What Women Actually Find Attractive In Men (The Female Gaze Explained)

[@CourtneyRyan]

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[@zaynevanday142]

Well that’s me Fkd 😂 I’m a loner 😂

[@EricMoore790]

I said "Hey" to a woman last night and she said "Hey." I am making progress and gaining confidence.

[@_Aurelian_]

Legend!

[@ubercow21]

Open your wallet with cash(20's and above) and she will fall head over heels for you, next.

[@Superdessucke]

Good for you! I'm sure that worked out really well lol!

[@b-zoneonroku2020]

you got lucky, she didn't roast you on social media, but the next one will.

[@kaismqadir]

Taking notes 📝

[@ABNLAW-v8t]

1. Pro-sociality (Kindness, Generosity, empathy, good social skills, good at maintaining relationships, helping others) = being a gentleman; 2. Good Health = Fit person, with good skin and healthy body weight (does not mean you have to be jacked); 3. Emotional Intelligence; 4. Rolled up sleeves of a shirt; 5. Intelligence - strong problem-solving skills; 6. Good sense of humor; 7. Ability to signal future resources (Future stability) - you do not have to be rich, however can secure her and your future;

[@davdin2]

So I was right... Everything😂

[@ilai7893]

@@davdin2 Fellas, we should look for these things from women too!

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

I'm not trying to secure her future - I'm trying to get NSA action.

[@stevenglock]

Hopelessly misleading video. The #1 thing women are attracted to is money and resources

[@BheeOrgh]

@@stevenglock Modern Women - 100%

[@ManFinest]

Before you do anything, make sure she finds you attractive first, if no then everything you do towards romance has minimal affect

[@xjoemallardx]

Attraction doesn't matter if you can't flirt or banter.

[@paulread7113]

Flirt and banter isn't necessary if she physically fancies him enough

[@mr.j3371]

True

[@paulread7113]

@asharudlandlifeteacher Unless what you say is "I'm unemployed" 😂

[@coolnut99]

@@xjoemallardx If you're handsome but shy, she will still find you cute and mysterious.

[@Ziggle-ky9kv]

There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal

[@epicbehavior]

Holy shit he has a 6-book series. This looks like gold. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@mikeleecruz4197]

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[@epicbehavior]

@@mikeleecruz4197 what

[@peterwilliams6361]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient

[@GregMunro]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@peterwilliams6361]

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..

[@GregMunro]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.

[@peterwilliams6361]

You wont regret it

[@michaeljames4630]

staged for likes and subs

[@profwaynewsmith]

I have a lot of the same ingredients I had when younger but it took me 20 years to optimize those ingredients. Many women only look for the finished product and do not look at the ingredients to see what will most likely be. They dont often understand the journey it took to get there. Glad I met my wife earlier in life so that we could go on the journey together. It would be much harder to find a spouse today.

[@wizardofahhhs759]

Right, the chick I'm talking to right now told me to let her know when I found a place in Florida and she would move right in, nothing about helping me search, pay, move or anything. Just the finished product.

[@ChadElk88]

Them ingredients getting stale brah.

[@txdang2009]

women wait at the finish line and just pick the winners

[@glennhosick1514]

Your 2nd paragraph!! Was so on point! Especially the latter lines! I don't think I'm better than anyone! Though I do know the journey it took myself to get to the soul I am today! Hence why! I simply wouldn't just give my soul to any woman! .&. Would expect the same within reciprocation. ... I'm glad you found your love.&. special early doors!! As definitely 💯 % doesn't get easier as years progress! I really appreciated your comment! Well worded.&. thought within combination. ..

[@DDD11239]

​@@wizardofahhhs759 You mean, WERE talking to, right?

[@data_dealer861]

Glad you clarified that, I was here to figure out what the female gays were all about.

[@zelenirabbit]

💀

[@SweepTheLeg2023]

🤔🦘 *This still doesn't change the fact that there are 49 million kangaroos in Australia and 3.5 million people in Uruguay, which means that if kangaroos invaded Uruguay, each person would have to fight 14 kangaroos.*

[@txbob5978]

Your thinking is so stupid!

[@greatrulo]

New fear unlocked. 😂

[@kiyotakaayanokoji3065]

​@@greatrulo I would like that challenge. Bet.

[@mr.magnetic8884]

Never forget the fact that kangaroos are more muscular and stronger than the average person.

[@mba321]

These are the kinds of facts we need.

[@c.b.m.55]

Yeah the female gaze is real. Once I leveled up and started experiencing it I had no freakin idea what to do with it. I never knew women could be that direct with their eyes.

[@blackforestdouche6285]

I'm just an eveyday normal guy. Nobody sees me, nobody needs me, nobody misses me, nobody hates me, nobody likes me; I'm just an NPC. But I don't care, because nobody cares ! God bless you Courtney 🕊

[@30yearcycle]

It all starts with you. If you don't care, why should anyone else?

[@michaelcdarby]

It’s unfortunate but I’m the same way

[@Conn30Mtenor]

For a start stop beating yourself up. A major turn off for women- self-pity is so un-sexy.

[@natthaphonnoble2407]

Dang bro I wish for the best for you.

[@Martin_Priesthood]

😢😢😢😢 not a good mental state?

[@joseafalvel]

nothing of that matters if she doesn't think you're handsome

[@issi529]

Women are different. You don't have to be that handsome as a men.

[@joseafalvel]

@@issi529 what I see is that they love extroverts because they believe they are more confident, I'm having issues with that, besides being an introvert I'm shy and I'm kind of autistic so I have tons of doubts all the time and I guess they see and notice some nervousness, not be conceited but I have money and people around me say that I'm smart above average, when they know those things they treat me a little bit better but not with romantic interest, just plain interest and that has been all my life, well the money part since I got the nice job I have currently

[@howardsmith9342]

I think it's the same thing that men think about women...there is a certain minimum standard that, if you fail to reach, you won't get into the game. But once you reach that standard, personality takes a bigger role. Sure, a guy who has a great personality but is lacking in the looks department has a shot, but one who looks like 10 miles of bad road won't get a first look, let alone a second one. Same with women.

[@issi529]

@@howardsmith9342 I know what you mean, of coursenyou have to look a little attractive for some people in order to have a relationship. But guys need more of a good personality, women need more good looks overall.

[@cseptember6562]

100% true

[@mr.j3371]

In my limited experience, it works better when the women chooses you and then you decide whether or not to commit to her. If you have to win her over, usually doesn’t end up well

[@ChristopherMunger-i4b]

Never chase a woman only allow a woman that chases you and wont give up in your life. A woman doesnt work for it she wont respect winning him

[@johnwu2553]

smartest comment ive ever read

[@enlightenedsipper]

seriously ive had a woman tell me she believes men make the 1st move. but im skeptical. to me it sounds like she doesnt know wt she wants/low selfconfidence. its almost impossible to get rejected by a man than vice versa so theres no excuse. infact ive witnessed a girl get sour over another woman for making the 1st move smh. even tho finders keepers applies to both genders lol. its just social constructs that make women fear their own drive. how r u gonna put all that makeup on just to not make a move? doesnt make sense

[@roxorz309]

This is the way. If you want a long term relationship to last, she better be crazy about you.

[@michaellopez5338]

100%

[@justsomeguy2943]

Women WANT MONEY. Everything else comes after money. Just LISTEN to ANY woman and she will ALWAYS talk about money (in some form or fashion, to one degree or another).

[@BlahBlahPoop617]

Listen to not what a woman’s says, but what she does.

[@gerbenhoutman9348]

8:50 One of the first things to go in a stressful situation is the sense of humor. So a good sense of humor projects comfort and security, as well as intelligence.

[@gentlegiants1974]

future resources = any woman thinking that is a gold digger. I lost everything after 8 years with a woman like that. She will play along for long enough to rope you in and assure herself that she has your future resources locked in, then presto...things go south, she wants out, she takes the kids, the house, the money, all she can get and your future resources are all hers.

[@30yearcycle]

Love and affection is the emotional bond. Without that, there is no point in getting involved.

[@hyabusa22]

Damn homie. You sound 10000% like me for the first 3 years after my divorce. And I’m only 2 years into that 3 years. 😅😅

[@BlahBlahPoop617]

@@30yearcycle Love is an action. It’s commitment. It’s loyalty. It’s caring about the other persons needs. Love isn’t a feeling. That type of love is fleeting. Many men need to make sure they have the former type of love and not the latter.

[@jarenlio8772]

as we age, i realize that my attraction to women is waning.

[@222333aaaaaa]

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[@rollzolo]

Bruh, I'm 62 and my gf is 38

[@slick_Ric]

try doing what you can to keep your testosterone levels up, especially working out. test naturally declines with age and that's definitely a factor in being less attractive, but exercise and good diet and sleep help keep it up regardless of age

[@drew230]

True but also from a psychological point at is not just from a testosterone point of view,sometimes people get tired even at a young age,teens,20's etc,and direct that energy elsewhere e.g goals,and the focus remains there@@slick_Ric

[@jlw2915]

We spend a couple or few decades in the shit and then, suddenly, it isn't necessary. Listening to this yappy shit loses affect. Or effect. Being around mental and financial tax isn't bright if you ain't paying. Rent, do not buy if one is so inclined.

[@b.9357]

The track "I'm searching for a man in finance" is the best expample why so many people are single. Many of those woman have unrealistic standards. They "searching for a man in finace, trust fund, 6'5", blue eyes" and asking herselfs if they "asking for too much". In my opinion many man are so frustrated that they have no dates or luck that they are resignating. And the number is growing..

[@benster5]

They want rich, tall, and hot. Don't have to be nice as long as they have those 3.

[@MP-de5sz]

@@benster5 what are they bringing to the table tho?

[@arvinderbrar]

I’m adding to this point. They all want the same thing, thus, are competing with each other for the same guy(s). To them it’s a sport and men have to live with it

[@devondanklin1808]

It’s a song dude… Jesus. Rappers talk about big booty ratchet 304s all the time, does that mean ALL MEN want that?

[@alonsolaw8380]

Just look up JEREMY MEEKS online Then you will know the truth

[@PedroD95s]

Hey Courtney, after a few hiccups with girls I truly liked and feelings were not reciprocated I felt like I needed some help understanding women but as a guy it can be hard to open up about this matter even with your closest people. I’m just so glad I found your videos because know I’ve realized of many mistakes I made in the past and I feel that I just keep improving my game. Thanks for the tips!

[@paulogotera4412]

A majority of women nowadays wont even give u the time of day if she doesn't find u physically attractive. U can the nicest guy in the world with the biggest heart but if she thinks ur ugly u aint getting nowhere.

[@gerardoa9179]

Women are bored of nice guys. Don't be a nice guy.

[@philaman1972]

For me, it's simply easier to be single than to desperately try to be this "Swiss army knife" to a woman in the hopes that she may find me attractive (at a particular moment in time because we *know* that a lot of women monkey branch when they have a better offer). 52m never married and no kids.

[@michaelk5094]

I can agree to a certain point. Everyone is differnet ofcourse I love having that other person and look forward to having it again but let it be clear that I am comnfortable being single which not many people are, I had a women monkey branch like you mentioned but that is a lesson that, that women is not the one you for you.

[@SniZeppelin]

Being single just works better than the alternative. I'm not suggesting to never seek a relationship. Life just flows better in harmony with the Universe if you're single.

[@schizophrantic]

I'm with you on this one. 54, male, never married, no kids. There are better things I can do with my time than to do intensive, time-consuming, emotionally draining work to make a woman satisfied in hopes of her having long term genuine burning desire for me. No, thanks!

[@SniZeppelin]

Another side of it is that I've had one too many friends get divorced in their 50s, because their wives found boyfriends. What I saw my friends go through emotionally and financially has been unbearable. They have all survived, however, they are permanently scarred for life. If you do get married, align your legal team with your financial teams, and get a rock solid pre-nup agreement. Sit down and review it with her first. If she says no, that already tells you how things will go in your marriage or cohab situation.

[@Swearengen1980]

@@schizophrantic So you're weak and selfish, got it. Many women in the real world aren't as finicky as people constantly complain about or claimed when Courtney make these dumb ass broad brush videos.

[@dee3691]

Female gaze differs from age to age. Don’t forget that. She’s giving the perspective of a woman ready to settle down after her party years.

[@genericname4168]

Why the hell do people even bother having party years? Why not experience it with a partner

[@neilt6480]

@@genericname4168 Because partying is hella fun and you're only young once. I'm an old man now but the one thing I don't regret is the fun I had in my 20s.

[@SponsorShort]

​@@genericname4168Because most of people are not that wise and don't have the vision to anticipate what happens next week, let alone later stage of their life.

[@kevinheffernan3830]

💯 true Went on a couple dates with a woman in her mid 50s. We’re now friends, get along really well. Her main focus was/is money. If I was able to make what she would like, then we’d probably be still dating or maybe engaged by now, as she’s basically said so in so many words. I’ve moved on and am dating other women at this point, some fairly younger than I, and $ has not been their main thing. The one I’m seeing now is 50 and just wants a decent guy who enjoys family life and not out partying all the time. Goes to your point that age can make a difference with women. Even if only a few years apart from each other, their wants/needs can be totally different

[@consciouscrypto3090]

You go on believing that and see how well it does for you. I got engaged while in college, and definitely these are attributes he had that attracted me to him.

[@jeffcole9751]

Great content as always.. just a tiny tech fyi.. set your ISO (400, 800 etc) on the camera to avoid the lighting shifts.. my bet is it was left on "auto" here.

[@dmgpunk]

This needs more upvotes.

[@trav2505]

The most annoying thing is when you have and exhibit all the features but still struggle to find a good woman

[@neilt6480]

Let me guess. Nobody describes you as tall, rich & handsome, right?

[@leeali4096]

You struggle because her advice is wrong.

[@zeenuf00]

@@trav2505 you struggle because her advice is wrong

[@zeenuf00]

@@neilt6480 low energy 😆

[@user-ic5zw9yy8r]

why are you coming needy writing such degrading thing in the comments? what a loser!

[@Silver41922]

just wanted so say thank you for everything you have done informing men on these things over the past two years i have seen results in myself and finding a partner i watched your videos for 2 weeks straight just before i met my wife.

[@pianosfilipem]

"What older women who have been through every bad boy out there and is tired finds attractive "

[@SaintStrength0]

"What every non-loser (who is also non-existent) woman finds attractive."

[@miamoto5040]

Exactly. The deception is near the end of the pro-sociality section. Courtney tries to frame attractive as something similar to hot, which in reality is not the case. She can be attrackted by your kindness, money etc for long term but her panties can stay dry at the same time. Younger women are less strategic in that sense, they are more likely to after what they really like and not put up a fake love show to get access to your wallet. That's why man should only date younger women in their early twenties because at that age you can trust them more. If you date older women and she doesn't put out on the first date just ditch her, probably shes got some trickster scheme running through her mind already.

[@BlahBlahPoop617]

There is truth to the OP. Most young women are not looking for the things in this video. That’s what older women are age are looking for. Any guy who says otherwise is probably showing he has experience with women. That’s not to say there aren’t young women who want serious relationships or marriage. There are. And good ones exist. They’re just extremely rare and not the average thing girl who is more focused on partying and sleeping around.

[@The_Apex_Wolf]

I absolutely love your videos Courtney. Because of you I've taken my skin care more seriously resulting in a great appearance. And have just worked on bettering other areas of my life. You've had such a wonderful influence on me since I've been listening to you and just want to say thank you. You've been like a big sister. ❤

[@MarkPlace-wb5xg]

Social ability = more likely to have a management or white collar job AKA status and money. Appearing disciplined and stable = status and money (however if you have enough money and status you can be utterly chaotic and it will be fine) It all boils down to what everyone already knows: women want men that are tall, lean, muscular, and have tons of money.

[@aidey8mph605]

Engineers (white collar) are comically known for having the worst social skills ever.

[@soulproprietorDan]

I enjoy & benefit from your straightforward style & thorough coverage of an issue. I'm a big fan of your videos. Thank you for your efforts.

[@Sygmus6]

I'm already screwed from point 1. I like being kind and generous, but social situations are totally uncomfortable.

[@slick_Ric]

you're not screwed it's just a matter of putting yourself out there and getting better at it with experience, get your mindset right and the behavior will come out

[@Chud-mb7gl]

​@@slick_RicWhy don't they put themselves out there? Why should he "know" how to get whamen if that's so natural?

[@DrewReid-y8l]

I am a woman, social awkwardness can be very cute if you own it so be yourself..

[@Sygmus6]

@@DrewReid-y8l I'll keep that in mind, thank you very much

[@ayoalade3867]

I want to say thank you for communicating this to us men so delicately , gracefully and with humility. I usually don’t subscribe to channels like this because seems a lot of women carry a big “know it all when it comes to men” ego and give off an energy that shames men or makes us feel disposable if there is something that we lack. I appreciate your approach

[@CourtneyRyan]

This means the world to me, thank you for being so kind 🥹

[@ayoalade3867]

@@CourtneyRyan God bless you. Keep doing what you’re doing!🙏🏾

[@BheeOrgh]

Yes, Courtney, I agree with your opening gambit, with a caveat. If a person is not physically/sexually attracted to another, who cares about their empathy, their generous nature, intrinsic values? How many people ignore a socially/physically unacceptable appearance to know their inner value? Good Health/Aesthetics: For most, modern women, a healthy body signify's a healthy financial ability to maintain said aesthetics. YES!!! no one needs a full fledged gym and male grooming regimen to look/stay healthy but the modern, women's, consensus is that if a man can afford to look great, dress well, eat healthy, he must have good finances in order to afford his appearance. One rarely, if ever, sees a jacked bum on a street corner looking like Thor but camping out on a park bench.😆 EQ/EI or variants thereof will appear to some women as great traits for a male bestie, a future husband or an awesome gay friend but hardly a love interest unless the women is in her 30s, over the whole BaadBoi Crush and wants a stable relationships. I'll stop here, my "rant" ain't shit! 😌

[@rogersnick17]

Thanks Courtney. Your advice has helped me soooo much.

[@DirtnapJack]

The reason why i think men may doubt some of these points is 1) they are broad and widely open to interpretaton (not all things to all people). 2). We have personally seen so many examples of contradictions to some of these points. The hygiene being maybe the one constant that is the exception. Edit: you also have to be 6’3”, have abs and cash. She did not say that here but all these nice guy qualities only apply if you are also an outward Chad.

[@brianwilliams9462]

That is absolutely not true and you are only doing damage to yourself if you convince yourself of that. The most popular guy at my job with women is average height, kind of pudgy and yet has the kind personality that many women can't resist- humor, positive leadership, affability, but with just enough of an edge. My close friend growing had all of the same qualities (and is shorter) and pulled girls left and right in high school and college and has now been happily married for over ten years. Are there women who only go for tall buff rich guys? Of course. But if you look at most relationships it is obvious that those are the distinct minority of couples.

[@Lonstermash]

And even when you HAVE those qualities, it's often not enough. I'm 6ft, ripped, earn very good money and am a homeowner, yet I have been friendzoned on probably 80% of my first dates! I've been married and have had many great short to medium length relationships (currently in one the past 2 years), but, yeah, I didn't generate "sparks and butterflies" with most of my first dates

[@vklnew9824]

​@@Lonstermash why are you verbally flexing like you're some kinda success story?

[@Lonstermash]

@@vklnew9824 I'm actually saying that I'm not a success story. What are you talking about?

[@DirtnapJack]

@@brianwilliams9462 as for the guy at your work, it is at WORK. Work is different from relationships. Are you going to tell me he’s stretching his dating pool into his job? That’s just asking for trouble. Also, as for this casanova friend…. When was this? Like what year? Also, exceptions don’t make the rule.

[@schreinerkyle]

The problem with leading with the kindness part is that there are LOTS of kind people out there, especially presenting as kind…so this is not a DIFFERENTIATOR or something that can actually “win” you a girl or get you a date…it’s the bear minimum to even be allowed to play AND is something that is more important for keeping them after the initial interactions, not something that does the heavy lifting of actually getting you on the date itself. Therefore, I don’t think it’s really worth including in these lists, let alone leading with them ya know?

[@coolnut99]

Niceness and kindness are like spice and garnish for food: They can make an average meal better, but cannot save spoiled, overcooked, or messed-up food.

[@christianrodriguez5346]

All I have is a lean body, dress well (nothing flashy), and have a buzz cut. I am 5’8 as well. I have always been authentically myself as well, honest, kind, and I am a strict Catholic since I was a kid. I have no problem attracting women at all. Never wear your money fellas. All you do is attract bad women by doing that. Just dress humbly but good enough so she can see you take care of yourself. My experiences with women have taught me to be really picky. Focus on you and build yourself and never ever prioritize a girl (that will hurt you) but show respect and be emotionally present when needed. Also never look for a relationship with them that is their job. Just talk to girls and be friends with them to get to know them really well. Avoid bars and clubs. Women of substance won’t be there, the good ones are found when life decides to present you one. Don’t go out searching for them you will get burned with a bad one too. A woman will only stay with you if she truly feels in her head she can’t lose you. She needs to fear the idea of losing you in order to stay by your side. If she doesn’t cling just a tad bit she ain’t yours. She got to be a little bit territorial with you if she truly desires you. You would know real quick if she wants to keep you based on how she reacts when another girl looks at you. The key is she needs to fear losing you and trust when she does she will do anything to keep you around. If she doesn’t fear losing you she will be challenging with you and test you a lot. A woman who really wants you will make your life super easy cause she doesn’t want to lose you.

[@smoldersome827]

Thanks for your comment, it was really helpful to me. Covers everything in a neat little paragraph.

[@christianrodriguez5346]

@@smoldersome827 Your welcome 🙏🏻

[@DDD11239]

I'm 5'5", but bulking to 202lbs has helped, along with dressing better. (I don't have the hairline for a buzzcut. I lost some hair after the Marines). All it takes is one woman to love you.

[@christianrodriguez5346]

@@DDD11239 Just keep on living life Brodie. The right one will find you at the right time. Main thing is have your heart ready for her but focus on your goals

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Dressing well definitely helps. I do Latin social dancing, and this makes a great environment for trying things out. A month ago I went out dressed neatly, but just a t-shirt. There was a cute girl I've seen before, that I was thinking about asking to dance as I stood with my back to the bar; she was right in front of me, but seemed determined to look everywhere except at me. Like, avoiding my gaze. So I let it go. A few weeks later I'm standing in the exact same place, but wearing a nice long-sleeved shirt. The same girl appears in the same spot as last time, except this time she makes a bee-line for me and asks ME to dance! (which is uncommon if a girl doesn't know you) Mind slightly blown, lol.

[@michaelmcneill9306]

Great video today! I was talking to girl today at my open house and my white button down sleeves were definitely rolled up!

[@claydumaw]

As I get older I realize what I want in life. An arrogant source of headaches who is guaranteed to cheat is not one of those things.

[@marioarcadia3611]

Thank you for the info Courtney. I'll keep those things in mind

[@123italiano321]

I went to a festival today and this gorgeous woman came to stand next to me. Kept bumping in to me while there was like 4-5ft room, kept smiling, blinked at me, grabbed my arm at one point and I still was too awkward to say "hi". Just wanted to share how big of an idiot I was today. Hope somebody feels a bit better knowing they are not as big of an idiot as I am.

[@cris-yo1950]

Were you not interested in her? Or was she not attractive?

[@RenfromBespin]

those are just situations you have to learn from. You didn’t have the courage this time, which should inspire you to be more prepared & ready for when something similar happens again. You’ll be more open & likely to take advantage of the opportunity.

[@123italiano321]

@@cris-yo1950 I was very much so and she was stunning! Making it even more embarrassing lol.

[@123italiano321]

@@RenfromBespin Thanks for the motivating words dude! I could use that and it is much appreciated. Yeah I will try to learn from it and not be so scared next time.

[@123italiano321]

@@RenfromBespin Thanks for the motivating words dude! I could use that and it is much appreciated. Yeah I will try to learn from it and not be so scared next time.

[@didierbaudot]

Its really a pleasure to listen to the most distinguished young woman among the dating advice for men. Thank you for your great work 👍🙂

[@martypoll]

If a woman asks you to solve a problem then go for it. If she is talking about her problems then just listen.

[@neilt6480]

Indeed. We have been indoctrinated by decades of sitcoms, books and articles that when a woman comes to us with a problem, she does NOT want a solution. She wants us to listen and sympathise. Much as I love Courtney's vids, she's fighting an uphill battle if she expects to convince anyone that they're looking for a man to solve it.

[@cymbergan]

Thank you Courtney for # 5. When ever I am signaling resources in the grocery store near me women will, mostly help me.

[@AIRJAC33]

What 35 year old leftover women find attractive after being ran through in their 20s. Fixed the title.

[@lifeisabeginning]

yep

[@activegas1014]

😂😂😂😂 fuck

[@32kirby32]

Exactly what I’m looking for 👍🏼 😂

[@tomasrocha6139]

The female sex drive peaks in the 30s and early 40s

[@night_city_nights]

Give me a 35 year old woman over a little girl any damn day. Have fun playing mind games with the tiktok crowd while I enjoy women at their sexual peak.

[@joshuamiklandric7295]

I want to give a big thanks to Courtney, her fashion tips have greatly helped refined my style. I took a lot of my fashion inspiration from famous musicians like Elvis Presley and Jimi Hendrix and some artists within the hip-hop scene.

[@PRdude]

I've known women who also comment on how a guy might have landed a woman, if they don't find the guy to be anything impressive.

[@JoeTurner12190]

This is an excellent video…I’ve never seen this topic broken down in such a digestible holistic manner. Well done @courtneyryan

[@martypoll]

“The ability to signal future resources” - this is how we did it WAY back in the 1970’s and 80’s. We got married in our early 20’s. This is all you got to work with. People chose each other to build a life together . . . as opposed to today.

[@mrzackattack261]

Looks, money, status and good personality

[@lepidoptera9337]

But not in that order. There is nothing you can do about your looks, almost nothing you can do about money and status, but you can try to be a nice person. That's your best bet.

[@Harikejn]

Important things: 0:48 First Thing ÷ Pro - sociality; 2:43 Second Thing ÷ Good Health; 6:43 Third Thing ÷ Intelligence; 9:53 Fourth Thing ÷ The Ability To Signal Future Resources; and 13:32 to summarize all the told here. In Balkan peninsula, in public transportation, when a pregnant woman or woman carrying a baby, or it's with small children it's considered as a gentleman gesture to give up a seat for these women. Also if you see elderly people that are entering the public transportation, there is a gesture to give up a seat for them also, as well. And you don't ask that thing. It's quite normal that you stand up and to give them to have a seat. As for intelligence, I can say that some women like when they are complimented through a joke (and I don't mean to insult them). I mean just to say thing through humor, like you have told Courtney. At the end I was gonna also mention one thing as well. But you have mentioned it. There is only one thing that we must be rich in it. And that is to be rich in knowledge how to help our partner in many things. I think that men, and women have to have knowledge to help each others in long relation relationships. When I was listening to you Courtney, I remembered one quote that I saw a couple of years ago. It goes like this: A loved one will find a million reasons to leave you, but it will only find one reason to stay with you. Thank you so much Courtney ❤💙🤍.

[@DDD11239]

You need help, brother.

[@Harikejn]

@@DDD11239 I beg your pardon?!

[@dbk7238]

hi courtney, thank you for all your videos. im finding them quite helpful in my quest to become a good man. ive never heard of the term: pro-sociality, but i like it.

[@genovasquez8361]

im 47 i never in all my years ever hooked up with a woman by being kind, that gentleman crap will get you friendzoned. it makes you appear as a push over or soft to women. or corny.

[@ColtyT33]

What’s why she said kind, not nice

[@genovasquez8361]

@@ColtyT33 sistas take kindness is taking for weakness.

[@genovasquez8361]

@@ColtyT33 I never got poonanny from being kind. Holding doors doesn't make a woman want to give you her number and sleep with you

[@ColtyT33]

@@genovasquez8361 you’re thinking about it the wrong way 😓

[@genovasquez8361]

@@ColtyT33 what's the right way to think of it

[@DGolfer60]

You’re just brilliant and your Biscuit is so cute - love your style too; wish I’d have had such a genuine resource like you years ago to help me understand what’s going on in a woman’s mind and how y’all see us

[@XfiverX]

I never met a woman that was attracted to intelligence and sense of humor lol

[@wheeltrouble]

Right! They're all screwing the assholes!

[@nickmajora]

I've never met a woman who _wasn't_ attracted to a sense of humour. Intelligence they could take or leave though.

[@lanesniffin730]

Just be tall. They don’t care if you have an iq of 50 or 150

[@getin6952]

If anything they are repulsed by it.😂 i don't know with sense of humor but being intelligent doesn't make anything good. I mean it has nothing to do with romance is it?

[@cseptember6562]

They only care about those things in men they are already attracted to. In the rest of men those traits mean nothing

[@thebean3463]

Courtney the first two points i agree but the last one I find hard to agree with. I for myself i have little to no debt, getting my doctorate for college teaching, work as an accountant at a bank, and i stay in great shape playing soccer. Even after all this I still get put aside for the surf boy looking Brad and chads. Im African American and fairly good looking but even so they turn away. It’s crazy how perception of is gutted

[@huhhuhhuh4069]

"This doesn't mean you need to be absolutely shredded or look like a bodybuilder." WRONG!!! ❌🙂

[@ChristopherMunger-i4b]

I have been with thousands of women and lived with multiple women my entire life with multiple women. I am 300 pounds. Women dont care how you look. They care how you make them feel. You dont know anything about women lol

[@Halfmoon301]

Hey Courtney i love your videos! You have helped me get through 2 break ups so far! ❤

[@xjoemallardx]

I'm a lost cause. I'm not funny, a horrible flirt and can't banter. I'm ready for Jesus to take me.

[@joshuabenitez3260]

Tell Jesus to pick me up on the way back 😂. I'm with you bro.

[@joelfranciscovaldiviezoalvarez]

Theres allways time to change , You can be high value in many ways, start whit your self image And self steem .

[@rollzolo]

Napoleon dynamite had standing ovation

[@David-oy5ir]

Same here ❤

[@louisdavis7493]

Evening Beautiful 🌹! As always, you give sound advice which is one of the reasons I ❤️ being the Fly on your wall 🙉

[@Nick_The_Remedy]

The problem is “prosociality” leads to a lot of men being exploited…not happily married…

[@homiesenatep]

Yuuup

[@rollzolo]

Say no..

[@akinun]

I feel like most of Courtney's videos talk about what women *should* find attractive in a healthy relationship rather than what they actually find attractive in real life. These videos are equally instructional for young women, I think, as it gives them a clearer blueprint for long-term happiness, instead of what they are currently going for. Otherwise, hard to even count how many women are actually attracted to rude, untrustworthy men with bad social skills with poor hygiene just because they are 6'4 and have abs.

[@LatimusChadimus]

Selflessness > kindness

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

How do you be selfless but not get exploited by her?

[@OneFreeMan17]

Kindness is a weakness. It’s why Canada is in the place that it’s currently in.

[@b-zoneonroku2020]

@@DavidZ4-gg3dm Exactly. Treat her like a princess, she'll treat you like a servant.

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@OneFreeMan17 yes, and kindness is also a bit manipulative. Selflessness is a natural behavior if one is more concerned with others/greater good vs themselves

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@DavidZ4-gg3dm well if she's gonna take advantage, put your foot down. Being selfless doesn't mean be stoooped. It's about being a servant by choice, not force

[@WillMenesesHikes]

Hello Courtney, Another great video. Enjoy the rest of your day 😊

[@KG-it1pi]

The first point. Pro-sociality (Kindness, Generosity, empathy, good social skills, helping others). No, that's simply not true. Women, in general, don't care about that; they look for a man who is dominant, both towards her and others, and who, therefore, can hopefully protect her. But being pro-social towards others? No, that's not something women generally find particularly attractive.

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@KG-it1pi unless she wants him to also help raise children, because women was provisions protections and parental investments. The 3 P's

[@shadowblaster124]

I have never had a woman praise me for "nice guy" behaviors. I have seen several praise dominant behaviors. That's real people in my real life, not internet or articles or anything.

[@JFDA5458]

I have to say your sleek dark hair and dark sleeveless top is very striking.

[@retrorecall]

1. pro sociality 0:50 behaviours intended to benefit others - altruism,cooperative, chivalrous, being a "nice guy" signaling potential to be a partner 2. good health 2:50 physical attractiveness, skin, fitness, can't really 'train a symmetrical face' though imo 3.intelligence 6:50 strong problem solving skills, women want a man to weigh in and help and not just listen stability, supportive, emotional intelligence 4.ability to signal future resources 9:50 not saying be rich, qualities like ambition for long term stability, social standing over arching theme: qualities that attribute to potential in long term stability, future outlook, comfort, reliability trust worthiness

[@b-zoneonroku2020]

in other words, money.

[@michaelblazin4093]

A nuance in your first point is that the guy is kind to people that will give him nothing. When he is kind to his date, it is a reflex action, not a calculated action. While he avoids manufacturing kindness to his date, he looks for opportunities to assist people that he will never know their name. If she mentions it, he just gives a shrug and moves on to something else. We are good at that flex.

[@okayyes2429]

As an experiment: this one time I went to a group meeting with my friend who is basically the definition of Chad. Tall, Muscular, a Smile that makes girls giggle. In comparison, I'm a short lean nerd with glasses. Then Chad "let it slip" that he was unemployed and high school level education. I "let slip" that I am a rich multi-millionaire stock broker. Needless to say, the attention shifted to me very very fast. Neither of us are what we claimed to be, but you can see the results of the experiment, clearly. What matters most to the ladies is the $$$.

[@shadowjump123]

Betabuxxing 101

[@dask1516]

Well if you're a skinny dork who doesn't have a personality certainly your money is all that you have to play.. many guys who got charmed who are good looking and have mediocre jobs are the most successful with women.. women see right through Chad's

[@fusion7029]

Cope

[@rikumarcelin7004]

Lmao cap

[@48vfl]

I don't agree with the first part (kindness, fit, good hygiene), because that's bare minimum stuff. Sense of humor, drive, interesting as opposed to boring does matter. Broad shoulders, attractive face obviously also play a role.

[@mikeg3439]

I got to a point in my life when I stopped caring if women were interested in me. I had had a couple relationships already as a young man so I had lost concern "will I ever find someone" that made me so needy. Oddly enough pretty much the day I stopped caring, I experienced women approaching me in an aggressively friendly manner. To this day I still get this, and I think it's because I put out a "I have zero concern if you are interested in me" vibe. I'm 56 and get girls in their 20's flirting with me (including physical touch flirting). Nothing attracts women like making it clear that you don't know they exist lol. That and I groom and exercise and have aged well, people mistake me for being 45 to 49 range (or they are flattering me, bless their kind hearts).

[@lepidoptera9337]

But why did you have double carpal tunnel surgery, then? Were you posting the same bullshit too many times on the internet? :-)

[@pace1195]

1. This is a great trait once a man becomes a boyfriend. No man is taking a cell phone video of himself helping and old lady cross the street to promote on dating apps or social media. Men might say they volunteer, rescue animals, or coach children. That might be a tick at the bottom of the check list (the cherry on top), but these “nice” things are a signal of future investment, not a signal of current status, influence, or dominance. 2. Obviously, good health is preferred by both sexes. Harrold the skinny and scrawny high school history teacher is not getting a date over Bubba the biker who looks like a linebacker. Harrold might wear oxford button downs, but Bubba wears exclusively denim and leather sleeveless jackets. I’m betting the vascularity of Bubba’s bare and muscular arms is going to beat Harrold’s rolled-up wrists. 3. In the online world, credentials are a proxy for intelligence. A man is 90% more likely to get a date with a Master’s or PhD. Scott Galloway is the quintessential academic. He sees women are approaching a 2:1 ratio of college grads. He also sees women getting advanced degrees at an even higher rate. He wants more men in academics even if the system is going broke. A man who has gone through nearly 20 years of school, especially in the modern western world, is probably not going to be a maverick in the world. He’s going to be #1 nice. Depending on his network connections, he may have a great career with a good to great salary, on average. He’s probably not giving many women the butterflies though. Additionally, who is more likely to get a date? Is it the comedian with a TV show or podcast making good to great money, or is it the floundering stand-up guy or script writer who can never seem to break through? It’s like the moody guitar player in high school or college who will make it big some day with his band only to be working at a bicycle shop by the time he is 30. 4. This is another credential heavy item, especially online. It is true the more education one has, the greater one’s lifetime earning potential on average. However, many male dominated jobs, especially blue-collar jobs, are seen as low status and disregarded as worthwhile by the female culture these days. Many women have respectable jobs in climate-controlled offices and hired for their credentials. They don’t want to be seen at respectable events with a man who drives a cattle truck for an occupation. They want to show the world the man in the oxford button down provided he has a higher level of credentials and income. Otherwise, the woman would really like Bubba the biker until Phillip the physics PhD professor comes by with a fat wallet and invitations to fancy parties. Conclusion: Professor Galloway’s kids will be fine. He has the means, assets, and the temperament to get them all the credentials they may even want. Some poor trailer trash boy in [insert least favorite rural area/country here] is screwed. He won’t be able to afford the educational debt, nor will he be able to afford the American DreamTM house. It cost 9x more years in inflation adjusted dollars (2 vs. 18) between when the Boomers purchased homes to when Zoomer will want to purchase homes soon. There is more to the problem than roll up your sleeves, go to the gym more, and just work harder men! Society has inverted human psychology for over a half century, and it’s failing.

[@wheeltrouble]

Exactly. It's sort of like how she consistently points to fancier attire and such. I have had the pleasure of working for a few millionaires and a billionaire. They simply don't flaunt. They usually shop cheap, but good quality. One of the millionaires spent all his time hiking or refinishing guns (and holy hell, this guy made some beautiful rifle stocks!). He had 0 intention of wearing nice clothes for any of that. I had to dress nice because I worked FOR HIM! I'm well established with my family now, have 0 tuxedos (sold them), 0 shirt/tie combos.... This girl would look right past me, but I actually meet every item she listed for intelligence, strength, and stability. The more of a resource you are, the less you ever wish to look like one.

[@septemberspassion]

I'm so Grateful for you, Courtney! 🙏😁

[@robertfreestone414]

My point about what women find attractive about men actually resulted from a big marketing failure. Marketing research "showed" that women in all age and demographic categories were very attractive to delivery guys, such as UPS, FedEx, DHL, etc. So, these logistics companies managed sales deals to have their respective uniforms for sale. But it completely backfired. Why? It wasn't their "Delivery Jock" look that women overall considered attractive. It's the unfailing RELIABILITY that practically makes women "wet'". Everyday, without fail, Brian (of whatever delivery service) is ALWAYS there in the lobby with the packages at 10:30 a.m. That's what did it: being absolutely dependable/reliable.

[@robertfreestone414]

@treesoul00 I concede to your point since it's from experience, and mine is from a TV news item about a quickly failed trend that featured interviews with store owners and those whom today we would call Relationship Influencers.

[@doctordetroit4339]

Women don't want reliable and such, that is boring. They want to be led.

[@robertfreestone414]

@doctordetroit4339 Really? Be late. Break promises. Don't show up. Don't fulfill obligations. Forget birthdays and anniversaries. Don't follow an agreed upon plan. Be disorganized. Don't reliably communicate changes to things. Require unnecessary supervision for the most reasonably expected outcomes. I could go on, but I'm sure my point is understood.

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Having people able to impersonate delivery guys seems like a REALLY bad idea.

[@Nightzo]

Garbage collectors wear uniforms and are reliable. Do women find them attractive?

[@Jpoulin87]

Appreciate the well thought out insights, as always. Have a lovely day. =)

[@superlativeconspable]

Height wasn’t mentioned

[@Mikecoxsmall69]

Height doesn’t matter, I’m only 5’6 with a mildly attractive face but I do have a good body with abs. With that being said I can get a date with a lot of pretty woman even ones taller than me. Wanting a tall guy is just a preference, like you may prefer a blond but end up with a brunette. It’s not as important as you may think

[@Ezilla82]

Thanks Courtney for explaining the Female Gaze.

[@jbdmb]

For all the guys in the comments saying this or that to negate her points.... you have to understand these videos ARE NOT for you. These points she is making are for guys that are already somewhat universally attractive. So if you dont have the looks, height, d size, economic, and social prerequisuties to benefit from these "nice to haves" then go away.

[@ChadElk88]

THIS 👆

[@DDD11239]

Exactly. I could be a God in the eyes of a Middle-Eastern woman, but a bum in France. It all depends on the woman. All it takes is one to love you, the rest of your life.

[@davidchang8428]

Courtney is great at describing how things should be

[@jondrake1977]

Good morning Courtney. Hope your Sunday is well.

[@CourtneyRyan]

You too! ❤️

[@zentzu4003]

women need to select better, women have a huge responsibility for the future of mankind, you should be selecting for 1. intelligence 2. good health 3. kindness the fact that women select based on ‘feelings’ is actually a joke…

[@gk_zone4274]

Social media be lowkey destroying people's lives sometimes 🤷🏿‍♂️

[@DDD11239]

"Be lowkey" Read a book.

[@michaelcdarby]

It’s destroyed dating that’s for sure

[@Real-Name..Maqavoy]

Great.. Another *Overcooked* person

[@Real-Name..Maqavoy]

@@michaelcdarby No it didn't we in *Viking land* are ahead of ya ^^ Amurica *Destroyed* it, with things such as *1 or 10 Numbers* in Dating. And *no tattoos* & *Piercing* non sense.

[@gk_zone4274]

@@DDD11239 I apologize for triggering you with my choice of words. 😐

[@vaticancartel136]

Did many of those things as second nature. Held the door for my guests and always opened the car door for my friends (even guy friends out of habit). Intelligent, sense of humor, generous, and financially stable. Still single at 50, no kids...

[@JohnM...]

Oh yeah, the female gaze captured my gaze and then she sais "what the F are YOU looking at?" Since then i haven't dared approach anyone because that made me feel creepy for being attracted to her.

[@ryanwright7836]

😂I had the same thing happen.

[@ronm6585]

Thanks for sharing Courtney.

[@Trippze]

wow, women sure do have a lot of demands for not providing even 20% in return

[@o_vroboros]

Well no one is forcing you to date women. Just be alone? Or find a guy?

[@mario8833]

Well, Courtney never mis the chance to say that the majority of this qualities are likeable in both men and women. If the women you met never give something back than that's their problem. But please don't generalize inappropriately, there's plenty of good people out there and choosing the right partner (which is whatever you like and need) is up to you buddy

[@martinkenna6735]

​​@@mario8833saying both men and women is a pc thing. If courtney said just one gender demonetization turns up. You can't state an obvious these days.

[@bhavyapanchal]

@@o_vroboroshe is saying facts imagine applying same standards to women

[@o_vroboros]

@@bhavyapanchal well I don't want to. I know that women and men aren't the same.

[@ChrisKc-gj9xq]

I'm a staunch believer in the Almighty and the universe, these teachings and amazing transformational detailing has shaped my career, health, childbirth, general relationships with people, and enriched my being, just understanding the power of "positivity and gratefulness".

[@TrealTalk187]

And try finding half of this list in women today 😅 smh. Enjoy your best life fellas until the women earns your time and maybe a relationship, stay safe 🙏

[@tamanousJP]

I started hosting pool parties for a few years and taking care of everyone. A few ladies aggressively sought be out during those parties and after. It helps having female friends that invite other ladies.

[@gerardoa9179]

Tall Rich Status Looks

[@Koozwad]

almost exclusively the last one

[@DDD11239]

Brother, billions of men find partners. Over 50 billion (estimated) men to ever live, have found partners. Billions of men to come, will find partners.

[@SnookisInfant-gt8xu]

Not in this day and age. Courtney like you are not having convos with women about their behavior and how they perceive men- just think how when women discusses accountability in women she automatically is called a pick me. Also women are almost disturbingly incel-lish the last 10 years or so

[@Koozwad]

@@DDD11239 looks are most important by far, so one should focus on that at all costs eat less eat more clean(less grains and less vegetables too, to reduce any skin conditions and puffiness)

[@insubordinate.garage]

This is a great basis to build off of, thank you!

[@MarvelMTs]

This guy was prosocial, kind and gentlemanly, and his lady manipulated him and used his mistakes as weapons to get what she wanted. I’m out of the dating pool for a long while. Thanks for the advice Courtney but I have standards now after being hurt horribly and boy, will the woman have work to do, if it’s meant to be.

[@BheeOrgh]

Know your worth.

[@MoistOwlettes]

She wasn’t the one, king. Just set boundaries and hold yourself to them.

[@johngonzalez4298]

Feliz Domingo, Courtney! Un abrazo desde Miami, Florida ❤

[@CourtneyRyan]

Hi my friend! Have a great Sunday ❤️

[@johngonzalez4298]

​​@@CourtneyRyanThank you and enjoy your day! Keep up the good work. Black 🖤 suits you

[@tysimon]

Let me get this straight: going around with my sleeves rolled up, giving seats to random old ladies, my blood test printed on my shirt (front *and* back), discussing (with the old lady on the chair) the latest development on my take on quantum gravity theories, immediately thereafter building a flux capacitor to show her my future bank account balance. All of this while she's watching? I am just joking of course, I love your videos. Married 27 years and I can confirm your list.

[@Wonderwoman79G]

😎🤣

[@the_exegete]

@7:20 I really think the key here is whether an offered solution is actually a thoughtful solution or if it's just telling your woman the obvious and expecting gratitude for it. If it's actually a man treating her with respect and not assuming she was too dumb to know the obvious solution to whatever issue she has, and he is actually intelligent and capable of providing another perspective that is helpful to her, then great! But if your response to your woman being in distress amounts to talking down to her like she's an idiot and calling it help you're gonna have a bad time.

[@hanson4035]

I built my own company and I became a multimillionaire now at 31 years old. I'm single and I have to watch out for gold diggers now too. It's hard to find any women who spent their 20's in a productive way... I'm legit going to another country to date. Adios

[@ChadElk88]

Bye bye 🙋🏻‍♂️

[@TripleGhey]

Sure and I'm a navy seal with 200 confirmed kills

[@jamesg1974a]

Worse thing you can do is show any level of wealth. And don’t be too giving. Once you settle into “normal”after the honeymoon phase it won’t take long before nothing you do is good enough and the pursuit for higher and higher levels of generosity begins.

[@467076]

Literally no one has ever said, if you have a millions make sure to show off your wealth. Stupid comment.

[@alanstevens1296]

@@TripleGhey I flew 25 missions over Germany in WW II.

[@coldsteel9420]

It's mostly irrelevant whether a woman finds you attractive or gazes at a man. Regardless, the women is unlikely to approach or ask him out. What's important for men is not to settle for the friend-zone. Let the woman know upfront that it's a date when you ask her out.

[@cseptember6562]

Tall, wealthy, and good looking. Its that simple

[@_davidgzzs]

So from a general standpoint, we as men need to support, protect and provide women, and make them feel safe, secure and stable.

[@zaynevanday142]

Female attraction is this 💰 💵 💴 😂

[@Dallas.S3]

Hair looks absolutely amazing ❤️🥵