We lost our baby. | Silent miscarriage

We had a silent miscarriage (or a missed miscarriage). I unexpectedly began naturally miscarrying at 13 weeks 4 days and later learned that the baby had not lived past 8/9 weeks. Though the baby was not alive, the placenta continued releasing hormones that made my body think I was still pregnant for an additional 4-5 weeks. We have needed some time to understand, grieve and work through this loss but will be back soon.
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[@marykovalovich5914]

Elsa and Barron, I’m a grief counselor. You are grieving the loss of your unborn child, this is not easy. You’re doing a great service to others by sharing your feelings. Elsa, you did nothing wrong, you are not to blame for the loss of your baby. May you find peace and comfort during this time.❤

[@RKLamont-xi9qe]

Coming from someone who has had multiple miscarriages my body naturally produced multiple fetuses. I would get pregnant by my husband between three and five fetuses at a time naturally, and I never carried any of them and I had a total of 19 miscarriages that was enough for me my body told me I was not able to carry so I put myself through the ringer. I also had 2 Atopic pregnancy where I lost one of my ovaries so I figured that was my queue to adopt not saying that is what you need to do. I just had a very tough time and they could never this was 35 years ago 40 years ago, and they never did figure out what was causing my body to do this, so my heart breaks for you. Blessings to you and you’re young. Just read up on what you need to do to prep to prepare your body. Blessings blessings and I’m sorry for your loss by the way I did adopt as a single woman first woman in Florida to do itas a single woman a biracial child😊❤

[@RKLamont-xi9qe]

Life went on, but I never forgotten about those miscarried babies😢😊❤

[@konrai1972]

As a person who has had a miscarriage thank you so much for making this incredibly difficult video.

[@Maria-zc6jp]

Same here. I've had two. Very hard to share but we appreciate you both. Praying for you guys

[@Mightyaphroheidi]

✋

[@idaduck483]

My wife had two, and it’s brutal. I’m sorry this happened to these guys. We have three great kids also so it’s surmountable but you never forget the Angel babies.

[@hollyjones2179]

Yes, same here and just wanted to echo this message. My heart breaks for you. But sharing this is so important for so many people.

[@pualani609local9]

You are so brave. Name your baby if it helps. It helped me.😢 ❤

[@themurrrr]

My mom is 83. She still has not forgotten the miscarriage she had. Sending love ❤

[@57Runnergirl]

I am so sorry to learn this! 😢 Take care of yourselves and you are so brave for sharing. Wishing you the best in the foreseeable future. ❤️

[@vfitzstra]

No one tells you that 15-30%+ of pregnancies end in miscarriage. What you are doing with your video is helping SO many. That won't lessen your lived pain, but I thank you for this video. So many need this information.🙏🏼 for your future child.

[@meredithheath5272]

Absolutely!!! Quite a few miscarriages are spontaneous, and the ZERO fault of the person who was pregnant. That hit me hard, when Elsa began to blame herself😢😢😢 OMG, Elsa, No, this is NOT your fault!!! ❤❤❤

[@TinyHouseGiantJourney]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing so others can feel that they aren't alone. A very brave video.

[@SindyJ37]

Yes very brave indeed to share something so personal but this will help others feel not as alone going through this. I pray Elsa takes care of herself and takes the time to heal

[@anjichurch4406]

As a retired midwife, I feel the need to let you know that I think you have done a brilliant job of learning this process, and of educating yourselves at every step of the way. It’s never easy. It’s more common than you think . Caring gently for each other through the process is so crucial and so important and it looks like you were both doing a great job. One of my favorite things of working with parents who have experienced a loss in the past is that they savor every single bit of their future children. This child has made it possible for your future children to be more deeply loved, than you knew how before this loss. That’s a wonderful purpose in the whole scheme of life to live, so that others can be loved more.

[@oceanpier]

Beautiful sentiments. ❤

[@brittanyylee1833]

Elsa please don't ever think a laboring mom is more important than a mom going through a loss. You were just as important and I'm sorry your OB didn't make you feel like that. I'm very very sorry for your loss. I'm sending all the love.

[@amandarachelle9234]

This. This all day long

[@ItalidaReviews]

Having had both a miscarriage, and giving birth to a daughter that passed away two days after she was born, I’d like to say my heart goes out to you. Miscarriage is such an underrated agony. One of the things I hated most was when people would say “well at least you didn’t get to know it, that would have been much worse.” ☹️ As a mother, you’re in love with your baby the moment you find out you’ve conceived and no one should diminish the emotional pain a miscarriage causes. It took me years to realize and accept that a miscarriage is nature’s way of self-terminating an unhealthy fetus. As you saw, your body knows what is best and was doing its job. Blessings to both you and Barron. Namaste ❤

[@audreyhuggins8822]

I detest that comment too: at least you didn't know it. Well, I actually would have preferred to know instead of wondering what my baby would have been like.

[@edenbrown6275]

❤❤

[@LupeShoes]

It’s not always an unhealthy fetus. My body was the problem. The docs figured it out after three losses. I have healthy kids now.

[@Lisa-16]

💜

[@user-ln1fg6nd7m]

Praying for you two... 😢

[@heathermachala7623]

I passed my fetus as I bent down to kiss my 2 year old. It was very traumatic. I'm so sorry guys! Big hugs and please know I went on to have 2 healthy pregnancies.

[@kelseymark7929]

We just found out that I had a missed miscarriage yesterday. Tomorrow I go in for surgery to remove it. We heard the heartbeat less than 2 weeks ago. They said that two days after hearing the heartbeat was when it died. I have never felt so personally invested in a video before. Mad respect for sharing something so incredibly personal. I'm right here with you. ❤

[@bec1631]

One day after I have watched your video I had a woman as a patient who had a silent miscarriage. I am a student manual therapist woking at a university clinic and because of you sharing your experience I am certain I was able to hold a better space for her than I otherwise would have been able to. Thank you!

[@arianawakeman1831]

Miscarriage is so hard, grief ebs and flows. After about 3+ years post miscarriage with now 2 kids, it still hits me - that first pregnancy, first baby. It's losing a baby + hopes, dreams, and visions. Hearing the stories are helpful and I appreciate your vulnerability. I know I had to give myself permission to grieve in the ways that suited me. ❤

[@elwayg]

I have lost a few babies to miscarriage around the same time (8-12weeks). It hurts. No one talks about it. Thank you for being our voice.

[@MarielikestoCrochet]

The first 10 seconds spoke volumes… the sadness, his concern , hiding the face. We really feel this for y’all. We care about y’all and thank you for sharing. ❤️

[@abigailjh93]

I have had two miscarriages in the last year. I had a normal pregnancy with my daughter, and now two miscarriages in a row, unexplained. It’s a confusing, painful, complicated thing to go through. We are all here with you Elsa, I’m so sorry this happened to you ❤

[@megancorkern1952]

Hey mama, another MC and secondary infertility mama here.. have you done genetic testing? Also, low progesterone is a common reason for miscarriages. I had 5 from ages 17-23. I finally was put on vaginal progesterone suppositories when I got pregnant with my oldest son at 30, and took shots in my stomach with my youngest. Just something to think about. ❤❤

[@aahart9651]

I also suffered a miscarriage about 30 years ago. I was 4 months along. And you are correct, there were no resources to help deal with this massive loss. As a school teacher my doctor advised me to have a d and c because we didn’t want to go into labor in a room full of children. The hardest decision I have ever made. We wanted this baby so much. Thank you both for publicly sharing to help other couples know that they are not alone. On a side note, I did have a baby about a year later. She was absolutely perfect and continues to bring so much joy to our lives. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[@rachelrobins1161]

I’m so sorry for your loss. Miscarriages are so rarely discussed and this video took a lot of courage to share. My mom was an “elderly” first time mother with twins at 37. She lost one twin as a stillbirth and my surviving sister has extensive disabilities. She had 2 miscarriages afterwards and then finally, me at 40. I’m 54 now. I had to terminate my only pregnancy, ectopic. I’ll always mourn that child. There’s no timeline on grief. Holding you all in my heart and prayers.

[@Nan-1017]

Your story really touched me Rachel, I hope you are doing well and living your best life😊

[@rachelrobins1161]

@@Nan-1017 time has a way of healing pain. I’ve been able to satisfy the maternal urges as aunt to my friends’ kids, teaching and being mommies to my sweet little Pommy girl. I adopted her last year. Life is good. The Universe must have known better early in my life. I’m on my own and caretaker for my dad and sister. For all the hardship and pain, I’m also blessed by my furry daughter and dear friends.

[@anoodono1841]

​@rachelrobins1161 Wow thank u for sharing your story

[@iamdragonetta]

I'm so sorry, Rachel. My eyes are filling with tears as I read this. I wish I could hug you. Here's a virtual hug: ((( ❤❤❤)))

[@rachelrobins1161]

@@iamdragonetta I💕💕💕

[@hexhex7220]

24 years after my miscarriage ( which I endured in silence and alone) I can't thank you two amazing people enough, for sharing this on your platform. I feel somewhat relieved after all these years that someone has finally put words to my story. Thanks for being brave.

[@swamotts5281]

I appreciate this video. I lost two babies back to back, and the amount of info I was given was laughable. The second miscarriage was a lot more intense, and a lot harder for me to handle. Through all of it, I was not given much support and was told to just "wait it out". I never knew about a D&C or the pills until I went to my OB for a "post partum" check. I never knew I would have been able to not experience the heartbreak and physical pain of naturally passing. I also wasn't aware how easy it is to bleed out from it. Terrible experience, and I wish with all my heart there was more support for lost babies. I'm so sorry you guys. 💔

[@loritowne-culver2506]

I also lost 2 second trimester babies back to back & completely relate to your pain. I too, felt guilt along with grief. I’m twice the age now & am going to our son’s wedding in the Berkshires at the end of September. But I had to be very careful throughout my pregnancy. I had to quit working. I wore a belt that monitored my contractions because of spinal damage from childhood trauma. At one point during the successful pregnancy, the monitoring people sent me to the hospital where I was given IV fluids that stopped the miscarriage at 20 weeks . What I learned from my pregnancy was that I dehydrate easily, which causes a woman’s body to make pitocin, which makes a woman go into labor. My sister drank a lot of water throughout her pregnancies & carried full term & I had Matt on his due date by being careful & staying hydrated… years later, I found out about a 13 week program called GriefShare, which definitely helped me with my residual shame & guilt… I know that everyone’s journey, spiritually, emotionally & physically is different but if what I tried after losing 2 babies back to back in 1987 & 1988 helps you, then it’s worth it to have shared. I still have deep sadness on these “anniversaries of my heart” but if we never love, we never grieve? H

[@99eewing]

Having children over 25 with a life of birth control is hell

[@MsFoofie]

I had a miscarriage a few months ago. It is the most confusing, heartbreaking experience to go from such pure joy to such profound sadness. Thank you for opening up about your experience and reminding us that we are not alone. You are not alone. Sending so much love and healing.

[@judylutz1702]

I’m 72 and have 2 children, but this is the first explanation of what happens when you lose a baby I’ve heard. My heart aches for the two of you. You have my sincerest sympathy. May God bless you both.

[@jessyskehan1696]

Oh, I am so sorry to see this! I’m 51. I have 3 adult children…and 6 babies lost through natural miscarriages. No one wanted to hear about my loses and something I healed from alone. I’m glad that more woman now feel that they can share. Sharing means healing. Together. I still think of my babies lost. The first was a daughter whom I named. Perhaps planting a tree in your baby’s remembrance would help? ❤

[@intlconxun]

That is such an awesome idea.

[@JGold-oy2dr]

I know that no one else’s pain can help heal yours… but your not alone. I’m 37 and after a couple losses I am 32 weeks along. I hope your future holds whatever you two decide is best. ❤

[@jamiejudd7146]

God bless. ❤ Praying for you, your baby & an easy delivery. My son will be 2 in November. I never thought I could get pregnant until I did at 34. After 16 years of nothing, no scares or anything, God finally blessed us. I truly wish you all the best, hunny.

[@jkt0924]

So very sorry for your loss😢. Went through a miscarriage of twins back in 2000. Was a very difficult time for my husband and myself. We realized after a while that things happened for a reason. We decided to enjoy ourselves as a couple and traveled a bit and spent all of our time focused on each other. 6 years later we had a beautiful healthy girl then 3 years after another beautiful healthy girl. Still hurts to think about our babies we lost but grateful to have the babies we had. God bless you both. Take time to heal and it will happen for you. Much love ❤️

[@dal8963]

Barrons personality seems very suited to be rashional in the most emotional time imaginable, he also seems very aware of Elsa's level of support she needs I'm very impressed with how he's conducting himself during this difficult time and all the while also dealing with the loss. Elsa thank you so much for talking about this.

[@jessicakennedy9376]

Yeah he's top notch! So is Elsa, they are perfectly matched. ❤

[@susanvan1672]

Just know that there are many of us out here that shed a tear along with you while letting us know what happened.❤

[@michellegossett755]

I named my baby, that helped me grieve, and except it. The love is always there. I'm sorry Elsa, and thank you for being so brave to share something so personal and heartbreaking with total strangers. Just know you DO NOT HAVE TO, if you DON'T WANT to.

[@laurencichy5157]

Thank you for sharing your story, Elsa & Barron. You're not alone. I've had 2 miscarriages so I feel your pain and heartbreak. Even though your baby isn't with you here on Earth, you are both still parents and have a beautiful family coming soon ❤️ After my 2 miscarriages, I've had 1 son and have another son due next month. Don't lose hope. We are here for you. Stay strong.

[@dianasmith8251]

Elsa & Barron, so many here are responding with such compassion and empathy to this sad news by acknowledging their own experiences and thanking you for sharing your experience since so few have a way to do the same. I’m also in this group. Here’s what I want to add: Take whatever time you need for mourning this loss. There is no manual or guidance on this, nor should there be. There will always be an ache. You will always remember this child and the hopes you had. Do what you need to do for yourselves in this time without worrying about our expectations. We’ll be fine. We are holding you in our hearts.

[@amywill9185]

What she said… really.

[@sclewell777]

First off I'm very sorry for your loss. I know that this is difficult. We all love you two lots. My late wife lost our first child at 13 weeks. It was so hard on us. My wife went through what you describe. Our OB said that if my wife didn't miscarry that we wouldn't have had our beautiful daughter. I just want to encourage you Elsa. Hang in their and take your time to heal physically and emotionally. Love you and your husband. Hugs.

[@denverdubois5835]

Every word of this. Much love and healing to you both.

[@soakitinartisansoap]

Well said! ❤

[@catherinegerdes7272]

Well said!

[@melodyfox-farris3436]

As a mother who went through this 5 times before I had a successful pregnancy, my heart goes out to you both. The soulful pain is immeasurable. Give your body, soul and mind time to recover. Dad also needs time to process his suffering of pain as well. I pray for a healthy recover for you both.

[@HSingMomto5Kids]

I am curious if you did anything or the 6th pregnancy was just fine for some reason.

[@Countrymusicismylif1]

I'm so sorry for this loss. I appreciate the strength your leaning on to create this video. Take all the time you need to heal from this, your true and loving fans will be here when you are ready. Sending so much love and health to you! ❤

[@clairel2076]

I am so sorry you had to go through this horrific experience and your loss. I have never experienced being pregnant and never will, but i am a nurse and this video is very important as there's NOT enough info on how to deal with the physical side but especially the mental side how to deal with such a thing during and afterwards. Well done for being so brave to tell your story. lots of love from The Netherlands

[@pagecericola7342]

I lost my son 36 years ago and can still feel the emotions. I was 24 weeks. In 1986 absolutely no one talked about miscarriage. I'm so very very sorry for your loss. ❤️

[@crystalballard4463]

Sending hugs to you

[@rebeccaofsunnybrookefarm8469]

Praying for you.. I was right there in the same situation.. hugs...

[@Maria-zc6jp]

So very sorry 🙏

[@amiller1690]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@UN_UrbanNomad66]

💐

[@charlottes95]

The impact an unborn baby holds on a mother is immeasurable. You'll always hold love for whoever they were supposed to be and I'm so sorry you had to experience this❤

[@Maria-zc6jp]

🙏

[@ComputeralaGeek]

My deepest condolences to you both, the loss of a pregnancy is one of the most detrimental thing that can happen to a woman and a partnership. As someone that recently went through a miscarriage, it isn’t the easiest thing to get over. Give yourself time and space to rest and reconvene. I wish you both all the peace and strength to overcome this troubled time. ❤

[@DiamondMonsterKid11]

I am unbelievably sorry for your loss and the strength you have in sharing your experience amidst all of the grief that you’ve experienced. ❤

[@mv0lution]

I kept it together until Elsa said “we’re excited to try again” while trying to push through the pain. You both are incredibly strong and thank you for sharing such a painful and vulnerable moment with us. Sending all the love your way.

[@UN_UrbanNomad66]

❤

[@caryinfante8013]

I am so very sorry for the loss of your baby 😢. My love and prayers are with you. ❤🙇‍♀️❤

[@user-bj7yt5mt8j]

I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve also have had that experience and it is heartbreaking. You are both in my thoughts at this time.

[@joel.rundle]

So sorry you guys. It’s a bloody horrible situation. My daughter was my wife’s fifth pregnancy after one miscarriage, two ectopics and our first daughter who died during the second trimester. No one talks about how difficult pregnancy really is and if a miscarriage happens, all that innocent glee and excitement is gone forever. Hang in there.

[@user-bl7ii2ug2l]

Thanks for sharing. Thats a lot of pain that most people cant relate to because it hasnt happened to them. God bless you and your family.

[@joel.rundle]

@@mdplady Flippin’ heck, that’s awful, I’m so sorry.

[@AngelicaRodriguez-jm2ik]

I'm so sorry you had to go through this experience. Thank you so much for helping bring awareness, I know that was hard for you Elsa

[@pianosyrup123]

I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 hoping for a full recovery for you emotionally,spiritually,and physically. I didn’t know until this video that your man was an author. I’m purchasing his book right away!

[@claredeburgh2855]

As a mum and someone with multiple losses I've learnt it happens and it's amazing you can share this with everyone . My grandfather who was a farmer said to me "stillbirth happens in nature, every spring some lambs are born dead and some are miscarried" it was the greatest gift to me to realise I didn't have to blame myself and it is nature, of course I am still sad but the weight was lifted off my shoulders. Sending lots of love xx

[@BrooklynAlien]

Yes, another thing people don't talk about is how common miscarriages actually are. Apparently many of us have had at least a few and not even known it. ❤

[@haven8146]

@@BrooklynAlien Definitely. After my miscarriage I was amazed by how many people in my life have had miscarriages or know women who have had them. It’s just not talked about enough.

[@Banagal]

Elsa & Barron, this took incredible strength to share with us. When I had a miscarriage at 4 months I went through a lot of painful experiences too. I'm so sorry for your loss and sadness. We survived and learned a lot for sure. Now we have two wonderful daughters and grandchildren. You are in our thoughts and prayers to heal and move forward. Hugs to you both. Thank you for sharing with us. We share your sorrow.

[@brendabardell-resch6869]

So sorry for your loss. I lost my first baby. Now I have two children older than you both. And two grandchildren. Wishing you the best.

[@user-tv8dr8rc1h]

I am so sorry to hear this 💔 wishing you healing and recovery... glad you have each other for support

[@Confident211]

OMG I’m in tears. I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve been following you guys for several years. You are both amazing people. You will be amazing parents! Praying for you guys and sending love 💕

[@barbarawener1791]

Love. Tears. Sympathy. Puppies. Big huge hugs to you all. This is so so hard and you do what you and B need to do to take care of yourselves. As a doula- the community is aware that miscarriage and abortion are topics that seem so taboo. The community is working hard to try and change this. And wonderful people like you bringing it from the dark is so very helpful. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! Feel every emotion Elsa. Let yourself mourn. I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending you both love and Hugs. Again- thank you for sharing your journey. The world is better for it. ❤

[@garyharnish2395]

So sorry.

[@garyharnish2395]

Keep,trying and don’t give up

[@mjennyt]

So sorry this happened to you. As an OBGYN it's so heartbreaking every time I see this. Thank you for using your platform to provide information for others.

[@hannahstewart4234]

You are so brave to share about your miscarriage in the middle of your heartbreak. Thank you for your honesty and for breaking the silence about it. My best wishes for healing and hope for both of you.

[@coastalartistlivingonislan8395]

Brave. That’s for sharing & educating so many. Have grace. You didn’t do anything wrong. Sending healing vibes to you all.

[@BaconIsNotBiceps]

Never have I wept as quickly as when the words "We lost our baby" were uttered. My heart is broken for you Elsa and Barron. My tears are not mine but rather for you. Please find peace in knowing there is more beyond this world. My brother lost his 6-month-old son, Cameron, years ago so I have some inclination as to what it feels like. The pain will always be there as both a reminder of how precious life really is, as well as to remind us of how love can carry the memory of loved ones with us forever. Please find peace in knowing your child is at rest.

[@sherrymeurer]

My miscarriage was 39 years ago. I will never forget. Grace and peace to you both as your body heals. Back in my day it was never called an abortion. Take all the time you need to grieve this loss. Hugs from Florida 💕

[@nomadgical]

The medical term for miscarriage has always been 'spontaneous abortion'. I remember learning that for the first time 4 decades ago as I went through my military medical training. I find it interesting that lay terms are used instead. It lends to the confusion.

[@kari8187]

Hugs sweet girl , so sorry for your pain and loss. Sometimes our bodies know things that we don’t, miscarriage is so weird occasionally there is an explanation but most times there isn’t and it’s crushing. So brave of you to speak about this. I’ve suffered 2 miscarriage and I also have 3 living daughters.

[@sarahgalt8086]

I’ve been following you for years, I’ve loved seeing your travels, living updates, etc. Thank you for sharing this part of you. Sitting here watching this and crying with you. We went through a silent miscarriage in 2021. I completely emotionally checked out, I wanted to know all the facts and I asked to have a dnc because I knew I couldn’t handle it on my own. I also felt similar feelings that my body failed me. How you said you got to hold your baby, my heart breaks for you. Sending so much love and healing energy to you two. It gets easier though the pain is still so real, it’s like a wound that has healed but still aches.

[@Timespacecos]

I watched my sister go through an incredibly painful miscarriage earlier this year. There truly aren’t enough people talking about it. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope you both take some time to heal. We’ll be here when you are ready

[@Just4Fun2018]

I miscarried our first baby at 9 weeks back in January. Worst, longest, scariest day of my life. I wept and wept. Nobody can understand the full pain besides other momma's who've been through it. It's not nearly talked about enough, so you are incredibly brave for doing so.❤

[@catpchin]

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for making this video. The way that you share the factual info, you are going to help a lot of people.

[@jamiejudd7146]

Elsa hunny, I am certain the baby's soul will incarnate back into your new baby. Please know someone is praying for you & Barron. I wish I could give you a hug & help you see everything will be okay. There's a reason everything happens. You are so strong. Thank you for sharing this. You are helping more families than you know, by simply sharing your story. ❤

[@carlymce]

I had two miscarriages before I had a successful pregnancy (and then my youngest was born at 30 weeks) - thank you for sharing your journey, I felt so alone when I lost my babies, and was even told "this is why you wait until 12 weeks to share." Women need other women to share their experiences like you are doing here. ❤

[@julieinak]

I am so sad for you, it is a lot to endure for you both. This is a beautiful video and so hard to sit down and make. Painful. I feel that so many of the women I know who have had children have also endured one or more miscarriages. But it has not stopped them from having children. Take time to feel more healed, Elsa. Deep breaths. Howls. ❤

[@sukigirlful]

Oh darlings, I am so sorry! I feel your pain, I lost two babies myself and had D and C. It is beyond painful to have the doctor refer it as abortion. You can do it, I had two gorgeous baby girls who are now 56 and 54 now. My doc said each pregnancy strengthens the uterus, which was too immature with the first time. Big hugs xx

[@moxy0903]

I’m so so so so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing. This was very brave - and so desperately needed. I’ve have several friends who have miscarried, and my heart breaks for how desperately alone they felt during and after. Thank you 💜

[@Raquel6470]

Bless both your hearts. I’m so sorry for your loss. Don’t beat yourself up. I sat w my sister thru a miscarriage and it’s so painful. Physically and emotionally. Thank you for sharing and take care of each other.

[@naomiage8727]

Oh Elsa, a miscarriage is something that someone truly never understands until you experience it and it is the worst thing ever. Lean on your community, take time for yourself and your family. I am so sorry for you and Baron. Love on Kamp and Pilot, animals somehow know when you are going through something❤️😭😔

[@debbieomalley3451]

I know how terribly difficult it was for you guys to make this video. I had 4 miscarriages in a row after having 2 healthy boys. The latest miscarriage was at 4 months. It never gets any "easier" to deal with even with the passage of time. A very short time after my 4th miscarriage I was pregnant once again. My daughter is now 33 years young. Please know that you are not alone. ❤

[@karynjohnston4309]

My daughter miscarried her first child earlier this year. She too was around 8 weeks. It was very difficult for her and for all of us. From the time that you know that the baby is there you just love it so much it’s impossible not to feel the great loss. The percentage of women that miscarry their first child is so much higher than I had thought. I can’t remember the exact statistic but it definitely surprised me. I am happy to report that she is now, a very happy, 26 weeks pregnant and everything has been completely normal so far! Sending you love and prayers in this difficult time. I just know that someday you two will get the chance to be unbelievable parents!!!

[@laurawalker4042]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your baby. Please know you are helping so many people by sharing your experience.

[@alisondanielsen3861]

It seems so wrong to click the like button. You are so brave Elsa to share this with us all. My heart breaks for you both. Take this time to grieve and heal. We will all be here waiting for you, when you are ready. Hugs.

[@deirdrepasko9965]

I agree about the 'like' button. I feel guilty pressing it, therefore, I haven't, but that doesn't mean I'm not in total support of them.

[@monicagarcia6476]

I’m so sorry guys. I miscarried at six weeks for having only known I was pregnancy for a week. At to make it worse, I miscarried the week of Mother’s Day. And thank y’all for being so candid in your experience. You’re right, miscarriage is not talked about enough. Took me three years after to have my son, my rainbow baby. Feel all the feels you need to have, cry all the tears. And it’s ok to not be ok. Thinking of y’all.

[@71suns]

❤🫂❤️

[@alystalboerger6197]

I am so terribly sorry you two went through such a stressful and traumatizing loss!! My heart is crying.. thank you for being strong enough to share this journey because you are very right, it is the silent terror which isn't shared as often or as truthfully as it should be. Love to you both!

[@wendymd4542]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I've been through the same and I know how incredibly sad and overwhelming it is. You are a brave woman, please take your time to grieve the heartbreaking loss you've experienced. Sending you blessings and rest.

[@whohasfetalkitty]

My parents lost 3 or 4 before us 3 kids were successful. They are such gentle, sweet people. It hurts to know that they experienced pain like this, and multiple times. You two put a lot of context behind it, to talk about the kind of physical toll that your body goes through. That part of the experience seldom comes up, it seems like it's almost a separate battle from the mental turmoil. Thank you for sharing. Sending hugs n prayers your way. ❤️‍🩹

[@lorettahiggins3717]

I'm so sorry that you lost your baby. Don't worry about posting videos right now. You guys have a lot to process emotionally and physically. We'll all be here when you're ready to come back. Sending virtual hugs and positive thoughts your way. 💜

[@meganhopkins1497]

I am so very sorry for your loss. Beyond words. Sending love and asking my Poppa to meet your little one at the gate.

[@fredletstravels]

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Know that we all are sending love your way.

[@nikitalenzo6219]

Thank you-- I'm so damn sorry for your loss. Elsa, please don't blame your heart and spirit for the ways your body didn't want to let go. Your love is so fierce and your body tried so hard to keep little baby safe. It's not your fault. You are a mama to your core. Sending love.

[@jcox478]

Seems so awful to give this video a like but it’s KZbin. So very sorry for your loss. The female body is such an amazing work of art. It knows when things are right and viable and when it’s not. Thank you so much for sharing your story, you are correct when saying that this is still a taboo subject in 2023. Your little family will one day welcome another. Godspeed

[@deedeeblanscet4433]

I’m so very sorry for your loss. So sorry for the pain you’re both going through. But the way you’re sharing this experience astounds me. I know it will be helpful to others going through this. I hope it helps in your healing as well ❤

[@suehowell9443]

I am so very sorry. What courage it took to share. Sending lots of healing juju your way.

[@aimeebee3093]

Holding space for both of you. Elsa, there isn't a single thing "wrong" with you. You are a powerful, strong, capable woman Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this experience with us.

[@SurvivalLilly]

😢😢😢I am so sorry to hear that! 😢

[@myopinionsonly1221]

Oh i am so sorry 😢i lost my first child at 12 weeks so i understand this devastating news .much love coming your way ..huge hugs

[@charmainetuovinen6547]

I went through a miscarriage and years latter I found out that there is a hormone that the body releases that strengthens your uterus to carry the baby!! The woman who told me this lived in Mexico when she went through this said that she was told to have her uterus sewed to hold the extra weight if your body doesn’t release this hormone. So this is what she did. In my heart I ❤think this is what happened to me. The next pregnancy I started to bleed at 8 weeks so my Dr. told me to stop everything I was doing and go to bed for the rest of the pregnancy. So that is what I did. Not easy because I was going to school and young and had a life. I was 33 and 20 when I had the miscarriage. So not that we can always know the cause but you should know about this possibility. It is so scary going through this and I’m so sad to hear about your loss. My son is 36 now and I now have a funny and precious Granddaughter who reminds me everyday of the love I have for them both. I pray that same for you! Please don’t be so hard on yourself.

[@michelleblubaugh2148]

I am so sorry!!! I’ve been in your shoes and the pain both physical and mental is overwhelming! Sending you big hugs and prayers

[@carolinaclifford2220]

My heart goes out to both of you. Elsa I can hear the hurt in your tone. It's such a lonely feeling even though you have a supportive and loving husband. It happened to you both but in very different ways. Please let your circle be there to support you both individually and as a couple. Thanks for using your platform and recognizing the importance of awareness. Make sure you are both ready to try again. Sending much love and giant tight hugs!

[@Peacenik22]

Sincerely, I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Grateful that both of you are treating this like a powerful learning and healing experience. Your surrounded with love from your local village and your KZbin village. We are here holding you and Barron in a circle of nurturing love. REST and RECOVER your body and your soul. Peace & Light, in God's omnipresent Love. ❤‍🩹🙏💕💞💓💗✨💖🫂(Hugs)

[@SageWords2027]

SHAME on law of attraction beliefs, or whatever thoughts that made you blame yourself for holding on to the tissues that hadn’t yet passed. NONE of this was your fault. I’m so sorry that you went through that pain on top of the loss. We are co-creators, at best. There will always be unforeseen forces that shape our reality that actually ARE beyond our control even as high vibing manifestors. And shame on the medical profession for not answering the questions you needed answers to. It IS so hard to talk about miscarriage, to talk about loss, especially of what would become a child. I’m deeply sorry that you went through this and grateful for your courage to share and educate others. You are very loved, prayed for, cared for and appreciated by thousands of strangers you’ve never met because you are an inspiration. How tenderly selfless of you to share your pain with us and allow us the opportunity to grieve our own losses with you and to access your story as a resource for others in need.❤❤❤

[@MichelleNardiArt]

Elsa and Barron, I had the exact same kind of experience with my first pregnancy, but I had a D & C. The worse kind of comment that people, especially woman, can say is "I had a miscarriage too and this is common." This experience is traumatic for you both and I am proud of you for discussing this subject. From my experience and even though I have two sons now, you will never forget your child. You have to grieve, you are entitled to grieve. I guarantee you will have joy from the eyes of your next child.

[@waldrophomestead]

I'm so sorry for you

[@kittybest2301]

No that is not the worst kind of comment to say I've had 5 miscarriages and 1 successful and they've all been truly hard and they are common. You just made me feel horrible thanks 👍 I almost died during labor but whatever guess that's the worse kind of comment I can make 😭

[@debbiedolan3143]

I think people need to know they are not alone in this . Miscarriages happen to 25%plus of all pregnancies. Just because people say its common doesn't mean they don't think it's not traumatic for the individual. Thank you Elise & Barron for sharing your story. Unfortunately the experience and options a person has will depend on the state they are living in today. That should not be the case!

[@the_mum]

No...the worst kind of comment one can make is " It happens...you'll have another baby." I heard that one through 2 miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy.

[@stephie640]

I think people stating they went through a miscarriage also is simply them resonating with the pain... empathy. The common part is unnecessary as every woman is different and therefore that is irrelevant. Nonetheless I think people mean well with most comments however unhelpful some comments are.

[@SJ-um2ym]

Thank you for being so honest and brave, both of you. It’s so important that more people speak up about this situation. You are helping so many others. You are wonderful humans. Sending you lots of love. You will be the best parents, no matter how your children come to you. They’ll be lucky little people. Remember to give yourselves and each more love and grace right now.

[@ikaro1120]

So sorry for your loss, thanks for sharing this traumatic experience and educating us.❤❤

[@beverlyaslett7871]

Elsa, it’s brave to share your experience. This is more common than many would ever guess. I used to know the stats of first time pregnancies but it is high. I also think you had absolutely abysmal natal care. I’m an NP with about 40 years experience. The trend towards midwives is popular. Keep things natural. I too in most advocate conservatism but not in pregnancy. Before the advances of medical care for pregnant women it was the major cause of death. For those who are pregnant get a really good obstetrician and choose a woman whose had children of her own. Get a good support team in an office with like minded obstetricians. Have the baby in a good hospital with an NICU. My first baby I had a tough labor, the male obstetrician I picked was incompetent. My baby struggled in the canal and her first gasp of air was so violent it shoved her heart to the right side and collapsed her lung. She was blue and limp. She went to NICU instead of my arms. They saved her and she recovered within 48 hours. The stupid doctor then yanked out my placenta so hard he fell over backwards. I bled for weeks. The whole experience was traumatic and didn’t need to be. I never felt comfortable with that doctor and should have found someone else. But you know, we are suppose to not complain and be stoic. F all of that. Don’t blame yourself for anything. Don’t try to be tough. You need to be held and consoled. Let yourself grieve for this loss. Yes you will be more experienced next time but choose wisely for that medical team who will support you during pregnancy and take the time to assist you no matter what. I’m sorry for the loss of your baby.

[@nubbyrose87]

I’m very sorry. I’ve had 3 miscarriages and 3 kids. Your miscarriage experience was more physically difficult than most at that stage but mentally it’s rough for everyone. I know this was hard for to speak about but it will help others who don’t hear about miscarriage or even think about it when they first get pregnant. I had a miscarriage first so I knew that pregnancy did not come with any guarantees. I’m glad you let us know how to offer our support. Edit: Grief is part of this.

[@jamiekarpo8514]

I'm so sorry for you both having to go through this. I found you guys a week ago and have been binge watching every day. Coming across this video broke my heart and brought back my own pain, grief, and memories. I have had multiple miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy that resulted in losing my left fallopian tube. I also now have 3 beautiful eath side children. Once you are pregnant again, the fear will be fierce. Don't let it get in the way of enjoying your pregnancy. And remember that you both created a life and that precious soul is watching over you both and is going to hand pick the most amazing and beautiful sibling to be earth side with you guys. I appreciate you sharing this. I was also very transparent and open because the stigma of miscarriages is terrible. I also announce pregnancy early because I believe every life deserves to be celebrated no matter how long they are with us. I also hope that the more people that know, the more good energy they can put out into the universe for us. You will forever be changed because you are a mother. Motherhood is the most beautiful thing we as women go through, but it doesn't come with out heart break. I wish for you to create another life when you are ready and that it is peaceful and without any complications. You all will be in my thoughts. And remember, there is always a rainbow after every storm. 🌈

[@michelewelty8396]

My heart breaks for you. Grief for a lost baby is tremendous. If I could hug you both, I would. Lean on each other and realize that everyone grieves in different ways. We love you! ❤️

[@ridleysbasement431]

Don't rush yourself or your healing guys. I'm so sorry for your loss. I too went through this chemical "abortion" issue. And I so appreciate the fact that you are so brave to come on this platform and speak about something I too had no information on. You guys are very loved. I watched your videos while I was healing from my own miscarriage and you helped me heal and get through it. Just take care of yourselves and take your time!

[@32prettyblue]

I've watched you guys for awhile now. I'm older and I see you through the eyes of a mother. So many times I have found myself feeling proud of you two and what you have accomplished. Today my heart hurts for you and prayers of comfort have been said. I'm so so sorry for this huge loss.

[@oliviamanogue5437]

So sorry for your loss! Love & prayers for your comfort & peace! ♥🙏😇

[@BeeCJ]

So sorry for your loss 😢 sending prayers for peaceful healing and comfort.

[@playcolumbus2413]

I'm so sorry. I had the exact same experience in March. I found out at 13 weeks the baby had stopped growing at 11 weeks. I didn't pass the baby until week 15. It was the most horrible thing I've ever gone through. My heart breaks for you. (I got pregnant 3 months after the miscarriage and am 13 weeks again and scared. I know there is hope. There is hope for you as well.)

[@jamiehoward3151]

Sending prayers 🙏

[@joshmo4275]

Praying for you and the baby as well as Elsa and Barron. Praying for peace strength and comfort as well as healing of both the body and the soul ( which takes the greatest hit of all when facing such a loss as you faced previously and Elsa and Barron are facing now ) I’ve been praying for both of them and now I’m praying for health safety and peace for you and the baby in your pregnancy. God bless you.

[@Misterydwn]

I know you're strangers, I've been following you since 2018 or 19 and I want to say I'm sending you SO MUCH love and positive energy. I'm now a full time nomad in a large part to your channel. I've learned so much from you and I appreciate you guys so much. I'm so sorry you're going through this pain. 💔💔❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@moirahill6397]

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[@airwolf61970]

I am so sorry😢 I was really excited for this chapter in your lives. It breaks my heart to see yall cry. I'd lean on your community hard. Thanks for talking about your struggles and giving us a glimpse into your life.

[@katharinecross1683]

So sorry for your loss. Thank you for your vulnerability, transparency, and honesty in sharing your story with us all.

[@karlbrundage7472]

Elsa, you're a Warrior. Your attitude and outlook are an inspiration. I grieve for your loss, but am buoyed by the sense of resilience and fortitude displayed by the both of you. Barron, keep doing you, brother. You are exactly what your soulmate needs right now.

[@jenny-ft4or]

I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. Thank you for being so open and strong to share this unbelievably horrible experience. Sending you both so much love. ❤

[@kevinvee5750]

My condolences to you both. Thank you for making this video!

[@Vdekort11]

You’re so courageous for speaking about it, I can’t imagine going through that. I’ve never been pregnant, but miscarriage is something I know a little more about because of people like you and I thank you.