What if I'm not physically attracted enough?

The power of your mind can determine what you find attractive, and if you don't want them, let them go.
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[@lamaaboubakr29]

Please do not shame yourself if you can't find someone attractive, If you're not attracted they're not your person. and, I want to challenge the internalized body shaming/colorism/unrealistic standards that make it challenging to find people naturally attractive.

[@hope23389]

I agree with your perspective on how physical attraction is related to body image! I realised i relate to it so much , it honestly made me tear up Thanks for the video

[@razer0072073]

It's called dual mating strategy. The guy who's not physically attractive is good to have a family with, security, stability, etc, but the guy that she finds physically attractive is genuine desire and is good for genetics

[@Kaleki935]

Literal cope. Just do more push-ups, it's not hard. If you work too hard to exercise, you're literally being paid to work out daily and you'll naturally improve. Your entire passage is just refusing to take the reins.

[@fardeenmahmud8866]

@@razer0072073 There are men out there with both qualities. I’ve seen them. But will the average woman ever find a man like that? Allahu a’lam. I’d say that we men face a similar struggle. Yes, men have a dual mating strategy too. And I say this as a man. Let me explain. We want a good wife, mother and homemaker, but we also find very beautiful women attractive. But 9 times out of 10, the women who are extremely beautiful tend to be cold, rude, and stuck up and would never make good wives or mothers.

[@thebrotherhood1675]

what?

[@kb4432]

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “A woman is married for four reasons: her property, her status, her beauty, and her religion. Thus, give precedence to one with religion.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 4802, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1466 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

[@ranahuwaidi3715]

I’ve been thinking and asking this for years, no one has been able to answer my questions SubhanAllah, except for you. That’s a gift from Allah.

[@zaymac7776]

habiti I read the title and couldn't click more fast enough! I feel this heavily ;(

[@Illyas-yk]

Salam I just wanted to mention that I had ur vids pop up in my fyp for some reason soo I decided to watch ur content and even though your content is somewhat targeted for single sisters but as a younger guy I am finding it quite interesting to see the perspective of the search from the females PoV through your content.

[@Sarafara7]

I feel her content is for both men and women.

[@Illyas-yk]

@@Sarafara7 some of it yes but most of it is her talking specifically to her female audience

[@ibraheemkhan9116]

As a guy, After this video, one thing I feel like I need to start asking potentials is if they have any body dismorphia or self esteem issues before the exchanging of photos so I can preface my self 😅

[@ranahuwaidi3715]

You literally answered my questions, I’ve been too ashamed to ask. SubhanAllah.

[@thebrotherhood1675]

nice one lama u smashed it, but your coaching is too expensive, i have to be one of those guys watching "how to make 10k per month videos" lol

[@visual_learner_c0des]

I’m a Christian but great advice and video

[@GamingWorld-44s]

MAY ALLAH GUIDE AND PROTECT FROM EVERY THING AMEEN. AND SISTER I HAVE QUESTIONS ARE YOU REVERT MUSLIMAH?

[@turkymurky8433]

FOR REAL. THESE POTATOES MAKE ME MAD. HOW??!!! LIKE HOW DO THEY DO IT??!!

[@sadigolestani]

DO NOT marry someone you’re not physically attracted to. It is against the Sunnah according to Imam Ahmed. Marriage: Ask about Beauty First - الإمام أحمد Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal said: ‎إذَا خَطَبَ رَجُلٌ امْرَأَةً سَأَلَ عَنْ جَمَالِهَا أَوَّلًا. ‎فَإِنْ حُمِدَ: سَأَلَ عَنْ دِينِهَا. ‎فَإِنْ حُمِدَ: تَزَوَّجَ، وَإِنْ لَمْ يُحْمَدْ: يَكُونُ رَدُّهُ لِأَجْلِ الدِّينِ. ‎ وَلَا يَسْأَلُ أَوَّلًا عَنْ الدِّينِ، فَإِنْ حُمِدَ سَأَلَ عَنْ الْجَمَالِ. ‎ فَإِنْ لَمْ يُحْمَدْ رَدَّهَا. فَيَكُونُ رَدُّهُ لِلْجَمَالِ لَا لِلدِّينِ “When a man proposes marriage to a woman, he should first ask about her beauty. If he’s happy with (her beauty), then he should ask about her religion. If he’s happy with her religious practise, then he should marry her. If [her religious practise is found to be] not good, then his rejection is due to religion. [A person proposing] should NOT first ask about religion, for if it’s good and _then_ he asks about beauty (he will potentially have to reject a religious woman over beauty). If [the beauty] is not praised and he rejects her, then his rejection of her will be due to beauty and not religion.” Al-Insaaf", 8/19 Some people misunderstand that Hadith about women getting married for 4 reasons - they think ONLY Religion is important. That's not what that Hadith means. That Hadith means: Religion is the MOST important factor, and NOT that it is the ONLY important factor. It is also important that BOTH husband AND wife find each other physically attractive. Ibn Qudamah says in 'al-Mughni', (5347): ‎وَيَخْتَارُ الْجَمِيلَةَ ؛ لِأَنَّهَا أَسْكَنُ لِنَفْسِهِ ، وَأَغَضُّ لِبَصَرِهِ ، وَأَكْمَلُ لِمَوَدَّتِهِ ، وَلِذَلِكَ شُرِعَ النَّظَرُ قَبْلَ النِّكَاحِ . "He should choose a beautiful woman, because she will give him a greater sense of tranquillity, and is more likely to help him lower his gaze and there will be more love between them. This is why the Shariah allowed one to look at their fiancee before marriage." Umar Ibn al Khattab رضیﷲ عنه said: ‎"Do not force your girls to marry ugly men, because they also love (beauty) like you love (beauty)." ‎[Musannaf of Ibn abi shaybah 4/94] Likewise, women should choose a husband that they are attracted to. But beauty without Religion is useless. Also some psychologists say physical attraction doesn’t often build afterwards if it wasn’t there before www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/magnetic-partners/201311/the-role-physical-attraction-in-your-relationship

[@volimneretvu8923]

Thats something new I learned! Thank you for sharing! Islam is really all encompassing

[@kb4432]

This is misleading. We know that as soon as our Beloved Prophet (PBUH) came to Madina, he started pairing up men and women for marriage. The criteria for a proposal is laid out in the following hadith. This is also the most authentic type of hadith out there : Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “A woman is married for four reasons: her property, her status, her beauty, and her religion. Thus, give precedence to one with religion.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 4802, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1466 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

[@fardeenmahmud8866]

⁠@@kb4432You should definitely not marry someone you’re not attracted to, and yes, this is the ruling in Islam. Intimacy is the right of the husband and wife over each other. How can this right be fulfilled if there is little to no attraction? Such marriages never succeed. Also, being religious and good looking don’t have to be mutually exclusive. I’ve seen practicing Muslims who are also physically attractive. There’s nothing wrong with wanting both. In fact, you can’t truly love your spouse if you don’t find him/her at least somewhat attractive.

[@kb4432]

@@fardeenmahmud8866 So why did our prophet (PBUH) marry an old widow by the name of Sawda (RA) who wasn't attractive? It's not all about beauty. For women, marraige is also a form of physical protection, financial security and shelter. Allah did not create women to be alone. Read the above hadith again and please refrain from saying "should not".

[@kb4432]

Abdullah ibn Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1467 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim

[@Bb-pw1zi]

Do Arabs or Turkish people find white reverts attractive or do they have no hope in finding a partner?

[@sapok4925]

Ich habe dein Kommentar vorhin gelesen. Du wohnst in einer Großstadt und sicherlich sind auch dort andere Communities außer türkische oder arabische. Außerdem stimme ich deiner Aussage nicht zu, da ich aus einer Kleinstadt komme und hier konvertierte Schwestern und Brüder in eine türkische/arabische Familie als Konvertierte eingeheiratet haben. Alles ist Nasip. Mach viel Dua Bruder.

[@sapok4925]

und heirate niemanden mit der Intension, dass sie vielleicht konvertieren wird. Das kann ganz schnell nach hinten losgehen. Möge Allah unsere Angelegenheit erleichtern

[@SamjohnJohn]

Ask your grandmother, trust me she knows things you don’t

[@EricaRyan-s3i]

😶

[@sarakhalidswis55]

GIVING UGLY MEN A CHANCE IS CRAZY

[@sarakhalidswis55]

AND SHORT MEN????

[@MuhammadMotala]

Missed the point of the entire video. What a shame

[@sarahnovella4971]

GIVING UGLY WOMEN A CHANCE IS CRAZY AND FAT WOMEN???? some dude somewhere will definitely have the same mindset as you lol

[@kb4432]

Read the story of Julaybib. He was A very ugly sahabi, but our Beloved prophet (PBUH) desired him to have a normal life. Read about the woman who married him and the level of her eman.

[@thebrotherhood1675]

dont be such a jaahil man have some class and respect for Allah

[@syedmajidahmed8292]

You are beautiful ❤️ but you talk a lot so thats a -1 😢

[@sarahnovella4971]

😂😂😂😂 i haveeeeee to give you -100000000 because obviously you're a dum2 for even commenting this 😂😂😂😂 omg some people are worse than weirdos lol

[@kb4432]

"O Prophet!˺ Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their chastity. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do." The Noble Quran 24:30

[@Left-Over]

I look like a potato!!! I'm out