Were we popular growing up?

[@JordanTaylorVideos]

Man, I found this discussion so valuable to me, and I really think it exemplifies the affect exclusion can have on someone longterm. Include those around you as much as you can. Go out of your way to be nice to someone this week. I know we're all in quarantine right now, but try to include your siblings more in your life if you have any. Be there for people.

[@japhethmunoz7877]

I'm from a missionary family in Mexico and we're nine kids. We're all homeschooled and I can totally relate to what you're talking about. Thanks for reminding me to be more inclusive with my family and my church friends. Especially now during COVID-19.

[@drewjuliano8664]

As someone who is currently in Youth Group and sees people chilling off to the side by themselves pretty often, this really opened my eyes.

[@some1games372]

Jordan I need to no how you get your hair like that

[@xAD21x]

[@kendraduchane9281]

I grew up with the same kind of experiences as Sarah growing up, especially in my home school group. I wondered what was wrong with me. It's been 6 years since graduation, but sometimes those memories still pop up, hit me in the gut and make me cry out of nowhere. It still hurts, but now I know that Christ felt those things alongside me. He is healing those places too. I now can see that through these experiences, He was setting me apart in order to live a different kind of life unto Him.

[@nathanhunt6208]

That was the most beautiful depiction of marriage that I've ever seen

[@catherineensminger5768]

👌👌👌

[@Elizabeth-il5ps]

Same

[@VeggiesbyEos]

❤️❤️❤️

[@traceycass9206]

it really touched me, too!

[@awesomepantsfilms]

Bruh that’s not a depiction, I think they’re actually married.

[@xanagreen5638]

To anyone feeling down right now, in the words of Jordan, "I'm glad that you're who you are."

[@JustCameronT]

Sounds like Mr. Rogers too. But yes

[@xanagreen5638]

Is it a Rogers quote? Either way, it's encouraging.

[@JustCameronT]

@@xanagreen5638 Just sounds like something he would say :)

[@xanagreen5638]

@Cameron Tyndall Best celebrity ever.

[@DaveysCards]

@@xanagreen5638 "you're the best person you can be, with you just being you"

[@Diandra2011]

When she started crying, I started crying. I know exactly how that feels. Going week to week thinking, this time it will be better! Only to have it get worse overtime. 🥺

[@withsisu2324]

Yup, that's when every single memory came flooding back for me. I started crying as well.

[@jennysorensen87]

Agreed. This is something a lot of people go through, but not everyone talks about. 💕 But the pain from rejection is real. So glad y'all made this video! 😭

[@jakelineychavez]

Same!

[@kristinasanger]

Cassandra Quist I literally think that every time I have to go out and socialize, especially with people who I see on a regular basis at work. It’s weird to still struggle with that as an adult, and I find it so frustrating because it makes me feel like I haven’t grown up, that I’m still stuck in adolescents and I hate that it’s a struggle to get over that feeling. I do feel like I’ve gotten better but I still struggle more than I would like to.

[@Diandra2011]

Kristina Ramirez I fell the same way and I’m 26. It seems like I’ll never feel like an adult. I’m sure it’ll get better as I continue to work on myself. ☺️ This can definitely improve for you as well! 😄

[@SmileyFaces114]

Dude, I relate so hard to Sarah. But something I realized is that when you’ve lived a life standing in the corner unnoticed at events, as you get older you begin to see and notice others experiencing that. And then you get to be the person who reaches out and makes them feel welcome. It builds empathy and God can use you to see those who go unnoticed.

[@allforYAHUAH]

Yes! That’s exactly what happened to me. I’d get so sad and anxious whenever people wouldn’t include me in things. I’d never want to go anywhere if there wasn’t at least one person there who I knew. And to be honest, I’m still that way in most situations, but God has also given me opportunities to include people who otherwise would’ve been pushed to the side like I was. God can take anything and turn it into a blessing. 🤍

[@sarahheisele3335]

I'm glad Sara decided to let the ending stay in. I can totally relate to Sara in this way. This is why good moms teach their kids to include everyone!

[@wheregraceabounds7831]

Where are more men like Jordan? This was the sweetest display of Godly marriage. So real. ❤️

[@GratsielaLily]

I always thing of how I would love a husband like him :))

[@samuel-west]

I accidentally disliked your comment and panic immediately. You are so right, Jordan is such a model human being, someone more people should look up to.

[@killcharge4338]

Well there are a few guys like Jordan but some of them are well hermits or want nothing to do with dating or marriage

[@captainboon2978]

From my experience, they're all pretty much either devout Christians or are/were homeschooled. They're out there; you just have to know where to look.

[@MenacingBanjo]

Where are the men who aren't like Jordan? Almost all the guys I know would have been just as compassionate and understanding as Jordan in that situation. Then again, I was homeschooled. So that might have something to do with it.

[@hazeldecker622]

It just goes to show that there's no rhyme or reason to why people get excluded. Sarah seems like such an absolute sweetheart, if anyone really got to know her, they'd find out she's awesome.

[@GratsielaLily]

exactly what I was thinking -based on other people´s stories that I read on forums as well. It seems that a lot of times who´s popular and who´s not is a lottery. Not all the popular kids at my school were beautiful or rich or talented, not all the outcasts were the opposite. It´s really weird actually...

[@captainboon2978]

I get the feeling that pride is the main reason people are exclusive.

[@hazeldecker622]

@@captainboon2978 Agreed

[@stillwatersfarm8499]

I think it is more introversion versus extroversion. People don’t tend to work to get to know introverts. Introverts like to wait to be drawn into the conversation. Some people interpret that is disinterest. (But let’s face it, sometimes it is. 😬)

[@kaileybaca1689]

Still Waters Farm I totally agree with that. However I also have to say that I’m a true extrovert and always was excluded from things and still am to this day whether it’s intentional or unintentional 🤷‍♀️ i honestly don’t have an answer for why that is 😂😅 but here we are

[@sophiathe1st358]

Jordan: we came from two completely separate groups Me: oh obviously Sara was the popular one and Jordan wasn't Me: *watches video* Me: *surprised pikachu face*

[@lydialinn7938]

SAME!! I was so surprised.

[@DCristenOrlando]

My reaction exactly

[@cherylharvey5217]

Sophia the 1st - same

[@robyn_marie]

Same!

[@biancaberry777]

Sophia the 1st haha 😂 I thought the same because of how nice and pretty she is

[@We3Boys]

PSA to everyone: be nice to people. Make an effort to show kindness and love to your peers, you will never ever regret it

[@killcharge4338]

What about that guy who saved Hitler in ww1

[@rebaeileen4371]

@@killcharge4338 Hitler chose to be Hitler. It wasn't the fault of anyone who showed him kindness.

[@JackOLanternBob]

And make sure to be nice to everyone. Not just the people you like or the people you think are cool or fun. Be nice to the people who need it

[@EyeGlassTrainofMind]

It's more than being "nice". Genuinely reach out to people and invest in them, not because you feel like you have to, but because you understand and appreciate that they have a story to tell and that they're in your space for reasons beyond you. If you learn from everyone you meet, you learn a heck of a lot more than if you only pay attention to the 25% on your radar.

[@benjamin6547]

I relate so much to Sara. I’ve always been distant. Just like she was saying, I could’ve been more outgoing, but I never was. On the surface, I would oppose any sort of relationship, even though that’s exactly what I was craving deep down. I feel like I’ve since put up walls, and it’s made it hard for me to form relationships with other people because when they get too close, I simply don’t know how to handle it. Like Sara, I’ve also never been “cool.” (I mean, I’m knitting a blanket as I’m watching this video...) In a way, I found it easier to relate to adults than my own peers when I was younger. By God’s Grace, He’s bringing me to a better place in this regard, but it can still be a struggle. I’m thankful that life is a marathon, and not a race, because I know I’m growing little by little every day. I normally wouldn’t write all of this out in such a public place (especially since it’s been such a personal struggle), but I feel really blessed by this video. Thank you both so much for making this.

[@JustCameronT]

Aw, I love this comment. I know it is cliche to say but it is true; God made you and loves you the way you are for a reason! And there is nothing cooler than that, Benjamin! =D You're awesome!

[@a12i9]

that is so me! I'm still the distant person, even with my closest friends and I always related so much more to older people than the ones of my own age. I try to challenge myself by talking to people, calling someone or invite someone, but I'm still struggling a lot with being social. I think I just learned to be on my own the longest part of my life. Anyway, be blessed and I wish you someone you can knit a blanket with ;) (which I actually find a cool activity, to be honest, I knit as well..)

[@sethkreinbrook2092]

Always seemed easier to make friends with the parents than the kids in the family😆. For me that is the case still. I just have no clue what people like and even if I did I don’t know how to make a discussion out of that lol

[@alyssamorgan1109]

I usually was more comfortable talking with adults too! I'm glad that childhood and how it was doesn't define who we can become. God is always changing us and making us better!

[@HeyItsSarah30]

Benjamin J ooof! This is me. All my friends are either older or younger than me. I only have one friend who is my age. I just don’t fit in with my peers

[@YoursTrulyChris]

My goodness, I've got tears in my eyes. Jordan, you are such a loving husband. Next time I see Sara, I promise to give her a big hug.

[@zacktheexception1198]

I want to give her a hug too now 😭😭

[@DavisLMoore]

I'm crying now... 😭

[@HPTFan]

I tear up too. Feeling alone it is one of the worst things to go through. I felt like that from time to time. From childhood to adulthood. Whether I am included or excluded. We weren't meant to be alone. This church, is our covenant community. Let's love one another as Christ said.

[@ruthsolomon3868]

@@HPTFan well said about church. We need to be for each other and remember the Holy Spirit is with God's children to swallow up loneliness! God Loves you!

[@mrsrdrummond]

I can relate to Sara sooo much! Especially in church. The “cool” group never wanted to spend time with me. I went to the same church for my entire childhood and people knew who I was, but just ignored me. And even the few times I tried to make friends it never worked out. I was the girl alone at events all the time, too. Thank you guys so much for sharing, how brave. 💕 My husband is more like Jordan, so maybe there’s something about that dynamic that just works! You guys are so cute, I love this video

[@cherylharvey5217]

Rachel Drummond this has been my experience too. And I agree, Jordan and Sara are so cute!! When (if) I find a guy, I hope our relationship looks a lot like this. Thank y’all for sharing! ♥️

[@loraleewilliams5258]

Same! My husband and I have very much the same story. So love watching Sara and Jordan be real:)

[@mrsrdrummond]

AL ROD It is! Church youth groups have some of the worst cliques I’ve ever seen, which is so sad and wrong imo.

[@carlidolphin4521]

same still there i'm 17

[@notsoboujie]

@@mrsrdrummond my old church had this problem and the only kids I got along with were younger than me, I ended up leaving and the second church ( not my home church) I'm leaving because I don't feel like I belong in it anymore because the boys don't even try talking to me and I work with two of them. But it's pretty sad to see new people even people who aren't considered in the cool group to get left out at church. You'd think that every one was inclusive and new kids would feel welcomed in a youth group but that doesn't always happen. I kind of did for a while but now I just feel like I'm by myself even though our youth is less than 10 ,teens and young adults but it doesn't help most of the youth group lives together and three of us don't live together and one only comes sometimes but ya I am fed up with it so I'm going to find another church within the same name.

[@lamiral1337]

I really like this format where there's barely any editing, it's like we're part of the conversation

[@rachelcooper8759]

Watching Jordan comfort Sara was the sweetest thing ever

[@Stormypony7]

When I was a teenager one of my mentors told me that being constantly rejected from my peers was what helped me become a kind person. I knew what it was like to be overlooked and rejected and I didn’t want anyone else to feel the way I did.

[@zacktheexception1198]

Sara’s story breaks my heart, and makes me wish I knew her so I could be her friend. And it makes me really aware of this is probably happening to tons of kids and I feel really bad about it. I’ve always been closer to Jordan’s experience but now I understand both sides.

[@nicolepatterson5078]

I know what you mean. Somehow I've always had a natural talent for finding people like Sara and being their friend, sometimes even before even they knew they needed it. I wish I was more extroverted to have more people like that in my "inner circle" haha but I just can't handle it. You will find the people who need you, if you look for them. I believe in you

[@artsy618]

Yeah this video really hit home for me. I always grew up as that outcasted person honestly the most in my youth groups. It still happens to me today, but it also shaped me and because I was outcasted then, If I see someone else new not knowing people I jump quick to go help them because I know exactly what it’s like. Experience shapes you in the end even if it sucks being ignored. I’m glad this video is opening this kind of conversation up :)

[@tco74]

Zack The Exception Yeah, it is hard to realize that people do love and appreciate you for who you are after you’ve spent a long time feeling rejected/excluded by the peer group that you’re trying to fit in with. I’m glad Sara shared this with us, because I think we’ve all probably been excluded at some point in our lives, but it means so much to know that we’re not alone! 😊😊

[@jazzyrobot]

As a youth worker, I am crying for your hurt, and I am immediately writing up a plan to make sure this doesn't happen in my group. Thank you for your vulnerability.

[@jmm8305]

I recently finished reading Lisa Terkeurst’s book Uninvited. She was talking about dealing with rejection and exclusion, even into adulthood. At a moment of feeling set aside she asked God why He would let this happen to her again. He said to her, “You are not set aside, you are set apart.” Sara, certainly God never intended you to be rejected by your peers but He used that time to refine you and mold your sweet spirit. You may never look at it as something to be treasured, but I hope you treasure the fruit of those labors. All is not lost and as Jordan said, I’m glad you are the way you are. ♥️

[@Ashley-yt24]

Beautifully said. 👍

[@priscillawinfrey3532]

Well said

[@joshuaestep7913]

Sarah is one amazing woman of character. To share a hard moment like that publicly is so courageous. Know that your testimony gives others hope.

[@ShipwreckSamantha]

Sara I know exactly how you feel. Growing up I had one single friend at a time, and some of them even excluded me after a while. I canceled my sweet 16 party because I had no friends to invite to the party. I never felt welcomed in my church group. Things are pretty different now as I've gained confidence in adulthood, but my close circle is still small on purpose. This video hit me hard because I know that feeling. It really does affect you long term and I still don't trust people like I should.

[@GratsielaLily]

did you do anything specifically to gain confidence in adulthood? I am truly interested...I seem to be doing worse :))) I keep waiting for the confidence that comes with age to kick in :)))

[@brebytheway]

I'm the same way and I always thought I was really weak lol for putting up walls as an adult just because I was excluded growing up but seeing that other people do the same thing made me realize that's actually the natural response to it

[@ShipwreckSamantha]

G. Gratiela I didn’t really kick in naturally for me. I just had to put myself out there. I think a big factor was moving 7 hours away from my family and having to navigate on my own while I was still a teenager. It was kind of a clean slate to be whoever I wanted. Because no one knew my reputation for being quiet, I decided I was going to be outspoken from day one. When I eventually moved back to my home state even my family said I was a different person (in a good way). Confidence literally means “with faith” you just have to have a little faith in your abilities. Know who you are in God’s eyes, and do everything accordingly. I know that’s a little vague, but there wasn’t any action steps. I just kind of decided one day I didn’t like being shy and changed that, but I’ve always faced fears/shortcomings head on, that’s just part of how God made me I guess.

[@ShipwreckSamantha]

brebytheway exactly! I think a lot of people assume they’re weak because they have walls. Granted building up walls aren’t always ideal, but they appeared for a reason because something really did happen.

[@ShipwreckSamantha]

brebytheway exactly! I think a lot of people assume they’re weak because they have walls. Granted building up walls aren’t always ideal, but they appeared for a reason because something really did happen.

[@lionessm235]

I feel really sad for all the people who missed out on getting to be friends with Sara. What a treasure she is. 👑

[@spottyfawn]

When the Spirit is really evident in a person, I believe it scares people. Even other Christians. I've seen people genuinely thrown off for looking into the honest eyes of a person and hearing the gentle way they speak. It's just a shame that a person's goodness can drive others away instead of drawing them closer, but unfortunately that's the world we live in. Never change, because eventually you attract the people who are brave enough to embrace the God they see in you.

[@artsy618]

Thank you for this, I really needed this word

[@tolbiny36]

Kindred Heart, what a beautiful way to describe this! Thanks!

[@winknasmile20]

Wow, beautifully said.

[@claubit32]

This is so true!

[@paularaisingtobless2743]

I am a mom to 4 teenage kids. We have watched Blimey cow forever. My now 20 year old asked me if I had seen this station. She loves it because of how real and honest you both are. I can say, as a 47 year old woman, I still cry at the pain of being left out and exactly what Sara went through.Thank you so much for the rawness in this video. I have two teens who can absolutely relate to Sara. I am truly thankful to God for you both for the example you set. Thank you for this video. Truly ... Thank you.

[@ambermashal]

As a child my life was closer to Jordan’s but as a teenager it slowly turned extremely close to Sarah’s. I’m 17 now and this quarantine has really opened me up to see how so few people I have that actually are true friends. I have grown very close to my family and God thru this but it’s hard to look in the mirror and affirm that I’m perfect by myself when irl it hurts. this was a really encouraging video, thank you💕

[@madladiesscientists6894]

You'll someday see these ppl don't have many friends themselves. They usually are putting on shows and acting, they aren't really friends with those ppl, but more like they show a different face to please the person they are speaking to (and sometimes they are truly friends, but true friends don't have to exclude ppl). You should actually pray for them, pray to be able to make friends with ppl that are hard to make friends with bc of them excluding others except for s few ppl, bc they (I can assure you) are just as lonely. They just don't realize it, or they do, but they don't know how to change it bc this is all they have known. Prayer can help anyone whose afraid to be excluded or excluded and wants closer friends. God provides in many ways we may not even realize, but i bet that if you don't have as close friends, maybe God wants to be your main friend, and He'll help you find the friends He knows you need, as well as those friends needing you in their life, you still have so much time to include the excluded, ppl who are excluded, sometimes it's easier to find genuine friends that way you know💕💕💕💖 Praying, and I can definitely relate to you💗💗💗💗💗💗 keep your head up, it always gets better!

[@nicolepatterson5078]

I have a similar experience, but, over the last year or so I've realized I only have one or two real friendships and I'm so thankful I have them. I've been told by many friends through my life that I was the only friend who was really there when they needed somebody. I'm thankful to God that I've always had at least somebody and that those people I've been around haven't had to be alone. Your life will get better, even if you feel alone. In the meantime you should look up ferrets or otters videos to cheer you up, that always helps me.

[@ambermashal]

Mad man Scientists, Meg Patterson thank y’all for the encouragement!💕💕

[@mcna220]

I relate to Sara's experience so much. I can honestly say that from the ages of 5 to 15 I didn't have any close friends. The closest friend I had was a pen pal who i saw maybe every 2 months. It was a rough 10 years for sure. I think its lead to a sort of inferiority complex where I automatically assume nobody actually wants me to hang out with them. Thankfully I was able to find some friends so it's been easier since, but having no friends for the majority of my childhood has definitely shaped who I am in a bittersweet way.

[@seeleausstahl3595]

Yes, I relate so much. Bittersweet is a great word for it! We can create so much good out of such a painful experience. ❤️

[@BushMaid]

MC Na Same here, almost exactly. Only I saw my penpal every year.

[@audreyschmitt1782]

Well now I'm crying. You hit a big soft spot in me Sara.

[@abbiepeytonwyatt]

This made me cry because I was usually in the cool kids club (not because I was cool, but because they liked me for some reason) and I have always wanted to make the shy people feel included, but was always afraid they would reject my invitation. It stemmed from my deep fear of rejection and that the people who are quiet wouldn’t like me talking to them, because when I was ever really shy it made me uncomfortable to be asked to join everyone and felt like people pitied me or something. I wish I could go back, but I guess I can try to do better going forward. I’m so sorry Sara had the experience she did growing up... 🥺💕

[@sbsgirl]

yes! the dilemma but it is awkward to be asked to join the "cool kids" when you are more quiet

[@aweatherall8429]

Thanks for sharing, being someone who was more quiet growing up it's helpful to hear your perspective and understand that maybe the people who left me out were the same. I used to think the people who left me out had perfect friendships and were acting out of malice to exclude me intentionally. I learnt over time that definitely wasn't true in all case, sometimes they're acting out of fear too or they lacked maturity to see how their actions affected others.

[@Naomiwhitwifelife]

I get how you feel! I'm kinda in the middle now... I still feel excluded and disliked on some days and the next I have lots of people talking to me and saying they love me and they think I'm good at being friends with everyone.

[@charleemcneil3531]

I thought I loved Sara before... now dang. I just want to hug her 😭 she is beyond precious and such a treasure!

[@floortroll]

I was the same way, Sara💜I’m glad that you’re married to a man who loves and accepts all of you just the way you are! It warms my heart.

[@antastic97]

I didn't expect to cry while watching this video. I've mostly tried to forget all those awkward times at youth group where I spent most of it alone, leaning against a wall, watching everyone else interact. And as I've gotten older and more confident and more aware of how people work, I know that I could have done more. That maybe people would have been nicer if I'd put in more effort. But you know, maybe they could have put in more effort, too? And maybe it is okay to not put all of the blame on me and my personality. And when Jordan said, "I'm glad that you're who you are."? Geez. That made me cry, too. Hugs to you, Sarah!! Even if we were both shy, awkward beans as kids/teens, I can't help but think we would've been friends

[@SuperheroGeek13]

Thank you, Sara, for being so open and honest. I was for sure the excluded awkward kid throughout my childhood and most of my young adult life. I used to pray every night that God would bless me with just one friend, one person that wouldn't think I was weird and walk away before I could muster up the courage to speak. The pain never seems to go away, 'cause I cried along with you while watching this video, but I know I've gotten stronger from all of it. And you are the most compassionate, friendly, and put-together person I've met through the magic of the internet! I'm so glad you exist.

[@withsisu2324]

I've prayed that prayer many many many times.

[@nerdboystudios789]

@SuperheroGeek13, it's too bad we didn't grow up in the same neighborhood.

[@leahr2886]

Sara seems like such a sweet person. It's so heartbreaking to hear that she had to go through that. 😭I went through a similar situation to this in highschool. While it was extremely hard at the time, looking back now I do think it helped me become a better person. Now anytime I see someone who is excluded from anything, I make it my mission to make them feel included.

[@brebytheway]

I feel the same way like I'm still pretty shy but if I see someone being excluded or not feeling comfortable i immediately am over there trying to make them feel better

[@kirabraun4510]

Yes I think growing up that way is tragic for sure, but also makes you a much more compassionate and aware adult. I’m actually a little grateful for the rejection I’ve experienced in my life

[@AnimaJoy2738]

I really thought she was popular! Sara is such an amazing person. I can relate so much. My Dad was a strict parent. so I didn't get to watch the same movies or do something everyone else got to do. So I didn't know pop culture then. I got excluded. I still have those tendencies to analyze if people want me around or not because of it.

[@hollydingman7455]

Lydia White that’s a good way to put it. “Analysing if people want me around or not” is a struggle for me too. It can really mess with your head - would be so interesting to not have to deal with that.

[@AnimaJoy2738]

@@hollydingman7455 I have gotten better through the years but that feeling still comes. It gets better as you push through and try to reach out...God has brought some breakthrough

[@lizzylikescrafts]

Wow. Thanks so much for uploading this. The ending now has me crying because that's EXACTLY what I experienced growing up. I seriously thought I was the only one who experienced this growing up. When I've shared about it with people, they just think I'm joking, so to finally hear someone had the same experience definitely makes me feel less alone.

[@amilisom]

I've found that there's a difference between excluding someone (active) and not including them (passive). Our role isn't just to avoid excluding people, but to actually take the initiative to make people feel valued. And that's tough! I understand why people have avoided me in the past, and it's the same reason I find it difficult to include certain people. I still don't fit in with people groups much, but there's actually benefit to that! Some people are more gifted at one-on-one interactions than with groups of people, which is why I enjoy small groups far more than social events. (I mean, really, what am I supposed to do at a social event?)

[@pjengland286]

Great insight!

[@GratsielaLily]

The weird thing is that all this while I thought Sarah was the popular girl that did everything perfectly and everyone loved :D Just like you said, Jordan...she is awesome! So I assumed that people noticed :)) I truly believed this from the very first moment I saw her in your videos...I was like, whoa I wonder what´s it like to be gorgeous and popular like this girl? I am really sorry that she had this experience growing up, I know first hand how damaging it is. Unlike Sarah, unfortunately, I didn´t have her strength of character and positive attitude. Instead, I assumed they were right in pushing me to the side, I believed there´s something fundamentally wrong with me...Now, years later, all attempts to rationalize this are hindered by the deep feeling in my gut that I am not worthy. And this is the part that affects you the most in the end, not those couple of hours spent on your own and not the time you wished you were invited someplace....it´s all the feelings and even thought patterns that form within you and are hard to break, even years later when you KNOW better. Thank you very much, Sarah! For having the strength to talk about this, to be vulnerable with us. And for showing me that you can approach such life events with a positive outlook :)

[@MissusCooper]

sara seems like such a wonderful person who is so absolutely awesome, its awful think people feel that way. we all should make more effort to put the effort in to interact with others even if we dont immediately hit it off!

[@michaylaacker3456]

I have to say it was beautiful to see the sheltering love of a husband for his wife, the love of a friend for a friend, in this video. Thank you for the vulnerability and sharing of your heart, Sara. p.s. Sara, that top is really cute!

[@lydialinn7938]

Wow, this made me cry. I so feel you, Sara. I had one friend until I was in my last two years of high school and I watched that friend be the most popular girl in every circle she was in from the time we met even to now. I was SO LONELY probably until I was 18 honestly. Part of it was me being afraid to put myself out there, but I got rejected or ignored so many times that I eventually gave up.

[@EmilyRenderos]

Lydia Linn You are such a beautiful and kindhearted being. Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share your experience. ❤️

[@38williams]

Okay, those last few minutes were the most wholesome thing I've seen on the internet . #myhearrrrrt

[@jwesley7353]

I thought I was alone but turns out Sara can relate to everything I’ve experienced. I’ve always been the ignored girl in the corner thinking that one day I’ll be included but it never happens. I’ve been told multiple times that it’s my fault I’m ignored and have no friends, and that has really hurt me. I’m still dealing with this right now, but seeing this has given me a lot more hope that things will get better. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@sbsgirl]

Its not your fault at all... people just are not kind and only want friends that are just like them .... My advice would be to ask God to send you friends , but you may will have to seek too but pray!

[@clairehobbs2300]

This gave me all the feels! 😁😨😀😭🥰 Being the middle child I can relate with both of you. My older sister experienced life like Sara and my little sister was the social butterfly like Jordan. I had a lot of the experiences Sara did because I was jaded by how life treated my older sister. I never really felt accepted and was in a friend group but was never the “best friend” I was always the third wheel and never the best friend to anyone. My little sister could always get along with anyone and often “took” my friends. Sorry to write a novel but thank you Sara for being so authentic. I would have never guessed that about you. It was so refreshing to see you be open like that. No one is judging you. You are a relief to those who have experienced life the way you have.

[@aqqibabs]

Goodness, this is so relatable... have sadly been in a similar situation to you Sarah, being purposely left out, bullied, etc and my husband is more like you, Jordan. Being married has actually given me more confidence thankfully. It has made me be the one to reach out to those "outcasts" and befriend those who don't have anyone. Through that I've met some wonderfully interesting people from all around the world. Blessings to you both from The Netherlands!

[@Jennawashere9707]

I felt this so intensely. Thank you so much for your vulnerability. Growing up I was also excluded a lot in my high school and church, and even into college. Thankfully I was able to find some really good friends at college, but they also excluded me at times and left me feeling like something was wrong with me. I haven't met many people with this same experience and it brings me comfort to hear your story, Sara.

[@christianfilmer1500]

I am 25 and it wasn't until within the last year or so that I realized I have a real hard time with loneliness/isolation. I was never one of the "cool group" in my home church and even though I wasn't really ignored I was also isolated as I was homeschooled. Besides Sunday church I didn't have a social life outside of my cousins. As I grew into a teen I was fairly awkward and gained some weight too. It just left me on the outside looking in a lot.

[@mandyr]

I can really relate to Sara and the emotions she still feels from her childhood experiences. I grew up as a homeschooler in a church that was initially full of homeschooling families who left (ending their friendships with me), and then full of public school children who had friends of their own. I often felt excluded, and on the outside of groups. When several homeschooled girls invited me to slumber parties, I often felt I was the pity invite. I never felt “enough” to be anyone’s friends, and that has affected the way I view my friendships now as an adult. I’m often worried about being a bother to others with my friendship. My husband, who is quite the people person (and a former public schooler), often doesn’t understand why I would feel that way. I can understand Jordan and Sara saying that it brings different viewpoints to social situations you face as an adult. Sara, thank you for leaving that ending in. It’s a good reminder for all of us to include one another and be friends to everyone. I love watching your videos, guys!

[@micklynnb]

Girl, I feel your pain. I also grew up in the Nashville area and went to the same church practically my whole life. I had a couple of friends who were the outcasts there, but the "cool" kids who all went to school together excluded me (and them) a lot. It's crazy that church can be the place you feel the loneliest, at least where other people are concerned. In high school, I also went to a tutorial where kids who lived close to each other tended to exclude those of us who lived further out. I had to build my own friend group of misfits. I had very few friends in the my grade level; most were a year or two younger, as I fostered them in after I became established at the school. My freshman year (my first year there) was fairly lonely. Sometimes being excluded or ignored feels worse than outright bullying.

[@10CBolt]

Instead of writing my own experiences growing up I'm just gonna leave it at this, I adore Sara.

[@Ranstone]

Yeah, I think that's healthy; I'll do the same. Was about to write a sob story myself. Do note that I feel like I care more about your untold story now than had you posted it. I feel like it means more.

[@julier4501]

I relate to Sara so much. Especially when she said she would go to every event thinking that she’d make friends but ended up alone in a corner. I do that every. single. time. I just get so nervous around people and then I kinda shut down and don’t know how to be myself. It’s crazy to me how people can so easily make friends

[@leslieerin6923]

They’re such a sweet and real couple. A lovely example of marriage ❤️

[@mearynroscoe212]

I thought I was the only one who was excluded my whole life. I could feel her pain, or at least see her remembering and it wasn't embarrassing at all. It was the most real thing I've ever seen. It's like you don't exist and you don't know why.

[@matthewbentler6399]

Oh man.. it is so hard to see how much this can have an effect on people. I can relate with Sara a lot, growing up I often felt excluded. I only began “putting myself out there” in my later years of high school, and saw the flip side and how my friend group often excluded kids. I’ve gained a lot of self-confidence since then, and had the HUGE privilege of serving as a missionary for two years around Canada, and I think that “wound” I had from growing up helped me to see the outsiders in a clearer way and understand what they were going through. I don’t know what I would be like now if I was the “super popular” kid growing up, but I know that God helped me grow through it and I was able to meet so many other people who had similar experiences and now I call them some of my best friends. As a lot of other people have said already, BE KIND to people, and try your best to include others. I have literally seen this save people’s lives..you never know what others are going through completely.

[@TheMonkeesLuver98]

Sara, I know exactly how you felt. Growing up as a homeschooled youth in church... I was treated the same way. I was always the quiet one even though I tried to be friendly and wanted friends as well ..... I was outcast so much because I didn’t fit into their requirements 😞

[@interconnected7416]

I really relate to the church part where it’s like, I’ve known these people all my life but they all act like they don’t even know who I am. It’s hard when your other siblings can all have these friends and that same person who talks to your family member acts like you aren’t there. My family was pretty “popular” but I wasn’t. I did try to include myself in conversations but no one would let me talk so that ends up in people never knowing who I am. People still don’t have a clue who I am but I’m glad to be out of all of these peoples lives cause they were never apart of mine.

[@jacobhill3925]

For the majority of my childhood, I was bullied because of my buck teeth. It caused me to be very closed-off and shy. I also was that kid that was thought of as weird, because I never wanted to be a part of inappropriate things (some weren’t that bad). I wasn’t necessarily sheltered in the sense that I knew about things; but that I acted like an old prude. I’m a perfectionist; and I was told by my parents to act right at a young age. At 10 years old, I learned that I was a natural at basketball, and I really enjoyed it. So, I coped by constantly playing basketball with dreams of being “a pro someday.” It was my escape; but because of my lack of popularity, I was never given a lot of chances at starting. I knew I was good; but I wasn’t able to get along with the “cool” teammates. There were times when my teammates would ignore me wide open; and they would tell me not to shoot right as I was shooting. Being a kid that gave up on socializing to pursue basketball, it was naturally hurtful. I had worked so hard to get good; and I would literally suffer because of my knees (Osgood-Schlatter disease). I also went through a time with a coach who hated my guts. He basically blamed me for everything that went wrong (even though he never played me). He had some personal beef with my family; so naturally, he took it out on me. Thankfully, I had good coaches after that coach; and I learned how to be around (but not encouraging) my crude humored teammates. God has a way of making life better! In the end, I’m grateful for my past, because I learned how to be tough and kind. I know I can take the heat of life; and I know how to relate and respect the forgotten people. Popularity doesn’t make you strong, humility does!

[@dutchessandkay2280]

I love Sarah even more for this tbh. That was me too growing up. It helped to know I wasn't alone. I wish to know that Sarah read this because I get it completely💖 Don't be embarrassed please!

[@TaigaNatsuki]

In my youth group my sister was very popular and I was very awkward and introverted. She always made me go to youth functions and tried to include me but she would get pulled away and I would end up standing somewhere by myself watching everyone interact and I didn’t know how to insert myself into conversations. Now I’m a youth pastor and I watch for the young people stand on the outside looking in and I make sure to include them. I talk to each of them and I know all their birthdays and refuse to let any of them feel excluded the way I did.

[@annacamp290]

Dear Sara, We all just want you to know how much we love and support you. You are a very strong woman and a role model for me and all women. Your kindness and sincerity is beautiful.

[@DR-gp1tl]

I understand Sara 100%...I started crying with her, because it brought back many memories.. my husband shares Jordan’s experience growing up.. so I feel like he can help me see things from a different perspective.. now we both have a small group of friends.. but they are absolutely amazing:) big hug Sara!

[@jameslarsen9814]

I relate to both Jordan and Sara here, actually. I grew up in a homeschooled environment where I was well accepted/popular, and my brother and I were both well liked, and I got along well with everyone. But when i was like 13/14 i got almost completely disconnected from that social group, and then moved to another state. In this new place, it's just been a whole different ball game. I've been here for 4 years and I have always felt pushed to the side by those who are "popular" around here, while my brother has always been accepted right in/always the person people want around, no matter what group or event we go to. It's definitely been a struggle and it just sucks to feel left out almost all the time. Even though it hasn't been quite as bad recently - I've made some connections with other 'outcasts' which has been a blessing - it still hurts to see the people in the "in crowd" not want anything to do with you in the slightest. To anyone reading this, please don't shun people away just because they're not as cool as you. It leaves scars that won't ever go away. Also on a sidenote, that was absolutely so sweet the way Jordan acted in the end. You two are a perfect pair.

[@chloelo6415]

I grew up being excluded. I still get excluded. It was painful. It is painful. You see people who claim to be your friends always going out for fun things with other people. And you always have to do it alone. Or be smart about when to stand silently in the vicinity of the right group just to get included for lunch. Still, never get invited to things as a normal friend. Never. I have a habit of making a semi-permanent tattoo on my wrist whenever I have the urge to slit it. So that I don’t, and I can force myself to bath and take care of myself after it’s time to wash away the dye. I am making one right now. This is how fucked up it feels.

[@lilymayf]

Hi Jordan and Sarah! I wanted to leave a comment and say how much I relate to Sarah's experience growing up. I always felt left out or alone and would get very upset about it. I think I have learned how to have better friends and it's still hard but I know that the few close friends I do have really good ones. I'm 20 btw now and I remember for a long time when I was feeling left out and allow I could cry to my mom or God and feel so loved. No matter how many or little friends I have throughout my life from now I know that my family will always be my closest friends. Thank u for sharing thing video and making me feel like I'm not allown. I am from Toronto Canada btw!!

[@melissahunt936]

I was 100% like Sara through elementary and junior high: ignored, bullied, excluded, forgotten, unwanted. BUT I made a few other "outcast" friends, and built up a friend group of other people who felt left out. I was so determined to make everyone feel loved, and by the time I was in high school, the bullies had aged out so that by my senior year, I was 100% like Jordan and the dynamic of youth group had completely changed.

[@emilym1790]

Thank you both for sharing your stories! I was homeschooled and grew up the way Sara did! This hit so close to home and opened up my eyes a bit to why people acted the way they did. I’m so grateful for this, it really did help process!

[@Hiyori97_]

I relate to Sarah a lot. I was also a shy girl growing up, and even though I came at terms with who I am now, I still find myself crying at night sometimes when I'm taken back in my memories of how lonely of a child I was, bless you for being such a loving and understanding husband to her ❤️️

[@aclamoringinthewhisp]

Feeling Sara in this one. Definitely my experience when I moved in my teen years and started at a church. It makes me appreciate the true friends I have. It freaks me out now if someone remembers me and my friends can't understand why. It just wasn't an experience I had.

[@jennabenna42]

Thank you Sara and Jordan for a very valuable reminder. Including (or excluding) someone seems like a small thing at the time, but the ripple effects are huge. Including is how Christ treated us! Sara, your honesty and transparency makes you shine like star.

[@KathyHutto]

Oh Sara! You are such a beautiful person. I felt the way you did for so many years until I realized being accepted by God is all that really matters. So thankful for your vulnerability in sharing your story. I know God will use it to help many people.

[@amimia3496]

This video made me feel like I can realate a lot to Sarah because I am 12 years old and I moved to a new state a year ago and made some friends at my church. I've never had too many friends because I used to be really shy and I'm homeschooled. Well they acted nice to me for like a month and then suddenly I found out that they actually didn't want me around. They started being rude to me. It took me a while to recover from it but now I'm 12 and I feel like it's made me a lot more mature, I'm not as shy, and I always try to include everyone. I feel like during my year of not having friends, I've grown closer to God so this video made me feel like everything is going to be okay. Thank you.

[@psarah1012]

Sarah is literally so sweet!! I wish we knew each other growing up 💜 I was also excluded a lot at school and different churches when my mom and I were looking around but honestly the most beautiful thing that comes from that is the empathy to understand how other’s are feeling when you see them in a similar situation.

[@lighteninggazelle816]

This is a good reminder to make an extra effort for the people who seem quiet and non interested, they need someone to take the initiative and say let’s sit together! Or whatever. What a loving husband 🥰🥰🥰 you guys are great together.

[@TinyMiniStealth]

As an only child who was excluded throughout my school years this hit me hard. Stay strong guys and pass this knowledge forward 🙏 - 20 something year-old college grad guy

[@projectpearblossoms]

We love you Sara 💕💕 You showed me just how important it is to include others who may have been overlooked, to be kind and share the love of Christ diligently. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@erinfuller2271]

I've oddly enough been in both situations, one where I ran the friend group, and one where I've been excluded from the friend group. All I want to say is, you will never regret being kind. There will never be a point in your life where you will feel like "man I wish I wasn't nice to this person." BE KIND! Invite and include EVERYONE!

[@SR-zp4je]

I was fighting back tears when Sara started to cry! I had my hands in the sink washing up so I couldn’t start sobbing. My experience was very similar to hers, except I’m both proud and afraid of failure, so if I fail at something once I usually stop trying. I learned to stop trying to make friends early on, because I was excluded and victimised by people I thought were my friends aged around 7-8. I developed trichtilomania (a hair-pulling disorder) till I was nearly bald on one side and my parents had to beg me to stop. That feeling of hurt solidified into a defiant ‘I’m fine on my own’ attitude that carried me through the rest of school. As an adult, I’ve also been deeply hurt by people I thought were my friends, and often feel like there’s very few people I can really trust. My sisters have both gone through similar experiences, with my older sister being deeply affected to this day (she’s nearly 30) and the younger who is nearly 11 often says that she has no friends and all the other kids bully her, and my heart breaks for her. Jordan, I love your tenderness and sensitivity with your wife here. I’m tearing up again as I write this. Thank you guys for doing this video. ❤️

[@sarahvangundy7253]

The part when Sara said no one wanted her around is the exact experience I had in all of high school. I tried to go to a few events a few times, and I lied to my parents saying I had a great time, but I never did. I was always alone in the group. It's like no one could hear me speaking. Even tho I can make witty and funny comments, someone else would say it better and get the laughs and participation. I gave up trying, and developed some withdrawn depression. I'm still trying to work my way out of that to this day. Be nice kids. Friendship is one of the biggest blessing of life, and everyone needs it to survive life.

[@kayakinggrandmakelly7105]

Sarah, please know so many people, now that you are on KZbin and all, feel like they know you and love you! It is terrible to feel so left out and isolated especially in a crowd. You feel so alone but surrounded by people. It happened to me too at that age, but I am 52 now, so it feels different. My true friends now are few, but acquaintances many. Like everyone at church would claim we are friends, but only 3 have corresponded during this time of isolation. BUT the thing is, I am totally fine with that now. My kids are raised, homeschooled of course (which is how I know about you guys), and I have been hiking, kayaking, and chilling out at home, mostly alone since , Praise God, my husband’s job has not been affected by the virus. So he is as busy as ever , cycling alone when he’s not working. I guess I got used to being alone, and I would rather be alone than feel stupid or ridiculous, which is how I often feel when around people. I hope that makes sense. Wish I could meet you two in person someday, but I would need my sister with me to carry on the conversation. Lol

[@mohickman3686]

So much of Sara's story resonates with my own. It's really, really hard. I've always struggled with friendships and loneliness. There's part of me that just doesn't want to really open up to anyone ever again because you just end up hurt when they leave or turn against you. Hearing your story gives me comfort and hope that maybe someday things will get better.

[@florence3448]

I didn’t grow up going to church and went to public school, but I relate to Sara so much 😩 I was always a loner since elementary school and I remember feeling like how come I’m so different from all the kids? Why can’t I just fit in? I also studied abroad in China for 2 years and the language barrier made the bullying worse (they physically hit you in China, they don’t care if you’re a girl). Once high school hit, things got much much worse. I felt so insecure and like a complete loser, so I started self harming and became very rebellious. I noticed that once I started wearing a lot of make up, revealing clothing and started partying/drinking with people, I had “friends”. I dated a lot of guys to try and fill my insecurity, I didn’t notice that all along, I just wanted the love of God. I didn’t have a good relationship with my father growing up, and my parents constantly fought. I was an atheist, broken and lonely. Many of the guys broke my heart as well, and a lot of my “friends” were never truly my friends, they always left me in the end. I think because I saw that the “world” and the people in it weren’t really that great, it was very easy for me to surrender my all to God. I thank God that I was never popular and liked by people, because I feel like I would have never been humbled and broken enough to realize how much I need Him. God later gave me my boyfriend now, who I’ve been dating for 2 years and plan to get married, and he’s very similar to Jordan. He went to public school but was a Christian yet he was friends with everyone and was pretty popular. He still has a lot of friends and now that I’m older, I pretty much only hang out with him 😂 my church is pretty cool but since we are adults, we don’t have nearly as much time to hang out, so it’s just me, my boyfriend and my mom now. But I’m never lonely because I always have God ❤️

[@JordanTaylorVideos]

Florence Xu Such a compelling story. Thank you so much for writing it down. I’ll have to show it to Sara if she hasn’t already read it.

[@florence3448]

Jordan Taylor Of course :) I always want to give God the glory, Sara turned out to be such a lovely women, and she found a great man of God as her husband too! All things truly work out for the good to those who love Him ❤️ God bless

[@angelicamcduff7741]

Thank you for sharing this. I had this same hurt growing up and some of my kids have had this in church circles. Our society values type A extroverted personalities and not introverts. But we need both introverts and extroverts. The affects are life long but Lord is able to heal these hurts that the enemy has meant to bring you down. He is the Deliverer.

[@HoistxthexColorsxfan]

This happened to me at church, but not my brother. He was more like Jordan, always involved in each friend group. I attributed being left out as a character flaw, so seeing someone as interesting and kind as Sara go through the same thing is mind blowing to me. It still affects me as an adult too. So thank you for this, I appreciate the vulnerability and honesty.

[@lenamorrison3700]

I’ve dealt with a lot of exclusion in my life and this video really affected me on a personal level. It made me cry, and I never cry when I watch videos. Jordan I thought it was really sweet that you told Sarah: “I’m glad you are who you are.” In my experience, feeling excluded has made me feel like there’s something deeply wrong with me and so I can’t imagine the effect those words had on Sarah. Thank you both for sharing something so personal. ❤️

[@rachelwalden8838]

I so relate to Sarah. For me the friends got fewer and farther in between in high school for various reasons. Some because they moved away or switched churches with their families and some just didn’t think of me because I was reserved and quiet and wanted to do more one-on-one activities rather than big group things. But honestly, looking back now that I’m older, I also see many of those peers were not even true believers and have fallen away and I can’t help wondering if that was part of the “odd ball” feeling I’ve always had. Now I’m a pastors wife and I still get that lonely feeling a lot. So I’ve started thanking God that what was really painful for me and has caused lasting scars and altered the way I view myself, God can and does actually mean to use for my good and was preparing me to be ok being different and standing alone for Him. To be very candid here: watching you Sarah and thinking how you have a great personality and are so beautiful inside and out, those things didn’t change the fact that you struggled. I’ve always secretly thought something must be wrong with me because I don’t seem to fit well anywhere. Maybe I’m not pretty enough, funny enough, talented enough, etc. But if you have all those things in abundance, then it must not be dependent on those things. I watched a TED talk once on intimacy and it was so profound to me. The lady was explaining that in order for us to have healthy close relationships we must have vulnerability, consistency and positivity all in balance in the mix. I’ve found that to be so true. But man, close relationships take a lot of time and energy. Oh I just wanted to come give you a big hug. Thanks for keeping that part on the video. I was crying with you. How sweet and vulnerable that moment was. Love you guys and your heart.💜

[@davianawhite4912]

I totally understand her❤️. For once I felt like someone actually has been through the exact same thing I’ve experienced. This video is needed to bring awareness to this subject and to show how it really can affect someone even into their adult years. Thank you Sara and Jordan💕🙏🏽.

[@sonflowersandswords]

I almost cried watching this. I love this picture of a husband and wife dealing with pain from the past. I also love the vulnerability Sara showed in talking about her experiences. Being ostracized and ignored by one’s peers hurts…even years later and into adulthood. So it broke my heart to hear about Sara going through that. At the same time, it also warmed my heart to watch Jordan love, comfort, and support her in the midst of her pain. I’m pretty sure this is my favorite Blimey Cow video to date! Thank you both for being so vulnerable with us here in Messygesland!

[@sinceresphere]

Hugs to you, Sara! You are a beautiful person inside and out.

[@davida6146]

I can relate with Sarah. She had a very similar upbringing as my siblings and I. My parents were pretty strict with who we were friends with and believed that we could easily get influenced by them. So because of that, we were never allowed to go over to a friend's house or hangout after school or church (on rare occasions we were allowed with church friends or if we brought friends home)... because of the strict rules and being unavailable to people, I was kind of forced to have only acquaintances or friends at school only... which was tough because I lost many friendships over this. But looking back, I don't feel I lost much. I'm lucky I had siblings and my best friend has been and always will be my sister. Everytime I meet someone with an upbringing like Sarah's I get really excited because I feel we can relate on levels that others may not, kind of like family. :)

[@morganleigh5142]

Man Sara, what a beautiful person you are! This had me tearing up too. Thank you for being vulnerable. I grew up feeling left out many times as well, but I'm so thankful I eventually had a close crew who tried to be as inclusive as possible, and I got to meet so many of the greatest people just like you! True GEMS that for some reason had been left out of the fold. I've made some really great, true friends that way, by just being inviting and engaging to those on the outside. Also as a naturally shy person myself, I'm AMAZED at how strong you must have been (and are) to be able to have steadfast optimism and to keep attending all the events despite the struggle. Really incredible

[@thestoryweaver]

Sara and I had a very similar experience. I was friends with the youth pastors but hardly any of the kids. This video made me cry because it reminded me of all the times when I'd be the last one picked for games or purposely not invited to birthday parties. There was one party that I wasn't invited to but the kid that everybody claimed to hate was invited in my place. It hurt so bad. 💔

[@SavannahLewie]

This video made me tear up 🥺 SO many people will relate 💛 I’m glad you guys talked about this and that you were willing to share your experience, Sara!

[@jazminestryder]

Pretty sure I've commented this before - but seriously Sara you are... so brave for sharing this. Your story is literally mine, the exclusionary behavior I experienced toward me still haunts me to this day and has made my life a living hell inside my head in the past few months. I suppressed it for several years, but it's all come back recently. I'm trying to be more honest with myself about emotions, but I don't think people realize how much "little" things like being excluded hurts people. They're not little things, they're big things and can scar you for life.

[@Ajsupermonkey]

Oh man! Thank you for keeping it real, as hard as that is. You guys had me in tears! Also, it was so special to see Jordan comforting Sara, so thanks for keeping that in too. You guys are perfect for eachother!

[@peterterry7918]

I had a growing up closer to Sara than Jordan. I had a few friends but they usually were “lower tier” like me and usually were not geographically close and they often moved away. It has been easier for me to be introverted and self reliant and hard to connect with people. Even at stores, it is hard to get sales people’s attention. Sara seems to have done better with a worse situation. Glad God put you to together.

[@Floann49]

Sarah, I've always thought you were so sweet. I can honestly relate to what you went through and a lot of people can say they went through the same or worse. This is why we must teach our children to do exactly what Jordan said, to include others & reach out to those who may be on the sidelines watching just waiting to be included. If they refuse the first time keep trying don't just take the first reaction as how they really feel. They've been excluded for so long that they expect you to at least ask them to join the first time but to be rejected pretty quickly or forgotten about. You'll never know the treasure someone can be if you never spend time getting to know them.

[@TheRose1943]

Sara, I completely understand what it's like to be the "unseen" one at church and growing up. I relate even down to being a 40s style girl who didn't fit in. I wish I could have known you growing up, because I just think you are the sweetest, and most precious soul, and all those people missed out on having a relationship with a very special person. Keep shining the Light of Jesus, girl! 🤟

[@isaiahliberda6603]

Keep the videos coming dude! Also, can't wait to see the back deck video. Love working with my hands, can't much these days so it's fun to see you learn! You're doing great. Keep it up.

[@JordanTaylorVideos]

I just finished that video yesterday! Looking forward to posting it next week most likely. Thank you for the encouragement.

[@felicialally5703]

Can totally relate to Sara's experience. Even now as an adult. I think experiences like this can either make one bitter and sorry for themselves, or compassionate and caring for those who are marginalized. I think God doesn.t give us more than we can bear with his grace, and as sad and frustrating as it can be, especially in the context of Church community, God definitely can reach different people through us, than he can through people who don't suffer this way.

[@rosemoonbridge8886]

Wow that was so strong of you Sara! It was so emotional I just started crying, taking a lil tissue and blowing my nose. 🤧 Not so used to writing comments but really had to this time even though I have seen your awesome videos for a while now. God is really using you too to spread Gods love in peoples lifes. Could really relate! Big hugs ❤️

[@jellybeanandgingerbreadd]

Hey Jordan and Sara, thank you for sharing this vid. As many people have already shared, I too relate with Sara's experience. All through undergrad I've been excluded, I had 3 friends and now a year after graduating we're no longer in each other's lives. I've been going to the same church with my brother for 5 years now, and in church events I'm all alone (except for the occasional 'hi, how are you?' which barely lasts a minute). We buried my dad one year ago today and our youth church came to our house shortly after his passing. And they'd refer to Dad as (just) my brother's dad which really hurt me, because he was my dad too. Maybe they didn't do it consciously, but I felt alone and that they really didn't/don't care.