Were Wife and Newborn Murdered by Mystery Intruder or Lazy Husband? | Craig Vandewege Case Analysis

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[@dogsmumm]

Killing a three month old baby is a special kind of disgusting.

[@smfarrie2943]

And the mother of that baby too.

[@Timefortracy]

And with a knife to the throat, up close and personal.

[@sheilagravely5621]

Only the lowest of cowards would kill innocents. Fry the bastard!

[@rebekah7635]

The mom was a witness, the baby couldn't speak yet. I can imagine a criminal thinking they have to eliminate a witness but even professional killers would've left that baby alone. This guy is a special kind of sick. Even beyond the average killer.@@smfarrie2943

[@ns4725]

Killing a pre-born baby is just as evil.

[@KarisPigNose]

He told co-workers he didn't like his wife's appearance? What a pig.

[@kittywitty6507]

Ikr, like he was some Adonis. 🙄

[@anamneses28]

An intruder doesn't need to slit the throat of a baby. Smh. They're not a threat. He's a truly sick person to have done this.

[@lostandfound5145]

Exactly! Why would a home invader kill an infant that can’t be a witness? Completely unbelievable

[@Ran-33]

Absent fathers is the best thing sometimes.

[@Nylak-Otter]

Seriously. If they're trying to quiet them so as not to draw attention, they'd just bash them or smother them, not pull out a knife and bleed em out like livestock.

[@tashastidwell6915]

@@Nylak-Otter or just put the baby in a closet and close the door 🚪

[@toddkorson8207]

I’m sure he was is a shyt bag, but intruders do often times murder everyone.

[@Jen-X333]

I love how Mr. Fatty himself was ‘unhappy’ with his wife’s physical appearance.

[@megleland6320]

Takes a special kind of -person- monster to kill their own tiny baby...with a knife. The "law" better not give this guy any furlow or parole, he may look human, but he isn't.

[@KoolT]

Amen

[@wanyatelborn]

Amen 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@wolfe6220]

Oh, don't worry. He is currently residing in our state's finest hotel. One that is extremely dangerous, rife with drug gangs. It makes places like San Quentin look like kindergarten.😆 There is no air conditioning for the residents, so summer temps regularly hit 110-115° during the day and "cool down" to 90-95° at night.🥵 Unlike in most prisons, you aren't given shampoo/soap/toothpaste upon arrival. 💩 You have to earn it. The work you do there is not paid at all. Food is horrible, but if you act a fool, they'll mix all your food for a meal together into a loaf and bake it. 🤢 And although I'm sure women are lining up for *miles* to visit Craig (sarcasm), TX does not allow conjugal visits. 😳

[@leahvogelsimpson]

It's absolutely horrific. I feel nauseous just hearing Dr Grande talk about it.

[@LenaL146]

💯

[@elliebellie7816]

When your wife turns up dead and you just sort of can't remember you personally just increased her life insurance policy up to $700,000. Tell me you murdered your wife without telling me you murdered your wife...

[@Mang-ej5ul]

I bet the insurance companies just know someone’s going to get murdered when this happens.

[@Gizziiusa]

Taking a deep snooze in an uncomfortable chair in the police interrogation room mere hours after the murder of your family. Tell me you are a total psychopath, without telling me you're a total psychopath.

[@TheOldandslow]

Kills a newborn. Wow. What a monster.

[@mshockey73]

That he didn't think twice about doing that to a defenseless little baby is so disturbing:(

[@lucyjane1262]

No thief goes through the kitchen cabinets. Yet so many fakers rifle the cabinets and kitchen drawers. Like anyone wants your old IKEA dishware and junk drawer full of paper clips and mystery keys.

[@wolfe6220]

I was thinking the same thing! Although, I did find some Ikea bowls at a thrift store last month that are really nice. Maybe I should install an alarm system in case theives break in to steal them and sell them on the Ikea black market 🤔

[@gwensstepbro4966]

You're not aware of the well known and lucrative IKEA underworld?

[@gwensstepbro4966]

But in all seriousness people underestimate the police. This brings me back to the fact that nine times out of ten the evildoer is too incompetent to understand what he's up against.

[@elliebellie7816]

This is always my point in the Darlie Routier case. No one wanders through suburban neighborhoods at night planning to have time to root through drawers or scout out countertops in order to find a weapon to kill two little boys especially when it's obvious the family is at home. They either bring it with them or someone in the house knows where the weapons are.

[@Jessierin85]

Idk. Instant pots and blenders can be expensive. What about an 500 dollar mixer?

[@GAshoneybear]

I'm honestly surprised he didn't get the death penalty considering the brutal nature in which he killed the baby.

[@kathybates1751]

Should have!

[@ravensthatflywiththenightm7319]

Sadly you know how it goes. When someone decides on the death penalty, hundreds of ignorant airheads get out on the streets screaming "human rights!" And completely forget "What about the human rights of the victims?"

[@CastledarkDweller27]

So no death sentence? So did he get life in jail? And he’s in jail now? Well if that’s the case then some heavy hitter fellow prisoners aren’t doing their job….if that monster is still breathing.

[@barbieblue3336]

And it's Texas

[@wilhelmhagberg4897]

Society must act more civil than a deranged, primitive murderer. As horrific as these crimes are, it’s much worse if civilization itself stoops to the same levels.

[@loiskondo8349]

He didn’t like his wife’s appearance, like he was some beauty! She was beautiful! As always my sympathy goes to the victims and their family! Thank you Dr. Grande for your thoughtful look into this horrific crime!

[@marctitus5874]

Yea I think she was, also. People's perceptions of physical beauty are not based in reality. I suspect constant access to mass media and pornography has something to do with it.

[@Griselda_Puppy]

She laid down and had THEIR child FOR him, he should have WORSHIPPED her for that!!!

[@leahvogelsimpson]

Right. She's a better looking human than that goof mf.

[@sassycat6468]

He's a real Munter alright, his wife and child on the other hand were beautiful, may they rest in peace.

[@FearMyLadyBits]

​@@marctitus5874I'm going to say inadequate sex ed is the reason so many GUYS have unreal expectations of women. Sure you can tell a kid a baby grows inside the mommy, but SO MUCH is going on inside a woman in such a short period of time. and then post natal! Most -women- don't even know about the "first poo" they'll have to take after the birth. Guys don't have a clue that the new mom is going to be super sore, wiped out, grungy, and just not interested in intimacy for at least a couple months after popping out "junior" and seem really shocked they'll have to use their hand if they want to get any.

[@tmajcan94]

It takes a whole different breed of monster to cut the throat of an innocent 3 month old baby, especially your own and your devoted wife to boot. If your having marital and financial issues, either seek counseling to work it out or divorce. Nobody learns anything from Chris Watts and others i swear. Rest in peace to the innocent victims.

[@cleopatria5316]

I hope he rott in hell im so tired of kids getting killed by their parents sad bring back death penalty.

[@aarondavis8943]

These behaviours are due to profound personality disorders. The two most important phrases in understanding these cases are _lack of empathy_ and _lack of insight._ The lack of insight prevents people from learning fundamental lessons like "murdering is immoral, stupid and self-destructive and you'll get caught.' It just falls on deaf ears because in these people's minds, they're smarter and craftier than everyone else, who they view and intellectual pygmies. In their minds, they already know everything. They are close minded, self-centred and arrogant to absurd degrees. With respect to this case specifically, this guy was a total freak. He was probably on his way to do a massacre when he was pulled over. Hardly the type of person who was up for learning lessons and personal growth.

[@MsSilverTulip]

​@aarondavis8943 you forgot the massive ego and sense of entitlement. They feel they are special and deserve whatever they want when they want it

[@friendlykiwi384]

Yes, just divorce. Far better option than………this😢

[@lydiapetra1211]

​@@aarondavis8943he is a psychopath...

[@Meela234]

He had a lot of nerve talking about her physical appearance when he wasn't a looker by a long shot. I take it, he had not looked in a mirror in a few years?

[@lisas8244]

@Meela234 When you are narcissistic and have a grandiose view of yourself, you grossly over estimate your looks and charm.

[@Hatbox948]

If her appearance bothered him so much, why'd he marry her?

[@Parousia001]

@@Hatbox948Exactly! I wonder if it was because of her pregnancy that he now found her unattractive. If so, he’s quite juvenile and unrealistic in his expectations!

[@shellyharry8189]

I'm very surprised that Texas didn't give him the death penalty

[@ad6417]

Because juries falsely believe that a life sentence will be worse for a psychopath in the death penalty.

[@goshafrau3636]

I've noticed texas has this problem where religious people pretend to be DP qualified and give life no parole regardless. And it's often some realy realy heinous crimes, involving children too. I dunno how these 'juries' can wake up in the morning and feel ok about themselves.

[@mrjonesandme8848]

Too many libs moving to Texas

[@citizenoftheearth6]

he is white, Trump supporter, and has lots of guns. that is why

[@mrjonesandme8848]

@@citizenoftheearth6 he is white and the jury was self righteous liberals with BLM and Ukraine flags in their SM bio's. If he was a Trump supporter, they would've crucified him

[@valentinakren8816]

I think he married her because she made a lot more $ as a nurse. When she quit, his little Costco salary left little $ for his own vices and he grew to hate her because she was no longer the main breadwinner. The mortgage, groceries etc were all on him and he didn’t realize that

[@willnill7946]

Well she should have been working, being a woman is not an excuse to not work, kids or not

[@valentinakren8816]

Doesn’t excuse murder. Wow

[@lostandfound5145]

@@willnill7946no, taking care of a newborn child is far more important than making a little money. Priorities! I hope you’re not a parent.

[@CastledarkDweller27]

@@willnill7946idiot.🙄

[@NYCHFAN]

​@@willnill7946You obviously don't have kids. Taking care of a baby is a hell of a lot of work!

[@murphychurch8251]

The poor woman...she must have been so happy to finally have a living baby, only to have the little boy and herself murdered. 😢 Why did this ogre marry her, keep on being married and have a family with her when he didn't appreciate her? And then he just offed them. What an egotistical bastard. I hope he rots in prison.

[@dawn1913]

Thank you. So refreshing to hear blame where it belongs, with the one making the choice to murder. And not the murdered victim!

[@elizabethhamm5320]

Crazy why these evil men even bother to get married and have children. Thanks for another great video. I always love starting my day with an offering of your analysis

[@ad6417]

Because it provides them with a facade of being a good person.

[@jlllx]

they can't think or feel ahead.

[@ds7900]

Evil men? Have you watched the videos showcasing the women killers? Talk about inculpatort factors!

[@stardust4225]

Because it did serve them some purpose at some point. Then it didn't.

[@nataliep501]

Some people like the idea of having kids but don't want to put in the work and sacrifice it requires

[@RileyRunsWithScissors]

The moment he said his baby was still asleep at 10:30 am, I felt like he was lying and was guilty. Babies and toddlers don’t sleep in.

[@cee-emm]

A 3 month old baby is still going to sleep up to 16 hours a day and will still nurse/eat every 2-4 hours. I would assume that the baby was up to eat earlier and just sleeping again as that would be completely normal.

[@anamneses28]

I'm currently nursing a 5 week old. I was more suspect that mama was sleeping in. It's possible though when you only have one. Not for me though as we have 5. 😂❤

[@maiaallman4635]

​​@@anamneses28I agree. When my kids were small babies I almost never got a chance to sleep. Good luck to you and your baby!

[@jbellfield]

Ours wakes up at 7:30am like he has an inbuilt alarm, eats poops & plays then falls asleep again around 10 until lunch.

[@lostandfound5145]

They went out and then came home “to play video games” so it’s possible they would be taking a nap. Especially since mama was probably up a lot during the night. They probably really did lay down to take a nap when he murdered them

[@hotfudgecake]

As a mom i think this would be the most horrifying way to be killed. Stabbed while your kids are there. Its not an instant death . So while you are being stabbed and begin to bleed out ,your last thoughts are probably about what will happen to the poor baby, there is a killer in the house with the baby 😢😢😢 a mothers worst nightmare .this is so disgusting and sad . I wish we used the death penalty for things like this. Maybe they will. This monster deserves nothing less

[@Dhruv_Dogra]

Yes. He deserves it for sure!!

[@karenallen5208]

Years ago, they would've fried the monster. However, crimes like this continue to escalate because society has softened on violent crime. I have my own beliefs as to why, but I don't want to get into politics.

[@soulfoodsmama2980]

This is absolutely horrifying. RIP to the mama + baby. 🖤

[@dicedrice7216]

It seems I've been watching too many of your videos because lately I've noticed myself saying things like, "Here are a few things that stood out to me," and then numerically listing my concerns. Thank you for helping me communicate more logically.

[@angepack1]

I once told a friend I was trying to be “pro-social “.

[@bitteralmonds666]

"Now for the timeline of the crime..." Shit's about to get REAL 💀💦

[@vickinoeske1154]

Haha

[@katiesimpson8517]

Oh my! Me too. Watching Dr. Grande has assisted my linear thinking process. Sigh....

[@Ken-fh4jc]

I’ve been telling dry dad jokes. I’m not even a dad.

[@mamaduck9370]

I think I know why people blame "demons" for crimes like these, it's almost too hard to accept a mortal man could commit such evil just so he can live a bachelor's life. Thanks for the video.

[@carmendaniel3734]

A demon in human form. He deserves the death penalty. How could anyone kill a little baby? He better watch out in prison.

[@purplelove3666]

You must not know History.

[@barbieblue3336]

You're correct. Narcissism can be monstrously evil. Be careful

[@marcusaetius9309]

I suspect that once that guy gets into prison the other inmates will give him a “special “ reception…😠

[@jamesbowman6925]

I see a chronically dilated sphincter in his future.

[@Dhruv_Dogra]

Hope so!

[@stevendouglas6593]

Yes, let’s hope so. I also hope it’s slow and painful.

[@kenya1067]

This is so sad. Idek why he would go out of his way to create a family if he didn't want one. Absolutely disgusting. May they rest in peace.

[@ad6417]

Because it's part of his facade of being a good person.

[@elliebellie7816]

It's my opinion only but I believe the majority of men (not all but the majority) don't really want the responsibility for children but go ahead and say okay so the wife will marry them and start taking care of them. As I said, my opinion only.

[@HeyCutie90]

@@elliebellie7816I think this is very common. It’s rare to find a guy who wants children nowadays. Too much economic strain and the pressure always tops toward the direction of men. Not at all to excuse him for what he did, but I don’t understand why either of them opted to have a baby while not having a plan for finances. It seems like they both had decent jobs and could have made this work if they’d planned better.

[@lynnewilliams3241]

I too have so many questions. Why not divorce and abandon a child but to slit throats takes the facade of normalcy and the reality of a rabid animal. I will never understand.😢

[@lisas8244]

@@lynnewilliams3241 The answer is obvious. He wanted the $700,000 from the life insurance policy.

[@Kai...999]

For years I've been wondering something, how do you maintain your sanity from analyzing so many heinous cases?

[@tron.44]

He most likely switches KZbin mode on and off when necessary.

[@mrs.reluctant4095]

I do too.

[@stt5v2002]

I have worked in in ER for 23 years. I have seen a lot of tragedy, violent crime, and death. People ask me this often. The truth is that you just get so used to it that it doesn’t effect you in a personal emotional way. I know that sounds odd. I know it sounds like there is something wrong with me. I often worry about that too. But almost everyone who frequently sees this stuff gets used to it. I think most people would experience the same, even if they don’t think they would.

[@jeng8401]

It’s part of their training. I have a friend in HR and part of her training is handling being screamed at by disgruntled employees.

[@anthonynicholson5523]

No kidding!

[@DeidresStuff]

Insurance companies should have to report large increases in life insurance policies to the police.

[@CastledarkDweller27]

Bloody FANTASTIC idea!!

[@lisas8244]

Or demand that both parties are present when the papers are signed. Many times the partner doesn't even know a large life insurance policy has been taken out on them because the signature is forged.

[@Mang-ej5ul]

Maybe there is a financial incentive for them not to?

[@citizenoftheearth6]

@@lisas8244 I always wonder why is it legal to get insurance for someone else, without them being present, After all these murders motivated by insurance money, you think someone would think of changing the law.

[@derkeheath5172]

And what exactly would the police be able to do with that information? Absolutely nothing. It would be useless and a massive waste of their time. Large insurance increases are quite common, and the vast majority do not end in murder. Lisas8244's comment that both spouses' presence should be required when increasing life insurance policies is an excellent one, though.

[@yayinternets]

I grew up with Shanna (in a very small town, very rural area). She graduated HS in 1998, a year after I did. Our respective classes were maybe 20 students each, so a very small and tight-knit community. Shanna and I were Facebook friends, but I don’t think I’d seen her since High School.

She was a very kind person and it has been an absolute tragedy for her family and the community. Her parents are salt of the earth type of people; her mom (at least when I lived there) cleaned people’s houses including my parents, and her dad worked at the local tractor dealer as a mechanic. I always found the photos of Craig to be unsettling; something just didn’t seem right about him. I’m not some perfect social person by any means, but he just always had weird expressions, his beard was cut in weird ways, etc. Never met the guy, but I was definitely suspicious of him. Shanna was pretty shy, so I can imagine him being pretty persuasive. He also love bombed her in Facebook posts, especially in the months before her murder. Craig’s FB posts were shared to “Friends of Friends” and he had posted a few very unusual things in the hours after the murder happened. Something about going to Las Vegas to meet Trump that also contained “yee yee!” in them or something like that, but they have since been deleted. Her family initially supported him but backed off quickly after these posts, and him leaving TX. It’s a bummer that he never faced a real trial. Her family spent a lot of money on lawyers to help the trial keep moving, and the community had various fundraisers to help them pay for the expenses of lawyers and staying in TX for various phases of the trial.
 Lastly, I’ve been watching Dr. Grande for many years. I started back when he mostly covered psychology-specific topics. It totally caught me off-guard to see him cover a tragedy that I have a personal connection to.

[@pinkishpoo]

I agree: he looks fake, creepy, sleazy, empty, gradiose in the pictures, like trying to be funny/ happy human but failing each time. That what's narcisst looks like. I've been with one. I wonder why most people don't see/ sense that while it is so obvious.

[@gazepskotzs4]

​@@pinkishpooexperience with these people makes you recognise them

[@rebekah7635]

Sorry for your loss.

[@Kathy-us6zx]

I had a weird feeling too when I saw him in the pics

[@666ydney]

there is no such thing as a harmless narcissist 👏🏻

[@flem6]

I believe it’s in David Simon’s excellent non-fiction book “Homicide” where I first heard a detective describe how “the guilty ones always sleep”. Innocent suspects would be too distressed to behave like that. What a P.O.S.

[@srsusansummers3070]

I heard this on the show Murder She Wrote

[@alexpd308]

It’s one of the most disgusting crimes I can imagine. After all that loss, murdering your wife and baby . It’s unbelievably cruel.

[@Jem395]

I worked in the same warehouse where Craig was a manager. I appreciate you covering this case as I have always wondered what the outcome was. I spoke with the coworker you mentioned after the murders. This person said Craig hated his wife and had spoken at one point about killing her. But nobody thought he was serious. I didn't personally know him, but i saw him frequently at work. He seemed like a nice guy. You never know about people. I'm glad he's in prison. I still can't process what he did.

[@lisas8244]

@Jem395 Comments about killing a spouse should always be taken seriously. Even if you're someone who can't imagine really doing such a thing, there are many people who have no compunction about taking another person's life. We must speak up and get involved to save lives.

[@anonymousadult]

Be careful Dr.Grande! A rogue cactus is sneaking up on you to your right!! 🌵

[@m.f.richardson1602]

I love Thé candle cacti

[@dogsmumm]

His cacti are feeding my latent OCD tendencies. I try not to look.

[@allysonlamba2960]

too late, hes surrounded

[@dogsmumm]

They’re not symmetrical!

[@MaintainCampaign]

I always stare at the growing cacti collection over there! Oh they are on the left too!

[@dissidentfairy4264]

What a despicable man from every perspective!

[@michellestultz4211]

I am hoping that, if a friend or coworker mentioned to me that they want to kill their wife/husband and are having dreams about cutting off their partner's head, etc., I would do something about this. Not sure what but at least do something? I don't know. Maybe call the partner? report to management or some authority? This is NOT normal for people to tell other people this kind of stuff. He also told someone how easy it would be to murder someone (I think that is what Dr. Grande reported) and how he had constant thoughts about murdering (which I am sure was a set up so later he would have evidence that he was not in his right mind if he got caught and arrested). That being said, what a disgusting POS this guy is. Poor woman and her little baby boy. Someone here in the comments asked....why do these men marry and have children in the first place just to kill them all off? Yeah, what about that? AND thinking they can get away with it. It is all so mind-boggling.

[@lydiapetra1211]

They are the family annihilators...evil psychopaths... he should get the death penalty!

[@citizenoftheearth6]

I also can't believe people don't report things like that. awful.

[@bunnymad5049]

For someone who dealt in optics, I'm amazed he didn't see how weak his plan was. I'm so sorry for her and the baby and their loved ones.

[@DangItRed]

I love the sick burn when you said he underestimated how many women want someone that drinks and plays video games all the time. People like him deserve a reality check on how great they AREN'T.

[@Mang-ej5ul]

Dr. Grande! What are the red flags to husbands like this??? All these women seemed to trust their men not to murder the family. What did they miss?

[@angepack1]

I would think wanting your pregnant wife, who previously has had so many complications, to move across the country so you could have a better job at Costco would be a red flag

[@elliebellie7816]

@@angepack1 Plenty of non-murderous men move around for better employment and the family happily follows. Plus, you might want to check out all the benefits and perks of working for Costco - that would easily change your mind.

[@lostandfound5145]

@@angepack1not if the plan was to increase his salary so she could be home with the baby.

[@Emm325]

Check out Dr. Grande’s classic videos, one is entitled “10 signs you’re married to a narcissist/psychopath” etc. and they all have the same M.O, controlling, emotionally manipulating, gaslighting, entitlement, exploitation, scheming, thinking they are hot shit, (these go for men and women) increasing life insurance, having a secret life where they’re on a bunch of dating apps, spending and stealing money behind their spouse’s back, planning all kinds of ways to get rid of them as these grandiose losers always think that the spouse and child are the problem, when in reality it’s the psycho that is too cowardly to look in the mirror for the true source. That would also explain the delusion in how great looking they think they are in every case, when they are always the farthest thing from a prize. 😂

[@Parousia001]

@@Emm325If only they were easier to spot _before_ we end up marrying them!

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

This man is a monster, how could he do this despicable act with his own baby! Great review as always! I hope you have a wonderful Sunday, Dr. Grande.❤

[@bishopundead5478]

This is the best channel on KZbin period. The consistency of uploads is UNMATCHED. 👏🏼💯

[@leahvogelsimpson]

That poor mama & baby. I honestly hope he killed her first so she didn't have to witness the brutal killing of her precious newborn baby. It's making me cry just thinking about it.

[@Meela234]

Boy am I glad I subscribed to this channel! This kind of content with all the research, usually gets uploaded maybe once a week, if lucky. Dr. Grande uploads just about every day! Thank you!!

[@alicewunderlund]

YES, he is great!

[@pipermccool]

But I’d prefer that he ran short on material. 🫤

[@KH-on5pu]

I am your biggest fan from Saudi Arabia 🇸🇦😍

[@DarkAngelOfTexas]

How are human rights going over there?

[@lynnmothibeli325]

​@@DarkAngelOfTexasWhat kind of question is this?😂

[@DarkAngelOfTexas]

@@lynnmothibeli325it is an interrogative question.

[@tron.44]

You know it's not that great. But they have their good side, despite not being up to snuff w/ western human rights standards. This doesn't make the west better, just different.

[@velvetbees]

​​@@DarkAngelOfTexasBut this is not an interogation. It is a video by Dr. Grande. (Our favorite psych analyst and informal comic genius.)

[@katarina1852]

I don’t understand why someone would decide to slaughter their spouse and newborn baby when they can just get a divorce. Do the former and you deserve to spend the rest of your life in prison then rot in hell. His poor wife had no idea she had married and had a child with a heartless, homicidal monster.

[@pinkishpoo]

The answer is: Money. For a Narcisst divorce and child support is like loosing money and being miserable for years. In contrary he arranged a 700 000 insurance as a momentary money grab and already pictured exciting future with no burdens.

[@janeoleary8454]

$$$$$$

[@jimcronin2043]

He might have resented his wife because of the loss of her nursing income and the resultant financial problems. Perhaps she had agreed to return to work after the birth and then changed her mind. She probably would have done so because of her correct perception that he was unable to render sufficient support in caring for the child. So he blamed their problems on her and took none of the responsibility onto himself.

[@feanorian21maglor38]

Agree, but normal people have a few arguments over something like that and then find some middle ground. Did he really expect to get away with this? It's insane.

[@jimcronin2043]

If obsessed with his personal desires and an inflated self assessment he might have convinced himself. @@feanorian21maglor38

[@cynthiacruz297]

I was thinking the same.

[@lydiapetra1211]

He is a psychopath.....evil.. Selfish... without a conscience! Poor wife and baby!

[@jimcronin2043]

I don't believe that one can be a "psychopapth" and be "selfish " and "without a conscience" at the same time" because (as I understand it) psychopathy places a sufferer in a state of deluded sense of reality, without a sense of right and wrong or sense of guilt or innocence. @@lydiapetra1211

[@v.k.7413]

DID HE SEE HIMSELF IN THE MIRROR? I GUESS NOT…

[@meowmirrr]

I was with a sociopath for over a year. His ex had two miscarriages just like in this case. I've always wondered if he caused them somehow.....

[@bweaver760]

My conclusion: There are some really very sick and volatile men who will kill their own immediate families for selfish reasons!

[@Dhruv_Dogra]

​@@bweaver760women are no less though more likely to use poison not knives

[@bbailey3055]

@@Dhruv_Dograwomen kill less people by a lot

[@AntoDesormeaux]

@@Dhruv_Dogra um reality check, 9 out of 10 murders are caused by men. Vast majority of violent crime.

[@Parousia001]

I was wondering the same thing about Shanna’s miscarriages…did Craig maybe have something to do with them??

[@irfanyr]

Dr Grande is so good at explaining these situations that he rarely needs to show audio or video from incidents.

[@sopheadutch6350]

That poor baby🙊🙏😭...OMGAWWD 😳🤯

[@wmluna381]

I'm surprised I have yet to see a true crime recap on my old boss. I always found the way he spoke about his wife (with utter contempt) in casual conversation with multiple people was a bit crazy. He was also not as smart as he apparently thought he was. He once misused the word "combine" (farm equipment) when he meant "commune". He would also do sales and tell potential customers we served customers on all 7 continents. Such a lie. Especially when you consider how far Antarctica is from Detroit and he wasn't running some global manufacturing firm. Thought a murder/capture would be a sure thing in time. 😄

[@marspar]

Wait, was your boss’s wife murdered??

[@wmluna381]

@@marspar No, I am surprised she hasn't been murdered by him YET. After listening to so many of these true crime stories involving spouses offing each other, particularly in this case where the husband displayed an open hatred for his wife, it's just surprising to me Old Boss hasn't followed through yet.

[@adayinforever]

Moral of the story: if you are going to stage a robbery, dont forget to displace the valuable stuff. People dont usually break in just kill somebody, rustle through the drawers and leave.

[@goshafrau3636]

or better even, DON'T do any of this? the moral of the story is: don't become a pest like fugly craig, if you don't like being a husband and a dad walk away.

[@mykidsaresupercute]

You have to be a special kind of evil to slit your newborn child's throat!! That poor baby and mama. I hope she never knew what happened to him.

[@imaginationforsale]

Don't fall asleep in the interrogation room! That's a common psychological response to guilt, the cops put them in there alone to see if that happens! That's how they get ya!

[@SandroWalach]

It's like in those murder mysteries where lots of people are locked in a house and one of them is the murderer. If you were the murderer, then you'd be able to sleep easily because you do not need to worry about said murderer while everyone else in the house are terrified because they're not the murderer and don't know when or if the murderer will strike again.

[@Reallyheistaken]

An increase in life insurance would make me nervous. Does one know if a partner took out insurance on them? If the answer is no. I would snoop. If there is one and you weren't told, watch your back .

[@Parousia001]

What a revolting excuse for a human being! It’s so sad that these monsters are able, in many cases, to deceive others into falling in love with and even marrying them, not realising the pain-filled life they’ve signed up for, even for those who survive to old age. 😢

[@TheKatyPB]

Thanks, doctor. Right on the money about narcissism.

[@itchysheets1222]

I bet that coworker wishes she had told the wife or the police about his comments, I’d be afraid to work with someone like that from then on anyway so I wouldn’t care if it jacked up the vibe at work for a while

[@MEL2theJ]

Ugh! The baby though? Wow! Thank you again Dr. Grande 🙏

[@carweee]

woo!! A Grande Sunday Special 😄

[@BigZebraCom]

Just a reminder, I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating about what could be happening when a suspect Craig vandewege has a name that should be in a limerick.

[@annazaman9657]

A robot poorly impersonating a human. Apt description

[@wilhelmhagberg4897]

I have the feeling he might have been psychotic after all. He had talked about voices urging him to kill with his collegues. Some might argue this was in preparation for a planned insanity plead, but to me that doesn’t make any sense. The rational plan would be to avoid any suspicion by acting like a normal person and avoid any discussions about murder. The use of a knife also seems crazy beyond narcissism, why use the most horrific method available?

[@katfayegarrett3872]

How how how??? A 3 month old baby! 😢

[@srsusansummers3070]

The total horror of killing your whole family.

[@cynthiamurphy3669]

I wonder if he had his wife fooled all along that he could or would be a good breadwinner or if she just put up with it. As a nurse, how do you just quit your good job without being pretty sure your hubby can really support you and a child? No, I'm not blaming her, but if this guy was iffy or flaky to begin with as far as being dependable, it just seems to me she was playing with fire and maybe trying him (?). She obviously wanted a child pretty bad. Horrible way for things to turn out. Like everybody else here, I'm wondering how does a man look at his baby son and kill him?

[@wolfe6220]

I grew up in Fort Worth and daycare, on average, is not horribly expensive on a full time nurses salary. Don't know which hospital or clinic she worked at, but the hospital usually has one on site for employees, but not sure how much those would cost. For outside daycare, it averages around $800 per month in FW.

[@sharonhowell582]

Just some thoughts: She may not have been fully aware of their joint financial situation. Even if she knew things would be tight financially, she may have chosen to spend the early years of her child's life at home with the baby. As an RN she could have easily gotten another job if her husband was unable to handle the financial obligations alone. Secondarily she may have hoped him becoming the sole breadwinner would force him to grow a pair. In any event, this is a really sad story.

[@anamneses28]

The truth is often women don't realize how strong the instinct is to be at home with your baby until after they're born. Society has this whole daycare pipeline setup but the fact is that you have to go against your innate design to go that route. My SIL did this. After the birth of their 2nd child she didn't return to work without prior planning. She has a bachelor's and was earning $50K/year. Stressful to my brother but he rose to the occasion. It's been 10 years and they're doing well with the addition of a 3rd. I also walked away from my career as an RT. We planned it after realizing we were having our 2nd. It has been sacrificial but so worth it. We just had our 5th. It's an extremely common occurrence nowadays. There's a safe and careful way to go about it and a less careful way. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@reachingcoldmountainbeforeyou]

It's simple really, "The LOVE of money is root of all evil." My ex-husband tried to murder our child and I when he decided to come for a 'visit'. Why? Because I wanted SOME KIND OF CHILD SUPPORT. He left us. Not one dime in 12 YEARS. I constantly was like, shoes, need shoes, need a washing machine. He HATED it. So us being DEAD was an acceptable solution. He was also on a lot of dating sites. To include finding women from his early 20's he had dated and msging them to mess with them. Sicko. My ex had the same level of juvenile mindset of wanting to only play videogames and Drink, while thinking much prettier women would WANT him😂

[@cynthiamurphy3669]

@@sharonhowell582 I agree.

[@frankrio6389]

"Quit her job as a nurse..." there is his motive

[@willnill7946]

Women think having kids is an excuse not to work

[@CastledarkDweller27]

@@willnill7946 look - obviously YOUR wife (or someone close to you) may think having kids is “an excuse not to work” but stop generalising! Women in general don’t think like that, and MANY are very torn over such a scenario. You are starting to sound like a nagging whining incel and a bit of a misogynist tbh.

[@robinantonio8870]

​@@willnill7946they are. Do you do half the housework and childcare in your house?

[@Mint-kj9kw]

​@@willnill7946You never had a stay at home mom, did you... I'm sorry you missed out.

[@HeatherHolt]

Anyone who can kill a baby doesn’t deserve to ever breathe air again

[@ignilc]

many women get abortions...

[@karis7649]

It’s so hard to understand why someone would find this preferable to divorce. Not least because of the lifetime incarceration part. A person so selfish & narcissistic they’re deadly - one would imagine - would really not like being jailed until death. Doing it to an infant ? So monstrous.

[@vidkidz83]

Never underestimate a narcissist...

[@cathywithac3793]

Little DJ would've started 2nd Grade last month. Rest in peace little angel.🙏🕊😢

[@cheryljohnson866]

You narrate these stories so well; no need for videos or re-enactment.

[@Flamsterette]

Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande! Your true fans love your humor! Happy October 2023! Almost Canadian Thanksgiving!

[@cameronrobinson3933]

I read a book that was written in the 80s to the 90s that was by the guy who started the Behavioral Science unit in the FBI to hunt down serial killers. He said once he was asked by reporter if him detailing these crimes and how him and his partners solved them would help other Killers get away in the future. His answer was no. Because they find it at the harder somebody tries to cover up a murder the more evidence they leave behind. The most unsolvable murder cases are ones that are completely random. When someone kill somebody they know there will always be some kind of evidence.

[@johanpeterson9671]

Dr Grande breaking sh*t down like its going out of style.

[@mikeballard8404]

You can't even get away with murder any more.

[@lynemac2539]

Between DNA and people's Google searches, murders probably get solved more often these days.

[@bunberrier]

Ultimate selfishness. Wow. More selfish than intelligent too.

[@willywokeup9112]

Makes one wonder about two miscarriages

[@srsusansummers3070]

Indeed

[@balloney2175]

The fact that he increased the life insurance of his wife, suggests that there is a motive to kill and get that amount of money.

[@michiganjfrog5714]

I think he found himself a nurse with a purse and when she quit working, he decided to get rid of her. This is the saddest episode I have watched so far. What a heartless monster he was.

[@DottieMinerva]

I’ve seen so many true crime cases where someone opens up kitchen cabinets to fake a robbery. The last place home intruders are looking is the kitchen cabinets!

[@tortimeese]

What a horrible person. This is a small piece of this puzzle, but I immediately pricked up my ears at "video games." It's another form of addiction. I know that the vast majority of gamers wouldn't harm the hair on a baby orc, let alone their own child, but it is a world where a person can escape and devolve into subsistence. My adult nephew lived with me for about a year and when he wasn't at work, every spare moment was spent on a game called World of Warcraft. Because, he wasn't living up to his end of the bargain with me providing room and board for a few chores, I decided to pull the modem and take it to work with me one day. Now I worked in the entertainment business and saw all sorts of people coming down from benders on booze and drugs, but I was not prepared for the sight of the man who met me when I arrived home that day. He begged and pleaded with me to reinstall the modem and then became threatening to the point that I called the police. He cried like I was refusing him his last meal. He moved out. He lost jobs and his house due to beer, weed, and video games. Smokes, drinks, gambles, cheats, drugs--yep, just add gaming to the list.

[@velvetbees]

Condolences to the family and friends. How terrible.

[@agostinodublino1387]

PLEASE Dr.Grande, could you analize the case of ERIKA MURRAY?! how is possible that the husband never knew there was two of his own babies in the house?? How is it possibile that the 13years old lived in that trash without questioning? He knew how "normal houses" are. I mean, one DEAD dog and another dying?! I'm so shocked, thank you for your possibile future analysis

[@magdam8290]

Why didn't he get a death penalty? It was in Texas?

[@lostandfound5145]

Dallas is a big city so it’s pretty liberal, sadly

[@Meela234]

It happened in Dallas. Had it been in Houston, which is located in Harris County, it probably would have been a death penalty sentence. That county will hand down a death penalty in a minute!

[@tinacross3423]

Very good analysis Dr. Grande. Thank you. RIP to the victims.

[@beverlymccollum8861]

I knew they were headed for trouble when she quit her job. They lived in a very expensive looking house. No way could they pay their bills. Wish people would just stop having children if they can't make it on the husbands paycheck.. Money problems don't cause happiness. Ben Franklin let us know that debt is a terrible thing to live under.

[@AntoDesormeaux]

men like him lie about their money and are very bad at managing it

[@wisdomseeker3362]

Another _Grande_ video on a beautiful Sunday morning .

[@anonymouse6703]

So they planned several pregnancies but never thought about the finances? I grew up traumatizingly poor and can't wrap my head around people who plan a family but not how they'll afford it.

[@koreenal5056]

I Always look forward to Dr Grandes videos!!

[@Jaah18]

Greetings from New Zealand! Another excellent video, Doc.

[@enigine]

I like the cactus candles 👍

[@alexlamuraglia8739]

This is so disturbing and sad. Great analysis Dr. Grande❤

[@conorfitzmaurice8959]

A terrible crime has just happened here on Friday last. It was streamed on social media, I think it has to be one of the worst cases I have ever heard of. Please God justice is served. The whole Contry is in shock .

[@outofbodypickle8408]

Thanks Todd!

[@helpyourcattodrive]

Hmm. Sounds unbelievable! Let’s go! Thank you, Dr. Grande, for all your excellent videos. ❤ They are all interesting and informative. They are calming as well. ❤

[@NMA1105]

Craig is beyond a killer and a monstrous murderer

[@brihaver1951]

Awesome, as usual! ❤

[@palmereldrich]

The busiest analysist in the world❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@venderstrat]

My wife drives me mental, but I would never hurt her.

[@the_dark_one6052]

Not happy with his wife's appearance? Clearly hadn't looked in a mirror recently...........

[@miriamorwin7603]

excellebt annalysis, well done.

[@renee1961]

🌄 good morning, Dr. Grande! I hope you enjoy your day! Thank You!