WE BROKE UP

[@celiatanlklikun4425]

Hi Sarah, when the next guy appears in your life, you will realise that the breakup with Joe was necessary. I promise . Please take care

[@CordEldridge]

I understand your compassion and generous words, but this is not as accurate as you may believe. This is a different generation of men and women in the world, plus socioeconomics have shifted drastically which affects the motives of individuals seeking companionship.

[@melmel7011]

Not next guy but when she meets the right guy for her, it will all be worth it.

[@lightsumo-ct7lr]

don't be with any man if he wants be with u their actions wants share everything with u the same best friend and lover and family. if he act with u like u have ur life and my life gives u that feeling u are stranger this moments run for ur life plus never do sex with any guy till married u .

[@amymtaylor86]

My ex fiancé moved out of our apartment over night when I was visiting my parents. I came home to a half empty apartment. We were weeks away from the wedding. I didn’t understand what happened it was like a movie. It will take time but you will rebuild your life. And everything does work out for the better. I’m happily married with two beautiful children now. ❤

[@nananyanba]

Whooooaaaaa crazy 😮

[@rochelle1199]

I’m sorry you had to deal with that! I’m glad it has worked out for you now ❤

[@llambert6951]

How did you not suspect sometghing was wrong???

[@sarabee.89]

So sorry and I’m so angry about men who propose or stay for years then leave.

[@S.K.S.D]

You obviously dodged a bullet.

[@magic_me8925]

Gal, hault the tears! I was broken up with after 7 years together over the phone with a ‘I just don’t think you’re the one and I don’t want to marry you’. I was shattered and felt as if I’d been hit with a sledgehammer. Completely embarrassed. Long story short I genuinely believe it’s the best thing that could have happened to you! It’s the universe putting you on the path to find the one. I honestly believe that. I met the love of my life three weeks after the breakup really randomly one day. We’re now engaged and getting married this year. You’ll miss him for a bit then one day you’ll wake up and it’s not the first thing that comes to your head. LET HIM WALK AWAY.

[@harrietrandolph6267]

Love this response. It’s so true. Congrats to your happy ending xxx

[@catherineheylings6773]

This has just happened to me, how have you gotten through it

[@magic_me8925]

@@catherineheylings6773 I think you have to understand that you’re going to feel terrible for a few months before it subsides and that’s absolutely okay. Think of it being like a really knotty shoe lace, undoing the knots until you’re free and unbound. Sounds dramatic I know but honestly there’s no miracle tonic to get through it, you just have to ride the waves until that awful gut sadness doesn’t seem so sad anymore. The ‘what could I have done differently’ scenarios seem illogical and suddenly you’re angry, not at him, but at how you let yourself be hurt by not listening to your gut which no doubt surfaced a lot during your relationship. Even subtly. Getting through those sleepless nights, sick feelings, paranoia at them moving on and loneliness is hard but it does pass and I promise you that you’ll look back at the past 7 years and think ‘jeez all the signs were there I just ignored them, I was trying so hard to be in a position that just wasn’t made for me’. I just let myself feel and made a conscious effort (after a few days of essay texting them) to not send or do anything that would embarrass my future self. I made a playlist on Spotify with all songs to instantly change my mood into strength (Eminem mostly 😂) if I was feeling particularly low. I also didn’t ’keep myself busy’ which was the number one thing people told me to do because I knew I had to cry, go a bit crazy and feel it to move on quicker. Please please always remember that you shouldn’t wish you haven’t met them, or that the years didn’t exist because they were your training years.. when you meet the one lemmi tell you it’s like suddenly you’ve arrived home. There is no doubt, embarrassment or anxiety, it’s home. But it will happen for you, you will get through it and look back and think thank god he split with me. If you’re anything like me, a lot of subtle signs to end it were thrown your way throughout the years but you blissfully ignored them until the universe was like nope, it’s time, it’s time the training wheels came off and you found the right fit ! It’ll happen for you I promise. Keep undoing the knots, let your mind wander and your body feel but always ground yourself and remember it will pass, there’s a happiness coming that far outweighs what you’re feeling now.

[@TreasureForeverOfficial]

LET HIM WALK AWAY !!!!!

[@sharonjoan9997]

@@magic_me8925lovely❤

[@rr12766]

Such an honest breakup video for once. I hate these ones that claim they are still best friends

[@analea6531]

Then start throwing subliminal shade at each other till they beef openly

[@gemiiiiiiiiox]

my ex and i were together for 9 years and i decided to leave since we had been together for that long and our whole relationship was filled with empty promises about marriage and children. fast forward to just over a year later and he proposed to someone else after 10 months with her. sometimes they do want to get married, just not to you. hard pill to swallow but thankful im not wasting any more time. sending you so much love, give it time. you will feel better.

[@judyannkiwi]

They act on a guilty conscience is why

[@snowwhite4946]

@@judyannkiwiwhat do you mean?

[@lynnd.5135]

So true. This is why women should leave within two years. Anything else if you want marriage is a waste

[@Heevvyy]

It’s said that a man knows after 6 months to 1 year if they want to marry you

[@CordEldridge]

Another perspective is perhaps the man you were romantically involved with, indeed, have great intentions to marry you, and would have married you within that additional 10 month span or less. You just got fed up with being patient and simply annoyed with him.

[@leannebalmer7001]

I really commend you for being so honest during this video! So many people wouldn’t be as honest or are still in denial. This video will help so many people and I hope it has helped you too speaking about this. Sending you so much love ❤️

[@amandinemanddyna2705]

@leannebalmer7001. Give us a break. Either you are a very naive person or you are just a wolf in sheep's clothing. Since when people are honest in front of a camera / other people? She is not even honest with herself.

[@lfb08]

@@amandinemanddyna2705you’re such a weirdo, seek mental help

[@summerrose4700]

I went through a similar thing whenever you feel sad think of this... If you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you can love the right one. Sending you hugs and strength xxx

[@MeganHaigh-et2fb]

This is such a lovely comment ❤

[@melmel7011]

Actually, you usually do not love the right one that intensely. Thats partly because they are so consistent and you have a lot of peace with them What creates intense feelings (butterflies) is uncertainty in the relationship, if your partner gives you a hard time here and there. You fall deeply

[@rungeon83]

Woah I needed to hear this! Out of my exes I've only had one really bad one, and I did have so much love for her, even though deep down I knew she wasn't a good person. I think I'm at the stage in my life where I'm ready for a better connection :D

[@ChloeElliott-qt5fq]

Sarah, let me tell you, it’s an achievement in itself to be at this point 2 months on. It took me years to get to stage where I could accept I would never get a “reason”, so please do not let others cloud your progress ❤

[@nissa3154]

Sis, you was the right package at the wrong door!! Your person is out there and may what your currently feeling multiply in love and 100x more blessings ❤️

[@sarahkessler2456]

Love that analogy

[@user-ph4mg1mh9c]

The right package at the wrong door - wow, this is something I should have heard years ago - thank you 😊

[@AboutShanice]

Sounds like you were definitely blindsided. Surely it doesn’t take any man 6 years to figure out if they want to marry the person they’re with. But you will get through this 💗

[@persephone_girl]

💯 he’s a classic It’s not you it’s me but I’m also going through a selfish phase where I wanna do what I want without repercussions. People can definitely fall out of love in life and drift apart for sure but she still seems completely in the dark. These twats do this go on a ❄️ and hoe phase then end up getting in another relationship or marriage after all that

[@tessy28]

It really doesn't within 6 months to a year a man usually knows. They start hinting it. My guy proposed after 1 year and 4 months but started hinting after 8 months that he wanted to marry me. He just didn't want to marry her but it's awful that he wasted 6 years and he probably knew much earlier beforehand that he didn't wanna marry her

[@CordEldridge]

Correct!

[@valenciaashley1098]

Please do not take him back when he realizes the mistake he’s made and tries to come back. (Which he will) He’s treated you like you’re dispensable, and he will do it again.

[@amymtaylor86]

So true my ex did this and ultimately left me again for good

[@nicolenoemi7869]

Yup, they're pretty much saying "I can come in and out of your life when I please and you're gullible enough to take me back!"

[@dariagamalczyk2042]

I’m so sorry but don’t give up nothing happened without reason.You are absolutely amazing person xxx lot of love ❤️ you have amazing personality and you can do everything you want to be loved and appreciated and happy. Please don’t give up ❤

[@kyllancarrington]

Sending you some Sunshine and a Hug ❤ I am so very sorry you are having a rough time at the moment.

[@judyannkiwi]

No one should comment on this it’s wrong we don’t know what’s going on here

[@Lerbear72]

Crying watching your video 😭 Went thru a one-sided breakup/divorce in 2018 after 15 yrs dating + 3 yrs married. I loved your last post about not trying to fill the void with another person or a toxic distraction, I didn't do that and I delayed my healing. So proud of how wise you are in the midst of utter heartbreak. I will tell you that it is absolutely similar to a death, the Joe that fell in love with you 8 years ago and loved you and made you his the last 6, has died and it will hurt like hell. But I met my person in 2020 and we married in 2023 and let me tell you what is waiting for you on the other side. Someone that chooses you over and over again and is so loud and proud and vocal about their love for you. Someone that cherishes your love so much so that they communicate and compromise every little detail so well, learning and growing after every argument keeping the love and respect intact. I know you will find that love and it sucks that it has to come after the long term relationship but you will change too, and get stronger and softer and ready to receive that love that will fight to keep you. I wanted to keep this short but i failed lol So much love to you Sarah and your healing journey, remain calm on the ride until you're living the life you prayed for. You're such a beautiful person inside and out. ❤️

[@BBXioful]

Im currently getting divorced and it was one sided as well. Your message gives me so much hope of what’s ahead.

[@Lerbear72]

@@BBXioful Ease through the pain with each passing day and just watch as your tears turn from tears of grief for love lost to tears of joy for realizing why it didn't work out! Sending you so much love! You'll get through and you'll be fine, you'll be better than ever! 🤗❤️

[@wizbitz82]

Oh I'm so sorry. Please don't ever feel stupid, you have loved whole heartedly with hope and that takes unbelievable courage.

[@ichiban6004]

I don’t know who you are but I stumbled across this video. It broke my heart and I immediately felt connected to what you are saying. More people need to talk about being broken up with this is something that feels so shameful. I guess because it’s a rejection but life happens. I wish you all the best in your healing journey. One day you will be on the other side of all this ❤

[@kateloumccabe]

He has done you a favour my babe. It’s going to hurt, feel like it’s such a shame. Then you’ll find yourself, thrive and be the best version of yourself. Then someone who makes so much sense will find you, when you least expect it. Take your time, heal, let yourself feel. You’ve got this ❤

[@thegirlwithribbons]

This is ABSOLUTELY a crucial and necessary video!!!! Ladies, if you are dating someone and MARRIAGE is what you desire, a ring, a proposal… give yourself and man a timeline. If he doesn’t want to commit within YOUR timeline, move on. Don’t wait around for a man to “decide” if he wants to be with you for the rest of their life. You have endless options in this gigantic world to “wait around”. Protect yourself at all costs ❤ Ps. Sarah, you’re beautiful, successful, clearly intelligent and with a huge big heart to give. Your person is out there and he’s waiting for you ❤❤

[@user-lq5uv8vv2g]

A Man marries when he's ready and usually not to the love of his life but the one who's there when he's ready

[@juliamertens4694]

Everybody needs their time to get to know a person and to know when to be ready for marriage and when you can't respect that with him why should he respect your wishes?

[@NM-gy6tx]

A man marries when he's given no choice and that he has to for fear of losing her ​@user-lq5uv8vv2g

[@melissagreye8445]

@juliamertens he should respect a woman's wishes because her time line is connected to her biological clock. If she wants to get married and have children she should not have her time wasted by someone who has no intention of marrying her.

[@melissagreye8445]

@user that is why women should date men with intention which is no more than two years.

[@fleurlouisexo]

Being vulnerable is so brave. I’ve got so much respect for you , wishing you all the love and comfort in the world 🌍💕

[@SheriffBadge]

You said it perfectly. What is meant for you will never leave you. Your soulmate would never break your heart.

[@nos5822]

Lol. What? U believe in magic??? 😂

[@yasmeenodeh4621]

Yeah loved she said that. When she said that it reminded me of my favorite quote by Imam Ash-Shafi^iyy: "My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me."

[@R36i359]

My ex bf spent the entirety of the two years of our relationship saying we were going to get married, our 'love' was so deep we seemed perfect, soul mates, never argued told me he loved me everyday. Showered me with affection and love daily. Then shock horror out of nowhere he secretly got married 3 months ago whilst still in a relationship with me! Still telling me he loved me everyday, still showering me with love. She saw him texting me and then his whole family rang me and he said I don't love you I can't talk to you anymore. Not heard from him since. Psychopaths exist! I honestly think there should be laws against emotional abuse during relationships.

[@sharonjoan9997]

Yes. Very damaging. Sue him

[@user-sp3sy5zi8i]

How awful 😢 Are you ok?

[@R36i359]

@@user-sp3sy5zi8i Thanks for asking, still struggling everyday, it's hard to comprehend everything they ever said and did was a lie and were cheating the entire time, I know to multiple people too. About to turn 30 too, hard to think you can trust anyone again and the feeling of time having ran out now. The level of deception was truly disturbing. Scary these people exist especially as he was so loving

[@R36i359]

Thanks for asking, still struggling everyday to do basic things. It's hard to comprehend everything they ever said and did was a lie and were cheating the entire relationship, I know to multiple people too. About to turn 30 too, it's hard to consider trusting anyone again and the feeling of time running out being 30 is hard to say the least. The level of deception was truly disturbing, its scary these people exist especially as they were so loving

[@rungeon83]

this is insane! I really hope you are okay, I can't imagine this! I'm sending love to you. I've had many fantastic relationships and now at 39 I thought I was safe from toxic people because people grow up right in their 30s? Not true! Sadly they get better at wearing masks.

[@lucyward3544]

Ditto. After 12 years together my fiancée left me in the same way and for the same reason in September. Heartbreak is completely crushing, and I’m still trying to navigate the dark times 7+ months on. Sending you a virtual hug, we will get through this x

[@leabeauty837]

Girls.. never wait this long. If they don’t marry you within 2 years, they are likely not going to.

[@Melonsbitter]

Heartbreak is so painful. I hope you’re ok ❤

[@IamMinnie90]

I’m not going through a breakup but this was so healing in a way. So much love dear

[@princessamy]

I know it’s hard but I’ve come to find out that if someone removes themselves from your life it’s actually a blessing and something to be thankful for. You’re beautiful and have a great head on your shoulders with a pure heart. You have a bright future ahead of you.

[@jenniferfisher442]

I went through a blindsided breakup about 2 years ago. I took about 5 months off work, mainly due to the fact I work as a mental health nurse, and I didn’t feel I could take on that responsibility with how bad I was feeling at the time. I know exactly how you must be feeling and I too would not wish it on my worst enemy. Take your time, process all your emotions. Some days and weeks will feel like you’re right back at the beginning and it hits in waves. But I promise you will start to feel better, it will be moments, then hours and then days. And that’s perfectly normal and okay. Friends and family try to do their best “he was a ****” , “ you can do so much better” but when you’re in the thick of it, that advice doesn’t help much. Especially when you have said, they didn’t mistreat you. I found great comfort in learning about my attachment style and of others which really helped me to make sense of my patterns in relationships, but also helped me to reflect on past partners patterns too. 2 years on and I am back to loving life and also dating again which I’m so enjoying. I still cry from time to time and that’s okay. Breakups of this manner are more like a betrayal than a grief, as you have no clue what the other was feeling or have opportunity to try and work on it ( as you would do in a healthy relationship). You almost feel like you are crazy for not seeing any signs. It’s okay to feel hurt. You are beautiful, intelligent and infinitely stronger than you know. I found great comfort in a quote “ how can you loose someone that doesn’t love you? It’s them that lost you and your love”. Sending much much love ❤ xxxxxx

[@Lunalover08]

Break up of this manner are more betrayal really hit me in my chest. So accurate.

[@lornawilsonfitness6250]

So proud of you for posting this, thank you ❤

[@annabeltemple230]

Thank-you for your courage and candor. The one-sided break-up stings more, because it's a trauma and crisis that cuts to the core of our very identity. We lose trust in ourselves, then causing us to question everything.

[@ajs8634]

wow amazingly written comment, so spot on x

[@ClareJo2605]

Don't punish yourself or torture yourself wondering why you weren't good enough, you are good enough for anyone it's just sometimes people feel differently for all sorts of reasons. I went through the very same thing a month ago. He ended the relationship over something that to me was so silly and made no sense. You do question yourself and torture yourself trying to find the answers that you may never get. It is an awful thing to experience, I've only just started to eat again and feel better about myself. It takes time, you just have to push through and think about all the positive things in your life. You're beautiful and successful, life gets better as you go along, day by day. It wasn't meant to be, that's all. I'm a big believer in things happening for a reason and I know it's hard to see sometimes but life will show you that this happened for a reason. Be kind to yourself, Sarah, it's hard but better things will come. Lots of Love xx ❤

[@bri.decode]

Great comment! Especially with the I'm not good enough part. Sarah you are good enough! It feels humiliating to you but you're still valuable. If you want to question yourself do it but don't torture yourself because there's no reason for it. There's nothing about you that deserves to suffer.

[@bethnorman8898]

Bless you Sarah. It is a harsh, gutting feeling when a relationship ends. The heartache can be unbearable. Ride through it and you'll come out a stronger, brighter person. I promise you this! Keep your head up sunshine xxx

[@h_3253]

Your honesty and rawness is beautiful, thank you xxx

[@1717_K]

I’m going through the exact same thing right now and your videos have helped me so much. Literally the exact situation, I’m heartbroken

[@ImAnException]

I never normally comment on videos but this is so brave Sarah. You really are helping everyone who has ever been broken up with. I hope you feel more like yourself too and it gets better… eventually 💕 ❤

[@sarahgore1963]

I’ve sent you my love on Instagram and Tik Tok a few times but wanted to again here on KZbin after you being so brave to share during such a difficult time. Even in a time when you are so hurt and potentially angry you still spoke highly of him as being your person - this is another massive indication of your beautiful character. If your anxiety and depression was a factor in his decision then please know this will be a blessing in disguise eventually. Through life we have many challenges in our health and many other ways, struggling with your mental health should not be a barrier for him. And lastly, also a blessing he didn’t propose. That big first time moment is waiting for you when the time is right when that person simply CANNOT wait to propose to you. Lots of love to you gorgeous girl ❤️

[@tashthornton]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, my ex broke up with me a year ago and I was heartbroken and gutted and it really shook me up, I know you’ve probably been told this a lot but it will get easier and you will slowly heal, just take your time. Funnily enough I met a guy on the train 3 weeks ago and we have been on a few dates and he treats me so much better than my ex ever did. You will get through this ❤

[@meganryd]

Can feel the pain in your voice you’re so brave for posting this and it will help others. I’m currently going through a pretty cut throat, very sudden breakup, except they’re already in a new situation/ relationship with the person they told me not to worry about, I’ve never had a breakup hurt like this I feel sick 24/7 and there was just no closure or final conversation which likely was due to the guilt of seeing me in person. It’s been a few weeks and I found out about the new situation a week ago. I have to believe it gets better but right now it’s tough, sending love ❤️

[@TheeLaurenOLauren]

This will pass babe and you’ll look back at this and smile because you’ll be with someone who would move heaven and earth for you

[@natalieee4538]

I promise it gets easier. I'm just over 3 months in. I could not see the end, and felt I was trapped in this perpetual sadness. But I am now starting to feel myself again and realize it was for the best. You are stronger than you think you are, and these experiences shape us. I love your quote that what is meant for us will not leave us, and I will continue to remind myself of that. Sending you lots of love. Just keep pushing forward xxx

[@Lyndseyde]

I think it’s so cruel when someone makes the decision to end a relationship without any attempt at talking through the problems/concerns and trying to find a solution.

[@MissSeaworld8]

It's not always something you can talk through. If you have lost your romantical feelings for someone, it's nothing more to say. That's the problem. It's not someones fault that they feel the way then do.

[@Lyndseyde]

@@MissSeaworld8 but over a long marriage, for example, there are bound to be times when you feel closer and others you feel more distant. I think if you’re in a mature relationship you should try to talk and work through things before walking away.

[@withkatiemccomb]

I agree. Communication is key and feelings like this should always be brought up as soon as they appear so that you can either try to work through it together, or end the relationship when these feelings keep developing, but at least the other person will be kept in the loop through the process!

[@LisaNgwenze-kw4ed]

Facts and I feel like he knew for so many years

[@lynnd.5135]

This is why marriage is important if you want it. Giving men everything without a ring is crazy. They will take and take and take it you let them. This guy already has his eyes on another. Will probably trade her in for a younger girl

[@danniellenorman]

The respect you have for his decision and are showing yourself in speaking candidly will continue to serve you 10 x more than any idealised outcome could. You're being true to your experience while allowing someone else their own - that's really powerful. As someone single for 7 years, I don't believe telling you "you'll find the right man" is the best answer here, because there's so much more to discover in yourself. The journey of healing after this will be so sweet and personal to you, that you'll have the pleasure to meet every version of yourself. And on that journey will be many, many different kinds of love in friends, family and lovers you never could have dreamed of. Continue to grow in the way you've demonstrated you're capable of and you will meet many friends and potential partners on that trajectory. There is so much ahead of you, but it's also beautiful to honour where you are now ♥

[@lauraburge2529]

Sarah you are so very brave posting this. My heart is broken for you but you will most certainly get through it. Keep strong and smiling you are one beautiful woman xxx

[@sheisit211]

This breaks my heart because I know exactly what you are going through. And it’s such a journey. My 3 year relationship ended in February and i’ve had to re build my life without him. I’ve left behind our friends, his family and everyday feels so different. The first month was a blur and the second now is worse because I realised how much emotion i’ve blocked out and ignored, which is how I was dealing with it to get through every day. But now I’m just heartbroken. I’m going to need time but i’m going to give myself grace. Be patient and trust the journey. We may not see it now but in a few months or year, we’ll look back and understand. I wish you so much strength and courage ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@ArabellaGemma7423]

Oh Sarah, my heart breaks for you. Have followed you for years and you are such a beautiful girl inside & out. This is such a horrible thing to have to experience, I truly believe you will end up with the person you're meant to be with, who makes you realise that this horrible break up was necessary, and all part of a bigger plan! Sending you so much love, light and healing xxx

[@Emelle113]

I went through similar a few years ago. I didn’t see it coming at all and felt silly for not seeing the signs. The lack of closure when it’s one sided is really hard. 3 years on, I can reflect on that relationship and I totally see it wasn’t the one for me - it didn’t fill my cup as much as I thought it did, in the moment. Maybe you will feel the same. I am now in another relationship which feels so much better and I feel truly loved. Everything happens for a reason ❤ you will be okay xx

[@naomsj]

Sending you so much love and strength! This must be horrendous to hear after 6 years investing in your relationship. My biggest fear honestly. I feel for you ❤

[@GratsiX]

Sending you so much love Sarah. You deserve someone that will chose you and fight for you. It will get better and someday it will all make sense 🤍🤍🤍

[@bri.decode]

Reading this comment from you, made my day. Sweet British KZbin community 🤍🤍🤍

[@sbonbon1]

I’ve been there sadly more than once. Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings and as much as it’s a cliche time has always healed me. You are amazing and you will be ok ❤

[@theawindsor67]

I love that you are talking about this. It happened to me where he decided to end it and it was out of the blue to me. I'd moved to his city and his friends were my friends. He even said he'd been thinking and deciding for a couple of months but never communicated that to me and everything had carried on as normal so I was really blind sided. Looking back I lost a lot of myself in that relationship but it took a massive hit of my self confidence and self worth and I've been single since apart from a really terrible situationship that probably made everything worse. I completely get everything you are saying and understand how you feel. You put everything into words how I was feeling back then and in a lot of ways still do. I'm a hopeless romantic but I feel like a lot of people these days won't work on things and are quick to just give up without the communication. They say it can take the time in months to feel better that you were together in years so in your case around 6 - 8 months so don't feel in a rush to 'feel better'. Take your time, feel your feelings and hopefully with every day that passes, you'll have more and more good days. ❤ At the end of the day you want someone to love you like you loved him, why stick around for 50% ❤

[@fakiriayoub8087]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@AfkAliaga]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@BestOffer-ii9ny]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@AfkAliaga]

Is he on instagram?

[@Somusicais]

Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

[@MohamedZaitoun-mh9ht]

ACan dr.porassss send to me in UK?

[@msj7984]

Going through the same breakup for two months and 8 days now. Thanks for sharing, it does feel like someone has died and the memories are what stabs me most.

[@BeckyM22c]

Sending you SO Much love! This is what happened to me, after 7.5 years together, i was completely shell shocked. It's like missing someone who died but they havent died which almost makes it harder

[@claudiapagdin1045]

My heart goes out to you Sarah 😢💔 you are an inspiration to others & someone will be so so lucky to marry you one day 🩷

[@moomoo1006]

Had an ex from 10 years ago where we talked about marriage/moving in then one day he suddenly ended things saying he didn't see forever as well, I was blindsided/ heartbroken. I was then stupid enough to take him back and it ended a 2nd time. At the beginning I felt stupid, took on a lot of blame, how did I not see it etc., now I look back at this relationship as a hard lesson and just something I needed to go thru in order to be the best version of myself. I learned a lot about myself and how important communicating your feelings/intentions/expectations was. I am now happily married. I think as women we tend to blame ourselves for a relationship ending, I think if you've done your best in communicating what you want/feelings etc. and he does not meet up to them then he just isn't the right person for you and that is okay! I've been a firm believer there isn't just one person out there for you, being a relationship is a choice and sometimes the person just isn't meant to be. Sending all my love, take care xx

[@EmmaMumford]

Sending you so much love and healing Sarah. A great saying someone said to me when I went through this a few years ago was 'If he wanted to he would' cliche but with the right person you'll never have to guess where you stand. You deserve a man who knows how incredible you are and chooses you every single day x

[@coral8486]

This broke my heart, it’s hurt specially when these things come out of the blue. Your so strong keep shining we love you ❤

[@MaryamWright-g7q]

This is the video I have needed❤ there is so much stigma around being broken up with, I often feel so embarrassed about my feelings and the way things played out. I was broken up with after my ex decided he couldn’t marry me without his family agreeing to it despite all my love, loyalty and support for him over the four years we were together. Even worse, his family’s reasons for not accepting me were based on my ethnicity (I’m mixed race) and my family not being financially well off. It’s really hard to come to terms with someone you have loved and admired, not only breaking your heart but also betraying you with their lack of a backbone. For years he had said their reasons were a joke so he was going to stick by me not matter what so I was completely blindsided when he ended our relationship, over WhatsApp! It’s been a year but I’m still recovering and healing. Thank you for this video I have really resonated with it and I take strength from your strength and conviction, along with all the other comments ❤

[@Jessicawatt521]

So much love and respect for you sharing so openly and honestly. It would have been easy to say less or not say anything at all but as I can see you have sooo much support and thousands of women who have gone through the same and I'm sure you've helped sooo many other women so thank you. I've gone through a similar shock up break up before. I find writing to be a healing outlet for me and I wrote letters of my pain, anger and confusion to him and sometimes myself (didn't send them to him ofc). I found them recently after I healed, this was a year later and I smiled at the girl writing them because she was so open and so loving and wanted to feel better, at peace and having let go. I realised reading the letters I did feel like myself again and I had let go of everything. That's going to be you as well. I know it's cliched but you will look back and be so grateful for the love you experienced and for all the wisdom you've learnt and you will be with a man that truly would never walk away from you 💖

[@phoebesmith1835]

Thank you for sharing Sarah! Break-ups are the worst … no one is perfect but there will be someone who thinks you’re perfect in every way and will be your person. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and really hope you feel more yourself, and better soon ❤ sending all my love xx

[@laurenleroux4161]

Wow not me crying like a baby! Truly commend you for your honesty and maturity ❤

[@ggod00]

I am not a fan of this channel or a subscriber. I clicked on this video just on a whim. I was expecting another vapid internet chick to spew some bullshit. I instead watched the entire thing start to finish . I have to say I am very impressed with the honesty of the young woman who is the creator of this channel. She wears her heart on her sleeve and having been in this exact situation myself, I know that making this video took serious guts. She seems to be handling it way better than I did and gives great advice. Kudos to you Ms Ashcroft. One of the best videos I have seen all year. I think it will help whoever watches it.

[@KNOWINGNATALIE]

Truly there is so much truth in the saying "what's for you won't go by you". Remember in all this pain and heart ache that you're on the right path and what's happened has happened because you're destined for bigger and better things. Everyone will be saying this to you right now but one day you'll look back on this time with relief and gratitude rather than the sadness you're feeling right now - that day will come. Thank you for posting this really honest video, you're right that this will help so many. Be kind to yourself. Sending you so much love ❤

[@celinabond]

We appreciate your honesty through this. Please know that speaking about marriage, especially for a woman is NOT pressure. You can express how you feel “I want to be a wife and a mother at this time____” and be able to walk away if he doesn’t make it happen. 6 years is way too long (without further commitment) from what I’ve seen with my clients. When you know, you know and he will have done it much sooner. Healing energy your way ❤

[@hunte2005]

Oh darling I feel you that was me nearly 10 years ago with a partner of 8 years, except they were a narcissist so very cruel. All I can say is I can’t even imagine hurting over them now. And I wish I could tell my younger self that. You will one day feel the same, and be so happy! Living your best life!

[@emma_manley]

This was heartbreaking to watch, Sarah. Sending you oodles of love. ❤❤❤

[@melanieemertaylor]

i love how candid you are in this video - a big hug

[@redgirl38]

Thank you for doing this Sarah and telling us......all I can say is it took him 8yrs to decide you werent right for each other....its his problem not yours...you are incredibly beautiful and intelligent and its only a matter of time till the right person see's that.....I just hope Joe doesnt regret this......much love and many many hugs...take time out for yourself and see your friends.....stay grounded and focused xxxxx

[@kamohelomuso6981]

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Going through the same and it’s such a humbling experience. I hope you’re able to heal eventually ❤

[@user-zw7sz8fd5w]

I can really see the pain you're in and it makes my heart hurt :( I'm sending you my love and strength to heal from this, you've got this girl!! - just remember, rejection is redirection - so there is something beautiful around the corner for you💖

[@graceh110]

This was a brave video to put out you didn’t owe it to anyone. Like many others I too thought you would marry Joe so my heartbreaks with you. Better days are coming and I truly believe your person will find you ❤️ Your tribe are always with you x

[@hayleyowen3193]

As someone who was broken up with (well, backed into a corner so I had to do it) 6 months before a wedding and 3 months into living in a new house… I can tell you it does get better. Your future looks different now but there will be a day when you’ll look back and wonder how you ever thought this was for you. I’ve been with my ACTUAL person for 6 years and I can’t believe I ever thought my old relationship was the one for me. Time is a healer. I just want to give you a hug. Something changed in him and it’s absolutely no reflection on you. X

[@rhiannondoyle7388]

I’ve been here - my ex ended it but later wanted to change his decision - the distance and the time apart made me realise we really were not a match and I made the final choice after he came back to close the book and move on. 4 years later I’m now with someone else who’s genuinely like my best friend - he makes me feel safe, makes time for me and always chooses me regardless of the situation. We are planning for our future currently and I can’t be more excited about it . For anyone going through this someone else better is waiting for you - life is leading you to better ❤

[@sarahkessler2456]

Yes!!!!!!!!! Same situation and I am married to my absolute best friend and have two beautiful boys together!! I thought there was no way I could be happy again and BOY was I wrong!

[@RachaelBrook]

I had a similar situation with an 11 year relationship. It’s completely changed how I look at relationships, but I also think that it’s not always about us, sometimes it’s just about them not having the emotional capacity to try and fix an issue. I’ve since found an incredible independence that I didn’t have before and that’s been a huge blessing. Wishing you so much love & healing. It really will get better ❤

[@Jessicacollis]

Thank you sharing Sarah, you have been incredibly brave to share such a personal moment with us, but just know you will be helping others going through a similar time. We are all here to support you 🫶🏼!xx

[@Snowflakes52]

I’m sorry you’re going through this because I, too, am going through this and it definitely sucks lol im 2 months post break up and still feel delusional and in denial with it all, but all one can do is to just keep moving forward. Sending you hugs~ ❤

[@maddiemover5894]

Oh wow. You’re so strong girl. You deserve the best, don’t accept anything less 🙏

[@Emma18077]

Silent watcher, but I couldn’t help but comment. You are an incredible women, thank you for being open and letting me know I’m not alone 😢❤

[@veronicamulenga7119]

Been on this channel for a very long time, and it’s so sad to see you like this, thank you so much for your strength in sharing this with us and I’m wishing you love and strength. ❤ You will get through this, and this video will definitely help others as well. ❤

[@nataliepreston2065]

This post took GUTS! I respect u so much and well done for using your platform to say your truth in a way which will definitely help other people! Remember everything happens for a reason and though that’s not clear now and is very blurry for you in what your future may look like at the moment.. you will end up exactly where your meant to be! ❤ look after yourself and take care also I’m sorry you are having to go through this heartbreak xx

[@soukaynachergui7658]

Mid video I had to pause and start writing this. I went through a breakup and was left depressed and messed up for 3 full years. There’s no easy way to go through it but to let you feel those emotions and time… time heals and one day you wake up and wonder why you put so much thought in this relationship. Now I’m happily engaged to MY person and they choose ME. I am the happiest

[@soukaynachergui7658]

Also, please make sure that you vocalize your ambitions and dreams with your partner early on. I also made that mistake with the ex. It’s important to talk about the desire to get married and how fast/far you want that to happen. Otherwise you’ll waste precious years

[@MRWOLF360]

Thank you so much for your candour, Sarah. I’m struggling so much too right now going though being broken up with. knowing I’m not alone is sad…but comforting

[@hafsaa3]

love how authentic and real you are

[@vickyhamlin]

You are so strong to be sharing this. I went through similar, I was with my ex for 9 and a half years, we got married then 18 months after our wedding he told me he didn't love me anymore and he felt that way before the wedding!!!!!! I couldn't let go for ages and hung onto the thought of it working out. Unfortunately it didn't. I've now also been bedbound 8 years due to Chronic illness. Life has changed so much. I used to be sporty, fit, active and travelled the world for my career working in luxury travel. I know how you're feeling - it makes you wonder if all the years you spent together were based on real feelings. Sometimes things change and we will never understand why but we have to accept it and deal with it the best we can. Your person will be out there somewhere when you are ready and the time is right. Keep being you. Sending love 🙏💕 xx

[@charlieangle6926]

I'm really sorry you've gone through this. Praying for you and sending Love. This is a very hard thing to through, but know it's his loss. You are so Beautiful and will find your person that will Love you and give you what you deserve

[@karink5215]

Thank you for sharing this. I am going through something very similiar right now. Sending lots of love and strenght. I believe we will all get through this, even though it is very hard.

[@GabrielleVeilleux-s3g]

Thank you for sharing your story and being so honest and authentic about it. Please don't be so hard on yourself even if it is natural to be in this kind of situation. Don't put the lack of proposal or commitment on yourself and blame you for not seeing this coming. Everyone is on their own path and although it is so hard not comparing yourself especially when you enter your 30s, I am sure you will find your person down the line. Yesterday I read the quote : Every rejection is a redirection and I find it apply so well to your situation. Sending you much love and support

[@sbrose44]

felt compelled to comment, I am a year and a half down the line from this happening to me. Never felt like it made sense when people would say "oh its been 4 months I'm so over it" for me, it has taken longer and I'm still not 'over' the situation fully, especially when the person who breaks your heart moves on so quickly and you feel like you never meant what you thought to them...but over time I have slowly started to realise that I am so thankful for the break up because if it hadn't of happened I wouldn't have gone on a self-discovery journey and really looking inward and what is important to me, and In doing this I realised that the person who I thought was the 'one' was clearly not because where I would have done anything to make it work and fix the things that were issues, he decided the relationship wasn't worth it. So yes, time does heal and you start to believe what your loved ones tell you that you are better without that person and better things are coming. But it doesn't happen quickly not in my story anyway, I have stayed single and stayed committed to my healing journey and focusing on being a better version of myself instead of distracting myself with new people or partying etc. I would say that one day you wake up feeling just a little bit lighter about the situation and a bit more excited that if this wasn't your person and you loved them so much, then how it will feel when you meet the right person who feels the exactly the same as you. I would really recommend to anyone struggling is to read the book "Attached" it is so insightful and really highlights why some people just don't work together and where you can improve on your own attachment style so aren't needing love from anyone else to make you happy, that they only add to your happiness. I would say to that if you find the other person moves on quickly and the things they were telling you were the reason why they were breaking up with you doesn't make sense, take that as a blessing as well because you don't want to be with someone who doesn't have integrity, honesty or respect for you. All the best on your healing journey. xx

[@Eaty-Eats_ASMR]

I have so much respect for you making this video.

[@Maldives2025]

sorry to hear. As time goes on people change their minds or their desires change. Thats the unfortunate thing, someone can declare their love but as the years go on, things change. Please make sure you don't get back together if he tries to crawl back in a few months time as it will happen again eventually.

[@siobhan1515]

Thank you for sharing this sarah it definitely makes you feel less alone. It gets so hard as you get older watching people do the things you thought you would but I am too am a believer of everything happens for a reason. Hopefully one day the universe will deliver that person who wouldn’t give up xx

[@ebonysearcy4626]

I’ve been heartbroken in the past but after each one my “get back to myself” time is faster. My last heartbreak was in October by March I’m fine. My ex before him is getting married saw the pics and all but couldn’t care less. During those sad days you truly have to remind yourself that you’ll get over it eventually.

[@monitomomi]

You are so brave and strong and I love and admire your vulnerability! 💖

[@lisacassidy-y6o]

My heart absolutely breaks for you, brought back my own story ....Sending you strength, I kept seeing 'if someone is not fighting for you or is okay to risk losing you...let them go', it is horrific to go through, I felt I lost my twenties to someone I thought was my person. Trust in the process, please know you are being freed for better. I met my true person a year later and now married twenty years together, blessed beyond words but I still remember this time in my life. You are not 'not good enough', you were just with the wrong one!! Sending love and strength, allow yourself time to grieve. Every day you awake a tiny bit stronger hang in there. Next time KNOW it is okay to go through tough times, AND if a proposal is important to you that is perfectly fine too. With the right person you should feel safe to say what you need. Write yourself a letter predate for a year from now. Do chord cutting with archangel Michaels strength when you are ready and be very gentle and kind to yourself xx

[@noluvuyolamani2227]

I’m telling you this in a blessing !! You are going to meet the one who is so sure about you ! And you will have a ooooh ! Moment 💡 use these emotions and the heartbreak to catapult you , inspire and motivate you ! Sarah you are absolutely everything and your person is absolutely elated to be closer to finding you ❤

[@tinytron]

people don’t talk about break ups enough like the feelings of despair and shame is so real and most of us go through it, but yet there is so little support yk. im going through a break up right now and even though it wasn’t a long relationship it still hurts a lot ! im thankful more and more people try to be vulnerable because for some reason it feels so isolating being broken hearted

[@EMMADAVIES100]

Sending all my love Sarah! I feel like you just told my exact situation, although it has been 8 months for me. Don't feel like you weren't enough, relationships are never perfect and take work, it's not realistic to never argue or never have conflict so don't beat yourself up. I promise you it does get better, the first few months are excruciating but what you said is what got me through it - If they don't choose you, they aren't your person💗 I would highly recommend a conscious breathwork class, I found it transformative and felt SO much lighter after xx

[@tiffanyspeight8038]

8 months for me as well 🫶🏾💖

[@leonieash7872]

Thank you for sharing your heartbreak 💔 It will get easier, time is such a healer. The pain will come in waves but then eventually it'll be calm. You just have to ride that wave as and when it happens and do it all at your own pace ❤️ His loss, I don't even know you but I already know it's his loss xxx

[@taylorashleigh94]

Can’t even imagine how hard it was to film/ post this! You’re incredibly strong & I’ve followed you even before Joe came along - of which you were amazing then & will continue to be now! Sending love ❤

[@annaledain5437]

Your outlook on this and how you’re getting your head around what has happened is probably the healthiest I’ve heard. You’re going to be fine and better than you’ve ever been! It won’t always hurt and feel like this.

[@rachelhardy3676]

Bless you, you are so brave to do this video Sarah, and you will get through this for sure ❤️ I broke up with my boyfriend a year ago after finding out he’d been lying to me for 6 years and I can really empathise with all of what you’re saying here and how you’re feeling. Even a year on I still have good and bad days, but in the end, you want to be with someone who chooses you every single day, not somebody who isn’t sure, you deserve better! xx

[@Bex11117]

I never comment on videos but I felt called to so im here to tell you that it ABSOLUTELY WILL GET EASIER. Time is the VERY best healer, you take each day as it comes. Ride the wave, go with the flow and take the good with the bad because better days are coming and they will be the very BEST DAYS for you. One thing I will say is, you always have to love yourself the MOST before you love anyone else. I.e u said you loved Joe more than anything else in this world. You are your own truest soulmate and always will be. Just a reminder ❤ sending you lots of love and healing (although its clear that you are strong so you are already well on your way on your healing journey) xx

[@sueshearing6137]

These words helped me after a breakup, I hope in time, they will help you too. Stay strong x When someone walks out of your life, let them. There's no use in wasting your time on people that leave you. What you make of yourself and your future is no longer tied to them. Yeah, you may miss them, but remember that you weren't the one who gave up.

[@jccarty1477]

I've never heard of this girl before but good heavens above, this is BRUTAL.

[@elenatomeska3535]

After 6 years of relationship and living together, I was the one who decided to move out because of empty promises of marriage and forming a family. Promises that it will happen someday. In 5 months, in a year, in 2, but it didn't happen. As you said, we have been to many friend's wedding for the past years. I've lived in expectation especially for the last year and a half and the disappointment grew from day to day. Every attempt to communicate in that direction was followed by accusations towards me and arguments where "I" was always to blame for why it didn't happen. Two weeks ago, after an argument and repeated accusations against me, I decided to temporarily go to my brother's place in the hope that something would change. In the meantime, I found an apartment to move to. I initially asked him if he wanted to come and do those steps too, but he neither stopped me nor came and last time we spoke he was in shock and he didn't believe I could really move out. I have been moved to another apartment since yesterday and it was really difficult to make this decision alone. It hurts and it's sad, but I hope that one day everything will be.