“We Don’t Need More Weak Men” - Dry Creek Dewayne

[@ProperHuman]

We don't need new tips and advice, we need old truth. Thanks Dewayne.

[@RestoRidez]

Amen to that!

[@c_los_creations]

Spot on

[@Detached4547]

Elders like Dewayne are so few now it's sad, we use to have elders like this everywhere.

[@TheTaipan]

"The world doesn't need more weak men" - Amen

[@theunmobablespes6582]

@@TheTaipan that's a fucked up Statement

[@barrynelson634]

@@theunmobablespes6582 Why?

[@NickyRizzles]

Great guest. I love the long pauses when he's collecting his thoughts instead of just speaking.

[@cl20v87]

I noticed that too. He thinks about the question and then plans what to say. He’s not “waiting for his turn to talk”. And we all wait to hear what he has to say. Kudos

[@Detached4547]

Same, love his packaging of each issue

[@pekkalaitinen8769]

I like to think he is Arthur Morgan who never died of tuberculosis, stopped doing bank robberies and bought a ranch

[@hazthematt]

bro spoilers lol. I just started playing rdr2

[@Rudzani]

@@hazthematt To be fair it's been out for years now; it's at the point where people can talk freely about its plot.

[@hazthematt]

@@Rudzani ik, I dont really care I just thought it was funny that I just started it and saw that comment within 24 hours lol.

[@j-rod4217]

Aye fella

[@IceCreamCornDawg]

Arthur is turning in his grave from this comment

[@CharlesMcHaley]

Seriously need the full episode already

[@EJ.Quarry.Dweller]

Tack Room Bible Talk and Dry Creek Wrangler School if you would like to see more of Dwayne's wisdom . Dry Creek Wrangler Scool you will find common sense reasoning and comparisons on life situations . Tack Room Bible Talk will explain how to interpret emotions of yourself and understand the feeling of others Through the word of God . I have enjoyed both immensely and even watch together with my young son grade 9 on the patience and wisdom going from a boy to a young man . I have made mistakes they hurt but they also teach to the person who doesn't throw that wisdom away . Only those who seek the answer shall find and to those given the answers shall remain lost . God bless hope this helps .

[@yeloautosports]

I served in the Marines, worked as a full-time firefighter, and even stepped into the boxing ring. I like to think I am mentally tough based on experiences ive had. Dont get me wrong, those are easy experiences relative to others still. To me therapy is something I absolutely recommend. It's not just about venting-it's about having someone help you understand how your brain tends to work, how your emotions impact you, and how to best regulate, adjust, and tune your mindset day to day. The work is still 100% on us. We have to put in the effort every day, just like hitting the gym to maintain physical and mental health. If you treat mental health like a magic pill, then no, it won't work. There's a balance between being tough on yourself and knowing when to seek help. It takes a lot of self-awareness, but it's worth it.

[@Woodpeckington]

Exactly. It’s not a good idea to tell men “don’t go to therapy”

[@liveoak227]

Therapy isn't about having a shoulder to cry on--a good therapist listens and gives you a set of tools to help avoid destructive or detrimental mental habits

[@TheTrevelyansway]

Great guest. I'm not a religious man but agree with 99% of this. Take care of your family, community and country. Be a positive force.

[@pedromaldonado4291]

I just see some much truth and honesty in Dry's words. The man got my full respect. Cheers!

[@carlsenlifeafter60carlsen11]

I was born in 1955. We were taught to suck it up and move on. It makes you a tougher person. I understand where he’s coming from completely.

[@12yearsa57]

My dad was raised like that and now he can barely walk in his 50s bc he always fought through plain thee definitely a balance

[@ayg2199]

breath of fresh air. i’ve been following Dry Creek for a while now. and he’s right, a lot of this mental health obsession is too much. we need to get back to focusing on our responsibilities and stop spending so much time whining about our trauma.

[@Patson20]

Part of it is modern life is so disconnected from real life, nature and hardship. The human brain has spent 300k years surviving and in the last 80 years we just kinda stopped doing that. So our brains arent meant to handle "office stress" and feelings of worthlessness. Because for our entire history you didnt have to worry about feeling worthless because if you were worthless you were just dead.

[@LoveAboveThought]

❤️🎯

[@MJeeEm-fg8md]

Spirituality, nature, and meaningful work used to prevent needless and non-constructive introspection. Modernity has reduced all of these things.

[@johandebruto9264]

Love this…deep answers aren’t easy…with this allthe way…we don’t need more weak men…

[@LuckysLair]

There's a fine line between having a professional to vent your worries and pain to......and wallowing in it for years and ruminating on it incessantly to the point it becomes debilitating and the all encompassing part of your personality you project out onto the world

[@pictlandpickers1171]

Good comment

[@buckbuckboom6241]

Very well worded!

[@emilianosherm]

My first impression of this guy is that he's probably old school to the point of misogyny like previous generations in my family were, but then I heard him say, "if I am toxic and debilitating to those around me, I need some help"... that right there, is the hallmark of a good person. I'm in awe (in a bad way) of how unaware people are in regard to how they make others feel, and you just have to stay away from them. Stances on poltiics and social issues are really secondary to how you treat people, and a lot of people have that flipped.

[@catinthehat1486]

Brilliant comment

[@mr.mensch1557]

I agree! As long as priorities are maintained, differences in politics & opinions with my friends don’t get in our way from enjoying time together!

[@sadhu7191]

Yeah this guy weirdly down to earth like a sadhu in India

[@MaxMorris2005]

Misogyny? Really come on man the older generation weren’t misogynistic they were realistic There are certain things men can do that women can’t and there are certain things women can do that men can not we are not equal

[@HumptyMcFly]

I’ve been listening to Dry Creek for a little over a year now and I like his mellow style of conversation because he’s not screaming or cursing but he comes off as genuine, wise, and introspective. Someone who I wouldn’t mind sitting on a porch or under a tree to break bread with.

[@gcjproductions6789]

Men's mental health is important. But I believe modern society goes about it in the way we handle Women's mental health. And that is where we start falling apart.

[@NickyRizzles]

this comment right here

[@Patson20]

Yep, men are generally only weakened by just sitting doing nothing and talking about problems. My buddy and i always talk about things while doing an activity. Last week we were building a shed while talking about work and issues with his wife, month before we were chopping wood. Before that it was fishing. And every time its not affirmations but problem solving.

[@tom-ment-Capybara]

100%

[@bas3q]

100% this. Modern therapy focuses on feelings before solutions. For the average man, the best way forward is to solve the problem first, deal with the feelings later.

[@Patson20]

@bas3q hell most modern therapy denies that solutions exist outside of "mindfullness" and treat all mental issues as a chronic problem you have to just learn to live with.....which definitely has nothing to do with feminists aversion to accountability or their vested interest in keeping you paying them, or the pharma wanting you dependent on their pills.

[@BIGGELATO]

This is like a modern man and a 1950s man on a podcast talking about era differences. It's like back to the future, time capsule stuff. And I love it.

[@IZSIN222]

such a good way of putting it

[@isaiahmacadam]

Release the full podcast! Was not expecting this interview but so excited

[@leonb8420]

When he asked 'How does an individual find a balance that fits him?' What came to mind was watch the people around you. Analyse their behaviours, their opinions and watch how what they say and do affects others. I have people I work with who are very inconsiderate in their speech and actions and I see what lasting affect they leave on others. They could use more mindfulness and humility. On the contrast I see people pleasers who are kind in nature and mean well for others but lack personal identity and the courage to be themselves and stand for what they believe to be right. It is a tightrope but looking deeply at your values and the value of others and dissecting them can help a lot.

[@PizzaTime1983]

The one about ppl kind in nature that can't stand for what's right speaks home for me. It infuriates me because I see it all the time.

[@taylormeelee]

His focus on responsibility and service to others is key. When we ask ourselves, “is this affecting my ability to be of service?”, then the answer will be clearer. For some of us it will mean stopping and looking inward; for others it will be getting off the couch and out of our heads and doing something. The lens of serving others will help us know what is needed

[@All_love123abc]

The way I found balance is recognizing what works for me and what doesn’t. Making the tactics I use to be specific for myself.

[@clutchoholic6550]

Things get hard. For everyone. Getting through it. Getting past it. Figuring it out. Becoming better. That’s the point of all this. Trying to avoid hardship is like trying to avoid living. Things are supposed to be hard. We’re supposed to live. This is what makes us stronger every day. 💪

[@2Goldens1Rott]

A truthful society is not a profitable society

[@kingmaafa120]

Well quoted and noted 🦾🐈‍⬛❤️🤐👍 🇹🇿🇺🇬❤️

[@ryancagerbaker]

Just knowing how to recognize, acknowledge and process your emotions is extremely helpful. Most therapists are going to try and help you figure out how to process your emotions on your own but not every therapist are the same and might not be the right fit for you.

[@Patson20]

You can honestly learn these skills just by reading psychology books. Alot cheaper and therapeutic in their own way

[@zc4905]

We have a massive mental health issue in America. We’ve been treated like cattle, like grains of sand. We’ve been belittled, sickened, diseased, yet we’re still the backbone holding this “world” together. Medications are NOT the cure, we need human beings, being human beings. We’ve ALL been mistreated, let’s talk about it and come out of this murk stronger by 100 fold.

[@aimbotherro007]

Dewayne hit the nail On the head perfectly. Great interview

[@TerryRajsombath]

Lighting on this set looks fantastic. 👌

[@0num4]

Chris has upped his production values in the last few years. He's a head above the rest when it comes to cameras, lighting, and even audio quality (even though the Shure SMB7 has proliferated greatly due to guys like Rogan using it on their podcasts & talk shows)

[@user-rw8zj1td9v]

I sucked it up until it became too much and I was coping with alcohol. The balance he's talking about is hard to find on your own sometimes. Therapy with the right person can make a world of difference. There is a time for everything...a time to suck it up and a time to get help ha.

[@0num4]

I agree 100%. My own struggle with alcohol was, in retrospect, an easy fix for me personally. However my challenges stemming from Post Traumatic Stress were far more difficult, to the point where it was seriously affecting my marriage. Counseling was what I needed for that part of my life. Did a lot of FIDO (Fuck it, Drive on) in the Army. Some of it was necessary, especially when rounds were flying and explosions were going off nearby. But just as much of that mentality stunted my own emotional growth and did not lend itself to building resilience--it was to keep me a live, not to help me thrive.

[@Goodyear1776]

This is definitely true, and also having a strong support network, a strong wife that loves you, strong people around that care for your wellbeing and vice versa. Sucking it up works for a week, a month, at most a year before the toll it takes costs more than the money you make for your family. Balance is key

[@ChadHendricks-zo4pw]

Therapy in the right way can help a weak man become stronger and a man posing as a really strong man to be a better leader and lover for the people around him.

[@yankee4424]

This idea that therapy makes you weak is BS. There’s a reason that so many men from previous generations were miserable alcoholics. Suffering in silence doesn’t make you a man. There’s nothing wrong with getting the help you need to be a better person.

[@stevenfoulger6066]

I'm glad someone mentioned this. I like Dewayne, and hardly miss one of his videos, but he's not infallible. I scroll through the comments and many are full of agreement and praise. I'm not knocking Dewayne. He's obviously a smart articulate man with a lot of wisdom to share, but this is one I have to ponder about and have to slightly disagree. In his own video on the topic last week, he seem to suggest that men should not be "burdening" their wives with their problems and to find a male friend to confide in, but husbands and wives are supposed to be able to confide in each other. It's part of marriage. I definitely would rather confide in my wife rather than to take certain issue outside of the home to someone else other than a Pastor or someone like that. If your wife is trying to persuade you to get help, then swallow your pride and get help.

[@ZarrocLP]

This is fun you guys are vibing a lot and building on each others ideas

[@tone5959]

My father is not is a bulky overbearing guy just kind and full empathy and compassion he is 96 all of us in our family live to be over 100 my dad's sister was 101 this kindness and empathy is not a weakness my dad always told me.Use your brain not your brawn I have been married for 42 year my wife and we are best friends we always support each other my grandparents were married sixty eight years my grandfather was a ww1 vet all my uncle's we're kind men always there to help anyone those were my mentors and from world war 1 too the present we all served this country 🇺🇸

[@dariusdaroll]

I love the dry creek is always down to talk and debate.

[@0num4]

As we've observe time and again: Men are more likely to get their therapy not from direct counseling, but by working shoulder to shoulder with other men, sharing their trials and tribulations while fixing a car, or replacing rotting joists. I'm not saying therapy has no place for men. But it is most certainly more well designed for women.

[@marlonlocklear239]

I agree with this guy a lot I like the oldschool way of thinking and doing things,it’s tough but you can also learn ALOT

[@gemmalouisecross759]

I have a young son who is massively academic working in China. My other boy works scaffolding for his father..no difference. They need masculinity in every aspect of their learning. They are both hard working and striving for improvement. Men are different to women and that is ok

[@biasedknowledge]

Fascinating discussion. The way you break down the balance between strength and softness in men strikes a chord. It reminds me that finding balance isn't about choosing one extreme over the other but learning when each quality is required. Strength without purpose becomes a burden, and softness without boundaries leads to weakness. One thing that wasn't mentioned but feels relevant: great leaders-whether in the home or on a battlefield-often possess what I’d call adaptive strength. They can meet each moment with the right mix of resilience and compassion, not locked into a single response. This ability to adapt, I believe, comes from asking deeper questions, like: 'What does this moment require from me?' rather than just defaulting to what we've always done. That level of introspection isn’t weakness; it’s wisdom in action.

[@stephenbetley9596]

Good you're having Syed on. That'll be an interesting watch to see in what direction it goes.

[@informationtransmitter599]

This dude us awesome. Love his content and highly respect him...

[@AlphaExpansionTV]

Love that you had Dry Creek on. Love his advice and KZbin channel. He's like a cool Jordan Peterson...

[@bjkarana]

A Laconic Jordan Peterson to boot.

[@arlenreimer1973]

9:00 That is spot on. Our societies have become so hyper self focused and internalized that we have completly lost the plot. As a 46 year old man, husband of 16 years and father to 5 kids (all with my wife) it is absolutely imperative for me to look at my family and ask myself what is best for them. If you look at almost every single issue in society, every crime perpetrated, and every destructive act committed I guarantee the underlying cause is selfishness. It is embedded in us from day one as a survival instinct but as we grow and mature it must be replaced with selfLESSness in order for society to thrive. I may have a rotten and tiring day at work but when I get home my wife and kids have a right to my time and energy and love. Sometimes, absolutely I need to rest and have some time to myself (I am very introverted and need some solitude and quiet to recharge) but that must be done in service to my family and not at their expense. This has been one of the most challenging lessons I have ever had to learn and I still have a lot of work and growth ahead of me but when one of my kids (4 sons and 1 daughter) come up to me, gives me a hug and tells me they love me... it is worth it and so much more.

[@fantomclothingco]

You have something money will never be able to buy Sir. God bless you and your family.

[@ZNTXVODs]

learn about "reciprocal altruism", then ask yourself why young men feel as if they won't be reciprocated for their efforts and sacrifices also, you've had children, so your brain's physiology has undergone changes in its lobal distribution of gray matter to account for your new role as a father, so you have now been re-programmed as a father, as such, you will likely have more difficulty understanding where men are coming from as they are not tied to the same societal structures or biological incentives as you are

[@adamcall3664]

Thought there was something wrong with the audio at 0:56

[@Chadski-22]

I didn't learn any lesson from my experiences that was EASY. Its the mistakes, struggles, failures, and challenges. Sometimes you need to man up. And sometimes you need to relax on the back porch with a cigar. Balance 100%. Because if you aren't balanced the next time you need to man up, you might not have the gas in the tank to overcome that challenge.

[@tsibren]

Looking forward to the complete interview!

[@dharmapunk777]

Going to the gym is about ego for some maybe, but exercise is as or more important for mental health than sitting in the yard.

[@MichaelBrown-pg5dy]

Some people, like Dewayne get more than enough physical exercise from their daily work. For people like them, just sitting in the back yard is just what they need

[@dharmapunk777]

@MichaelBrown-pg5dy That doesn't really have anything to do with my point. He said it as though there are no other tangible benefits to going to the gym besides lifting heavy. Also, having worked as a framing carpenter, which is arguably one of the most athletic jobs you can do, there are still benefits to exercise outside of work.

[@Fish-153]

@@dharmapunk777 I interpreted him as meaning you have a choice. Gym is good but if one is overloading themselves with pressure to lift more, get that six pack etc then perhaps these are reasons that are more about trying to gain self acceptance by pride / ego and an unawareness of what will bring true contentment and peace. Because, my bet is that if someone does go that route, they will never be big enough, run far enough, have enough muscle to ever bring mental peace and if that is what someone is doing and still overwhelmed, then perhaps they need to ask why? That's how I interpreted it.

[@sanskarrai6596]

The last 3 mins are gold

[@kingmaafa120]

Facts

[@KaizenMcQueen]

One of the best podcast episodes by Chris

[@R900DZ]

Glad you had him on.

[@karakuri002]

I can't believe youtube is hiding this from me, I've been waiting for it since I heard Dewayne said he did a collaboration with Chris. The moment I saw it appear on my main page, it got automatically refreshed and this was hidden beneath the woodworks.

[@josephmurphy1459]

Seeking help isn’t weak, and he can’t even draw the line between the two; he even admits that. The fact that his wife is asking him to see someone and he won’t is probably a sign that their relationship is rocky at best. Being a man doesn’t necessitate refusing help.

[@GoosetavoS42]

That's called pride, which is the main cause of divorce.

[@Winved]

8:09 hit hard. Havn't thought of it this way before. Thanks.

[@Matt-zk6kl]

This guy speaks the truth

[@DavidSmith-qf3sm]

“ As men we do things to impress and appease others, rather then doing the healthy thing that leads to longevity, for ourselves and our loved ones”.

[@beaubellamy2999]

Oh I’ve been waiting for this one!

[@kated4359]

DO NOT DISAGREE!!! Love This man!!!!

[@birdinhand_]

I think his last point in the video really captures the importance of questioning your impulses. Asking why you think you need to be jacked or rich.

[@DinoMan_6]

Reminds me of Landon Ricketts in RDR1. He’s an old timer that has some wisdom. They who controls horses controls the world. - An old Mongolian proverb.

[@thereport4896]

Agree. I do not need to talk to some paid so called trained therapist to adapt and overcome. Been doing it all my life, figuring it out. Now 63.

[@echdk]

A podcast for men sharing their feelings about not being too emotional 😂

[@nnova319]

I like the idea of the point about balance/harmony being different for all of us. We all ride our own bikes. Made me think about how I could know what direction to turn to bring that balance back. Some strategies came to mind: PLAY - get in the game, don’t spectate when you can participate APPLY - just do things. read & consume but prioritize doing them YAP - Talk to people, and what you value and enjoy, your passions will naturally come out PAL - straight up ask your friends and loved ones who know you best LAP - embrace repetition as if working out at a gym. You’re working out the clarity to sense the direction you should probably go; won’t happen overnight This kind of helps me think about how to practically get to my “why” they refer to

[@toscar22link10]

More Dewayne!!!

[@EmiLovesShakespeare]

OMG CROSSOVER I NEVER KNEW I NEEDED

[@scasny]

I think its like a scale and more hardship you experience wider the scale. So if its short every little movement of the needle is dramatic and noticeable and go from one extreme to another. But if its wide you dont even register little movements and can take a whack without hitting your limits. I once was close to freeze to death, experience true hunger as i once dont eat for 72 hours. Got almost lost in the woods, and nearly run over by a truck. Was in a car crash and as a kid nearly drown in a massive river. Still drive and ride my motorcycle, live swimming but granted i drag my jacket or some form of warm clothing even in heat wave. What connect all those life threatening experiences and that i dont have any trauma from them is i keep my cool and was not stressed out or panicking that much. School exams thou. Am 36 and still have some nightmares and awful dreams being in school.

[@fatheroftwins3]

Therapy is ok until it makes you constantly question everything to the point of paralysis. Because if you constantly question everything…there’s something new each day to make you question what you learned yesterday. Some things are just so and don’t need further analysis. Some things are better left unsaid.

[@Lamhfhad]

Thank god for Dewayne. He's a father figure to many of us. The world doesn't need women's solutions to men's problems. Far better some manly tough love and wisdom than toxic, infantilising feminine compassion.

[@az954rr]

The answer to his question should probably include “find a trusted mentor”

[@StacyA406]

Love this guy.

[@First.nameLastname]

Love this

[@LeeMuayThai]

I believe that in a perfect world everyone should have a therapist. Everyone can benefit from talking to someone who is non biased and has no connections with the other people in their lives. I think that some men are becoming softer because of the internet, games, the fast-pace work culture that breaks people down, etc. Having balance is key, hit the gym and be there for your family and if you need professional help then get help and live your best life.

[@VenusLover17]

Love your work. Thanks!

[@scottmarkland6873]

Don't believe everything thought you have...but don't deny everything feeling you have either

[@GoldenChild_jpeg]

Congratulations on reaching 3 Million subscribers.

[@samuelmckinnon6976]

Was there a specific reason you chose to sit so far apart at the table? Does it help with the dynamic of the conversation, or is it more about the technical setup for the podcast?

[@DanDanger665]

To anyone reading this: if you’re like me and lived under the crushing, oppressive weight that unskillful stoicism like this can bring about, I urge you to remember that the way of thinking in this video is just A way of thinking, and you are not obligated to take it to heart. There is never shame in seeking therapy, and you don’t owe anyone a justification of your reasons for seeking it. Needing therapy does not make you weak, or a woman, it makes you human. Real strength is being willing to humble yourself and recognize when you can’t do it on your own. Don’t worry about what a “real man” does. Be kind to yourself, and to others, and you’ll be a stronger and wiser person than most, man or woman. I hope you all have a wonderful day.

[@lukelinnellmusic]

I really feel like this sort of rhetoric doesn’t strike the right tone. Men don’t need to man up even more, that’s what we got told to do all the time, and the suicide rate is 80% men. Therapy isn’t idle complaining, it’s being handle a set of tools to repair your emotional wounds. This is just furthering the problem for a lot of men by continuing to say that asking for help is weakness.

[@DKH712]

They focus on weakness. I think if you really face whats eating you, you will be weak for some time yeah, but once you pull through on the other end, you'll be strong again. And it will be more sustainable. It's a bit of a fixed mindset to only see the weakness involved in learning to deal with your emotions and think that's a bad thing. You gotta look beyond that too. It's a journey

[@jonnyvpc]

Disagree. The suicide rate could now be 80%. But in previous generations of us, as men. It was not as high. Let wonder why? Why did it increase when words like I see on this here comment section seems to be popular along with declining male resilience. Not strength, resilience. Words like: Misogynist Toxic Masculinity Emotional intelligence I am not being mean or a cranker I’m simply seeing a pattern of very non resilient males who quite frankly, have more access to mental empowerment (KZbin) and mentors (skool) and practical skill building (udemy, free courses) and even dating (pick any dating app) than our great grandpas had. I squarely say, some Men just need to man up. Absolutely. It’s tough and it’s not easy. Mommy not going to kiss the cut and it all better. No. Sometimes you gotta splash the ointment on and go for more because it builds resilience. Build resilience. Then with grace you can pass that on. Maybe it’s just men like me. I grew up in Bedford Stuyvesant Brooklyn in gang violence during the 90s. Born in 84. What some men think are so tough is just not relatable to me at times. I do aplogize if this is crass. Hopefully I can offer some joy your way and tell you make lemonade out the lemons young men. That’s how things are made. From the tough hide. Jesus Christ has designed us to be the leaders. So lead.

[@corbeauwrite]

Because it is a false rhetoric, that goes against the grain of his youtube channel. He is using toxic shame "man up" to explain his point but doesn't goes deeper to it. I am into therapy from competent professionnals and they explain exactly what is happening to my brain, from serious studies and past patients. It was extremely painful to the point I was trembling in pain, but now It's way better (after lot of tries). Weakness is luggage-word that is losing its first defintion. People should really be cautious of this "wisdom" on the internet just because they have a deep voice, they predate on the normal vulnerability of people. Saying "we don't need weak men" is indirectly saying "we don't need human being that suffer traumas" and in a position of power, what "we"? the "real" "strong" men? who gives a shit?

[@GoosetavoS42]

Its also the reason behind a lot of divorces, men refusing to get help for their problems, even with the wives asking them. I truly believe the negative consequences of that mindset is the foundation for liberals and radical feminist. We see this as the foundation to the 1920s alcohol prohibition. For alcoholic men are more often self medicating from past trauma. Which causes abuse and poverty to their family. Its why wives in the before banded together and convinced our politicians to outlaw alcohol.

[@joeymcdowell7535]

Great guest love hearing his advice

[@jahineverybody]

This really made me miss my farther and grandfather

[@MichaelApodaca]

"What would you advise young men, 19, 23, who don't have the benefit of the age and experience... to say this is kind of an area that can help you find your balance?" To me Chris was on the right track with this when he started with, "checking in with yourself." However, I think that's the follow-up. I think the first thing should be, am I doing what I need to be doing as a man both to my family and/or in society and at work? If not, then address the matter and make sure that you are. If you already are, then are you giving it your all or are you half-a$$ing it and not feeling much stress or pressure with anything? Then give it more or do more. Maybe that means exercise or maybe that means looking for something else. But you should be at the point where you're busy, slightly stressed and feeling productive. This gives us men a sense of pride. But you have to take care not to overburden yourself or overdo it (too often) so that you're feeling aggravated, overly stressed or ill-tempered. If you reach that point, scale it back a bit and/or introduce the methods Dewayne suggested. Go have a cigar in the backyard, meet up with some buddies, catch a ball game. Do something to help get you back to square 1 and then get back to work, albeit at the proper pace that you're able to maintain mental stability. In a constantly changing world with ever-changing schedules, diagnoses, and circumstances, our balance as men will be constantly shifting as we get older and things change around us (marriage, kids, houses, jobs, economy, deaths, etc.). It's up to us to make sure we are able to maintain stability since those around us will look to us for strength and support. You (we) can do it, it's not always easy, but it's always worth it!

[@Kowalamaster]

I am curious to know how Dewayne, would suggest how one works on not being a weak man, like what can one do to become less weak.

[@Hammsolo77]

As a Montana boy, “Rub some dirt on it while you hold my beer and watch this.”

[@wakeupandflow]

Guys don’t sacrifice your mental health please I do agree that there’s value in processing emotions by yourself and would also say that’s the preferred way in most cases but don’t feel you have to bottle everything especially when it gets too overwhelming - you don’t need a therapist but a get a coach, mentor, or even a friend would do

[@marcosellsproperty3843]

"The challenge here seems to be less about understanding the 'why' behind the 'what' and more about asking ourselves: Does this message offer any utility? Can we use it to enhance the quality of our own lives and, by extension, positively impact others? It's not about claiming an absolute truth, but rather finding ways to apply these concepts for meaningful improvement. Thoughts?"

[@theardentadventure]

"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” If your default response is to avoid or shut down further conversation or investigation - then you might want to consider what and why you are really avoiding and what learning or growth opportunity is potentially being missed, what risk is increasing due to further avoidance.

[@Mr.Pojangle]

I’m 50 and this is pretty much me, I’m not that tuff but I’m tuff enough

[@Voxtism131]

The answer is feel is “love”

[@zodabc]

Dewayne is an incredibly introspective person. He gives that credit to everyone, which I think doesn't acknowledge that there are millions of men not equipped with the self awareness to ask themselves "Why?" "Am I / others around me suffering because of me?" "How do I take care of myself to take care of my unit" I'm personally thankful to have male uncles and cousins who helped me develop those skills as a young man. I think Dewayne fills that role for men looking for that calming, rationale male perspective in their lives. I wish he didn't have such a jaded view of therapy, because, at it's root, modern therapy techniques like CBT is another route that is helping in a way very similar to the video he proves through Dry Creek Wrangler School (which I do highly recommend). Dewayne's way is a very traditional way of sharing self help, but there are a lot of ill-equipped families who can't teach you a better way to approach challenges. Whether it's Dewayne in a video walking you through the introspection and questioning or a licensed professional, neither is fully right or wrong. The more tools and resources out there to be the best person to take care of yourself and loved ones the better off society is.

[@kev244]

I have an anger problem and get therapy for it . Have been for 5 years ! I’m still a strong man

[@TheCosmicTrailblazer]

Takes a strong man to go through therapy. "Strong men" will find out how weak they truly are and it's why they make every excuse under the sun to avoid therapy.

[@hannahr248]

100% stronger than this dude!!

[@BoostedPastime]

Amen. If you need help get help. Don't listen to mister 1800s advice over here when it comes to your mental health.

[@gabelarsen4375]

Either you have a comprehension issue, didn't listen fully or tuned out when your emotions kicked in. Because that's not at all what he said. He didn't put down anything

[@jasonschmitt302]

Gentlemen, if you are struggling with your mental health if you are in place thinking of hurting yourself, get help. Suck it up isn’t always the way. Nothing wrong with seeking help.

[@BoostedPastime]

Amen

[@dariopadovan1976]

The guest that everybody here was secretly waiting for.

[@timbercop]

That is one epic beard.

[@diesel_tech_three4332]

Full episode please!

[@Aliashavoc]

Never underestimate the power of "why". The development of civilization was built on that single question.

[@umaxfitness]

When for every single emotion you don't agree with you need to seek help and talk to somebody it can become a problem. When you can't FIX your own emotion or problems by your self you can't grow. Having DOWN moments to deal with is what gives you the needed experience to grow. Solving hard problems makes you a better man and if you don't know how to do that just ask someone close to you that has the experience. I am not saying you should not seek professional mental help but how can somebody who doesn't know you, be better than a parent or a close friend in listening and giving you advise?

[@fisho2620]

really enjoyed this guys outlook

[@fisho2620]

I run 5k once a week , why ? Because David Goggins told me stop being a lil bitch hahah nah I just wanted to be a stronger man than I was. I do how ever watch Goggins videos if Im not in the mood for a run. A little kick up the backside and my trainers are ON !!!!

[@Samuel115s]

I don’t bottle up emotions, I express my emotions and priorities my mental health……..in private.

[@alexeimisalov5975]

Great podcast piece. How about Dwayne’s page in description?

[@sihlemhlongo4793]

Agree a hundred percent! Sometimes, if not all the time, you just have to suck it up… no need speaking to therapist. Only and best “therapist” by far which I converse with is The Man upstairs - God.

[@GoosetavoS42]

Its also biblically for seeking advice and counsel from Godly men and women. We see this a lot in the bible, even King David sought counsel from others.

[@yankee4424]

He says when he’s being toxic or debilitating to those around him that it’s time to get some help. He follows it up with his wife has been encouraging him to go talk to someone. So, maybe if your wife is encouraging you to get some help, maybe you ARE being debilitating to those around you? Just a thought.

[@tommyrq180]

Listen to the video again. If she’s saying he needs to “talk with someone” that’s just how she feels now. Two weeks later, she’ll be wondering and grateful for his strength. Then a week later, he’s the devil. Then weeks later, he should talk to someone. He’s LISTENING TO HIMSELF which isn’t an emotional roller coaster. HE is finding the balance that fits him, and benefits her. And maybe if some anonymous keyboard guy says maybe you are being debilitating, you should treat it with the respect it deserves… Just a thought.

[@yankee4424]

Maybe his balance doesn’t actually benefit her though. Marriage is a team effort regardless of what anyone tells you. Obviously she feels he isn’t benefitting her if she thinks he should talk to someone. Either partner telling the other you’re better off if I’m this way or I’m that way and refusing to listen to how the other person feels isn’t a healthy marriage at all. If that’s how either party feels then they shouldn’t get married to ANYONE. It isn’t up to the man to decide how the woman feels, or the woman to tell the man how he feels. Anyone in a marriage like that should end it, because it’s toxic. My wife and I both listen to and rely on each other and we’re both happy. I don’t need to pretend like I’m living in the 1950s to feel like a man. Obviously there are a lot of insecure men out there that need this guy, or David Goggins, or Andrew Tate to tell them they aren’t a man if they don’t do things a certain way. Obviously there are a lot of insecure men out there that think they have to be tough guys all the time or people will think they’re feminine. That’s really sad to be honest. “Sucking it up” until someone blows their brains out isn’t manly, it’s just stupid.

[@tommyrq180]

@ Maybe. Maybe you’re just making stuff up to self-aggrandize and if I really knew what was going on in your house I’d be horrified. Never know here on the YT comments section. For you to think you know what’s going on in his life from a clip is, well, ignorant. And it’s not up to you to psychologically diagnose someone in a YT comment given you have established zero credibility based on your education, experience, degrees, research; anything other than typing. You’re just saying “I’m a great guy! I care! I am sensitive! I have a good marriage! Well, maybe; and nobody cares. You need to put down the keyboard. That’s my diagnostic advice based on your behavior…

[@richardguzman6426]

We control are mind not outside events - Marcus Aurelius

[@Metalmike1289]

Usually the people who say we don’t need more weak men are weak themselves

[@Vantitas]

I mean weak men create hard times after all.

[@jasmintorres5696]

If you look at his KZbin. He’s actually a very gentle man who’s reflected a lot on his life and gives advise to men on his channel. I think his main point is to persevere and get the job done despite XYZ

[@ivanbaric4017]

Weak men are useless in most cases.

[@wongel3950]

When’s the entire interview dropping?

[@pedropierre9594]

Monday

[@philb388]

I've only seen clips he seems quite vague on his answers like when he "I'm old school" without really going into detail on that only that you should suck it up, OK well in experience that just means that I don't know, but still have to do it. Then gives his story of the broken rib and still has to do a job that doesn't answer anything really it just says to tough it out. I don't think knows what he is talking about except about his area of the world

[@BoostedPastime]

Obviously he knows what he is talking about because he is a real man. All boomers know everything.

[@mralien4710]

If and when we know. IF.? Does not matter., till it matters, by then it is too 2 late.