What 'feelings-perfectionism' is and why you probably have it | HealingFa.com

[@coreygeiger81]

as always Paulien, you nailed it. wanting the other person to be perfect to my warped standards/wanting myself to be perfect to the point of not feeling like enough, has ruined personal relationships for me.

[@jasperjohns5956]

Yes I know this Paulien- not allowing negative feelings to be has been part of my 'programming'; it is profoundly unhelpful, and has often led me to feel dishonest and bad about myself. It also leads to self-negating attitudes which lay us open to narcississistic manipulation and unjustified self-recrimination. These are subtle processes, but also very powerful; to become aware of them is of course even more powerful; thank you so much again for your insights and help

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

I'm so happy you are here, because becoming aware of them is the first step to more freedom and I so wish that for you!

[@daniemotioninsound]

I resonate so much with everything you say. I had been using self development as a tool to reach a goal of always feeling good and perfect, not having to deal with negative feelings at all. Or I thought, when I heal all my traumas, I will feel good, or I will be worthy of being in a relationship. Life is hard when the brain is your enemy, but I'm glad there are people like you who share their valuable insights. You help me so much with your videos

[@johnferreira7043]

Great video- i agree with a lot of what you've said- keep it up you're doing a great job to help the world heal

[@soup6806]

Thank you so much for videos like this. They make such a huge difference.

[@kevinschwieters4212]

The video came at the right time and turned out so well. Thank you!