What Happens to Sex in Midlife? A Look at the “Bedroom Gap” | Maria Sophocles | TED

Menopause isn't just hot flashes, says gynecologist and sexual medicine specialist Maria Sophocles. It's often accompanied by overlooked symptoms like painful sex or loss of libido. Shedding light on what she calls the "bedroom gap," or the difference in sexual expectations of men and women in midlife due to societal norms, Sophocles advocates for education, medical advancement and a new understanding of menopause - because sex should be pleasurable and comfortable for everyone.
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[@stuy18]

The medical industry not spending any time on actually helping women with women specific issues? Here’s an unpopular opinion….maybe if they spent less time debating “what is a woman?” And more time actually taking care of actual women….well, that would be a good freakin start.

[@China-129]

Shame makes us feel we are not capable of change. Shame damages our soul. Guilt is a healthy, self-correcting emotion about an unskilled action we have made. Shame is felt in very cell in our body and is a feeling that we are flawed at some core level. Shame often leads to depression, addiction and aggressive behavior towards ourselves and others. Shame is a belief that we no longer belong. Shame is never necessary because no matter what we’ve done, every single one of us is capable of change. If you feel that you have harmed someone with your unskilled behaviors, look inside yourself and reflect on how you must change. And then move forward immediately with more empathy for others and an intention of making amends with much more positive behaviors in the future. Examine whether you have a pattern of making negative decisions after using alcohol or drugs. If you have on more than one occasion felt ashamed of your actions while inebriated, look up a local AA or NA meeting schedule and go sit in a room for 60 minutes. See if you hear any wisdom that might provide. Guideline for you in the future. If the messages that you heard at the meeting really resonated with you, go back a second time. But do something positive about your guilt and do not let your thoughts tell you that you are permanently flawed or helpless.

[@angelaagustin8321]

Wow!!! Amazing! Great information and insight!!!

[@99UrBud]

Thank you 💗

[@China-129]

Grief can be the garden of compassion.

[@leoreegan78]

14:14

[@micro8106]

Compare with my countries, when we talking about sexual issues in the public, almost of the people are feeling shame and shy. Because they have fix-opinion that sexual issue is privacy between male and female. through this video, I was shock because it gives the information for Generation X how to have a better sexual method. This is relatively different in my homeland. We don't teach how to improve your sexual issues, we just prevent the sexual behaviour for them. After I see this video, I consider that society need to change the point-view about sexual issues.

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wonderful

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[@manfredschmalbach9023]

"When You come to that age, my Dear, Your pretty pink-ish, magnetic rose will deteriorate to some sorry, indifferent slate gray no man will even look for, let alone desire." After loosing the love of my life to menopause, I never heard that cruel, inhumane joke mother nature hits her daughters with summed up better, or more precise for that matter.

[@MaybeYoureRight-1234]

TED😅

[@evoke2976]

Is it wrong for a guy to watch this?

[@jackwang7101]

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[@lairec5928]

Omg! I like it!!

[@soonerarrow]

Thanks, Doc. My love, age 50, has quietly said it hurts a few times over the last year, even with my/our normal Circus Clown/Zorro swordplay/Cowboy Up/Gene Simmons treatment beforehand, dryness was the cause, applying slippery was the immediate solution each time however; we're watching this tonight together and then calling her gyne tomorrow.

[@Welcome-421]

“Women don’t go to war to kill other women. Wars and armies and nuclear weapons are essentially heterosexual hobbies.” - Steven Morrissey

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[@melissamartyn7541]

vagina oestrogen did cause a rise in BP in me!

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Sh!t I'm 11 years old