We'll Only Be Nice If There Is Something "Wrong" With You

[@gauloise6442]

It's like this now for everything, unless you are special - autistic, of color, woman, LGBT, etc, or you feel like keeping those things private and not crowing them to the world - it's like you shouldn't be given decent, normal treatment. We need to get back to treating people with courtesy and respect, simply because they are human, not because they are "abnormal" it's so degrading for everyone.

[@exlesoes]

I just came across this channel and read the premise. I know what you mean because I felt this way... for a long time. Yet I never felt anyone will listen to me so I interanlized everything. But money talks and survival is money.

[@missyoungallday]

The things you have to endure and tolerate...that part!

[@victoriaporter-ke2ub]

People that don’t recognise heat, temp, lighting worry me 😂

[@AriD2385]

With commercial real estate values going down, companies that want people to return could probably afford to give everyone offices now.

[@lipstickandbooks.]

“You’re not dressed for success because you already have your success “ 🤣 facts! Loving your observation as usual, so many issues with work places. EVERYONE should be given consideration and treated with respect!

[@ViolaHGlaze]

Hello PTE...ive learned in my many years of being an adult professional when requesting time off or being late....less is more....texting and email are wonderful tine stamped options😅

[@STIR-FRIED-SUBWAY-RAT]

I already minimize my own depression enough from own family, my employers and coworkers , dont get why I need to make my diagnosis public knowledge just to get people to actually put in the work to be polite. Its not that hard to not be inappropriate or belittle others on the job. Idk if im really welcome in this space but Ive been listening to your talks on and off for a while now.

[@FloppityFlopFlop777]

Happy Easter! 😊 This is a nice Easter egg! "People do not read anymore." 💯This is so ridiculously true. It concerns me because I wonder what's behind it. If you follow the climate crisis, there's some evidence that increased methane in the air is causing global cognitive decline. But maybe this phenomenon is caused by Twitter-brain and cultural rot. 🤞Or drugs/toxins. I've noticed people are just much less curious about things in general. It's kind of sad. It's like we're devolving as a species. "When women turn off the camera, they're questioned; when men do it, they're not." I'd like to point out that the women are usually questioned *by other women.* So it's not sexism...it's a situation of women essentially bullying women to force them to conform to WOMEN-created toxic requirements for *all* women. So screwed up. I absolutely *do not* tolerate women like this. They sense it really fast and tend to either hate me or fear me.😂🤣I don't care if they condemn me for being "not a girl's girl" (Oh, the infernal cattiness! 🤣). In fact, all the better if it means they'll leave me the heck alone! Neti pots are worth the effort! You might want to just use warm water and salt if the solution was too strong for you. I got rid of my allergies entirely using one of these regularly. The hygienic benefit is priceless. Saving money on allergy meds and tissues is nice, too. I highly recommend persevering in learning to use one. Find a method that works for you. Consistency is the key to its benefits. Looking forward to more of your shows! :D

[@MissNancy]

PTE, you're too difficult 😂. Seriously, I am the same way. We are Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). I am task oriented. I had a panic attack going into my first office situation with it being an open workspace 😫. I was comfortable and efficient in my own space.

[@gauloise6442]

No we are just people! The modern workplace treats us horribly and then tells us we are the problem. There is no such thing HSP, people just dont have manners, respect and civility anymore. All the modern things like lighting, noise, transport are only a little over a hundred years. Up until the 80s, people had offices, not open spaces or cubicles. We are not living in the calm environments that ALL humans are adapted for

[@Rom8.9_8.14]

​@@gauloise6442No need to deny another person's situation just because you may not have the same experience in life. A lot of people in the world do not understand that there is a spiritual battle going on for their hearts and minds, that if you don't figure it out in your lifetime, you will be paying for it throughout eternity. Because an overly aggressive world has pushed too many Christians away from doing their duty to warn others to repent from their sins or they will be experiencing God's judgment and eternal condemnation for turning their backs on him, rejecting him and his truth. Because in that state of being, whether you believe it or not, you are in rebellion of the way God intends for people to be living. We are supposed to tell you to repent and be saved, for the kingdom of heaven has come near you. That has now been said by me to all who read this. I know that the enemy to people's souls does all he can to keep people in the dark. I get that you think people are just being mean and need to stop doing so. It's more than that, as you may see in reading my other comments.

[@Rom8.9_8.14]

​@@gauloise6442Did you just remove my good will response to you? After saying people don't have manners and respect anymore? You were just treated respectfully and in a well mannered way. And if you did that, you have not treat me respectfully in return.

[@Rom8.9_8.14]

​@@gauloise6442MissNancy's comment was addressed to PTE. Therefore, when she said we are HSPs, the we was her and PTE. She wasn't speaking about everyone. Perhaps you need to slow down and take more time to understand what you're reading, or hearing, or seeing before you launch out in response... Also, you don't know how old we are, and we do not know how old you are, but your response gives us clues as to what you are lacking, whatever your age may be. When it comes to respect for others, I can tell you that many younger people have been taught to not respect their elders or just simply were not taught how to respect them. Nor were many taught to respect the wisdom of others. They think that their own perspective is all that matters, or the perspectives of the people around them, or those that they see along their path in life. And that is a large problem across the land, regardless of age. You should apologize to both of us and any others whom you may have emotionally injured with your responses. Then you may come to understand how to better respond to others, and when, and whether you should. That too is how things used to be, and still are for some of us.

[@PermissionToExist]

@MissNancy See I wonder, are we highly sensitive people or just…people? We have eyes- they see. We have ears- they hear. We have noses- they smell. We have bodies- they feel temperature. Why do we get the label because other people are able to tune these things out on a regular basis? (Or not register them at all?) Why isn’t being tuned in with your senses considered “normal?”

[@psychedlicsouljam1995]

My narc mother uses my diagnosis in stores just to get her way. It highly disgusts me. It makes me so sad. My mother has always been this way. She never shows love and care at home , I'm screamed at told I'm stupid and that I'll never have a family or husband or any friends. I pay half the rent since I was 18 and I have never had any respect. My mother is obsessed with Twitter and tik tok. Obsessed with "what side are you on" type of crap.

[@Moonbunny55]

My last job ‘accommodated’ everyone with exactly what you read from the list. I liked it and hated it at the same time. I felt a sense of acknowledgement as a person but I didn’t see the follow through. As an example, I made it clear (in so many words) that I’m basically introverted so your not gonna see me at the company soccer game yet got ‘teased’ because I didn’t attend. What? Are you to old? Ahhh, don’t be a party pooper. You just don’t like us. 😳 Without going into my entire job description, waiting until the end to give feedback was honored but that’s it and I didn’t need a diagnosis. Now, one of my coworkers was diagnosed with ADHD. I didn’t know of it so I didn’t understand that her fully ignoring me was supposedly from her issue. Her ignoring me left me questioning wth was going on and made for an uncomfortable and confusing situation not to mention I didn’t feel like ever communicating with her again. Stressful! I found out through another coworker. ‘Oh, no, she’s not a bitch she has ADHD. Sooooooo, is it JUST management that asks these questions? Would it be against ADA regulations to know in order to accommodate? If you’re diagnosed, according to the ADA you can get in trouble for discrimination for divulging someone’s medical issue including their diagnosis. I don’t agree with these questions. If you have an issue with something SAY something why do you have to have a diagnosis? These questions are an attempt to control or at least that’s how it feels to me and I’d prefer not to answer them. It’s like they’re trying to force a friendship and feels very unnatural. I’m not even going to mention the peanut allergy dilemma………😂

[@HereForTheCatContent]

People with ADHD can learn to communicate in a reasonable and respectful manner, especially if they can learn the other necessary skills for their jobs. I deal with depression and ADHD symptoms from CPTSD, and I've sometimes been one of the most on-the-ball people in my collaborations. In other things I dropped the ball, but I apologized and worked on it. Anyway, I hope you found a better environment!

[@Moonbunny55]

Damn missed another live!!! 😡

[@Rom8.9_8.14]

HSP here too. Yes, we have light sensitivities, we have noses that actually smell things (not sure that narcissists do), we have feelings (that narcissists can't wait to hurt). Now consider what God's word says in Eph 4:17-21, which is from (verse 1) Paul, an apostle of Jesus Christ by the will of God, to the saints which are at Ephesus, and to the faithful in Christ Jesus ¹⁷ This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind, ¹⁸ Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart: ¹⁹ Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. ²⁰ But ye have not so learned Christ; ²¹ If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus: My commentary now - Being past feeling. That's why they are so hurtful to others, in part. The other part, or another (main) part, I believe is because they have given themselves over to the devil to work through them, or they are the fallen angels themselves. It is the enemy to our souls who wants to wound us. Because we have opportunity to obtain salvation and eternal blessings which he/they have forfeited, due to overreach (which narcissists are known for, hence the ever present cameras (everywhere they can get them now), the open workspaces, etc, etc, etc!). The greed also was mentioned. Enough said there. If you read God's word with an understanding of narcissism, you will see all kinds of confirmations along these lines. That's why they are so difficult to work with, in any relationship. Their goal: your downfall and destruction, because that is what happened to them and awaits them. The ever-present pride and jealousy marks them also, (though they may hide it). And they are all unforgiving, though they may hide that too. Understanding this is how you make sense of their nonsense. Rev 12:7-12 And there was war in heaven: Michael and his angels fought against the dragon; and the dragon fought and his angels, ⁸ And prevailed not; neither was their place found any more in heaven. ⁹ And the great dragon was cast out, that old serpent, called the Devil, and Satan, which deceived the whole world: he was cast out into the earth, and his angels were cast out with him. ¹⁰ And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, Now is come salvation and strength and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren is cast down, which accused them before our God day and night.¹¹ And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death. ¹² Therefore rejoice, heavens, and ye that dwell in them. Woe to the inhabiters of the earth and of the sea! for the devil is come down unto you, having great wrath, because he knoweth that he hath but a short time. The accuser of our brethren. That is definitely narcissistic territory. That's why they are always looking for something to be "wrong" with us. Elevating themselves to establish and maintain their control/rule/forfeited heaveny position while insulting us (trying to provoke pride in us), "diagnosing" us (which may cause us physical, mental, emotional and spiritual harm, and potentially lead to our destruction) as in John 10:10 it is written ¹⁰ The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. Prov 16:18,19 ¹⁸ Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall. ¹⁹ Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud... May God enlighten you and increase your understanding ❤

[@Flor-k4p]

Thats manipulation be nice be nice....nice does not mean GOED.