What I Don't Like About Being A Mom

[@BigMami218]

Being a mom is hard in every way I thought it wouldn’t be. I was prepared for the lack of sleep. For the crying. I hadn’t fully understood the lack of freedom to do things. I’m not talking about going out with friends, I’m talking about grocery shopping, showering and even working. Everything NEEDS to be scheduled. I never thought going to target without my daughter would feel like a vacation. I love being a mom. It is hard.

[@taylorswf23]

I’ll add one.. the weekends are like every other day of the week. I think you handled this topic honestly, without complaining!

[@AshleyEmbers]

Yes! Holy moly, especially with the pandemic

[@mariod7573]

The mental clutter that you talked about is the worst for me. I get so stressed when things don’t go perfectly according to plan and the schedule gets messed up. Like if baby wakes up early from one nap, the whole days schedule gets shifted and all that troubleshooting is soooo exhausting.

[@kittykitty980]

The mental clutter is even worse when the house is also a mess. Then I’m thinking about my stuff, the baby’s stuff and then making a mental to do list as I walk around. So exhausting

[@moveyoumetal3027]

Mom of two boys here...one thing I don’t like about motherhood is when my kids are sick. I’m a clean freak, germaphobe. So when the vomit or diarrhea happens I’m masking up, wearing gloves and disinfecting everything! We just got over a stomach bug and we were all exhausted. The amount of laundry was ridiculous. I told my husband the next time we get something like this I’ll be lighting all the gross stuff on fire lol! I can totally relate to all of these.

[@frankiebee2980]

Ashley’s been comin with the realness!

[@austenmidland7034]

Seriously! Her channel is one of the few that don't feel fabricated in any way

[@dancing-queer]

These are a few of the many reasons I'm childfree. I'm a sensitive introvert who needs to be alone in silence a lot, so having children wouldn't suit me at all. It's really good that you're sharing this, and I hope it also helps people to reconsider their wish to be a parent, because not everyone is suited for that (and aware of it). Sadly there's a large group of people who experience regret after they realise what it actually means to raise a child.

[@AussieAdventures77]

Cope

[@danaansell1383]

You’re not complaining! It’s hard to be a mom and do all of this stuff. a lot of us start out with unrealistic expectations so I think it’s great for you to talk about these things (: plus it helps to normalize these feelings and know that someone else feels the same way.

[@eli.o.p8345]

You weren't complaining, it's just part of the reality. Thanks for sharing this!

[@emccrac01]

I feel like you read my mind. Seriously, every point you mentioned had me going, “Yes!” So relatable.

[@andreab9954]

I have to say, I was hesitant to click on this one and the how to not hate you partner after having kids one because I have a 2 month old and I didn’t want to bring in negativity but you do such a good job of validating ones experiences without complaining and making it sound awful. I actually feel more positive and hopeful after I watch these

[@AshleyEmbers]

Wow I’m so happy to hear that 🧡

[@Lena-lp7xf]

I have a two month old, and I absolutely love being a mom. At the same time, totally agree with everything you said! My whole life right now is keeping track of when she naps, how long she naps, and when she eats.

[@anaadventures7669]

I'm a new mom and in grad school and the amount of time it takes to do a task now can be so frustrating. I used to be able to knock out a research paper in a day or two if I hunkered down but now I have to plan lots of time in advance and even then I'm behind. so many feelings with motherhood. 🤍

[@inspirekathryn]

The mind clutter thing really gets me too. I had to use my Echo dot to set reminders, it helped me alot! I don't like to be on my phone because it makes me feel less present. I also use it to listen to podcasts when doing chores like the dishes which is my least favorite thing to do, but is a necessary everyday thing for me. I would recommend it to any mom!

[@charlottefaure8631]

Oh yes definitely for me the worst is "your mind is always full!!" Thanks for that, comforting to see that your world is not 100% perfect, as it always looks so nice and put together on your vlogs ☺️☺️

[@kerstingefischert3170]

I‘m 31 weeks right now, and i was always afraid of having children because of all that stuff you talked about (and much more..). But I have to say that I am glad that I never had a romantic imagination of being a mom...but this does not make it easier...my mind was full of stuff before baby and now it’s even more full. Mothers and dads are doing such a great job! Greetings from Germany

[@Ashleyohmy11]

Loved this! It did not feel like complaining at all, there are good and bad to everything and I appreciate you putting out the truth about motherhood because it isn't always glamourous.

[@janaynmelis5250]

Thanks for releasing this video and being honest! I'm becoming a mother any day now (38 weeks) and appreciate the 'realness'. ❤️

[@AshleyEmbers]

I’m so glad it’s helpful. I just want to help moms not feel alone in this 💪🏻

[@moveyoumetal3027]

Good luck on this new chapter! Safe delivery and happy mom and baby!

[@alexandriaandrade9068]

My thing is almost taking 2 hours to leave the house with a baby ! Also trying to plan and be prepared just to go to church or a friends house.😔

[@carolineroy1068]

Even if you just wanted to vent this would still be okay. I really like this video because I’m definitely feeling (and struggling) with all of these things as a new Mum and it’s great to see I’m not alone and it’s totally normal to feel this way. I’m loving being a Mum but it is life altering and you have to learn to take a lot more rough with the smooth!

[@JimenezB385]

Loved the video and all the honesty 🙌🏼

[@dizzlecookie]

My baby is a little over 3 months. So far the hardest parts for me are that she hates the car seat so needing to go somewhere is so stressful, and staying home I'm getting stir crazy! It's a no win situation. Also having my life be on a timer between her meals, and other people not realizing that after she's done eating we need to head out, chop chop. I've got 1-2 hours before we gotta do this again! Of course she's so worth it! But it's nice to be able to commiserate with other moms lol

[@bawinogr]

Yaaaaaas. I think this is also a little bit different with the temperament of each child. So I find that even other parents don't seem to understand this hustle!

[@saribelgonzalez5124]

Hola 🤗! I really LOVE your motherhood videos 💖! You are real and show us the good and the “bad”! Thank you so much! I am a mother to be and appreciate all your advices! God bless you ✝️💖🙏🏼💕

[@autismenlightenment]

My daughter is almost 8 weeks and she has already moved away from taking a million naps. I feel like when she is awake I want to engage w her instead of ignoring her in the swing so I've been putting her in the pack and wearing her more. This way I can still be w her and get the neccessary stuff done like laundry and preparing meals for those of us who can't live on milk alone! She actually ends up sleeping in the pack while I attempt to accomplish chores.

[@jenniferstuart1228]

So glad you made this video. Like you said, we really need to normalize the bad with the good. It’s not always puppies and rainbows people!

[@karinaoconnor6623]

Very good video. Wish I knew this before becoming a mum. I thought it would be all butterflies and fairytales and I would go everywhere and do everything with my baby that I wanted...NO, sure enough I got a rude awakening 🤣😅

[@lordbusiness9193]

Thank you for being honest. Life with a baby isn't always easy. It's ok to say that out loud.

[@simoneglover1528]

Found your channel today, related to everything you said😆just subscribed😊

[@AshleyEmbers]

🧡🧡🧡

[@shelbywinkelmans9563]

LOVE the honest talk and normalizing these things thank you so much ❤️ I'd love to hear a follow up about how you actually do the planning out you were talking about and how you handle the things you just can't get to. Keep doing what you're doing I love it.

[@Ally.Taylor]

Our girl Ashley with the real talk👏💗

[@kristenrossiter9726]

Wow this is literally exactly how I feel

[@hellosambryant]

omg please more real and raw talks like this!

[@charlottefaure8631]

Hi ! You've mentioned Rook s nap schedule and how he's been on one since he was 5 months old if I heard right? Do you think you could do a post or a video to explain how you've managed to put him on a schedule? How your days were organised before that, how long it took, what the schedule was etc? Would be super interested 👌

[@ariesleocap]

I love this video! I wish more women showed the good & bad of motherhood😊

[@LonyaFrench]

Thanks so much for this video! Great points! I was wondering what your opinion is on date nights, finding a sitter so you and your partner can have some more dedicated alone time. Thanks again for all the great content.

[@Jonni800]

I feel this so much, I have a 5 month old son.

[@AshleyEmbers]

🧡

[@khoubrowne9017]

Literally everything said is the truth.

[@serenahasworth6802]

Here for the REALNESS!

[@prplrhinomilk]

I love these honest videos!

[@TimiSterr]

One thing I don't like is that because my baby feeds very often (every hour, max 2 hours), for long periods of time, I'm stuck to the same spot for most of the day, and it can feel very claustrophobic.. I love breastfeeding itself, it's very relaxing to me and I like to know that my baby feels the safest and the happiest. I just admire her while she's feeding 🥰😍

[@ملتقىدجلةوالفرات]

I hate cleaning cooking being stuck at home not able to freely move around for work study travel or just for fun and most of all i miss my sleep i am just always tired i miss my energy i miss my quite time i miss the chance to be going all day from lectures to job to seminars to lessons to night clubs now just isolated stuck inside the house

[@em-emma-em]

100% agree. I have another one to add, mum shaming, I wish that didn't exist

[@jocelynbugan10]

Appreciate your videos always :)

[@FelineRM]

for me its gonna be day care/school runs. Im NOT a morning person. My baby is not even born yet and im already worrying about going back to work :p

[@fionaharrison8300]

2 things - naps and food. I wish they didn’t need to nap or eat solids 😂 napping means we are so restricted on where we can go as he will not nap unless the conditions are ‘just right’. And food is just a nightmare - allergies + fussy eater + clinginess not letting you cook = STRESS

[@christinaponce7789]

I don’t like the constant worry of “does the diaper bag have everything? What if I forgot sometime I need at home” worry. Even though I go through the diaper bag every time we leave the house lol #momproblems

[@marija2110]

So true

[@lineupgirl]

Thank God I Never nap and I only Need 5-6 hours of sleep per day. This makes it really Easy doing stuff while Baby is sleeping 🙂 I do Not like doing all the housework including all that laundry 😲😨😵

[@oliviat238]

Can I ask what made you switch from following cues to a scheduled routine? My baby is almost 3 months and so far I have just been following his cues. Just wondered what benefits you have found being scheduled instead.

[@CrazyShawty95]

I cant answer your question but just to put some in some input.. My "baby" is now almost 3 and I never switched from following cues to schedules. Sometimes schedules just don't work out for some families and visa versa. I felt pressure to get into some kinda routine early on and it just never happened! Don't feel negatively if you just don't switch x

[@oliviat238]

@@CrazyShawty95 thanks for your input! I'm not a very schedule oriented person. I like to go with the flow, so I guess this is good to hear. So far letting my baby tell me what's up has been working okay. I just forsee that when things start to open up and we can do things again having a schedule may be beneficial so I don't plan to go out somewhere and then have a baby who wants something entirely different.

[@blooms87]

@@oliviat238 We were von sleep cues until my baby was four months old. The schedule helped us with earlier bedtime and getting through the four months sleep regression. I also feel a bit more relaxed that my baby gets the amount of skeep she needs. But we're not too strict on the schedule.

[@oliviat238]

@@blooms87 oh 4 month sleep regression sounds fun. 😬 haha Glad you got through it! I'll keep that tidbit in mind. Thank you!

[@nataliabarber6372]

I hate feeling like I'm a failure and am ruining my kid :(

[@ملتقىدجلةوالفرات]

My child never naps 😭😅

[@lizzybee91]

Nothing like being sick and still having to take care of a baby 😣

[@JA-xv3qp]

Ok but what do you do when your kids are tweens and you start to pick up on personality traits that make you dislike… well, them!

[@AshleyEmbers]

I try to not think about the teen stage 🙃

[@chiriviscospower]

Good thing is you're getting motherhood out of the way whilst young. These little problems become more annoying when you're older because new older parents typically have less energy and patience to effectively tackle the challenges of raising a child.