What Is The Virtue And Vice Of ENTPs? | Sincerity Vs. Insincerity | CS Joseph

Today we will discuss what is the virtue and vice of the ENTP sincerity Vs. insincerity.
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[@UrosKovacevic91]

CS Joseph having a "fake" walk, basically just circling around the yellow house and clay tennis court while talking about ENTP virtue and vice is so hilarious :D

[@zoooooom]

Wow. You really hit the nail on the head here. The “putting on masks” thing became super clear when I found out a friend of mine was into MBTI and we tried to guess each other’s type. He thought I was an ESTJ and I thought he was an INFJ - we were both ENTPs XP

[@alphawolf2198]

“The best lies are the lies you can make come true.” -CS Joseph

[@Th0Rx666]

its me xd

[@kyledukes49]

He literally said his buddy told him that

[@andongfu8326]

If you lie and have everyone say "he's lying!" and then make it come true you are a wizard or an innovator. The best dreams are the dreams that bless the world.

[@TheGrimlx3]

@@andongfu8326 it's not a lie if you can make it true... ;)

[@RevRideReason]

@@TheGrimlx3 but it's also true that it (was) a lie. 😉

[@kevinmundarain7572]

Man!!! I share your frustration... As an ENTP I get that most people misinterpret my words, and they later say that it's because of the way I say things, that I'm to blunt, or to passionate... The fact is people don't want to hear and cannot stand the hard cold truth. I find myself many times selling my ideas in a way I cannot take credit for them, having others believe they came up with it on their own because otherwise they'll dismiss it... Congratulations great lecture

[@kssgpv]

you are such angels and people mistreat you😂

[@ceazeushepta8612]

Now you got me. Are you lying about lying in your virtues and vices so that no one can know what are the weaknesses of the ENTP? Just kidding. A while ago, I met a young ENTP who would not hesitate in telling what was the truth was, regardless of who he was talking to. He would introduce himself to conversations of other people, argue with the professor endlessly, tell me facts that I had not considered when doing something and so on. That sincerity was really refreshing and hilarious to watch. In fact, that person kind of reminded me of myself, oddly enough. It was almost as if I was seeing an uninhibited version of me. It is a shame that certain societies forces the ENTPs to be insincere, which inhibits their fruition.

[@Jess-yv7zc]

Yes, yes: insightful, helpful and informative video. This explains sooo much. I'm an INTP and when I met my INTJ it was like a huge sigh of relief and contentment: finally, finally someone who lets me tell the ugly, harsh, unaltered, beautiful truth as often as I want (need). No unfair judgments, no hurt or offended feelings, no blatant disregard for The Truth. I'm still amazed quite often at the fact that I literally tell my INTJ anything and everything (from my thoughts to my past to the way I see the world and the way I wish the world was) with zero sugar coating and he never deviates from his stoic and unruffled INTJ demeanor. Love it.

[@nebur9180]

I love intjs as an entp

[@penta4568]

Brooooo!!!! Chill!!!! Spilling all the beans!!

[@CSJoseph]

I know right.

[@vinnythefish9471]

I have to say, all of these people who don't think you're an ENTP are not ENTPs. I've seen about seven of your vids now, and from the very first one I knew you were similar to me. The mask is super real, and having discovered all of this information on typology this past week, I think I might be ready to throw out all my masks and start telling everyone like it is. Insincerity is totally my vice. Sometimes you just know that the truth is tedious, hard to explain, or not worth it. Sometimes, you just know you won't possibly get caught. Mixing in truth, contingency plans. It's like you're in my mind. Oh man, and the whole coming clean or just weaving better lies.... and how much it pisses me off when I'm falsely accused of telling a lie. I mean, I know whether or not whoever I lied to could even have the solid evidence that I'm lying, and if I know they couldn't possibly, and it's just their intuition, I'll never cede.

[@CSJoseph]

Well said.

[@RobertoCardadeiro]

We lie so others don't get sad for being stupid 🤣

[@jeys4432]

Fellow ENTP here. You are perfect all of you entps you are also Gods and Goddesses. The world is full of ignorant fools... May you crush your enemies in peace

[@ADeeSHUPA]

uP

[@craigthebugguy7055]

Some of this explains why this has been my favorite poem since I was 14.... it still hits close to home Don't be fooled by me. Don't be fooled by the face I wear for I wear a mask, a thousand masks, masks that I'm afraid to take off, and none of them is me. Pretending is an art that's second nature with me, but don't be fooled, for God's sake don't be fooled. I give you the impression that I'm secure, that all is sunny and unruffled with me, within as well as without, that confidence is my name and coolness my game, that the water's calm and I'm in command and that I need no one, but don't believe me. My surface may seem smooth but my surface is my mask, ever-varying and ever-concealing. Beneath lies no complacence. Beneath lies confusion, and fear, and aloneness. But I hide this. I don't want anybody to know it. I panic at the thought of my weakness exposed. That's why I frantically create a mask to hide behind, a nonchalant sophisticated facade, to help me pretend, to shield me from the glance that knows. But such a glance is precisely my salvation, my only hope, and I know it. That is, if it's followed by acceptance, if it's followed by love. It's the only thing that can liberate me from myself, from my own self-built prison walls, from the barriers I so painstakingly erect. It's the only thing that will assure me of what I can't assure myself, that I'm really worth something. But I don't tell you this. I don't dare to, I'm afraid to. I'm afraid your glance will not be followed by acceptance, will not be followed by love. I'm afraid you'll think less of me, that you'll laugh, and your laugh would kill me. I'm afraid that deep-down I'm nothing and that you will see this and reject me. So I play my game, my desperate pretending game, with a facade of assurance without and a trembling child within. So begins the glittering but empty parade of masks, and my life becomes a front. I idly chatter to you in the suave tones of surface talk. I tell you everything that's really nothing, and nothing of what's everything, of what's crying within me. So when I'm going through my routine do not be fooled by what I'm saying. Please listen carefully and try to hear what I'm not saying, what I'd like to be able to say, what for survival I need to say, but what I can't say. I don't like hiding. I don't like playing superficial phony games. I want to stop playing them. I want to be genuine and spontaneous and me but you've got to help me. You've got to hold out your hand even when that's the last thing I seem to want. Only you can wipe away from my eyes the blank stare of the breathing dead. Only you can call me into aliveness. Each time you're kind, and gentle, and encouraging, each time you try to understand because you really care, my heart begins to grow wings-- very small wings, very feeble wings, but wings! With your power to touch me into feeling you can breathe life into me. I want you to know that. I want you to know how important you are to me, how you can be a creator--an honest-to-God creator-- of the person that is me if you choose to. You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble, you alone can remove my mask, you alone can release me from my shadow-world of panic, from my lonely prison, if you choose to. Please choose to. Do not pass me by. It will not be easy for you. A long conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls. The nearer you approach to me the blinder I may strike back. It's irrational, but despite what the books say about man often I am irrational. I fight against the very thing I cry out for. But I am told that love is stronger than strong walls and in this lies my hope. Please try to beat down those walls with firm hands but with gentle hands for a child is very sensitive. Who am I, you may wonder? I am someone you know very well. For I am every man you meet and I am every woman you meet. Charles C. Finn September 1966

[@CSJoseph]

Wow, awesome

[@islammansour9441]

It's painfully beautiful!

[@Damian-ho1yb]

Absolutely beautiful and hits where it hurts

[@GerardoXC2023]

Hey can u tell me the title of the poem? I wanna show a friend

[@jozval571]

@@GerardoXC2023 Please Hear What I'm Not Saying

[@strawberryloli]

As an INTP I live for the burning truth-- tell 'em how it is and don't hold back! haha

[@NaifRumayli]

I'm an entp I agree I definitely %100 treat everyone differently , a lot of times I lose myself I don't know who I'm anymore and when I come back to my true self I feel soo free and soo happy which is very hard thing to happen. It's a tragic stroy .

[@JesusCalvilloTinoco]

I'm an INTJ and I used to have a very close friend who is an ENTP. And yeah, everything you say is true. He was lying consistently to everyone all the time, and using a lot of emotional manipulation. I was somehow alright for some time because he was extremely sincere to me. But it was really hard, specially when he would come to me and tell me all the ways in which he would manipulate people around, which for me was just completely immoral and despicable, and yet I could not share that information to anyone because first no one would believe me and second I didn't want to betray my friend, with whom I could party every other day. I feel a bit sorry for him in spite of all the stress that he caused me, at some point I asked him why he lied so much and he said that it was because there was nothing left inside, nothing real.

[@JesusCalvilloTinoco]

btw he had a friend who i don't think he was an INTJ, I didn't get to know him enough, but by the speed of their discussions, which was insane, i would think he was ENTP. So I guess ENTPs also get along with other ENTPs.

[@Xenomorph788]

I’ve been this ENTP. I am learning 😪

[@a.k.1217]

POETIC

[@Lizzzi86]

@@JesusCalvilloTinoco I'm ENTP and I'm sincere with ENTPs, ESTPs and INFJs. I think that the problem with Fi users is that they don't understand the point of using masks and they feel bad if I tell them all the game I play with people.

[@SuperCuriouss]

Great video! Our entp charisma comes from Ne with Fe... Knowing the exact words to say to cut through the BS yet win over the crowd= the mask

[@Xenomorph788]

I’m a ENTP female and this is accurate af 😂

[@alpinemind9977]

I hear you @17:49 and jeez. I've been collecting all sorts of masks as wall art decor. I always thought they were cool but realizing this new perspective, makes it clearer why it's a bleak yet comforting sight on my wall.

[@dominiscus]

This is unbelievable. I feel like you've ripped the my own mask off and held a mirror to my face. Quite extraordinary.

[@emilyw5522]

“Hyperbolic in litterally everything” bahahahaha. Well played well played!

[@tsukkitoriart]

ENTJ here. This video made me feel really appreciated as an ENTJ. What you said here rings true and hits close to home; I've had this ENTP friend for years, and things were good for the both of us until some circumstances caused there to be a lack of communication on both ends although still being on good terms. When we finally started talking again my ENTP friend seemed to be in a really, really bad place. Her mental health took a sharp decline and all these destructive behaviours started becoming apparent in our friendship, such as avoiding problems and incessant lying. ENTPs are blunt and sincere people, to the point of being brutally honest, but they are also the best liars out of all the types. We joke about how good of a liar my ENTP friend is all the time! ENTPs seriously lie without thought, even to their friends. However, the moment I realized that the lying was actually a serious problem and that many things didn't seem to line up, I called up our INTP friend to make sure I wasn't delusional and once I received this confirmation I called the ENTP out. I made her aware that I knew she was lying about a lot of things, that it hurt me, and asked her to really consider how much our relationship meant to her. I did try to make her comfortable by telling her I was always supporting her and wanted the best for us and that she could be truthful and honest with me. And wow, this ENTP right then and there apologized so many times for everything so sincerely and admitted to all her issues. Now she's actually taking an active stance to fix all her destructive behaviours head on and better her relationship with me and the INTP. The moment we had that talk the ENTP opened up about EVERYTHING. She was so grateful for the opportunity for honesty that she literally started crying then and there. ENTPs seem to have this blunt exterior but soft interior once they start opening up about how hard it is to be sincere with people in this day and age. Seriously, NTJ and ENTPs also seem to have this necessity for each other where one literally can't function properly without the other. The chemistry between an ENTP and ENTJ is amazing. INTPs and ENTPs are okay too, but usually the ENTP talks too much during INTP/ENTP interactions. Yet the INTP and I are the only people the ENTP can open up to and be sincere with, and it's really beautiful to see someone living in their virtue after struggling with their vice. I as an ENTJ super appreciate the bluntness of the ENTP and the fact that they can just cut to the chase with their truth-telling without sugarcoating anything. They're also walking reality checks making sure the logistics of everything work out smoothly. I think it's harder for the INTP to make the ENTP open up though because the INTP simply doesn't have that initiatory personality to call someone out as efficiently as the ENTJ. INTPs also seem to be unsure of themselves without someone as decisive as the ENTJ to initiate. However, the INTP 100% agreed with my actions to call the ENTP out and assisted me in doing so. The INTP/ENTP/ENTJ friend dynamic is liberating; all of us can have these great abstract conversations and perform all these morally ambiguous actions without being judged by one another. The problem is that it INTPs/ENTPs/ENTJs don't seem to meet each other that often but when they do its miraculous! It's a seriously powerful combination that allows shit to get done and things to keep moving with little to no issues because all of us don't really care about "doing the right thing". Sometimes I doubt my own morality but being in that dynamic makes me feel better because I can compare myself to the ENTP who has zero morals, and it makes me feel like I do the right thing once in a blue moon when we're not faking IDs and cavorting on private property illegally at night.

[@CSJoseph]

awesome

[@neptunejoo]

Dear ENTPs, u can always be sincere to INTPs, we appreciate truthfulness so much.

[@ijustwanttosleepnow]

True that

[@lunahelena5329]

I have a different experience with my INTP - although he gives me space and doesn’t (seem to) get hurt yet he doesnt really appreciate - he likes to remain oblivious to the truths I am giving him because he likes to keep his Si-child comfortable by ie. procrastinating, neglecting his health etc

[@neptunejoo]

@@lunahelena5329 i won't deny, INTPs do that. And I've met INTP men especially do that

[@lunahelena5329]

@@neptunejoo thanks for appreciating this truth

[@kylehoorn5192]

Haha, oh snap I started busted up laughing when, “only a Sith deals in absolute.” Great add in Another extremely intelligent and well thought out video for us ENTP’s. This helped me to understand my nature a lot more and why I’ve had trouble keeping friends/relationships with almost anyone throughout my life. Thank you for a deeper understanding into myself. Thank you Sensei

[@the-messymiss]

My brother is an ENTP and the frustration about being sincere almost broke my heart. Very useful, very educational. Thanks!

[@zakariazouabi5041]

Maaan that emotional change you did at 17:51 is the thing i relate with the most xD

[@Lizzzi86]

That moment remembers me when Tyrion Lannister demonstrate his frustration, he is so good ENTP character...

[@memyselfandi9212]

You are absolutely an ENTP, my reaction to you is the same as my reaction to my son. I think you're awesome and you drive me crazy at the same time. Sincerely, ENTP Mom.

[@claimyourshame6196]

My Ti child greatly appreciates your sincerity. Greatly.

[@lisai6330]

You're in Italy and you're making this video.... that's dedication!

[@CSJoseph]

Yeah I did not sleep well.

[@msig206]

The way you can walk and film a dense lecture easily remind me of my ENTP dad. He would do live interviews while doing number 2. Simply amazing.

[@CSJoseph]

I have many times

[@MozartJunior22]

If there was one sentence I could tell all ENTP's, it's this one: "People don't remember the words you told them, they remember how you made them feel" Don't act all surprised when you alienate people after you have "burnt them with the hellfire of wisdom". Some people - many people - can't handle the cold hard truth. You guys HAVE to learn the skill of conveying your message in a way that will accept well. Decide with yourself that you care less about saying the truth, and care more about having the truth be heard - these are two different things! So here is the cold hard truth for you - People care about feelings, and there is nothing you can do to change it. Don't be discouraged - the world needs your truth. If someone were to be so blunt with me in exposing my weaknesses, and unless it is a very close friend who I trust, I automatically assume he hates me. That is my weakness.

[@revanj3038]

What's your type?

[@luckyswine]

Entp's would do well to remember "Is it helpful and is it kind?" as well as "is it true?"

[@emma_doucette]

Hence why we put on masks. People can't handle us without some level of dishonesty. I try not to overtly lie- meaning I don't like saying things that are untrue. But there is a level of dishonesty in just not being authentic around people because of how badly people handle it. I don't know how to not be dishonest and manipulative about how I am (being myself) and also satisfying everyone else's need to have the truth watered down in a more kind way. Maybe there's a way to get both, but it feels like trying to have my cake and eat it too.

[@Beowulf002]

22:28 you just summed up my entire experience. When I was a child, I was always asked why I had to have the last word. I learned quickly that I had to mask in order to survive. I was the kid that moved through different groups, and even though I was technically in a group, I wasn't, really. I don't feel bad about it because I know where my intentions lie. I've always been highly intelligent but I muddy myself down and usually shock people when my moments of brilliance bubble. I once had a colleague ask me what I really wanted to do with my life and I responded I don't know, because I got lost in the perception that you have to do one thing, but there are too many problems to solve. I know she only asked that after I shed insight onto a highly sensitive problem that everyone has argued can't be solved. I'm okay being the butt of the joke because I understand that ENTPs are useless until we aren't.

[@dukealbero1468]

What do you think about xNFJs and ENTPs being friends? As an INFJ, I feel like it'd take me an extremely long time to write someone off as a "bad person." There's a lot of patience and understanding up until that point. Also, an xNFJ may be able to see through the ENTP's lies and push them to be themselves. I remember some people described you as "harsh" in a couple of your earlier videos, but I thought to myself "Actually, you can tell he's very sincere and not 'trying' to be harsh." As long as someone doesn't intend to come off "mean" and be rude, I never hold it against them.

[@CSJoseph]

Dukemarsha Albatross excellent point. Although I admit that my ESFP super ego enjoys being spiteful at times because it hates via Te critic when others are behaving stupidly. It is another major ENTP hang up inasmuch as INFJs feeling worthless or useless due to Fi critic. That being said, NFJs have super high compatibility with ENTPs, especially in sexual relationships. The issue there is the Fe guilt loop, when one feels guilty, both are guilty and it can lead to a downward spiral. Having shared my bed with both types, these relationships are powerful and amazing but can also be very painful, especially when love and respect needs to be upheld in difficult times. Luckily the ENTP takes loyalty very seriously and can endure “most” of the NFJ storms and meltdowns. It’s another way we show love to our NFJs.

[@dukealbero1468]

That's true as well. I think there is a huge aspect with the INFJs that is sometimes overlooked. If their Ti is developed enough, I really do think they can use it to break down and cast out their Fe. They have to have the Ni-Ti ability to introspect and also analyze past situations to realize they're being irrational (after some time alone) and later apologize. If they're a more Fe-based INFJ, their emotions may be too strong. It's those INFJs whose Ti/Fe mix is right on the cusp, because it feels like the Ti (supercharged by the Ni) is able to occasionally come in and "Parent" the Fe for a moment. Just a thought.

[@CSJoseph]

Dukemarsha Albatross wow, this might be the best comment I have seen to date. Well done!

[@dukealbero1468]

Thanks a ton! What makes you say that? I'm an INFJ and really *love* coming up with theories for MBTI stuff.

[@CSJoseph]

Dukemarsha Albatross most “INFJs” I encounter on the internet are mistyped INFPs or ignorant INFJs. It is a breath of fresh air to speak with one who gets it.

[@sirbradfordofhousejones]

My ENTP daughter’s “so right you are wrong” drives her NUTS. Like, “but it’s true! Why should I lie?” She’s basically being taught by society to lie. And that is frustrating for her- and rightfully so. I’m not affiliative and frequently tell her- just be honest. It’s not your fault if someone isn’t cool with you being who you are or if they can’t handle the truth. ENTPs are awesome.

[@Lizzzi86]

It's a survival matter. I started to lie more to survive in society, like jobs or groups of friends where I wanted to be accepted. I'm 35 years old and when I start to say the truth, people get away from me so quickly, except by my ENTP, ESTP and INFJ friends... So I continue lying...

[@MelissadeBlok]

Well, now I'm crying and I suspect that my question of "am I really an ENTP?" has been answered. Thank you for all the energy and heart you put into these videos. They are so healing.

[@CSJoseph]

you are most welcome

[@karalewis388]

How is every word of this SO accurate you literally described me. Settled 100% on ENTP as my type after a year and a half of pretty thorough questioning and this making me feel like I got it right. Literally every word. Wow.

[@kristindawn]

Thank you for your sincere delivery of this lecture. ☺ Wow!! This is so great. I have some ENTPs in my life, including my baby brother who's just a kid. I'm grateful to know this info so I can do my best to make them feel comfortable around me. I want them to be able to take their mask off around me. I want to take that truth!!

[@CSJoseph]

Awesome!

[@Holmefjord93]

I know I'm an INTJ for sure, and this sounds very much like my Vice too (im probably UD or something). So Lying and wearing a mask has to be some kind of secondary Vice for INTJs as well. The problem is often memory, not being able to remember all the lies, and at some point it blows up in a horrible way. I recently met a young ENTP tho, and its astonishing how quickly and deeply we connected because of our Trust/Loyalty match, and Shared Sincerity. Just utterly amazed at how quickly and how much Shared pain and and "edgy" things one can discover in one another. Like two magnets attracting each other with very little resistance to connect.

[@tonis3973]

Yeh, pretty much the case.Especially for ENTP girls, honestly we are generally just very unlikable people if we show our true self.LMAO. I remember when I was kid, LITERALLY NOBODY LIKED ME. NOT EVEN MY PARENTS. Highschool was easier for me simply because of my good enough look. Masks are definitely needed. People that are not familiar with me tend to see me as ESFP/ENFP/ESTP (depends on people/situations) for my fashion sense and my fake bubbly personality. But then again, Faking that cute/fun/kind-hearted imagine have actually helped me A LOT in my career/love life. Because playing dumb doesn't mean I am dumb LMAO. I do cry alone with rage sometime in the middle of the night, but in a whole, it's worthy. You are wrong about Japan BTW, It's also A SJ society.

[@sabaalogman7525]

Ya no one liked me because I let my know it all true self run wild from 4th to 10th grade and I was an unorganized mess who was always lonely cause no one could stand to listen to me talk 100000 miles per hour for hours so ya i somehow woke up with som few in 11th grade and shut up a little and now I am more likable

[@TextingPrince]

Toni S be my girlfriend 🎃

[@PalashaGabarra]

"Especially for ENTP girls." I think you have it backwards. Everyone is far more forgiving when a girl has a big mouth.

[@AsiyaIammuah]

Toni S your spot on with the fake bubbly personality lolol I was either dead quiet or bubbly. Anything more was too intimidating

[@LlamassU__]

What's a good thing to do is pretend to be something else for a while then when you get to know the person slowly poke fun at them and if they're not into it stop and if they're ok with it continue so you're not deteriorating mentally every night when your about to sleep :D I learned this because fake relationships after a while may seem like they're bringing you together I the moment but later on you're going to start flaking on them and then that relationship will go down the shitter I know from experience

[@thenamelessdragon]

“i’m hyperbolic in literally everything” now let’s deconstruct this. if it’s a hyperbole: then he is literally being hyperbolic about being hyperbolic. a definite symptom of being hyperbolic about everything if it’s not: then he is actually hyperbolic about everything. except, he’s not hyperbolic about everything cos that wasn’t hyperbolic so therefore it was hyperbole because it’s not literal. see above.

[@banhammerclan1751]

Your comment between 17:30-18:30 literally made my hair stand up and snap back to attention of the video. I saw something in myself that I didn’t want to admit.

[@nebur9180]

U said sincerity is a virtue but it also alienates other people. Weird to think that our virtuous behavior alienates and makes us unlikable.

[@appletree6898]

Are you sure you're not exaggerating how hyperbolic you are?

[@CSJoseph]

appletree dope comment, I see what you did there

[@julieseely]

@appletree Yesssss. Best comment 😂

[@luckyswine]

Yes "I am always hyperbolic, all the time" XD

[@labellesworkshop]

The point that you concluded on at the 12:00 mark is the reason why I, an INTP, loves the content you put out 👍🏻

[@lisaviktoria9402]

Hey :) yes, so true :D I had a point at 21 where I was asking myself whether there was a "me" without all the masks I had built. If possible, I would like to hear more about entps and their growth path and maybe also some thoughts on entp purpose,............ :D really really thanks a lot

[@CSJoseph]

Lisa N. There is much more content to come, I only have over 400 more lectures planned and growing

[@kylehoorn5192]

Haha, oh snap I started busted up laughing when, “only a sigh seals in absolute.” Great add in Another extremely intelligent and well thought out video for us ENTP’s. Thank you Sensei

[@CSJoseph]

you are most welcome

[@unbelievablebehavior9256]

Thank you for articulating this! I had a crisis of self recently when I couldn’t make myself be myself in social situations even when I was consciously trying to. And it scared me. I kept wondering if I was going to trapped under these collection of masks forever. I realize that may sound indulgent but it’s sincere. Luckily my father is an INTJ and I can come to him with this stuff and just lay it all out there. And I realized, finally, that my most entrenched fear is that people would view me as evil and unloving if I were to be sincere - that I was just be entirely unacceptable as a person. The main problem for me is, is if I’m not sincere then I can’t find my people. I also end up being sensitive/fragile in front of others because I’m projecting all this BS and it starts to settle in. Then I’m all of a sudden hurt by things that would never phase me otherwise. Ooof… late the the game here with this insanely long comment but this video brought some stuff up!!

[@dr2407]

entp here you are dead on i always tell the truth for my own benefit as i am relying on my accuracy function because money, and i don't like who i become when i lie.

[@CSJoseph]

yeah it happens

[@StRaWbeRrYsasha]

I hate who I become when I start lying, and then make more lies to cover that lie. I tell the truth as much as I can for my own benefit. I feel a great sense of peace. still, the side of me I hate the most is that i secretly will use what I know about a person to manipulate them, this includes their secrets. I have to try really hard to not use peoples weakness as a weapon, cause I know how much that can hurt.

[@daffling]

ISFP here. I have an ENTP friend. Best friend actually and I think he lies to me, but recently there was a time he said me harsh truth. It hurt. I mean it did HURT. But you know what? I appreciate that he was sincere because it helped me grow. I value truth although it hurts sometimes and I told my friend about this many times. I still need to talk to him so we can be truthful to each other and to make sure he doesn’t put on his mask when I feel hurt. Hope we’ll figure that out

[@cames9301]

You can learn to be kind as well as honest.

[@ijustwanttosleepnow]

C Ames yeah, this makes for a well balanced ENTP.

[@vinnythefish9471]

This ENTP just realized why he hates texting so much. I make everyone call me, haha.

[@tommywolmart265]

Bro, texting is a real problem.

[@Nichesheave]

"...ENTP's believe the lies they tell to other people..." Yep. I can't even tell apart my own lie sometimes. More often than not, I stop for a moment to analyse if what I've been having in my mind was true or was I fooling myself. It's like, wanting to know something, you take others and even yourself, without your knowing at times, as Guinea pigs for a fragment of a hypothesis you've just had. Ofcourse, planning isn't my thing, I swing from vine go vine so well that others convince themselves I've planned everything. Irdk. This may just be luck but of course, even I doubt that.

[@johnnymiller2243]

Respectfully to some others, you seem as ENTP as anyone I’ve ever seen. First of all, your videos are not ENTJ organized, although the information is thorough. Secondly, an ENTJ as tangential as you, probably needs meds for ADHD. You are quite obviously, Ne Dom. I think being younger, you may be still developing Fe and your speech can seem a bit Te-ish, but it’s more Critical Parent Te-ish. I’m an ENTP who is also into this stuff and I think it’s a misunderstanding to call you an ENTJ, just because you’ve studied enough to be a little more firm in your understanding. ENTPs also have reasoning ability, no? I get a lot out of your videos.

[@CSJoseph]

Johnny Miller awesome, thank you

[@hazemelzarka]

Im quite surprised because you have said exactly what happened throughout my life, I was super sincere, very opened to tell everybody the truth before I realize that it doesn't matter anymore, I can just say whatever fits and consider it as the truth, but recently i have started to feel like my masks are killing me, I'm a marketer and all I do is lie, lie to my family, lie to my friends "except very very few, which feels like quitting cocaine if I didn't share the truth with them for a long time", lie to my clients, and so on, and all I felt is being myself, I liked that ability when I found out that I have mastered it, but recently, it's tiring, it's natural and I can't stop myself from doing it, but once I get into my comfort zone, i regret it, I feel like I didn't want that

[@tyarraybarrola1295]

This video makes me wonder about my typing. I've been typed as an INFP, but I often think I may be an INTP. The reason is because I need truth. I don't care if it hurts my feelings or if it will hurt someone else. I have torn down my friends with the truth because I knew that's what they needed to hear. When I have conflicts with others, my thoughts immediately go to trying to find out the root causes and the "whys" of the situation. I always use logic and creativity to solve my problems unless they're important spiritual or life-course decisions. It's difficult for me to show true emotion, even though I'm very in touch with what I feel. It seems unnatural and forced if I need to show feeling. I love to learn and spend my leisure time delving into psychology and other theory. Reasons why I might be an INFP is because I'm a total goofball and completely outgoing with the people I trust. As I said, I'm really in touch with what I feel in the moment and can identify my emotions immediately. Plus I'm artistic and use abstract art to convey complex thoughts and feelings. I'm a great listener and empathetic when I feel like people deserve my empathy. I suck at technical subjects like math, chem, physics, etc. And I won't do something if I'm not in the mood. Sometimes I wonder if being a female has anything to do with it. Because logic and critical thinking isn't valued in females while emotion and sensitivity is, I could have been raised to suppress Ti. Female INTPs are also very rare, so I could have easily been mistyped. My mom is an ENFP and my dad an INTP, so this only adds to my confusion of identity because I could swing either way. And I must add that the content you have is thought invoking. This is high quality I appreciate that you're taking the time to lay out depth psychology in an easy to digest format. Thank you for contributing to the psychology community.

[@tyarraybarrola1295]

Another thing I should add is that it enrages me when people state their emotionally charged statements or opinions. It really bothers me when people act dumb or make rash emotional decisions. The whole "INTPs walk around worried that people are dumb" is definitely something I do daily.

[@CSJoseph]

Tyarra Ybarrola you definitely sound like an INTP to me. Also, female INTPs are precious treasure. I am thankful that you exist.

[@kristindawn]

My sister is an amazing INTP. ☺

[@wearejungians]

Lmfao! Thanks for the coaching call bro. I recently told my aunt just how she damaged her son. It was something I was holding back for awhile and when I went out to dinner I blew up on her! We can definitely be very blunt as ENTP's. Funniest thing was I didn't even consider how it'd make her feel... Not until I watched this now and realized I could've made her feel terrible and the cognitive dissonance I created in her must've been hell... Ah well... She speaks about her son as if he's brain dead when in reality hes really fucking intelligent and that's a big no no for me .

[@CSJoseph]

preach

[@AsiyaIammuah]

TheNeuroticAlpha yeah I won’t consider a persons feelings until after I’ve spoken on an issue too..then I’ll feel all icky like damn it’s awkward now lol

[@dustbitten]

“I’m hyperbolic in literally everything” 👀😂

[@nethercords]

istps are great at keeping score with entps! a templaar knows the trajectory of the crusader.

[@Turnsnap]

As an INFJ with ENTP father, you can most definitely have an honest mask. Portray your best self not your authentic self. Its true society doesnt reward you for being truthful. It doesnt mean you swing all the way in the other direction. Another way to look at it is to ask yourself if you want to be heard or have an impact. Not everything needs to be said.

[@india_whitey]

Really intriguing personality in my opinion as a female INTJ. Although you said ENTP’s can be sincere, the thought of not being able to tell when and the difference between them being insincere and when their actually being sincere is a bit scary, the fear of the unknown i guess. Although it might be easily fixed by just confronting them and asking them to be direct and keeping record of past conversation to trip them up on their lies like you said. Just some random background, my best female friend is a INTP so i think i would definitely be able to get along well with an ENTP. Slowly going through your videos, finding them super insightful, thanks.

[@StRaWbeRrYsasha]

I am an ENTP My ex was an INTJ, I really miss our open honest blunt discussions, they make good friends from my perspective.

[@ijustwanttosleepnow]

Yeah totally, just ask the ENTP what they really think and don’t hold back, they will tell you because that’s what they crave the most.

[@alexandralenzinger8482]

The ends do justify the means to me that’s why I don’t regret almost anything ever. I don’t like to be open to people because when I do People always tell me that I have an “excuse” for everything but they’re just so stupid. I don’t have an “excuse” I have a “reason” for everything and they’re too dumb to realize the end does justify the means.

[@sheldonsawyer4782]

This video is a hard truth for me as a fellow ENTP - T. It's a little disheartening but I appreciate the honesty.

[@p1chler]

What is meant by 'later in life' regarding the accquirement of falsehood for INTPs? I lost my bluntness after puberty to turn much more machiavellistic. I am in my later 20s now and sincerely hope this tendency is not getting any worse, since I feel it is standing in the way of truth.

[@AsiyaIammuah]

pichler I’m going through the same shit. I’m turning 27 and I’ve been working to get my bluntness back because I see my true genius lives there. When I speak my truth it hurts but it’s so accurate and I remember the alienation from this so it’s caused me to become more agreeable over the years. But shit makes me feel like a child, like why I can’t I have my say like everyone else wtf? Anyway I’m doing the work to get past this and using what I know already as a lesson to stop giving a fuck. By wearing a mask I’ve alienated others and myself anyway so now I know what not to do. Some of the ppl I’d have around from wearing the mask I couldn’t even fucking stand so I’d rather have a few ppl I really fuck with that see the real me. My mom already told me growing up not everyone would like me..she wasn’t lying

[@LlamassU__]

After searching for so long I've finally found my type THANK GOD 😧

[@k.j.6734]

This was pretty damn amazing! I just recently learned I was a “ENTP” and beforehand I’ve noticed these characteristic types and never knew why I was the way I am.. Newly subscribed for more content!

[@CSJoseph]

welcome to the show, I believe my next lecture is on ENTPs.

[@AsiyaIammuah]

I really enjoyed this video it was dope af..I really enjoyed the walk too lol but my si inferior is what made me think I was an intp for so long. I learned very early if I was my true self I’d have a hard time..so for years I wore a mask and dumbed myself down around others. One day someone smart called me out on it, can’t lie they were a jerk about it I felt and shit made me cry. I ended up confronting them about it and they told me I was too smart to be acting dumb and that I should stop. I’ve been working on giving less fucks about people’s emotional reactions because well I mean well. I give a fuck so I’m gonna tell the truth instead of being quiet or beating around the bush. I try not to flat out lie unless I need too like if my money is at stake I’ve lied like a politician all over job interviews and at work. But that’s cause I see people don’t like the truth. It’s hard and scary but looking back on the last almost 27 years of my life I smh because if id just love myself and not fake sincerity and kept it real with people I’d be further along in my journey. I just didn’t have the tools I do now to be sincere which is a healthy dose of fuck your feelings. Plus shit is getting worse in society and it’s because people like us are being insincere so fuck that. It’s becoming alienating for us anyway so we might as well make the fucking waves I say

[@japanesereadingandwriting]

The teaching staffs in Japan have a disproportionately large percentage of INFJs.

[@CortezVontero2]

I think this video is just cs Joseph working out his own shit.

[@CSJoseph]

good point

[@doublea7jackson247]

Watching years later. As a person who values honesty and integrity, I had to give thought to why people might "seem" not to at times. I came to a very similar conclusion - I must've had ENTP's in mind. I have resolved to try to put myself in positions to confront my aversion to painful truths as much as possible, because who I am now is a product of the great gain that comes with it. Thank you for such brave vulnerability and honesty. Your entire crusade to re-educate society and enlighten us is a testament to your true sincerity and character. We appreciate you, C.S. Joseph. - ENFJ :)

[@TheQueenOfYourDreams]

I tell the truth no matter what. It causes me a lot headaches with people but I hate lying to people and watering down the truth. I do lie about silly, goofy shit. Yeah I am different with people very few people have gotten the raw uncut version of me and that was an ENTP male. Lord the battles between him and I but also the love and respect we have for one another. One minute battling, the next minute making out, next minute playing video games, next minute making sure I win...

[@pugninja7037]

I always think I'm telling the truth, tho half way I see a different angle to what I'm saying ..so people get confused with my truth..tho ntj I feel pull me up , but they can be mistrustful

[@lizardqueen360]

ENTP here, and I was squirming the whole time, you’re giving away everything!! Now I’m wondering if I’m a sociopath... I agree with most, except the lying, that’s an ENTP at their worst. But I’m always as honest as possible because I find little incentive to lie about much, and it’s exhausting, I save a lot of energy by not being depraved lol

[@CSJoseph]

its not sociopathy. ESTPs reality check others, ENTPs trust check.

[@acebasher1st360]

I don't have any NTJs in my life :(

[@User-to7nb]

“The mask is super important” Sometimes people notice me through the mask and it’s baffling. I feel called out and weirdly seen. It shocks me because I probably forgot I was masking.

[@heatherhawkins9606]

I am so sincere it comes off as an insecurity. 22:46 made me cry!! I'm working EXTREMELY hard to not become apathetic!!!

[@hazemelzarka]

And it's so natural "the mask thing" that sometimes it feels out of control, I lost my gf because I was continuously lying to her, and yes she was super Sensitive and always wants to hear what she wants, so I did that, before she realizes that I'm faking many things, lying for no reason, and she thought I'm just a cheater and that's how it ended, but deep inside of me, I believed that what I was doing is right

[@infiniteonion2135]

Thank you for validating what I already knew about ENTPs. I unfortunately had a child with one. He is an inveterate liar, insincere, and can lie like it's nothing. I'm sure not all ENTPs are like that. I am an INFP ( value authenticity). I can never fully trust anything he says, if he lies to everyone else, I have no reason to believe he'd be honest with me. I just don't think he has that capacity. It's sad really. His biggest lie? I love you.

[@CSJoseph]

Kelly Mc**** are you sure that you are not an INFJ?

[@infiniteonion2135]

C.S. Joseph I know that they do get confused a lot. Why would you ask? What in my comment would indicate that I would be an INFJ? I've taken the mbti multiple times, and never got another result other than INFP, also the results rang very true to me.

[@CSJoseph]

Awesome, it is just something I have to ask. I do not disagree with your comment at all.

[@wallaroo1295]

I'm an ENTP (just recently found out about all of this, so - it's new, still learning) - and I really enjoy watching your videos *because* of the brutal honesty. A lot of people *think* they are ENTP, I guess because it seems enviable for some reason - but, they aren't. If you are an *actual* ENTP, watching the various videos, from multiple channels - you will just know it, and it is almost stunning when it happens.

[@karenstanik9007]

Omg I found your channel about couple hours ago and even tho I knew something about myself and like basics of how does ENTP works, it suddenly all makes sense now. Its so weird that all of those things do actually happen to me on daily basis and I dont even pay attention to that. Thanks for your videos and keep going! ❤️

[@lambda653]

17:52 we live in a society

[@Freeduradura]

I am mostly alone, and I strive my authentic self. Finally set myself free, there is no point to ditch my true self for this planet. I learned to smile and not to be part, when people fake and also trying to see the reasoning. For me intention is all that matters.

[@JimmysJourney1]

This was the first video I ever watched of C.S. and I became die-hard loyal to the channel and this science at 17:50

[@kylesayshi]

Not too sure if I am an ENTP but this video was filled with data I’ve been searching for Thanks.

[@NoNamedNobody692]

This video perfectly describes Rick Sanchez from Rick & Morty to a tee. 100%. Like he’s the literal personification of Sincerity and Insincerity itself. It’s incredible. Rick: THINK FOR YOURSELF, DON’T BE SHEEP. Also Rick: WUBBA LUBBA DUB DUB! (I am in great pain, please help me)

[@Solomon_King_]

I think this is why I get along with my ENTP best friend so well. As an INTJ I can say anything I want directly to him and he never gets offended or upset. He can do the same with me. He is the one person I can be myself around and speak my mind without having to temper everything I say. All I do is speak the truth, I am not trolling people, but society can not handle the truth. My ENTP friend does not always agree with me, but we are able to speak the truth with each other and there have never been any negative consequences. I have only known a few ENTP's during my life, but they all have that same kind of non-judgmental "is what it is" aura to them. It is refreshing to not have to pander to someone's ego or fickle emotions all the time. I can just say to him "I believe... Because I have observed....", to which he either agrees or simply says "I disagree because of ...." Then I think about what he said and he thinks about what I said and it is done. That is it, no drama, no hurt feelings, no ego battles, no comparing dick sizes, just is what it is, done and behind us. I have never met any other type outside of ENTP that are capable of that. I do not believe humans are capable of true objective thinking, but out of all the personality types I believe ENTP's get the "closest" to being objectively resistant to bias.

[@jennahumphrey1]

Ouch too close to home bro! Nice understanding of Beebe's functions here, I like it. (Not lying! 😂)

[@RevRideReason]

Dam as an ISTP, This made me look at my ENTP nephew in a whole new light. Why do I feel bad now? Must have been to hard on the guy with the do this do that stuff. What's becoming more interesting is I do see the changes with him and other family members and friends. He's so excited when I come around and wants me to teach him absolutely everything I know, but the shifting of characters is quite evident now that you mention it, but I still love that guy..... wait I'm I being social engineered 🤔? Dam you ENTP's ! 🤣😂

[@emilyw5522]

Great advice. As an INTP i always know when my ENTP is lying. But always get “punished” for calling him out. It sucks.

[@emilyw5522]

He also hates my Ti correctiveness. And because of my attentiveness, i remember what he said last week that changed this week.

[@PowerRedBullTypology]

I think as INTP's we may see that type of inconsistent behavior as one of best, cause of our Ti. I also notice when people change their mind too much, I tend to not take their ideas that seriously anymore, because by the time I've invested time and effort into it, the idea is already changed

[@stevencampbell1970]

Thank You so much for this lecture I had no idea.

[@jeannayates2633]

Oh shit. I've been thinking I'm an intp. I've been watching more entp videos recently (along with all my family member's types). I just watched the intp VS entp video, and now this video.... I might be an entp. No definite conclusion on this, but I am going to be paying closer attention to my quirks and responses to people, and I for sure need to watch more entp videos. I need to go over the typing videos more thoroughly. I've just been going over all of the types, cognitive axises, grid types, etc. first (I just recently paid for all the types on your website). I wanted to learn about all the types first before I dug into how to type. I've gotten through A LOT of your content in the last two years. If I had money to spend on typing and coaching I would ask you. I definitely want to do it in the future, but for now I'm going to keep trying on my own. Side note: I spent 15 days in Japan, and I felt so comfortable there. It was a beautiful country, and I felt super relaxed with the locals. I've never felt that way in any other country I've been to.

[@CSJoseph]

Triangulate UDJA with other people who know you well.

[@jeannayates2633]

Where do I go on your website to learn about this? I am assuming you are talking about your version of the enneagram, right?

[@RobertoCardadeiro]

I can't lie, I related to everything you said 😅

[@xandirkuro4790]

P.S. sorry for editing most of my posts, just after reading smth I get this compulsion to put my posts and make sure they are correct. Also just recently I realised and disproved what I believe to be one of the most lethal lie in my life: the logical belief that I didn't care about the truth; ( Fe child percieves that truth makes ppl uncomfortable around us, so Fe feels bad about it, as such Ti thinks of a way to appeas Fe/make it happy "if the truth makes Fe 'sad' , then can a lie make Fe 'happy' ? " [tries lying] => "Since it appeases the Fe and makes Si have a pleasant experience, let's revise the importance of truth in my life". I think it works a bit similiar to how you social engineer an ENTP (get Fe and Ne on your side and then it's nearly achieved), just it revolves around an ENTP's social interaction, also it's why, imo, they get labelled as manipulative, the very fact that they have to resort to lying to themselves makes them able to change their perception in the eyes of others.

[@CSJoseph]

very well said

[@midnightsrequiem3909]

Wisdom comes from everything. Pain, joy, any and everything contains wisdom

[@rvcurryiv]

Haha this is very dead on. Only thing I might differ with is how to stop an entp from lying. You have to appeal to the logic. Make me feel like im not going to have to deal with the emotions of what im trying to avoid and ill be dead straight with you. If I think im gonna have to deal with your feelings im going full force with my lie. Good video man.

[@alexasuncion7718]

I wear it at home and only get to take it off when I'm with my close friends. I got so comfortable wearing it and right now TBH I don't think it's a bad thing anymore. It's just the natural thing to do.

[@webkelpie]

I’ve felt like I’m a chameleon for as long as I can remember, (and if l’m honest sometimes a serpent - although I score hufflepuff apparently). Found I am hated in most company, although not necessarily by all, but usually by the person(s) in charge. I make most people uncomfortable just by being who I am, (I don’t even have had to have opened my mouth), but I don’t feel that I am a bad person, per se. Most interpersonal situations are best in short bursts - longer and the other person, (or people), start getting twitchy. Although not always. And I’m am older now and I’m better at sorting things in a more satisfactory way - just don’t let them ‘see’ you and go along with them, introducing information a bit at a time until they arrive, (more or less), at the right conclusion by themselves. I have no idea if I’m an ENTP or not but certainly parts of this lecture make a lot of sense to me. (P.s. The best lies are the lies that are based in truth and are not verifiable, (in time), ones that ‘come true’ usually involve a lot more work than is necessary, but it might be nice to let people think that. However, I learned a long time ago that a mix of being truthful or quiet is often much better and usually people tell the truth, (or the lies), all by themselves.)

[@CSJoseph]

very well said sir

[@freya1200]

As a female ENTP, this video is interesting. I am in the similar situation. I admit that I can manicipute people but If I realize somebody else wants to manicipute me, I will make him or her into troubles. And it is extremely easy for me to figure out any manicipution.So never lie to an Entp, because we will find it and you will be in the trouble. However, I never lie. You know, we ENTPs can anlyze one thing from all angles. So I just show diifferent people different parts of the truth. Each word from me is 100% correct and I never lie. But I just forget to tell you parts of the truth, which is the most important. This man dislike masks and dislike to live in the lies. But for me, masks are also very interesting. Just tell different people different parts of the truth so I can guide them into the direction I want them to be in. If I like a guy, I will guide him into a better future. If somebody makes me really uncomfortable, I will guide them into troubles.

[@musingfoodie1041]

Very good information, thank you!

[@andongfu8326]

Yoda talks in absolutes "there is not try, there is only do" 19:16

[@djackson7700]

Im a little late to this video, but I’m an ENTP and you just enlightened me bro. I have the bad habit of having fun at work by adding just a tad bit of chaos. so I decided to play a joke on one of my pals. Once I finally admitted that it was a joke ,he told me not to do that because he couldn’t tell if it was the truth or not. Also depending on who I talk to I speak differently.

[@SimicFishCrab]

lol, you just summed up the last 2 years of my life

[@priscillagonzalez7548]

Thank you.

[@jocanada9948]

Wow. I immediately recoiled to the first part of your video, and argued that embellishment isn’t truly lying. I indignantly responded that embellishment is necessary because we find ourselves so mind numbingly bored in the company of others that sometimes that we need hyperbole to spark conversation, argument, anything ... in fact, we add value by seasoning the discussion. And while that is true, I didn’t notice that the rationalization I chose was to hide from the true reason the “lying” comment bothered me so much. I simmered for a moment and listened to your video again. For someone like me to argue the fine line between embellishment and lying suggests I am familiar playing in both courts. Hm. I have a cherished belief that I don’t lie though ... of course finding a loophole, I would gladly leap through it. But that’s not lying, not really ... is it? That’s just irresponsibility on the part of the other person for not creating a rock-solid construct to begin with - right? Then I realized I don’t just manipulate conversations for my own amusement (ok, well, sometimes). What you said really resonates with me - how many times can we be called a show-off, pretentious, “dickish” (ha) or simply over the top before we get tired of the alienation? I love to win arguments more than anything, but sometimes the debate truly matters, and it’s better to concede than to be tossed out of the ring altogether. Enter the mask. I wonder if our sarcasm is a quiet cry of desperation towards a world that doesn’t understand us, is threatened by us, or can’t understand the complexity of what we are trying to say? Maybe we secretly love the idea that our colloquial language is a “tell”, because at least it might lead another to probe deeper into our true selves, our visions, our dreams (frightening as that might be). OK .. I’m actually still sitting on that one, not sure how happy I am about you tipping that hand and revealing our “language” trick on your video. Deep (deep!) down, I think many of us are intensely caring, and have a huge heart, but it’s just a gift that is reserved for a precious few that we can trust. I so appreciate my INTJ best friend for that very reason, totally agree with you that NTJs are like kindred spirits. ENTPs like me would give their left arm if they could be in an environment where they don’t have to be fake. To be around others where waters likewise run deep and uber-sensitivities don’t mar the discussion. Where intellectual honesty abounds, and the conversation moves towards a logical conclusion. Where perchance we could even solve world problems! Well, then pass it off to someone else who would actually follow through with it. In the meantime, the good news is that NT types seem to be exceptionally good at sniffing out their own. The bad news is that we will always have to at some point find a way to resurface & integrate with the rest of the world. Hopefully not too jaded.

[@CSJoseph]

very well said.