What is the PERFECT DATE for Each of the 16 Personalities?

What are the Best Date Ideas for each of the 16 MBTI Personalities?
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The 16 Personalities of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator are INFJ, INTJ, INFP, ISFP, INTP, ISTP, ISFJ, ISTJ, ENFP, ENTP, ESTP, ESFP, ENTJ, ESTJ, ENFJ, ESFJ
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[@FrankJames]

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[@dandoesitall]

Lol I don't know whether to be offended or laugh haha

[@gachabirb]

😂😂😂 that's funny, I love talking to people but not on the phone

[@posieandrosie]

@@ASweetShortCake i think it's based on cognitive funtions as ESTJ and ENTJ are listed very closely/consecutively. Also if it was based on rarity then the ENTJ would be one of the last :)

[@amelyryan2831]

OHmYgOd 🤣🤣🤣

[@ms.blackcat]

Same.

[@Michael-io3hf]

1:06 ESTP 1:41ESFP 2:30 ISTJ 3:25 ISFJ 4:11 ESTJ 4:55 ENTJ 5:54 ESFJ 6:57 ENFJ 7:57 ISTP 9:07 INTP 10:01ISFP 10:37 infp 11:26 entp 12:04 ENFP 12:44 intj 13:58 INFJ Your Welcome -istp

[@simplymusic1163]

Thank you darling- entp

[@johnlemon5227]

Why is INFP the only one in lowercase - INTJ istPP put me in the lowercase too😔

[@trinaq]

Thank you so much for the time savers!

[@Michael-io3hf]

@@johnlemon5227 i think you know why

[@Child.DazaiOsamu]

i was waiting for this. -istp, too

[@Elmer02204]

I like how majority of tips for dating introverts always ends with going to a bookstore

[@Carcassbits11]

I actually love the bookstore, especially used book stores lol. I don't even make time to sit and read, I just can't stop buying books 😩 (Isfp

[@MissEliseIsTired]

That's true, that does seem to be a reoccurring tip. I actually think that would be a bad place to take me on a date, because I would just look at books and search for more info on my phone about each interesting book (rating, better prices, etc.). I would stop talking to my date, and if they kept interrupting me, I would just give up looking for books. Yes, I can see it now. I would just amble behind them and give opinions on books they're interested in instead. -INTP Lady

[@edi0157]

Here is how to get introverts to get out of their house with one simple trick! Seriously though, I guess the idea is to get you talking about all sorts of subjects that the books remind you of, which is great but the issue is that you arent really allowed to talk in bookstores as that would disturb other people. I can confirm that would get me out of my house though…

[@Elmer02204]

@@Carcassbits11 me too!! I'm especially a big fan of reading manga and light novels Also i prefer bookstores that sell art supplies and stuff too -Intp

[@FrankJames]

they like books lol

[@snowflake1125]

INFJ married to an INTJ. Our first date was a music festival and it lasted 12 hours! That's how we knew we liked each other because we could stand to be around each other lol We married 3 months later and are going on 12 years now!

[@melisaarteaga3110]

That's funny and cool! 😂

[@caseyoconnell1813]

you got married 3 MONTHS after your first date??? no way

[@snowflake1125]

@@caseyoconnell1813 ​ Yep, pretty crazy for both of us! To be fair, he was in the Army and he was going overseas so that kind of accelerated the process but yeah, only 3 months. But there's a reason for the saying, "when you know, you know." :)

[@caseyoconnell1813]

@@snowflake1125 I'm glad it worked out for you, but I could never have the confidence in myself to marry someone after only being able to get to know them for 3 months!

[@snowflake1125]

@@cantybraoh4864 I wouldn't judge people's personality types based on one action. I live with the guy, I know he's 100% INTJ 😂😂😂As Frank always says "this is typical of the [type]". Never "[Type] always plans for the future and isn't spontaneous ever!" It's all on a scale 😀

[@eggiesammich]

ENFP married to an INTJ and you nailed it. If I had my way, we'd go somewhere new every week. If my husband had his way, we would never go anywhere further than our front yard.

[@kimtaylor3515]

ENFP marrying an INTJ as well. We are going on a road trip for our honeymoon. It was his idea. We have one or two things planned each day. If we see something interesting along the way we are going to do that as well. I am so excited!

[@f.s.9833]

@@kimtaylor3515 I do this with my INTJ husband as well (ENFP). It actually works well! We establish a couple of things we want to do during the day (which satisfies his planning thingy). But on the way there and around we haven’t planned that much, which leads to tiny surprises that I enjoy very much!

[@_lil_lil]

ENFP and INTJ seem like the unlikely couple who are somehow a match made in heaven.

[@LoveHandle4890]

Can we just appreciate how this one man manages to play 16 different people so perfectly?

[@velnz5475]

what?

[@bball_ontop]

@@velnz5475 16 people represent the 16 mbti personalities

[@CaveyMoth]

Every time you see him play a new one, it's like a stranger's come to town.

[@velnz5475]

@@bball_ontop Do they? Or do they represent a perspective of a person invested in the subject. Is the possibility anyone could fit a mbti personality as it was designed to be generally accepting of being factual to people also invested in the mbti? Theatrical acceptance? Poetic given the videos topic to allude to Valentines Day.

[@NDJunction]

yes and no. i am an INFJ but my dating is def INTJ xD like, please leave me at home and alone! But he does a fantastic job I appreciate. Zodiac signs, numerology, and psychological upbringing are the other deterring factors i filter in when meeting new ppl...yes, im that annoying and weird, why >_>? lol

[@beryllium4043]

As an INTJ married to an INTJ our perfect day is always when we explore new things. Visit to a museum, nice dinner with house wine, maybe a long walk in a park or a street we have never been to. But never two major plans in the same day. We always choose a main idea, then shape the side requirements accordingly.

[@CantrellMS]

Only if those things are free or discounted.

[@jtwattsmusic]

Wow! An INTJ married to an INTJ? That's incredible.

[@nikawest3015]

that's amazing, i just refuse to go outside if its not to the arcade

[@aprilf5788]

As an INFP, I'd much rather the cat café or literally any other activity than just a café date. No way I'm leaving my house just to have a conversation at a coffee shop instead of my own couch. The ISTP one sounded much more appealing tbh, though the book exchange does sound fun too!

[@Khushi_R9]

Hahah ikrr I'm an INFP too and I totally relate to what u said

[@Oranje_Panda]

Yesss I'd so much rather go to the cat cafe 🥺

[@MusicFanOnline]

LOL- As an INFP, I also wouldn't particularly want to go to a coffee shop, and that's just because the ambiance of most coffee shops kind of sucks. But, the general idea of sitting together and talking appeals to me. Like you said, talking on the couch at home (LOL) would be better. So, not a coffee shop, but instead, maybe a type of bar with a nice atmosphere that's not too loud so you can sit close together and talk. I also enjoyed sitting on a bench and talking as part of a date (the ambiance of being outside with trees around was better than most coffee shops would be--but again, that key element of talking closely is there--just not at a coffee shop).

[@aprilf5788]

@@MusicFanOnline Yeah, I totally agree with the talking part being very important, I just don't vibe with sitting down and talking being the only thing we do. Even just going on a walk would be better for me. Frank mentions doing something simple that's not too distracting but I'm incapable of staying focused for so long, I need a distraction from time to time or otherwise I'd be ready to head home after half an hour lol Ice skating, an escape room, amusement parks, arcades, museums, a cooking class, all of these are examples from the video that can be done while having a conversation and getting to know each other. I also just like to observe people and how they react when they're doing stuff, that's another great way of learning about your date.

[@supersoup4672]

I thought the istp sounded good too

[@jashepoon]

"What is the PERFECT DAT..." INTXs: "No."

[@jashepoon]

the tips for INTP sound spot on to me though

[@joshuagetusername4779]

Not quite. As an INTP I would say that the perfect date is ISO8601

[@KingDeadMan]

​@@jashepoon Not for me. It's so off the target, even Personality Database answered this question better.

[@aurnaurrr]

With the INTP, there’s a big emphasis on the things they are already interested in, because they do love to learn and share what they know, but they’re also fairly picky about what they spend their mental energy on and super picky about what they spend their social energy on. Additionally, they’re pretty protective of their comfort zones and staying close to them, so don’t just assume that every INTP will be interested in things that are stereotypically associated with them

[@louisejoel]

Older INTP here, you might have trouble finding a topic I'm not a generalist in

[@Tasneem1413]

Thank You!

[@muchanadziko6378]

As an INTJ I'd say that the best date possible is just to go to either one of the partners homes, talk about philosophy or art for a couple of hours, and then pass out drunk and high while watching Yellow Submarine. But your idea about going out to do something physical in order to let all the suppressed frustration with the world vent in a boom is a pretty good one too.

[@AnaWaterkemper]

But please don't change your mind on the way and go somewhere else because I (always have something to use as a white weapon with me) have panic attack. That's the reason I refuse going out with most people, because they always "remember to buy milk" on the way, or worse, go "say hello" to someone that lives nearby (and stay there small talking for hours, I have trauma).

[@Carcassbits11]

Yeah my intj just wants to get high, chat, and watch TV haha. That's fine by me! But I suppose as a first date you want to do something in public lol

[@muchanadziko6378]

@@Carcassbits11 my last girlfriend was an ENTP. Though we did provide for each other for a time, she couldn't stand the "me" that was what I most cherished. For our first date we chose to meet in a park. I suggested the park, and the 'secret hideout' I liked in it, while she brought mulled wine and Christmas tree lights. All in all, our two "romantic sides" together made for an evening no one could forget in a lifetime. No one can ask for perfection forever though, can they?

[@Kat-Has-Cats]

This this this. Even when I start the date in public, I always want to end it at my place or theirs. I think it has something to do with "efficiency", as in, "let me find out as much as possible in the least amount of time." You learn a lot about someone by seeing how they live.

[@jacqulinestille3704]

Yeah as an intj, I want to go hiking so I can talk about ideas and philosophy

[@lordgrimixb]

As an intp I would prefer to walk around rather than just sit at a cafe or restaurant. For example a hike or a museum. Something interesting to see with the other person. I feel it will so make it easier to have a conversation.

[@Jooney91]

I think for us INTJs the most important thing is to know in advance where we are going. It's true, we enjoy learning new things and experiencing something exciting, many of us really like to have fun, but we need to be mentally prepared. I recommend to just ask directly if we would be interested in certain activity, we will appreciate your thoughtfulness a lot, but also it's far bigger chance we won't reject you.

[@kindauncool]

Exactly, gotta research the place first, go inside and check out the place, find the best spots to sit/stand in, get to understand the vibe, etc. No going in blind!

[@baolekit]

I love how well you explained this. Getting mentally prepared is key. And also following through with your plan. Worse than surprise destinations and crowds is getting stood up when we actually made an effort to leave the freaking house. That will cause a major rift.

[@yami-yume]

I'm an INFJ, once again you're totally right FJ. I would love if the other allow me peek into their soul. But I also found myself thinking "Am I a patchwork or what?" because I would enjoy doing things from each personalities : amusement park, climbing (without competition), cooking class, Natural History Museum, things that have personal value to the other, minigolf, escapreroom, chocolate-tasting, I would also pick something I like the other prefers, arcade then relax, bookstore, cat cafe, sound bath, take a class, ax-throwing (with the fear that the ax will ricochet and come back on me as I have seen in videos)

[@gwynnmccallan8856]

THIS 😂

[@shayleene8215]

omg YES

[@Nick-db1zp]

We're all patchworks. It's not possible to classify everyone perfectly with 16 types, but it is possible to use them as a map for where you lean.

[@yami-yume]

@@Nick-db1zp Of course and fortunately ! It was also a nod to the fact that INFJs often find themselves in other types.

[@preranabnagaraj4637]

INFJ and climbing with competition would be sooo fucking fun, why not?

[@Burnerbaby]

All the date ideas you listed for INTJs are things my wife has planned and I greatly enjoyed. Even in the beginning, she knew I like dates that stimulate my mind and always let’s me know ahead of time so I can mentally prepare. Our first date was at an escape room. She even planned an axe throwing date for my best friend and I. I really found myself a keeper.

[@kmb723]

“Let’s say, *hypo-thalomisly* …” This went from 0 to 100 real quick 😍 He’s already got me there

[@FrankJames]

hee hee

[@kindauncool]

Hypothalamusly*

[@kindauncool]

It's literally phonetic man c'mon xD

[@kmb723]

@@kindauncool if you watch the video carefully,(you can pause it at that moment)he pronounced it as “hypo-thalomisly” and also spelled it exactly like that,that’s why I wrote it that way

[@agirl4855]

As an INFP with adhd: - I do really love learning about someone - but I cannot stay focused in a one on one conversation for an entire date. (I would also be uncomfortable) - preferably for a date I’d have something to do at all times. - Not something that requires a lot of attention and focus, just something to keep me preoccupied, and I can turn the conversation towards whenever I’m stuck. - this might just be me, but I would love doing an activity for a date. As long as it’s not the entire date. If I don’t feel like I got to know someone better after a date, I probably won’t be feeling more romantically attracted to that someone. - another thing that might have more to do with adhd, I would love for a date to be planned out. Because I’m terrible at management. - not incredibly detailed, just what we’re doing, and when and how I’m going to get home. Ps: I’m sorry about the bad punctuation and irregular use of big and lower caps at the beginning of a dash. Also the illogical use of the dashes (I’m not sure about the pattern in them myself). Edit: forgot to mention that the swapping idea was genius! I would love to swap a music playlists for example!

[@artworldnyc]

As a fellow Infp with adhd I agree as well

[@liltunturi1251]

YES exactly! Activity helps break the ice and digest the nervous energy. I mentioned that ideally you want to NOT make it seem like a date, because then you wont overthink it and allow yourself to have more fun.

[@aaliyahkishore246]

My god as an INTJ I was just thinking that I wanted to go to an escape room for the perfect date and then he said it! It's either that we're too predictable or he read my mind.

[@KarlaJeannieDoddy]

as an INTP i have never enjoyed dating because everything seems so forced and boring like every conversation and thing seems so surface level, so your suggestions sound perfect to me! sadly non of my exes seemed to realise how boring i found just going out for a drink or to a dinner, like take me to a bookshop and ill freakout over the niche little japanese literature novels, or even if we are doing a homedate putting on a film or a documentary about something that puts my mind to work, like a psychological thriller, or a unsolved mystery, and we can try and work it out together

[@louisejoel]

I don't date, it's great

[@chopin7788]

Those suggestions sound so freaking fun. Exactly, I want an experience that offers more mental stimulation, and connecting with someone on an intellectual level. A dinner date and small talk sounds absolutely horrendously boring in comparison.

[@louisejoel]

@@chopin7788 pub quiz night

[@GrafinVonHopper]

​@@chopin7788 Como INFJ, até toparia um encontro pra jantar desde que não houvesse conversa fiada.😅

[@chopin7788]

@@GrafinVonHopper Sim, com a pessoa certa, eu poderia desfrutar de um jantar, mas acho que as outras ideias soam melhor lol. Eu posso ver como um jantar seria atraente. Além disso, eu também sou um INFJ :D

[@crust5532]

As an INTJ , I would prefer to go to a coffee shop , talk about interesting stuffs or just go for a walk with the date and getting to know each other .

[@apushman]

bingo, as a fellow INTJ i totally agree.

[@Nothingbutdust92]

Same for me too as INFJ

[@lisacrews3060]

INTJ here. It's been 30 years since my last first date with my ISTJ husband, but INTJs who are dating for the purpose of finding a spouse/life partner will want to hear about where you'd like to be 5, 10, and 25+ years out. Quieter environments where conversation is easy are best: a leisurely walk in the park, quiet restaurants, a meal at your house, and that kind of thing. We're focused on compatibility, which covers things like lifestyle, philosophy/religion, childrearing, and finances, because we're figuring out whether or not there's any point in continuing a relationship with you. Obviously start with lifestyle stuff earlier in the relationship: interests, general life goals, etc. Don't take it personally if we end it early on; we respect your time and energy as much as we respect our own, so we don't want to drag it out any longer than necessary. We think of marriage as a strategy game where couples are teammates helping each other deal with challenges to reach a shared goal. If you're not a good fit, it's time to move on and find someone who is.

[@Nellyaa]

Spot on! INTJ, married to ISTJ. :D

[@MorgueInTheVoid]

As an INFP. I love the record store idea. I used to do this thing with my ex where we would go to weird thrift stores and find CDs that had cool album art and we would buy them and see if we liked the band. We found a lot of cool bands surprisingly! But also, for the cat Cafe idea, definitely pick the cat Cafe if it's the first date. Because I get too anxious to learn about someone the first date, so I like to get a feel for their energy and how they react to cats lol

[@kir250305]

Exactly!!! Cat Caffè would be spot on!!! 😻

[@liltunturi1251]

I think it is ideal to not just sit and talk, but actually either have some movement or physical activity, or something else to do and focus on like the record store idea, it just help to digest the nervous energy, you almost dont want to make it even seem like a date, more like a fun casual hangout. And the less people around, the better. Although I understand that some people feel safer in public spaces in case you are spending time with someone aggressive. Not me though lol, less people around, less overthinking, more focus on the person I am on a date with!!!

[@grrlinglasses]

As an ENTJ one of the best dates I went on was a geocaching date. We had to work together and it was nice to learn something new. Combined, both of our interests of history and exploring new neighbourhoods.

[@wendyg.2664]

As an INFJ, I really enjoy going for a walk on dates because there are so many topics that might come up while we are observing the outside world. ANYTHING can happen & and therefore, the possibilities for conversations are endless!

[@Jae_C_]

This ISFP got super hyped over the idea of a cat cafe (even without a date 🤣)! Honestly, anything involving interaction with animals always draws me in - horseback riding, a zoo/farm, even cow milking! Unfortunately my allergies require me to either be prepared and well medicated or keep exposure time short.

[@Carcassbits11]

Yeah I wish my town had a cat Cafe! I love to go to the petting zoo with friends (I'm an adult lol)

[@gamerdweebentertainment1616]

Similiar issue as an ISTP, thrill and excitement (shows carnival ride) I get motion sickness and hate em :/ Funnily I'm up for sports or smth I haven't tried, but same time refuse to go and learn about them :/ Like snowboarding... I'm up for if anyone asks, let's go so what I'm broke, but take a class and learn how to... NOPE :/ Feel like I really need someone to come with me :(

[@minnie.-.l]

Same I’m definitely not an infp. I don’t like it being too personal like that in the first date 😅 I like playing with cats or having an activity to do but also getting to slowly know the person. I mean who doesn’t like animals. It also tells me more things about them as in how they care for animals or if they have a nice heart (I know cringe). A guy who doesn’t like animals is a no on my list 😂 Even though I quit drinking coffee, I’ll still go bc it’s not everyday you go to these ❤

[@sarah_krv]

INTJ/ENFP date : we went hiking in the forest to reach the top of a rock-climbing spot and stayed there to watch sunrise with coffee and snacks. He obviously didn't resist the urge to blast "circle of life" from "The Lion King" and had a huge grin plastered on his face the whole time. Little did he know I only suggested it because I like hiking in the forest at random hours just to avoid people !

[@melisaarteaga3110]

That's funny 🤣. Good thing it worked out nicely~

[@BunnyGirl71]

As an INTJ, I have lost count of how many times I backed out of gatherings based 100% on how convenient the parking was. Parking anxiety = FACTS

[@maciejpieczula631]

Do you think it is good or rational to have such a high level of Parking anxiety that you back out of gatherings?

[@reinadellasschizas]

I’m also INTJ with parking anxiety, but not to this extent. When I know that there might be an issue to find right spot I choose public transport or bike instead.

[@BunnyGirl71]

@@maciejpieczula631 Considering how averse I am to leaving the house, even if there weren't any stressful parking scenarios, I'd probably still find an excuse not to show up. Bad parking situations provides an easy excuse. 🙂

[@neo_kitty]

Yeah, I kinda feel the same about this. But I also hate driving, so if it is somewhere I cannot take the backwater country road or public transport, I do not go. Is that an INTJ thing? I attributed it to personal weakness.

[@dianeandmark1054]

I never had this issue, probably because working at an urban university for years changed my perception of what equals a parking issue.

[@kookminochim]

I (as an INFP) asked someone (an ESTJ at that, ahem) out recently, yes😐 rejected (very kindly)😂 and i ain’t disappointed (im back into my shell again, for the longest i can think)💀

[@trinaq]

Preach, I honestly don't really mind getting rejected, since I just perk myself up, and get out there again.

[@dat1npc543]

@@trinaq that's a really good thing to do

[@Carcassbits11]

At least you put yourself out there! You could ask out 100 people and if 1 said yes, you'd still have 1 date! Never give up

[@kookminochim]

@@trinaq took me 7 months to even get there at that point (coming from an INFP). Asked him (ahem, an ESTJ) out💀, he’s like “let’s not do that”🫥 I’m back into my own shell lmao.

[@_lil_lil]

How do you know they're an ESTJ, out of curiosity? I don't even know what type I am, let alone other people. Well, other than Hank Hill and Archer, they're 100% an ISTJ and ESTP respectively.

[@karlyyoude]

FRANK!! As an INFP that was so accurate!! My husbands and my first date was at a coffee shop and we just talked and talked for over 3 hours with each other and then went to Barnes and noble to finish off the date and I literally felt like it was the best date ever!! 😂❤️

[@laudrella5513]

As an INFP I can say that this is really true for me!!

[@twins_jiejie]

As an INFP, I was like this idea sounds soooo interesting!!

[@Carcassbits11]

Yeah those ideas were cute! My INFP friend will usually do coffee and a walk in the park, these ideas were great!

[@hazardfree23]

True, i hate the distractions. Unless they're the kind that i can easily tune out mentally

[@raphaelalbert5651]

Im one too

[@Milly1621]

Isfp here and I relate more to this one than my own 😅

[@LydiaKrow]

As an INFJ, I can confirm that I love to see what people are passionate about. I love watching them get excited. Even if I have no interest in something myself, I will often get interested based on someone else's enthusiasm and genuine passion, as long as they include me in it somehow. I think this is partly selfish because the side-effect is that I get to do some research and bring a question to them about this thing that they are passionate about but that also has caught my interest and we get into a really engaging, nerdy discussion about it, and I like that a lot. Hm, I really want to have this type of conversation now.

[@uniscorch]

As an INFP married to an INFP: Can confirm a one-on-one mostly-focused chat is ideal! We swapped short stories we'd written, and were immediately interested and knew we had things in common. We had our first date at my favorite bubble tea place, and then walked to a park nearby. Walking is great because you don't have to make eye contact unless things are going SO WELL that you want to sit down and get intense. HOWEVER, I would recommend at the bookstore that you share your picks but don't trade them. Worst case scenario, you aren't into the INFP's pick, and they are HORRIFIED that you don't like their favorite thing after immersing yourself in it, because they may personally identify with it. It took a while before I was comfortable revealing to my husband that I don't like literary fiction because we both have strong pro/con opinions. It's better if you can enjoy the different things you like side by side, so there's less pressure.

[@uniscorch]

The other great thing that worked out for a low-pressure environment was that it wasn't officially a date: We were just meeting up to talk about our stories, and then the chemistry in person was so terrific I asked afterwards if we could retroactively call it a date. He said yes!

[@mat3372]

As an INFP it is true that we prefer to get to know the person and are not interested in having distractions, but as a first date I would be anxious to have nothing to do. If I don't have an instant connection with a person I risk falling into silence and empty moments so I would prefer to focus the conversation on the activity rather than stand there in silence and stare. Lmaoo

[@gimoff578]

As an INTJ, a date simple, organize and efficient that doesn't takes an excessive amount of time sounds perfect to me, after all I just want to chill and relax in a date

[@Mohit_N.R]

You Nailed the INTJ thing, I Always Freakout when people say we are going out for lunch or dinner cuz I don't know if that place has good food or not and etc. Etc. 🤣 - INTJ

[@f.s.9833]

What if people give you a list of restaurants and you pick a couple that spiked your interest but you don’t know exactly which one you’ll eat at. Would that work?

[@Mohit_N.R]

@@f.s.9833 Me Personally I don't really get upset easy but when it comes to food, work, Money and Relations I'm extremely perticular. I Don't Pick anything without knowing everything about it. So Whenever I pick a Place it's Pretty Damn Good and People around me Knows that so They Never Questions My Decisions when it comes to Food or anything. But when they invite me to their place and they're gonna cook everything at home - it's Hard to avoid in that scenario, Sometimes I find my way around and sometimes I have to ask them to change the Menu Entirely if possible and if not I just tell It's not possible for me to come. If you are asking for someone you know who's INTJ, and trying to plan out something. I suggest you to just Straight up tell them whatever that is in your mind bluntly. We INTJ don't like Surprises.. well atleast I don't. If you want to ask anything else Go ahead.

[@favoritepills]

I'm an INFJ and I love watching your videos with my ENFP boyfriend because they're so spot-on. He loved our first date (walked around and tried all kinds of food at a food festival) and also learned why I really enjoyed going over the "36 Questions" with him on a later date

[@kaihiroku8495]

As an INTP married to an ENTP, our first date was organized by him and he immediately understood I was introverted so he invited me to his house and we played video games (I won everything, INTP enjoy cerebral competition), watched movies, ate frozen pizzas, talked about random philosophical topics which somehow led to s*xual moves on the bed. To this day I still have no idea how the hell it happened. I woke up to the smell of pancakes and perhaps I already knew this man was the one at that moment 😂

[@melisaarteaga3110]

😂😂lol

[@1chienandalou]

Awww so cute, entps can be awesome and smooth with the right person

[@BirdTalented]

How old are both of you?

[@wendyspiesman992]

I plan an activity and food/drinks after with my INTJ hubby a couple weeks in advance so he knows what to expect and can store up energy, and then leave him to himself the next day.

[@f.s.9833]

That is also that I’ve learned with time: prepare the INTJ beforehand and after the said day (which they probably will remember as a cool experience they would have never tried if not “forced into”, even if they only begrudgingly admit that) just take a slow approach to the day, give them lots of space and be homebodies

[@trinaq]

Love your advice, Frank. As an INFJ, I'm not interested in small talk, so it helps to find a common ground that we can mutually relate to.

[@jashepoon]

Trina I saw you've become a dear kristin patron since you submitted for TMM? Yay!

[@trinaq]

@@jashepoon Yep, you're quite right, great seeing you on both KZbin and Patreon!

[@jashepoon]

@@trinaq hope to see you on the discord soon then! :D

[@trinaq]

@@jashepoon Haha, maybe you just might! 😉💖

[@quirogatnonerrat3214]

I hear ya👍🏻 infj here also, sending you hugs 🤗

[@ninakimhartmann393]

INFP here and I love this idea. Trading books that you like and discussing them over the next few dates. This is so perfect 🥰

[@minilutherundseinefreunde3802]

I loved how he mentioned our ENTP rambles, I always feel a bit awkward when I realize I did one of those monologues again. But so nice that Frank says they're cool, because I always thought that people would really not like those. Frank is overall a cool dude, how he's always encouraging the different personality types to appreciate each others quirks

[@kimtaylor3515]

As an ENFP marrying an INTJ We decided to go road tripping for our honeymoon. Have one or two things planned each day but if we see something that looks interesting go and do that as well.

[@jijitters]

The part you especially nailed with the ISFP is how we love to make those shared memories out of unique shared experiences. We will absolutely feel more attached to people we went through something weird with and it will be a bonded experience forever!

[@firtp5209]

Not gonna lie, those INTJ date ideas sound perfect ! And about the "execessive amout of time" that you mentionned, I would add that INTJ (or at least me...) would like to know the duration of the date. It starts at X and finish at Y. Obviously, it can go overboard (espcially if it was great), but not too much.

[@dekart228]

im an intp and when Frank said that if an intp likes astronomy, take them to stargaze my eyes started watering

[@BirdTalented]

Я представляю, что ты чувствуешь. Ты наверное скучаешь по своим близким, по своей родине. Глядя в ночное небо, полное звёзд, ты вспоминаешь о своём прошлом, о том, откуда ты прибыл на эту Землю. И слёзы наворачиваються на твоих глазах...

[@Seca95]

INFJ really hits home here. When I’m interested in someone, I want to know everything about them. Yes, I will stalk them online too to collect information about them (👉🏻👈🏻). But I will also keep daydreaming about taking a long walk with them or sitting in a cafe with a cup of coffee and just hear him tell me about his life, his thoughts, beliefs, what made him the person he is today, and so on. Unfortunately, I have never been lucky enough to experience that with any of my crushes. They never evolved from the crush state, as I’ve never opened up. But I’m looking forward to experiencing the getting-to-know-someone-on-a-deeper-level some day. Someone who sparks a deep interest in me, that is. Or else I don’t want it.

[@quirogatnonerrat3214]

100% 👌🏻

[@dem9259]

Ditto, everything you said. Maybe this will be our year?

[@ambreenali.]

How are you so accurate about INFPs?! The idea of exchanging creative works so that you get to know the person better has always been on the top of my list but sadly I've never been with a guy who was into these kinda stuff. They used to drag me to all these fancy places I didn't want to go to, and after a while I stopped trying to make them understand that a "normal" place is where I feel the most comfortable 😞

[@edi0157]

Maybe that never even crossed their mind, I know I for one would never have thought of that on my own. If you told them that and they were still unwilling though that sucks, hope you find someone that is

[@kindauncool]

Try girls

[@edi0157]

@@kindauncool bruh💀

[@kindauncool]

+@@edi0157 What

[@ASweetShortCake]

Complete list right here! (⌒▽⌒) 1:01 ESTP 1:42 ESFP 2:31 ISTJ 3:26 ISFJ 4:12 ESTJ 4:56 ENTJ 5:54 ESFJ 6:58 ENFJ 7:57 ISTP 9:07 INTP 9:50 ISFP 10:38 INFP (I’m an INFJ but the idea of picking a book and swapping it with someone else to learn more about the other person is very intriguing to me… I’d love it lol) 11:27 ENTP 12:04 ENFP (This also sounds like something I’d like, too, as long as it’s somewhat one-on-one) 12:44 INTJ (As a homebody, same. I’d probably hate to go on a date that takes my entire Saturday.) 13:59 INFJ (Me!)

[@Liloink444]

Ok I’ll wait for the rest of the 15 mbti types if you do do it take your time

[@dzbanecekfrost666]

I feel like you started watching at the exact time I did 😂

[@tomjohnson4922]

as an INTJ my favorite would be if the person texts the day before cancelling the date so that I can stay home and watch old movies with coffee. However I do enjoy the pin animations... those are fun.

[@Trasea]

Right on with the INFP. No small talk, very little distractions. Take me to a bookstore, let's talk deep about Tesla and parallel universes, and where White Lotus season 3 might take place.

[@ap3008]

As an INFP myself…I love White Lotus! Is it an INFP thing?

[@Trasea]

@@ap3008 I think everyone loves it!!

[@ap3008]

@@Trasea Yeah, it's awesome

[@IsabelleAuthor]

ENFJ married to an ESFJ. Totally relevant! My husband focuses on what I like and uses that to surprise me with fun events and gifts. Learning a little more about ESFJ preferences may help me do something special for him in return. Thanks, FJ!

[@thoroughlycaffeinated7353]

INTJ here. My husband won me over by taking me to the bookstore and library. Bonus points for the bookstore that served coffee.

[@luna-mt7sf]

As a single ISTP just hearing my part is making me happy , I found out myself saying "YES!! THAT'S RIGHT" without even realizing especially the gaming part😭🤣 oh boy this is my ultimate dream date

[@aelardiz]

Except nothing thrilling ever gets actually too much for me...

[@anime-ye1qs]

As an INTP, i realised i shouldn't meet up with ISFJ on a first date (i would prefer not to open up first or boring out the other person) And, i would love ENTP as a first date or a friend - i can relate to them a lot...I'll be fine with going along with their likings as our likings would match...

[@entqeew3955]

i started crying at the idea of the dates for INFP. (yes, i am an INFP)

[@meowb9601]

I want the cat café…

[@stevenkinscherf6642]

Frank had some awesome ideas here! I'm INFJ and I can't help but look for a deeper connection, and get inside the person's head a bit, even if it is only the first date. Walking through an antique shop would be great b/c it'll help me see some things that make them tick.

[@joyberryyy]

Omg you just described my INTJ boyfriend perfectly and I love him for all that😂 -INFJ

[@user-er2dm6vc2n]

You should make 16 personalities in Hunger Games!!

[@flyingunicorn109]

I was really wondering what the ideal date for INFJ would be, as I would enjoy pretty much all the suggestions for the other types (except of meeting with more people like ESFJ :D). As always, Frank was totally accurate. Pretty much anything we like where we can get to know the other person 👌

[@DinoTamer-22]

I’m an infj…..BUT. I would LOVE a segmented date going to the natural history museum and talking about fossils. But that could just be the paleontologist in me 😂

[@quirogatnonerrat3214]

No, no, it's not just you. I am also an Infj and would love that. Not on a daily basis, but I would find that to be a adventure since it would be something I don't know and am not passioned about enough as to know much about, so I would find out whole new things, aka adventure for me😊

[@dem9259]

Ditto everything you said here! INFJ into archeology!

[@nana-pi9hi]

Well, I'm having an anxiety attack just watching the entire video before getting to the INTJ part and thinking about the next time someone asks me out. BTW, rage rooms are also a thing.

[@FrankJames]

@ᴛᴇxᴛ ᴍᴇ on ᴛᴇʟᴇɢʀᴀᴍ👉Frankjames_1 hi scammer!

[@geeettttttt_dunked_on]

*what?

[@cgecbea]

I'm an ENFP who LOVES museums, watching ballet and opera. If someone is willing to engage in artistic or musical activities with me, I will love the person dearly! (My INFJ friend loves high art and we get along really well! I also feel like many INTJs would enjoy listening to classical music) But, just having philosophical conversations at home is a perfect date plan as well!

[@selindoganl3621]

I’d like to add that if you’re taking an intj on a physical date, you should make sure that it’s something they enjoy. I would hate a bowling date because I’m really bad at it.

[@SickAcousticCovers]

Dude, as an ENFJ, I'd have to say I'd be quite flattered if someone covertly found out what I liked, listened and actually remembered those details about me then use it to plan a date. I'd be pretty much blown away.

[@shematite]

Man, I swooned just thinking about it, especially the part where I'm not asked to decide! (ENFJ)

[@user-qw6nm9ho2y]

I can't. I (INTJ) have been talking to a girl for months, and now she wants to meet up. Yesterday she succested that we should go to an escape room. I was so stressed and already anxious about meeting a new person especially in a romantic way because.... well, i mostly dislike humans. But the escape room sounded like a brilliant idea (i'm allergic to smalltalk) so i said yes. Now, a day after that, i see this video. Conclusion: he is probably right.😭

[@dem9259]

So- how did the date go? Did you go to the breakout room?

[@suburbohemian]

INTJ here: I love doing archery. There's such a huge satisfaction in pulling the string back and then letting the arrow loose to hear it "thunk" into the target.

[@pinkroses135]

I agree with the launching points for discussion. They definitely have to share my faith and direction in life. Something like a movie doesn't allow for that depth to get going. We cut the crap and dive right in to root out anything that won't be long lasting and meaningful I think. Activities you can do together, volunteer work, a walk are good ones imo.

[@papercurls56]

As an ENTJ woman, NAILED IT! 💕

[@ImmanentizeTheEschaton]

INTJ, So true. Take me to do something that involves imagining that I am destroying something and I'll probably have a good time. Bowling, rage room, air hockey, whack-a-mole, etc. By far the worst kind of date is going to a movie. You learn nothing about the other person and you are stuck there bored for hours if you determine early on that the movie sucks and isn't worth your time.

[@f.s.9833]

This is why my INTJ husband always checks the reviews(and makes me check them as well) before we watch a movie

[@totesmcgotes16]

I'm an INFP and please take me to a cat cafe. I don't care. I want the cats

[@user-mc5vy2vk5n]

INTJ there and cat cafe sounds great! I was few times to one and can only recommend it. ^^~

[@thurstylady5821]

ENFP married to an INTJ. Don’t know how it’s worked out since I love exciting, eccentric and spontaneous dates whereas my guy would consider going next door for icecream as a date. But here we are ❤

[@Shreyash293]

I couldn't agree more to INTJ , My girlfriend wanted to have a long date on this valentine's. Alas, I had to fake sickness.

[@melinaouzouni6151]

One of my favorite videos! Every suggestion spot on!!

[@musicalifornia49]

INTJ here. I just went axe-throwing for a date and it was awesome!! I planned it. I had so much fun!!!!! Didn't really click with the guy though. Also, INTP is VERY accurate.

[@ellenh278]

Eyeballs nooooooo! Not again! Editor Kevin! You are freakin' me out man! **shivers**

[@francescaromanabelli9142]

MBTI's Hitch! Great Frank. Everything so real! GOLD

[@unowno123]

me a person that scores very high in ENTJ (93%) doesn't feel like the ENTJ description fits me I am constantly on the lookout for problems, and my favorite date would basically be the INFP's one, just sit or walk in nature without any chance of interuption where we can talk about deeply personal stuf maybe its pratical because its a VERY fast way to get to know eachother, but escape rooms are a no-go and other people planning makes me VERY nervous

[@ikasugami8066]

LOL - escape room, brewery, and axe throwing is exactly my INTJ husband's ideal date!

[@valhudson001]

This could have been very helpful on Valentine's Day! :D Side note: I am writing about a story with 2 main characters who fall in love with each other and they are ENFJ and ISTP and this was super helpful for that! Their theoretical relationship is a fun little challenge to learn about.

[@rayisalive5413]

Dude! Where can I read that when it’s done?

[@hickyxnicky411]

My parents are ENFJ and ISTP, I need to read your book lol.

[@rayisalive5413]

@@hickyxnicky411 so, do u have mommy or daddy issues, or both?

[@valhudson001]

Oh damn, I never get comments on my comments. (ducks under table) Ah, hah, it is still very much much a work-in-progress though I appreciate the enthusiasm! :D

[@rayisalive5413]

@@valhudson001 no worries! And if it ever comes out, let me know on this comment 😌👍🏻

[@wkrapek]

Brilliant! Loved it.

[@Liloink444]

I have been called a naughty otter by Frank James What a compliment

[@laurenelisej]

Infp is always spot on

[@Nina21_]

Frank , this video was on another level ! Not only the infos were super interetsing about each type , but the jokes and your writing skills were top notch 👌❤️ thank you for this amazing video ✨

[@FrankJames]

thanks!!

[@riosw]

This is just what I need for next month. Thank you for providing this video 😂 [Update] Well, I can't believe the plan that I made is perfectly matched to FJ's suggestion 😂 After all we're the same type

[@larajohnson8656]

Thank you for all these fabulous ideas for dates that I can take myself on.

[@chchcho]

This was so thoughtful, I'm in awe of your creativity. I wish people spent at least a little time on thinking of an interesting date idea I'd love to go on a few of this list

[@goldenostrich7629]

i love your videos FJ! this is so clever !

[@narmin996]

It's ENTJ's dream to have everything planned for them and it should be perfect . I will immediately fall for you.

[@quirogatnonerrat3214]

What if it's perfectly planned but in places and doing activities you don't like? What then?

[@UFOPOLI]

I get your thinking concerning ENTJ, but when I look back on personal experience, dates that the other person planned have been routinely underwhelming or outright awkward, regardless of whether it was a stranger or a life partner. On the other hand, many of the dates I remember the most fondly were ones that were unplanned and gradually went completely out of hand. Like that one afternoon in Istanbul that started with a local beer and a discussion about architecture, and ended late morning the day after with my parents knocking on my hotel room's door and him hiding in the bathroom that was flooded. Good times.

[@UFOPOLI]

In other words, I'd suggest that for a type that is used to being in control, losing it can be quite a pleasure indeed.

[@marissabulso6439]

I am so impressed by all these date ideas and matching them to personality types. 😮👏🏻👏🏻 Also, controlled way of being spontaneous for INFJ. Why, thank you, yes. That sounds perfect. 😭

[@raefevakhar]

INFP was a little lost on me but you brought it home with the book/music trading

[@habibmehar7691]

Wohooooo multi talented mannnn Frank 🔥❤️

[@ElPar01]

As weird as this may sound, your videos help me understand my kids better. Thanks FJ!!!

[@lyraromaris394]

As a neutral good INFJ with an chaotic evil INTP gf, this is true. Very very true. Our ideal date is just spending time together talking, a bit of chaos mixed in, like conducting an “investigation” when someone threw mike and ikes at us.

[@JulieBedard1979]

Hi Frank! French canadian INFJ here! Maybe, just maybe check the Ryan Gosling video for how prononce poutine correctly the next time 😜🤣🤣🤣. I love your videos! Take care!

[@CuriousWanderer_]

As an INFP, this video is a helpful insight for planning how to be more closer to my distant friends.

[@ihay472]

ESFP here and yes! Doing something fun in a one on one atmosphere with a lot of spontaneity is the best! Also, controlled spontaneity is the perfect description for INFJ.

[@laudrella5513]

Love these videos man!

[@Vlogoosh]

Thank You for this video.