What is DBT & Mindfulness? -- Dialectic Behavioral Therapy

[@shannon101787]

I realize this video is 4 years old but I just found it and I want to sincerely thank you From the bottom of my heart for publishing these because I am in a place where I need therapy But I cannot afford it so I am using your videos to help myself in the meantime

[@gabygab_7]

Hope you are doing well

[@rosecajiga]

Me too, be strong and good luck on this ♥️

[@victoriabuchanan294]

Rubix_Kaos I feel the same way. With ya.

[@maryridenour7165]

Same. Trying to find more videos of this to help me to get through this as well

[@larissagoruk5146]

very similar, just caught this

[@rebeccap.319]

PLEASE do more in-depth videos on DBT! Your channel, love your no nonsense no BS style!

[@sasanr1]

If you really like to go very deep into this you must check out Jiddu Krishnamurti

[@MusicIan423]

I'm very into mindfulness. I learned a different method, and I learned it very easily. It's actually a very easy technique (though still hard to master of course). Definitely not something advanced, if you are new to therapy and this sounds interesting you can jump right in. First week, sit comfortably, and observe your breathing. Don't try to change your natural breathing, just watch it. Whenever you notice your mind wander and you think about something else, just refocus your attention on your breath. Do this for at least 1 minute every day for a week (it's more important to do it every day than do spend several minutes on it). Second week, sit comfortably, and begin observing your breathing again. Continue to not change it. This time, when your mind wanders, notice where your mind is going. Don't try to change your mind, don't try to judge your thoughts, just continue paying attention without judgment to your breathing and whatever other thoughts or feeling happen. Do this exercise every day for a week. Third week start doing the exercise as your are doing daily activities, especially ones without a major emotional/physical response. Do this as often as you can, all day, every day. This will build up your ability to focus on the present moment even when under stress. By the fourth week, I was able to easily pay mindful attention to my inner storms, which allowed me to simultaneously feel them while keeping my mind clear and able to navigate the emotions and thoughts, so I could start to unwind them. I see that I have a lot more to learn, but the effects are obtainable within days of starting. The number one thing a person can do to speed up the learning process is practice every single day, even for a short amount of time. Repetition will allow your mind to naturally go into an attentive state instead of having to actively focus like the first week or two. The key of this exercise is to not judge your thoughts, feelings, or impulses, and to not try to change them before taking the time to actively sit in them and experience them (unless it is dangerous or harmful to yourself; always ask your therapist if you aren't sure). It's a method of directly confronting your problems, which can be hard but is always the best way to overcome them. Thanks for the videos, Kati Morton.

[@stephencarroll1166]

Leaving a comment so I can find this again.

[@MsBeachboxer]

Ditto.. Thanks.. easy to follow

[@diamondbadon1756]

Also commenting to find again

[@abcdefg123722]

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[@mariozuna4446]

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[@MissStillAlive]

I would really love it if you talked more about the non-judgement aspect of mindfulness! We often practiced this when I did DBT therapy in hospital... I used to think of the thoughts as clouds. I see them, I observe them, but I don't say "ugh, I don't like these thoughts, I hate it, they suck", but I just describe them in my head and I let them pass. I don't cling on to them, but I also don't try to push them away. Or we talked of the thoughts as visitors. You don't push them away, but if they go, they go. You may say "Oh, hi, sadness. Here you are. Oh, I see, you have brought tears and desperation with you." So I observe them and describe them, but I don't judge them. And that is SO hard. I still struggle with not-judging everything a lot, but it can really help. I am so happy that I did DBT therapy and I still do. I also try to teach some skills to friends to help them :)

[@LorraineGrant]

If a bad event happens get it into perspective by thinking, 'Will this have a long term effect on my life, or will I have forgotten about it by next week....month.....year?' I can get over bad things happening.

[@ShitTalkerExtraordinaire]

Rayne Hale that is my dream brain function. Life would be worth living if i could do that.

[@nuggetsofchiken]

Dbt works amazing for anxiety and depression as well. My therapist doesn’t even use cbt because she believes it makes the ruminating and anxious thoughts worse. She teaches it to all her clients and has found more success than cbt.

[@amy8486]

So glad I read your comment. I've been confused on which one to focus on. CBT or DBT. I have BPD, anxiety, and depression. Thanks for putting this out here.

[@MariaRevArt]

@@amy8486 I think its good to incorporate aspects of different forms of therapy as they are useful to us.

[@alanroberts7916]

I wonder if dbt would work for chronic pain? The part about experiancing a feeling but not judging it to be good or bad runs counter-intuitive but it might just be the way mindfulness helps.

[@queenpearl1979]

I am so grateful for this, you may have just saved my marriage and ultimately my life.. thank you

[@MMcDowell23]

I work as a DBT therapist, and after years of practice when I came across this method it fit me like a glove. One thing I have found is that the Books and materials from Marsha Linehan are great, but there's a TON of material to try to take it. I have begun to get in the practice of taking the ideas and materials and just thinning them down to make it more digestible. These videos help a great deal with breaking the ideas down to make it clearer. Thank you Kati, I'd love to see more DBT related videos !!!

[@peaceatlast8286]

I have BPD and I can relate to what your saying. You are so right when you said "there are no breaks" in BPD. I need to watch this video another time or two. Thank you so much for this valuable video. 💖💖💖

[@twigagawizard]

This video was so helpful omg. I felt so engaged with you and almost said "yes" to your question, because it felt like you were here in the room.

[@SEDSabuhb]

This is the type of therapy that I've just started ... In a group ... Treatment round 2 ... trying to get to my healthy mind and healthy body ... I'm finding it much more useful than my cbt therapy - I don't have bpd I have an eating disorder ! The key to mindfulness is practise when your NOT distressed 😊 it'll become easier to use when you are distressed ! There are 3 different minds so in the parking ticket analogy Kati immediately reacted ( hypothetically) in 'emotional mind' - her 'reasonable mind' would have been the logical part when she said aw I could do this - 'wise mind' would have been acknowledging the emotional mind but using the rational mind to decide the best response for the situation - in that moment 😄 Thanks for the video Kati ... Even though it's an older one - it wasn't 100% relevant before when I watched it but now I eat sleep and breathe dbt and it's the best thing since sliced bread 😄 💜

[@LaurenMca]

I've been in DBT for a while, and it is the thing that has helped me most. I recommend it to everyone :D

[@rosieharsant9132]

I've been doing DBT in a program that was adapted for young people with self harm and suicidal ideation issues, and it is basically saving my life. Thank you for making this video because if more people know about it then maybe more programs will become available, especially in the UK as there is so little funding. If you have the opportunity to do DBT then take it as the skills are so valuable and helpful in your every day life. I love your videos Kati, thank you for being such a strong voice!

[@fabcastro2129]

still helping people in 2020.Kati thank you much.

[@tashalloyd2125]

I found your teaching style very calming and helpful...

[@jennifermayph.d.2761]

I enjoyed this video. I definitely will share with my patients. If it is of help to anyone reading this, my channel has 37 videos of ALL the DBT skills, reviewing each one in detail. Please feel free to use it as a resource in your treatment!

[@lovetolaugh35]

i appreciate your videos they are simple enough to understand.. and it helps me accept and understand my mental and emotional issues better....

[@remystic_spirit]

I don't even have borderline personality disorder and DBT really helped me. I started doing DBT my sophomore year of college.. so for almost 3 years now. It really helped me manage my ADHD mind and especially my PTSD symptoms. And mindfulness can be one of the hardest one to master and it one that I have to practice a lot. Some advice to others, like anything, DBT takes practice! Even Marsha Linehan has to keep up with it!

[@tjrumler]

Really looking forward to more of your videos on DBT. I'm just learning this approach, and I plan to use it with Veterans. I appreciate your approach, you are very easy to listen to.

[@johnwalters4120]

I look at this as a new start I just got out of the hospital today because I got overwhelmed with something's in my life I see that the truth is something that I have to let go of

[@amandamandamands]

I always hated mindfulness, but your description of it I get and have realised to a large extent I do. Best part of DBT for me was learning more about the emotion names and the feelings that they will usually give you in your body so that you can be clued into what is happening for you and things like anger is quite often a secondary emotion.

[@FlapFlapOctopus]

This is the best description of DBT mindfulness I've had. My therapist is great but it's hard to get into the weeds in only an hour a week.

[@charsigner93]

I did dbt and I learned alot from it.My eating disorder got bad during the class and when I graduated she helped me see I needed to go into iop... hated mindfulness in the class but I love it when one of the therapist at my iop does it with us(she's a dbt therapist as well at her private practice)

[@amerindiencool]

I've did DBT and it's the best therapy for BPD!! It really helped me!! Now I can say I'm praticaly normal. Thank for making this video, because it's not very well known

[@zoejoy]

Thank you thank you thank you so much for these BPD and DBT videos! ❤️🙏🏻 The way you break everything down helps so much!

[@jonathanlallo4920]

Were here for you too kattie . thank you for helping us

[@playmobil48]

Im so glad to know im not so lost when it comes to coping with my mental storms. :)

[@johnwalters4120]

This is really a great video I am seeing now that I am not my mental illness it is a part of me it is sometimes that I have to understand more

[@sarak7598]

this woman is awesome

[@starrwaisanen8682]

Where is the video on the other three components? Do you have videos taking us through the entire DBT process? I would REALLY like to access those please. Thank you, so much! You are VERY helpful!!

[@thastan4368]

Queen of Therapy! I love your videos so much.

[@ManintheSun1]

Thank you for the answer, Kati. DBT/MBCBT and Schema-Focused Therapy are indeed great integrative approaches for treating anxiety- and some axis II disorders. I think a 2-3 times a week dynamic therapy along mindfulness training and/or more secular buddhist practice can also be very and deeply effective for the less impulsive and antisocial of us.

[@justwanabebeautiful]

i have been doing some dbt for my ptsd i dont have bpd but i find it really helpful i find it to be chalenging but it has helped me go from numbing to feeling im still not great at knowing what im feeling but my therapist help me figure it out once i can desribe my physical reaction i can then pick the most logical feeling thanks for the vid kati xox

[@tigersrfuzzy]

reacting is a way better word. i didnt understand ur analogy until u switched to reacting. and ur brain on what u appear to think is a bad day, is still waaay better than most oeople on their best days :-)

[@hkkrr]

Hi Kati! Quick question: How do I distinguish between making plans for the future and WORRYING about the future? I keep hearing about being mindful of the present moment, which is a wonderful skill, but then when is it appropriate to think about and make plans for the future? Thanks for your time!

[@Rise9192Against]

I know this is a late response. but hopefully this helps :). Planning is an art. It's more about about scheming/plotting--In A to B fashion....writing down clear *small steps* and contingency steps towards a goal, whereas worrying is being stuck where you are, typically in a loop and making assumptions about what the future holds actually investigating. e.g. say you just want "friends". You say "ok, so *what steps can I take* ? What factors can I control? The setting would I find these friends?: College, cafe, work? What can we talk about? How can I be cultured myself to make this a fun time for them and myself?" --these are bigs steps, I would disect them into smaller steps. Just know, by nature, plans can(and usually will) always be tweaked--so it's okay if alright if things don't work out the first time. Its planning to "eat an elephant" by the leg, tusk, and ears than worrying about *eating the entire elephant* . Also I recommend don't over-plan, or do big 2-3 year plans. Make small (but powerful) achievable plans you can *do in a few days* , and *iterate* with a new adjusted plan each week--given new information or wants. In project management, it's better to be *agile* and make small plans that your team can do in the next few days, than--say--plan the entire project in one year. Since there's a thing called the *Cone of Uncertainty* [wikipedia into] where circumstances or new information may come up (either good or bad) and change their entire game, turning"big plans" into waste paper. So have a "general" long-term plans on factors you have control over. And *have blind faithe* certain things you don't have control over will change where you do. (bc again, new information/wisdom or circumstances will come up).

[@christierella]

Anthony Flores this is very useful information, I need to know. I was abandoned at 11 years of age by both parents. I'm almost 50 and I don't have friends or family, I'm almost at the end of the rope. Thank you for sharing.

[@dario8needshelpio8]

to be honest, it depends on the person. I have used mindfulness for years and usually I either use it to cope with anxiety, and it helps me calm down, or dissociation it helps me get back to the present. Another way I think helps me get in touch with my emotions is art. Sometimes I don't really know how I feel but then I draw (not particularly well) and I understand it a little better. Hope this helped xx

[@mgvideos1000]

I'm just getting into DBT. I have BPD traits, but I'm not all the way BPD. It's hard because I'm doing DBT on my own because I'm focusing on other things in therapy. This video is so helpful because it's hard to just read and do a workbook!

[@HeySisGotAMoment2]

I am so glad I found this video this series is really helping me

[@541raymond]

you are wonderful! thank you for posting.

[@hugsru]

Thank you Kati, I enjoy your down to earth style.

[@varyasmusic]

Oh cool! This is exactly how i deal with... everything, with life i guess :) this is very Vipassana! It’s all about observing and allowing your thoughts and feelings to come up without reacting to them. Amazing strategy. It completely changed my life. Thank you for sharing Katie, you’re awesome!

[@TheFangirlable]

It really helped me a lot. It kind of got the ball rolling for my own recovery. I wish you all the best! :)

[@nlangley181]

Excellent, helpful and welly explained videos. Please keep them coming.

[@Lbd_lbd_]

Thanks, Kati! I’ve recently subscribed and I am catching up little by little. CBT seems more direct to me and DBT sounds like what I already try to do in a way. Anyway, still learning. BTW, watched until the end! You are so funny 😊

[@eleanorhartshorn8816]

I'm still waiting to see if i get accepted to my local personality disorder clinic for BPD but it's looking unlikely that i will because my consultant feels i manage things fairly well on my own, in so much as i'm mostly on top of self harming, suicidal thoughts and attempts, risky behaviours like binge drinking, drugs, dangerous sexual interactions. The one thing i really, really, do struggle with is regulating my emotions, the emptiness, not knowing who i am, the neediness, dissociating. My psychiatric nurse keeps telling me mindfulness would be great for all those things, and i have been trying to get to get to grips with it, but all i get told is "it's just living in the now" and that doesn't help at all. These videos, on the other hand, do help because it's broken down into smaller portions that aren't as overwhelming and make more sense. They really do help and i definitely feel like mindfulness will do more than just help with my mental health, i feel like it will make me a better person.

[@chocolatechipash1]

You're so good at explaining, this was exactly what I needed so thanks

[@kellyjoyce6911]

Would love to hear about ACT, it was used in my treatment center and I found it to be very helpful and similar in a sense to DBT.

[@donnapalmer3924]

i have done DBT for years i went ack in a group again for a short time for a refresher i get or got alot out of it. it helps to mange everyday life and i use the skills before injured or when ED was ou of contorl it is what i got my life back with now i am dealing with everything with having the skills now

[@YourFriendRae]

You're so lovely, thank you do much for making these videos

[@t_harper25]

How do you make staying with an emotion replace responding? And why is it better? Freud basically said what's not expressed is repressed. I agree.

[@Tr0ubledGirl]

I am going to try to do this in the next few days as it's going to be a hard week. Kati, you are amazing at what you're doing on KZbin. Just from watching your videos it has helped me loads just to understand my own illnesses so big thanks. If you have time could you do a video on what to do when two mental illnesses sort of conflict? For example, exercise helps my depression but it causes my eating disordered voices to almost take over even over the smallest amount of exercise. xoxo

[@christierella]

Thank you for these videos, I'm hoping to feel content...in all situations. I use meditation, breathing techniques, some stretching and yoga. My problems build up until I explode, everyone has given up on me; with the exception of my husband.

[@emilydanziger]

I loved the actual video but the bloopers were my favourite part!

[@amy8486]

Thank you so much for this 💖 I ordered a DBT workbook on Amazon yesterday.

[@sugarplump73]

This is great - a great summary of the WHAT skills...do you have a video on the next step...the HOW skills? I would also like some exercises to use!

[@earthbuff1]

Your talk is commendable, the non attached observance--aptly compared to teflon on a non stick pan....Buddhist mindfulness practices have a very similar structure, namely being mindful of outside events percieved by you through the sensory input, the sensations of your body and body posture, and lastly detached observation of your own thoughts, emotions, etc....just be observant without attaching......

[@bebopbountyhead]

Thank you, Kati. I really love your youtube.

[@RV4U4Me]

I would be interested in the special offer at the end... you know, the one about working towards healthy mind and healthy body.I love the ad lib.

[@LecheVitrineUK]

This is helpful, I started doing 'observing' sometime ago but I didn't know I was until now. I am I now realise trying to deal with participation and reaction. I also keep having this thing where I feel I should be doing yoga! & funny I watched Mirandas ballet video, I do ballet! I do a lot of stretching & its helped me calm my head.

[@kristi94]

Very helpful and educational videos. This whole mindfullness thing reminds me of Ekhart Tolle's The Power of Now book.

[@nataliehelmig920]

Haha your bloopers at the end are hilarious!

[@ghoshrohit]

DBT is really helpful in many ways like DEARMAN for assertiveness..there are many other acronyms PLEASE MASTER,ACCEPT etc...The key is to identify the Discrepancy Monitor which is the culprit for the Ruminating Mind..There two modes of our Mind Being and Doing...Mindfullness is more about living in the Being Mode...take a step back from the Doing Mode...It helps in controlling the Discrepancy Monitor...There is a nice book Full Catastrophe Living written by Jon Kabat-Zinn...its a Good Read on Mindfullness Based Stress Reduction Techniques...The mind also Ruminates due to Cognitive Distortions/Negative Emotions..Remember You and Your Mind are two different things..Mind Loves distractions and colors the reality in a distorded manner..Katie please could you do a video on Cognitive Distortions?

[@gesine1]

I love your fun personality kait!! :)

[@SeussyMcSeussifruit]

I'm trying to write my dialectics (two opposing and true thoughts) in wise mind (balanced; not black and white) by using "and" to tie the two opposing thoughts together. Then I number them and when I journal I write on the number instead of feeling I need to redescribe things to myself. My goal with that is to be able to have a mental map of all my dialectics, the emotion that comes with each, the things that trigger them, and what helps regulate my emotions and brings me to wise mind. It's going to be a while before I get there, but I think it's going to be helpful based on the skills I've learned so far. Maybe that idea could be helpful to someone else as well.

[@bridamc3493]

this is well explained thanks!

[@Tabitha04]

I don't know if it's more healthy or "better" to either follow a thought down the rabbit hole (meaning try to figure out why I'm thinking xyz and where it originated from etc) or to distract myself and do something else. I can't tell if distracting myself is merely avoiding the painful situation or if I'm being a masochist by trying to figure out these thoughts. Help please.

[@anjalisinha4291]

I can't afford therapy, Kati but your videos are immensely helpful! :) Have a good day! x

[@queenpearl1979]

I have a hard time applying these when I’m having an episode 😞

[@ddukes2414]

This is great! Thank you!

[@panda839578567659610]

vERY very helpful video

[@Luxfer999]

EXCELENT VIDEO!!🎶

[@taylorrb90]

What are the other 3 parts of mindfulness?

[@lindzdizzel]

HorrorVamp I was wondering the same thing.

[@Love2nurse93]

Katie I love your videos!! I really want to work on DBT as I have Bipolar 1, PTSD, ADHD, and BPD. I believe it would really help me!

[@melinaboudreaux3344]

tryinb to get back into my dbt skills because I've been off track for while and your videos help thank you

[@mooninaries4397]

love your videos! thank you.

[@payaljoshi2241]

This is just a Eastern version of Vispassana I guess! I did it and my BPD symptoms reduced so much so that now I don't have enough to be diagnosed as one. Just vague personality disorder is left

[@robotgirlandghostify]

I'd love to see more videos on Self Harm.

[@im19ice3]

it's been thre years and i've finally managed to observe, on to participation

[@jaslifestyle4820]

Needed this ❤️

[@jennym9743]

Hahaha we learned about this last week in partial. Thanks for reminding me this :) maybe the more i go through it the more likely i'll be able to do it.

[@Rome274]

Mindfulness is good in coping with chronic pain too.

[@rebeccap.319]

Question… How would someone utilizing CBT for BPD differentiate between having a "Teflon" mindset with their emotions and actually disassociating?

[@dannycrowley9630]

Great question. I've also found meditation to be a dissociative at times.

[@MsBeachboxer]

Yes, I have Complex PTSD which is often mistaken for BPD. Dissociation was a protection fm abuse for many kids & often returns with memories/therapy. It has been known to be triggered in meditation for some, so not the best w/o trauma therapists' approval it's been said.

[@angelalyons1418]

i have the first book from Marsha Linehan. and I'm investing in other DBT books. I have invested enough in my coloring hobby. lol I love your video's

[@jakkie1982]

Is there a second part to this to cover the next three parts of mindfulness?

[@gregoryagogo]

Mindfulness... OMG. Like I need more thoughts running around up in there! LOL I am too painfully aware of those stimuli, and having years and years of having those stimuli upset me exactly the same way seems impossible to change.

[@alanroberts7916]

feelings are not facts...

[@fredbost6323]

Helpful video - thanks. For mindfulness, I found Jon Kabat Zinn to be very helpful.

[@jasonsperatos6412]

Good stuff. Hey Kati, can you do a little video about self actualization?

[@jonniemaemiddletonlotte6747]

Katie, I sometimes struggle with getting a persons name correct. I guess we all do. But, to get it right only take 5 seconds. It really says you respect that person, however. It would mean a lot to me. I not sure about Marsha. So what is up with that?

[@VioletRene]

Thank you! I have been diagnosed with DID, BPD, PTSD and OCD. Might DBT help me?

[@قناةالطالب-س5ظ]

can you please send me an example of minfulness dbt with a teenage thnk's a lot

[@LAYNAY20]

This video is amazing!!

[@water1593]

Can DBT be used for other things aside from BPD? Like for things like depression? and why would you do DBT instead of CBT? Sorry if you already answered this! :) xx

[@toveandthemilkyway]

Never done DBT and I am so confused but I kind of do CBT. I feel like DBT is like one of thos hard words that you can't understand at first and when you do you cant explain it even though you know what it is.

[@rosecajiga]

Dear Katti, could you make a step plan to work on "DBT Skills training handouts and worksheets" bei Marsha M. Linehan, or do you know some website/app/video, where they can explain how to use this manual...I leave in Germany and its tremendously dificult to find therapy specially in my language...so I want to start on DBT by my self in the meantime...Thank you Kattie you are great!!! i wish you where my therapist!

[@laurathesmall]

this was really helpful. thanks! I think I've been doing the observing part for a while, my counsellor has set me the challenge of putting words to my emotions because I can never do that haha

[@robertdull8534]

Love it!

[@bbgates1257]

very cool thank u

[@maromishtey5928]

It was fun learning.....

[@ghostrider2664]

I am just beginning to explore DBT, thanks to several incidents in my life lately. Sounds like this is what I've been looking for. I'll definitely subscribe and watch as much as I can as I prepare to start therapy. Does anyone have any tips or suggestions as I begin this journey?

[@motherelephant5537]

Here to try to find a way to communicate hurt and anger with a family member who has BPD. Therapist recommended looking into DBT. Will just understanding BPD & DBT help with effective communication and setting healthy boundaries?

[@courtneymaloney5087]

I feel really numb and sort of disjointed from emotions, do you think DBT could help with getting more in touch with emotions rather than controlling outbursts of them? (not sure I'm making sense!) xxx thanks!