THE MOST SAVAGE INFJ CLAPBACK

[@Wenzes]

Are you able to react in the moment in a way that makes you feel good in the long run?

[@trevorvaz7109]

Some of the best times that I’ve reacted in the moment that made me happy was when I told my friends to stop telling me gossip or about their relationship problems. When we do this, we tell people that we want to resonate on certain things, but that we don’t want to get caught up in all of their personal details, which is good especially if we are not that close with that person or that situation yet. When I was like 5 years younger I used to want to know all the gossip, now I just try to resonate positively with people without getting totally codependent on them!

[@Wenzes]

👏👏👏

[@simovtransportmedia1137]

The good thing is I can do it, the bad thing is I need to do it more. In the case of people with whom I have previouse argument with there's no problem, but in the case of people I know I compromise my boundries way too much.

[@Wenzes]

You got this!!!

[@Wenzes]

This was towards @Simov 😊

[@qazedc3]

I used to be so quiet and shy that I basically never had any type of drama in my life. Hated conflict and confrontation, always a people pleaser. Always put others' feelings and comfort above my own. Then when I started to develop more self-confidence in myself and showing my personality more and more, that's when I started to slowly hate the way I was treated and how people would respond to me. Never thought I'd be dealing with this "drama" that feels like an adult version of high school in my mid20s. I'm learning the good and bad parts of life are experienced when I live outside my head and I'll have to embrace the learning curve it comes with. The good news is I'm finally waking up to what it truly means to live authentically and love myself above all else.

[@wanderingaudi4138]

I collect quotes, and long before I realized I was an INFJ, I collected this one, and I love it. "Don't underestimate me. I know more than I say, think more than I speak, and notice more than you realize." I usually "consider the source" before I decide whether to speak or just stare through them. If I do decide to speak, I am usually blunt, your statement is a better way to handle it.

[@jonk-1029]

That is an awesome quote

[@naturelover1284]

that is just it, the world encourages do not react, when for INFJ we need to learn too!

[@Seafox0011]

Yup dumping the passive aggressive response is so important. We carry other people's issues/burdens far too easily! Having a blast back is quite cleansing - when the time comes. Boom!

[@Wenzes]

😉

[@GhostCrowGamer]

When I bite my tongue when it comes to bullies I never forget the moment.

[@SRV2013]

I don't allow anyone to speak to me in anger and disrespect. Bye-bye. Never speak to them again.

[@starseed45]

I accepted covert abuse from a therapist for 6 months B4 I fired her and when I put the pieces together I absolutely excoriated her. I think she's still got fearful diarrhea 🙂 and yes I still feel good about it

[@maureenaiyegbo6263]

There was a guy in church who was subtly and stubbornly trying to overstep his boundaries. On my way going home, I turned back to the church and looked for him. I called him aside and pointed my finger at him and warned him sternly. He began to apologize because many people were there but at that moment, I needed to pass my message and boy o boy, my face matched my words. I felt much better and confident after that. And I gained my respect from him, he avoids me and that's what I want.

[@DonaldWilkins2023]

I responded one time after continued harassment with a firm stance, cold stare and a verbal outbreak of f@#k off. I felt good and guilty afterwards. They left me alone.

[@Wenzes]

I know that feeling 😏

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

Fuck off is perfectly appropriate in some circumstances. Accompanied with a eye roll that says this is all the time and consideration I'm gonna give you and even that is more than you deserve. I like it!

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

@@MrChowLesleyChow :Yeah, some times.

[@christypiper]

A lot of times people will keep pushing you, til you push back. Then they run away

[@tonikukkonen6806]

It's better to walk away than lose self respect: self care is self love. Take care

[@Wenzes]

😉👍

[@shanehazlewood]

I love this! I’ve been learning to stand up for myself more as I get older. I was taught growing to “turn the other cheek” and be the “nice guy.” But in a sermon someone once said that turning the other cheek used to mean something like forcing the other person to be seen in a bad light if they struck the other cheek like they did the first. So the idea about not letting people dump on us and instead giving them shocking notice of our boundary also makes them aware they are being seen in a bad light. When I was a 12-year-old kid on a soccer team during an offense-defense drill in front of a goal, the other kids played a trick on me: at someone’s signal, they all sat on the ground. So I sat on the ground not realizing what was going on. But then I got up and shot at the available goal, but missed. So I decided that next time they tried that, I was going to make the goal and show them I wasn’t intimidated by them. I think they were a little shocked. And the next time they tried it, I made the goal! It felt so good to finally feel good to face them and stand up for myself. They didn’t do that again. I often have to remember that good feeling whenever I have to face other type situations where people don’t respect me. I have to show and tell them that they need to respect me, at least so I can feel that “bliss.” Thanks for this video, Wenzes!

[@baronesselsavonfreytag-lor1134]

I have struggled with that verse and also, "give to them that ask of you" until I am emotionally and financially exhausted. Jesus was not afraid to fight for justice and upset the status quo, but how did he recharge from giving himself away? (People say he's Divine but if you dig far enough back to the origins of Christianity, he's just a guy who is self-actualized and worth following. Guru Nanak said that everyone needs a teacher to help them find the path to righteousness and Jesus said pretty much the same thing about being the Way.) I don't believe in "tough love" but mushy love isn't helpful either. Stand firm in your resolve to love yourself so you really can love others in a healthy way.

[@shanehazlewood]

I agree that Jesus is worthy of following, and it’s because He is divine: He came from heaven and proof of His divinity was plentiful through His teachings and healings, and the plethora of copies of the writings that document them He was then killed for claiming and acting like divinity, and rose again because He was divine, God’s Son become human to love us divinely and to show us how to love one another divinely.

[@KB-xp5cy]

I think about this a lot too. I believe that Christ was both human and divine. In the Scriptures we see Him turning tables, weeping, taking a nap, withdrawing into solitude, and in anguish and agony. I think those are the times we see Him in His humanity. I think we do see Him recharging when we see Him withdraw from crowds to be alone with the Father. I think some of the Scriptures like “give to them that ask of you…” have to be taken within the context they were written and in the way their audience would have heard them, and also in light of the full canon of Scripture, bearing in mind the author/speaker’s intent. There are also Scriptures that talk about giving out of what we have, not what we don’t have, and not under compulsion. So I think we do see an honoring of human boundaries and limitations in the Scriptures as well.

[@KB-xp5cy]

Several months ago, I stood up to a manger at work who was being psychologically and verbally abusive. When I confronted her, she immediately took the issue to HR and even after further discussion believed that my behavior warranted me being put under disciplinary action, allegedly out of concern for “the future of my career”. When my manage (who also happened to be the HR Director) went through the disciplinary action notice, and said she would send it to me to be signed, it was like I was seeing the situation from a third person perspective and realized how wrong it was. I broke down in tears. It was like my wounded, inner child was coming out . I told my manager how every time this manager in question behaved this way, she turned it back on me. How her behavior hadn’t been addressed by leadership previously and so I felt the need to set boundaries with her. My manager heard me out and promised that if a similar situation happened again, she would handle it. I still haven’t had to sign that disciplinary action notice, and the manager has improved in the way she communicates with me.

[@Kayprofessor]

So accurate!!! I’m finally in that space. Nobody is disturbing my peace now

[@DearYoungerSelf111]

While taking in your lessons from the video - I added an email to a response to a co-worker that is critical and difficult to work with. My heart is still beating fast but I knew I had to stand up for myself. And I feel powerful! Love you Wenzes ❤

[@Wenzes]

👏👏👏 you got this ❤️

[@Angelica-bw7iq]

This is so interesting. Every person I have talked to in this way after they have disrespected me has felt the need to become friends after. They seem to automatically respect you afterwards.

[@l0I0I0I0]

I think this is the most valuable thing I have heard in regards to INFJ! Learning how to constructively defend ourselves from haters will defuse most situations long term. It's what I need most of all. TY!

[@anagarza6631]

I love it when I make the offender, defend themselves while graciously smiling and going on with my day!

[@fazzaustralia8932]

I really like this one and it's absolutely true. I've had to learn how to do this and have got very good at it. NEVER let other people put their shit on you no matter who it is. Chances are you way more intelligent than them and you need to do this with the utmost confidence. It just takes practice so be ready next time. Here's how you it. Whilst they're insulting you, gather your thoughts as they're speaking, that way you will be way more measured in your response and you'll be less likely to trip over your words. Wait for them to finish and then give them both barrels if that's what it takes. If you don't do it, you will never get the the respect you deserve, and you will never get the dynamics back in your favour. And the other person will forever look down on you. Remember, it's always better to nip it in the bud before it flourishes, because the alternative is misery. You got this!

[@lucyannmcwilliams3889]

Thank You so much!! I have learned enough about NARCISSIST. . Walked out on 45 yr marriage. I am 62 now. The narc trauma did alot of trauma. . NOW healing. This is so very powerful what you share❤ I AM SO THANKFUL I FOUND YOU WENZES!! A NEW LIFE AND NO MORE DUMPING ON ME. YES. . I FEEL LIKE JUMPING OUT OF MY SKIN WHEN DUMPED ON. I HAVE TO LEAVE WHEN I FEEL RAGE FROM ANY DIRECTION. YOU R SPOT ON. I LOOK FORWARD TO STUDY AND DO THE WORK WITH YOU. . BOOTCAMP ECT. ❤🎉❤

[@fazzaustralia8932]

@@lucyannmcwilliams3889 Glad it helped. I wish you all the very best!

[@DSchae2165]

I;m 55. Most of my life I've carried the negative crap "criticism" others have given me. I wish I knew this or thought this way when I was younger. But from now on ..... thanks for this advise

[@hopehadley8844]

Every time I watch one of your videos, I actually get a huge burst of energy, during and after! I'm 69 years old and this is the first time I've heard anyone talk so clearly and intelligently about the power of being an INFJ. Until now, most of what I've learned about not taking negativity from others has come from a lifetime of difficult experiences. Your videos are so much fun and so exciting for me! Thanks for the positive energy!

[@ryanquick1824]

coming from an INTJ here, ill say that MANY times the strongest response to any undue criticism and/or remarks IS to RISE ABOVE with your ACTIONS to SHOW them they were wrong. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. they WILL LEARN. ABSOLUTELY. FOR SURE.

[@traviscampbell7823]

You've been tremendously helpful to me lately, and this video couldn't have come at a more perfect time. Thank you

[@leoralphvillamayor]

So strong i can feel the intensity

[@Wenzes]

😏

[@TreasureSeasons]

I love how you approached him, I remember your corporate day captures. Good for you, don't budge.

[@baronesselsavonfreytag-lor1134]

At my first job there was an assistant supervisor who liked to hit people and despite a slew of complaints she was never reprimanded. I decided rightly or wrongly to react accordingly if it happened to me. She boxed my ears while I was running a credit card on a busy day and I didn't hesitate to whale her in the arm as hard as possible and tell her to never lay a hand on me again. She was really nice after that and invited me to her party. Now she's a cop and says hello if I see her around town decades later.

[@philipsalomon6987]

We have this Old Rocker guy as a friend of our family, he is a senior already but he used to be a hells angels type of guy. He always told his wild stories full of violence and he was widely known for that and everyone approached with caution. For example when he took a job in his youth, his co worker would tease him, he said stop or i punch you in the face, he didnt stop so he punched him in the face. Of course got fired, but no matter what he always found jobs and everything. Obviously this is extreme and you get a lot of legal problems and i dont want to live my life like that, but i thought listen to his stories and adapt just a little bit of his world view. And it works, of course i never get violent, but understanding the mind of such person and consider it in some situations really balances things out and though iam very kind hearted, iam also not the most harmless looking guy.

[@davidhicks9215]

Yes, my desire to understand and be understood sometimes leaves me "taking it" when someone is crossing social/personal boundaries.

[@zenraven7x301]

This is a fantastic start to Wednesday. Dude. Each of your videos directly addresses alot of my problems I've been struggling with. 🤐🤷

[@Wenzes]

😎

[@japanesereadingandwriting]

Happy Wenzesday dude.

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

I recently used the classic 'Up Yours!' to someone who was giving me crap. I argued since the person was merely making a personal disparaging remark without actually making a point, I couldn't rebut the point they didn't make so 'Up Yours!' was simple, direct, and well-deserved and didn't force me to invest more time than the person or comment deserved. A bystander commented that it was totally apropos. For most of my life I wouldn't do this! I never threw things back in people's faces and I've been walked all over, under-estimated and generally treated like other people's garbage dump. No more, not doing it. I never wanted to hurt anyone feelings. But 'Up yours' really isn't personal, it's a strong suggestion that you take whatever shit you're spreading in my direction and put it back where it came from and frankly belongs, like a suppository, where the sun don't shine.

[@Wenzes]

Exactly 👌

[@Noname-n1n4d]

😅😅

[@exdamariis]

“We don’t need to understand everybody’s opinion. Because if we chose to do that, you know what the prize for that is? That you don’t know your own opinion. That you don’t hold on to that.”👏🏽👏🏽 It’s just like being pushed around by the waves of the sea. You lose sense of your personhood, and even feel guilty for having the audacity to hold your own opinions. When often, it’s our own opinions that can better ground us. Then we can let the waves continue to crash around us, but they’re no longer crashing into us.

[@stakkadakka3427]

I always feel good when I can express myself properly. People have called me 'Mr oneliner' which makes me chuckle

[@scgopgirl]

When I speak up - my words are taken wrong . If been called stuck-up , or judgement, ….. and this is never my intent .

[@2QAYL1138]

This made me think of Michael Scott in The Office episode "Did I Stutter?" It's about a boss standing up to an employee, but the principle is the same. He goes through the five stages of grief until he finally finds the right way to address Stanley's verbal abuse, and he ended up saying virtually everything you suggested.

[@Candyliz2003]

A week of sleeplessness, losing a hoped for home following an inspection and all the costs involved and having to face the family bully... A door-slam that turned into an INFJ break! And I stood in my truth and embraced my anger -- it was righteous and BEAUTIFUL! I used to walk away from the bully because I believed it was degrading to get into a shouting match with this person. I wish I'd done it sooner!

[@tamarawilson3455]

I love you! I always felt misunderstood out of place. You have helped me to love and own me as I am.

[@autodoson1]

I love it "I'm going to protect my soul" Thank You Very Much! ❤

[@lisarice39]

Exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you!

[@lucid2184]

More wisdom from Wenzes💗 I can come up with responses for protecting my children and animals that are being mistreated, so I'm going to think like that about myself

[@ArbitratorsSanctuary]

You..are right. Stay in your bliss. That is a nice shirt.

[@Wenzes]

😊🙂😊

[@mr.goodwrench8273]

Am I able to react in the moment in a way that makes me feel good in the long run ? I am a little better at it now versus how it has gone for me before. I like to do my homework on stuff in order to have ability to "clap back". I have had to do this several times since I have worked at my current employer. Our director has either laid out unrealistic demands, or he has jumped to conclusions and attempted to verbally discipline me without knowing the facts. On these occasions, I have stood my ground and proved that I am right without being out of line. Afterwards, I do feel better, and as time passes by, I receive kudos and compliments on my performance. Having knowledge and courage are what makes this work. I have been falsely accused of taking stuff personal. I say to them, "When my name is attached to it, yes it is personal, and you should feel that way too".

[@Wenzes]

👏👏👏 love that statement

[@nicky9148]

Love this statement!

[@Snipes643]

Reminds me how in lord of the rings when Gandalf got all intense out of nowhere with Bilbo when he wouldn’t willingly part with the ring

[@Wenzes]

Haha 😉

[@tmc1373]

YOU ARE THE TRUTH, WENZES!!~! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR CHANNEL SO MUCH!!!

[@wildforest6851]

Hey, I really need it to hear this. I've always been defending and protecting people from others, but fail to do it for myself. This reminded me of a phase during childhood where I displayed this character myself, but since it was daily abuse, in the end, I learned to stop doing it, since protecting yourself meant (at that time) letting them beat you up 😬 I might be a little bit rusty in that way, but i'll practice it to let it shine again ;) Thanks for the reminder

[@Sigma_focus]

Just wanted to say thank you for these videos. I only just starting seeing my real self lately and this clarifies everything so much... I don’t feel like a weirdo as much hehehe... Thank you!

[@realpixywixy]

i’m glad i clicked on this video! i definitely do all these things, especially take in criticism that does not come from a constructive/helpful place because i want to understand the “full range” of perspectives. i didn’t realize this could be harmful but now i see why!

[@KB-xp5cy]

Same!

[@PeaceofM-I-N-D]

I’m so thankful to come across your videos

[@sophiegilbert6381]

Thank you for this video! I find myself in similar situations and it is hard for me to know what to do in the moment. I like your advice that you only listen to those who say things kindly or in your best interest. I struggle with responding to situations in the moment. I will be more mindful in the future. Your video is very helpful.

[@Wenzes]

😉👍 glad it was helpful Sophie!

[@sacredloveandlight]

You have a great deal of helpful insight and information, on this topic. I recently started to view your channel, as it has captured my interest. Your knowledge is useful and beneficial for those who apply the knowledge learned, at some point in their daily lives. I will continue to ponder my own personal life and inner self, to learn what information may relate to Who I truly am, in regards to the different personality types. I love being a student, realizing, that the unique student I am, is a wonderful life-long, lifestyle, which has been grossly, underestimated, by me, in the past. I find this interesting, because this topic relates to the field of psychology, and, other fields of learning, of which, I have been passionate in my studies about. Thank you, Ms. Wendes, for sharing your time and Powerful, supportive experience and knowledge with me. All my love dear one. Namaste 🙏🙏

[@reinettesteynberg8432]

Thank you ... yes ... this is so very important... I learned to become more verbal in that regard ... sometimes I shock myself ... but realize that extreme measure must be taken sometimes although I don't like it I need to take that step..

[@broadbandtogod]

Love your hair!

[@Wenzes]

Thanks 😊

[@Wenzes]

@@brendamaillet8052 thanks so much, I like it too ;)

[@Tomken8d2]

The bow bends but the arrow breaks.

[@leoralphvillamayor]

Omg i love this! Just what I need!

[@Wenzes]

Yeaay 👍😊

[@PM-tk3se]

This video was very helpful and empowering. Thank you.

[@JT-cf5ol]

I interact with so many people with sociopathic/narcissistic tendencies that I do my best to avoid them. At some point I'll have to grow up and confront them, firmly but gently 🙂

[@fernandocastro3531]

Wow! This really hit home....I remember a time when I felt with a jerk who was overly opinionated and he would put me down but if I ever said anything he would just justifying by saying that he was just saying....

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

I'm gonna try sarcasm from now on. I never used it before because it struck me as thinly veiled hostility, probably because it is. But given the INFJ door slam that will inevitably come if I just roll over and take it, sarcasm might just be the warning shot across the bow necessary in a relationship one would like to keep. I'm gonna give it a shot--nothing wrong with a slicing comment of thinly veiled hostility when what you really want to do is punch someone in the face.

[@Noname-n1n4d]

😅 So true!

[@thomasmartin4907]

I have devoted the last 5 months to this “ clap back” strategy. My intuition ( as well as clear indicators) tells me that I have catastrophically affected many peoples “ false reality- a curious silence has set in. I have been obsessed with this intellectual pursuit and am just recently abating. The only thing that I believe would result in my completely resigning myself to moving on with my life would be to meet you Wenzes😊😉

[@verntoews6937]

Had a boss once say, you think up your excuses ahead of time

[@MysteryProductsLtd]

I was waiting for the technique you figured out for quick comebacks but it didn't seem to happen.

[@ryanunderwood5465]

We only respond with our heart that is why we are so confused by verbal communication that is not in love!

[@ryanunderwood5465]

Remain silent is who we are because we take the highest road possible in every situation

[@gallevran]

Definitely one of ur best & insightful. Thank you.

[@caliokiegrownoklahoma4119]

I straight up go off on people who try to talk down or try to belittle me. Its not a behavior I can tolerate. I absolutely loathe people who think they are better than others or myself. My bark in these situations is very brutal and honest! As a result i either get immediate respect or they avoid any future interaction.

[@Nikki.Win1]

Omgosh, I am so glad I came across this!! I felt so alone and the couple of videos I've watched have already helped me!!! And Yay, signing up for the workshop now!!!🤩🤩🤩

[@Pets-n-Treats]

You are lucky that person wasn't a narcissist. You would have been sorry about saying that, they would have made sure of it.

[@feliznavidad6958]

Not necessarily. Narcissists actually have more respect for people who stand up for themselves

[@ketphairinsumalu6347]

I just love you videos, because you really hit the point 💯😍

[@delengosage7808]

Good tips

[@Mamasprincess-i9s]

Could you make a video about lesson from Harry Potter or Percy Jackson movie when you have time for that? Figuring out INFJ type of characters of course

[@godspeed6991]

What if those attacking are unhealthy infj's? My mom and sister are notorious for doing this to me. I had to go no contact and that meant my husband, my children and I not seeing them. They claim I'm abusive... No I'm protecting those I'm obligated to. What is up with toxic infj's being so verbally abusive??

[@cutecake6047]

Thank you for making such useful vides where we feel understood but can you make them a bit short and point to point because I really want watch them but they are very long and time consuming

[@japanesereadingandwriting]

Happy Cinco de Mayo!

[@srthomas65]

Your intelligence is beautiful!

[@kevinjackson9100]

This! This is the one 🙌🏾 powerful thank you

[@travisbartholomay]

You get more awesome every video Thank you

[@ryanunderwood5465]

Much love Wenzes!

[@Docaaoo]

I learn so much from u❤❤

[@Kariktan214]

Thank you. This helps a lot.

[@PenelopePitstop0078]

Being viewed as a toothless, venom milked cobra; then, with silver tongued accuracy, we deliver an acerbic & astute bite. Right to the ego. I get a tiny endorphin kick, when forced to interact with fragile egos, by saying: “Your ego is not your amigo.” Then, I might toss a sentence about the philosophy of Stoicism and the danger of a fragile ego. I’m never, ever mean or disrespectful to anyone…unless they really need an attitude adjustment. I don’t deliver the adjustment, I’m simply the conduit for the universe’s purpose.

[@TheDarkness1]

People will treat you how you allow them to... Spitting Bullets An animal, locked in a cage Spitting bullets, fueling rage Fangs of a wolf Wisdom of a sage An enemy you don't want to fight Spank you, remind you of your age Platinum tongue, breathing fire Charm even your mother would admire Come back stronger, always a fighter You wanna smite me, go-ahead almighty smiter Words that cut your ego like a knife You wanna stay or run for your life? No character assassination, just tell it to you straight Lock your mind in a coffin, final nail in your fate Bite is worse than the bark All challengers accepted Tuck your tail between your legs You will be torn apart Seriously had enough of this shit Step over the line, be ready to commit Push all your buttons Your twisted logic doesn't compute Final blow completely exposes you You'll turn into a mute No comebacks, unless it's calling me names Look in the mirror, just a window to shame You think you are a wizard, but I'll pull back the curtain Find that scared little child Cowering and uncertain Walls gonna rattle, slam the door When I'm done, you'll be left crying on the floor Get up baby, go grab a tissue You want to get offended? Go-ahead, it's not my issue Exploit your insecurities, seal your own demise The worst of human excrement, a delicacy for flies

[@11coyote29]

Whenever I had a new General manager take over our store, she was talking harshly over a Walkie-talkie and I told her no hesitation that she would talk to me with respect and then she pulled me in the office 🤣 I matched the energy but we ended up being close after that !

[@sharri5412]

I had some nurse tried to insult me by telling me I am not invited to a girls night-out because they were jealous I knew everyone at work before them. As soon as she finished I muttered under my breath that 'I dont hang with riff raffs' I then giggled and laugh. She was hurt and tried to throw water on me. I was laughing because I don't hang with chicks so its not an insult to not invite me. I said is like a joke but she was shocked because she thinks she was a savage. But there are people who feed off toxic interactions so they create it, I usually walk away or be silent with people like that.

[@jacksaintjack2844]

I will put my clapback skill up against anyone's. I have the ability to maintain composure while using my razor sharp wit + vocabulary + sarcastic nature + brutal intent to totally destroy someone. They don't realize they brought a pocket knife to a sword fight when they dare step into the ring with me. I can be so incredibly brutal and cruel it surprises me. But what really intrigues me is how much of a rush I get while inflicting such damage.

[@Smithereens007]

Queen.

[@kingfisher9553]

I can "be the bigger person," or I can door slam (my favorite response, just remove my wonderful self from their orbit), I can tell them to just fook the hell off, I can arch one eyebrow at them, I can freeze them with a look at 20 paces, I can take a boss into the conference room and let him/her know that "this kind of behavior will not be tolerated." I have a options. I've gotten two bosses fired, it's not just a pose on my part. I prefer "water off a duck's back," but I'm not very good at that; I'm not very duck-like. What I'm working on, now, is cutting off negative energy and then asking how we can make this work for both of us. Puts them on the spot to fix the situation but allows for a 180 in attitude on their part.

[@ryanunderwood5465]

You are the TRUTH ❤️

[@ryanunderwood5465]

Coach❤️

[@ljsmooth69]

Yeah when I decided I was in the 6th grade first time I ever fought back but I was like 10 years old it's like 14 or 16 year old kid two of them were like messing with me or whatever and I you know I stood my ground thinking all the you know the trying to pick on me but I better be able to you know I ran there was but I was a big fat kid that he said stars on the windows are on the houses to let you know it's a safe house in case something happens you can go and knocking get help but they must not have been home or most people didn't even answer the doors truthfully and they were home but I think they were home and they caught up to me and one of them punched me in my left eye and where you close your eye where you put your makeup stuff on it split right open right there and now my eye on the left side kind of corners squinty down more than the right side nuts when she saw me it hurt I was crying like a little bitch about 10 years old I got extremely fat after that and I kind of didn't care if they hit me anymore cuz they couldn't hurt me I worked out and everything but it I was huge I got 473 lbs that problems with my knees because the bones in your legs that are underneath your knees write a note right under the knee I was so heavy that they've been outward now that stick out I can't sit on my knees nothing sharp pains like putting your butt straight bone under the floor but yeah but it's not your knees it's your actual bottom part of your leg in the front heart murmur because it caused a hole in my heart luckily it wasn't by close enough to one of the valves so it just cause a heart remember so yeah things of that nature it I was 13 when I found out those bones are bent or whatever I was always wondering what the hell is going on like it feels like I got another knee in there but it's I hope that bonus all the way down in the front of your shin bone on both legs so I was really heavy somewhere around 3031 I decided to make up my own diet I tried other diet so didn't work doctors tried none of that shit works you have to find what works for you each individuals it's own body some things may work similar and some people to many but some things just aren't going to work no matter how many people it works on otherwise they're just different and what they need for vitamins to what their body is using for ways and you have to trick your body into thinking it's going to get that junk again one day out of the week one meal or a piece of cake for that meal just not all three meals just one like movie new something like that metabolism so that way it will think cuz it thinks it's going to get more it wants more cuz that's what it was yearning for cuz you trained your body to want all that sugar and shit yes stop drinking pop milk or orange juice all that shit it's all fattening as fuck you know I stopped drinking pop alone you know soda pop just for the southern people and I lost 7 lbs stuff that alone don't lose weight too fast I was lucky you ever seen those people with those long big dark stretch marks vertically up and down on the belly and stuff that's from losing the weight too fast I didn't know that at the time I got damn lucky because within a month I lost four pants sizes I've been I couldn't get any lower I've lost I weighed almost 60 to 90 maybe 100 lb difference the one I am now and I'm at 2:30 so I would like 1991 something like that but my mom and everybody and my friends are telling me that I was looking sickly so I thought huh I don't want to look sickly they really thinking I'm sick this one all I heard all the time so I gained some more weight and then they quit doing it so I don't feel any skinnier than what I did but I was that fat I don't I still feel it like on the same thickness in the same way even though I'm not it's crazy huh you don't have to work out or anything I didn't work out nothing I just changed what I ate and when I drink and all I ate were fruits okay it will clean yourself out so after like the first week the first week and a half if you're going to have a case of the water he runs for a little bit but it goes away really fast and then it doesn't happen again and you know at that point you actually start eating less too and you don't feel hungry anymore within the first week we can have yeah it wasn't so bad to begin with but you got to limit yourself to what you're taking you are getting your sugars and everything naturally instead of added in on naturally but make sure you have a protein like peanuts something with your meals or if you know if you're not a meat eater or something you have to have protein you got to have those triglycerides you got to have the amino acids but you don't have to have too many of them it if you load yourself up with extra percentage of whatever vitamins you need your body doesn't use them anyways you piss and shit them out and if you're taking vitamins don't take those hard ones make sure they're breakable and powdery or a chewable because those really compact ones your body don't absorb and your stomach don't eat up and it don't so your body don't absorb it I'm not even on a diet now and I I stay at 2:30 and I eat a lot of candy I love candy candy is My kryptonite especially if it's gummy or milk chocolate creamy milk chocolate have you ever had creamy soft fudge oh my God I'm going to have to go get me something to eat now

[@nobodyknows3260]

I'm really bad at this.

[@Wenzes]

It takes practice, that‘s all!!! You got this!!!

[@nobodyknows3260]

@@Wenzes Thank you!

[@Wenzes]

@@nobodyknows3260 you're welcome!!! :)

[@ryanunderwood5465]

Can you fly higher than me..?

[@ryanunderwood5465]

Let’s go

[@ryanunderwood5465]

Exactly 🤫

[@johnnyavilaJourneyman]

Very Helpful Video...Bite back!!! :) Thank You :)

[@Mamasprincess-i9s]

Yes I feel like I'm more assertive to people around me as an INFJ-A type I used to be an INFJ-T I was the observer not an activist some sort of pioneer actually I feel braver to tell the harsh truth compared to me when was younger

[@ricardobarron4574]

:) nice job.

[@Wenzes]

😉👍

[@Tomken8d2]

Thumb up number 208

[@ljsmooth69]

What's going to help you more and help your psyche more is not only to be truthful and honest to yourself and know yourself but be truthful and honest to everybody else if you have to sometimes you have to treat people the way they treat you and a lot of cases truthfully and it sucks but that's them making us do so so they understand her you know we have to go bye-bye if we especially if we care about them I mean if we just met him and they're kind of friend acquaintances or whatever the case may be we simply walk away don't put yourself in those situations and keep yourself in one's that are unwinnable because you will lose it's irrational to do so it's not logical it's very dangerous

[@Lolo-lt2lf]

I love your shirt your look

[@SS-in1ts]

😂😂 me at every job. DO NOT BE A DENTAL ASSISTANT IF YOURE AN INFJ! ;) I wish authenticity was acceptable in life. I can easily forgive someone who’s authentic and makes a mistake or lashes out and apologizes than I can someone who’s fake nice and passive aggressive. If someone is authentic generally they’re less threatened by other authentic people and I can respect that. Now I’m a driver so there’s little to no drama. A few older women tried to bring passive gossip drama about me, I’m quiet and keep to myself expect a few friends, so these older women were shocked when I walked up and put them in their place and reminding them what hypocrites they are. Any other place I could’ve gotten fired. I’m really happy that I work where I do now because I have job security while being authentic. I’ve told bosses off who treat me like trash. I wish I could hold my tongue and feel good about it, but I can’t.

[@chiefslief1886]

Our Director of a Company, which I will not call by its name, always wanted to walk over his working People which are afraid of losing their Jobs.. He also tried this humiliation towards me during a "sport health day" for everyone in this Company...calling me names, humiliate my voloptous body etcetera...other people managers laughed along their career...a week later this Company invited Guests from other Countries and I had to do that Company presentation tour with them. When they all gathered to follow me, the Director was standing beside me... making fhony faces...hé asked me if i'm ready to lead the way, I said "yes i'm ready but I also wanted to make this clear: Don't Ever humiliate Me or anybody else because you think they/we are fat or Less than you...I TRIED My Best to let You get away with this Attitude, but you're still hurting other people by calling them names and being mean to them" .. His face turned into one of these "fatties or less people" a week back then. Three months later I got another job with people who Do care for others. But I still feel the pain and fear of the ones who stayed there.... give Love ❤

[@ryanunderwood5465]

I love being created all heart ❤️

[@ryanunderwood5465]

✨❤️INFJ❤️✨

[@ryanunderwood5465]

You say Savage.. 🤔🐅

[@ryanunderwood5465]

Peace ❤️

[@ljsmooth69]

Are you talking about the infj alpha or the infj sigma. RG just mix the both end and just call it infj I even know you're actually adding the term type side of it by alpha sigma beta I don't know you might even use Delta LOL

[@Mamasprincess-i9s]

Wenzes I have a question do you have a couple of minutes?