What Brings On Self-Transformation?

[@danielherlihy8647]

I am a family practice doctor in the USA in Texas. After 30 years of practice, I have ne\ver heard such a competent psychologist. Please listen to this man and MAKE CHANGES where you must. Dr. Daniel Herlihy

[@ChocolateprincessMaya]

He did help me tremendously in the early stages of my healing. Im in the middle and still benefiting from him

[@escajedac2740]

Your Head looks fine and so do you

[@kiztorres3218]

I am tired of watching videos where the empath is elevated to almost "Angel against evil" status in the comments section, videos where exalting the empath is the bait; "you are a wonderful person " mantra. Thank goodness for your videos. I finally understand that being an empath is another self destructive personality. Unless I change (for good, not just escaping the narcissist that has turned my life into hell ) I will keep repeating the same patterns until I die, never understanding why I these nasty people are on the look out for idiots like me. I cannot thank you enough for sharing your level headed wisdom with us.

[@elizabethd.2555]

I believe it would take a very emotionally-strong individual to look inwardly so s/he can begin to heal. For an empath, it would be much easier to do than for a narcissist, because the empath is still operating from her authentic self--whereas the narcissist is operating from her false self. So when I hit rock-bottom due to narcissistic abuse, I was ready and eager to do the inner work because the foundation was already there; whereas the narcissist's foundation had been shattered.

[@bamkam4954]

Elizabeth D. Mbuhbbycuku

[@ellajo1209]

After years of work on myself I became stuck. Patterns were repeated over and over, until my health suffered from the enormous stress and strains of being a prisoner of my own mind. Almost dying, in physical and metaphorical sense led to the self transformation I needed to end the suffering and begin to live my life in the way I needed and wanted, without fear or shame. This subject resonates with where I am at in my life today. I am immensely proud of the work I have done to feel grounded and strong today. I am happy and free from internal suffering and have enough tools to ensure I am okay. Thank you.

[@vitalmindcoaching]

Thank you for sharing.

[@kerryirving2949]

ellajo1209 I’m SO pleased for you!

[@bernadettemcmaster4560]

kerry Irving Iam too😁

[@Lotusblume.8]

That’s amazing! I am just wondering if you ended up finding a partner as a result or if you are single and find that it’s easier to stay true to yourself through being alone? Thank you. 😊

[@Lotusblume.8]

That’s amazing! I am just wondering if you ended up finding a partner as a result or if you are single and find that it’s easier to stay true to yourself through being alone? Thank you. 😊

[@patriciatoderan]

It's not the lighting...it's your halo!

[@dawnross2514]

😇

[@ellajo1209]

Brilliantly put.😂

[@asktheetruscans9857]

That's awesome!

[@andreawallenberger2668]

It totally is!

[@Stephanie-rf9xs]

Thank you so much for your videos! I appreciate how you devliver intelligence, compassion, and solutions for highly emotional situations.

[@vitalmindcoaching]

Very kind, thank you.

[@Xscape128]

Radical self honesty, Suffering, Growth

[@Kat-yk8sf]

Thanks so much for addressing the subject step by step 🙏❤️ many of us are overwhelmed by the wish to start over our lives (inner and/or just our environment). And don’t know where to begin when you have this huge mountain in front of you!

[@vitalmindcoaching]

It is my pleasure, thank you for watching and engaging.

[@cynthiay9004]

Thank you!! My Suffering from influences entrenched in me from all sources,... I feel like I suddenly recognized too much manipulation from others. I can no longer be the host of human parasites. I don’t need anyone’s permission to become and be “me.” I have a greater value than I have ever been aware of,... until now. THAT true identity is my future, it’s what I have to look forward to in the days ahead.

[@kerryirving2949]

Cynthia Yakushev GOOD for you!

[@Gkuljian]

Excellent. I just had a conversation with someone regarding all of the years I suffered physical issues. I refused to accept information, as I thought I already knew the truth. There's no greater obstacle to seeing the truth than thinking we already know it. That's one reason why we continue to suffer. I eventually accepted what I had been told 20 years ago, and am transformed physically.

[@lisawilliamson815]

That is it!! I appreciate your choice of words when describing self transformation, especially the word, "suffering". Similar to the theory of "hitting rock bottom", I had to see that my choices and behaviors were no longer working. I am suffering and paying attention, to my pain. I hit the "pause" button on my life, because I don't want to play the same story again. I am now "sitting" in a place of "uncomfortable", and have been for weeks. I am no longer on auto pilot, covering up my pain with random people, relationships, or just being randomly "busy". I am beginning to feel a "newness" again, and I am starting to see a glimpse of a brand new me. I am ready to work on my inner self. Thank you for sharing yourself and your wisdom.

[@manasinishchay3475]

Lisa Williamson I can relate to that.

[@juice_wink]

You said this perfectly! Isn’t it beautiful!

[@victoriapierscinski4529]

I know I’m a map maker - ever onward and upward. Being a teacher, I recognize what a natural ability you have for using a foundation and steps to learning. I stand in awe! 🙏 thank you for your gift to the world.

[@thefalsecritic9520]

Suffering is being less than what we're capable of being. Wow, this series has such words of wisdom.

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

I believe either pain or motivation causes us to change for the better.

[@freiewahl5918]

Thank you, I'm looking forward to the new video series I'm in the process of transformation after being narcissistically abused in three relationships. It started with realizing: I cannot go on like that. It is a hard way , because it has many different dimensions and it includes: reprogramming our brain and our psychological make up - awareness is only the first step.. I'm looking forward to the way you see it and hoping for some good advice..

[@vitalmindcoaching]

Thank you, I hope you will gain insights with each new upload.

[@Antigashlighting]

1.suffering~gap between what you expect and reality Kalau memang work you dont have reasom to look inward Seperti Masuknya narsistik dalam hidup lo,kerja,hubungan

[@jeanettecampbell2110]

You are exactly right. "I'll never change!" he declared to me the morning after our first time together. Totally contradictory to what he soon after said: "We'll grow (emphasis) in love together!" and: "Isn't love great?" Big words expressed to my heart! Now I need out!....This guy turned into a monster. And just as you said, as long as it's working for them, why do things have to change? You REALLY helped straighten me out. You, possibly inadvertently, revealed me to him. Problem is, he's had 7 charges in the last 9 years and needs someone to drive. And I have the keys, and I want out!.............

[@bez1196]

Well, I hope you're out.

[@lostjunglist8704]

After I spend 12 hours non-stop on one way to heal .... I get overwhelmed when the work needs to happen & i move on to the next thing I think about.....I found you & could of saved myself a lot of time if I asked or was more honest with myself about how i should heal myself...Your wisdom has resonated with my situation in ways i blocked out and wouldn't face....Now i see why I am stuck with the process.....I got to face the blocks & accept the suffering....Thank You for your teachings!

[@iceangel1701d]

LOVE this new series! I wondered where you'd go next. This is a perfect segway to moving forward from narcissistic abuse. Great choice and thank you for your hard work!!!

[@staceyl618]

Thank you for your videos! I'm looking forward to hearing more on this. Would you please consider covering borderline personality disorder - especially "quiet" borderline disorder at some point in the future?

[@cmathias86]

Your work is superb! I believe that I am finally going through self-transformation after having been in two narcissistic relationships. You helped me understand my weakness as an Empath and that empowered me to change and to seek to understand the reasons behind my Empath needs and neediness. I’m surprised to see that some people around me is resistant and some what challenging me in the process of self transformation. It is as if my transformation is deeply uncomfortable or disruptive to them; putting the narcissist asides of course. My own Mother rejects my need to change myself and try to find reasons in the Bible to justify that I should remain where I’m with the narcissist. To self-transform one not only needs to be ready, but also determined and strong. One needs to put their own needs and well-being above others for a change and this in itself is very hard for an Empath to accomplish. Nonetheless, I’m pushing forward and viewing this phase of my life as spiritual selfcare that’s leading to a core transformation in my being. Thank you so very much for sharing your knowledge and wisdom and for guiding me. I can’t wait for the next weeks video. By the way, have you thought about coming to the USA for a weekend of coaching seminar? I think it would be very successful!

[@andreawallenberger2668]

cmathias86 you make some great points, well-said! I have experienced much of that "resistance" from others, even as you said, narcissists aside. Others who do not or cannot for whatever reason share the value or principle of self-development can really react badly sometimes, hurtfully even. Responding with compassionate patience & recognizing they are at their own level and that's okay is hard, especially when you feel like you're the one in need of it. I guess continually re-centering on compassionate patience (or amused compassion) for mySelf and others is what I'm working on mostly right now... Thanks for your comment, it reminds me/us other people may not exactly be jumping for joy upon realizing we are learning and growing!

[@cmathias86]

Andrea Wallenberger thank you for your points as well. I try to surround myself with like minded people and I’m fortunately to have two great friends who get me. For the ones who don’t, I’ve learned to keep to myself and share my thoughts as little as possible. Like you said, people grow differently and at different times. I’m just grateful that my time has arrived. Good luck to you! Trust your heart and match your feelings with your brain.

[@willnorris2339]

Hi, I've been studying philosophy and psychology for 6 years now and I've never come across a video that presents such personal, and universal truths so simply yet powerfully. Thank you Abdul.

[@emmap8530]

I was recommended to check out your videos. Yes I'm an empath, but i have transformed due to heartache through narcissistic abuse. Suffering is a choice, you can be emphatic but you can have boundaries. You can put yourself first and change the patterns in you . People then begin to treat you differently as you have self-respect so you attract people in that respect you. Narcissists are fundamentally insecure people and they need the empaths strength to lean on , but as empaths we must look at ourselves too . Once you begin to master this you won't tolerate disrespect. Some empaths get stuck in victim mentality and that is not healthy either. Thank you for your great work .

[@melaniel7263]

Oh we love your wisdom and your shiny head too! ☺️

[@1RPJacob]

9:05 I'm guessing because people prefer to suffer than to be uncertain. Familiarity is a very safe place. Good video

[@alwayslearningthankyou2708]

Thank you for your clear explanations. My transformation happened because I was given educational materials on narcissist/co-dependancy relationships and immediately recognized my own tragic situation. With this knowledge in hand when the stress and suffering reached a boiling point I had no problem creating "no contact boundaries" with the problem individuals. My life was instantly better. My continued studies on this subject act to further strengthen my new found confidence and freedom from all of the previous self imposed blame and guilt. I am finally able to like myself and feel fully at peace inside. And my new knowledge and awareness now acts as a permanent protective shield from any narcissistic attacks. I observe others going through all the same unnecessary personal trauma and want to enlighten and help them if possible. Educate yourself on who you are and learn the truth about those who control and hurt you. They are weak and you are strong and deep inside that scares them. That is why they continually threaten and try to control you. Set yourself free!

[@958342]

I literally feel like everything you say can be turned into a quote! I love your wordings, I love how everything you say resonates with me. I'm just so happy I came across you on KZbin. I am finding you extremely helpful

[@debifambro1039]

thank you... I really appreciate your teachings. thank God for the KZbin & algorithms that directed your

[@juice_wink]

This topic is so painful but required. The timing couldn’t be more perfect. Thank you.

[@las933]

Thanks for these amazing videos, a great series topic , much needed. Tuning in for the whole topic to unfold.

[@strandedinanisland457]

I love the fact that this is no positive sappy happy bullshit. This is very real and practical.

[@bretthall8115]

I am excited about this topic. Great communication skills.

[@stephaniehaney3130]

My suffering was brought on by the separation of myself and my identical twin during the discarding phase by her narcissistic husband who used my own identical twin to assert his narcissistic abuse. Now that I’m healing and out of the picture he’s moved onto her while I’m seeing her go through everything I did .

[@trhair1]

Thank you so much. This is so true suffering creates a desire to change. Thus forces you to look at old mindsets that keep you stuck. My healing journey meant letting go of everything that I thought I needed. And on purpose looking within myself.

[@christinetrombley6983]

Thank you for doing these videos. I believe this series will really help me, as your other videos have. I have never seen a psychologist understand an empath and narcissist the way you do. And I truly thank you for that. look forward to the rest of the videos.

[@tim5417]

Wow, this video hit very, very close to me personally. 7:50 and onwards is a very accurate description of where I am at the moment, I am going through a transformation and I am determined to continue it. Thanks for the video, and I will pay close attention to the upcoming videos! :) Take care!

[@layaross8513]

Brilliantly, eloquently & insightfully said!! I can’t wait to hear more. Thank you & heartfelt blessings for your guidance.

[@laurab.9845]

Time for me to transform so I'm not like people I don't like to be around that am kin to. Time to transform so I can handle living in the dysfunctional American society and culture without feeling so disgusted, frustrated and darkly hideous. So far all that is helping on this path is sane, helpful voices like Dr Saad and being mindful. Aka stop the feeling of being sick n tired with a wad of humanity. It's a daily struggle, like a form of rehab. Thanks for being here Dr Saad. I really appreciate your Be-ing.

[@kirstinstrand6292]

If I could, I'd move to Australia to work with you and share my history with you. I have so many insights based on personal history and YEARS of dream work and self analysis...not to mention SUFFERING. I was driven by my need to understand why my family of origin created such dysfunction in all participants. Processing the suffering and understanding why leads to Consciousness. Thank you Abdul - you are an exception.

[@tonyawhitehead2209]

I'm just now finding your channel for some reason? Too bad I didn't find it long ago because this is the most helpful information I have ever heard (and I've been watching and trying to learn for at least 5 years!) You are a true Gem! Brilliant! I can't thank you enough! Bless you ❤️🤗

[@mariepaulecoutens]

You are a delight to listen to! So clear and on point. THANL YOU!!!...

[@dawnross2514]

Huge gratitude to you for sharing this precious and important information 🙏 I'm keenly looking forward to the next video.

[@runwiththewind3281]

Thank you for helping me understand

[@k8eekatt]

WOW!!! So much more meaningful and reality based than many "life changing" systems. Was it Socrates who said, "Better an unhappy human than a happy pig"?

[@stseana]

Hello, I love your channel. I came across your full list of subjects and I am so pleased that you have mapped out every aspect of the transformation. 100% resonated to me. Thank you!

[@kirstinstrand6292]

Suffering for me developed in middle school when I needed to apply myself in school for the first time. Math, science required concentration; I wanted to focus and concentrate but I could not - even though I wanted to. I was 14 years old. I'll bet there are hundreds of thousands of young and old people that can relate to my story. It has taken most of my life - off and on - to understand why I could not concentrate. Lack of the ability to concentrate leads to a life of limitations and a life of even more SUFFERING.

[@reet6271]

Thank you Have been looking forward to this I am going pass it onto my daughter also I’m looking forward the weekly updates.

[@noorulainnaseem6298]

This is very useful plz dont linger too much between uploading this series videos. Looking forward

[@UntilThenn]

There is an animal called an ushghur, a porcupine If you hit it with a stick, it extends its quills and gets bigger. The soul is a porcupine, made strong by stick-beating ~Rumi

[@pauladuncanadams1750]

I really appreciate your videos. I love hearing your professional explanations and also your thoughts and opinions. You have a great way of putting things into words and perspective. I find your videos quite refreshing and stimulating. Thank you very much for sharing your knowledge and your time.

[@958342]

Please bring us more content. It has been a while and I am finding myself just on loop. We need new knowledge and for you to deliver it to us please. Thank you

[@Alizardlovesyou]

Very cool! Thank you for these!

[@kunkunaku]

I'm thinking this may be a lot of fun, self-revealing and formative. Looking forward to your future installments. Thank you so much for your contribution.

[@sugarfree1894]

I like the mix of psychology and spirituality in your films

[@radiojet1429]

Thanks, Abdul. Extraordinary video.

[@milenastankovic9665]

Great video! My experience confirms what you said about transformation through pain and suffering. Looking forward for your new videos. Thank you.

[@pam2727]

Thank you I look forward to the next video.

[@yoneekscott3136]

Really great information. Thank you

[@sue2272]

Elisabeth Elliot defined suffering as, "Not getting what one wants, or, Getting what one did not want". I can see parallels with your definition.

[@cujamrasalgethi6994]

Theres nothing wrong with having a "Shiney Head." ...Embrace your Light, as well as your Shadow, doc. Keep up the good work.

[@kerryirving2949]

I’m a new subscriber & this is the first video of yours I’ve seen so far. The last part of what you spoke about about suffering relates to me aswell as suffering loss. I have bpd with phycotic features & I had another phycotic episiode in January & haven’t long came out of it. I’m being discharged from mental health services in January next year- my cpns ( community phycatric nurse) says the reasons she’s discharging me or whoever is discharging me, that people can’t be in mental health services all there lives. She REALLY hasn’t helped or supported me since my mental health detriated in January this year

[@vitalmindcoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Kerry. I plan to do a video series on understanding psychosis in the future, when time permits. All the best to you.

[@kerryirving2949]

Vital Mind Psychology my phycatrist says I haven’t got phycosis. They say it’s bpd with phycotic features or he’s used the term phycotic episodes. I’ve had 2 phycotic episodes ( as they called them) & I was diagnosed with bpd about 10 years ago. Thank you for replying to my comment anyway

[@sarajaneclarke]

Thank you for this excellent explanation Abdul. I feel I am in the beginning phase of self transformation after enough suffering. I look forward to the upcoming videos. I am deep into seeking out strategies for healing old wounds and ways in which to manifest more joy into my life 🙏🏻💛

[@dollarsmum3453]

Necessity is the mother of innvention

[@lindytyler619]

Excellent video! Looking forward to the series.

[@jcat7553]

Invitation for self transformation! Thank you!!

[@contiflex]

Thank you for your clear explanation and information.

[@mainlyfine]

Nobody noticed your shiny pate until you mentioned it 😐

[@vitalmindcoaching]

Good to see you're paying attention!

[@BindingTheYoke]

what are you on about Xiao... he's sending a signal into space with that dome.. lolzzz >_

[@narcsinart7179]

shine on!

[@Xscape128]

Lol I was thinking the same. Better not to mention anything sometimes

[@paulofurtado81]

All that brightness just triggered a migraine here. hehe

[@annvining5243]

i am loving your vidios, agreeing with everything your saying, cant wait for the nexy one, im very interrested in.

[@measaul7514]

Thank you for your always help- und mindful insights. I already watched the series about narcissism what explained to me a lot. I am curious to learn and get more help regarding self transformation. Suffering is indeed the main cause which urged me to do more inner work. I am writing from Germany, maybe my grammar und spelling is flawed.

[@k8eekatt]

Your English is much better than my German! 😃

[@KaoXoni]

I'm from Germany, too. Let me know if you're interested in some exchange.

[@measaul7514]

Hi, Sonja please let me know where you are from. Wir können uns aber auch auf Deutsch unterhalten. Ich nutze diesen Kanal, weil ich mit einer narzisstischen Mutter aufwuchs und daher immer wieder an Narzissten gerade - so lange bis irgendwann der Groschen fiel. Es ist hilfreich, sich Hintergrundwissen anzueignen, um den Kreislauf zu unterbrechen. @@KaoXoni

[@triciar6684]

thankyou for sharing!

[@Lillyofthevalley222]

Is it only me, or does anyone else have a strong sense that Dr. Saad is an empath. His presence is very calming.

[@sallyannhines7193]

thank you for explaining. ..I have had this happen to me.

[@lisamartinez6899]

Don’t worry about the shine ! God doesn’t cover beautiful ! Lol

[@peaceglory5973]

Thank you for your insight on suffering. To answer your question - as a recovering codependent empath, and an INFJ (with ADHD), it occurred to me that I have not at all considered what I have been experiencing as "suffering". I did not really have a word for it, but suffering is a very accurate word. Could it be that this is due to Fi being lower in the functions stack? I find that I am very attuned to the suffering of others (Fe), but not my own. I'm learning to discern my own emotions & needs, your videos are helpful. Huge thanks.

[@ChocolateprincessMaya]

It is exactly the same for me and what has happened as a result of childhood trauma.

[@christinemiller6566]

Thank you! 🦃🍂🍁🌰

[@doublea7054]

I stopped partying and that brought on some big self transformations.

[@timtomp1234]

More about Cluster B Narcissm please!

[@vitalmindcoaching]

No new videos on narcissism scheduled for the rest of this year but more planned for 2019.

[@timtomp1234]

@@vitalmindcoaching Nice!

[@annamariaricci2146]

The most horrendous thing is that narcissist get away with everything they do and the moment I m dealing a lot with the tern injustice!! Because they inflict great harm in other people life an they always get away with it!!! 😒

[@joannesferrati3076]

Very good work.Thank you!

[@escajedac2740]

Thank you for sharing

[@kellylee5235]

Makes so much sense.

[@1jw298]

I found transformation through Jesus Christ. I don’t fall into the strongholds of the past anymore.

[@vitalmindcoaching]

That's wonderful to hear - faith can be incredibly transformative.

[@kerryirving2949]

1jw2 I turned to god ( praying ) sometime after January this year

[@manasinishchay3475]

In this context, faith and transformation, what I have seen happening with me is- with my ongoing transformation, I look upon God differently now. There's a change in the way I pray :-) Great going Dr. Saad! Looking forward to the next videos!

[@conversacionesconmipadre]

Fiction can be very helpful...

[@asktheetruscans9857]

@@conversacionesconmipadre Your ridged intolerance and lack of empathy is showing. If someone finds consolation and growth through Jesus, why would you want to cause them to doubt themselves and God? That's a form of gasslighting.

[@oneroughsketch]

I don't necessarily agree that narcs don't change because what they do works for them. I think that they are so convinced that if they suffer, it is the fault of someone else, that they continue with what causes them to suffer but change their situation / job / partner/ habitat etc in the belief that that will rectify the "problem", which during the love bombing phase it does. But then around they go again, unable to self reflect.

[@annamariaricci2146]

They point is that narcissist do not even change when they suffer because they can t stand to be wrong!

[@Mando_Starkiler]

I like your shining head! Lol!

[@michaeljacksonearthangel5849]

Thank you!

[@lenabigonia333]

So good.

[@juanitasagusky8195]

I don't understand how a narcissist can do a complete turn around after years of being me, me me. But it happened. After trying to analyze I can not even see any suffering that may have caused this over night change. Very confusing.

[@kerryirving2949]

Juanita Sagusky GOOD for you! & good luck! 🍀

[@k8eekatt]

There are other forms of radical transformation. Each person has a unique relationship with there own inner mind and the divine mind and other people.

[@elsagrace3893]

Juanita Sagusky I’ve noticed that people with very poor boundaries and very vague sense of self accuse regular old people as narcissists. So it may be more to do with your twisted perspective. This regular old person may have come to understand your extreme weaknesses and now can treat you with kid gloves.

[@KaoXoni]

@@elsagrace3893 Hmm. I may be one of these poorly bounded individual's that has come to think of a certain, particularly edgy, demanding ans beyond-my-grasp oldie in my life as at least highly probably narcissistic. But you've got me re-thinking that... Not Sure what to make of it, as the current status operandi for me is that I can't deal with him without being trapped, exhausted etc... So I would still have to wait for my own transformation first before healing the interaction.

[@ritagaston1556]

Will he tell us the road of transformation is endless. Can go on until we die if we take on that journey

[@wakeup608]

Sound great

[@SteveWrightNZ]

6:30 boom!

[@ianfell1625]

How do you verbalise all this? @abdul Saad Unbelievable insight, have you personally experienced this way of being?

[@robinjessop6607]

You Sir are a God send! I am extremely grateful to you. Can we clone you? Lol

[@lollypopnarcy7585]

The first change is to leave the Narc , right?

[@ggsplace69]

Thank u

[@ReneeFit]

Dr Saad.. I want to thank you for your work. I did make an inquiry for empath coaching. I have been doing some work and can see that my codependency is as result as attachment trauma experienced as a child. Some is repressed. How can I dig this up so I can treat the real issue?

[@TheWindyanne]

i love your vdeos and it is a halo!!

[@markcaseon7136]

People transform when they reach a dead end.

[@BindingTheYoke]

Now is the winter of our discontent...

[@karmpuscookie]

Last winter, there was a store in town selling discount tents.

[@stepsofashaman...4283]

I get it... get a job... I am suffering due to a job that can not provide for my needs, according to some. Really? I have been applying for jobs to no avail. They can choke on it... Building a truck camper and dropping out. Nature and being alone is better.... at least I can BE satisfied. Might be barbecuing hot dogs with a propane torch to eat. I am happy without their judgement.

[@jackdeniston9326]

Shiny, but with a top beardness