Is Hustle Culture Ruining Young Men? - Dry Creek Dewayne

[@ChrisWillx]

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[@WaryofExtremes]

Most young men in the U.S. and Canada can't afford a cigar, or a decent chair to sit in. They have to consider how they can make and save more money. Back yard... yeah. It's not "Married with Children' rules. Masses of joe jobbers can just barely afford renting an apartment...they don't get a back yard, a house with a garage, a car, and a home with rooms for 2+ children to have their own.

[@codyromness]

Fabulous guest

[@DWbo-r7v]

Splitting people into type a and type b is the first false assumption. I've seen insecure anxious to impress type a people become so burnt out they are some of the most "lazy" on the planet..... Because laziness is the laziest word in the dictionary..... The system is built to breed mental health problems in millions of people

[@MyHeartless123]

That sitting down reading enjoying a cigar moment has always made me feel guilty, I’m always in this mindset of “I should be doing this I should be doing that, I need to do this I need to do that.” As if my what’s supposed to be relaxation just fuels my anxiety. You feel like you waste time by relaxing but you feel like you’re wasting life by working all the time.

[@Joshin-kf1vz]

100% feel this. When i try to relax, that voice will come along and tell me I should be doing something productive instead. It makes it where sometimes I can't even enjoy recreational activities because there's guilt knowing there are other things that I could be doing instead. But that's the thing, with life there's always something that'll need done, it doesn't end until we take our last breath. I'm trying to find that balance just like this video talks about, there's a time to work hard and there's a time to recuperate/think/recharge so I'm ready for whatever the next challenge is. Without that balance, I'm either going to burn myself out working too hard all the time, or I'll fall behind not working enough.

[@samuelberges8745]

Same it’s hard I feel like I should smoke it in like 3 mins then get back to work

[@TheGiantMidget]

That voice isn't yours. It's the voice of society that demands men should always be producing and we internalise that voice as if it is our own. It's called the super-ego

[@Marking_The_Way]

​@@Joshin-kf1vzI've been struggling with finding my balance for years. I realize my productive hours are unique and learning to be cool with that 🙂

[@Chris_MoreThanThis-Counselling]

Exactly. We're made to feel guilty about taking a rest, when instead we should be feeling good about recharging ourselves and giving ourselves the chance to reflect and switch-off and recharge.

[@tylermorrow3550]

Damn. I worked with Dwayne for a few months in Marshall NC. Was definitely a good man. Couldn't believe when I found out he had a channel. He's absolutely the same in person just so everyone knows.

[@UncleTravelingMatt2]

Great to know! A man like him couldn’t be someone else off camera I don’t think. You can’t be who he is without it being real

[@sweengeppetto1915]

What kind of work were you doing there ? I think that place was devastated in the recent floods.

[@no_guarantees]

It's obvious how authentic he is , but it's good to have a referral.

[@tylermorrow3550]

@@sweengeppetto1915 yes I'm from Burnsville NC, Marshall is 25 mins away. I was down there when it happened. I'm up in ND now. It was bad. Marshall downtown area is gone.

[@tylermorrow3550]

@@sweengeppetto1915 I was working with him on a dude ranch/trail riding type thing.

[@TitoBandito6]

I’ve been workshopping this theory that “Hustle Culture” is the “Impossible Beauty Standard” equivalent for men. We see rich ripped men on social media who are getting up at 4am to grind and no matter how much you do, you could always be better. Dewayne is a welcome voice of “It’s alright to be who you are and be where you are in life. Find contentment in that.” I think I need that message these days.

[@stevendouglas3781]

It’s more like one led into the other. The hyper social-media vanity of women caused men to try and become the man that kind of chick wants. If most women were fine with 50K a year, down to earth, well balanced guys then there wouldn’t be any need for hustle culture.

[@EthansTradeJournal]

Brilliant point

[@ReelAnglerReviews]

You will never see the mainstream promote a message of balance and contentment. They will never stop making people feel like they need more.

[@keithqueen352]

​@ReelAnglerReviews spot on. The system can't profit off of peace, contentment, and self sufficiency.

[@KeithWhalen11]

One problem is that labourers can hardly afford a backyard in which to think from anymore. Before North America lost tens of thousands of factories through globalization, men hustled at jobs in their communities, could afford to raise a family, and had stake in society. Hustle culture isn’t doing much to rebuild Detroit, Gary Indiana, Youngstown Ohio, and the list goes on.

[@svenheuseveldt7188]

live is all about power and attention nowadays. living a humble live doesn't cut it anymore, it's a fight for status. but that has always been the case.

[@jamiefagan9129]

This is the result of extreme capitalism. We dont value the right kind of people anymore, and we don't pay them either. There should be balance between capitalism and socialism

[@nightshift7963]

Grew up in a small town in eastern nc. Everyone worked at the local factories. Those plants running 3 shifts could employ not only our town but damn near all the surrounding counties. Parents raised kids sent them off to college or the military and people were enjoying good lives. As mentioned after globalization they told us a man or woman who'd wotked there whole lives on an assembly line was going to go to dchool get retrained in auto repair, it or nursing which was utter bs. The sad part is we spend so much time trying to stay afloat, that all we csn do is sit back and watch them rule and ruin the world. Sadly no politician can save us from whats coming.

[@AndyStitzer]

Underrated comment

[@jordanslingluff287]

Dude, trade jobs in a lot of states are paying six figures. I did manual labor for 25 years. I live comfortably. Not sure what you're talking about.

[@2Goldens1Rott]

Balance and grounded. Get centered and focus on what matters. Real Family, real friends, real food , real water and real shelter (don’t buy a overly priced house for status, be strategic) then kick back and watch the fake show. Be the creator not the consumer. The more of us that say no to the bullshit, the game will be over. You got this fellas 🦁

[@mohamednayad]

👑👍

[@youngp3rk]

Realized this goal as well 🐐 Comment 💯

[@juelzsan1128]

Sheesh! The timing of this for me was spot on. I just decided to take 7 days to recalibrate, refocus, and recuperate. It’s time to release old negative habits and usher in new positive ones.

[@DebbyontheBluff]

Good on you! Take a big breather and consider that everyday is a new day.

[@taxi9554]

7 days is nothing….you start switching off after 3 weeks. People take off 6 months to re-focus

[@K4R3N]

Invest in yourself. Physical, mental and emotional wellness. Pays dividends. I had to shuffle around relationships but my stress level is so low now but I'm still able to support myself and my family. Even a little extra to do something for the community (volunteer work is great for the soul)

[@bigslimsanantoniotx6483]

Balance is so IMPORTANT🏆

[@Chris_MoreThanThis-Counselling]

I love when he talks about just genuinely asking the checkout lady how she is. This stuff does improve the world. The little things we can do make a difference.

[@timothy8142]

There's no middle ground in this country anymore. It's either 100% or 0%. There is none of what he talks about. There is no "Well, I can work 40 hours and show up for a paycheck then go home and enjoy my life". Because that 40 hour job is just enough for rent, car, and wifi. Forget a family or anything else. Weekend golf outings? Too expensive for the average 40 hour job. So in order to have the money, you need to sacrifice all your time, or find that job that can pay very well for 40 hours. I guess "hustle culture" is a mindset, but in another sense it really is the only way people can get ahead. So while I agree with what Dewayne says, it's not realistic. It doesn't apply in a post WWII world. 50+ years ago it worked, it doesn't work today. Everything is a transaction today. Serving others is seen as being weak. Everyone these days is self-serving, trying to get as much out of someone else as they possibly can. Resources, attention, emotions, without giving anything back.

[@kathypileggi7650]

Well,stay on that “ hustle “ road, it WILL kill you…..there are ways to live a happy and healthy and productive life …..many of our WANTS are not NEEDS ….the lie we were sold ….you can have it all ….is a death trap

[@WaryofExtremes]

Most young men in the U.S. and Canada can't afford a cigar, or a decent chair to sit in. They have to consider how they can make and save more money. Back yard... yeah. It's not "Married with Children' rules. Masses of joe jobbers can just barely afford renting an apartment...they don't get a back yard, a house with a garage, a car, and a home with rooms for 2+ children to have their own.

[@svenheuseveldt7188]

treuth probably is, live has always been like that. we just grow up in a bubble and were fed promises that turned out to be unrealistic or just plane false. combine that with the fact everyone has a negative view of the world nowadays and yes, than pessimism isn't hard to find at all.

[@WaryofExtremes]

@@svenheuseveldt7188 for most people, life will be a lot of 'all or nothing' classes of people...America and Canada had a few decades of having a strong middle class post wwii because they had factories and infrastructure and the world wanted to buy from them. Now, other countries have rising middle classes and Canada and the U.S. have receding middle classes.

[@krejziks3398]

If you can't survive off 40 hours a week maybe you should learn to do more stuff so you need less money. money is energy, think that way and you're good.

[@maxrockatanksyOG]

Working 54+ hours a week just to make barely above minimum wage here in Australia. Dont have time to even think about a side hustle, bills coming out our backside, cost of living is killing us & im just about done with society at large- DONE. Worked my arse off for 28 years (43 this year) and for what? Aint no reason we need to bust our arses anymore

[@Alex.91i]

Where about you live and what you do? I am in Perth on construction job 40$ per hour no qualification work 44 hours per week...make enough money to live beautiful life. Beach is amazing here and for FREE. Sunny whole year around... You aim too high my friend, enjoy life it's beautiful. The most exciting things are for free😊

[@kaseygroves8052]

I found when I stopped living outside my means financially, I was a lot happier and had more money to do whatever. At first this seemed like I was being left behind and people thought I’d quit on life, but it was quite the opposite. I had less expensive stuff, (that I found I really didn’t need anyway) but I gained so much more in quality of life and had more time to dedicate to what I really wanted to do, and learnt so much more cool stuff. Step off the slave train and be left behind. Best decision I ever made. I earn less money and do less work but I have more money….who’d of thought. I stopped needing so much useless stuff that kept me broke 😄

[@Alex.91i]

@kaseygroves8052 that's right. The most important to stop carrying what people think and do what you want. Can take time to figure out what you want just need some quiet time on your own for few weeks, no phone no noises

[@TDzle]

Im Australian , you need to work harder . Its easy stop being soft.

[@Kiss-my-patu]

I live in Australia with two kids and a mortgage etc on a single wage as an electrician/hvac tech. I work 40-45 hours per week and can support us all comfortably. You can get $35 an hour working at Bunnings.

[@salo1808]

This really hit me hard. I worked my ass off for my family business since I was 16. All my weekends, vacation went to working. Didn’t get to have much time hanging out with my friends, really messed up all my relationships. I’m 33 now, and well, I didn’t get much out of it, I do wish I could go back and tell my young self to tell my parents “no” and that it’s okay to have days off and enjoy some days of your vacation. Cuz I’m 33 years old and I look back and I do wish I could have enjoyed my teenage years and 20s more

[@JS-ue5fp]

Same situation! Worked my family's auto body since I was 17. 37 now, and nothing to shoe for it. Worked my ass off, forget the family drama as well, and my friends are better off. They had regular jobs, have houses, family, kids, vacations. Feel I lost my youth here.

[@scasny]

Was working on my self, finish school and find job. I done anything i was ask and done as was told. Have bike and a car. Nice apartment and good paying job. Even clean my diet and lost weight. But i neglect the thing that matter the most, people. Never felt, liked, or loved. Was alone most of my life. Now at 36 i have plenty of free time but cant even enjoy it as i crying at my wasted life. Even if i find a partner (which i doubt) the sorrow of wasted life wont leave me. Its not that i want to die. Only find it hard to live. Every day is the same and every night i cry my self to sleep. I can hardly enjoy anything as everything bring me sadness.

[@damienholland8103]

@@scasny I've had depression for much of my life and it sounds like you do as well. Whether that's conditional or genetically inherited it's what you are experiencing now. A few things helped me a lot: Having my testosterone level checked (if it's too low you will have depression), my thyroid checked, taking 15mg of Celexa every day. Bear in mind if you start taking antidepressants that the first one or two weeks will be uncomfortable and have side effects but they gradually go away. You need a solid month or two of sticking with the antidepressant to see if it works.

[@xeykdeyk]

@JS-ue5fp sue them.

[@mikemedio6541]

​@scasny hang in there brother. You aren't alone and it's never too late to start living. We can never move forward if we're set on the past.

[@ejhueck]

Man I needed this. I'm a 2nd year physics PhD student and usually fill my little free time with working out and tracking calories ... definitely been too tightly wound and slowly come to realize it's hurting me more than benefiting

[@tylerwilson5163]

Watch a tv show and smoke a joint my G😅

[@adambarlow81]

I did the hustle in my late 20s starting my family. We bought a house, only had 2 kids, but started a forth job during the year, not all 4 at once. I am a teacher, so I would do afterschool programming, summer school and a retail part-time or doordash. We were able to pay cash for remodels, stay out of debt, etc. Only did this for a little over 2 years. We now have 6 kids. I could never do that now, but glad I did. I have higher education, more experience so higher pay. I would say to not let the "hustle" mentality become a habit. Everything is a different sacrifice when you become a parent, but is extremely rewarding and maturing. This man brings a ton of knowledge and wisedom.

[@xeykdeyk]

None of that wss hustling. Thats just working to death. The hustle involved illegal activities and a lot of buying and selling random stuff. Your description is just working a lot

[@WeezyApologist]

Dang 6 kids?

[@ForeignCars-bv4sd]

This man has the wisdom and experience to see what is wrong with society and call it out. Refreshing. Reassuring.

[@ap5194]

This guy is the living embodiment of wisdom. Definitely got some thought provoking views and will take alot away after watching this. Since I've got into my 30s it seems all I do is just work and sit on my phone

[@kensporalsky3784]

Finally a podcast with actual wisdom.

[@BobSmith-fx9sz]

“Virtue is the golden mean between two vices, the one of excess and the other of deficiency.” - Aristotle

[@sunnybajwashow]

Very refreshing to hear this perspective. At times many of us can feel guilty for “relaxing”. But it’s a great opportunity to look inwards. 🙏🏽

[@DanielOlivares-xy3sd]

hustle time is just as important as relaxation time. gotta have both. relaxation doesn't feel good unless you've hustled first.

[@Carelock]

I don’t think that’s exactly what he means. It’s more about the work “ending” at some point in the day. Productivity is proven to drop in most humans after 50 hours per week. I think passive income is a great way to get around this. I do believe scheduling and discipline is critical. You have 168 hours per week if you sleep 56 (I’m counting the wind down) and work 50 you have 62 to spread between your family, keeping up your home, the gym and friendships. It’s a tight squeeze.

[@1000iller]

The problem with hustle culture is that it seems aimless. Enough always seems to be “just one more dollar.” Know when you’ve crossed the finish line.

[@sentero1856]

Never expected dry creek to make a podcast appearance. Love the guy

[@glennevitt5250]

You are exactly right I’m 60 years old and still working. My parents raised me and my brother to work. We hated it as children but now we see why and that mentality is gone by the wayside.😎👍

[@Souletics]

Finally someone with influence and wisdom! ... To many gurus with a message of money, success, and working harder when in fact those people are benefiting from a different metric.

[@thomasemmer2897]

“The grind” caused my body to shut down completely. The shame is absolutely real. I haven’t been to work in months. I love working and I love working hard, but during this time where I’m forced to stay at home I’m learning to love and appreciate quiet time. Thinking time. Doing nothing time. My brothers make time to do nothing, and then do nothing. You need it. I love you and therefore I tell you this. Thank you for this video. We, young men, need it.

[@samuelberges8745]

Almost ruined my marriage. I had no patience for my wife until I quit my super stressful job where I never got a break. Our marriage is much better now that I’m never on call

[@Ryosuke1208]

That's called burnout my friend

[@thomasemmer2897]

@@Ryosuke1208 that’s the point

[@tiduszero41]

Cowboy is right. We work to ENJOY life. Work hard but enjoy life too.

[@mountiescorner]

My dad used to say when he was alive. Work to live Don’t live to work

[@BLUWISEMILLIONAIRE]

I love this energy between these two, a successful man in his late years in a good equilibrium on 1 side. A successful man in his early years in a good equilibrium

[@GruntMike17]

I'm so glad someone said it and of course it is from a much wiser older real man to say it. A man that is grounded and happy yet more successful in the right ways than the hustle bros telling you you aren't enough if you don't have a Bugatti

[@Mich-jk2ze]

The balance is really the golden part. None of the high-performers save a few are ever truly realized through their work. No bums feels good when they are 35 and haven’t found someone to settle down with, a job they like, or whatever else they have truly desired but numbed themselves to.

[@IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII258]

More young men need to hear this. Balance is hard. Falling a single lifestyle is easy. Finding a box and fitting yourself into it is easy, and can be an obsession. But balance is hard. “Great men” being terrible fathers is, unfortunately, rewarded, for instance.

[@willygoat4113]

That essay gave me chills from how relatable it was.

[@hayatkhawaja8619]

Me too dude

[@FoodFreedomUSA]

I’m glad to see Dewayne making it on the big time podcast rounds. He is the most wise of all the YT men today. Because he’s lived life, is successfully married, and raised a bunch of good kids. He’s the man that men need to be learning from. Not young unmarried men who have never raised children!!

[@HappyG1lm0re]

One of the best guests yet, such a unique dude.

[@SGsamsky]

I have escaped death hundreds of times being a logger and I always made it a point to take time to myself have a beer or cigar and just enjoy life. I am 35 now and everyone I went to high school with damn near have a full head of white hair, stressed to the max and running and gunning. I have yet to find a white hair lol! I enjoy the fact I made it another day and I love life. ENJOY your life! Don't worry about making your boss happy, worry about you and your family.

[@DebbyontheBluff]

Damn straight. Dude, that's a great comment.

[@marcwebber2125]

This is great. This gentleman, with beautiful blue eyes, is full of wisdom, humility, and knowledge. God bless him...

[@zenberimbau3085]

I love his message: it sounds like he loves to see men being gentlemen first and self aware

[@Viikk785]

Whos gonna carry the TV remote and the Cigars!!!

[@ryanharrigan4838]

Wow 😂

[@romelynmarapao8835]

HAHAHAHA

[@craigcolbourn8351]

This comment made my day!!👍🏻👍🏻🤣 Great quote bro

[@Viikk785]

@@craigcolbourn8351 yes it is! I didn’t come up with it though lol

[@ericgutierrez760]

Too funny haha

[@samueljlarson]

I'm 39 and nowhere near where I want to be in life but I'm in school pursuing a profession that will allow me to hopefully create what he is talking about - balance in life. Didn't have a dad who ever taught me how to be a man. Mom over compensated but that obviously didn't fill the void so I sort of aimlessly wandered through my twenties and most of my thirties. I am sober, motivated and better off than I have ever been thankfully. Dewayne is right - keep it simple, take care of yourself so that you can take care of your family or the people in your life and be steady, caring and balanced in everything that you do. I would also say that finding a vocation (or career) that you are proud of and that you want to do everyday makes the world seem like a better place to be apart of.

[@BrndshTV]

I stopped trying to be rich and started preserving and protecting my finances. Real passive income doesn't make much but it's reliable.

[@drako5272]

They tricked us all with the millionaires pursuit..sick of money honestly lol

[@IanFitty]

This winter I feel like I finally learned how to sit, chill, and just relax again. His pendulum analogy is so damn relatable. For the first time in 2 years not only did I allow myself to sit down and just play a game, but I enjoyed it. I stopped watching tv in that 2 years too. Last month I actually picked out a show, watched a couple episodes, and enjoyed it. In the end you can’t take all your hustling with you when you die.

[@jerrychubb6168]

It took me years to realize that my life and my job needed more separation and it's ok to sit and chill and just decompress. I wish I could have figured that out 15 years ago.

[@itsnotgoingtoendwell]

There's no way for your mind to be engaged and focused on problem-solving for like 14 hours every day... It needs down time and effective sleep to decompress and recalibrate. People who claim they are working all day usually spend the majority of that time doing menial tasks on auto-pilot... I would love to see 99% of people do like an engineering gig where they are building a device, wiring the electronics, doing the math, coding the software, testing stuff and do that for 12 hours consecutively every day... I can work 16 hours a day too if half of that is spent being a library receptionist sitting behind a desk, and the rest is some auto-pilot thing i've done a million times before i don't even have to spend brain power on doing it... just muscle memory...

[@faithfulfilo7994]

Ill be completely honest. From the age of 9 years old was the first day i nearly accepted to move on from this world. Nothing i had ever done was enough and i never felt like i got what i earned. Moving through to highschool id have my ups and downs but the trend continued. No matter how hard i tried in school and socially nothing i could ever do had meant anything to my father. I can be the better man and say hey hes been through his own rough patch and hes only taking it out on me because he cant handle his own, but i couldnt be that person for 18-20 years straight. Too many times i came far too close to taking myself out and the only things stopping me was the real people who seemed to love me... but i kept trying to hold onto the hope that i could help my father- to make him better and show him the good in the world. All that energy i spent and it almost all seems to make it worse. Sometimes theres some people in this world you cant save. Sometimes some people dont deserve it. From a very early age i made it a goal to never hate anyone nor to give up. I guess in my own way im still hanging onto those beliefs one way or another. After all, Ive got my mom, my brothers, and my grandma to enjoy life with. If id had taken myself out i dont think they would stay either. I just wish he could underdtand that. But hey... were just too emotional i guess. Always have been and always will be. Id rather be in touch with my emotions than to outcast them altogether. Id rather be in touch with myself, with what i believe in, than be dragged down into a hell i know is not meant to be.

[@Tiny-souls-the-one-and-only]

This guy's straight up, luved him right away. Balance is one of my big philosophies too, personally and to my kids

[@kingmowgzi6431]

Great clip. This guy is wise and knows what truly matters in life

[@MrMEGAQUEEF]

I just found this video and this is literally everything I've been trying to teach my son! I simply couldn't articulate as well as this gentleman. Love this show!

[@Greenfields-px5cs]

Like the Skynard song says….”be a simple kind of man, be something you love and understand”

[@tonywuhooo]

Just finished all my exams and work projects - going to have a cigar now. Thanks for the reminder boys

[@TheChasingMountainsPodcast]

Really glad you had DeWayne on, Chris - amazing guy with amazing stories!

[@UncleTravelingMatt2]

The way I see hustle culture, there is no virtue to it. A lot of it involves vanity and gluttony and there is no purpose to their work habits. A man needs a virtuous purpose to his work or it’s meaningless. The hard work isn’t the issue, it’s the lack of virtue.

[@beniron5807]

That’s why I run rather the pump iron. I like staying toned but I love running and losing myself in my thoughts. It’s how you become self aware. You spend enough time in your head. Critical thinking

[@sovvrong]

Same. I am not the same person when i haven't been running lmao.

[@WaryofExtremes]

Most young men in the U.S. and Canada can't afford a cigar, or a decent chair to sit in. They have to consider how they can make and save more money. Back yard... yeah. It's not "Married with Children' rules. Masses of joe jobbers can just barely afford renting an apartment...they don't get a back yard, a house with a garage, a car, and a home with rooms for 2+ children to have their own.

[@jasonbell9975]

Try the Phillies Blunt chocolate flavor cigar. I enjoy the good cigars, but yeah, they are pricy. Phillies are $1.25 each, and you always get a good draw because they are machine rolled. Keep your chin up man👊🏼

[@WaryofExtremes]

@@jasonbell9975 ty but I don't want a cigar

[@jasonbell9975]

@@WaryofExtremes gotcha🙌🏼

[@Smaltese93]

I know it depends on where you live but I work in HVAC and we’re able to live off of my paycheck while the wife stays home with the 3 kids. (One is special needs) I do have a backyard. Just built a fence. It’s possible brother. Just got to find your niche.

[@craigcolbourn8351]

Definitely notice alot of young men straying from going into the trades, compared to 30 years ago. There is decent money to be made in duct work, plumbing, HVAC, Electrical, etc. Plus, no college debt with the trades.

[@jay_ay_why]

I worked myself into a burn out. I didn’t even realize how burnt out I was. So yes, I agree quite a bit with what’s said in this segment.

[@K4R3N]

9:45 agree, two good books on that point "The Impulse Society" and "Team Human"

[@AliasBane]

Thank you, someone mentioned Hustle culture. I makes me feel bad, all the pressure to go go go. I cant deal with that stress. The world is running to fast...

[@nappingaggressively]

8:00 - 9:00 words every man should hear. Men are born to serve.

[@SPITNEIN]

As a Marine, I can say, you always feel like there’s more you can do. You just gotta know when to pat yourself on the back.

[@a1uplift212]

I went from a lazy-needing goggins message type that enjoyed the cigar and relaxing too much for my own good, then swung to be staying hard and feeling guilty when relaxing. I'm discovering my balance, I do gotta say, nothing brings happiness more than trying your absolute best everyday, you balance work beautifully by reflecting: "Did I work enough? Ok, did I spend enough time with my family, was I present? Ok, how can I improve on my work ethic? How can I improve on my warmth side for those close to me? How can I have a day, in which I complete, the woman who is in my house goes 'Wow there's no man like you'? How do I make my kids say 'Dad's a superhero' not just physically, but emotionally, how do I be the rock for my family? How do I serve unconditional love? How do I give tough love, in a way for it to benefit someone?" Haha I be thinking all this. We are humans, meant to be balanced. There's days I'm more goggin's/prime mike tyson minded, and get so much done I don't even know how to top my record. and other day's where the cigar comes out and sitting down lol, I love it, finding the balance. It keeps life interesting. Oh, this day I'm deep in the mental lab, this day I'm kicking back and laughing with the boys, what's next?

[@elitecoaching482]

Well Said. May you and your family be blessed.

[@a1uplift212]

@elitecoaching482 you the same, thank you friend 🙏 bless you and your family 😊

[@joostvanherpen3138]

I struggle with this. Constant pressure from within.

[@dorarebelo673]

"My main thing is my main thing, and that is enough." "Finding balance." "A good man is born to serve, not to make money." Isn't he right on the money?

[@ManiaCop100]

Then lighting in this room looks amazing- lighting team did a great job

[@jerrymodeste5900]

Dewayne is always dropping some nuggets!!

[@EpicDragonfall]

Surfs up is the best movie in regards to this. Cody maverick is a grinder for tournaments but realizes life is about relationships and admiring nature

[@makaio5684]

the topics and points in this discussion are very accurate, i'm 19 and can't relax because i feel like i'm wasting time 24/7 and not working hard enough even though i'm really stressed and my boss tells me i'm doing a good job at work lol

[@banjocambo4359]

I needed this clip! Makes me realise that I'm right where I should be...

[@K4R3N]

Man i totally agree as an older guy raising kids. I'm trying to raise balanced long-tern focused kids. Cant burn yourself out and then dump on folks. Thats not a way to live.

[@jerardyu9677]

I remember Jocko saying it's easier to go to the extremes, but finding the balance is a much more difficult thing to achieve.

[@jpdst29]

I did the hustle culture for about 5 years in my 20’s. I was an equipment operator as my full-time job. Then in the evenings I would valet at my local country club and on weekends I worked maintenance at the local shopping mall. I definitely feel like I lost five years of my life, but I was able to save a lot and I set myself up nicely down the road. At the time I told myself “I might as well do it while I can”

[@sohailakmal3384]

I have been complaining about this subliminal push to squeeze as much out of an individual with little roi. I always say hustle culture is for dummies. Clever marketing to ensure indentured servitude.

[@ZaZen___]

Also is individual over clocking to make up for societal dysfunction.

[@K4R3N]

Deloney's "Non-anxious Life" is a great book on this topic.

[@OmniphonProductions]

1:16 - In our, "Bigger, better, newer, more, More, MORE!!!" culture, there's really something to be said for taking a moment to appreciate and enjoy what we _already_ have. With each signpost we reach on the journey to our larger, long-term goals, stopping to say, "Look how far I've come!" sets us up to (1) enjoy life through that sense of accomplishment, (2) motivate ourselves to reach that _next_ signpost, and (3) imbue ourselves with the confidence to accomplish things that...far off on the horizon...may seem out of reach. Ambition is necessary to create a good life, but even Michelangelo stopped to savor the beauty of his work before moving on to the next project. (A good cigar, and the "ceremony" of savoring it, can create a perfect _meditative_ opportunity!) Such an approach to life can also be _balanced_ with the mantra, "Enough IS enough." Many people never realize how good they have it because they're too busy chasing what others have. P.S. I love that _Dewayne's_ meaning in life _requires_ service to _others,_ not just the improvement of one's _own_ conditions; better to be _appreciated_ than merely _envied._ Yeah?

[@eric_9565]

Have never felt so heard in my life watching this

[@andydelassus2734]

We’re all doing our best. It would be so nice to hear “you’re doing a good job” but it feels like all I hear is “but you could do more”

[@darkangel13915]

“Perfectly balanced, as all things should be” Everything has a sweet spot

[@HeyNoah]

Again, why I feel that Social Media is the culprit for most (if not all) issues/social issues to date!

[@HWOWD]

They knew what they were doing, why do you think so many big corps create “influencers”

[@OfficallyMcRae]

I love this message. I will say, and have said for some time, at one point in America you could out work the economy. Now you can’t. Men’s contentment where they are is probably the biggest lesson anyone can currently learn. To be ok, where you are today. You can always hope and work towards more but to be content is a very hard lesson to learn.

[@CoopAroundTheWorld]

29 years old and travelling the world for the last year of my 20s. I work hard at whatever I want to work hard at and what’s important to me. Hasn’t lead me anywhere bad yet. In the words of my dad: “that ol job’ll let you work your marriage and your relationships with your kids into the ground. It won’t try to stop you one bit.”

[@jared8324]

Exactly a pure example of me. When I was 20 -25 yrs old I was drinking energy drinks coffee, hustling working overtime, working out with weights 2 hours a day, partying hard every weekend, burning the candle at both ends I was invincible. I could outwork anyone, making money, Till I hit about 30 years old, your body will start letting you know really quick when it starts breaking down, for the first time in my life my body started getting sick and made me RELAX and I felt so guilty for just resting in the couch. For those guys that think they can “just always muscle it up” your body gonna give out eventually. Now that I have experience I know that hard working young men don’t become more successful they become used up and abused, honestly now that I see these 20 year olds overworking it’s almost a beta quality like insecure trying to prove themselves I’ve been promoted and very successful , not by killing myself but by working smarter and staying steady and slow

[@keepwondering_]

this guy is so wise, especially about the generational thing with guys growing up with a Xbox not learning how to properly work in life, than feeling the need to catch up with this later on. That's EXACTLY what's wrong with modern world, it's out of balance

[@jparker1823]

Great message a lot of people need to hear.

[@yajwells6153]

i feel this, it's hard to feel ok just chillen, i always feel like im leaving money on the table...

[@tzgzz9245]

I like this guy, this sentiment is very rare

[@Noname-6py]

It took me forever to realize that I can indeed go to work and work hard, go to the gym and work hard, and go home and fully relax. It’s ok if shits outta whack your physical health and mental health is what matters most for both your family and life cus that’s the only thing no one can take away from you

[@shmulsimcha3365]

You're a good man, grandpa Arthur Morgan

[@TheeCommonTater]

We’re in a transitional phase: We are creating a culture of entrepreneurs where we used to be employees. We need good teachers to help us keep a balance in this new world

[@jthorlacher1569]

Thank you both!!!

[@JohnnyClüeless-m9r]

Absolutely brother⚡️ People don’t think things through lately.

[@sizzlechestmcmurphy4365]

Middle path, baby... Great video.

[@jamestaylor9887]

Live to be of service. This hits home. Always shared that sentiment. Ive wanted to make money too, but doing things for myself has never been as motivating for me as being in service to others. Even if i quietly complain to myself before i go and help them. Even now im limited in what i can do because of mecical issues, but ive become more involved in my local church and its brought with it opportunities i would have otherwise.

[@jpm7596]

Amen brother, leave everything you touch better than you got it!

[@hando408]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom gentlemen. 🙏🏽

[@BrockLanders]

A great movie for Type A people to watch is The Game (1997) with Michael Douglas and Sean Penn.

[@tthomp9997]

One of the best films of all time. He learned all those crucial lessons along the way

[@stephonwar2843]

Its so crazy how i just said the words gotta leave the place better than you found it after not heari g it for some time and now im here and he says gotta leave the place better than you found it. Idk whats going on but im listening

[@jambajoby32]

I share this mentality and its affirmation to hear him speak on this

[@jessicadavis8865]

I sooooo love and appreciate this man. I watch his videos pretty regularly and always find value. HOWEVER, I think this outlook is the ideal, and assumes that we don’t live in a world where men HAVE to hustle, to succeed in a dying economy and a hellish job market. Men have to hustle to succeed at all, a constant struggle to beat inflation, to be able to support a family. And so many good men who ARE trying to work hard are not able to succeed because they exist in a world that’s actively working against them. So men who want a family have to hustle their asses off and kill themselves with stress. OR, give up and play Xbox all day. The middle ground, where people can work hard and make enough to support a family while also having a balanced life, is disappearing. The baseline amount of money now required to just be able to afford the basic comforts, a home and food for your family, has gotten so wildly out of control that it REQUIRES that of men - zero balance, just hustle. People are stuck between a rock and a hard place and their ability to work hard and succeed AND have peace is being ripped away from them. I think we need to recognize that there are so many good men out there who want to be balanced but the world is actively working against it for them. I do 100% believe that his point still stands, and is the “correct” view. I just think there’s a lot of complex factors working against men being able to achieve this ideal, and it has to be recognized to see the full scope.

[@Mike-Will-Didnt-makeit]

Spread the message Dwayne

[@mikeandhisbike9735]

Perfect clip. Great essay

[@GLOBALDENTS]

Everybody goes through different stages at different ages. There’s not a one size fits all. We’re built for different things. Our purposes in life is different. Two things can be true at the same time. Perhaps the balance is this man’s energy mixed with David Goggins. You have to find your recipe in life, your flavor. I’m 39 years old Americano Pilipino, I own 3 companies in the U.S. and in motion to building a multilayered business in the Philippines. Also have 2 teenager daughters that are almost out of high school. Plan on having two more kids in the Philippines in the next 5 years. Being a father is not my only purpose in life but I do feel it is one of them same thing with owning my businesses. It’s more to it than just the money. These companies will outlive me. It’s part of the legacy in the world. Making my mark. What’s your purposes?

[@F0rglory28]

It is pretty hard to argue with "balance." But what's the metric? How do you determine if your life is balanced? Technically, if you work 40 hrs/wk, your life is unbalanced in leisure. That's the problem with giving esoteric advice.

[@fredastaire6156]

Thank you for spouting the truth, country Tom Hanks! ❤

[@jrm1069]

James 3: 13-18 this is what young men need to understand about wisdom

[@mamabubu6505]

Wow, incredible wisdom 💐

[@grege54]

Totally needed to hear this