Week 2: Do You Want to Heal?

[@briannewilds3199]

Thank you Lysa I’m bawling my eyes out!!

[@JazzyJsworld]

I wish I had watched this 3 days ago. I was recently triggered in my pain and responded poorly. Thank you for sharing these helpful tips

[@jodywatkins9467]

Love the reminder to give yourself 20 min, 40z of water, and loads of grace & Truth!! The Book "The Body Keep Score" does an amazing job educating us on how the brain works and functions during trauma and suffering.

[@janemurray7914]

Excellent! Excellent! Excellent! Thank ou so much!!

[@kimberlyfeliciano4375]

Awesome video. I wish I can sit with Lysa one on one and have a personal conversation.

[@tlcc1690]

Thank you for this. I need a pediatric counselor so so bad. My 10 yr old is in trouble. No one will help us. Plz pray for us

[@literatelearners]

Effective and easy to follow. Couldn't read the book but the workbook.

[@RachelLeynes]

Wow powerful never realised I just wanted someone to believe me. Because it is true!

[@carolletourneau9564]

Thank you so much, that was so good and deep. I will listen again. I'm sure that i'm on the good road for healing. Shalom on you, sisters !

[@juliadianekinzer784]

I did the exercise with my counselor last week. I can not believe how much this helped me. "The pain wasn't staring me back" either. I had a trigger yesterday but was able to work through it so much better. I started volunteering for a trauma processing group 6 months ago. I serve as an ally. Not only has God taken my pain and used it to help others, but it has also been healing to me.

[@tlcc1690]

I am fighting crying. Yes I feel that way! I have those triggers and then I question if I ever forgived and my heart, and it's such a spiral. Its eating me away.

[@katherinekawaguchi3282]

Honesty and Transparency so critical!! Thank you! Reading the book, doing the work! 💖

[@ct8409]

This video is THE BEST teaching and insight I have ever heard on forgiveness. I have a master's degree in Ministry and have read and listened to many teachings. This video was theological and practical. We need both. Lysa's description of her counseling session and her understanding of how it feels to be triggered and hurt so deeply was so powerful to me. Thank you both for making this video.

[@jennifernyberg4378]

Chapter 4 was such a huge help. I didn’t have red felt so I used a red crayon and colored over every hurt. Thank you Lysa for writing this book and helping me, all of us to get to a place where Jesus wants us to forgive! ♥️

[@jacqueB6151]

Thank you!

[@erinreynolds8493]

I was really touched within the first 5 minutes that you validated me and that this did happen and for this you were so sorry. Sometimes I feel the blame keeps coming back on me.... if only I had done this or had not done that. It feels like being victimized all over again. Thank you for saying this was wrong. What they did was not ok.

[@literatelearners]

Go ahead and allow yourself to solve the issue after the fact. It keeps you humble because you realize the devil won. You failed a test. No big deal. Athletes review games to see what they did wrong and how they can get better.

[@lyzettevega1234]

My amygdala was active for 10 years 😳 I thank God for this new season and for ya'll teaching!

[@shirleydizien2558]

LYSA thank you so much for your heartfelt words of telling us if we had not heard it before that you were so sorry we got hurt and for the pain it caused us. I felt Holy Spirit all over that word you gave us. It means the world to know you and someone cares so much when our hearts hurt over something awful that happened to us. Thanks again so very much. Shirley D.

[@paulastewart5373]

Thank you so much Lysa for your book and for all of these videos and resources you are sharing to help us heal

[@stefaniemoore6519]

This is so good! That's the hardest thing about forgiveness (for me at least)... how to KEEP forgiving and make sure it sticks even when you're tempted to go back to your original hurt when you're reminded of the pain. Jesus's command to forgive seven times seventy times... I feel that's him telling us that he KNOWS that the pain will not go away magically and we need to keep forgiving and growing.

[@maxtaylor7105]

That was helpful, thank you!

[@gloglogloglo]

Thanks for a great meaningful conversation. Realized why the word “debt” is used in the Bible...!

[@tiffanybartley8936]

wow very transformative. Very good visualization

[@deedeluca6641]

This is an amazing book. I loved learning that triggers are a way to tell us we still need some work on forgiveness and that its a process of forgiving for the impact...even after the marked moment of forgiveness. Ah ha moment!!!

[@kaywellons4059]

Lysa, When I don't know you personally, How could you saying you are sorry reduce me so quickly to tears? The sincerity in your voice and eyes touched me deeply. Thank you so much. I know God is there to help me further process my pain. I will not believe the Father of lies. Thank you.

[@maxtaylor7105]

Same here.... It was a blessing to hear those words

[@taniaspence4879]

Same here, I clutched my heart with tears in my eyes, I felt validated too x

[@tracydelaney2125]

Thanks so much for reminder that no season of life sums up our lives.

[@trobinsonepps]

Good wisdom nuggets...great video 🙌🏽

[@dguice765]

Thank you so helpful

[@victoriarandazzo2462]

So, so, so grateful for you Lisa. This has helped me so much!

[@christinamorales6887]

We have all been hurt and part of our soul growth.

[@davidsterrett6513]

Thank You I needed this so much. Life is a Gift and so is forgiveness.

[@karenbucksbarg1824]

Wow this video is amazing. Be sure to watch till the end. The words at the end are amazing and I will refer to these on a regular basis now.

[@lorialberts5814]

So perfectly said..14 yrs & I've let go of alot. But, occasions still come up where there are triggers that send me realing back & cause me to wonder if I will EVER get past this & completely forgive. This book has made me realize I've come along way. It IS a process & to trust God to finalize it & not my own strength. (20 min..I've actually become aware of the power in doing this. I just never understood why! ❤❤❤

[@wendymcbride9108]

I really related to the week 2. Lysa I look forward to learning how to forgive and process the hurt. Thank you for writing this book. I would image this will be reference guide for years to come.

[@susishanahan3551]

Thank you so much for this video and the steps.

[@suebell2009]

Oh, my, this is so good. I am eager to do the 3x5 cards. And the red felt. On my way to Hobby Lobby now. And I her three hints about what to do in the triggered or meltdown moment are great. Take 20 minutes to calm down, drink water etc.

[@krystallouis4531]

I miss hobby Lobby, I'm from Canada, and i would cross the border to spend hours in that store..... your lucky lol

[@vickifisher608]

Wish I could go into it but I really am hurt and thought I had been freed from it but it has rrerrd its head again. There is love there too but a different type of love. A sad yet heartfelt love. How do so release myself or how to ask God. Trust God to release me. Why has it rested its head again. In time with your book. I realize. God is working on me still. Everything you have expressed in this video speaks to me.

[@vickifisher608]

Please excuse the typos. I couldn't get the thoughts out fast enough. :)

[@mercygoveya770]

Thank you so much for the video. It gave me lots of insights.

[@tralei1184]

Love this! Thank you so much❤

[@annalisegarcia3057]

Thank you for recognizing and acknowledging my pain. Deep wounds can not simply be forgotten. Forgiveness is a process...... Thank you for sharing the powerful tool to forgive those who have hurt me. I didn't know how to move through the "triggers" to continue to the forgiveness journey.

[@melissathompson4884]

Wow thank youbfor these tips

[@aprilbourne967]

Thank you for the reminder to watch today . I am avidly listening . I understand totally it's up to us to love ourselves and practice self care. No things wrong with caring for our mental health happiness joy peace for ourselves and forgiving others freed us and helps us to heal and others to turn from their own bad behaviors attitudes mindsets and opinions or poor advice even or perhaps it's deeds they've done too

[@jlcrisman917]

This was so good. I really needed to hear this today! I think the visuals are so great about the cards that I read in the book. I felt like I was doing good with forgiveness but then the triggers came. I took more notes. I really need the information on the triggers. Thank you so much!

[@christinamorales6887]

You pray and ask God to give you a willingness to forgive. The power of the Holy Spirit will help us to forgive and ask Jesus to help you. In our flesh it’s hard but the spirit we can do all things through Christ. We forgive to free ourselves.

[@tlcc1690]

I've got some work to do! Thank u

[@jantamble8820]

GREAT info - I want to try the 3 x 5 cards as well as the red felt - wow! I might just cross out the cards in red pen to show it is cancelled??

[@emilykirkman8468]

Good idea!!

[@mariamenani1536]

Decision and process yes just what I wanted to hear!

[@MinaMillenMehmet]

So write your hurt from trigger on 3x5 card, release pain/hurt to Jesus, put all the effects under the blood (red felt), then I would ask Holy Spirit to fill all those places where the pain.

[@tlcc1690]

I cant find what this hurt or unforgiveness is. But I know it's in there.

[@specializedmommabear1016]

I'm so scared to open an already damaged wound.

[@jenniferdawn7707]

On your 3×5 cards, did you start with just this situation or did you start from the first hurt you stuffed??

[@lisasimeone2620]

While going through step 4, inventory, we’ve been writing the people that have hurt us along with the hurts we’ve caused others. It doesn’t really matter where you start. Just be sure to ask God for his guidance.

[@jennd.6951]

What if the person you have to forgive is yourself?

[@carolynflannery9717]

When is week 3 being posted?

[@joannecomeau9493]

How do u know when to begin forgiveness when u have been so sad for so long and the person causing u all this pain doesnt even know they are causing you so much pain and you are so depressed?

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

You begin forgiveness when you really make up your mind to. In cases of extreme trauma where you are left really wasted and depressed, you really have to go after it. I prayed for it, but I couldn't fathom what it was for the extreme case I had of continued cheating. I realized that praying for it wasn't enough, because I just couldn't fathom what it really was anymore or how I'd get there. Searching it out online and really watching videos on it and reading articles has helped. I'd say Lisa's videos have helped the most to make me realize what it is and how it's a process. I finally got that God supernaturally helps us w/ it, and boy did I need that. I've been consumed w/ grief and all the bitterness of the nasty details of what happened. I was trying to practice thought stopping, and experimenting w/ how some say you have to sit in the grief, because what you resist persists.. When I really took in one of Lisa's videos of how God's forgiveness for us supernaturally flows through us and we just have to let that happen for the person that is really hard to forgive, there was finally an aha moment. It's contained in the Lord's Prayer: And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those that trespass against us. I knew then that forgiveness is just. If I want it, I have to give that same grace. As I recieve it, I can give that same grace. I felt a lifting that night. The triggering thoughts came back the next day and I worried that I'd missed it again. I would say, I forgive a weak man for doing weak things. I would speak forgiveness to the anguished thoughts, and that was more powerful than merely thought stopping. I own a house w/ my ex, so there's still contact. Right after this renewed process of forgiveness, there was a new offense and I'm back to the drawing board for a few days in a tailspin of being really triggered and having a new thing to forgive, but it's much better than before. I hope something there helps. God bless. I know it's so hard when you're flattened by depression.

[@karensmith8157]

My husband is still in love with his affair partner, and he doesn’t wish for that affair to have ended. I have forgiven him almost immediately, because I love him, but what do I do?

[@OfficialProverbs31Ministries]

Oh, friend. We are so saddened to hear your story. This video with Lysa, Jim and Joel from Therapy & Theology may be helpful to you. It addresses our resistance to forgiveness when we walk through really difficult circumstances. kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYelYWqOdtqShbM

[@marygrady1548]

How does forgiveness apply to situations? I don't think I know the people involved

[@Australian_Lady]

Mary Grady, hurt and unforgiveness does not need a name. It still hurts and therefore hinders our ability to heal and move on. You may not know names but God does.

[@marygrady1548]

@@Australian_Lady so when I make my hurt cards, situation or people either one? I compartmentalize everything

[@Coopers4Him]

I’ve wondered the same thing. I finally realized I needed to forgive God, bc He allowed the situation to happen. I don’t understand why (and that rlly bugs me!) but I had to work on allowing myself to trust Him bc He knows what’s best. Ive mostly done (still do) this by taking every thought captive to Christ, and memorizing as much scripture as I can. (I use an app called Scripture Typer to distract my mind w Gods Word when my thoughts get too loud.)

[@christinamorales6887]

No shame or stigma with a good therapist instead of vomiting your emotions on other people.

[@rheeryder2524]

Here are some recent surprising thoughts I have about God & the Christian life: Is God a misogynist? Could he actually hate (some of) us? He's SUPPOSED to provide; then why so often does He not? Why is He so seemingly cruel at times? I've searched & searched for Him. How could He STILL be so elusive? Yes, I spend time in His word, in prayer, etc. This is gonna sound backwards but...I feel like God pushes some of us straight to suicide. He said He won't put onus more than we can bear, but...