Why are adult friendships so hard? ft. Lois You & Michelle Kwhak | ON THE FLOOR EP 3

@LoisYou and @michellekwhak joined us to chat about all things friendships! How do you set healthy boundaries? How important is history? When is it time to let go of a friendship? Grab a snack because this is a long one!
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Let us know your thoughts on these questions in the comments!
✧ what type of friend are you?
✧ what are some challenges you've faced when making friends as an adult?
✧ how have you made friends after moving to a new city?
✧ how do you maintain long distance friendships?
✧ any friendship red or green flags?
✧ thoughts on mixing friend groups?
✧ how important is history in a friendship?
✧ how do you address hard topics with friends?
✧ what is a healthy boundary in a friendship?
✧ how do you know when to let go of a friendship?
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[@LoisYou]

Ahh so honored & thank you again for having us on OTF- was a little nervy but thanks for being the best hosts and making it easy for us to chat & open up ♥

[@miandryy]

U did great 🤍

[@estherys]

you and michelle are naturals 🥰

[@SophiaHyewon]

It felt like I was having a deep conversation with my friends the entire time I was listening. Thank you, everyone, for sharing your experiences and insights. Loved this episode! ❤️

[@hchung155]

Love the insightful, but cozy and chill energy of your podcast! We need more than one episode per month though 😥

[@memoriesxt]

Thank you Esther, June, Lois, and Michelle for this AMAZING talk! GREAT TOPIC! Please have another episode with everyone talking about boyfriends (in for the long haul, arugments, boundaries), and work, money, etc. MORE PLEASE.

[@estherys]

ooh that's a good idea! loved lois and michelle on the episode too - need to invite them again 😘

[@mariewee2671]

Such an insightful episode. I learned a lot from all of you and resonated with many things said in the video, thank you.

[@1e_s]

probably my favorite ep by far ~ can't wait for more genuine + relatable topics like this one!!

[@user-dh3cz4wn4u]

Love the whole episode 🤍🫂

[@maggiemeichyi]

loving all of your podcasts!

[@Ashley-ko2mq]

Such a wise & mature ladies 🥰 Listening your podcast in this rainy day.. especially about friendship is perfect~🥹 Thank you all :)

[@nicolehyc]

This was a great episode. I really enjoyed listening to the part about communication styles and how you all handle difficult relationships! I'm sure a lot of viewers/listeners have picked up a thing or two from this 😁

[@coIdside]

Wow absolutely love this topic and everyone’s insights! 😍 it’s so hard making friends in your 20s and so many things that were said resonate with me. Can’t wait for more episodes! 🤍🤍

[@estherys]

glad you enjoyed it! ♥️

[@leeroyjenkins867]

I honestly thought i was alone in thinking it was so difficult in adult friendships. Thanks for sharing this, super keen for ep 4 with the same group. Subscribed

[@claudiachan4854]

Love getting your insights on these topics! Out of curiosity, will you ever resume uploading an audio version on Spotify?

[@estherys]

it will live just on youtube for the time being! will update you all if that changes ♥️

[@kiarashooks444]

great chat!! thank you for this!!!

[@143handbags4]

Hi, a lot resonated and made me think of my friendships. I need to try and be more intentional. Thank you for sharing a great topic.

[@estherys]

trying to be more intentional in my own friendships too ♥️

[@withloveames]

thank you for sharing this heart-to-heart talk! so glad your video was recommended to me, the topics really resonated with me personally. Looking forward to more videos like this💞

[@estherys]

thanks for watching💖

[@dt9538]

this was so good and insightful!!! we need another

[@helena1205]

love love LOVE on the floor releases

[@anitacarolina4149]

This is insane !! Please share more content like this 👍 about friendship and real raw people thought

[@sneakymoon_]

Wow this was such a fun listen! I really vibed with michelle 😊 thx for a super cosy poddy ep! ❤

[@elliellieelliee]

Esther is a great host! She is patient and makes everyone feel comfortable.

[@estherys]

aww thank you 🥺🥺🥺

[@1125Joanna]

Can't wait for Episode 4 already!

[@ElmoTinker]

I can relate to Michelle a lot, especially when she spoke about her approach to friendships. I dont, personally, find it necessary to contact and meet up with friends on a frequent basis either. It's always a good time, regardless.

[@andrea_hatfield]

wow i felt so seen! Can’t wait for more episodes! ♥

[@estherys]

so glad you enjoyed♥️♥️

[@siennas]

it looks like making friends comes easily for you. watching your videos gives us a view of your large circle of friends and many many fun times you have together. you could make more videos giving insight on how to make new friends and keep existing ones. This is particularly a problem when you move, or your circle shrinks over time.

[@haesolhan5520]

More podcasts please 😭🤍 I loved y'all's dynamic

[@hyunjin.park.]

wow i felt sooo seen and understood in this episode!!

[@estherys]

ahh that's the best 😭

[@frhbbtx]

In the beginning, hearing you guys talk about how you make friends in a new city. I’ve moved to my current city but it’s so hard for me to make friends. I think it’s because I am afraid of meeting new people. I’ve attended some events but I am so socially awkward and shy that I just close myself off. And I do get peoples Instagram and we talk online but it’s hard to move that in person cuz I’m scared I can’t continue a conversation irl.

[@yoonmiseo6079]

Hi esther❤️ love your videos. I’m based in LA, was wondering if you had any food recommendations

[@ByKristyLin]

Haha I do a combo of June and Esther, like I'll mirror people's energy and especially if they hug loosely or tightly, but if someone is more shy than me maybe I'll fill in the gaps and talk more or if they are talking a lot, I'll settle into the listening role sometimes

[@Matchalemoncake12345]

Can you and June please do an episode on your relationship?

[@estherys]

i thought people would be tired of just us two! 😆 any specific questions for us?

[@jellee886]

Please more podcast !! I love these 😊😊

[@ratchl]

AH this was really helpful and relevant. Honestly .. adult friendships are so hard 😫 low key I want to just move away from everyone LOL Can you do a part 2 sometime??

[@rcuevas2728]

not you holding the microphone during the sponsorship portion 🤣 too cute! This episode is great, deff confronted and encouraged me. Making friends as an adult is not easy but it sure is rewarding. There is so much success, advice and evolving times to share with others that as a younger person you could never experience.

[@jjohn1388]

look forward to more floor chats

[@wendychan6195]

Great insight!

[@gaositwe4464]

I was just thinking about you... Thank you... 🎉❤😂

[@hihaileebyee]

Awww I love everything about friendships topic! But I’m still very curious why you and Michelle were no longer friends😢because when I finished this episode I don’t really think you guys are easily just broke up😮

[@ani9603]

Hi everyone! Thanks for talking about this. Great topic.❤

[@estherys]

thanks for watching! ♥️

[@Saraseoyeong]

Hi Esther! Thank you for this podcast- it seems like the last part was little cut off somehow. Is there any platform that has the entire episode? Thank you!!

[@estherys]

it should work now!

[@gracecanlas]

Can’t get enough of this topic lately, especially in adulthood. Thanks for the great epi!

[@estherys]

thanks for watching!!♥️

[@alejandromarquez9368]

Sweet friends podcast

[@athenazang1201]

Esther is really on her gears

[@senjamir_]

❤

[@thekristineway]

I recently had a falling out friendship because it seemed pike my friend chose to be with a toxci, manipulative guy...we all warned her and saw the red flags but she chose to walk away from all of us....we were a friend group, still healing. I do miss her presence at times

[@estherys]

thank you for sharing :/ that must have been so hard..

[@MonetteSola]

Is your podcast available on Apple podcast?

[@laurelli5756]

yea, same question here. And how about on Google podcast? I don't see it getting updated either.

[@estherys]

nope, just on youtube for now!

[@cheeky_monkey_No1]

how do you find out your values? I am not sure what my values are at all....

[@pg9467]

Is this on Spotify too?

[@estherys]

nope, just youtube!

[@Melinda1719]

When will we have more otf episodes 😢

[@junodaciuk4003]

i would love to be on this podcast even though i dont do youtube LOL

[@Chloe-er2uj]

예은님 한국어자막 필요해여ㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠ 로이스 말 넘 빠름………😮😢

[@felicialalremruati8478]

Otf☺️

[@tyangzomm0802]

Esther!! You and Michael Choi not frens anymore?

[@mcmoy4105]

are you friends with Michelle Choi or Freesia anymore?

[@torandbuch3028]

And to be honest, the woman on the left with the black clothes is the kind of "friend" you need to avoid. When she talks about "gossip" is a good thing and laugh about it, you know that is the biggest red flag ever. Treat people with RESPECT and don't gossip in general, no matter if the person is a friend or not. Like, do not gossip about a person you do not even know closely. LIKE WTF IS THIS BEHAVIOR??

[@estherys]

hi again! hahah ok i agree with you that people who love to gossip can be a big friendship red flag - but i don’t think that’s what michelle meant! her comment was more in the sense that people gossip and when they do, she thinks it can be helpful in learning about who they are as a friend by what they say. for example, if a friend is saying “i can’t believe they did that” about an action, then that says something about their values. i don’t think she was saying gossip = good or encouraging gossip (ofc in a perfect world we wouldn’t gossip at all) but more so, people will gossip, and when they do, she’s saying it can sometimes be helpful for her when gauging what the other person values in friendships

[@gmsk1]

Love June in your other videos but for this it felt like he was the 4th wheel.

[@estherys]

i think his guy-to-guy friendships look a little different so he played the listening role more in this episode!

[@shockcafe]

@@estherys i think it'd be interesting to do a reverse take and get a podcast on male relationships as well!

[@mu7336]

love that the pod is back but plss get some new topics, its getting repetitive imo. no hate just an observation:/

[@143handbags4]

Hi. I think she mentioned another time while answering a Q&A that she would touch more on the subject in a podcast. She’s only answering what they ask and they ask this often. Maybe because she seems to have great, genuine friendships; very refreshing to see in such a superficial world. 😊

[@estherys]

thanks for your suggestion! still trying to find the balance between creating content that i want vs what people ask for. but i think since friendships is such a broad topic, it doesn't hurt to do multiple episodes on this! there was so much that we didn't get to because of time 😅

[@torandbuch3028]

5:00 : Matching energy is really something that is really fake and you cannot keep ongterm friendships if you always act in a way people around you want to see you. Think about political views: So you are a democrat on mondays, but a Republican on tuesday? Not good

[@estherys]

yeah i agree with you that your values and beliefs shouldn’t change! what we meant by matching energy was just in terms of introvertedness vs extrovertedness 🤓

[@torandbuch3028]

@@estherys I know, but I think, that even matching " introvertedness vs extrovertedness" is not something that leads to long tearm friendships. Because introvertedness and extrovertedness are beasic beliefs, basic lifestyles and basic values . :)

[@estherys]

hmm i see what you mean! like you think people should stay true to who they really are no matter who they’re with. i think i just get more in my head when i meet new people and try to make them feel comfortable depending on the energy im sensing. not saying one way is better than the other! but once i reach a level a comfort and trust with someone, im def more like you