5 STEPS THAT TURN THE INFJ INTO "THAT" INFJ

[@Wenzes]

What are some of the qualities you wished you would embody more that you know are just hidden somehow?

[@raft115]

I have a sharp intuition that just like we infjs are those who want the good of society i sense existence of some who are for what is opposite of what we are and they are the common enemy causing problems in society

[@Madamchief]

Taking up space. I feel small because I'm a short chick with freckles but people treat me small because I allow it

[@angepack1]

Teaching people how to do everyday things, I know a lot about self-sufficiency and it would be fun to pass that on

[@avikchatterjee1945]

Hi Wen. Learning to be more self- specific each and every day. Ofcourse without being narcissistic. I am relatively fine and not stagnant. Keeping on the movement.

[@sigmainfjbulgaria4478]

Be more of who you are with all your intensity and passion, my biggest problem is aligning my weirdness to an environment that is not so willing to understand me at first. I'd rather hollow myself out than to be myself which leaves me empty.

[@zarandedesagnusdeiphilippi881]

Infj often misunderstood but loved by introverts, educated open minded people, and people love to be near to us just to enjoy our peace and harmonious life

[@JaneenStokes10]

Exactly 😊

[@tamaradrobbins]

You really do describe us INFJ’s perfectly. Thanks for your work.

[@avikchatterjee1945]

No expectation. No complaint. Came alone and have to go alone. Humanity has a limit. But keeping on being humane anyway. Solitude is the best home out there.

[@1kenneth1985]

Ditto. Well stated. Thanks.

[@randomfornow]

You are the best. Nobody understands infjs and knows how to break the complications down exactly the way it really is. ❤ thank you😢

[@lrwiersum]

My Daughter was very unexpectedly at my door yesterday. I FINALLY had the presence of mind as an INFJ to NOT invite her in ! I was in absolute “Mad Scientist” mode with my apartment in chaos. It would have triggered me terribly for her to walk into my “insanity” and it would have gone badly for me, so we just chatted outside and I went back to my process. I’m not neurotypical, I can’t be interrupted like that and it shouldn’t be expected of me. So the first person that shouldn’t expect it of me is MYSELF !! I set a much needed boundary. Yay !!

[@corporaterobotslave400]

Dr Frankenstein only allowed invited guests. Any time anyone crashed his dark tower, he had Igor get rid of them.

[@Mmmmkaaay]

​@@corporaterobotslave400lmao yes!

[@nobodi817]

Really? I would do anything for my son. There is no chance I would disrespect my son by not inviting him in. Disapointing. Oh yes I am an INFJ but maybe far more stable than you.

[@2blackcatz426]

Aw yeah I dislike unannounced pop ups and their lame excuses to visit. No, not providing your free entertainment today bye

[@raft115]

Our rising will surely shake this world ✨

[@jimsadorra6098]

Being one of an INFJ is just happening in a unique ways but most of time it's always happens when some of us suffered a traumas from our family or anywhere that brought us a huge impact and that makes us to be like what we are right now

[@ElephantPatronus]

Yesss… If I just do more, then they’ll finally love me. It took me 52 years to learn that it never works.

[@moonrivercamper]

No one can love your self better but you, Find your own happiness and you will never be lonely forever. Observe, learn and grow.

[@khyemali7868]

I made up with my narcissistic older sister. We have been good for months, I thought she had changed, and I even thought I was wrong about her being a narc. While on a family trip to Hawaii after a near perfect day, just she and I. I was on a high... Then BOOM! The next day polar opposite. She picks a fight, I lose it and reveal that she evokes feelings of wanting to unalive myself, and she laughs at this. I'm crying, and she is smiling at my pain. This video explains exactly how I've been feeling since, and just thank you for understanding and sharing. I feel seen. Thank you.

[@dayinibatrisyia5424]

Learn your limits, you learn to be independent, you kearn how to make abundance and joy for yourself, Start investing in yourself

[@DMAC1301]

The biggest thing for me is stopping thinking that to be polite I must allow others to put me in or try to fit me into a box that does not fit. I understand that for me… there is no box….

[@RisingNorthCoaching]

AMEN!!!! I AGREE 1000%!!! THERE IS NO BOX!!!!!!!!

[@deannastands5141]

I choose me! and my special friend accepts me as I am, and I accept him as he is. he actually is maturing and wanting to do more things for others rather than wallowing in his pitiful past. I was pleasantly surprised about his decision to do that. perhaps he is observing that I like to help others and I like to create good situations for others. He makes me laugh when he knows I am stressed. He cares for me in many ways, and I am loving that!

[@JohnSmith-ij4xe]

Wow 😮. I never knew I went through all this because of the fact am an INFJ. I went through all 5 of those steps and didn’t even know what I was doing and why. I use to have super attachment issues to material items like cars, trucks but I see as I have gone through life and got older it doesn’t bring me the enjoyment it once did. I still enjoy cars and trucks and buy them but for different reasons. I also stopped walking on egg shells for people and especially women as if am going to have a partner she needs to see me for me and accept it. I just learned to not be so strong minded in the beginning and let it come out slowly and as gently as I can but not hide it. I know they will never understand me even if they try but at least they can accept me for me if they pick me and I pick them. This journey also helps that I was a only child so I love and enjoy being alone. I have not fully recovered from my childhood traumas but it’s getting better and I learned I have to be me and if people can’t accept me for who I am thats ok. At least they know and I know upfront that it wasn’t a match. If I feel am being abandoned by someone I just cut them out of my life even if I care and love them deeply and let them know I will not have someone like that in my life.

[@intuitivelymagician2076]

thank you algorithim

[@nataliaprodan9335]

Our ultimate lesson is that of self empowement

[@prabhakaraa.n786]

Independence with joy!! Thanks a lot, Frau Wenzes ❤

[@merlebrown7664]

Great video wenzes! For me I had been struggling with a generational curse that had kept me from becoming my infj self & also achieving financial abundance. I’m almost 38 and I recently stumbled on a cure, it was a good luck prayer and surprisingly , I've seen a steady growth in my finances and have been able to break the curse.

[@RicoMoneybags]

i know longer dim my light and it has been going great... Love your eyes

[@raft115]

Action, energy, self improvement ✨

[@CC-fi8mc]

"Take action". So true

[@joyleencamiellegreene]

Maybe it’s the life stage I am in or your teachings. I have been learning about listening to my own heart and recently took up riding motorcycles. Now I realize I always wanted to but had ignored it because I couldn’t allow myself anything dangerous since I had so many people depend on me. Well, they grew up fine, marriage ended and now I only have to support me… the freedom of self acceptance is a gift, thank you Wenzes for showing the way

[@BlackjackMain]

I don't know if this is just a me thing or an infj thing, idk. I feel eminence pain from the concept that I'm a slave to the freedom of myself and others. More awareness of healthy choices I choose to make, more awareness of reality and how it operates, the less control I precieve having of my actions since I'm blinded by choosing the best possible action I can conceive of. I don't receive external validation for any victories I accomplish, except what I give myself. I feel like a slave to doing what's best, and despite the positive that is gained from my choices, I'm left in consistent emotional anguish. Gtg, life is pressing

[@kashg4415]

I relate and have been mentally bounded by this for years. This is what's helping me: Recognizing doing "what's correct" is what our parents have told us, it's the recipe for the CONDITIONAL love they gave us. That's why I resent doing what's correct so deeply, because I rebel against it. It's a rebel against the oppression in my past, and cry for the love I didn't get. It's you wanting to exist. to be. because you were never allowed to. I suggest focusing on you, self love, and recognizing what matters to you. My life took a dip because I stopped being productive all together, but I can feel things coming together. good luck, hope this helped

[@mollygreenwood1738]

Ahhhh the ball and chains of an innate strong moral compass-- better than having no compass at all. Trust me

[@olengivens]

thank you Wenzeys. I wasn't onboard with the personality traits idea BUT.... ya I'm that guy. I actually had my turning point before I listened to your videos when I began trusting God in a real way. Now I can serve Jesus without being set back by trying to somehow fit in with the crowd. Your teaching is very sound and encouraging, thanks again.

[@juliusmuhumuza3018]

I love you Wenzi

[@travisblack5462]

Omg u speak to my soul .Wenzes I think your personality is just as beautiful as you are😍😍 😍

[@buddjuke6694]

This resonates well with me. Thank you for the insight.

[@resi_lienz]

Perfect Timing 🤩💯 I am exactly at that point in my life 🙌🙏 Thank you Wenzes ❤️‍🔥

[@AngelOClock]

I wanted to say Thank You very much for doing this. You help me a lot. Please keep going!!! 🥰 Greetings to all INFJs out there, Dana

[@ziyandandzwanana1011]

Taking space.

[@derya1493]

Thank you for the another awesome video Wenzes! Me myself started to care less about ideas of others… It is hard not to care others for me as an infj, but when I do and totally focused on myself and what I am doing, life gets better and easier… Like you said the need of appreciation of others ( and more frequently the wrong persons appreciation), comes from our childhood related experiences and traumas. Let’s learn to appreciate ourselves other than waiting for someone else appreciate us!

[@_soulcraft_]

As always, it’s a “learn to do this stuff” and I’m once again thinking “if I knew how to learn this stuff I wouldn’t be here…”

[@mkprojects881]

Exactamundo!!! Making those choices and it's interesting. Not a bad change, it's just not what I expected, in a good way :)

[@markashmore]

Thank you!

[@RicoMoneybags]

love your eyes... thank you for all your work its been going great

[@johnhyne1666]

I feel extremely flattered. Thanks.

[@Chercheure_Indépendante]

9:09 I retired myself from the world for many reasons that I won't elaborate unless I make a video about it.... 9:59 that's personally what I had to so to get to #4

[@parisadr5142]

Your channel was exactly what i needed and realy realy helped me thanks❤️

[@deeplyfeminine865]

Guh I hated being a chamelion even though I continued to do it.

[@sonyagirodon9510]

Excellent video, Wenzes!! Thank you!

[@shashankkasliwal6381]

You are simply super ❤

[@angies49]

Thanks so much, this was so good Wenzes ❤

[@infjthoughts8861]

❤❤❤

[@mickyd2904]

Do you have any children Wenzes? I recently became a mother and I really love my little girl, but I also feel enormous quilt towards her that i have put her on this terrible and ugly world. I also feel that being a mom might be a little harder for INFJ's on some area's. For example we do have less energy than other types and I also want to spare her from all the suffering which is of course impossible in this world. I wonder what your thoughts are about this.

[@danasima8659]

Start with baby steps 💟✨🙏...bath your kids with All the love into your 💜... when you're too drenched, lay down a picnic blanket over your carpet....then lay down with your kids and pets....offer yourself 20_30 minutes off,. laying down with your eyes closed...humming or listening some peaceful 🎶... everyone will feel better 💯🙏✨👼🐶😽, especially us, INFJ moms ❣️🤗✌️

[@mollygreenwood1738]

I am not a mother but can empathize with the feeling of keeping your precious angel shielded from the world’s cruelty. I would without a doubt be a very loving, intense helicopter mom- especially with a daughter. Having rational discussions about the worlds reality can prepare her and just see her being in the middle of this depraved society as “exposure therapy”

[@markbeaulieu5563]

❤ I am hard and difficult to understand What is the difference between a sigma empath and that I believe I'm a sigma infj

[@AnyaAnnika67]

Cognitively in terms of Jungian theory there is no such thing as an INFJ sigma. Cognitively, again in terms of Jungian theory, INFJs are cerebral abstract conceptualists with convergent NiTi (the term philosopher would be apt here) & divergent incremental feelers with SeFe. Cognitive INFJs are not actually good at emotional recognition they are rather logically predictive. It's important to respectfully bare in mind that Wenzes is definitely a conscious Fi user, either an ISFP or ESFP cognitively speaking as are the vast majority of her following judging by the comments section. It's important to note that psychologically re being an empath one cannot deduce emergent properties of behaviour from more incremental cognitive processes (I'm a psychology professional). Of course ISFPs & ESFPs are equally wonderful types.

[@johnjamesnorton1218]

Thanks

[@japanesereadingandwriting]

すごい！

[@essammohammed3947]

Jordan peterson said meyers briggs is a total scam reason is everybody is a winner in the personality type but its not. I changed from infj to intp but nothing changed in me.

[@SJ-ug9sp]

❤

[@HarryFother]

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[@AnyaAnnika67]

INFJs (cognitive INFJs) are divergent feelers - they don't actively look to 'come into themselves' to paraphrase, their FiSi dip, as it's in the divergent position is much more static. I feel like I'm on a perpetual treadmill saying the same things but much of what you say, whilst good generic advice for people with certain personality traits (not to be confused with Jungian cognition) this isn't really applicable to cognitive INFJs specifically and lacks any evidence base. I do feel like you are genuinely trying to help people but please don't utilise the Jungian INFJ label unless you use a disclaimer that you're acquiescing to behaviourally imbued stereotypes. How are you ascertaining that the people signing up are actually cognitive INFJs? Whilst again I do feel like you're trying to help people whilst making an income, the process doesn't seem ethical or equitable if anyone can proclaim they're an INFJ when the reality is I doubt very much cognitively speaking, that anyone is...everyone appears to be a conscious Fi user judging by your comments sections predominantly ESFPs & ISFPs. Don't get me wrong I think you can help find a haven for people who have went through similar traumas etc but please don't use the INFJ descriptor as it's damaging to the reputation of Jungian psychology when many researchers are trying to move cognitive theory out of the realm of pseudoscience. Again when you're referring to your epic life you're expressing to fellow ISFPs & ESFPs not to live vicariously through others which is great advice but again isn't applicable to the cognitive INFJ. I don't think authenticity is high on the INFJs agenda as again they are primarily cerebral abstract rationalists; again I'd direct you to Cognitive Personality Theory for cognitive type clarification & where Harry examines why so many people mistype themselves as INFJ.

[@mollygreenwood1738]

What does being cerebral and rational have to do with embracing one’s authenticity? Genuinely confused as the three traits are not connected in regards to: if your authentic then your not cerebral or rational. I actually have found that the more authentic I am the more cerebral and rational my personality is. Of course this differs from person to person. Carl Jung was an INFJ I believe. I randomly stumbled upon this wise infj making these videos and have learned sooooo much as a neurodivergent.