What is Co Regulation?

[@SukieBaxter]

What do you think, does this explanation of co-regulation help you to understand how stress and worry states can get lodged in your body? Leave me a comment and let me know!

[@alisonsneed3707]

I think I have clicked every link on every one of your videos, tried navigating around your website and for the life of me I cannot find out how to release trauma from the body.

[@stephenkearns6461]

Can these worry states be implanted before birth, if a mother has a stressful life etc?

[@healcptsd6467]

@@stephenkearns6461most important/critical period is 3:rd semester of pregnancy until 1,5-2 years

[@stephenkearns6461]

@@healcptsd6467 Wow, you can literally be in the womb and absorb what's going on outside

[@kevinschwartz1289]

Concise and to the point...easily understandable.

[@KarenLorre]

I was trained to be anxious as a child but I now come into every situation with a state of gentle love and allowing and fun. I entrain stressed people to my love so they relax. They cant entrain me away from my own joy anymore. They sure used to be able to, but I gave up victimhood, so I am the dominant energy that entrains others. People always tell me they are happier around me than ever, that they are more relaxed and easier; they feel safe and trust me. You can shift anything!

[@kdog919]

How did you shift that?

[@freili11]

I think part of my anxiety is learned from my family's tense and combative dynamic. But now that I'm living with other people I find myself actually worrying about how my anxious vibes affect them, which makes me more anxious, which makes me more worried... It's really silly. This channel has helped with finding the deeper sources of some of my anxiety though, and I'm learning to heal. Thank you.

[@brah04X]

I've been experiencing all of that for most of my life too, especially the feedback loop that creates more anxiety by being aware of the energy that I radiate. What helps me is self-compassion, patience, trauma exercises, and calming herbs :) I'm in a much better place now than I was just a year ago, and that feedback loop has a much lesser part in my life now. I still withdraw somewhat when I know that I'm triggered and need to process something, but self-compassion and understanding have helped me to not get worked up about it - I can always just tell the people around me that I feel bad and need to process some stuff (instead of feeling shame, carrying secrets, and pretending that I'm fine as I used to).

[@matthewdexter]

This is exactly how my wife is, she is so affected by how her friends are when they meet up, they usually have a negative affect on her, and then other times when we are alone together she feels safe and content as she picks that up from me as I am pretty layed back and not stressed. Its very interesting how you put it, its like we can influence people around us without even trying. I also think that I am kind of positive around people that it makes them feel the same. I will look into this more as I find it facinating.

[@SukieBaxter]

Interesting, Matthew. It sounds like you are pretty regulated in general. Safety really is the big key. I've got another video coming soon on stress and safety that ties into this one -- stay tuned! 🙂

[@eleanorstobo7385]

Totally relate to your missus! I can do ok until have to deal with other people and their moods!

[@mikehughes4951]

The more I see of Sukie's work (on KZbin) the more I trust her. If 999 other people had started with 'Hallo wonderful humans' I would have vomitted. Sukie is however, genuine.

[@KawaiiPinkPunkStar]

Please come back to youtube. Your knowledge and techniques are so important.

[@narissayoung]

Love all your videos Sukie! You are intelligent, well spoken and deliver timely and important information in a way that is easy to understand and put into practise. THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR GIFTS

[@wtfhappenedtome]

Background music makes it very difficult to focus on what you are saying. Had to turn volume down very low to try and shut it out, then I played the video three times. Love what you are saying. Please stop with the music, not necessary 😁

[@andrejmjansen2671]

I have the same experience. I love the video’s but for me as an hsp my ans goes into sympathatic because of the background music😵‍💫

[@orlandochavez148]

Forget about the background music! Imagine having to live over a/the flight pattern! Is there any benefits to recognizing patterns? 🤔 but the mindset of a dodo bird…..Mmm

[@adhdself-love]

Wtf, dude? Sensitive to the sensitivity in others, huh? Got some introspection to do, gander. Take some responsibility for your feelings, and stop chastising the geese for your foibles.

[@astridjaye6224]

Wim hoff breathing helps abs cold showers but I’m So tired and negative I haven’t been doing it. Thanks for the video , gonna check out the pain free one:)

[@misslydialove]

Great content. The music is very distracting though!

[@Vin-og2dj]

Yessssss!!! This is so good!!

[@addhoc256]

i could concentrate better on the words without the music background

[@UltraFitDancer]

So fascinating 🧐 need to process and rewatch!

[@cabbagedavidge]

This seems exactly what I am looking for. I have suffered from anxiety and depression all my adult life. My Mother didn't bond with me and when I was in my early teens I was molested. I am now 69 years old. I am confused about where is the best place or way to start? If doing your exercises in these videos which is the best one to start? You mention Pain Free At Any Age Video Series but is that relevant to me? I get back ache because of tension but what about my mental emotional state? Thanks

[@Muniandy-xi8sp]

Hi sukie, I guess, most of us who watches your videos are people who have anxiety and looking for guidance from you, so I want to let you know the music on your videos are not calming and lifts up anxiety, as a subscriber I hope you put more calming music in upcomings please...your contents are great. I can even listen to you without any music❤ pls

[@jessd956]

No music would be better for me.

[@flightrisk6176]

Very productive explanation here. I’m finding my way they this works better, when my tethers are connected. Much favor to you💚🙏🏼💚

[@francienvanderveeken9091]

Thank You so much

[@nononsense6305]

Thank you!

[@steveingo]

this content deservs far more views

[@wildrose3390]

i had a pretty traumatic first 5 years of life, interesting to hear you mention that “neutral faces can come off as angry or aggressive” because when i was 4 i got a doll for my birthday that wasn’t smiling and i was pretty upset about it, i didn’t like it and flat out refused to keep it

[@texaspuppetgal]

So very true, very helpful info, ty

[@stephenkearns6461]

Love your explanations on these matters, it's very helpful. If one regulates his nervous system enough, will the body release/express repressed emotions in its own time?

[@natest.the.greatest]

Such a great question... I would think so. There's only one way to really find out!

[@SimeonKirilovX]

@@natest.the.greatest it will, same case as when trying to go out of the ultra freeze response/dissociative defense mechanism which is DPDR.

[@henryahoy]

So even when you think you are protecting yourself by isolating, your nervous system is still collecting all the data, it's still activated, I'm still prepped for threat? And that threat isn't really safely deactivated until I am safely around people, comfortably? If you're out of sync with people, you're nervous system won't relax or stand down, until you have restored being back in sync? And if you've been out of sync from childhood because you didn't feel safe to be you, your nervous system responds even if you've forgotten why? It keeps that file open somewhere? Run from the non-thinking part of my brain? Almost in secret? Is that what's going on?

[@8brightside8]

Good questions.

[@Santaheckler]

I wonder how wearing masks affects this? I work around kids and it seems twice as difficult to create rapport and trust. This makes the learning process compromised from my experience. What’s your thoughts?

[@jamesbroderick2976]

Its pure evil in the truest sense, the damage being done to future generations is horrendous and anybody saying it does no harm "its only a mask" needs to education themselves.

[@stephanieh5478]

That's EXACTLY what I was telling my coworker the other day. I'm a preschool teacher and sometimes I feel so overwhelmed because the kids are so chaotic and my face can not express my concern, before masks I could lower my face (sad face) and say something like "my friends, we are being too loud! Let's all take a deep breath!" Now they can't see my facial expressions or properly BREATH with me.

[@sylvanaleijten844]

All I can say is these rules our governments set up aren’t good for anything

[@shathaway13]

@@sylvanaleijten844 except maybe saving our lives?

[@sylvanaleijten844]

@@shathaway13 nah in my country there are more people committing suicide and other things (people also still die from influenza but they’re not doing anything/talking about that because today all you hear is COVID). The government has their own agenda and don’t care about “peasants” like us...

[@MzElaineMarie]

This is so useful!

[@laceybluecat5723]

thank you for the information

[@Kormac80]

Wonderful Communication skills and content. Music distracts.

[@anastasijapilnikova5732]

Thank You 💓💞🥰

[@rishisingh7608]

All that you talk about the body sounds very interesting can you do some vedios on men health I think we can learn lots to make good changes thanks...

[@SukieBaxter]

Hey Rishi, that's a great suggestion. What specifically would you be interested in me covering?

[@rishisingh7608]

@@SukieBaxter Things like prostate cancer, low testosterone and diabetes as we get older it's a big concern am sure lots of men out there worry because they changed our lifestyle..

[@Ashley-gy7or]

Do you have any tips/suggestions on how to help children calm their nerve system?

[@stephanieh5478]

Teaching them how to breath has to be one of the biggest way!

[@teachermarsham]

Water time bath or shower or nature time or mindfulness skills with their senses what do they hear see smell feel ...also art time or getting busy with something they enjoy...

[@aerobique]

exploring a forest

[@Yogabreakprogram]

The content of what you are saying Sukie is very interesting and you articulate yourself well, Thank you for sharing. However, the music in the background was activating my stress response system, it was very distracting and unfortunately, I could not finish watching the video.

[@aerobique]

good info

[@cpodgorelec]

Bravo. Regards Australia

[@savedbygrace-o9r]

My daughter is 5 and I am just started to heal my childhood trauma after a huge subconscious block let go. Is it too late, is her system programmed?

[@noridiesel]

While yes, her subconscious programming has already picked up what it will, the more you work on yourself and change, the more your daughter will reap the benefits and grow and shift along side you. It is never too late for healing. The more you can be attuned to her and respond to her needs with love, the more resilient she will be in the long run.

[@sandtx4913]

Is it sufficient to only rewire the brain? If the stress response is an automatic reaction (fight / flight) from the nervous system, doesn't the response bypass the brain? And shouldn't we rewire other parts as well such as the body, which has it's own memory to traumatic events?

[@SukieBaxter]

Great question, Sand Tx. It really depends on what you call "the brain." I view your brain as being embodied and inclusive of subconscious/autonomic systems, like fight or flight, which is a much more holistic perspective than our binary mind vs. body medical model. Reactions such as fight or flight and vagal nerve shutdown do bypass your conscious, executive neocortical functions, but they are still a part of your "brain" -- especially the vagus nerve which is a cranial nerve. So, when I'm talking about rewiring your brain, I'm referencing all aspects, not just conscious functions. Hope that helps.

[@vinitajacinto4988]

Background music too loud!🙏🏽

[@gerrfleck]

Is this similar to DNRS or Gupta?

[@yshaw3317]

Background music too loud

[@childoftheuniverse7680]

I’ve been watching your videos. Can you help me?

[@nje2409]

Totally free? When I go to the instant access to pain free series it is trying to charge me $99. Huh?

[@rickspalding3047]

It's a broken link for me, LOL

[@natest.the.greatest]

@@rickspalding3047 If you go to this page, you can enter your info and you'll get an email with a link to the vid series. You'll see an ad for another series right after for $99 which is what I think OP was referring to... wholebodyrevolution.com/pain-free-at-any-age/

[@elsewherehouse]

" More is caught than taught"

[@khushboosharma1135]

I so much relate to this, but it's strange how I was so attuned to others emotions and their expressions but my sister, we've grown up in the same household, but she didn't turn up like me? Is there any explanation for this? 🤔

[@BMindful2024]

Just like ACIM says there are no private thoughts

[@ziggypip2938]

Does anyone believe in what they say enough to not have stupid background music???

[@gabriel.pedro_]

🙌👏👏🤩

[@michaelmcveigh985]

Interesting content significantly undermined by the awful background music: distracting and irritating.

[@henkvrieling9586]

That unnecessary music makes me nervous

[@hortensemason4073]

I actually can't listen to your videos because of the background music. Turned off sound to write this. I

[@carlaa3623]

Pls reupload and go slow

[@motherofintuitives]

you almost ruined a perfect video about co-regulation by saying the words self regulation twice at the end......

[@caoillainn]

Please remove the music. It's too distracting.

[@Cp_9900]

These videos literally give zero advice, honestly what a complete waste of time and energy.