What held me back from coming out?

[@f150eagle]

Takes a lot of courage to do what you did and I applaud you for sitting in front of the camera and telling your story to the world. My respect and good wishes to you and everything you do! You have helped more people than you know by telling your story...... Best Wishes, Thank you! Steve. Boise,Id

[@lizhanbury1876]

Congrats on coming out! My father came out to my family (my mom, brother, and me) when I was about 18, and I took that opportunity to come out to them right then and there too. So, we came out at the same time. I'm 55 now and have been with my partner for over 30 years. I've been taking 75 mg of Effexor for over 7 years. I have mild bipolar; Effexor keeps me on an even keel, so to speak. I've enjoyed your vlogs, particularly talking about Aspergers and Effexor. Although I don't believe I have Aspergers, I can relate to some of the behaviors - perhaps I have it slightly, if that's possible. You look and sound great - keep up the good work! Thank you for being so real and sharing yourself with us! :)

[@brokenharbour]

Thanks for sharing your story too!

[@HealthSeekerNot2Late]

Thanks for sharing some of your process of coming out. I didn't come out until my 40's so 23 doesn't sound so late to me. I'm glad there are more resources & acceptance now; although, I think we still have a long way to go.

[@sleekcartim]

another great emotionaly honest vid. One of the things i respect most about youtubers! You really are doing well. ppl have to know kids can find so called "harmless stereotypes" & words like "thats so gay" etc... very damaging to their development. KZbin has changed many young gay lives positively, so awesome to hear we make a diff. now you get to do the helping ;) 1 LIFE

[@cardigansnloafers]

First of all, hello :) I found your channel about six months ago. I'm not autistic, but I stumbled upon a video where you discussed OCD. I remember thinking, "This guy is ridiculously cute!" But I assumed you were straight. Anyway, I definitely felt the same way when I was in middle school. I always assumed that I'd develop an attraction to women, but I was fantasizing about professional wrestlers and football players! I never understood why most guys weren't attracted to other guys. I look forward to more of your videos. :)

[@barryfrye8210]

You are so cool. I have enjoyed listening to you. You have incredible depth of consideration to yourself but others in your life as well. I hope you have someone in your life to hold and love. He is or will be a very fortunate man to have one as loveable as yourself. You are incredibly handsome too. God bless you

[@changesby40]

I understand what you mean about family have views because who is in their family.When growing up my grandmother and aunt were not open to anyone in our family being gay.It end up that two of my cousins were lesbians. My outlook on this subject was different because my mother would have long talks about that it is o.k to be gay but we do not talk about it to my family. I end up growing up with a strong opinion about how it wasn't fair that my cousin had to hide who they are. Now that both my grandmother and aunt have pass. One of them has come out to the family and has married her partner. Where they other just hasn't said it out loud but it just common knowledge. I have two kids and I know that I would support them no matter who they choose to love. It all comes down to my experience from my childhood, that shaped my outlook. I believe KZbinrs like yourself can change outlooks and make the world of difference to others to accept who they are.Thanks you for sharing your story.

[@crisha721]

I'm really glad i found your channel. Really happy to see lgbt neurodivergent representation. thanks for your honesty

[@MsSunnySideUP4U]

I discovered your video's because I wanted to learn more about Antidepressants and I just found this video too. I am really happy that you came out of the closet and that you are so HAPPY. You look and sound happy and it is good that you don't try to hide yourself or be ashamed. You have no reason to ashamed. I can't stand people who are homophobic. I am a heterosexual and I absoluetely support gay everything and everyone. You are so intellegent and wonderful to listen too. I can't wait to watch more of your videos. Always keep your spirits high and don't let any homophobic or rude people make you feel bad for just being who you are. :D Best Regards, Ms. Sunnysideup

[@Photoshoplilli]

I found your channel now in 2017 looking for info on effexor. Really enjoy all of your vids, too bad you don't upload anymore!

[@jackmcgreal7950]

You are very analytical when you speak and although you digress and dive into points very quickly I feel as if I can follow you're thought process.(background) (I'm 16 and have not come out to anyone that I am gay and KZbin, as you said, is a great place to find courage in seemingly dark times, if only one has the courage to search.) I just wanted to let you know that I keep a personal playlist of KZbin videos that I watch when I am feeling the sadness that almost everyone who has been in the closet can relate to, and your coming out video and this one have just been added. I hope you continue to make videos because I am definitely subscribing.

[@brokenharbour]

Many thanks for the message - I really identify with it. I came out when I was feeling good and happy. I think it's a good idea to be in that state of mind. You don't want to come out to prove a point to anyone or make a statement about that person. I hope I'm being somewhat clear. I came out when I was feeling strong but it took me years and years to get to that point in my life. Your comment indicates you are miles ahead of where I was when I was 16, and that's a great thing. I wish you the best of luck in your coming out process whenever you feel it's right to do so with the people in your life. Hope I could be of some help!

[@jyatzy123]

your not alone

[@4got102c]

Many, many, many people live long lives, hidden deep in the closet. Don't question or doubt or analyze your choice. Being gay was not a choice. At the heart of all humans (well, at least males) sexual interest and..well...lust is a basic preference. try not to question, don't deny it. Be honest. You sure aren't alone. And congratulations on your great courage TO BE HONEST.

[@77437083]

Thanks for sharing. Your really cute. First watching you on your video on Trazodone. Hope your well & your enjoying your weekend :-)

[@MasiukA]

It's interesting how linked Autism and LGBT are. To be clear, I am not gay, but I am autistic. But I wasn't fully aware of it until recently. My struggles/failures with getting girlfriends, talking to girls, hooking up, etc since puberty basically, recurrently led a lot of people to think I might be gay. It felt almost like a conspiracy railing against me because while the idea of being gay would have explained my failures in keeping up with my male peers, it felt wrong because I have always been attracted to women, had crushes on girls, etc. But I didn't have a better explanation. The idea of being on the autism spectrum seemed far out because of the stereotypes around it, but I wondered that as well. But I internalized it and I was really confused with my identity. I thought I must just be a creep or a weirdo. But nope, just autistic.

[@Eruptor1000]

Great Vid

[@tonybennett4159]

The idea of the stereotypical guy is revealed by comments on YT such as "Why do gays have to talk and walk like that?" Answer : They are the only ones that you see that you CAN identify as gay. The vast majority are totally invisible amongst the general population. The stereotypes are therefore the product of shallow thinking. I should add, however that when friends of mine said "Those effeminate guys give us a bad name", I gave them a rap over the knuckles. They have the right to behave that way if they wish. We are no better than the homophobes if we think that, and when you analyse it, there's a big slice of mysogyny in such comments.

[@brokenharbour]

+tony bennett yup have been seeing this all over youtube and I appreciate this comment. The gay community is such a wide group of people (let alone the lgbt community) to be pinned down as any one thing. Everyone has the right to be as they are. The purpose of this video was my personal struggle against this narrowing stereotype and it's implications as to when I finally came out. Your comment makes a very important point. Thanks for sharing!

[@yaggayaggaya9918]

When you find out he's gay and you're so happy then you realise he has a boyfriend and then you're sad again.

[@2009pepperonipizza]

Sexy bear. Woof!