What Does It Feel Like To Love Yourself? | The 4 Essential Components of Self-Love

[@nalayini1504]

I love your insight and honesty and humility, this video gave me peace as I too like others did not understand what SelfLove is. You are spot-on Susan 🙏🏽💕

[@SusanWinter]

I love your comment and thank you so much for your support

[@nalayini1504]

@@SusanWinter 🙏🏽💕

[@SusanWinter]

@@nalayini1504 thank you!!

[@lucyloo7457]

Spot on!!!! ❤I’m 64 years old now. These people on social media are laughable!!! ❤. I’ll take old school thinking. I’m a fan for life! Much thanks and appreciation Susan!!❤

[@SusanWinter]

You are welcome, Lucy Loo!!

[@juliejuju7419]

"Don't bite the bait." No truer words spoken

[@SusanWinter]

❤❤❤

[@AAPAI_24]

I remember the times when the pinnacle of success was to have health, a loving boy/girlfriend, a stable job that paid ok and time to spend with friends and family. Now it seems that unless we make ‘six figures’, look 25 forever and want to ‘retire by 40’, we failed at life. I am in my late 40’s and the past year and a half has been spent reviewing what makes me happy, who and what do I want in my life and remembering how grateful I am for being alive and so fortunate to live in a country where I can be a free woman. I am happier now than I was in my 20’s and feel the same excitement at the opportunities in front of me. I think I started to love myself a lot ❤

[@SusanWinter]

What an absolutely wonderful share. Thank you for this. And so wise. I agree with you wholeheartedly.😊

[@vixter28]

I’m happy with my life and what I have ❤ my family & friends I have come a long way from the person I used to be 😍

[@ericpass9749]

This is such an important message. We need to strive to have a life that is well-balanced. You truly have to love yourself before you can truly love someone else.

[@SusanWinter]

Eric. Thank you

[@rozitaharun6979]

Be true to your authentic self. Many thanks for your personal insights. In the journey of ageing ,losing people your love you find yourself that you are left to love oneself. No more comparisons. Just do what makes you really happy and content. Appreciate who you truly are and be content with it.

[@SusanWinter]

Fantastic message. Thank you, Rozita

[@zenmaiden1]

Love this Susan❤, it’s a step we all must take, along the way, self acceptance to love .

[@SusanWinter]

Zen Maiden!

[@meganhendrickson753]

I’m really liking this video about self love Susan. I would love more of this type of content. You’re always so supportive and knowledgeable. I admire you.

[@SusanWinter]

Hi Megan. You are reading my mind. Although my niche is relationships, I do want to talk more about the self. Because at the end of the day, we are the center of every decision we make, and how we are aligned with ourselves has so much to do with getting the outcome we desire.

[@barkharani2693]

Hi Susan.. You look really pretty in this close view video.. I really admire your point of view about Instagram publicity & the concept of looking for acceptance from outer world. I myself don't like Instagram for so many other reasons and feel happy even though I may miss out on what my friends might be doing.. Coz honestly we really don't need to know everything about everyone.. 😊

[@SusanWinter]

I agree. And unfortunately, I have to do this for business purposes. I began Facebook with around 30 friends. And they were actual friends. But things can become greatly distorted, especially I think on Instagram. The presentational aspect and the intense materialism has had serious consequences an entire generation of individuals.

[@lyndamcmullen5506]

How true you are. Thank you ❤

[@SusanWinter]

Lynda❤

[@Stacylynn2023]

Thank you for this video❤

[@SusanWinter]

Stacy, you are welcome. Thanks for watching!

[@CarrieLovesLife.]

Thank you Susan, I am mostly very accepting of myself, but I have been struggling with trusting my choices following a my recent divorce, after only four years of marriage. I am in my 60’s, was in a really great place and loving my life before inviting this man into it, and at the very least, I greatly misjudged our compatibility. (This is the nicest spin I can put on the relationship.) I am having a hard time finding the ‘gift’, if there is one, from this five years of my life, which does indeed feel wasted. So, now, after a couple ‘failed’ marriages, I am having a hard time trusting my ability to make a sound judgement when it comes to men. Not sure that is a path I ever want to take again. The rest of my life is lovely.

[@SusanWinter]

Carrie, I love your handle. You do love life. We've all made those mistakes. But it's not as though we walked into disaster. More times than not these partners postured to be a certain type of person... that they were not. Normally through misrepresentation. And I agree that it is really hard to find the gem in a relationship that was unrewarding. I would really like you to consider a session with me. I would love to get to the bottom of this and clear it up and help you find that gem. Please think about it.

[@stubbler1969]

Love this Susan, thank you. It really makes it quite simple, a couple of shifts of perception.

[@SusanWinter]

It's a lot easier to like ourselves than it is to love ourselves. And that starts with being OK with who you are and the choices that you've made given the information you had at the time. So incrementally, we slowly start to understand we can call that "love."

[@crolleserre8382]

Dear Susan , thank you ❤

[@diaryofawimpycollegegirl5149]

So helpful thank you. I really feel like I can take those first steps now

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks for this comment. I'm really happy to read what you've written.

[@mssassy6129]

Beautiful.

[@samansoltanian3275]

Thank you susan

[@edytadelfel249]

Absolutely ❤!

[@SusanWinter]

😊😊😊

[@indyd9322]

This video was so good, thank you! I like the idea of having self-compassion for the choices you've made, accepting that you were working with the best information you had at the time. But what do you do when you did have knowledge, but made a poor choice anyway? For example, I have stayed in relationships I should have left much sooner. Looking back, I DID see red flags, but for whatever reason, those red flags didn't jolt me to leave. It wasn't like I had no knowledge there were issues, I could feel something was off, but I didn't act. The best way I can describe it is like being in a trance, you see a thing, but you don't register its significance fully. Hope that makes sense.

[@SusanWinter]

I understand. And I have done the same. But when I analyze the poor choices, I realize there was a greater issue that was being solved at the time. Perhaps I was lonely. I felt disconnected. I needed a sense of family or belonging… So while the compromise and poor choice was made, it actually served as a Band-Aid for another greater issue. And again, in a case like that,when we develop better skills of dealing with the root cause of the issue, we are then able to make better choices for ourselves, and no longer need the assistance of a sub optimal choice

[@indyd9322]

@@SusanWinter That makes so much sense, thank you!

[@AnniXmusic]

You have put this into words so wonderfully 💜Love it :) thank you Susan!

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you Anni.

[@h-l-l]

It's never too late to de tran sition ❤

[@kirkwhite1736]

Self Love has brought nothing but Loneliness to me. I have tried to find a woman to be my partner but it never happened. I have wasted my life trying to have "Self Love". And when I got glimpse of it, something bad happens and I feel worse than before. I choose to live alone now because my opportunities to find love are miniscule now. Self Love = Narcissism

[@SusanWinter]

I'm sorry to learn that this has been your experience. But I must disagree: true self love means liking yourself. It means being your own best friend. It means learning how to kind to yourself and to foster resilience. I do understand how self-love is confused with narcissism. On first glance, that's what we all see. Involved, self obsessed, narcissistic person, but thinks only of themselves. But that's actually not self. I wish you the best and thank you for your share.

[@kirkwhite1736]

@@SusanWinter I disagree with this. I work on being kind to myself and others. I still feel Self Love is phony. I have been told you need to "Love Yourself" before you can have a relationship. Well if I love myself I don't need to find love from another person. I would be quite happy by myself and no need or want from any woman. I would be quite happy alone for all my life. As far as Self Love = Narcissism, obviously you don't live in America much. Sadly, this is what is expected in today's world. Narcissism is rewarded more than virtue is today. It is Sad

[@Tilda_87]

I really needed this now. Thank you, I love your approach, you are deep and honest.

[@SusanWinter]

You are so welcome