What is a Gentleman?

[@SwampDL]

"A gentleman is one whom gives compliments not because he is a flirt but because he finds the good in everyone". ~Amari Mitchell

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Nice quote indeed. Hugo

[@irenechoe]

@@SARTORIALTALKS Do you think we can educate (or enlighten) people this way of life? (You mention choice, which sounds almost as if it's a product of free will.)

[@studiobencivengamarcusbenc5272]

Saville Row a character fights back when the good is abused 🕵🏻‍♂️

[@jdmitchell2]

As much an attitude as a look

[@markusrosso]

“A gentleman is somebody whose one amazing skill is to put every person he’s interacting with at ease.” This is so powerful!

[@tparm]

I am going to steal that quote, "being a boy is a matter of chance, being a man is a matter of age, being a gentleman is a matter of choice." perfect

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Please do ! Cheers, Hugo

[@jordentaylor2455]

@Dino Budzak I think Vin Deisel said it.

[@jordentaylor2455]

@Dino Budzak Your welcome.

[@davidsiler5505]

As far as I care, I became a "MAN" the day I signed up for Selective Service because I wanted to not because I had to.

[@DrClementShimizu]

As time passes, a boy inevitably becomes a man but what is not inevitable is that a man becomes a warrior. Warf

[@mycompasstv]

What a nuanced, insightful and cultured description of a gentleman! Bravo!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you for your kind comment and appreciation. Yours, Hugo

[@apolloravindran]

I can listen to Hugo talk fashion and etiquette all day long! Well spoken gentleman indeed :)

[@hugojacomet428]

Thank you so much. I appreciate your nice compliment. Yours, Hugo

[@Gods2ndFavoriteBassPlyr]

A gentleman is elegant in not only manners, but in consciousness and character as well.. This was very well done.

[@victorialadybug1]

I simply stumbled upon this channel and I don't remember how I got here but what a delight!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thanks Victoria ! Hugo

[@juanfigueroa-serville2465]

Magnificent Mr. Jacomet! Your sentiment and passion was captivating! At times, I believe because I try to be gentle and kind to others, and focus on others, that they take my kindness for weakness. Then my wife tells me, it is for the very reason that I am kind and gentle and that I always put her first is the reason she fell in love with me. When we are going out on a date on an elegant occasion, I always ask her what color dress is she wearing. When I wear my suit, I attempt to wear a necktie that matches the color of her dress. When I do this she smiles and I sense her pride in me, because she knows that my heart’s desire is to compliment her and have her be the focus of attention.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Magnificent and inspiring contribution Juan. Thank you. Hugo

[@cms3000]

SARTORIAL TALKS you need to cut your hair, that hairstyle is not for a gentleman, looks weird

[@mark-angelofamularcano237]

And also, in return, your wife also exalts you for being a considerate and refined individual. It's amazing to see a couple compliment one another because it shows genuine union.

[@kenneth7826]

@Bob Harris well said Bob Harris well said

[@kenneth7826]

@@cms3000 silence GFB silence

[@davart311]

as versace once said , You wouldn't notice an elegant person by his clothes

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

That's right ! Hugo

[@james-p]

Spot-on about Black Tie. When I was younger, it was described to me as, "Formal wear is the canvas upon which your date can shine." Whatever color and style she wears looks well next to formal attire.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Merci James for your contribution. Hugo

[@tenorgabrielma]

A true gentleman is never self-proclaimed but is anointed by his peers. I am grateful to you, Monsieur Jacomet, for your eloquence and depth of knowledge on the matter. Thank you for this detailed explanation. This is quite an education!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thanks Gabriel for your kind words ! Hugo

[@ahmedsgallery3507]

time to get back to wearing and acting like a gentleman I am. no more kids t-shirts and band logos and all that BS. Wanna make it in life then you MUST look like it. Thank you for encouraging me and for your great content. salute!

[@SoWhosGae]

You can always wear your logo tshirts at home or when sleeping 😉

[@waltski4375]

A very thoughtful and well explained definition, thank you.

[@hugojacomet428]

You're welcome. Cheers ! Hugo

[@rare6499]

Hugo I was hanging on every word of this. Honestly, such an interesting and thought provoking video. These perspectives and facts are important because the concept of being a gentlemen was really at the core of Western European culture, and helped to shape style, art, science, politics and society throughout Europe. This is especially true in British culture as well, where chivalry was still a concept that was propagated up to the First World War and arguably up to the Second. Unfortunately it is much less so now and has been commercialised rather than discussed for its virtues. This is why I am such a fan of the British style, because to me it always has seemed virtuous even moral, to dress and act quietly, discreetly but still with authority. Thanks again. Josh.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Josh for your contribution and appreciation. Cheers, Hugo

[@scasey1960]

Excellent - “you choose to be a gentleman”. A very touching commentary on women. Spot on. A Gene Kelly said - his goal is to make his partner look good.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Exactly. Thanks for your contribution. Hugo

[@spx2327]

Hugo's knowledge is truly astonishing. We should all be grateful he is willing to share this with us in such a passionate way.

[@markaudley-thewles5920]

A fabulous explanation of what a gentleman is. As you so rightly say , the women are the stars 🙏👏.

[@savilerow4383]

"A Gentleman guards his behavior. He understands that he must have integrity. This means that a gentleman does the right thing even when no one is watching”

[@miloligons25]

In so many words a gentleman must also possess a powerful spiritual aura (selfless and centered). Attention seeking behavior turns into narcissism which has plagued America.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

I agree with you. Hugo

[@Colbieman]

I love the way you speak with such passion on a topic. Thank you for your insight, especially your definition of being a gentleman. Much appreciated. I really need to get my hands on your book too!

[@hugojacomet428]

Thank you for your kind comment. I hope you'll appreciate the book. Yours, Hugo

[@daanishalisayed7679]

Dear M. Jacomet, French history, culture and etiquette have always had me interested. To the extent of cultivating a love for learning French too. Your contribution to making people appreciate the finer things in life is inspiring. Enchanté de faire votre connaissance!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Enchanté de faire votre connaissance également Monsieur. Hugo

[@whatsreal1138]

"When we use a word too much it has tendency of emptying itself of its meaning" My god what a refined way of using language.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

I believe it's true, unfortunately. All my best, hugo

[@whatsreal1138]

@@SARTORIALTALKS oh thanks for the reply sir.My point being the way you have used language makes it sound poetic and hence someone with a poetic incline appreciates your sentences sir.All the best to you too,Raghav

[@ThePainterr]

Hugo, you are truly an officer and a gentleman! This video was shared with all the men I know....thank you for addressing such important food for thought as masculinity and the art of being a gentleman are under constant subtle pressure and subversive attack in a politically correct and radical society that seeks to dismantle all traditional "social constructs" that have dignified and delighted many.

[@bernardgehret3231]

fantastic, I love the history of the word "gentleman" and the black tie affair, love the Sartorial Talks!

[@hugojacomet428]

Thank you Bernie and we hope to see you and Eva very soon in PTL or elsewhere on the planet. Cheers, Hugo

[@StanpapiTV]

Wow, back in my high school days all teachers and staff addressed the students as gentlemen. It was an all boys school, wonderful to now know the history behind it and your opinion on the use of the term. Very well done, and thank you!

[@hugojacomet428]

Thanks for your comment and kind words. Hugo

[@markwherry]

What a wonderful series of conversations. As a proto-typical poorly attired Englishman was initially drawn to your channel for the nuanced discussion of style and wardrobe but wonderfully, I've been given pause to consider the way I have lived my life and the way I wish to live its remainder. Merci.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Dear Mark, thank you so much for such a touching comment. This is the kind of comment that gives a meaning to what we try to achieve with this channel. Take care, Cheers, Hugo

[@calvb8349]

Love this video so much! "Being a boy is a matter of chance, being a man is a matter of age...being a gentleman is a matter of choice." This should be taught in schools. Thank you.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Calvin, Hugo

[@tomdellaringa2325]

A wonderful quote, Hugo, I hope I got it right here: ""When a gentleman acts the right way, he does his best to put the attention on others, and not himself." I also really appreciate you talking about kindness, which is something that is greatly missing from the world today.

[@andreashallner8427]

What a masterpiece of a video! It is incredibly hard to find a video where you not only agree with the message, but understand the reasoning behind it. Ett stort tack från Sverige.

[@disturbed9361]

A real gentleman talking about gentleman's attitude... Thank you sir for sharing important informations.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Rezwan, you are very kind. Hugo

[@bestpossibleworld2091]

Truly this is a wonderful description of what it means to be a gentleman.

[@Grannn]

A very competent and realistic explanation. I respect you Hugo.

[@hugojacomet428]

Thank you Grann. Yours, Hugo

[@ongtribu4637]

Such a true & good explanation about a gentleman. Today's youngsters should watch, learn & apply it's principles especially to create positivity in this chaotic society.

[@bharath7528]

Me a boy from a remote mountain of India..... Never seen a proper suit.... Dreaming of sipping expensive cognac , wearing a proper fitting bespoke suit, with good manners and etiquette... Being a proper gentleman... that's my dream

[@magnushelin007]

You are a real Gentleman Hugo. I am just in awe by your insights and knowledge.

[@hugojacomet428]

Thanks Magnus for this encouraging comment. Yours, Hugo

[@blueblackred2996]

Hugo. Thank you for helping men raise the bar in fashion, and therefore in raising the bar of a gentle and kind society. Continuez votre bon travail.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Merci Monsieur! Hugo

[@MichaelWatts]

Wonderful as always. In fact this could be the best one yet!

[@hugojacomet428]

You are so kind Michael. Happy new year ! Hugo

[@carlblaskowitz7817]

When you spoke of Fred and the shine of the woman... I could feel you get a bit choked up... that's true passion for your craft... very rare.

[@nothingtoitbuttodoit]

I cannot believe I just discovered this channel. My new favorite

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thanks Alonso ! Hugo

[@trevbarlow9719]

This is gold! God bless you, Mr. Jacomet!

[@JorgeObando]

I agree with Mr. Jamescord, nice shirt! And the tie knot is just perfectly made. I have followed the Sartorial Talks since episode 1, and let me tell you, Mr. Jacomet, GREAT JOB! Your work with this videos, added to your recent book, The Italian Gentleman (which I have ;-), is INSPIRANT. Thank you very much! Looking forward you decide to write The English Gentleman :-D Happy New Year from Colombia

[@hugojacomet428]

Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words. Happy New Year from France! Hugo

[@sweartomisbehave]

I'm so fortunate to stumble upon this channel. As a woman, I always admire the silhouette of a suit, and I enjoy wearing crisp white shirts (billowy ones, like the Romantic poets over fitted pants (cigarette pants?). In my mind, I always see an image in the styles of equestrian and aviator ('20s) style, but much pared down--softer but structured. And there will always be a scarf. The ensemble, like perfume, is a (pleasurable) must... a uniform so to speak. Thank you, Hugo, for generously sharing your wonderful insights.

[@pietrocribari2032]

Hugo, You are that "rare" breed of intelligence and sartorial splendor with a kind heart. Thank you for all your wonderful, inspiring videos. I view many videos but so far I have only subscribed to your channel. Quality content that is unmatched as far as I am concerned. May you have continued success.

[@stevetessier6568]

Mr.Jacomet., Your videos are outstanding, in so many dimensions. You speak with passionate feelings about so many things that here in America have sadly become passe. Pride in ones personal appearance. Is so very important. As well as how an individual comports themselves. In dressing, in manners, in thought as well as in their actions . You sir are a joy to listen to, speaking about your philosophy of couture. And the elegance , and distinction within it's history. I Thank you , humbly, and most sincerely. Stephen Tessier.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you so much Steve for your beautiful comment and your very kind words. Yours, Hugo

[@whatcanithinkofnext9478]

Mind blown 😮 I've been living the wrong way. This man is a genius!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Hahaha thank you Ricardo! Genius is probably an overstatement, but thank you for the compliment ! Hugo

[@alexanderchadwick5346]

This video is the best I've seen on the subject. Nothing more needs to be said about it.

[@antoniosassogarciafilho1476]

Hugo is a perfect gentleman! Regards from Brazil

[@Yariten]

So great - I agree with every word and am watching & hoping you're going to say exactly what I'm also thinking, and then I say "yes!" he's got it!

[@hugojacomet428]

Haha so nice to read this ! Thanks Yariten, Hugo

[@benstrong3549]

Wonderful understated insight Hugo. Lovely video to watch on a quiet evening in a vicious world

[@hugojacomet428]

Thank you Ben for this beautiful comment. Yours, Hugo

[@antoniosassogarciafilho1476]

I think this show is so interesting and i like it so very much that moments ago, i was taking my older son to the Saturday morning football game Here in Brazil! And I was listening hugo’s lecture and in a certain moment my son told me: wow,these are very, very nice comments and I appreciated it that specially from the historical perspective! Than I answered to him, “that’s great i will share the link with you to you subscribe and enjoy! Congratulations Hugo and regards from Brazil

[@fernandofiallos2845]

Hugo, thank you very much for keeping these traditions alive. All the best from Honduras.

[@advdevkumarghosh6663]

A brilliant take on Gentlemanship..

[@danielmeharchand7696]

Fantastic video, love how you being with history, move forward and disclose this is your opinion. You sir are a gentleman! Bravo!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you so much Daniel for your appreciation. Hugo

[@fortheloveofbrum3106]

My word ! How refreshing. Your words are balm for the soul.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you C L for your appreciation. Yours, Hugo

[@Mans-Carpio]

Very well said! You're insights are amazing. Thank you Hugo.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Francis for your kind words of encouragement. Cheers, Hugo

[@owoodward72]

I came to this channel to learn more about bespoke clothing and the art of being a gentleman. I was pleasantly surprised to be encouraged by your life’s story. May you continue to bless others as He blesses you brother.

[@blagovesttodorov4483]

I find this video inspirational in so many aspects. Thanks.

[@kidu7819]

The only video talking about what a gentleman is, and how to be one that I agree 100%.

[@hayleyannamathieson7261]

Kindness is everything. 🎩 Another dazzling video.

[@davebudd1429]

How very well articulated. I wish I could speak English as well as this Frenchman!

[@MrJamescord]

I like that shirt you have, I think I will try to get one made like yours with the white collar and cuffs!

[@hugojacomet428]

Thanks ! Yes it's a nice combination. Yours, Hugo

[@AFCAWorldBodybuildingArchive]

I want this man to be the next James Bond villain.What a well spoken Person.

[@adambate5844]

Having watched every episode so far I have noticed that your humble and passionate nature shines. Many of the suits you wear I have fallen in love with, much to the annoyance of my wife, however I know that given my career goals suiting will become less of an option but more of my life. This is something I look forward to. I’m in my 30s and am now finally dressing better than I ever have, not to show off but to make myself a better version of me. One my wife will be happy to be seen with. Many thanks for all the videos so far and I look forward to more.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Adam for a beautiful and touching comment. And yes, please be the best version of yourself you can be, and I'sure your beloved wife will adore it. All my best to you, Hugo

[@jonathonshanecrawford1840]

Hugo, I give you ⭐⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ *Great video,* it's true a man can dress in a $10,000 outfit and bring the term _"Gentleman"_ to disrepute by his bad behaviour, on the other hand he may spend less then $100 and elevate the term _"Gentleman"_ by his good behaviour. If he is well mannered his reflection to other and what they see makes him either a gentleman or a rogue! Also the girls should be taught what to expect from a gentleman and what to expect from a gentleman!

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you sir! Hugo

[@hemigod2]

Question, what is a gentleman answer: Hugo J.. Brother you have reached a level to wear every day that you are breathing you are constantly defining what a gentleman is. I have to admit that when I first discovered you that I was highly intimidated by you because you appeared to me to be a living statue and the world that I came from or stood in at that time feared your light well ,it is Often the sickness that is within us that fears the medicine that we are about to swallow. In any way Whether you know it or not, you have rescued me and have brought forth in and around me great and absolute changes .Thank you sir.

[@infofootage]

merci beaucoup pour les informations..

[@hugojacomet428]

Merci à vous de nous suivre ! Hugo

[@Marcello1800]

Hard to be a gentleman ... but not impossible ... good video! I learned a lot..! thanks Mr. Jacomet!!

[@radmanblog8088]

we need more people like you in the world.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

I'm humbled and touched by your comment Sir, Hugo

[@radmanblog8088]

SARTORIAL TALKS you a great man🙏

[@lachyfeeney6375]

I feel every young man in todays society should watch this video, to gain an understanding of it takes and how you should represent yourself and how you should carry yourself as a man. Not only for yourself but your lady or partner.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

I'm so happy and blessed to read this. Being useful and inspiring for the young generation is one of my quests. Cheers, Hugo

[@ajwise121]

Hugo, it is so refreshing to see tutorials on how a true gentleman should present themselves. We are starved from essentials of substance in the modern time. Also I would love to see a presentation from you about tuxedos, different styles and what are the features we should look for to be more knowledgeable, for example the bow tie size and shape also the overall cut. Thank you so much

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Sure Andrew, the semi-formal attire (and how to properly wear it) will be covered on Sartorial Talks in the future. Cheers, Hugo

[@danielweber8594]

Thanks for your wise words! Well said by a true Gentleman... Cheers from Germany!

[@TomTom-sj3bn]

Great as always..Have been looking forward to this for a while!

[@hugojacomet428]

Thanks Tomaz, and sorry for the delay. Now we have 3 more episodes in post-production. Stay tuned ! Hugo

[@henrywest7217]

Your observations describe feelings I've had over the years but couldn't articulate as well.

[@PH-vt1lq]

as a middle aged business women I just wish your videos were a mandatory training material for my male colleagues, merci and chapeau monsieur

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Merci Madame. Hugo

[@brokenarrow7871]

You Sir are an outstanding Gentleman

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Jim for your kind words. Hugo

[@juststuff5216]

Such a beautiful video. Please, don't ever take it down.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

It's not in our plans ! Cheers, Hugo

[@EdwinHendraKusuma]

Thank you, monsieur Jacomet, for reminding me of what my late grandfather always said.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

You are so very welcome Edwin. Hugo

[@uboxer]

Tasty words ! Thank you Hugo !

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you Alex! Hugo

[@boxing1940]

You and your wife do an incredible job! Very well put together, I am so glad to come across videos.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

We are glad too Ricky ! Thanks, Hugo & Sonya

[@johnwalker4221]

M. Jacomet, Thank you for your elegant and concise explanation of what it means to be a gentleman today. Your comments are truly appreciated and well noted.

[@mark-angelofamularcano237]

I think people really need to re-learn subtlety and discreetness, especially today. It helps build good character and avoids petty disputes to escalate. Thank you for this video.

[@defensebydesign]

Great insights to an often misunderstood term. Thank you.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you for your kind words and appreciation ! Hugo

[@Zuber82]

It's nice to listen someone wise :) Merci Monsieur!

[@hugojacomet428]

Thank you Sir. Yours, Hugo

[@andreatanzi3191]

Fantastic depiction, in particular about the value of being kind above all.

[@hotcoffee6911]

Breath taking

[@hugojacomet428]

Thank you for your kind words. Hugo

[@charlesbarboza8591]

Hugo, it has been such a pleasure to have found your videos, I’ve been watching them for the past few days and they are very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insights. May God Continue to Bless You and Those You Love.

[@gbnjhb]

Dear Hugo, I’m a professor of the history of international law, teaching this semester a course on the resolution of ethnic conflicts. I’ve recently used this video to demonstrate to my students the qualities which diplomatic negotiators would have to bring forth in order to succeed in their task of ameliorating conflict - these gentlemanly qualities you talk about: kindness, providing all parties the possibility of feeling at ease and comfortable with the negotiator, the negotiator’s ability to keep confidentiality, and protect the weaknesses of the parties - yet always celebrate their strengths and good sides. Thank you for your work. You might have perhaps not imagined - but your impact even reaches into our field of diplomacy in ethnic conflicts. And yes - dressing well as mediators and negotiators (albeit WITHOUT being judgmental about the dressing habits of others) also increases credibility - and respect !

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you so much Gilad for this. I'm very surprised and honoured that my work has been useful to you and your students. Yours, Hugo

[@deniscullis8518]

Hugo you are dead on with your quote. Xxden in France

[@josephhill2868]

I was pleasantly surprised to see the Mandarin subtitles :) I have been learning this past year. Sterling video sir.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Yes we had the good fortune to have a volunteer do it . Cheers, Hugo

[@mentesjose9310]

Sir, thank you for this video. It inspires me to be more kind to the world around me.

[@Tierheiler]

Hugo Jacomet is so right, he puts together such high values for how men should be, I know a couple of men to be like this, but far too few ... the greatest of them died 2 years ago, Peter Sweeney, the greatest gentleman I ever knew and loved...

[@poyomismo098]

A pleasure to listen to you

[@netgalactic]

Wew! You hit the nail on the head! Fantastic. Cheers.

[@hsorsuzami97]

I really like to listen to his story, he is speaking to passion.

[@psidhu1979]

Great words once again Hugo

[@Rudmyster]

Great definition; total and in full.

[@eddieburrelli]

Very, very well put.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thank you so much Ed. Cheers, Hugo

[@bryanpangestu2344]

I'm very inspired from this channel! Lots of love From Indonesia!

[@ColeOshiro]

Yo, I love your attitude and talks on your channel. It's incredible how dudes are these days in regards to using the term "gentleman", use in a way to describe style more than attitude and personality. Keep it up man.

[@SARTORIALTALKS]

Thanks Cole for you comment. Cheers! Hugo

[@stockloc]

I love the camera angle you used. Instead of talking into the camera, you made it interview-esque. I didn't even notice this until I was 3 videos in -- I thought you were doing an actual interview! Love it, Hugo. I have subscribed.