Weight Loss, body shape advice and positivity

This week I'm sharing why I will be discussing weight loss despite it being a "taboo" subject, why I don't believe in a lot of the body shape advice you see on line, showing how I balance work and wellness and the outfits I've been wearing.
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[@Mariafsadler]

Do let me know what you think, but please keep your comments respectful and kind 😀

[@user-hr9vv2po1v]

I totally agree with what you say. It’s great to feel confident about yourself . Making all those changes are so inspiring. 🌷🌷

[@elizabethdominis730]

Whenever I lose weight, I find some friends making comments with a sting in the tail. Some people will be happy for you, but some won’t. I enjoy your channel, I find it inspiring.

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you I’m so pleased you enjoy the videos 😊

[@brendachell7128]

Maria, it has been wonderful watching you becoming ever more joyful and sharing your excitement with us all. Well done, it was good to hear how you felt before and how you are feeling now. You are such an authentic woman and with the courage to speak out on awkward issues. You did a great job, thank you.

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you so much! ☺️

[@bruceclarke2540]

Cathy here, Go girl, Yes yes and yes if you don't have your health then life is a chore. Keep the inspiration coming and well done you for making a decision to get healthier and sticking to it over the long haul. You look fab. Please keep the fashion videos coming as well. I watch you while I do my hand weights at home in the kitchen.

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you so much. More fashion videos coming soon- next one on Thursday 👍

[@sharonmidmer5301]

You look fantastic ❤ you should be very proud of your weight loss journey, do not feel guilty ❤

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you ☺️

[@lynetteraab3107]

it's just another aspect of the clown world we live in that we are all supposed to pretend that being overweight is somehow healthy. Most reasonable people can appreciate that it is difficult to lose weight and there are all sorts of reasons why people are overweight. So while it's not appropriate to make unkind comments about people being overweight, it's equally ridiculous that you shouldn't celebrate someone's success in losing weight. You have a great attitude about it. Congrats on gaining better health!

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you. I agree you shouldn’t judge either way. We don’t know what’s going on in other peoples lives 👍

[@freddiestark1779]

Your commentary was succinct and to the point of your personal goals. They have inspired me in my journey as I go towards my goals. Thank you for your honesty. Cheering us all on.

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you I’m cheering you on 😘

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

There’s absolutely nothing wrong about wanting to lose weight to improve one’s appearance, it’s admirable. Thank you for your honesty, Maria, it helps us more than anything, and we’re all experiencing similar thoughts. I actually began my daily walks to clear stubborn chest pain from pneumonia, it worked. But, I lost so much weight that I just kept on going, for years now, and improved my diet, too. I had completely given up on weight loss. To maintain the weight I was, about 175 lbs. I ate only 800 Kcal/day for 22 years and didn’t lose even one pound! Now I know how powerful exercise is and that it’s not the calories, it’s the inactivity and the consumption of carbs and sugar that were keeping me fat. Plus-size clothing offerings are extremely limited and dismal, it’s all black polyester crap! I wasn’t quite in that size range yet, but I love having a full choice of clothing now, from pretty much every brand. I have to wear natural fabrics and love light colors and the best quality, so there was nothing for me in plus sizes! My wardrobe is very important to me, too, but I feel like we shouldn’t say that nowadays either. There’s nothing trivial or wrong with wanting to look our best with whatever it takes: weight management, fitness, great clothes, makeup, hairstyling, or even cosmetic surgery. It’s a Catch-22 these days, we get criticized for wanting to look good, criticized if we don’t try. I firmly believe that each woman should do exactly what makes her happiest (so long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else, of course, that should go without saying). I went from a US size 16/UK 20 to a US6/UK10 and yes, I am happier and my beautiful new wardrobe gives me endless pleasure, why not? I would still like to lose another 10 lbs. eventually, last year I found out I’m quite a bit shorter than I was in youth. So, I should reduce from my current 125 lbs. to 115 lbs., but no rush, my weight is ok. I do think my health could benefit if I lose more abdominal fat, though.❤

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

Health first, then family, then friends, then work. I’m so glad you decided to improve your health, dear Maria. You will feel better and be happier with yourself, I know I do since I did it myself.

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you I really do 👍

[@georgina3358]

Very well put, Maria, and I know exactly what you mean about being made to feel guilty about wanting to lose weight. I'm not taking medication for blood pressure and I'm very happy about that, and I'm also very happy I can get into my summer clothes that didn't fit me 6 months ago!

[@evelynwatt8029]

Great advice Maria and you are looking amazing I decided to loose weight 3 yrs ago and really worked on it I kept getting told “ Oh you are much too thin “ etc etc but I was so much happier I am 73 and had a n accident last December braking my ankle and leg which I was told because of my age would take me longer to get over I have just had an operation on my face to remove a Tumour and was told in the hospital how healthy I am and the fact I am on no medication I am also walking unaided much quicker than expected so my loosing weight and becoming more healthy has really paid off for me No one has a right to take your choice away from you Keep up your good work Really enjoying your journey ❤️😘

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you for your comment and sharing. It sounds like things could have been much worse if you hadn’t lost weight. I hope you are ok now 🤗

[@evelynwatt8029]

@@Mariafsadler Thankyou Yes I’m getting there slowly Ankle not healing so have to have another operation but I know I will be fine 👍🏻❤️

[@ina7747]

Thank you for this video. Social media is a great medium, but abused at times to send hate and awful comments; I do wonder what those people are like in the real world. I've been following you for a couple of years now and you are so much happier and energetic these days, I'm really happy for you. I've been on the same kind of journey as you have and lost 40 pounds over the past few years and I'm so much healthier now and have loads more energy. As long as you feel good and happy about yourself that's all that matters. I love how you include us in your journey. Thank you so much.😘

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you too and congratulations on your health journey too 😘

[@ninacobfeld5808]

You are an inspiration! I actually enjoy your videos much more and am very interested in eating in a way that promotes health.❤

[@Mariafsadler]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@DianesFM]

This was super timely for me, thank you.

[@Mariafsadler]

You're so welcome!

[@samanthakatecreates6179]

Thank you so much for this video. You are absolutely right about us needing to listen to ourselves rather than others judgement. I really believe as we get older we need to watch our weight. I’m so glad I lost weight as I couldn’t imagine how I’d manage being so overweight again, I can lead to so many health problems later in life. Loving following your journey. My diet is very close to yours ❤

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you and congratulations on your success too 😘

[@debbiecrum7585]

You look gorgeous. Congratulations on your weight loss. Love your video.

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you ☺️

[@user-uw2hk6xb8p]

It is so nice to hear your honesty. I also would like to have some links to the fashions you show.

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you ☺️ I do always share links in the description box for anything still available and alternatives if I can find them 👍

[@frederikavanhout4609]

Health is an important point wanting to loose weight. I am trying to loose weight too with fasting for my knee pain. So far feeling great but not loosing much but I stick to the fasting. When I was younger I lost 34 pounds, the truth is I did not feel different, I was the very same person. It is tricky to believe if only you loose weight you feel great. It is a pitfall for women to worry about this, often their whole life long. That makes me feel very sad.

[@Mariafsadler]

Yes I know what you mean about life long desire to lose weight and I understand that’s where the body positivity comes in to be happy either how you are but for me that was at the expense of my health. I think when you want to lose a couple of pounds to just look and feel better in your clothes it’s different to needing to lose a lot of weight because it’s causing you health issues which it was for me

[@stephanielong5287]

Amen, very well said Maria! Keep up the good work, you are an inspiration!

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you so much!

[@bronwenpayne2036]

Hello Maria, I am really enjoying these interesting videos. I wonder if you follow Melissa Murrell? she terms herself a stylist for the everyday woman. I think her job is probably similar to your own and she links all the choices she makes for her clients. Would you consider putting links to the clothes you show us? I find it a great help. Many thanks

[@Mariafsadler]

I do always include links in the description box for everything that’s still available and alternatives 👍 I don’t follow Melissa because I’m afraid I don’t like the way she turns everyone “back into an hourglass” as if their body is faulty. I don’t believe there is a right or wrong body shape and that we are all perfect and beautiful as we are. Instead I like to help women dress the body they’ve got with confidence ❤️

[@robynlaszlo6128]

I absolutely agree with your thoughts mine is also for a healthy life on the fashion side I sew my clothes which brings me much joy thank you for a wonderful video 😊😊😊

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@eithnecourtney4854]

Very well said Maria. Love your channel ❤

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you so much!

[@laineydunlop2161]

I would like to know why anyone would behave like this towards you Maria. I think we all support body positivity but the most important thing to all of us should always be our health, mental and physical. No one should be shamed about weight loss in the same way they shouldn’t be shamed about weight gain. I a,so agree about the hourglass body shape. This is most likely a male construct of what a woman should aspire to. We just simply want to look our best and understand who do do that through colour, shape, materials and accessories. I’m very happy you have lost weight as the difference in your demeanour is marked. I’m enjoying the information sharing and inspiration. ❤

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you Elaine 😘

[@janetcarlile6657]

Thank you for sharing your weight loss journey. You look amazing 😊

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you so much 😊

[@deborahharding135]

"Making your own choices" as regards losing/not losing weight should include being free to say that you want to lose weight. Otherwise its not freedom, it's prejudice.

[@Mariafsadler]

Yes exactly 👍

[@brendawyber6556]

I couldn’t agree with you more. Weight-loss is a personal issue, and yes you will likely feel healthier if you lose weight in a healthy manner. I applaude you and am enjoying listening to your videos. I too am on a weight-loss journey, and mine is taking a but longer but I am still working on it. I am moderately active, and would love to walk more, but the aches and pains make it unpleasant. My husband went into longterm care 18 months ago, and while we never did really walk or exercise together, I find walking alone very lonely. I have not been able to find a group or person to walk with. You have talked about eating, and exercise on the channel, and you have mentioned sleeping but I was wondering if there are any additional tips, tricks or suggestions for getting better sleep. I have some nights that are great and I wake up feeling very rested and others when, if the dog did not need to go out for a pee, I would just pull the covers over my head and stay in bed. I also loved your comment on how difficult it is to find nice, quality clothes for plus size women. You are so right that they seem to all be made out of black, crappy, scratchy fabrics. I am trying to sew a few more things first myself to combat this. It is interesting that the plus sizes seem to be the ones that sell out first, but….why nit make more of them. Thanks for all your content. Keep them coming.

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you for sharing and sorry to hear about your husband. Re sleep I’ve tried to make a regular going to bed time and read a proper book rather than watching tv or Netflix. I’ve also cut out caffeine after about 3pm and I’m taking magnesium supplements. Lavender oil might help too. 😘

[@suzannahkelly5105]

Gorgeous now and then xx

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you my lovely friend 😘

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

How beautiful England is! It’s been so hot here in California for a week, about 40C, that I haven’t been able to go on my daily walks. This heat wave will continue for another week, too. I could walk just after dawn when it’s cooler, but I need that time to get my daily work at home done. It’s 30C+ plus indoors by mid-morning, so I can’t do housework, laundry, ironing or sewing* and I can’t go out and goof off, either, in this heat. This is a problem every summer and early autumn, I’ll just have to lose those extra summer pounds when it cools off. I hate losing condition, but this climate can be brutal. I’m always at my thinnest right before the heat comes in June, but only gain about a pound a month. Still, our hot summer weather lasts at least five full months every year, it always seems like forever. *I do my own alterations and am still taking in clothes from weight loss, which I’m trying to stabilize for a year. I want to enjoy my new clothes before I lose more weight, 10 -15 lbs. max more next year. I can’t be taking in clothes forever, some are in their third round already, next time - out they go.

[@Mariafsadler]

It’s very green at the moment but that’s because we’ve had so much rain 😂 we’re desperate for summer!

[@brendawyber6556]

Thanks for these suggestions. Do you take the magnesium at night, I was using Melatonin, but felt it was stopping being effective. I will give these a try - coffee is no issue as I have pretty much cut it out. Regular bedtime will be a challenge, but if I do not try I will never know. I am also going to try journaling. Thanks

[@Mariafsadler]

I have a multi vitamin that contains it that I take with my dinner 👍

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

You should always show your great legs, or wear white jeans as you are doing here. I have a very similar shape, but I’m only 164 cm, and my legs are my best body feature, too.❤

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you ☺️

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

I think feeling positive about those less-loved features, that we all that have and we can’t change, is a good thing. Small eyes, short legs, wide shoulder bones, etc. we have to live with, obesity is different, it’s fully preventable and treatable (no, I’m not saying it’s easy, it’s darn hard). But body positivity just shouldn’t celebrate obesity like it does. Being fat or obese is a dangerous health condition and it can and should be addressed. I was shocked when my 21-year old niece recently told me that she doesn’t care if she gets fat! She should, if for no other reason, it takes at least a decade of life away. The reason we don’t see any obese 70, 80 or 90-year olds is that obese people can’t live that long, the body will fail. This is reality, so why promote fatness and obesity? I knew an obese woman who had her first heart atrack at 43, then didn’t even try to lose weight or get fit. That was a few years ago, I doubt if she’s still around now.

[@Mariafsadler]

Yes I agree and it’s costing our national health service millions 🙁

[@frederikavanhout4609]

I think it is not so simple, often there are a lot of issues in the lives of this people. I don’t think this is a helping comment. The world needs more compassion, also for this complicated subject.

[@annalytic]

I don't understand how we can't talk about weight loss these days - we talked about it all the time in the 1970s, 80s, 90s and 00s. We kept each other on track and at a healthy weight. I can't stand all the disclaimers and caveats on YT videos. Don't be guilty. Be proud of what you've achieved. Being heavy/fat is NOT healthy - especially in the long run - the body positivity movement is doing women a disservice. I'm aiming to lose two stone.

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

I agree, celebrating obesity is a health calamity!

[@annalytic]

@@kimberlyperrotis8962 It really is.

[@Mariafsadler]

Thank you 🙏🏽 I certainly wasn’t healthy when I was 29kilos heavier! 😘

[@annalytic]

@@Mariafsadler You have done SO well 💫💫💫💥

[@annalytic]

@@Mariafsadler It's funny - I went to the GP and was talking about getting my blood pressure down through lifestyle changes rather than medication. He looked dubious and said (among other things) well you're not overweight. But I AM. At 5' 5" I now weigh 150lbs. That IS overweight. I want to get back down to 120lbs which is much healthier for my frame. I'm sick of all the rolls of fat around my belly and bra area.... I honestly don't think people can recognise overweight people anymore because it's become the norm!

[@olivebobo6885]

Sorry you went on a bit too much.

[@Mariafsadler]

Sorry you had to be rude!