@SaidiLouise]

At my wedding, my mom asked my makeup artist for lashes when she'd previously said she didn't want them. Except my mom busted out her checkbook at the moment she started to ask. She had 100% intentions to pay. Fortunately, my maid of honor declined her lashes that I had paid for...so it all worked out. I just can't imagine requesting something like that for free!!

[@shell6829]

The girl who didn’t like EmmyRose’s dress taste but then bought that specific one is why I never told anyone things like what I am naming my kids until after I had them and they have that name legally and everything because I know so many people who are like that. I have learned to keep almost literally everything about me, my kids, my pets, my home, just everything extremely private. People can really suck.

[@angelabromley3712]

Baby names, wedding dresses, dates, china... The list is growing.

[@Natasha_-_]

Same! And it's cause most people do suck sadly! You really learn the hard way when you also have sh*tty family too, that is full of narcissists and psychopaths 😅

[@ayajade6683]

It's a name I literally went to school with 12 people in my grade with the same name as me. I have multiple cousins with the same name as each other or just one letter different nicknames exist for a reason

[@Natasha_-_]

@@ayajade6683 It's not "just a name" for some people...my daughters name is super unique and I wanted it that way and had the name picked for years before ever even getting pregnant. I have another rare name as well picked, in case I ever have another girl because I like unique names. A super common name is one thing. Like who cares if you keep it private, someone else's kid is going to have it.

[@ayajade6683]

@@Natasha_-_ except it is just a name who tf cares that much about their child having a unique name that only they have there's 8 billion people and counting in the world someone else will have the exact name of your daughter it doesn't matter if they do. it's boardering on shit toxic mom groups say as you're trying way too hard as it's literally just a name for a kid not classified government documents. Your child's name unless you invented a new language that only you know or used a random character generated password as a name it's not unique and neither of you are special just because of the name choice you picked it's just a name it doesn't even matter that much to a kid unless you name them something stupid like Syphilis Crabs. it's just name doesn't matter if 1 or 900+ people in your area share the same name as your kid just as the deep philosophical meaning you place on it doesn't matter it has no impact on what matters which like personality or their health. Only one it matters to is you as you're overthinking it and think you're different for using a baby name website just like every writer, parent, drag queen, or other artist has at some point in their life. So again why does the name you picked out matter so much it has to be treated like the plans for D-Day it has meaning and is unique isn't a reason to stress over if people know a name you like as there's much bigger fish to fry especially during pregnancy

[@riche_nikki_neenawebb2934]

I cried when I heard you say that Charlotte, I cried when you were talking about recovering from people pleasing

[@suan333]

Charlotte: talking about how much work there's behind editing The ones who edited this videos: having their fun ❤

[@TeddyLovesAxl]

Video editor here 👋🏻 Its tough sometimes but it is so rewarding when you watch back the finished video and think “I did the damn thing!” 😊

[@Sujowi]

Video editing is not easy! I taught myself and did a basic job that worked, but I found it hard. So if you forget to make a deposit on a videographer, ask your friend with an arty eye to film with their phone…you’ll at least have a record even if it’s not got fancy fades.

[@valsptsd814]

We did all notice that the editor was Thor in her punchline, right? That wasn’t just me? We love a Vanessa.

[@NinjaLeafSakura1]

I love her video editors! They are so damn funny and on point to Charlotte’s humor and everything! Give them raises!🎉🎉

[@haplessasshole9615]

Those little editorial intrusions never fail to crack me up, especially bits like the table-slapping sequence. Edit: 12:55 -- Yeah, there she goes again, thumping on the table. And there's the editor expressing displeasure, too. Must be tough on the ears.

[@jeanvignes]

I moved 2,500 miles from home when I was 17, which spared me from being a bridesmaid for anyone besides my sisters. This was back in the day when we made our own dresses, "hen" parties were limited to an afternoon bridal shower, usually at an aunt's or grandmother's house, and no one but the super-ultra-rich had "destination" weddings. As I watch Charlotte's videos, I'm so grateful to have dodged the Bridezilla dual death rays of greed and narcissism. Whew!

[@erikarussell1142]

The “Ow’s” while Charlotte was giving such golden advice was critical to my health today. Lol

[@Rachel-ew6xs]

I love the Seven Brides for Seven Brothers reference!! 😭 “for they say when you marry in June, you will always be a bride” ❤️ 🎶

[@JuNic217]

I think it'd be best to get married at the courthouse and then have a celebration after. There's no way the last girl was worse than the butt-face who stole her friend's dress and date ideas. She's just a different level of toxic.

[@larry01902]

My friend did this. She had a court house wedding wearing a Dazed and Confused tee shirt and jeans. The reception was at IHOP.

[@WhatTheWHAT524]

​@@larry01902Good for them! And EPIC outfit choice! 🥇

[@1oldcrow350]

I did that super simple, judge was emotional when he heard my French last name-worth it!

[@HiThereLindsey]

@@1oldcrow350 Why was the judge emotional?

[@ilz_y]

That’s what I’m doing! I married my husband back in January for visa reasons (we’re an international couple) and our wedding is in a couple weeks! 100% recommend doing it this way if you hate paperwork and dealing with all the legal stuff. Gets it out the way so you can relax so much more on the day (or realistically, stress about the other stuff instead!)

[@wiggilytaco7570]

12:54 all those ouches resonated with me bc every time I explain to a ppl pleaser that they are showing little self respect and receiving below the mare minimum in return all I see staring back at me is someone being like “damn ouch but u right”

[@dinasilva9263]

Charlotte is so stunning, and so absolutely adorable, that honestly she deserves even more recognition. I'm so happy to see her evolution since the days of IO, she's a star. And she will be a beautiful bride.♥️

[@goawayfast]

I love it when they do their makeup during story time. Don't ever apologize for posting them. Never stop doing them.

[@janemacintyre9801]

Oh no, I hate it ! Oh well

[@anonomous8649]

Saaame it reminds me of high school when I would go to my best friend's house and we would just hang out and talk while she did her own hair and makeup for the day. Never liked doing that stuff on myself (and was never very good at it) but I've always loved watching people enjoy doing it on themselves 💜 Videos like this literally just feel like hanging out amd gossiping with a friend

[@kktypescript2137]

God I will never stop loving the editing of the videos. They compliment Charlotte’s humour SO WELL 😂

[@jinxypop13]

Your face said it all. I had a few of my colleague’s children and two administrator’s kids. I lucked out and only had one that acted like this. Shame on this teacher trying to play the principal and teacher. Glad you’re okay!!

[@sammi.mack.]

In understanding of the 2nd clip, I had a friend that was just like this. I wanted a tatoo of my children's hands on my back placed in a certain way, I pretty much designed it, but for the hands, I scanned my actual children's hands and has it created into a stencil. I showed my friend who did not really acknowledge it. My tatoo was booked for in 6 weeks. 2 week later, I get a call from the friends sister, who tells me my friend was sorry but she like the idea so much she had copied the idea and then found a tattooist who could do it sooner than mine and had the tattoo done. So now it looked if I went ahead with mine, and everyone had seen hers and ohhhed and arhhed over it, that I was the one copying. I was pissed but let it go. A month or so after this the hubby and I had finished our kitchen, the friend had had hers done too. I went and saw hers which was complete about 3 weeks prior to mine. It was lovely. It was creams and browns. When mine was complete, she came over and had a tea and said she liked it, she wasn't a 'red' colour person, my back splash was red and the tiles were red with black units. A few months go by, I attend her house for a girls eve. Her cream and brown painted kitchen... was now tiled with... red tiles... and she bought exact same accessories as I had to boot. She never acknowledged she did the copying, she did more things here and there, saying she wasn't sure on my shoes, then going out to buy them that day, the same, or my daughters birthday she saw party bags I made which were unique, she went and copied them knowing her daughters birthday was before mine. Etc. Etc. I don't tell her anything anymore and hide stuff when she does comes round.😂

[@MalcolmReynoldsQuotes]

That’s so weird!? I guess she just doesn’t like when you get any happiness from attention and wants to take it away?

[@cheshirenevande4701]

Why are you still friends then?

[@jenner81]

I have a friend like this to, seems to copy everything I do or has to be better then me or her situation has to be more serious then mine (like kids being sick or getting hurt, and yes, I'm serious!). Now if she tries to compare anything I just ignore it or brush it off and it has tapered off now. I think though it's because she is a SAHM, they live in the boonies, her husband goes to work and comes home and she has to take care of him (he's Chinese, so I think Cultural expectations) and their kids, and that's all she does. So I think it's her way of trying to have something more in her life or feel important. I still like her as a friend, but it gets frustrating sometimes.

[@jesclifford88]

I wouldn’t trust a friend like that. She doesn’t even have her own likes or interests.. she will have no morals or values either.

[@paulas2218]

I guess you could look at it like the old saying “Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery”. Or not. 🫤

[@Chemppi]

Girl, your talk is exactly what I needed today. As a recovering people pleaser myself, it is a tough road. Loosing "friends" will tap into the most primal fears us people tend to have. However, it will be well worth it in the end. So glad for your videos, keep up the good work 💚

[@tabithaellison291]

I lost a lot of “friends” when I learned to say no. Thanks for the chat charlotte we need to help rehab all of them!

[@danielavallejo7306]

Same here. Some people just want to use you, and when you said no to then, they just dissappear

[@slange1829]

I do t usually say NO, I say 'I'd love to , but.... or I'll get back to you

[@MsHoneyblue]

and family members....

[@Matilda-y]

Decided to stop calling people for a little while to see if they would ever call me …… silence. All the desperate support they needed everyday for all their troubles … blah! My sister died 😭 not one supportive msg. That was a wake up call.

[@MsHoneyblue]

@@Matilda-y I'm sorry för your loss ❤

[@NaomiR51]

I love the story times while doing makeup. It's like we're all besties getting ready and spilling the tea

[@countygraybeal6901]

Lol,yeah,I got married at the court house in maternity clothes. I was a runaway when I met my husband, lived together over a year before we got married, and have been married for 49 years. So the wedding wasn't a big deal,it's the marriage that counts.

[@slange1829]

LOL me too

[@redwoodrebelgirl3010]

Amen. ❤ Congratulations to you & your husband & family.💗 Well done. ❤

[@KathleenPatterson-d7s]

I have always thought that court weddings are best. The marriage is the important thing.

[@trishallain6503]

I've been a florist for over 40 years. And had all kinds of interesting clients. I remember once we had a groom and best man show up in a pick up truck in the winter time, while it was snowing and put the flowers in the bed of the pickup and drive an hour away. We warned him that the flowers would freeze and they would look horrible once they thawed out. But we had collected the money already. All we could do was shake our heads. We always got half the money when they booked the wedding and all flowers had to be paid in full a week before the wedding.

[@DeniseHash-i7x]

Can't fix stupid

[@crystalhamptonhines]

With the bridesmaid one, money will make you realize you have to make boundaries. I'm going through stuff right now and I have to make boundaries with my good friends. One friend is 110% understanding. The other is pushy and controlling which is making me see that they're not as good of a friend as I thought.

[@PayannasFantasyWorld]

the first story reminded me of the time i used to be a concert photographer. I went to this small show in the town my bf lived at that time. the first band was a french punk rock duo, the second a Spanish thrash metal band. i was there just for fun, i wasn't invited of commissioned or anything, but i still took photos and showed them to the bands. the punk rock lady got in touch with me later on asking if she could buy the photos. i was thrilled and sent her a fully edited photo to give her and idea of what the rest would look like. she sent it back to me, having re-edited it in her style and said: "don't you think it looks better like this?" i was gobsmacked. i wouldn't have minded had she bought the photos and then edited them as she wanted once they were hers, but to send it back to me like that insisting her editing style was better (i thought it looked awful btw). she never bought the photos and i ended up blocking her

[@GenXfrom75]

These always make me glad my husband and I eloped at the county courthouse with a courtroom full of strangers awaiting traffic court. Celebrated 19 years of marriage in August 2023 🎉🎉🎉

[@erikarussell1142]

Congratulations! I love this for you!! ❤

[@jaimejohnesee]

Congratulations!🎉 My hubby and I are coming up on our 19th anniversary on the 23rd! Cheers to many more years together! 🍻

[@nitarose44]

Samesies! Wouldn't change a thing.

[@boo_mantle]

Sounds like my dream wedding to be honest! ❤

[@TeddyLovesAxl]

Yep. Was married by a JP too! Congrats on 19 years. 🎉

[@susanandrews2294]

The message Charlotte delivered about people-pleasing is absolutely dead-on. Literally, earlier today I completely blocked someone who was a long-term friend, whom I now know to be toxic. And, because I didn't specify which friend was refusing to return my house key, another so-called long-term friend assumed that I meant him and blasted me. So, I unfriended him. FWIW both of these people are older than me and thus stuck in some pretty backwards thinking of which I was tiring of anyway. Also recently, I have made great friends with people who are younger and much more open-minded about things. It was time to get rid of the old ones, and I am starting with new ones. Life works in mysterious ways.

[@davidguidry657]

Hold up y’all, I’m hanging out with Miss Charlotte! She’s on TikTok so I don’t have to be! Now, where’s my tea ☕️ and popcorn 🍿 ?

[@you2angel1]

Lol, good job you caught my attention. °~•.☆.•~°

[@TeddyLovesAxl]

I got mine!! ☕️🍿Let’s goooo!! ❤

[@Moisterthananoyster]

What does TikTok have to do with anything? Super weird

[@maryjanesbaby9392]

@@Moisterthananoyster Comprehension is everything.

[@TeddyLovesAxl]

@@Moisterthananoyster Ur profile name threw me off! 😂 I thought you were telling someone to “stop thanking ppl for likes.” 🤦‍♀️

[@isabellerininger6249]

Thank you Charlotte for the people pleasing chat-I used to be that person and when I stopped “miraculously” my group did in fact shrink! Some of which were family; those I have tried to restart to have relationships with and it literally is still just one sided. I don’t give/cater and they have no use for me. It’s been really hard emotionally to deal with that… people who I thought loved me really just don’t. 😢 I love your channel.👍👍

[@shosho089]

Our Queen has ARRIVED! 🎉👸🏻 The editing on this episode? THE SNORTS I SNERTED. 😂 Top tier!

[@VictoriaMarch13]

Snerted? 😂 I'm using that!

[@H20world]

Snerted: past tense of snorted. Checks out! 🤣

[@lil.miscellaneous]

Love the snerted snorts😂

[@TinyAndFluffy]

Literally only liked comment bc "snerted"

[@lil.miscellaneous]

lol a sort I snerted while having a fun Dr Seuss flashback

[@RandomNexus]

I was snort/chortling my way into low-key giggles at the added 'commentary' from the desk and/or mic when you were tapping for emphasis, Charlotte. 😂 Enjoy your vids so much!

[@manikpink6771]

Makes me so happy that my wedding went so well! Everyone was on their A-game and I was able to relax, enjoy my day, and trust that my family (7people), his family (3people), and our wedding party (8people) had it under control. Anything that went wrong I didn’t know about until about a week later. I was just happy to get married, i didn’t care, but my friends and family were wonderful!

[@kinasakuraba]

I'm so happy I'm not the only one who thinks the makeup and story time videos are weird 😂

[@lottomillionaire5772]

Yeh I can see how people find them weird, they don’t bother me too much. What really bothers me is a storytime whilst they’re EATING! I don’t want to hear the story through a mouthful of food and I hate chewing noises 😭 Did their parents never teach them manners? Those are the videos that get immediately skipped

[@TheAngee330]

How many would love to see an End of the Years (2023) Petty Potato Award from Charlotte and have her have different categories like Worst Brizella of 2023, Worst Boss 2023, Best Wedding Revenge 2023, Best People with Main Character Syndrome, Best AITA, Best Judge Charlotte moment etc....I mean there is so much she could give a Petty Potato Award to. Imagine a cute Potato Gold Award and she could send it to the people she reacted too...🤣😂

[@BrianAndresScott]

This is a great idea . Just wondering if she has the time to do a that.

[@tearlaanna]

Well, we could all make golden potato awards and send them to her. Then all she has to do is slap stickers on them and send them out!

[@TheAngee330]

@@tearlaanna lol true

[@TheAngee330]

@@BrianAndresScott maybe next year :)

[@frederikehowe500]

Yeeeaaas let’s do this! I’m from potatoland Germany. If you need potatoes let me know.

[@divadawn509]

That first bride was going to either refuse to pay, because she blew off the contract so she thought she was going to get away with it, OR she was going to refuse to pay the full amount. She thought she was going to pull a fast one. Glad she didn't get away with it.

[@Trashntrauma]

I don’t care how delulu this makes me, but charlotte’s pep talks do wonders for my own mental health, thank you charlotte for making us all feel special

[@lillyvaughn5398]

I was just thinking the same, I too am a recovering people pleaser. So it’s nice to have reminders to set boundaries and stand up for myself.

[@WhatTheWHAT524]

Yep definitely not alone on this one! Sometimes we just need to hear it! An Charlotte has a way about her I will always love and adore. Best wishes to you and yours my friends! And fellow Petty potatoes! 💖

[@susanbissell6319]

I think Charlotte must have seen a psychologist in the past. She says a lot of the same things my psychologist told me. I am a people pleaser too. We need a club like AA to help us get better at not being this way.

[@oliviablaze7348]

Charlotte! I know this video is 100 years old but I’m having a bridezilla watch party. I am a people pleaser myself and I’ve never really realized until watching your videos. Honestly I would love a video on a recovering people pleaser ted talk. If that makes sense. Thank you for all that you do for us! You have a heart of gold.

[@blurple018]

I think some important advice for women who get bitchy when they are stressed is to just not have bridesmaids. I know when I have my wedding I will be stressed therefore I’m eliminating all the unimportant events, no rehearsal dinner, no bachelorette night, I don’t even want bridesmaids. I will only have a ceremony and reception because I know I’m prone to being a bitch when I get stressed out and I don’t want to ruin any relationships or even hurt people I care about especially over one day. Yes a wedding is important but having a good marriage and strong relationships with family and friends is more important. I wish women didn’t feel so much pressure to make things perfect and have all this extra crap on top of getting married, I think a lot of these bridezilla moments would never happen if weddings where never turned into this display of wealth and perfection.

[@paulas2218]

Amen sister! I had a totally no stress wedding day! 46 years later we are still together and wouldn’t change a thing. Except maybe the air conditioning that went out at the reception, in July, in Texas. Everyone was very shiny in those pictures!

[@SourPickles8]

We love a self aware queen 🎉

[@CaribooMalt]

Or they could grow up and act like an adult

[@wiggilytaco7570]

Same, when I’m stressed i I wanna be alone and manage the situation. Can’t do that when you have to literally manage dozens of people. I’m great with helping someone who is stressed and bitchy. NOT great delegating with that stress

[@CindyOrtegametzli7]

Yep that’s my sister. And she got so upset she said she didn’t want bridesmaids anymore. But honestly it was a relief bc it’s hard to deal with her. So it was better for everyone.

[@cru1325]

In some places in the US, contracts aren’t enforceable until money is paid. That’s why many vendors require a deposit, wedding industry or not. She never paid the deposit or signed the contract, no photographer….

[@mhadle1992]

I love love love whoever edits charlottes videos! Such a sense of humour and so talented 😂😂 all the brilliant “ow. Ow. Ow. Ow. Ow.” Popups killed me!

[@Whateverrrr96]

Buying the same bag or shoes as ur friend is no big deal, it's actually a huge compliment; getting the wedding dress ur friend picked out for herself for your own wedding is evil.

[@beeepbooopp]

Charlotte, your videos have helped me in ways i never expected. i finally stopped people-pleasing out of fear of losing people, and i couldn't be happier. i feel more confident in every aspect of my life, especially relationships and friendships. i "lost" my best friend of 7 years because i stopped allowing her to control me; i used to break down over the fear of losing her, but i haven't shed a single tear since we went our separate ways. thank you for being you Char! 💖

[@ailenelynn]

I do face painting and airbrush tattoo for events and parties and even several weddings have hired me. I never used to take deposits until one day I show up at a family reunion (an hour away) and they said they didn't want it anymore. they said a family member was supposed to cancel and never did. not only did I drive an hour but turned down other jobs. I learned my lesson!

[@hightopshannah]

That dress and date stealing bridezilla absolutely grinded my gears

[@samesta5695]

The makeup artist definitely should have had a contract but she’s definitely talented. I was impressed at how quickly and well she did her own makeup.

[@yamairad1]

I'm genuinely worried about the bride in story 3. She sounded miserable. She was probably sabotaging her own wedding. I hope she's ok.

[@auntyvenom133]

She sounds to me like she has a personality disorder

[@JoCamp696]

Mua said language barrier, but she didn't say what language, and I'm guessing whoever said "arranged" had it right. Whether arranged like in certain cultures or arranged, Cuz daddy has a business deal, I don't know. But yeah, it sounds like the bride wasn't necessarily there by choice.

[@nyotauhura7412]

I think she was angry because a couple of bridesmaids dropped out. She went from 7 to 5 then down to 4.

[@yamairad1]

@@nyotauhura7412 I'd rather think this than she's in an unhappy marriage.

[@alexbc7360]

@@nyotauhura7412 with the attitude she clearly displayed to the MUA I honestly wouldn’t blame the bridesmaids for dropping out

[@christinetobin2088]

Charlotte, I am 65 & have ALWAYS been a people pleaser, you have actually helped me with making boundaries & though it’s hard, I am making headway but losing friends. Thank you!

[@jennyhacking1289]

So glad me and my now husband had a small registry office wedding, we got married 10 years to the day we met, and the ceremony guests were just our 2 little girls, his direct family, and my direct family. We then had a small reception at our house with the extended family, it was a special and stress free day without any drama.

[@SarahPeck-g9c]

I absolutely love watching the story tellers do their makeup. It’s so interesting and I learn so much.

[@cpecoraro7386]

"If you try to people please people who take advantage of you you aren't people pleasing yourself" second week of mom having chemo,trying to get everyone elses Christmas ready, dying from bronchitis and on steroids, fighting with the post office, figuring out chrismas transportation while workong at an elementary school the week before Christmas, you dont know how mich i needed to hear this. Thank you auntie Charlotte

[@thrillakilladanceteam1583]

The things you said about the boundaries is so freaking important I just realised that I've been watching your videos since may of 2020 and my god I grew up as a person thanks to many wise ted talks by Char ❤ thank you for being there for me

[@calamarimatahari1008]

6:20 The correct response is….”You know that dress makes your ass look fat.”😂🔥🔥🔥

[@M-Joy]

I was thinking the same thing about that makeup artist, she looks SO freaking gorgeous! These are crazy stories and I can't get enough

[@lk1869]

I feel about that copy cat friend. I had designed a white velvet dress with a cape for my wedding, shared the sketch with my group of friends. When my friend got married a year later- guess what she was wearing? Totally completely the same. She had to get someone to make it herself. I went completely the other way for my wedding gown to my loves and bought a heavily embroidered (I❤️handwork) dress. Still pissed… years later. The best part though.. my marriage is still going strong!

[@melabooangel85]

The bride that scammed her friends got me dumbfounded 😂 My wedding was cheap and I didn't get no bridal shower. But never would I do that or expect that from my friends. I would have loved a bridal shower if it was offered but I'd never demand it or pretend I paid when someone else has already paid. This is completely ludicrous 😂 how are they not embarrassed 😅

[@snowflakesnightmare8592]

Can we just talk about that girl's eyelashes and the Miracles she performed that was amazing

[@breannaxoxo3850]

That bride knew what a deposit was -__- You can’t book anything for a wedding unless you pay a deposit

[@yeondipity]

Can't tell you enough how grateful I am for this channel!! Discovered you about 6 months ago & the joy you bring to us daily is an amazing gift - thank you!!

[@lindageorge8209]

I'm so glad I got married 43 years ago, just my best friend as a bridesmaid, (the nicest person in the world) ... We did our own hair and make up, the men did their own thing, the dressmaker came and dressed me, mum picked up the flowers... It was a very hot Australian summer day (and evening) and the only drama was between my father and his wife. No kids, no problems. The pressure today... I'm pretty sure weddings are so out of hand nowadays that they're going to self-implode... And yes, the make up artist was gorgeous! Here's a hint. I had "ring curls". But I really should have had them permed in so I could enjoy them longer...

[@miriamiuricich6636]

We Aussies did it good back in the day. Research shows, the more expensive the wedding, the more likely the marriage won’t last.

[@namethestars]

Speaking of people pleasing (btw beautiful speech regarding that!) I finally told my dad NO. This excuse of a father as spent a lifetime being abusive toward me and I went NC last year but he still tries to manipulate me through text messages (I keep this form of contact primarily because of my grandparents health) and come Christmas he's started again. I always placated him in the past because I am a people pleaser but for the first time today I told him no, I won't be bullied into this any more and that I'm done. Been rattled since because I've never had the cajones to say no and stick to it but I damn well will this time.

[@intuitive_duck]

That’s why you need to love & trust your circle 100%. Saying you like certain wedding things & baby names. A friendenemy will steal that from you if you give them the chance.

[@aleeysaurasrex]

God, the tag-team that is Charlotte and her editors is supernaturally matched.

[@EmbalmerEmi]

About the "dry bride" not being "excited". I'm autistic plus a huge introvert,I would be dreading the wedding purely because of the amount of social pressure. Also it kinda sounds like a super extrovert meeting a super introvert it's literally water and oil. 😂

[@lyzjel]

My first thought was that she might be autistic! The makeup artist seemed very nice and easy to communicate with but I had experienced meeting this kind of person, and I was hurt because she didn't feel that ease with me and seemed weirded out by me while I had no idea whatsoever what exactly was different in my behaviour in comparison to others.

[@justaperson4065]

These bridezillas... be happy. My photographer ruined our photos. They were dark and out of focus. Some even had these odd floating orbs all over the faces. We paid the guy and went on with our lives. The pictures might be bad, but the wedding was great and the bad pictures still remind us of that lovely day nearly 20 years ago.

[@mbpetri]

Oh I love the story during makeup application thing!

[@Basiccynic]

Editor of this video is gold 2:54 “Dm are open” 😂😂😂😂 upper left corner.

[@AngelinaKoepke]

Thank you for your videos!!! I absolutely love them!!! I listen to them every single night before bed, they help me wind my day down. So thank you and keep doing what you do please!!!!!

[@billiefogle1497]

When my daughter passed away last January, your videos are what gave me the opportunity to breathe. You remind me so much of her. She love to be goofy and didn't care if anyone caught her camera at her worst. She remained true to herself her whole life. I hope you have a very Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year. Love a loyal follower

[@lynettemarszal5923]

So sorry for your loss. I hope you can get through Christmas and not be too sad. Merry Christmas to you and may you have peace and lots of love ❤️

[@nikkicrisp8563]

I’m beyond sorry for your loss! Sending you love and a very happy and Merry Christmas! ❤️

[@marjoriecook7556]

Kudos to the editor on the absolute hilarity (ow, ouch, ow) when Charlotte went on her “people pleasing” tirade! Never stop being awesome!

[@elizabethrigby3901]

Fun side note regarding astrology & weddings : when benific planets (sun, moon,venus,jupiter) are in the lunar mansion "uttara phalguni" ( middle of leo/August, September) is suggested to be the best time to get married or sign contracts ❤ Its interesting how summer/early fall is a popular for weddings 🎉

[@oneclout6643]

Are you not a people? If you please people you can't forget to please yourself. You are a people. The most important people to you.

[@janalock6267]

My sister got married this year. I'm happy to report she was not a bridezilla!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@leslieortenzi8875]

Congrats to you and the happy couple!

[@marciaspiegel5280]

Good. It's relaxing to not be a pos.

[@rybreadasmr1654]

these bridezilla videos are literally my favorite i can’t get enoughhhh 😂🍿

[@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose]

Your Majesty, Queen Charlotte ❤ PPP (the People’s Petty Potato) ❤ I’m super grateful for you. Just needed to say it. I’m going through horribly hard things but your laughter keeps me going. Sincerely, Beth

[@Writesparky]

Happy to say i am no longer a people pleaser as well. Thanks Charlotte, you are absolutely amazing !

[@acrockford2185]

My sister was to be a bridesmaid for her best friend's upcoming wedding. The bride said for my sister to pick a dress she would like to wear (bridal party are in their 50s) something she could possibly wear again. She picked a beautiful dress and sent the picture to the bride. The bride showed her own mother who was involved in the wedding plans. The brides mother promptly went out and bought the dress for herself to wear 😮

[@marciaspiegel5280]

These people have no lives.

[@kirstenholder7270]

That pep talk hit so deep for me, thank you Charlotte, I needed to hear that today

[@meghanntipton164]

For me personally, it's not that I don't like makeup videos. It's just that it gives me the urge to put mine on and I just don't have the time for all that 😂❤ Thank you for another *Wayne and Garth voice* Excellent video!! 🎉

[@leslieortenzi8875]

Me too! Plus, I'm 30 years older than most of these women. A lot more spackling would be needed! LOL

[@robinkholmes7127]

A friend who'll buy a dress just because you like it isn't a friend, that's a frienemy.

[@The_Gabby_Glammy]

Stop telling her stuff!!! I'm with Charlotte right now I am absolutely seeing red!! Why would you go and tell her anything else that you planned after she already stole your dress?!

[@akiriagood1511]

Charlotte! My life was without purpose until I met you here! You make me happy! Thank you for being you! 🙏❤️

[@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607]

No one does a “😮” face like Charlotte loooool. This is the strangest compliment but it’s SO satisfying to see someone look as shocked as my reactions are also! Ever tell your friend a story & they don’t have the reaction you did? Charlotte always has the same reaction all of us do, too 😂😂😂

[@kagisomolonyama]

lol honestly that people pleasing advice made me cry because i needed to hear that at this point in my life😂😂🙈🙈

[@bernadettepacheco2681]

Charlotte is sooo right! However, I have lost multiple "family" members as well! My therapist pretty much let me have it about people pleasing & the harm it was causing my already fragile mental health. I started setting boundaries... haven't heard from majority of my or the hubby's family in almost a year LOL GOOD RIDDANCE! 👋🏽 I have had only 1 severe anxiety attack in 8 months, well previously I was admitted at least 2x a month! The tides have changed & so have I! Sending all you 🥔 🥔 tons of love & light!🩵🦋🩵🦋🩵🦋

[@EllaGreenn]

4:30 "This was also before I knew how to put up boundaries with MYSELF and say no to people" I love how this Emmy Rose lady consistently avoids victim language. People keep crossing my boundaries 😭😭😭 No. You need to put down a boundary with YOURSELF FIRST. Say no, no matter what it costs you or how guilty you feel. If you allow yourself to cross that boundary with yourself, you allow EVERYBODY to cross your boundaries. Stop being a victim. Many confuse this attitude with victim blaming, but it's not. It's the most powerful move you can ever make. This comes from a recovering people pleaser. I understand you have very good reasons to be fearful to say no. But your suffering will never end until you confront yourself FIRST. The consequences of saying yes when you don't want to are much more painful (and will never ever end) than saying no. Saying no will be painful in the short term (you will lose 'friends' and family), but your life will become easier very quickly. You'll be proud of what you accomplished, more confident and equipped to deal with toxic people in the future. It all starts with yourself.

[@GenXfrom75]

6:20 I knew exactly where that part of the story was going! Of course she picked THAT dress!

[@VARIABLENEWSNETWORK]

Thank you Charlotte, for including Star Wars MEMES. It makes me feel included. Honestly, I don't even know how I found your channel, or more importantly, why I keep watching your videos. I watch news channels, history channels, military channels, political channels and educational channels... but somehow, I keep watching your videos. I don't know why. I hate drama, I really hate drama but I keep watching your videos... I CAN'T STOP, I THINK I'M ADDICTED... I HAVE A PROBLEM. STOP MAKING VIDEOS. I HAVE A PROBLEM.

[@collette9008]

Same here. I finally accepted that I'm a Charlotte junkie and I'm okay with that. I'm a month in and still binging her past videos, have even subbed to her boyfriend's channel and since they're both so funny and entertaining, I'm perfectly happy with that. It helps that I'm retired with plenty of time on my hands, lol. 😊

[@jordan1749]

Charlotte's facial expressions are my everything😅

[@pikicroissant]

I've been away a bit from your dailies for a few days BUT I am soooo happy with his one! The editing bro!! Thanks for inserting The Sopranos!

[@Funsize4all2love]

As a recovering people pleaser, I cant tell y’all how good “no” feels to me lately. Thats been my response to everything

[@abigailkreutzer3994]

Regarding the story of the bride stealing the other girl's dress... Like, I am a twin, so the concept of sharing clothing tastes and such is not foreign. Your videos actually made me go to her for a quick chat of like, "look, odds are, one day, we're gonna get married, and we're gonna probably like similar or the same dresses. So, let's just agree right now that, if we do, we don't get mad about it, and just agree to take our own spins on it." Being reasonable, she agreed. So, that's our plan for that possibility because she and I are absolute best friends in the world, and we have near identical tastes for a lot of things. But if she told me my dream dress was ugly, and then got it... There'd be hell to pay