What Happens With Unprocessed Emotions?

[@RICHARDGRANNON]

0:09 Technology And Social Media Are Created To Distract Us 3:50 The Virtual Reality Is Powerful But Not Particularly Uplifting 9:47 There's A Lack Of Boundaries Between Public And Private 12:57 The Issue Of Fake News 15:16 How Emotional Literacy Can Help 20:30 Accept, Permit And Acknowledge Your Emotions

[@majordeezee1659]

RICHARD GRANNON I like the high key lighting. B&W no less. Add blue eyes.

[@rebeccawilliams1287]

I suppressed my emotions due to childhood abuse. Expected too, was diagnosed with fibromyalgia 2005. Express my emotions to my family and was discarded. Fuck’em all! I’m managing much better without them.

[@thaliabloom5916]

This is useful. Is it possible to quantify the length of time required to get past 30 years of unprocessed emotion? Even a ballpark? Months? Years? Decades? I feel like I’ve done sit, witness, permit a fair few times & I’d like to know there’s an end in sight. I find it one of the most frustrating & uneventful aspects of being a human. I don’t see the point, aside from occasional temporary relief. I prefer tangible outcomes, or measurable results & I find it frustrating when it seems I’m not getting anything, aside from temporary relief. What is the point? I don’t see it, if there’s no eventual resolution. What am I even working towards? The emotions with no memorable source just keep coming back. Is it a malfunction in the system based on how we’re living? How would life be different/better if emotions were processed healthily from day one? What purpose would they serve then? Sadness = Connection. Anger = Safety/protection? Or would we just have fewer emotions? I find a lack of permanent results to be very demotivating. I wouldn’t keep going to work if I weren’t getting results, or getting paid. Does one just have to accept they’ll be processing displaced childhood emotions on their geriatric deathbed & it’s just a fact of life & there are no measurable permanent results? Or with say 3 years of committed practice one could expect eventual permanent relief? To only have to deal with modern emotions as they arise?

[@arkieologist]

RICHARD GRANNON Thank you for outlining your video! Love it! 😃 Really appreciate your videos!

[@maryfarrell2296]

I have felt very much as you have described,.Thinking to myself so many times, in the pursuit of finding knowing, truth, healing, on going,. Every journey it seems, should take some sort of a linear path! That is; at the very least; start, go, keep going, I'm here,. Yet very early, upon first pursuit we've come to learn, in the case of grief? There is no first, next, last, line of time to follow, or look,. These stages flip & flop,. no matter what? Or which order you prefer? Nor how you first came about them? They re-order & jerk themselves seemingly at random! And,. I hate surprises! Hhm? Why do I hate surprises? Is this merely an extension of a personal trait? Or? Do I hate surprises Bc I f e e l,.. wha? Out of order? I felt icky way back when, at a time something surprised me but it was not a good thing? So now all surprises stink? But I don't remember? Well then it must be in the reality right? You cannot heal from a thing you have not consciously remembered,. Must know! So? Seek, Find. Feel,.Experience,. See the truth! Acknowledge! Wait! Ewe! Ok now here comes the ick! Ok,. Feel,. Uhu,. Yep! Ick! That felt like shit! Did I grow? I dunno? Let me seek some more! Ok this is starting to feel like perpetual hell! This, seek, find, acknowledge feel, ewe,. stuff sucks! But I keep going! Bc I want to know, to acknowledge & feel & heal the ick ,.to Be better & grow, get back to my life & go,.on my way,.. But Now,... ? I'm seeking & finding through a place that never was or I never would've known bc it never existed before! & I found a reality which indeed I experienced but I didnt know bc it wasn't named or defined in any way a reality I had ever known! Finally! I think I'm getting it? But the problem now? Is,.. This place? Has some serious issues about "real" reality bc it's existence acknowledged its creation therefore; it re-acted, looked back, & reflected to itself about itself & now? I'm not sure, had I not started & simply felt ewe,. forgot about remembering or finding a place I needed to create where the answers could be found since they were not around in the reality I was from But upon my insistence came into existence which thereby acknowledged itself in reaction, creating a reality I need now be wary of lest I spend my time attending a space other than the one I left to seek the truth, acknowledge my existence & rid myself in the place of ick! Perhaps? I should've stood still,.

[@louiseelliott6404]

It’s dealing with your emotions. One thing I’ve done after narcissistic abuse is to let all the emotions come out. My mum’s advice was to keep busy and move on. That’s burying and hiding from the emotions. I have not suppressed my emotions in any way shape or form. I’ve faced every single one and dealt with them and continue to do so. I believe you have to feel in order to heal. Thank you Richard for validating and reinforcing my experience and knowing I am on the right path. Learning to trust myself again is vital and this video has really helped.

[@josephinescurry]

have to say, always as you start speaking, I feel like a really good friend has just sat down with a cuppa next to me... makes me smile and feel happy, thanks Richard

[@justin7sanchez]

same

[@OnlyDaria7250]

Couldnt agree more!!

[@MsLfenwick]

totally he makes me feel like I am being listened to

[@creator2149]

who doesn't feel inspired when they hear him?

[@infinifi2910]

I'm a bit addicted to US politics at the moment and today I realised that the moral aspects of the Whitehouse are in a huge dillema. I so want the situ to be set back into an improved moral balence because the immoral situ I was in with my ex narc husband has affected my internal indignation!! Perhaps the Internet info helps me to re orientate!!

[@janeadelaidelennox7193]

“What happens with unprocessed emotion?” They glue you to your phone.

[@lauraporter3434]

You have helped me infinitely more than 25 self-help books, condescending counselors or true-yet-just-annoying mantras! Ten years after kicking out a narc my struggles remain real and yet, am improving. The downward Financial, medical, professional and family devastation cycle finally is reversing.

[@lillydimartino6834]

What helped me was not judging my emotions.. FREEDOM. no longer supressing, repressing or detaching from or disassociating from because I "shouldnt" be feeling "this" I just allow it and go thru it. Learn what I need to from it. I've realized emotions on not necessarily based on reality or truth. My reality my truth not THE TRUTH of what is. Can be inherited, even past life stuff. Always a JOY to listen to you. You be helped me so must in these past few years than therapy did in 20 years. I was EXTREMELY overmedicated . On 13 meds. Been med free almost 5 years now. Loving the internet solfeggio frequencies, binaural beats, isochromes, theta, alpha, delta, beta waves DMT without drugs woohooo who knew.. MARVELOUS VID. Richie. And funny too. ThanQ for you and all you do.. I love your heart to help people via your you tubes. Blessings and love lilly ❤

[@Winobie75rc]

Likewise, add me to the "helped to understand, and liberate self from shitty mental state by watching folks on the internet" brigade. Meds kept me numb and unable to progress, although they saved me a lot of pain at first. I now have a better understanding of psychology, and of myself. ...as well as them cunts wot dun it. LoL Dare I say I am genuinely positive lately. Many thanks Spartan Life Coach !!! A much needed beacon of sanity.

[@kevmac8377]

ive been alone 21yrs done therapy your pretty try being ugly and 56 this guys an egotist. i dont wont to hurt you lilly but for the sake of your own soul wake up

[@kevmac8377]

@The People's Army thank you for your kindness, may you be happy may you be well

[@cathyconzyme9641]

when people have unprocessed emotions they have children.

[@alaysiakayebutler6299]

thats..funny

[@A_T__]

Cathy Conzyme sad isnt it

[@lollic307]

Yes. The dumpsters. I would love to have children..afraid I will do the same

[@laraoneal7284]

Cathy Conzyme Agreed.

[@asktheetruscans9857]

It's too bad you feel that way. Children are a blessing, both to parents and unto themselves. I find great joy in their peculiar, unique selves. However way you believe, follow your own heart and intuition.

[@LovingAtlanta]

👍The point starts at 15:20 - thanks. "Unprocessed emotion over time stops being the emotion it started out being"

[@conservativehippie9736]

Thank you!!!❤✌

[@jonesconrad1]

Yes everything seeped out as anger with me.

[@Successor123]

Yet, I digress...

[@Megan6772]

Thank you so much for helping us get to the point.....I think we should edit your original comment to they become *neurotic. Not simply that they cease to be. Very important distinction.

[@gerry4281]

Agree. The saddest thing I see is parents sitting in a restaurant with their children staring into their cell phones. And little kids addicted to video games. I'm convinced it's changing our brains and making kids more anxious. You say reported levels of anxiety and depression are off the charts. What about unreported cases. Thanks Richard.

[@Brian_S_O_Tuireann]

Thanks Sam for the info. I knew blue light messed with the circadian rhythm, but wasn't aware of its effect on dopamine. Which means it affects us terribly even during the day! I'll be wearing my blue blocking glasses whenever I'm on a computer now.

[@tinacolby1392]

You Described my daughter , with hers.

[@odetteuys1111]

Do you know whats sadder? Parents and children sitting in a restaurant, parents on their phones and the kids just sitting there. So it's not always the kids who are guilty.

[@strukled8590]

@@odetteuys1111 it's like on those old photos of opium saloons in China...

[@englishBHllywd]

I use youtube to help with my isolation bc i feel like i would be crazier than i already was without some basic human insight and interaction due to isolation from trying to get through certain scenarios. i will shamelessly admit i am using it to fill a hole, numb a wound

[@laynelurve7083]

English Roberts I'm also guilty. I numb out on KZbin way too often.

[@harleyquinn5774]

English Roberts I find it safer and healthier than my experience of associating with toxic abusive and downright dangerous people.

[@englishBHllywd]

topaz763 okay (:

[@englishBHllywd]

topaz763 you should maybe start it bc im on the phone app and it doesnt seem to have a message option for your profile?

[@robingandy1325]

me too

[@emilyrowe5538]

I accidentally slammed a door on my finger tonight. That was reality. Nothing could distract me while I was in pain. iPhone or iPad was just impossible. Just sat and held my throbbing finger. Super real. Intense pain. Woke me up though. Eventually pain manifests in a way where you can't escape. Gotta be with it. Humbling pain...I'm learning to love that....

[@TeunS133N]

Emily Rowe truth!

[@tinym1017]

Emily Rowe gggcr

[@tinym1017]

Emily Rowe gggcr

[@corillo145]

This video really spoke to me. It was my pleasure giving you my time, Richard Grannon.

[@sandylucas4279]

I agree with you 100% and am SO happy I discovered this process. One day, several years ago, I was having the same fight with my mate that we had had for a year. On this day I decided instead of reacting and do what I've always done I would sit and feel what happens inside my body when these fights occur. I instinctually knew it was vital for me to allow whatever this was space. I was surprised and amazed at what my body went through. I first observed a knot type feeling in my belly. Then the tightness moved up into my chest filling the entire space at first and then localized in the center and my heart began to pound hard. Suddenly there was a lump in my throat, then my head began to pound and my face became very hot. Mind you all of this happened within a second or two. I then let out an involuntary sigh and somehow knew 'it' was over. I felt completely different and had an insight or knowing that I had just honored an old trauma from my childhood. It was an emotion that hadn't been processed and freed until that day. Once I sighed and came back to the present moment I no longer felt the need to fight. I no longer felt that it was important to win or be declared right or that he needed to change. I actually saw the absurdity of the fight and this caused laughter to bubble up. I felt a tremendous sense of ease. I then took my mate through what I just did and he too had a similar experience. Thankfully this one incident changed me and my relationships forever. I continue to allow any triggered negative emotion -which are very few now- to be felt, given space while I sit back and witness what my body goes through. I sigh, it's over and I am free to move on. I have since realized emotions are supposed to move through us freely and not get stuck by some fantasy, illusion or mind made up story. I used to fear my emotions, thinking if I allowed them I could lose all control, but after this very first incident I welcome them. I hope this helps another. XO

[@albertogomes5570]

I watch you for quite a while now, find amusing, uplifting but most of all real it comes from you embodied knowledge. let me just finish with a remark on your analogies they simply hilarious! Thank you for sharing

[@imwatching4us]

This is one of the most important recognitions that anyone can have. Every person needs to hear this, and hopefully understand. 🙏 Well spoken. Congratulations on a deep level of awareness and responsibily.

[@michaelyoseph6179]

Richard, I just want to drop a huge thank you for these videos. I was recently played like a fiddle by what I suspect to be a Covert Narcissist, which has led me to feel completely lifeless. I was treated as the most important person in the world to them and suddenly I was cheated on, communication stopped, and I was discarded like trash. Your videos have been the antidote to my state of dejection. Thank you!

[@wheelskis]

"The internet is a drug. If it was a drug, I think it would probably be an opiate with psychedelic qualities."

[@dianadiehl]

I, for one, do not consider the time I spend watching your videos in any way a waste. Although they are not a complete substitute for regular therapy sessions, they have been invaluable in lightening the weight of guilt for having spent so many years participating as the victim of a narcissist. Clarity of understanding gleaned from wisdom gained here is helping me to improve myself and spend less time in anxiety, endless cycling thoughts, and dwelling on the past. You bring value to the world and show that media can be used for constructive good and the improvement of society. Now onward to handle those unprocessed emotions...

[@TheShadowpatterns]

when I'm practicing meditation/non-judgmental awareness, I find it so helpful to remember 'bravery', and that so many of the things that bring about positive change (esp us with cptsd) are bound to be difficult at first. it gets easier. 1st class work, Richie. keep it up, your work truly matters to us.

[@kirstenseidl4176]

I have to be honest, before watching your videos I thought the issue with many past relationships was me. But you've (among other factors) have helped me to realize that it is me! Except, it's the people I pick, not how I treat them! Thank you for helping me see that I deserve better than what I've been opening myself to. It's a powerful realization that while I don't control others' actions, I control who I give energy to. And, in that way I'm in control of myself.

[@kirstenseidl4176]

And, I'm glad I found you before my previous abuse turned into a personality disorder (as it can when you've been abused deeply).

[@kirstenseidl4176]

And, it would be great if you offered a "lite" version of your course that is more affordable. I understand completely that your time and effort is worth it, but maybe a semi-automated course that is cheaper? I'd love to get help from you, but $75 is too much after several people have drained my money.

[@tinamariesmith3150]

Emotions =messages from the soul.

[@anomalija6469]

Those would be FEELINGS, very different thing that people always mix up. Some even think they are the same thing.

[@smartcatcollarproject5699]

I'm not sure there is a clear definition/distinction between both ? where do they come from ? we can't even say what consciousness is... Some say the soul is the link between the body and mind or spirit, and in the same way, emotions are also a bridge between physical and spiritual realms ...

[@janedoh123]

Smart Cat Collar Project I’m over 21 plus vat and I am still learning to recognise certain emotions from others and actually accepting that I’m really to rebuild myself this has been the first time I have ever had some feelings and situations that resonate with me and that I am not the only one who thinks or feels this or that but I have a starting point And I’m going to take the reigns back and be gentle with myself and reparent myself That you for being a fellow scouser and understanding how I feel Wish me luck I didn’t get fucked up in one day so I’m being realistic about it and I’ve actually been feeling like something has been shifting in the last few months and I found your channel at the right time 💯

[@tiggywinkle5933]

I consciously dope out via the internet to give me a break from my emotional pain. I'm totally aware I am doing it. I watch you a lot and other self help people and read stuff too but I also get sucked into all the crap attention grabbing stuff, and before I know it hours have passed. I hate myself for doing it but with everything that's happened over the last six years I am exhausted and paralysed and stuck in this state of not quite living. Pain avoidance, and when it catches up with me I drink a little too much to subdue those "waves". I know what I need to do, but can't quite kick myself up the arse or scrape together the physical energy to do it as I am so completely drained. I get angry with myself as I'm letting life pass me by an awful lot of the time. Every now and then I get a little spurt of energy and throw myself into something good, but the energy doesn't hang around for long and I re-enter my stupor. :(

[@tiggywinkle5933]

Thank you, that's good advice. :)

[@tiggywinkle5933]

Thanks, I'll check those out.

[@tiggywinkle5933]

just bought the David Burns book on kindle, looks promising!

[@gracelewis6071]

Wilson Thanks for your suggestions! I will also check these out - just stumbled in Jordan Peterson the other day. Edit; also what do you do? I myself have written similar comments so I'm guessing you have a lot of insight that goes beyond this.

[@greenelf912]

hey friend. been there Moomin Mama. great advice Wilson. try just do the same one small thing every day in direction you want to go. even if is to not beat yourself up as much to start. first do no harm. it will break the log jam. and never give up. we change. all the best.

[@palmamingozzi5736]

Hi Richard, I think you are very real and doing a great job. You must imagine how much help you offer to people who cannot afford services, and are shame based and embarrassed to ask for help, and the answers we are looking for in our journey of healing, you have them. I am grateful to you.

[@nikkidraper357]

Came back to some of your older videos bc I felt like I was due for a refresher. Your content is just gold✨ Thank YOU for YOUR time attention.

[@User0resU-1]

Thank you Richard, I used to think I'm a man experiencing emotions, now I think I'm Emotions experiencing a man.

[@sky2461]

Excellent reminders Richard. I need to keep processing emotions in order to stop recurrent irritating dreams. Thank you for the free videos, and you're welcome for my time and attention . :)

[@susandurrant25]

I listened to you more than once a day for more than a year, I listened and thought about everything you said, I improved more than I ever thought I could, Ive been away for 18 months and I've hit a bump on the road.... I'm back and found just the sound of your voice brings me calmness and I thank God your still here helping us all.... Thank you Richard you help more than you know, cheers Susan xxxx

[@a1r592]

Just wanted to say thank you for the video, i've been supressing my emotions for a very long time. I won't go into detail but i have stopped actually feeling anything, people ask me why i'm always so calm. I'm not calm, i'm unable to express myself i don't know how to give voice to my emotions. I truly wished i learned better how to express myself. It'll be a long way trying to tear down the wall, but thanks this helped me realize that it's worth it.

[@shae809]

Richard, you nailed this. Nailed it. And few, I totally know you have socks...respect.

[@RICHARDGRANNON]

Socks... do you have them?

[@profilingmanipulation]

I do, thankyou

[@RICHARDGRANNON]

Pictures or didnt happen.

[@profilingmanipulation]

RICHARD GRANNON SPARTANLIFECOACH Unfortunately didn't happen

[@RICHARDGRANNON]

Socks. A dream for our children's futures.

[@Ivan_BSGO]

Thanks for reminding me.

[@AdrianG78]

Great uplifting video Richard.

[@denisemackie1867]

this should be taught in school as a basic, not because we got lucky and found you (after 3 divorces and boat loads of heartache) thank you xoxoxoxox

[@koetzkoetz]

You are a blessing. These 23 minutes of my time that I gave to your toughts and teachings multiply the value of many other minutes in my life. Thank you.

[@Shasha8674]

Venting may help get rid of a strong emotions. People need intimate talk...express their inner ideas to someone daily. It is not narcissism, but a need to be known/express and understand their ideas/thoughts. Getting feed back helps people. Depression can be due to gluten/dairy/soy/sugar/GMO/food with a label and more. Sunlight/Vit D3 may help depression/Celiac. Vit B12 methylcobalamin with intrinsic factor/B vitamins/Zn may help stress. Anger may mean the liver needs detoxing. Allowing people to comment is very important. I don't even want to read an article I can't comment on. Some people maybe Bipolar due to Celiac which causes low lithium and other minerals absorbed in intestines due to gluten. They may attack/twist/have very strong emotions if they are on drugs instead of natural help. Acupuncture may help, Far Infrared Sauna,, vitamins/good oil/minerals...probiotic...LDN..may help and exercise/getting out in public/helping someone/doing something that helps self esteem.

[@junkyardjulie]

Shasha8674 I agree. I also know some who complain/vent 75% of the time, and is not interested in hearing other people. I don't know if that's a great thing.. you put so much focus on the stuff you feel is shitty. We need to rewire our brains!

[@lou-annbest1318]

I was grieving all my life. Although my family was invalidating and I had weak ego boundaries . This caused an endless cycle of grief and shame. Pete walker , Richard Grannon ,and Pia Mellody taught me stronger boundaries and self-validation and my grieving is finally leading to healing instead of shame spiralling. Self - championing and sharing with only appropriate people is very important. Thanks Richard !

[@yasminedey8612]

LOL. Love the playful way you describe things...good to know that the depression knocking at the gate of kingdom is Italian. ;). Love your very down to earth and easy to understand while deep videos.

[@viktoriagal5993]

I have the Feeling knocking on the door. I refuse to let it in. I distract myself with the internet, with work, with going to the gym... It is still knocking. I lash out on someone. I get angry for seemingly no reason at all. I reach for food, alcohol, some sort of legal drug to distract myself even more. I indulge in something. I go too far and only when I hate myself for being weak and miserable, only then I know what it was that I didn't want to let in. Thanks so much for another great video, Richard! I have learned a lot about why we do the things we do since I've found your channel.

[@tamicampisi2451]

One of Richard's best videos...it should be played in classroom environments where educating the younger generation on this topic is essential. I did share it with my 13 yr old who can't grasp all of it but alot of it. Thank you !💙

[@GeneBurnett]

I'm very glad to have the internet "menu" of things to check out...but I am so so happy that I grew up in pre-net times. I feel it helps me keep my balance between the virtual world and the physical world. For instance, I'm on line a lot when I'm at home, but I don't own a cell phone and when I leave the house, I am in the physical world with zero net distractions, zero "things to check". When I watch videos or movies at home, I'm almost always on my feet practicing T'ai-Chi, standing on my wobble board, working with hand weights, doing casual movement drills. Anything but just sitting there in the virtual haze. Being on my feet and moving helps me take in what's on the screen without becoming too immersed in it. I'm over here, it's over there. I'm aware of my body and the net as two different things. But the main thing that helps me keep my balance is that I spend so many hours every day completely offline, doing physical work or training. Without that uninterrupted physical time...if I was just raised now, as a virtual kid...that just seems like a hell realm to me. We ignore the body at our peril. Walt Whitman said "Every exaggeration has its revenge in human physiology." Nature always bats last. And it always wins. I'd like to be a conscious part of it...and being in the virtual world, for me, is only helpful towards that end if it's balanced by plenty of time being out of it. It's been fun shadow boxing to this video Richie, I really enjoyed it as usual. I miss the old self-defense ones too. ;~)

[@notyourblonde]

Richard this is scary, you're explaining stuff I've thought about and felt !!

[@umygam7101]

You have this amazing ability to give those of us struggling with abuse wonderful insightful advise, and deliver it in a way that makes it feel like a really good friend has our back. The emotional roller coaster of an emotional abusive person leaves one dazzed, confused and mindfucked. I discovered early on in my recovery how nearly impossible it was to get anyone to understand what I was trying to tell them about the abuse. You can not know what it meant to discover your channel and know you get it. I have purchased many of your courses and they are wonderful. Thank you again and please keep sharing with us.

[@JonRHilmars]

as always... the Time listening to what you are sharing, is always a true value! so .. thank you for your time and attention..

[@jeffwatkins1845]

The pursuit of distraction is the Great White Whale which Captain Ahab is chasing. His eye is bloodshot & hungry to see the Howling moon in other ppl's character as he slowly realizes the moon is his own Despicable Me and he can't steal it as it's an over zealous task to make up for all he is not. As he finds the moon does not move but he does, he should be humbled to the point of finally knowing he was looking for himself the whole time. His unprocessed emotions are those things his clinginess would not let go of or did not want to understand and accept. Those things added to the Howling moons glow which kept him bitterly charging away at possessing the unobtainable grasp of self via external pursuits.

[@deborahrochester5546]

In my humble opinion you are beyond good, appreciate it all 😊

[@patrickqueeney8763]

To the producer of this channel. You have changed my life for the better. Thank you sir.

[@darlaweber6790]

LOVE this - pure gold - thank you for doing what you do here. the way you weave in these issues both at the individual level and as they compound on the world stage is beautiful.

[@butterflymomma1007]

Your video came at a time; awaken from sleep at 2:00am. I listened to you speak of listening to my emotions which have been bubbling over lately as my life is changing drastically. Earlier in the evening I had a convo with my narcissistic ex, who told me some unsettling things, which I now see as manipulation, among some other things that I really hadn't spent much time processing. Anyway, I always welcome and enjoy your videos as they have helped me many times right at the precise time. Almost as if God is showing me what I need. Thanks Richard this helped me gain insight and now I'll try to make more of a point to listen to those emotions!

[@joeberry3689]

This guy opened up my eyes about 3yrs ago. I can't believe I hadn't yet subscribed to this channel until now.

[@rfeyman3682]

One psychiatrist told me I was depressed. I said yes but here is why - and listed what I perceive as the issue at hand. He said I needed meds and like an idiot I tried them but they didn't help because they didn't solve the problem. Sometimes I think those who deal with mental illness/issues just want to cover up feelings instead of getting to the root of what the problem is. We wouldn't do with a physical injury. Hey, there is a thorn in my hand. Oh well here is some painkiller and a bandage, come back for more painkillers when you run out. What take the thorn out? That is too hard!

[@ejaws1720]

That was very very useful to me Richard. As a veteran of Nam- class of 68- I became numb nuts so to speak but also blocked with more trauma & self medication. People like you help us to come out of the rabbit hole. Thanks

[@Ebbakinebba]

The points brought up in this video are all things i think about often. It really stuck in my head when you said: "You stare into the void and the void stares back at you." It's very creepy to me but somehow makes sense. When i go out in public and look at people's eyes, i sometimes think i see either dullness or fear in them. When i can actually pull myself away from electronics i like to go out into nature and sit on the earth and be still for a while and listen. Thank you for this video!

[@HelenaGamito]

Words to dis-cover what lays behind. Words to find out what in wherever worths time and attention. Words allow humans to go on related to their humanity.

[@ms.suzylee2932]

"There's more and more evidence piling up that we're living inside a simulation. I hate that, its so awkward." ❤

[@deborahpopham105]

Mr. Grannon, in a word "Inspiration " it can be quite a task helping one to know and understand,that they have suppressed emotions,and the unhealthy ripple effect it can have. The Educational value alone,in your videos , is to be commended,Its sad that there are some that cant or wont see how priceless this help can be,add your comical enthusiasm, you have most definitely helped this world to be a better place. So I say with all graditude. THANK YOU Deborah Popham

[@annegrenchus4203]

I like how you updated Julia Kristeva's warning that media allows us to farm out catharsis. Her solution was writing...taking the time and energy to give feelings words.

[@strukled8590]

Finally some honest down to earth voice! I've noticed that older people are better resistant to this Medea. They're in better condition than their ADULT children!

[@i3luelimits528]

Thank you so much for all your help these last 2 years. You and Dana were the Gateway to my Freedom. Stepped into better vibrations. Digging Deep ;-) Sending Big Hugs & Love

[@majorsnodgrassthethird5699]

Its all down to acceptance, floating and letting time pass.

[@gertrudes544]

excellent vid Spartan. Thank-you SO much for all you do.

[@HarmonousHappenings101]

Fantastic!!! Throughout my healing process I have been making myself feel my emotions. It actually takes work because I have been pushing them down for 50 yrs. It felt awkward and unnatural at first and very scary. It was as if I was going to be in big trouble if I allowed them to come out. I felt like a scared little kid and someone was going to shame me! Im pretty good at it now and times when they persist I sit down and write what Im feeling so I understand it completely When I do that its as if my body says ok she got the message we can stop nagging her now and the feelings dissipate! Then I can just move on. Its a beautiful thing to find and know myself finally!!! Thanks Richard more please!

[@ac80577]

i find that if it is important to verbalize emotions it is also very important to contextualize them as much as possible trying to produce corresponding memories from early childhood. The more you do that, the more you realize you were living in a fake double-bind matrix. Sad but necessary experience.

[@laurensimon3562]

I fall asleep to these videos at night, sometimes

[@lindaelarde2692]

Brilliant, Richard. Just articulated to myself the horrifying reality that behind the emotion that is behind the emotion, like the man behind the curtain that we are warned "not to look at"....is the existential terror that generates the question "Is this all.....???? Is this all there is....?" At least , for me, that is the real emotion at the core of all the others. Working through acceptance of that will be my mission....and, like our old friend Sisyphus....that fucking rock keeps rolling back down the hill labeled "what is this, where I am, what am I...WTF?" Yup...working hard here. Thanks for all your hearfelt wisdom....you help.

[@TheRoarWithin]

I recently discovered your channel. I wish I could talk as fluently as you. Your use of metaphor is always impressive.

[@nancydrew3615]

Richard Spartan... I have got to tell you that you are absolutely fantastic. I must thank you for being one perc to the internet that happens to be in my back pocket!!! well I don't normally have pockets, so I rest you close to my ❤️ if you know what I'm saying. I would give anything to find a friend like you in my reality. I feel like you are living inside my head. You put so many of my thiughts, emotions, actions and impulses into a perspective that I completely get. I am a sick chick with a lifetime of emotional baggage that combusted as a result of losing my recovering alcoholic father's last June! I feel trapped and isolated in a world that just disregards how severe mental illness can be. I know I will get through because I have made it this far, however it would really be a breath of fresh air to have like minded people to bounce to talk to about all my shit with. Someone who understands. 1 he a week for the last year just isn't cutting it with a professional isn't cutting it, especially in a world where they just want to sedate me. This psychological mind fucking crap feels like the death of me sometimes, but by the grace of God I'm so fortunate to find you here. You Rock!!!

[@englishBHllywd]

I resisted clicking this video at first bc i told myself i needed to stay in touch with things that make me feel good for this moment, and was afraid this would bring up lots of stuff that i have spent a lot of time working on but that i just dont want to do right now, and instead it WAS my uplifting message in the end anyway. as always, i did not regret one second (: thanks so much

[@MondayWisdom]

Hi Richard. I hope you don't mind. I mentioned you in my own little video. I love your work and am grateful for your wonderful wisdom and wit. We are so lucky to have you.

[@stellagortari4831]

I had seen this concept before and have been trying to implement it in my life for a little while. The other day I was frustrated about some work while talking to my mother and she told me “honey, don’t be frustrated, don’t get blocked!”, which I totally understand but for the first time in my life I responded “Mum, let me be frustrated! It will go away so just let me feel it now least it becomes something worse!”. Anyways I cried at the end of the video after a month of trying to cry and not being able to. So Big THANK YOU!! (I also really appreciate how in depth you go for a youtube video, and it’s really helpful now that I am trying to be more emotionally mature and understand myself better)

[@updateapril]

'creating reality through emotions' is a solid core to the work of Joe Dispenza and is supported with the research they have been doing; what are we choosing to pay attention to? + what emotions are we conjuring? = our new reality is being created

[@Jamieoo77]

Richard you really give so much value. Thanks alot.

[@m.e.l.9335]

As always, thank you for your FREE OFFERINGS. Much appreciated. (WOW, them blue eyes!)

[@l34l]

The issue is real, quite astonishing explanation about how people give power to an idea and then accidentaly -BOOM- this idea becomes real. Real as if the closeness of a concept somehow give life to the very concept in question. Thank you, I'm in, sub'd.

[@legatou]

I'm happy to give my time to Richard vídeos because i learn a lot with it, probably the best internet time "wasted" i know. Thanks

[@Nerodz]

Thank you for the gift of useful, insightful free content! Once the Buddha attained enlightenment, he could have easily gone off into the mountains and forests and spent the remainder of his life in solitary bliss. Instead, he chose to remain amongst sentient beings and attempt to help them attain realization. This is the Buddha's act of compassion. Your experiential wisdom, your insights are valuable to the alleviation of suffering. You might have sat on it and decided to never share it, and how could anyone fault you for it? This work you do and the free content you provide is a genuine act of compassion for the suffering of sentient beings. Tsunami's of gratitude, sir!

[@MyDennis333]

Just what I needed to hear today, as always, thank you very much my friend, your advice is like universal GOLD DUST, what would we do without you? Thank you.

[@tammye4677]

Your videos are really addictive already

[@unamurray4279]

the time and attention we spend learning from you is a positive recreation. so thank you for your effort and the knowledge. keep it up please, your helping. you have given me a great idea to help my daughter and her teenage depression. a notebook, pen and talking. thanks for that. U. dublin

[@freecatbeme]

Dude 'They want our Souls !' it is verrrrrry creeeeeeepy ! Love your channel. you are good at what you do. you help many folks !

[@judithwallace2091]

Excellent work Richard. After viewing this video I went to the beach and walked in the sand beside the waves. It helped me process alot of emotional energy.

[@englishBHllywd]

The internet is a separate culture, and we are writing the etiquette rules and guidelines as we go along

[@erthwkr]

Really great to hear your insight on this topic. Very enlightening. Your videos always give me good food for thought (and feels!).

[@DarkCuriosity]

its lovely to see how successful you become remaining authentic, your videos are long, genuine, there isn't any game here, any tricks to keep a viewer watching, just good content. Just value. You're funny, pleasant to listen to and full of knowledge and cultural references :) well done, thank you x

[@TeunS133N]

I tend to laugh things off as if i don't care, kinda works kinda doesnt. I will give this a try. Thank you so much for sharing! Really appreciate it.

[@subsuperficiem6781]

God damn, Joe Rogan listener too! It's so nice to have a real conversation in the background, and not be glued to a screen. Human memory evolved to learn through conversation, and textbooks are a relatively new format. It feels natural to listen when I can relax for an hour instead of prepare for strobe lights, car accidents, politicians, gunfire, cats, pharmaceutical sales pitches, music about things I don't want to do, and potato chip ads every 4 minutes.

[@katerinafrancis38]

Beautifully articulate, to the point and very current..... addictive? yes, but essential in society where we face crowds of people yet we feel isolated, in society where emotions are not in... Thank you! You will remain in my sweaty pocket...

[@nic210]

Sometimes I just think the human brain isn't yet capable of all this information. We're becoming overloaded with vicarious experiences and emotions. Hearing about every awful crime that has happened, every natural disaster or disease, and being constantly bombarded with millions of different opinions surely isn't healthy unless you have extraordinary emotional intelligence and logic. For example , I have thankfully never known anyone personally lose a child to a rare disease but I could find countless examples online, which will make me extremely anxious for my own children. The ability to know so much is a privilege of our times but I think it is more of a curse emotionally.

[@SirenVosa]

Or contrarily, you have a rare disease but nobody cares and nobody helps you out because of compassion fatigue.

[@hannahpresenceyoga]

Wow I'm really impressed with this video.... you've hit the nail on the head with what I've been thinking recently x

[@along4utube]

I have been watching your videos for several days pretty much daily in my lovely disassociated state, trying to understand C-PSTD and this video is an example of how much more impressive you sound and how much more influential to at least me, when the F's and F's and and and much much less in your information. Think about it like this, using your time is precious. Every F and S and FU words that are included in your video is filling time that could be used with much more useful information ;)

[@TheKak933]

I'm sad to hear this, but relieved too. I've been increasingly aware of the Internet and its affects on us. Good to hear it explained clearly.

[@gaiamother9323]

This video was outstanding thank you. I feel a bit triggered but I’m naming the feelings I can understand and working out the rest. Just wanted to comment on the discussion about the internet and how it’s made us have less boundaries. Facebook was originally designed to connect a college campus to spread a hot or not list I believe. Social media is sadly garbage. I am big on researching before I repost but I’ve done it before and I don’t get angry when someone brings it to my attention. Social media has gotten much much worse in Murica since 2015-2016. So many angry hate filled divisive articles and the “fake news” is ridiculous and fake in itself. Fake news means News I don’t like or it doesn’t align with my knowledge or interest. Thank you for What you do. It’s made a huge difference in my life in the short time I subscribed to your channel. Blessed be

[@carlahaiduk1878]

You are very good at explaining the ideas clearly and in a useful way. Thank you so much for your time and attention!

[@Allenda100]

The internet: it only gives you what you ask for...change what you look at, and you’ll change what you see. The power is the choice, and the power is within you...not the internet...am I missing something?

[@GabbieDorsey]

Dude thanks for all these comments and answers... it's like you got into my head, sort it out, figured it out and explained it to me.

[@gymnast2890]

Meditation helps me. Imagine a bubble of pure white light, love, & peace around you. Breathe it in. Imagine it permeating you on a cellular level. Breathe out the negative emotion, feel it leaving your body, see it disappearing, consumed by the white light or floating away into the Universe. I do this with every negative emotion I felt that day repeatedly until it's released. If something really upset me, I keep doing it. In &out replacing the negative with love & peace. Then imagine a waterfall of light pouring over you washing you clean of any residual negativity. This is after old stuff has been dealt with. It keeps any daily crud from building up. The longer I do it, the better it works (I started 2 months ago religiously, every night). Marisa Peer has a good one on heath. Mental health as well. I hope this helps someone. Peace&love❤❤✌✌

[@stuvs830]

Haven't been on here for some time... love the sleek new look and focus. Congratulations on your success, Richard!

[@Boylieboyle]

The British comedian Ben Elton did a brilliant routine in the eighties called "stuff to do" which perfectly describes this. It comes up on youtube under "ben elton stuff to do" - well worth a watch. btw thanks Ritchie for all your excellent life-saving work.

[@Boylieboyle]

just realised it's not the one I was thinking of. Still brilliant though.

[@CFAweiss]

I must admit that I do a lot of multi-tasking which includes watching your videos, TEDex videos, videos on Abobe editing and/or graphics, etc while scrolling through emails, doing wash, cleaning the house, gardening, etc. I guess that is why I enjoy your older videos like this where it is you discussing topics of interest. With the newer Spartan Life Coach videos adding in visuals and extra content it pulls my eyes away from my multi-tasking and then you are adding to the battle of my time ;-)

[@marycatherineann5624]

Very good video. I don't understand why a person, in particular, was raised in a nicer family environment than myself. This person throws up anger on me. But I don't want anyone to feel as bad as I did growing up and I don't throw up anger on them.

[@chark2718]

As i reflect on what i hear you saying about the internet, i realize how hungry our minds are & how the internet feeds our minds. And the limitlessness of it is enubriating. But to be too much in our minds is unbalanced. We are more than our minds. Reality is made up of more than just our mind, thinking, imagining, devouring information, experience.

[@TheSLK1973]

If only more people bothered to educate themselves on really important things, we would all get on so better....Rich....you smash it....I respect your intelligence...never change.