What is "Gaslighting"?

[@sirownzalotgaming3025]

This guy actually knows what this word means. Everyone else is using it incorrectly and the word had now taken on like 4 different new meanings. Thanks internet and misinformation

[@him050]

You've hit the nail on the head there. I hate to say it, but the whole "know your worth" tik Tok girls have made it to mean that anyone who disagrees with you is gaslighting you. So it comes in pretty any argument where one person thinks the other is being unreasonable or irrational about something. Suggesting you overreacted to not getting a good night text isn't gaslighting you into being the problem. Gaslighting is outright lying to someone to convince them that something that is happening, isn't.

[@lawrencejenkins8103]

I have been looking up and trying to define what gaslighting is. This is by far the best video I've found and I actually understand what the hell gaslighting is. My only question is why did I have to watch 19 other videos before I got to this one? lol.

[@3089280288]

Because the others are idiots

[@egreen337]

⁰88h

[@egreen337]

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[@danscottfitness]

Because he gave examples. Other videos go off on a tangent he got the point

[@margeaux139]

True

[@bandit-ms6ys]

"Dont piss down my back and tell me it's raining."

[@evamz9584]

Finally! I understand. The more videos I watched explaining gaslighting the more confused I got! Thankyou for keeping it simple! 🙏

[@beebee33]

Thank you for the quick and to the point explanation and including examples!

[@Drakeziel]

So odd, I never knew what it meant. I’ve had people tell me that I’m gaslighting them but they themselves were gaslighting me.

[@mtlicq]

Yes, THAT DOES HAPPEN!

[@alexgomez6723]

Yeah, the phrase has unfortunately devolved into “if you’re bothered by my overreaction and generally shitty behavior, you’re a bad person”.

[@sirownzalotgaming3025]

⁠yeah I think it's turned into "minimizing people's emotions and making them feel like they are overreacting"

[@kiki1573]

Nowadays people overuse and misuse words so much. I literally thought gaslighting meant a person intentionally starting unnecessary drama. Boy am I glad I did my research. Thank you for the great explanation.

[@hoju510]

Your video should be at the top of the search results. Other people’s explanations are terrible.

[@princenothingofficial]

agreed!

[@johnmatthews7989]

I asked four people at work, whom used the term in a sentence. Then I was provided four different answers😅

[@lisa.8871]

What I meant by that is someone who constantly slanders another character verbal emotion abuse lies manipulation types are often either ego maniacs and or narcissistic they are a low form anyone who gas lights and or verbal or emotionally abuses someone talks

[@lisa.8871]

I question an adult that constantly talks bad about someone in general behind there back than after study people or a person like that I realize a they are a low form too they hate themself deep down inside and they are often either narcissistic or and egomaniac its disgusting too know that type of human is even out there

[@floridianman]

Was at the top of my search

[@princenothingofficial]

Hey, I just want to say props on everything in this video. I especially like the background you chose. I have ADD and your background really helped me pay attention to you. Everything was clean and put in place. That helped me relax. Thank you.

[@CodyCole80]

Great straight-to-the-point explanation. Thanks! 👍🏾

[@erushii8312]

Thank you for this less than 3 minutes explanation!

[@jimjohnson6944]

I was so confused by this term because it seems like people nowadays often use it as a synonym for provoking someone, or egging someone on. Thanks for the explanation!

[@sirownzalotgaming3025]

Its funny because I think the current definition of gaslighting means to make someone feel like their emotions should be less and that they are overreacting.

[@Mr.BMC2763]

So this is the ACTUAL definition! Thank you.

[@marshabenjamin-hawaaboo5778]

FINALLY!! An explanation that explains, enough for me to understand. Thank you Sir!

[@IAYTD]

Here's how to use the term "gaslighting" properly!

[@phunkyzilla]

Bird up! But seriously. Love this video, really hated the top results for “what is gaslighting” but yours hits the money without focusing on real world politics.

[@ayshasanam576]

you actually explained it unlike everyone else

[@nope4736]

Thank you so much for the video!

[@daledean2]

THANK YOU! I was searching and searching for the origins of the term and you did it in a few seconds. Much appreciated!

[@davidduxbury7530]

Many thank's for this excellent definition,I am now clear about this term.

[@DaCake2]

So it’s pretty much another word for manipulation.

[@Tlizerz]

It’s a very specific type of manipulation.

[@Minecraftjunky23]

I scrolled through 20 something videos all done by new wave feminists that did not actually understand what they were talking about before I found this video. Thank you for being the person to actually explain it in a way I could understand.

[@littlepookie7976]

I "like" click this ! Super good explanation! Thankyou. You have good music, too

[@Poppy-yx8js]

Yes . I’m in my mid life and had the same social network of people I’ve known here locally since grade school gaslight me for 30 years. They have tried to get people to ask me out for coffee pretending to be my friend - but are looking for personal information to add into a running smear campaign. Asked people to gaslight me when I was in college. Always try to find out who I’m friends with and dating to do the same. A weird blacklist from their social group. I have no idea why. It turned very malevolent over the years.

[@jugulardiver5288]

Never heard of it til now, i thnk im getting old

[@DCsGladiator]

It's being used even more nowadays.

[@adamhewton6411]

People are miss using the term more nowadays *

[@CrownStream]

Who remembers being Gaslighted by our older siblings and as an adult you cant believe they made you fall for that 😂. Now that we know what this means.

[@hmpz36911]

Thanks!

[@joshadams6920]

Very helpful and easy to understand.

[@margewtushik729]

Why is it suddenly so popular?

[@ebanksstudios]

People copying each other because they think it makes them more cool

[@mattblack7372]

Just as I thought! We are being gaslit by the government!

[@staciewebb4829]

😅 I would love it if you would give the definition of dense I had a friend call me dense and then denied that he was being insulting

[@truthbtoldwright6411]

I shouldn't laugh but that's so funny.😂

[@DF-dd5nf]

Thanks a lot for all your amazing well explained information, this is the best videoI found on Gaslighting till now. I learned a lot from your video. Thank you for making it very helpful and useful and providing thorough information.

[@shamekiaholland6059]

Thank you for summoning that up

[@heatherthompson9168]

Simple and excellent explanation with examples...I love it!

[@lindaconstantine1844]

I'm so glad iv found you to clarify gaslighting

[@sagarchavan9685]

01:07 perfect example..👍

[@jenneliz2020x]

The word narcissist comes from the greek god, Narcissus, who was beautiful. He was the River God and he fell in love with his reflection as seen in many paintings & other art.

[@arielelijah1282]

Not just narcissists are using this method some people too even they are obessed to do their own right decisions even the crowd spots them already for not being a real person.

[@nathanpickering2079]

This is a great video. I love the explanation, so when does it change from Gaslighting to trying to show them a viewpoint they can’t seem to see? Because often in debates whenever the person seems to have found their own arguments contradictions or realize they’re in over their head they say they’re being gaslit.

[@jemazondo9331]

It comes down to your intent.

[@chrissug]

Good to know the term originated from a movie title. Always wondered about that.

[@kalkhan816]

You are amazing, thanks for clearing this up for me

[@c.j3087]

Could any rhetoric technique or oratory skills be mistaken as gaslighting?

[@Youtubin1]

You my man are a great teacher !

[@sonicmagnus5312]

they threw this word around a lot when i was in Springfield MO, jailing with Larry Hall and Randle Patrick Murphy

[@mal9310]

This is a word that I keep checking what it means, because it makes no sense to me. It is so frustrating that it is a phrase based on a movie title. I can never remember what it means.

[@lydiaeditz]

You take a problem to someonr and they turn the whole thing around making you out to be the problem. Unbelievable. They make you question your own reality. Its deadly and dangerous.

[@wunderkinder_wk]

I was locked out of my room one night and 2 siblings said I locked the door myself. The door was repaired. I kept quiet and found out someone actually is doing it. Bcoz after the incident, when I get out to go to the bathroom I go back and move the knob to check and twice it can't be moved its, locked even when the door is still open.

[@Funnyfish66]

Oh. I finally have a word for what my ex best friend always did. Idk why, but it occured to me that i knew the word, but couldn't say for sure its meaning. Turns out i know it all to well.

[@3089280288]

So it's inception

[@nickacelvn]

Thanks. Nice explanation.

[@at68250]

Thank you so much is Very helpful for me too Know About This Cause Some people Just love too Try too gaslight me But I Don't let Them get Away with it 💪💪 is important for you too Stand for yourself Always when you haft too

[@spencercase5370]

Ah, sounds like my hunch was right that people are using this word a bit too liberally.

[@PrincessCashmonie]

What happens when the person ignores the gas lighting? Is it harmful to not acknowledge gaslighting?

[@izmediayoutube]

He gaslighting my kitchen.

[@mrbokoblin3401]

My now ex gf was gaslighting me into thinking i had earing problems, i reach out to a professional payed 70€ to have an expertise and he said that i had a better earing than the average ppl. When confronted she shrugged it off saying meeh dont believe him, i cant be the one talking too quietly. Gaslighting can go really far guys, even making you questions your own health

[@Isaidit247]

Yeah I definitely don’t be doing this

[@anyayashar1970]

For You're next video presentation can you do the definition of the word "NEW SPEAK", I used to hear this word a lot a long time ago from other videos I've been watching but I like to hear your opinion on it thank you.

[@arkatheprod]

This is sick beyond my comprehension. Twisting another person’s reality for your own personal agenda is just sick!

[@SaulOKAY]

So what is it if I tell my wife something, then she gets angry because I never told her, but it's my fault. But I know 100% I said what I said. Then she says I'm gaslighting her...

[@Poppy-yx8js]

A misunderstanding. The gaslighter has to be intentionally trying to get a target to question reality.

[@shawnsmith5763]

Funny when people gas light the definition of gas lighting, too feel educationally superior.

[@him050]

The problem with the term is that it's been manipulated by high maintenance people to be pulled out during any argument when the other person suggests they're being unreasonable or irrational. Like you won't send a good night text one night, they'll get all funny about it, you apologise but suggest that they're being a bit silly getting so upset over something so minor and they'll say "don't gaslight me. I'm not the problem here. Just because I want to know my boyfriend is thinking about me!" That's not gaslighting. That's a difference in opinion over something. The examples matey boy here gave are gaslighting. They are completely different things.

[@Peter-Du]

Thank You.

[@Cyadella]

I honestly just wanted to understand “Gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss”

[@jasonuren3479]

You mentioned politics. It's become so ubiquitous in politics and many other fields that most people don't even recognise it as such, even moreso in relationships. As for the play, there was actually also two movies made around the same time. The 1944 film with Ingrid Bergman, but also a British version in 1940, which I personally think is superior to the 1944 movie. Probably not as well known as most probably haven't heard of Anton Walbrook and Diana Wynyard.

[@marcoroman4563]

So if someone gaslights, you can respond with why are you always projecting 😅

[@azdnalor]

My ex wife is an specialist on gaslighting, it comes from her mom and inherited to her sister too. I think my little daughter doesn't have it but her cousin girl does. Fortunately she kicked me out of the relationship. Now I know what it is. I am worried for my daughter as she is surrounded by gaslighters. I am asking angels for guidance and protection. And to pull her out of there.

[@Athyxion]

your daughter will fall for arab men and become muslim. Allah be with her.

[@isaiahcampbell9248]

Where is your definition taken from?

[@jaaayyy4469]

this is a dangerous word. because it’s used a lot in things that can’t be proven . like an argument where one person things the other meant to say something different to what they meant … can’t prove what they meant to say or that you are right so how can that be gaslighting?

[@lisagant9420]

My husband will get mad and talk under his breath out loud and say certain things and I know I would hear him and even name calling at times in right immediately when I would hear it I'd say what you just say to me? He would tell me that I'm crazy I'm just hearing stuff and it's happened more than I can count!!

[@gregboam8474]

What is the difference between a debate and gaslighting? Is there an intentional lie in gaslighting?

[@catcraft4119]

Dang my mom has been doing this for years............

[@DJKier-v9s]

God bless you!

[@OnionSavoya-gm6op]

There's extreme Gaslighting Yet there's a more casual everyday gaslighting.

[@jabber1990]

What is it called when the victim is actually in the wrong?

[@marshallstrander3922]

Anyone else ever been gaslighted into thinking that they’re gaslighting? Lmao

[@marcoroman4563]

So when you are fighting over something in the past both people are gaslighting each other because their reality is their reality? Lmao

[@kovalenkoyegor9796]

Wait, it doesn't have anything to do with pyromania?

[@tonystarks9150]

Damn I do this alot to my friends especially moving stuff around there house to make them look crazy 😂

[@Quiengamersall2834]

Vsauce got clones now 💀🙏

[@ElSebasxd]

Here after that Matty Healy’s song

[@nightshadehelis9821]

I think it's a term that's over and incorrectly used by redditors. My wife accused me of gaslighting last night which is why I'm here. She accused me of stealing the majority of our bed covers while we were sleeping. I smiled and said "nope, I woke up and you had most of the covers!". In my mind I was being playful. I had zero intentions of being malicious. I'm not a psychopathic narcissist trying to make her feel crazy. I simply woke up and she had some of the covers, so I jokingly accused her of being the one who stole them. I was smiling because I thought it was obvious that I wasn't being serious. Real talk, could this really be considered mental abuse? I've already apologized for making her feel this way, but deep down I wonder if this really was gaslighting. I feel like actual gaslighting would be toxic, like purposely making your wife question her mental health by constantly hiding her car keys or something (which I would never, ever do).

[@cardboardbox2702]

Should of looked this up years ago.

[@JaniceCarter-ws7lu]

God bless you..🫡🇺🇲🙋🏾‍♀️

[@AbianahTheGemini]

My ex gaslighted me so bad I had a mental breakdown. Very terrible grown boy. He was nasty and I predict he is bisexual struggling with his sexual identity because he’s from a religious background. Sad!

[@msl1461]

great

[@HuskyKyurem]

So it's like psychoing someone?

[@michaelquickenton1046]

Am I the only one who's just concentrating on the Batman poster?

[@Alanshao]

Like religis. They are trying to convince you there is actually a god somewhere and will always "love" you

[@mbenembene2841]

Can some be positive gaslighting ?

[@derekwestcott495]

Why do you think 98% of people who use the term misuse it? What most people mean when they say someone is "gaslighting" is that they disagreed with them or criticized them in an area where they believe themselves to be an expert. I understand it actually started as a coloquualism, rather than an officially recognized clinical term, so one can argue it doesn't matter if you misuse use it, just like it doesn't if you misuse "cool" or "riz." Despite this fact, it actually has been coopted by official clinical studies such as Barton and Whitehead, 1969 and attributing someone critically analyzing a work or idea you put out into the world to engaging in malicious psychological abuse is reprehensible and that is what MOST people do with this term.

[@michaelq3071]

This guy tried it on me cause I failed his car inspection.. game over man go change your lights.. didn't k ow that's what he was doing...I just knew he was wrong and decietfull an I wanted no part of that..

[@F5d3hkdhkubst763]

I’ve been gaslighted a million times I would like to gaslight a few people

[@edra2005]

Example south park trying to tell us that the black boy is named Tolkein instead of Token

[@sallywhite8747]

Okay this is not what I'm looking for so can someone help me find help when looking for what to do when people say and do things because they think you're a bad person so they expect you to say and do negative or hateful things but you're not the person they think you are and you don't know what to call it..... I would like to know what that is called so I can pinpoint it so I can describe it to other people because it's almost impossible to do. When someone says something to you knowing the answer to it already expecting you to speak in a hateful or disrespectful way but that's not who you are.....what is that called? Technically it's not gaslighting so I just want to know what to call it so I can describe it when I'm telling someone else about it please! I mean obviously they're attempting to get a specific response out of me but it's apparent that thet are expecting a negative or disrespectful response from me. I assume in order to speak ill of me later or behind my back. Which unfortunately seem to be a perfectly normal thing in their click or group or minds. Which i find very discouraging towards me and anyone else they're done it to. It infuriates me to be honest & i tend to beat myself up more than anything else because i know it's going on & i continue to allow it to happen. knowing im constantly being referred to in a negative way when I'm not present. What exactly is this called? What do i call this when attempting to describe it????

[@kantan1216]

If you complain that your neighbor is making loud noise, and your landlord questions your sanity, saying that your hearing the music in your head, then that's gaslighting.

[@lynnelowe]

Thank you. I have just been gaslit by my husband. He is a prick!

[@SeanLives]

So it’s basically what people in all relationships do 😂

[@luichinplaystation610]

People bringing back old terms like some form of wisdom What a hipster or snob

[@Parks179-h]

Does this mean that most modern uses of the term gaslighting, is gaslighting?