What Happens When You DON'T Discipline Your Child | Jo Frost Extreme Parental Guidance | Origin

In the final of the big questions for this series, Jo’s focus is on a serious but hidden threat to the health of the UK’s children - not getting enough sleep.
Life is becoming busier and bedtimes are getting later - but what effect is a few hours less sleep really having on our children’s abilities, at school and at home.
Working with the UK’s leading expert in child sleep issues, Dr. Cathy Hill, Jo is going to take over the sleep habits of a group of ten year olds to find out exactly what is the impact of insufficient sleep.
Jo also meets four year old Michael who rules the family roost.
He has learnt to play his parents against each other and scream until he gets whatever he wants - but as he prepares to start school is it too late to instill discipline? Jo doesn’t think so.
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[@anneselby2293]

Jo is literally suggesting things that good parents have been doing for years. The way my parents taught my sister and is the way that we have brought up our children. A way my grandson has benefited from. There is good positive way to achieve things without resorting to physical punishment. Kids actually thrive when given routines and boundaries.

[@shmooptydoopty7355]

Yeah alot of people have crappy parents who learnt that selfish crap from their own selfish parents

[@Megan-tz1uq]

My parents did the same. To see so many people struggling with basic discipline is crazy to me

[@katharinar.4463]

Kids who have to decide everything in their life are often extremely overwhelmed with that and then they are not able to thrive to their highest potential… it’s a huge difference between hitting your child and not giving them boundaries at all, it’s not all white and black

[@kimberlypetrossi6607]

I totally agree. I had to feed our cat every morning before school, it was my job. Mom, also had me help my younger sister get dressed. I was paid 5 cents a week. Later I had to take out out trash. We also had to pick up our mess outside and inside, which we did. But I know I felt self worth, because I already had responsibilities when I was very young. It sets goals, so you grow up with jobs that are your responsibility, it sets a moral feelings and supports that are the blocks you need to be responsible as an adult.

[@kimberlypetrossi6607]

@@Megan-tz1uq you can thank Dr. Spook for that. Some kids need a good spanking!

[@nancy-katharynmcgraw2669]

1st rule of great parenting: consistent Discipline by all parents in the child's life. Everybody needs to be on the same page!!!

[@karmageddon9856]

Parents of different cultures, or separated/divorced parents can make that consistency near impossible.

[@mariafarrugia1192]

Yeah exactly what Jo Frost says...

1st rule of great parenting: do not deliver a child into this world if you yourself still act like an underdeveloped idiot, constantly smiling for no reason. Or, if you already did it, grow up to the problem you've created. This is the sad result that we know how to have sex at 14 (=putting together what we have) but inability at 28 to be a parent (=putting our MINDS together and being on the same page; marrying someone with similar moral/ethical standards). Cannot underline enough the importance of the latter.

[@LaLunaASMR]

@@karmageddon9856 thats a problem the parents need to sort out, they're the adults so they need to act like it, inconsistent parenting is so damaging

[@joey6451]

and also no coporal punishment

[@sand.hanitizer]

This documentary: Sleep is important Me: *watching at 3am* mhm, yes, interesting

[@amyrivers4093]

Same but my excuse is that I'm terminally ill and I'm in constant pain all the time. I've lived 12 years longer than the two years my lifelong specialists gave me. I hope that your reason for being up so late isn't because of anything similar. 😊

[@sand.hanitizer]

@@amyrivers4093 Nah mate, I just have depression 👌🏻 But I'm really sorry to hear that, I hope palliative care will be able to help with pain management :( I'm a nurse and I've worked with many terminal patients before, many of them were such inspiring people, I'm sure you're one of them

[@Thindorama]

​@@amyrivers4093That's not even just an excuse. It basically means normal sleep doesn't apply to you. Wish you the best possible pain management. And hope you get enough pleasure for your condition to be worth it.

[@amyrivers4093]

@@sand.hanitizer Thank you for your kind words. Don't say just ng because that is also an illness and from personal experience it's very debilitating. I can only but imagine the thoughts going around your head constantly. When I was told that I had two years at the most to live I had to give up being a teacher and foster mum which sent me on a path of not being able to see the point of living. I had watched my mum go through depression when I was 14 and I finally understood how hard she worked to overcome it. I ended up going to a mindfulness course which changed my outlook on life and where my place is in the world. I think you are a very caring person and I wish you all the best in life and that your battle with depression sees you come out of it a much stronger person.💜💗🩵

[@deefee701]

The word "Discipline' gets matched with punishment so it sounds so negative, but the origins of the word are in Latin, where it meant "to study, to give instruction or knowledge". In some English uses, a "Discipline" is a course of study at University. If we look at it this way, discipline is teaching a child in the way he/she should live, and that teaching is for life.

[@gravitystoner14]

Beautifully put. Self discipline is a personal goal for most adults. Teaching our children young and witnessing them have an easier time developing that skill for themselves will give you a sense of accomplishment.

[@211Maree]

Great point!🎉

[@amyrivers4093]

You are correct. I was a teacher and foster mum and I've always used positive parenting but of course there are times and some kids that needs corrective techniques and I word it as a consequence not discipline or punishment.

[@buzzzzzz69]

One who is disciplined becomes a disciple.😊

[@queensigal]

I am so glad that little girl had such a life changing intervention. The mother really needed the support

[@gillianlefrancois9394]

as soon as we could read, we would go to bed and read a book until we fell asleep. My parents would turn out the light and mark my page

[@gwynnethmay660]

Parents confuse discipline with punishment. Discipline is control over yourself and your enviroment A child that has been taught and understands discipline can lead because he/she understands. Thats why it is also important for children for have jobs (responsibilties) around the home. Make them part of the family team..

[@amyrivers4093]

I agree with you. I taught year ones for years and every year I have a classroom motto which we would say in a sing song way 'If we work as a team, we can do anything'. Every child and myself put our handprints around the edge and that set the culture of the classroom. I found that some of my students didn't really know how to work as a team and I needed to teach them. It is something children should know how to do before they start school. It was often children who hadn't been to daycare or kindergarten, were a single child and others were because their parents didn't involve them in family team activities for example all cooking a meal together, giving them their own grocery list for when you go shopping so they don't get bored and they feel like they are contributing to the family etc. It also avoids some bad behaviour. I always had an open classroom and parents could talk to me before and after school so that at home and school are on the same page. It used to surprise me that I was the only teacher that had an open door policy. I still have parents and even students who are now young adults contact me on Facebook and a few I have regular contact with. I didn't mean to waffle on but it's a really important part of raising a happy and healthy child.😊

[@aigatulifau6127]

I am so extremely proud of the Mama who’s daughter didn’t eat!! U are so amazingly awesome!!

[@strawberrysoymilkshake]

She was just lovely, so sweet and encouraging of her daughter.

[@marich91]

As a teen I'd start doing my homework way too late (entirely my fault!) so i'd end up sleeping 4 hours a night at best and I now see the impact it had on me physically and intellectually... Likewise when I was a teacher I had a student who'd sleep the hour through had I let him. I talked to him and to other teachers and it appeared his parents made him do sports + charity activities + youth groups, etc. even during the week and in addition to his homework. I felt terrible for him being so young and already exhausted to the bone. For sure I'll remember not to make the same mistakes once I have my own children...

[@211Maree]

Ah yeah. Moderation in all things I also learned with my teaching career.👍😍

[@Foxhunter49]

As a child (back in the 1950s, I had to be in bed by 7 and asleep by 7.30. This lasted until hit the tweens. I left school at 15 to work with horses. I was living at home and had to be in bed by 8.30 asleep by 9. If I went out then there was a curfew, 10 during the week, 11 at weekends. Didn’t do us any harm at all!

[@BeccaBearSc]

I dont agree with "asleep by" but then again I always had trouble going to sleep Still do at 33. Can lay down at 8, listening to soft music (like ocean waves for example) and read till 9 when I go lights out.. and still be wide awake till 1 -2 am just laying there.

[@Foxhunter49]

@@BeccaBearSc I always have to read before I fall asleep if in bed. I am lucky in being able to fall asleep anywhere at anytime. Asleep by 9 was lights out. Didn’t take long to fall asleep after that.

[@cathaliciahope9221]

The kids need be understood what there doing

[@michellezevenaar]

What time did you need to wake up in the mornings? Being in bed at 7 and waking at 5 is the same as being in bed at 9 and waking at 7.

[@Foxhunter49]

Usually woke at 7 a.m. from 13 I was up around 5 to take the dogs out, cover two paper rounds on my way to school for 9 a.m. my mother's reasoning for early bed time was a) the more sleep the better and most importantly, it gave her and dad time to themselves!

[@tbonimaroni]

🤣"I'm a good boy. I listen to Mommy." He knows whats up.

[@kallen868]

😂

[@swampophelia2098]

I took one of mine to school in her pjs, she got on to the end of the path and ran back in to get her uniform on and from then always got dressed when I asked to in the mornings

[@daniellepalao4089]

She learned to listen to mom.

[@211Maree]

Hahaha. 😂Brilliant!🎉

[@amba33]

I wish Jo was on TV when I had my son hahaha, all jokes aside, he is 25 and amazing, I later on implemented Jo's advice cause it also works with older children. Clarity, discipline is key. Love Jo and all the parents that show and share there homes and kids.

[@michellezevenaar]

I had a crappie mom that definitely didn't set real boundaries or provide a stable home investment. This sleep problem explains so much. I definitely would have gotten better grades if I had a better upbringing.

[@nisa3612]

Idk why I got so offended by this

[@adnel4142]

Be thankful you had a mom. Millions would take your place in the blink of an eye.

[@michellezevenaar]

@@adnel4142 omg. And eat everything on your plate because kids are starving in Africa...... totally useless comment trying to make someone feel guilty for wanting to have a better upbringing. As an adult family members told me that they were afraid for my safety as a child. I've been in therapy to help repair the damage my mother did to me as a child so that I don't repeat her mistakes.

[@LaLunaASMR]

@@adnel4142 don't invalidate what their is saying and don't compare, they have every right to feel the way they do and shouldn't be shut down with a comparison. it's like you're saying shut up and get it over it cause you didn't have it so bad.

[@211Maree]

​@nisa3612i don't know why either.😂 No. You may mean that it would be better to say the mother had no idea rather than calling her crappy.

[@rosearellanes5648]

I love Jo. The way Jo can get through to every child is amazing

[@Maatjuhhh]

I agree. The minute she comes in, they hate her. But once she leaves, they don't want her to go and gives her a big hug.

[@rosearellanes5648]

@@Maatjuhhh Jo is amazing! I wish she was around when my boys were little

[@lize5755]

As a teacher and before becoming a parent I always told parents "say what u mean and mean what u say" Too many parents allow children to b boss

Five-star reply. Greetings from other Liz(a)

[@lize5755]

@ love the unique was of the spelling. There are certain choices kids should be allowed bc they still deserve a voice.

[@lizvtaz6]

I have no idea why, actually. Like seriously, don't those parents get angry? I don't think a child would have dared to behave like this in front of me. And I would have never hit a child. But people can feel my anger, cause it's actually there. These parents are doorknobs... Is the mom seriously OK with a child eating ice-cream in her face and then crying like that? I would not have lasted a minute of this. The icecream would have been thrown into the fridge with full force. And then I would ground him for crying. Because if you decide to break the rules, it is a choice you make and you don't get to cry, as if you are a victim. His crying make his behavior twice as disrespectful for me.

[@nonnaza]

I admire this woman. Would reaaaaaallly love to have someone like that for my grown UP problems. For real.

[@laurap5016]

I mean, isn’t that a psychologist??

[@strawberrysoymilkshake]

​@@laurap5016yes but we want Jo 😂

[@mariettehamel12358]

I discovered you in the USA version (Supernanny)... I can see that the British videos are more elaborated in time (check in on the family months after, scientific team, etc) Now I see how amazing your work is to raise awareness on how to educate children and hope that the USA episodes catch up with the UK version! Your work team is just AMAZING... Thank you to have created those series. Blessing to all the team involved.! 👍😍👌✨

[@pamfink4052]

Michael reminds me of my 3 yr old nephew!! Same defiant attitude, same little smirk when he's doing what you just told him not to!

[@barbiebeeks8203]

All children have to have discipline or you have out of control monsters

[@ascensionvaldes1412]

yes, that happened to me🤦

[@M.S.M.111]

When my son was a toddler I lived in England, with 'SURE START' I was able to attend a parenting course which helped a lot, I was combining the techniques of the course and from 'Supernanny' and raised him a happy child, but this needs consistency and devotion to stick to the rules

[@lynn69jackson]

My kids are 26 and 23 and still don't have a TV in their bedroom. None of our bedrooms have them because I believe they were counterproductive and overstimulating in a place where you are meant to sleep.

[@nisa3612]

I'm 32 now and when my husband suggested to put TV in our bedroom I straight away said no, because our son would DEFINITELY watch TV in our bedroom often and we won't be able to tell him no

[@ascensionvaldes1412]

Joe does such an important task for future people

[@tss9886]

Children need rules without them they don't feel secure and safe. If a child doesn't have boundaries, then they push and push until they find them because they need them to feel safe. My nefew as a young boundaries called me the mean aunt because I set rules and expected them to be followed. Yet when he was hurt or in need of comfort, he would come to me rather than his mother. She was shocked, I told her it was because in his eyes I was a strong adult he could rely on. Once she started talking to me again, she admitted she had started to follow my lead, and though it was hard at first, it was getting better.

[@caroleanderson4020]

"Be a good boy and don't be naughty" has no concrete meaning.

[@NikkieRoxxx]

Kids dont understand and/or dont give a f.... just like i once heard "oh please be quiet at table, its christmas, ok"?... no, your kid isnt a baby anymore, and certainly isnt jesus!!!

[@barbiebeeks8203]

I love Joe she is such a wonderful woman

[@icturner23]

*Jo

[@louisbinks3177]

For a female It’s spelt Jo without the e

[@melaniekendall4903]

It's Jo not Joe

[@marias.p.1297]

I'm so proud of all of those parents!😊

[@turdferguson400]

It was so good to see the follow up on Kiran and Bailey. It’s great to see the mums smile and look so much more relaxed and happy. ❤

[@chatita9527]

Michael's parents are creating a little monster later to be a bully who will do as he wants. What a brat.

[@NikkieRoxxx]

Exactly!!!

[@courtneypuzzo2502]

its fairly common for younger kids to go to bed at 7:30 or 8:00pm and up at 6:30am to get ready for school older kids like 8 or 9 years old can go to bed a bit later either 8:30pm or 9pm. though I personally never really had a set bed time when I was of school age as I simply went to bed when I was tired

[@adamlambertforeva]

There’s another one of Joes videos and there was a kid who refused to sleep and fought it all night. For some kids I would say yes they can go to sleep when there tired but some kids WILL exhausted themselves

[@boondoxidegirl83]

My 4 year old is one that will stay up forever if allowed

[@wisemysticaltree9449]

My nigga 8:30pm or 9pm nah 10 or 11

[@glabhinnara]

My auntie had troubles putting her 9 month old baby to sleep under 9 pm. But when my mom took care of the baby for 3 days, she always slept at 7 PM, 'cause my mom would actually put her to sleep in that hour (she put her to bed, turned the lights off and didn't make any noise). Turns out her parents barely go to bed even at 9pm, they didn't discipline their baby in the first place.

[@anncoxwell7015]

In the 1960s and before, most moms had Paregoric in their medicine cabinet. It’s alternate name is Camphorated Tincture of Opium. Apparently it didn’t work on me, when I was very young, though, as I was put on phenobarbital by the time I was 2 years old so that my mom could get 4 hours’ sleep. That’s as long as a dose would work.

[@suzeelewis718]

Jo is amazing. She has such a beautiful way about her 🥰💯😞

[@crimsonclover9871]

The woman who talked about dosing her kids up to get them to sleep was referring to Medised, I'm sure. When I started in pharmacy that stuff would fly off the shelves. Medised and Calpol Night...both had a mild antihistamine that would knock kids out. I remember when those meds were *finally* discontinued due to being linked to a string of cot deaths...good Lord you would think the world had come to an end! All the Medised moms were furious and a few even attempted to buy Nytol to crush and give to their kids. Some thought we were being judgemental liars until I showed them the actual documents we'd been sent telling us why the meds were being discontinued.

[@randomhumanoidblob4506]

I wondered if it was Piriton, cos she said it was an allergy med (I think?) But I can remember the sedative effect Actifed cough mixture had on me. I'd heard of Calpol being used but not the other one, and it sounds like they were the well-known ones so your guess is going to be better than mine!

[@charlotte-anne3461]

Omgggg my mum used to give me medised as a kid….I only just realised as I got older what it was used for on me…I thought it was paracetamol or some kinda medicine. My mum would come to me often when I was crying and say I felt hot and didn’t look well and she’d give me medicine. Don’t know what happened after that but all I know is that it was the absolute most worst tasting thing I have ever had! I also did get this medicine when I was unwell for real tho hahaha

[@NikkieRoxxx]

Doping one's kid to make them sleep?!? That soynds DANGEROUS and CRIMINAL!!!

[@holly.earendil5187]

Who is allowing children to have all those electronics in their rooms??? We weren’t allowed any when I was a kid! Jesus Christ

[@incercadiunouser]

The experiment on sleep seems a little strange. It's quite obvious that changing the sleep routine of the kids will have an effect in the first days. It would be interesting to see their results after 3 months, a reasonable time frame to adapt to new habits.

[@janahcoaching]

It almost angers me, how parents can let their kids without enough sleep and be so ignorant about it. I was supposed to go to bed at 9pm, till I was almost 18. It did nor harm me, it was giving me rest. How can adults be so dumb?

[@lyndapies]

IKR? When I was in School my bedtime was at 9:00. It just puzzles me how parents let their kids stay up so late on a school night. I would also go to bed at 9:00 on Friday nights until I got older but they are times when I would go to bed early lol.

[@chloefalla3716]

I was the same. I had a bedtime enforced by my parents right up until my exams were over. Did I like that sometimes I didn't get all my homework done each night - No. But my parents made sure I got enough sleep so I could study and function effectively.

[@queensigal]

Limits are important for sanity but violence is not giving limits When parents disagree the children are lost. Consistency and confident limit setting are essential. Parents with wild uncontrolled children have them because, someone gives in to the child's, demands

[@princess_deborah6213]

I have to two kids 3 years and 11months. I take a lot out of these episodes.

[@jarrodbarkley9061]

Omg, why is the mother letting the boy eat all meals at the computer??? That is just pathetic.

[@Shiba_Draws]

Ikr, my grandparents do the same with my brother, I'm allowed but I dont do It, I prefer eating at the table and the only times I've eaten at my computer is if I'm doing a school project thats due the Next day

[@aussiemouth747]

Yes. All sit down at the table and eat together. How people eat these days is just horrible. They don't sit together and talk. They just shovel junk in in front of the TV or computer.😢

[@kimsherlock8969]

Some naughtiness becomes a Culture Where one grows up remaining childish in powerful positions. We get bad politicians 😒 62 years ago in Primary school I went into slump of needing to sleep in class. I have pondered on why I could uld not stay allert to the teachers instructions . I was living in Angst, fear, insecurity, hardship at home. School gave me space to be bored enough to get a great sleep escape 😴

[@bluedutchess6656]

I've seen a lot of kids in my neighborhood that are going to bed really late (speaking about 9pm or later, especially in the weekends) and wake up early, they are also the most noisy children in our neighborhood and the parents don't seem to have set proper boundaries, so there are weekly moments where the parents don't have their children under control. It's heartbreaking tbh (and to be fair, it's also annoying). I was around 13yo when I was finally able to go to sleep at 9pm, and these children are way younger than that. They seem to be around 7-9 yo. I really wish more parents would know this general fact about giving your kids enough sleep and boundaries can make them and the family most likely thrive more. Very educational how even 1 week of 8hrs and the following week of 11hrs can already show these results, imagine if this was a long term research...

[@ascensionvaldes1412]

the problem is the parents, especially the fathers

[@zoeyzed5127]

Jo is the best I can not believe these whimpy parents their kids are monsters.

[@marclabrie6027]

Kids need spankings not supernanny

[@kionsplace3869]

my mum doesn't yell and she doesn't lay her hands on us, then again, we don't run around acting like monkeys either

[@trashyboombashy]

It is about real connection and guidance with Clarity. Most of the Parents have a poor connection to themselves. They are caught in trauma-based patterns (developmental Trauma). For Example being dependant on wheter your Child Shows you love, therefore avoiding any sort of conflict. Also feelings of guilt and Shame on the side of the parents Can stand in the war of connection, clarity and guidance. So the Child is Not seen for what it is: a dependant and immature being that desperately NEEDS Orientation and guidance and NEEDS somebody stable and calm to be there, lovingly, when a „no“ will give him Frustration at some Point. The parents cannot handle the Frustrations of their children, They are unstable themselves and therefore the Child Is constantly in an inner State of Stress and dysregulation.

[@renek2913]

@@trashyboombashy my mum cant be bothered and just whack me and my brother with a cane every time my brother pick a fight with me and doesn't listen to me when I said its not me who started it. All it did was to give me a sense of fear. Even now as an adult, I sometimes shuddered when I hear her footsteps cus it reminded me of her walking into the room to cane me. I think it has already ingrained into my subconsciousness

[@Officiallynio]

What's weird to me is that these parents had a kid like Michael and they still thought they were good enough parents to have another kid

[@Lucailey]

maybe the other child was a surprise

[@housewine89]

I mean … there are way worse parents than these who have multiple children.

[@rosameijering5161]

How can you say such a thing

[@Officiallynio]

@@rosameijering5161 with my mouth

[@aussiemouth747]

​@@LucaileyNo surprises these days. Contraception has been around for decades.

[@loneprepper1350]

I was hit with a slipper as a child, as an adult I don't see any need for hitting a child, if you hit a child in any way it tells the child that hitting another person is ok, after all if an adult is hitting then its OK to copy, arguing with a child is the worse thing you can do, you are the parent, they are the children, reward good behaviour, and give bad behaviour a consequence, do not lose your temper and take it out on your kids, they learn from adults, be a parent not a friend.

[@Chirpingcherub]

I was whooped too it didn’t effect me that bad but I was whooped for things my sister did I got punished because “I’m older” Lol

[@vijant1395]

So you don’t agree with smacking?

[@bigredswife4646]

I don’t know 🤷🏻‍♀️ I got my ass whooped ALOT as a kid and I’ve myself swatted a few bottoms and I’m fine - my 6 kids are fine - my 2 grandkids are growing up respectable and well behaved … I think it’s a super controversial topic but ultimately I myself don’t see anything wrong with giving ur lil one a smack on the a$$ if they need it 🤷🏻‍♀️ I def don’t think it’s a recipe for future serial killers or anything that dramatic

[@superpup7251]

@@bigredswife4646 I agree with you . My dad was whooped a lot ( he was a trouble maker his words not mine ) and he turned out into a hard working respectable man .

[@vijant1395]

@@bigredswife4646 I have a few reasons as to why I don’t agree with it.

[@er6730]

Wow... I don't do time outs or spanking, and I am not really a strict parent, in that I don't have lots of rules "because I said so", and I am open to negotiation. But that eating ice cream in her face was shocking! I think I'd flip out! I remember once my son asked if he could have cookies at Grandma's house, and I told him "yes, one". He ate it and took a bite out of another one (because Grandma was smiling and nodding at him) I snatched it out of his hand and threw it in the garbage! Then I calmly said, "just one, remember." It was a lesson to both him and Grandma that day! 🤣

[@nisa3612]

I know right! Eating in her face with that "watch me" smile got me real bad. I love what you did with the cookie, we all know grandparents will let their grandchildren get anything they want, we need to be real strict with *both* of them 😅

[@queensigal]

In always had a difficult time falling asleep as a child abdy mother was furious. I still am a night owl. I wish there, was more knowledge on sleep cycles back then

[@amyrivers4093]

Parents especially mums know the impact of sleep deprivation when they have their babies because of interrupted sleep. Their children feel the same impact if they haven't had a good nights sleep. I was a primary school teacher and I can tell you we notice when kids are not getting enough sleep. It impacts their ability to focus and they have poor retention so they may as well stay home. My advice is to seek help as soon as possible. It's much easier to get control back when the kids are small than to have escalating issues when they are teenagers. I live in a state of sleep deprivation as I'm now terminally ill. Foirteen years ago my lifelong specialist gave me two years at the most to live. The reason I don't sleep is because I'm in horrific pain and I basically sleep when exhaustion over takes me. I end up falling asleep standing up and sometimes I wake as soon as I hit the floor or something else on the way down. Other times I'm knocked out for hours which is not good.😊

[@superpup7251]

Yay I hope these keep getting made I love watching them.

[@thefightinggameplayer]

I remember this programme first airing, it was 2010-2012.

[@bigredswife4646]

Me too- it’s like a free form of birth control 😜 I’m kidding - I’m a mom of 6 and gramma of 2 👍🏻

[@superpup7251]

@@bigredswife4646 🙋‍♀️🙂 wow 6 kids and 2 grandchildren that’s very nice . I want to have children eventually.

[@carolbabb7875]

Awesome vid! All of the children are now thriving and even better understand why for the most part. Jo is amazing.

[@lindslinds3358]

An unruly child arrives at school, hits, insults etc. Once adults, unable to accept a no, some act like tyrants towards their spouse and some situation end up in family drama.

[@raya9283]

Michael is such a cute child...the parents really needed the help.

[@tempestsonata1102]

At this point (5:45) I only see a smug little manipulator, but I hope you'll prove right by the end of the video.

[@oogabooga9079]

The mom that admitted she dosed her kids to get them to sleep Infuriates me. The way she worded it made it seem she doesn’t even know what is in the meds she gives her Kids. WHY on earth wouldn’t you research something like that. Do you have any idea how dangerous that is. I was reading how back in the fifties a lady have her daughter barbiturates to get her to sleep and caused her severe mental issues and schizophrenia.

[@tillykelp6340]

My little one didn't sleep either. We reached out to our GP who said give her a dose of Vernergen and take a dose yourselves. We did it thinking a doctor would know what is the right thing to do.

[@oogabooga9079]

@@tillykelp6340 I get that and you are obviously on top of it but her wording got me trippin.

[@kathyjones3320]

When I heard her say that I was shocked I bet she didn't know what was even in that medication.

[@pamfink4052]

My 3 yr old nephew is on his way to acting like these kids. He already cussed, is very defiant when told to do or not to do something; throws things, kicks, screams, etc and is also sometimes mean to his almost 2 yr old sister. Mom yells, then when she gets fed up she will smack him, which doesn't do any good at all because she usually babies him right after smacking his behind. Right now it's even worse because his dad has been deported and sent back to Mexico for the next 10 years. Mom uses that as an excuse for his behavior; "he misses dad and doesn't understand why he's not home". All well and good, but he's got to start toilet training, learn the word "no", etc.

[@michellezevenaar]

Sounds like mom had baby 2 really soon after baby 1. That can really affect the oldest because they get ignored when they still also really need mom. Sounds like typical attention seeking behavior. Only cure is positive attention, ignored bad behavior and praise good behavior with attention. Focus on what they are allowed to do. Check out the positive patenting program aka triple P. It really helps alot. Boundaries are defined important are how you unforce the boundaries is just as important. If I were your sister I would see if she is eligible for a European citizenship via an ancestor and then immigrate there with her husband. It's probably the fastest and safest way to reunite her family. Europe is a fantastic place to raise a family

[@mackereltabbie]

So basically the 3 yr old is behaving just like mom 🙄 Stop yelling, stop smacking him and stop babying him. A 3yr old is still small enough that you can pick him up and physically stop him from doing things, but if she's going to be sitting on the sofa and yelling at a toddler until she "gets fed up" his behaviour will only get worse. She needs to stop him immediately, before she gets angry.

[@mdee9337]

Why doesn't Louise get her son to help with dishes, etc???

[@nunyabizniz1983]

He’s really cute tho lol 😂 parenting is hard, kids do need boundaries and rules and they do love them even if they pretend they don’t 😉

[@Freiya2011]

CUTE??? No!

[@user-el3ub1im9o]

You talking about Michael? Adorable I think he behave like any 4 year old there is no mold for children. But his smile just melts me. 😍

[@nunyabizniz1983]

@@user-el3ub1im9o yes Michael he’s just such a cutie 🥰 as you say he’s a typical 4 year old, they’re not emotionally mature so he’s behaving completely appropriately for he’s age. People need to remember they’re not children forever. I miss mine at this age, now they’re grouchy teens lol 😂 x

[@nunyabizniz1983]

@@Freiya2011 please don’t have children…

[@Freiya2011]

@@nunyabizniz1983 I do. And mine are well behaved, happy and studying at university. How about yours?

[@madeinblue7237]

Baffled how Surinder being an Indian could let his own kid treat him like that lol. How the hell is he awkward with and afraid of correcting his own 4 year old son?

[@kimberlyanne434]

@13:52 the child knew Jo was in charge.

[@michellesmith7060]

I don't feel like I am that strict but my 18year old daughter doesn't even use bad words around me but I guess if it was me and he licked that ice cream in my face I don't know what I would have done but I don't think they would do that again.😳😳😳✌️✌️❤️❤️

[@queensigal]

Very courageous of the parents to allow their children to be filmed

[@ash-is-napping]

It’s 7.45pm and if I was one of these parents I’d be very grumpy at Jo as I’m about to go to bed 😂

[@moniqueengleman873]

I am a 62 year old grandmother. I love watching these shows, because I am so over 5 kids. They are all wonderful people and productive citizens. I did my job well and this just makes me feel lucky and grateful.

[@aseelaadossery8841]

Without disciplines a child's childhood is ruined and their future is ruined ...... nurturing a child's mental and emotional health is as important as nurturing their physical and social health ..... many people think that ALL children will out grow their bad habits but the opposite is true in MOST cases , if we do not find the right way to GENTALY make morals ,disciplines and respace the roots of a child's personality and set them on the right track of life , they will face failures in their lives OR become outlaws ....... we should NOT take a child's emotions and thoughts away but we can direct them to express themselves in THE right ways

[@sshukla7975]

Other things aside, that cute chubby babyyyyyy 😊

[@GirlyEnglishGamer]

Yeah what a very very cute baby.

[@snqwee499]

I disciplined my kids first 3 yrs of lyf what is right what is wrong with a firm word n was criticized by other parents with same age kids now my kids r 6 n 8 n I hardly need to disxipl8them they enjoy everything without having me yelling at them n the people who critiqued me bfore ask how come I never look tired n how my kids manage everything on their own

[@svetlananana9609]

Great this couple really worked through tough stuff💚💜

[@dsouza4746]

These unruly children just need Portuguese parents like mine. No messing around in a Portuguese house. Even the thought of misbehaving in front of my parents makes me shiver. They didn’t harm us physically but they had a way of letting you know that you were going to hades of you didn’t obey.

[@lolaaa1464]

So they actually did teach you nothing but fear and follow what an authority figure says without own critical thinking...sounds nice yeah

[@queensigal]

Psychological tests should also include math tests and other skills cause not everyone has verbal skills

[@pauladavid7890]

:When I went to school, My bed time was 8:30 P.M. Now that I am older, I can go to bed whenever I want to!!!!

[@JoshuaStanley-c7m]

Bedroom should not be used as a punishment spot. It's a place for sleeping and nothing else. Bathroom toilet and kitchen have a specific purpose. Punishment spot should be the in a special spot in the lounge where parents can supervise them.

[@oOSabbyOo]

I would love for Jo to visit some actual "anti authoritarian" parents and witness the chaos ensue

[@jogrant9584]

I’ve seen some good ones with the American families!

[@mrsfahrenheit]

for real haha😂😂

[@celtickitty6547]

It's not only Americans who are like that. This type of parent is found across western countries. In Britain there was a family who were on a morning TV show who didn't believe in disciplining their kids. As they were being interviewed by the host the youngest stood up & casually peed all over the carpet, while on camera! The parents didn't think that there was anything wrong with what the child did. The parents didn't believe in any structure or focus for their behaviour or schooling.

[@tatjana4503]

​@@celtickitty6547 Those children will not thank their parents later in life for being to lazy to parent .

[@glabhinnara]

@@celtickitty6547 I saw one of the docu series and some of their teens (aged 12-13) told the crew that they actually wanted to go to school... despite their parents disagreement. hahaha

[@naymeequillo]

"Be a good boy and don't be naughty" are very vague and unclear instructions for a child that age. It's clearer to tell them: "we have soft hands, soft feet and a soft voice indoors, sp we don't hurt anyone amd we can all have fun. When we call your name, you come to us right away. When you hear the word STOP you stop what ypu were doing." You need your messages to be very specific.

[@annacarter6559]

In traditional cultures the man swans around while the woman suffers with badly raised, undisciplined kids completely powerless. It's wonderful that this father seems to make a change

[@mrdino-h6v]

the fact I am watching this at 11pm rn and I got to go to my college at 7am tomorrow to be there in time

[@antoniusgehtdinixo1545]

Die Eltern sind total Gaga und Überfordert und selbst Schuld, jeder weiß das ein Kind Konsequenzen braucht, der Vater aber nicht, was denkt er??Wie Erzieht man ein Kind und man sieht das er Anscheinend auch keine richtige Erziehung hatte,schade???😴🙄🤔🥴🤢😫👎🧠🧠🧠

[@nina-chan1488]

Übertreib mal nicht hier in den Kommentaren. Wir wissen‘s alle.

[@pramitaworld4902]

Sometime i think toddlers are smarter than adult about what they want, they can be manipulator

[@mackereltabbie]

This is not what happens when you don't discipline kids, it's what happens when you tell kids what to do/not do then never stick to that, just give in and reward the kid for tantrums (=teaching them to throw tantrums). I was never "disciplined", neither were my brothers, no punishment of any kind or time-outs (except the self-administered, go outside for a bit until you're calm enough to sit at the table, kind), but a no was a no unless we had an actual reason and could argue for it in a rational manner. No yelling, no constant "listen to mummy now", no "if you do that then...", just calmly telling us e.g. "you can have an ice cream after dinner, but not right now" with the confident expectation that we'd behave, starting when we were little so it was easy for them to control the situation without having to "fight" with us - that way, when we were older, this was simply how things were. And then making sure to praise us (immediately) for behaving well. Having a limited number of rules and not trying to control everything we did (e.g. not insisting we eat specific foods as long as we ate a varied diet, or not expecting us to stop whining, just ignoring it until we got bored and stopped) also helped, I guess

[@samu6874]

That is discipline. Time out etc isnt. Its punishment. They just call it discipline to make parents feel better and to justify punishment.

[@kwarra-an]

Same with me. Having my parents explain WHY they wanted me to do something/stop doing something was very effective for me - even small kids can follow logic.

[@ems.master]

​@samu6874 Punishments are a form of discipline. They're beneficial for children if they're not traumatizing or unfair. Only a small group of children won't become out of control when there's no discipline in the form of punishment because children's brains are not developed enough. Jo Frost's version of time-out is the best (as well as positive reinforcement and taking away privileges), and every step has a good explanation and must be implemented in order to teach children in a non-traumatizing and effective way.

[@mackereltabbie]

@@ems.master this is just plain wrong. Do it right from the start, don't wait for things to go wrong then punish. How developed kids' brains are is irrelevant; even dogs do better when trained without punishment

[@arlenesmith5143]

Terrible twos are the natural age to set firm limits ... nature shows you how to get busy on it.

[@budgiebreder]

Its either the child disciplines the parents with crying screaming and carrying on resulting in parents giving in and child getting what they want, or the parent stops the child doing that by creating a result of the child’s actions which is not getting what they want, aka disciplining the child. Discipline has historically been associated with punishment. Its not. Its just not giving into anothers bad behaviour.

[@Slim_T_ODB]

That airbag is gonna do some fkin damage if she ever wrecks. Yikes!

[@LM-zk4rm]

i think everyone's afraid of touching there own children. you can pick your child up and put them in the corner wo hurting them. especially when you start young

[@michellezevenaar]

Kids hate being put in the corner, it's a great tool.

[@queensigal]

How many children will be saved from medication by parents learning rules

[@oneandonly6893]

My 5year old naturally goes to bed between 8 And 9. He has to get up by 7:45. But i know a child who would never go to bed

[@strawberrysoymilkshake]

That's way too late

[@Diewolustigist]

2:22 why you doing that? Because you respond mommy. I feel for them, but every adult have to remember that children need good responding to them

[@LD-tk7qf]

I put mine to bed at 8 pm! Just to get them out of my hair

[@sarahmore4146]

I put my 5 year old 2 bed at 8 on Saturdays days he knows his tried than I chill it's Sarah's time my friends said let him stay up

[@LD-tk7qf]

@@sarahmore4146 bad idea to let them stay up . Keep with routine. And mom needs some time to herself

[@traceybee1409]

34:23 When the dad stood up to him I think the little tyke may have pooped his pants

[@laylasachoo2393]

I loved this video☺☺

[@mitsuhadreemurr9857]

Spanking is just a lazy way to parent and some parents use it because they don't want to deal with their kids temper tantrums if they do get up and leave their "timeouts". They don't want to put in the extra time and effort to parent without resorting to violence at all. You can say "we have been spanked and we turned up fine" all you want because i know, the replies will be full with those people, but for me and my sisters it wasn't fine. All three of us grew up developing depression. Dont get me wrong, we still became independent and have jobs. But on the inside, we struggle constantly. Parenting with fear is NOT okay under any circumstances.

[@sommergarten]

i think naming fruit might not be THE best indicator... 11 is actually quiet good for a british child of this age. how many fruit can you name? if you are an adult and maybe live in other countries where more fruits are grown and known, you can easily beat this, but otherwise.... i don't think it would differ a lot from what thse children produced. the second test is with animals, which children know plenty of, because there are more animals in their fields of interests than fruit!

[@Meggyx]

That sleep study is not necessarily reliable in a statistics sense in the slightest as they’re not using the same parameters, they needed to ask the children to recall fruit again rather than switching it to animals 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@unfortunatedisgrace246]

the irony of watcching this while not being able to sleep

[@maartjewaterman1193]

I don't like the term disciplining a child. It makes me me think of taming a wild animal and I would rather call it correcting (a child). My children were never disciplined and always went to bed on the proper time wihout any fuss and I raised four of them.

[@Freiya2011]

So you just "disciplined" or gave them the boundaries they needed (and thus the safety they need) from the first day on. The parents they show here MADE their kids the way they are.

[@maartjewaterman1193]

@@Freiya2011 I guess I gave them boundaries but in a non verbal way and you are absolutely right.

[@kallen868]

Gaming is one of the worst things to happen to childhood.🙄😕😒

[@skylar_rainbow]

11:04 omg that date is my birthday lol

[@pj965]

this is my birth control

[@RealCarringtonInstitute]

Birth control is eugenics.

[@WendyLopezGazquez]

I still do not understand some kids. He gets a warning, still eats the icecream right in her face and then starts crying when the warning is followed through. Why is he crying when he chooses to do what he is told not to!

[@ummsulaiman5171]

He is 4 year old; the logically thinking you have, he probably attain that at your age too. Watch the episode properly, his parents sent confusing messages thats why he felt he can still have the ice cream.

[@katesmyth4839]

He is asking for boundaries to be set. The lack of boundaries is what is actually upsetting him.

[@tanyabouw2514]

He’s naughty and a little turd

[@pamfink4052]

My 3 yr old nephew acts the same way, complete with a fake cry, throwing himself in the floor, etc

[@ummsulaiman5171]

@@pamfink4052 Yh, she is seeking attention that needs to be ignored or else it will get worse. My 2 year old recently was throwing the biggest tantrums and seriously I just watched Super nanny and had a firm voice with him and just said no. Thankfully that has been working; with these behaviours its starts around 2 because thats when the child learns that they can boss parents around. Parents need to always stand their ground and just be firm with their voice + their action, the child well never get worse or to an extent they can’t be handled.

Less makeup, more communication. (I am wondering... does everyone know how to do a perfect make-up but how many of them actually know how to raise a child?)

[@NikkieRoxxx]

33:00 "wanna eat?? Its with a spoon" answer "manipulative-have mercy coughing" heuh heuh weuuu ---> prepare for being tough

[@blondecat666]

I would subject having kids to a licence.

[@ylvie8978]

Or hand out the basics about raising children complementary with the start of a pregnancy. It's not like knowledge about bedtime or consequent behaviour or anything about raising children magically falls from the sky upon birth. And if you don't go looking for it and educate yourself you have to wing it and maybe fail while trying your best.